You Are 1 Conversation Away From a Completely Different Life

[@niekization]

Thank you random shirtless man who youtube recommended to me.

[@Constantine_in_Fiji]

Right! 😂

[@druidetrebor]

Are there pants?

[@sleepingmelons8420]

Thats hilariuos this is your first video watching Newel of knowledge because its so off key. hahaha.

[@niekization]

@sleepingmelons8420 the algorithm works in strange ways I guess.

[@zsalondi]

Facts, he's a good storyteller. I'm over hear cracking up.

[@patrickkmullins]

One day, late in life, I wrote a message to myself. A list of small things that I should do everyday. I carried that list in my pocket for a year. One of the best things I wrote on that list was speak to a stranger. After many years of social isolation my life began to change for the better. Now I have many new friends that I wouldn't have had if I hadn't made that list.

[@lyndseygolden7546]

What else was on the list?

[@umaminadeentusiasmo]

After stumbling upon amphetamine a few times, I did this to myself, as well as bombarding my friends with voice messages. I wish I was like this naturally.

[@Valxx23]

Please let us know what else did you practice on everyday basis.

[@WattsOnTheMind]

Everything that is NEW and DIFFERENT, so also writing about something (while knowing that is not you), changes the nervous system

[@marcuspiper4162]

please share the list!

[@OliverCox-he7zo]

this is the guy that everyone is lucky to have and be around.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

🥲🥲🥲

[@fabiotacconi9230]

This is the guy i want to be so everyone around me can feel better :)

[@nnaheim.]

Hes got a boat load of charisma

[@Iliekmelonz]

I only watched 1 video but hes the type of guy that I will listen to the whole day of talking about life and having the deepest conversation 24/7

[@tigergreg8]

That's one of the nicest compliments you can give a person.

[@ltltornado3337]

This used to be the norm before we all got sucked into our phones. People had no choice but to communicate, and we were all curious about one another without a slot machine in our pockets to distract us. What you described is the key to connection which is vulnerability. Through your bravery, you discovered that vulnerability is like a muscle to be worked, with endless connections as the reward. Thank you for sharing!

[@abhiroopmanana1035]

That's so true, thank you.

[@racchellle]

who are you I wanna know you

[@rited]

You know what - not really. It was not at all common to just start conversations like this with people in a city like Amsterdam. The person in the video here was brave to just do it - it took him courage exactly because it was an uncommon thing to do and may be met with awkwardness or even hostility. You can still roll that dice and try it today if you wanted, I see people in the parks quite often just sitting there and relaxing - although yes of course there are a number just stuck into their phones.

[@thelazymanatee2506]

Not where I'm from. Walking up to strangers and starting conversations has always been uncommon. Still always happens, but also always uncommon. Phones didn't change this that much I think.

[@rited]

@@thelazymanatee2506 It's just people romanticising the times before mobile phones - or using mobile phones for an excuse for their own current habits. "People had no choice but to communicate - we were all curious about one another" - lol in what world was this? People just walked past each other on the street as they do now.

[@naihaz2200]

Great storytelling skills, I was hooked throughout the entire video.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Awesome! Thanks for sharing this :)

[@user-dd8gi1ff3z]

@@NewelOfKnowledge it's true, i felt real anxiety when you were discussing your approach to the columbian man

[@falcon5751]

@@NewelOfKnowledgeyou know you’ve just touched upon one of my greatest struggles and you’re setting me in a better way but dear god I wish I wasn’t autistic.

[@maja3356]

Turns out I was just one monologue away from a completely different life.

[@DaysOfDarknessUK]

"I'm a bit lonely, can we have a conversation?" I love this - nice one! 😊

[@gregoryholmes329]

'knock and the door will open' is so beautiful

[@WallaceLivingFree]

hi mate, it has taken me 60 yrs to learn what you learnt back then, even today my son is embarrassed to go out with me because I talk (with) people, It took 30 years of an abusive marriage and a difficult workplace, before I discovered the truths of life, Now I am living the absolutely best life Buddhist Values (not the religion)are a constant guide to come back to if my mood starts to wander, No 1 Have a good heart, cheers mate, Like your thumbnail, that's what I clicked, I think it is your engaging face and position, cheers ....

[@Leonidovich_7]

Repent and follow Christ Jesus Sir he loves and died for you

[@marijasvetozarevic6911]

@@Leonidovich_7 Christ would encourage them to follow whatever brings love and peace in their heart and soul. Not demanding, forcing or judging.

[@deadreckoning6288]

​@@Leonidovich_7Repent what? We are meant to enjoy life, not live in misery.

[@selblaise]

Love this! I think everyone needs to re-connect socially, and NOT on social media. Face to face contact and genuine expression, meaningful conversations. Learning about each other, heightening empathy and opening each other up to opportunities. More human. 👏

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Amen! Thank you for commenting

[@mikethomas4570]

Amen. Well said

[@bassescovered7037]

Bless!

[@ClaireKin115]

Yessss bang on

[@Legendarial]

absolute facts

[@iori6920]

I don't think people realize how crucial this advice is. You and I are the same age, and I also went through experiences where a simple conversation opened up doors for me. I've found job opportunities, knowledge, friendship and spiritual enrichment, all through casual conversations with people I saw often. If I ever have kids, I'll teach them the value of humility, because being humble is literally the best way to be remembered by those around you. One simple question is a way to tell the other person that you're interested in their experience, and that's one of the best feelings ever. Not every conversation will be productive, but you'll always gain something in the end. There's only so much you can learn about life through your own eyes.

[@austinmanuel500]

“People are the ends and not the means” are the words that really stuck with me.

[@creative45630]

It doesn’t just take one conversation. It takes all the building blocks you had underneath that including being in tune with your feelings, able to articulate them, confident enough that your feelings would be met with a reasonable amount of kindness. Think of all the early experiences you had in childhood that taught you all these things. Not everyone has had that, so those of you listening to this and feeling despondent, it’s not your fault if you find it difficult to initiate.

[@charc8951]

Yes I agree, your comment makes me feel heard and valued, I definitely think that the barrier we have to cross to initiate the conversation is easier for some. Despite our learnt behaviours though I think we can aspire to be like the people who had it built for them in childhood and not let our weaknesses be an excuse. I do often get disheartened when trying to initiate conversations when I really want to, but physically I can't do it, even though I know it will make me feel happier and more fulfilled. But I do believe I'm getting better slowly with more consistent effort. We are all capable of growth and this was an inspiring story so it's much appreciated :)

[@samchoate1719]

It’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility. There’s a fine line between accommodating and enabling.

[@druMoreno]

A reminder to "walk around like God sent you"

[@ishaankulkarni49]

One life friends, say what you want to say, be who you want to be. In a hundred years we’re all going to be dead in our graves so let’s not have any regrets!

[@luisabarrios7114]

I’m 22 and bought a one way ticket to Thailand and challenged myself to stay there for a couple of months. I feel this fire in my heart that calls me to travel the world. I’m scared but also excited and taking a leap of faith. I leave in a month

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Say yes to everything. Apart from drugs. All the best!

[@keenanwhitham9560]

Would be awesome if you replied back here in a few months to see your progress! Stay safe out there!

[@blaulicht2061]

When I was 22, I traveled alone for five months in Southeast Asia. It was one of the most beautiful experiences I have had. You get to know so many people from all over the world and you see and experience so many beautiful things. I wish you good luck on your journey, you won't forget it and you'll always remember it.

[@fishfingerninja]

You are an excellent story teller.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Thank you amigo! :)

[@bombinate860]

This is genuinely the best video I have ever watched. Ever. No cuts - just pure storytelling and sharing your beautiful journey. I can only thank you for being such a genuine human :)

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Thank you :) for taking the time to type this. And welcome!

[@yifankach]

Agree, it’s so pure and authentic, I felt like I was spending quality time with a good friend

[@ChocolateJewels]

You're lovely. I have no idea why the algorithm made you show up in my feed, but I'm glad it did. You are well-spoken, have great story-telling skills that draw the listener in; you are engaging; listening to you is a pleasure - you don't use fillers. You are truly lovely.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

🥲🫶

[@cooganbeggs4942]

I agree with everything you are saying but unfortunately it can also be completely exhausting when you show interest in everyone around you but you soon find out not one person gives a toss about you in return

[@ogeo.8966]

I will give the toss.

[@moryveraval6249]

@cooganbeggs4942 - most people would give a toss if approached by someone as beautiful as this man. That's how shallow the world is, unfortunately.

[@MaxOra-t9t]

I dont think hes saying to show interest in everything around you, rather dont be afraid to pursue what you are interested in, or just do it even if its scary. I am not an extrovert but i have still had deep conversations with strangers and it fills you with meaning, hope and joy. Not always but it is common. On the other hand you are totally right, but you get a sense of who is open and willing to share that experience with you, some people are just in the daily cycle of stress, work, routine etc. They will not have time for you so just let it be like that. In the video he was talking about a man just sitting in a park being present, so its safe to assume he got time.

[@owenmcgheeandbdawg]

You are not alone, even in thinking that. My journey is similar so I just keep trying. It's their loss.

[@owenmcgheeandbdawg]

I'm now subscribed to your channel because I give a toss.

[@TulipPics]

I had this one converation with my mom during covid about if wanted to keep going to the same school and I said no, mostly because I had stopped talking to people over covid and thought it was too awkward to be in the same class as those people again but it ended up changing my life so much, I moved to multiple different countries, met soooo much of my extended family and found out a lot about the world and myself. Nowadays I'm back home going to a school incredibly close to where I live that I never thought I'd even be smart enough to visit this uni but now I'm there as a student! And I don't feel like Im forced to go into nursing, just "because that's what people with your background do" (my teacher in 2019 :/). A lot can change with one conversation and, for me, that conversation has me have a lot of low lows and very high up but at the end of the day Im happy in the place I'm at right now.

[@bethvioletlines]

i'm fifteen and i'm on a solo three month exchange to france, in a tiny town in the middle of nowhere, with two hundred people. this is only my second week here, and i want to tell you how much i relate to the desire to connect with people while overseas. i've gone on this exchange to learn the value of language and communication, and in the first week alone i'm already learning, and learning about the importance of loneliness too. your video has made me realize that the parts of life i so value are the experiences i share with other people. there are moments of awe in life that you have to experience alone definitely, but the ones which stand out most to me have been moments of sameness with other people. thank you so much for your video.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Beth, you are a ray of light in the world. Go share it with others. Have a great time in France.

[@LilyGazou]

What a marvelous chance to have. Drink it in to the lees.

[@DonnyS997]

So right. I found myself in various situations on a recent solo travelling trip where I could choose to start a conversation with someone or not, and I plucked up the courage to start those conversations and felt immensely better about it afterwards

[@sethmacaluso4300]

First thought: Why is Peaky Blinders Smeagol being recommended to me? Last thought: Bless this beautiful shirtless chap for sharing his wonderful pearls of wisdom.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

😭😭😭😭🤣

[@Cunkey]

I had an incredibly similar experience. I traveled alone to Amsterdam, took truffles (the strong ones), and took an immense inward dip. Coming out of quarantine, I was full of joy to meet new people and explore their inner worlds-- and I was shattered by their apathy, narcissism, and self-destructiveness. I chose to isolate myself in self-protection, and I wandered in hopes of not needing to turn back ever again. But I went home. I got professional help, mended my wounds, and turned my life around. You're 100% on the mark, and sometimes, open-heartedness can hurt, but it led to a completely different life, and a better one for it. More people need to hear your message, even if it means getting hurt to learn something new.

[@abbyheckler]

i've been isolating myself for the past few years, and it especially hurts now that I'm studying abroad in Spain this semester. I feel a sense of dissociation , like im not connected to anything around me. its not the new enviornment, as I am very used to constant change. its my first time in europe i should be very excited, yet i am so numb, not even anxious in the slightest. and idk what to do ! im only 19 so i guess i have time , but i did attend group counseling the past semester at my uni which i thought helped me. during the summer i got a new job so i tried to be gregarious and friendly. it worked ! made more connections with the people there than the job i had worked at for the past 4 years. i think it was the environment; everyone was older, working to live, and truly had some profound experiences. I could just be myself and i was able to meet some amazing people. now im in spain and i haven't been able to talk to really anyone and i am just going down my old spiral , after believing i was turnin my life around ! its not even the language barrier , i came here with 60 other u.s students through this affiliated program. I have 4 girl roommates who go out all the time and are all close , yet here i am stuck in my room! interacting with them is draining, as they all seem very superfical. i barely know spanish tho so i can't really go out and meet locals. I have talked to lots of the other us students, yet i can't seem to be the person i was over this summer. now I am extremely reticent and back to being very reserved, with a closed mind. but i am still trying to enjoy my time here and going to lots of places on my own. which i am okay with, since i've been the only person in my life for years. i apologize for typin this all out , clearly you can tell how lonely i am since i am willin to just overshare randomly.!! okay anyways, bye thanks. If you maybe have some advice I would love to hear

[@Cunkey]

​@@abbyheckler Man I've been there. It's always gonna be hard going out to talk to people, but even starting a conversation with somebody at the bus station is something. You'll never see them again, anyway. While you're there, go see great art. Plays, movies, concerts, anything. You'll get something out of your loneliness that'll make you feel alive. And soon you'll be back and you'll appreciate what you already had so much more.

[@LilyGazou]

Young people had to deal with weirdness of lockdowns and isolation. I don’t know what you’re studying there but you can’t go wrong with learning about the horses there or the many festivals. Look up The Artist’s Way- if you can’t find the books there, there are plenty of videos about it. A basic part is writing morning pages and going on “artist dates” solo- observing, experiencing, immersing. Best wishes to you. I’m still doing artist dates myself.

[@mohdshow]

I think i've had moments similar to that in life... it's such a beautiful connection to make with a complete stranger

[@alex-ander-13]

6:53 This line made me release tears. Thank you so much for being an inspiration! I am grateful for this redirection.

[@michelle04258]

You are very inspiring! I am an introvert and it's very hard for me to "initiate" conversations with strangers but if a conversation is started somehow I feel very comfortable talking to people. I just need someone to get me started....lol!

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

I know the feeling. The last shorts I uploaded has a few tips if you’re interested. As initiating conversations is an awesome skill to practice!

[@rotorblade9508]

Think of what's holding you back. Fear of being awkward? If so, try to understand that there is no problem being awkward, you don't have to be perfect. Or simply don't care whether the other person likes you or not, even if it says no, don't feel bad, you don't have to please everybody, some people like you other don't, that's perfectly normal, don't seek for universal approval like if you have a perfectly logical opinion everybody shows agree. No Also,i don'tthink you are introvert, you only hold yourself back from being extrovert. Hope this helps.

[@sidneyrobinson18]

I can sort of manage to get a conversation going if I'm like talking to a cashier or a customer (if im the cashier), but the idea of just going up to some stranger and saying hello is just completely impossible for me to envision. Its just such a foreign concept to me. This girl a few months ago that I on occasion sit near on my break while reading one day decided to say hello and introduce herself to me. I'd more or less noticed her a few times and the only thing I'd think was "ah, she must work around here too, interesting." Then I'd go back to my book and the idea of talking to her never even crossed my mind. Yet here she was saying hello to me. I was actually at a loss for words for a second or so before I managed to say hello back and introduce myself because it was just so shocking to me that someone had actually just talked to me out of the blue like that. The idea of something like that happening just didn't register in my brain till then. Every now and then if I run into her we'll say hello and have a short conversation before we need to get back to work or whatever but its just so crazy to me even now that she was able to just do something like that. I've been rambling so sorry about that lol, not great at organizing my thoughts. Also if you're wondering why I was so surprised by it, to me its like having a wall in front of me, right about head level. I can get past the wall if I were to jump, grab it, pull myself up and over, then hop down. A fairly simple process that is not an easy process. So I just don't bother hopping the wall, there's cool stuff on the other side, sure, but its not something I really *need*. Then one day while im near the wall I watch someone casually walk up and hop the fucking thing in a single motion like Michael Jordan on crack. Naturally it's not something I ever thought was necessarily *impossible*, but it sure as shit isn't something I'd ever thought I'd see happening before my very eyes.

[@cruciferlucifer]

You simply need to check on how to break the ice... rest you will make a victory ✌ 🎉😊

[@13metal1]

Fear of rejection. Once they start talking back, it is them accepting you.

[@undercover513]

This is so refreshing to hear. I don’t feel lonely much but I would love more than anything to have a genuine conversation with someone. Oh, and to travel would be a dream come true for me.

[@mah1ro267]

I currently work as a waiter/barkeeper in a small restaurant to overcome my social issues step by step. Being friendly and open in the context of work or a project was never a problem for me. But having a small talk with a customer outside of work context, even if just a few sentences gives me everytime a real emotional push that remains over the whole evening 🙂

[@jc3858]

Good for you well done.

[@lucywatt4627]

I’m 19 and I’m headed to italy by myself to solo travel for the first time in a week, I can be shy and awkward and socially anxious at the best of times and having found this video at this time seems very inspiring and aligned to me. Thank you, peace & love to you (:

[@t.d108]

Yes! Exactly. Due to going back to school and work, I got out of the habit of giving myself a real travel adventure. So nervous to be traveling alone, I had to just catch myself off guard one afternoon - and buy a ticket! Ireland. What the heck, it’s not like they even speak a different language! I live in Hollywood, love asking folks where they’re visiting from when I’m walking to the store, I have great conversations with strangers all the time! Humans are interesting…😊

[@TheUltraBlender]

Go first, go positive and and be constant in doing it. Wrote it on a post-it tacked it on my door, will live by it. Thanks for sharing, good sir.

[@zedooncadhz]

"I'm lonely - can I have a conversation with you?" That's so beautiful and profound. Do you know how few people would say that? Speaking with strangers is such a lovely experience. I've learnt you get to know someone 3 times. You have a preconception of what you think they're like. Then you have an initial interaction and think you've got an idea of who they are a bit better based on a few facts. Then the 3rd stage is where they completely baffle you in hilarious ways that you'd never have been able to guess at. The really beautiful thing about speaking to people is realising how friendly and welcoming the world is.

[@anewcareerinanewtown]

In a superficial world a conversation really does open the door to a person's life

[@ARdave311]

This has been great to hear at this point in my life. I was obese all my life and kids at school and teachers and even people at my church said horribly mean things to me about my weight. At 22yo a injury caused me to loose over 130lbs and I have maintained my weight loss (I’m now 33) but I have noticed for over a decade now I have looked at people as evil, any meeting with a stranger was a chance of them hurting you terribly with words. Iv been trying to get over my trama.

[@Martin-ei9ek]

Smile breathe Don’t beat yourself 😊

[@XristosKarasavvas]

I realized early on some sad truths about "humans",so I don't care what they do but I do care about what I do. I'm sorry people made fun of u cause of your weight...some people are really shallow and shallow waters r stepped by everyone, know that

[@ezraepstein6933]

So sweet. The honesty of meeting someone and why you wanted to talk. To connect. Self acceptance.

[@melaniekehaya2868]

I went to Amsterdam on my own in the early 90s for 6 months, ended up there 10 years. I took everything btw 🤣

[@zhenyalandyak8258]

Truth be told: you're one trip away. The trip made that happen. I know that feeling, psychedelics are liberating. Psilocybin is one of the most amazing substances you can ever take to shift perspective. To die without that experience is terribly sad. Eating 4 brownies against hunger is crazy stupid though. 😂 The loneliness you talk of I also felt in one early trip. Not on my first one though. The first was in Thailand at 18, too, backpacking alone for the first time. That was a game changer.

[@TheGirlWithTheShavedHead]

💯

[@eyeballhopscotch2268]

The psychedelic experience you had is one piece in the the emotional gear house of your inner emotional world. You were shown how some internal emotional programs are running in the background. So, similar to a dream, you were witness to how you operate in the world currently. You were shown your story and you could either embrace it or let it go, and start something new. That feeling of loneliness is always there and you remedy that by your motivation to connect with people. It wasn't that you were feeling lonely in that moment, but that somewhere inside you is always lonely. There is nothing wrong with that, we are humans and we crave connection. Without emotions to fuel our desire to move, who are we and where do we go?

[@madeabstract]

This is why I've yet to take psychedelics, emotionally I'm a wreck idk if my brain will handle what its shown

[@llaammeerr2506]

​​@@madeabstractComing from experience, you'll become more aware of yourself and others but to actually make a difference is completely up to you.

[@mamedji9036]

Yesterday I was having a smoke break outside from studying at the library. A man asked me if I knew what the time was. I didn’t but asked a guy next to us. After that I had a similar intuition to ask if he was American because his English is so good (I’m in Vienna). He said yes and told me he is in Austria since 1999. That sounded interesting to me so I sat down next to him. He told me he was from New York, and came as an Opera Singer to travel across the whole of Europe. One time early on a very famous Opera singer (even I, oblivious to Opera, recognised that name) told him after the show the talent he had. He said it opened so many doors for him. After that he asked what I do. I study philosophy. Asking me what I want to do, he told me to get my masters, my PhD, it will take 4-6 years, which seems like a big deal to me now. But as he was saying, he’s 70 now, those years are such a small time in the grand scheme. I should work hard and follow through. This talk gave me such motivation and a bigger view of what I want to do with my life, coming from the other viewpoint of old age. Also to visit New Yorl if I get the chance! I will, old man! It really is fascinating how one conversation can give you a whole new viewpoint on your own life, and how seemingly „regular“ people have such a rich life behind them. I hope to never forget this experience. Thank you shirtless guy for sharing your story, it really resonated with me and showed me that I‘m not crazy for making a big deal out of a short conversation with a stranger I will probably never see again in my life. Really makes you think of all the doors one is able to open with this spec of courage :)

[@mamedji9036]

The reason for persuing a PhD being, according to him, and I quote: „Once you have a Doctor‘s, no one can say shit to you. Look, you have this title. No one can take that away from you“

[@porkolabadam]

A week ago we were in Marbella and just as the party finished me and my friend went down to the beach, there was a guy (who actually kinda looked like you, i just realized) he didnt speak much english but i wanted to speak with him and invited him to sit next to us. Idk if we even talked cuz i was highly under influence of substances. He was chillin looking, gazing. But he had the best aura or idk. When i saw him leaving i stood up to shake his hands. And as we shook hands he smiled and "tapped his chest" and said something in spanish but i felt soo much more happy, and i wish i could talk with him about life. He seemed so chill and cool . Man i wouldve had so many questions for him

[@imonlytellingthetruth6562]

Yep that’s the drugs working just fine

[@tiwiogunye]

@@imonlytellingthetruth6562 lmfaooo

[@SmokeTokeBroke2]

My friend, this is only the second video I’ve watched from your channel, but it’s exactly what I needed at this time. Thank you for putting you stories and thoughts out there so authentically, I know I’m not the only one who will deeply appreciate it. Newly subscribed, and planning to follow your channel closely ❤️

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Thank you for your kind words. It's a pleasure to have you here. :)

[@michelle-h]

Beautiful. That is so so true. Everyone wants to be spoken to, or in your words, flirted with. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🌱✨🍄

[@omegaxx7777]

You have a really great way with words which is inspiring - throughout lots of your videos I hear maybe a simple sentence which upon deeper reflection is extremely powerful and profound. Keep up the good work.

[@alastairtheduke]

Yeah, the 'people are the end not the means' part is something I never realized could even be a belief that one can hold.

[@adamakaru2683]

Nice great to hear your story. I had that experience in 1959 and I still love it. Wellcome to the real world.

[@NextWorldVR]

"Untold want, by life and land never granted. Now Voyager; Sail thou forth, to seek and find." -Walt Whitman

[@moryveraval6249]

Brilliant quote. Thanks for sharing. If it's a verse from a poem would you mind sharing its name/title?

[@eagled2000]

@@moryveraval6249the untold want

[@LilyGazou]

The Untold Want- by Walt Whitman. I grew up near his home. The poem is part of the cluster “Songs of Parting”.

[@moryveraval6249]

@@LilyGazou - Thank you. Much appreciated. :)

[@squishyushi]

That Colombian man 100% was meant to be there for you, what perfect timing

[@georgebush5283]

I came across this video in time of reflection and hard thinking, I’m 19 and I’ve always wanted to travel and I’m going to now, I think I’ve got a lot in common with you and I will continue to learn from you.

[@KeltyVince]

In your life, don't be put off by the negative that live among us.

[@lorcancooke2301]

I love this man so much, great story teller and life advice giver.

[@CreeperKiller420]

wow. I loved this story so much, as well as your commentary. I can relate so much to feeling alone, and feeling like it isn't "in me" to open up more socially. Or I try a little, but then I revert back to my old ways. It feels so good to talk to people and feel connected, but I still have trouble with it, even when I do it. It's hard for me to maintain eye contact while talking, but it feels so good to talk with someone. I used to practice talking with someone by talking to myself so often, and I'd always fantasize about being confident and connecting with people and living a fuller social life. Loneliness is harmful in so many ways, including physical. Not to get too dark, but it reminds me of an old man who ended his own life, leaving a note that said that the "loneliness got too large".

[@markowen7416]

Thank you... Please listen to Matt kahn- the end of victimhood .. it may change your life as it did mine

[@CreeperKiller420]

@@markowen7416 thank you, I will

[@markowen7416]

@@CreeperKiller420 then watch his videos called breath of life, and a way out of pain. Just pure brilliance. Then repeat til they become second nature. If U like them that it. I watched each over 150 times

[@CreeperKiller420]

@@markowen7416 Thank you. i have just finished that teaching. He is so good at speaking, engaging, funny, relatable. Sometimes he is a little creepy, but that's just his quirks, I don't like to judge, plus there is a lot about me that is accidentally strange and creepy, so it actually makes it easier to relate to him. I want to hear more from him.

[@markowen7416]

@@CreeperKiller420 so glad you enjoyed it.. try this one... Matt kahn- energy update ascension 2015

[@Vargrimstn]

I am glad KZbin showed me this gem. What a magnificent storytelling talent you have, simple yet extremely entertaining, was a pleasure to listen to!

[@luisslavov9546]

Thank you! You made me smile today! I've been having a hard time lately, being hard on myself so you got me thinking for a better future.

[@LivePrsnt]

One conversation after a time in isolation/solitude works wonders on seeing the world differently & seeing others differently! Love the this lesson so much!

[@TheDudecof]

5:37 Something about the way I imagine that exchange sounds really beautiful and not awkward at all.

[@mg12130]

People can be seen as undiscovered territory. Man, this is so true. I can be social if I want to, but for some reason something is holding me back if it isn't needed... You do you your thing, go on the same path everyday, you're bored, you think by yourself: is this it? Will take your advice and start seeing the people and events around my like opportunities again. Fuck man, great video. Thanks. Subscribed

[@paulidevoss7249]

Very true. And travel is one of the best portals to new experiences, ideas and people. Travel light, keep your eyes and heart open and just see what happens

[@tashiwallace5338]

Really appreciating the threads of conversation here with each other, it is heartening to know that there are many genuine, articulate and kind young people out there in our big wide world. Love to you all 🙋‍♂️

[@kactapuzzle]

People are the ends, not the means, for a fulfilling life. Damn, that’s some wisdom!

[@summits100]

This is so very true! In life we are aligned with a multitude of unlikely characters who help keep us on the trajectory that is our intended life.

[@timestoad]

Wise words to live by, thank you. Don't be afraid of being the one to start a conversation. Don't self-censor yourself, be curious. Go out and meet new people!

[@finlaysinclair7871]

Amazing story I loved every minute of this, I was 19 when I went travelling and tripped and I think it was the best thing for me. Keep up the videos very inspirational!

[@makaylaortiz6489]

We are all here to walk each other home my friend. This video was beautiful, and I was definitely meant to watch it this morning. I also want to recognize that the man you sat down on that bench with- you probably changed something within him too. Like you said, people are dying to be spoken to. The energy you have is meant to be absorbed. I am sure he was grateful. “The sun changes everything.” Made me laugh, only because it’s the truth. Thank you from Tennessee 😊

[@charliemackovas]

Go first, go positive, and be constant in doin' it.

[@hhwippedcream]

Thanks so much. I'm so glad this turned things around in that experience. Facing my fears and making conversation with others from a place of curiosity has only resulted in further disappointment and feelings of isolation. The experience of rbeing vulnerable and inviting others to exchange connection has always arrived at a dead end and feelings of invisiblity and otherness, and yet I keep trying. I sure hope something clicks for me someday and I figure out what it is I am or am not doing. I appreciate the bright spot you shared.

[@orrhousecreative]

Bahaha I did the same type of stuff when I was living and traveling across Europe, right down to the tripping outta my mind in Vondel Park and having a mystical experience with a man playing djembe drums by a bench. The ideology of light shines brightly in life, and the suns rays are a beautiful thing. I wish you peace and health brother and to continue weaving your conversations on life into the fabric of our universe. I recommend to you the poem, "Pangur Bán", it's quite lovely-and think you might find its closing line perhaps compelling, as I did; "I get wisdom day and night Turning darkness into light"

[@kiarashalipoor3715]

What a speech, amen to that my dude. Thank you KZbin and thanks to you for this vid

[@cvdg4708]

Its weird how similar this feels to my own life. Decided to take a shot in the dark by taking the chance to connect with almost every new person i meet and at a certain point a few people accepted me in their social circle. My life has never been the same. Every day is a new adventure filled with people and experiences. All it takes really is one conversation because if I didnt join complete strangers to me still at that point, on a day out. I would not have met over half the people i cherish today.

[@blakejake9618]

Sitting around waiting for an eye appointment a guy sat next to me that was my age (early 20s) and just asked how I was doing and it took me off guard. We talked about random stuff for about a hour and after that day I deleted all social media off my phone and just started taking to people. I used to think I was awkward, but I’ve realized people just think it’s weird to talk and it’s not entirely me. Next time you walk in an elevator just say “hi” and the entire dynamic changes. It’s not awkward anymore. Great video.

[@JohnathanVanProoyen]

I had this same revelation after feeling exactly the same, disconnected from the social world and then pushing myself past it. JUST ONE conversation is enough to open your mind l, your heart, or your eyes to what is out there for you.

[@coconuts1483]

I just stumbled on this randomly, im 18, had a weird year, but something about the outlook this video gives has given me hope for the future. Thanks

[@lymeson95]

its hard to depend on the responses of others to find happiness. its been too unpredictable for me to find consistent joy in

[@Th3FatG0rilla]

I too just got back from Europe. I did 45 days solo and it was amazing. While I did make lots of friends in hostels, there were some days where there was no one around and I went about my day solo. Normally I’d be fine spending my day on my own back home but there’s something so much better about experiencing new things with company than on your own, so I sometimes felt very lonely. I found myself wanting to go up to locals and other random people but I just couldn’t do it. New people often view me as very extroverted and confident in the way I talk, and are usually surprised and don’t believe me when I tell them I have pretty bad social anxiety. I just have such a hard time going up to strangers and starting conversations unless there is a reason we should be talking or I am absolutely hammered, even then I still get nervous. I think it comes from a fear of rejection. I know that most people are friendly but I really focus my mind on that small percentage that aren’t. Also I never know what to say to strangers, unless, like I said there is an obvious reason to bud in. It’s something that I want to work on. And while i did have the best time in Europe and made friends with many amazing people, i feel like I could’ve had a better time if i stopped worrying over little things like this.

[@melanielotos6139]

So wonderful! Beautifully told story 👁️💗👁️ I do talk to strangers a lot! Giving compliments etc!! It’s often such an enriching part of the day! Making a stranger smile and share parts of mundane life creates authentic connecting. I’m delighted you had the conversation with a Colombian man! I’ve had incredible profound & warm experiences with people from Colombia. His life path and his struggles made the conversation to be what you needed.

[@Just4Growers]

Lovely story. Subscribed! Thanks for sharing.

[@idao4208]

Amen, brother. What an insightful young man you are.

[@timwells3056]

What a nice video! I’m 66 and I agree with what you’ve just said . Be brave and talk to people . Connections are more important than you think .

[@robbiekelleher4979]

So close to not clicking on this video, glad I did. Much truth and a beautiful truth

[@AdnanBajric.]

Guys with dreadlocks are always very open and chill. At least this is what I think about them

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Not all of them ;)

[@aug5771]

Not in the US 😂

[@staffh3815]

Then there's drexel😂

[@Just4Growers]

Not every Rasta is dread; not every dread is a Rasta.

[@nsplay1574]

I'm genuinely impressed by how well your storytelling is. Your ideas are very structured as well I could think you're a teacher !

[@ericnicolasschmitzjaeger7677]

Hello from Amsterdam, Powerful story and thank you for letting this out for others to listen to and understand. Don’t you find that every conversation no matter how short or long, changes your life because, like you say, if you’re open, you’ll always take something away.

[@elisabettafumagalli6239]

what a lovely story . wishing you a good journey through life

[@tobytoxd]

We all are on a journey. We have to share our journey to help others on their own. - Thanks for sharing yours! 🙏 Great video!

[@bugtank]

Hey man. This is the real thing. Bless ya.

[@davidgarciag]

Loved this video, exactly how i feel and ive lived in different countries, and i agree you will see people and the social aspect is the most important part lf life

[@kylerjordan9616]

born to late to explore the world, to early to explore the universe, born just in time to delve into other people's worldviews and see new perspectives on life

[@calebsanders6345]

Real

[@pamelaj1226]

So smart young man! Go first? it’s never even been a choice for me. I have this innate desire to connect with others. Not obtrusively, but I have a need to look into people’s eyes and connect with that spirit that runs through all of us. So I’m the one who always strikes up a convo in the elevator, on a plane, in a restaurant……oh the people I have met. ❤

[@MichaelCrabtree1]

Awesome Brother, this is what KZbin should be about!

[@RSBot2jar]

I'm glad you found the courage to start the conversation with that man. Super positive story to hear!

[@danieltapia709]

this is, by far, the best video you have evere made. Thank you for sharing your story, thank you for not letting the fear consume you so you could start this channel

[@TebastianPB]

that is such an intense experience for an 18 year old, but at the same time is so beautiful! hope you get to travel more and experience beautiful stuff like this! 😊

[@amadorsanchez1299]

I don’t even know why yt put this on my recommendations but what a moment for it to be there. Thanks a lot

[@girlplanetboy]

Watch out, Tony Robbins - this is the real deal of self-empowerment, realization and what not.

[@agusc5117]

I just found my way into this video in a time where it resonates with me the most. Everything I've ever held dearest to me came from talking to people. I love many things, I know about many topics, but the deepest, most fulfilling action has always been talking to people and making real connections with people. They could be small and quick, or could be talking with someone for hours and getting to know them. But there's always a constant. Human connections makes people happy and everyone yearns for it. Would love to talk to you more if you're up for it man, you seem really interesting.

[@gopusumanth2370]

The Fun part is you are alone in this UNIVERSE. The eyes through which you see the experiences you have , its just yours. No one on this planet shares anything near to your experience. This is solipsistic universe.

[@mindfulmomentswithColm]

While it's true that each person has a uniquely subjective experience, claiming that we are entirely alone in the universe overlooks the shared connections and interactions we have with others. Our experiences may be personal, but they are often enriched by our relationships and the collective human experience. Solipsism doesn't fully capture the complexity of reality and social existence.

[@P.H.S.4]

Very inspiring! So much indeed that i wrote a lot about it in my diary. Your merksatz "Go first, go positive and be constant in doing it" is exactly what i needed to hear. Thanks a lot.

[@reidpowning1216]

hits so incredibly close to home. thanks for making this video. I'm alone and 18 in Asia right now. Thanks for preachin

[@robertgardner1856]

not every place has people that like to be randomly talked to unfortunately.

[@thatobaleni6055]

Thank you sir for sharing such wonderful information. The storytelling was phenomenal. You made me to have a flashback on when I was a child and being read a bedtime story. Just pure authenticity, being surrounded by nature. Nothing is more beautiful than this. ❤ 🙏

[@evgenivasileuski559]

He converted the bad trip to a great trip. I had multiple bad trips after weed, and some of them are really hard to get over.