You are not your identity

[@dianacouto5385]

This is true freedom, to not attach yourself to any labels or identities. To just be the divine experiencing this dream. True enlightenment.

[@aleemazeez263]

Is it truly possible though?

[@cicholasnage]

​​@@aleemazeez263 It takes practice, and time. Much of it. This is essentially what those monks do. They simply exist, and dont attach themselves to anything. It may sound boring, but thats only because your ego tells you so. Though its not necessary to go that utmost divine level, we can just live happy normal lives as long as we're smart to choose our identifications to ensure maximal happiness.

[@johnlemon874]

@@aleemazeez263 If animals can do it I don't see how we can't.

[@aleemazeez263]

@@johnlemon874 how do we know they don't?

[@johnlemon874]

@@aleemazeez263 I think animals likely don't have the capacity for introspection and self-awareness to the extent that they can reflect on their own characteristics or conceptualize themselves in the way humans can

[@saku.544]

Your example about joining your dream company, I did this mistake. I made it to my dream company, just to have someone above me treat me like I had no reason to be here and made me want to leave the company, for my mental health. I had made my job apart of my identity because I was proud of this achievement, it was hard to pass all the rounds of interviews, and that dream got crushed a few months later and I felt like I was a loser. And even now although I found another job, this experience still pains me, I feel like my career will be going only downhill. And I hate this feeling, so as you said, it's important to detach our identity from our job (or anything that can be taken away so easily). I've been trying to be less emotionally invested in my current job and instead focus more on hobbies that I had given up on, and my mental health is getting better. It is hard to not want to make our job, or our romantic relationships our identity, because that is what most people tend to value and reduce you to, but in order to truly be happy we HAVE to value better things.

[@Jule1St11]

this is such a lovely youtube discovery! cant wait to watch all of your videos

[@jackfordmac]

Same!

[@tatiediallo9909]

True❤

[@harpreet0786]

Honestly

[@mandalorianwiththemandarin4339]

Indeed

[@Vilodonkilo]

Seriously good to find like minded people

[@skeptickhan4239]

"Once you label me, you negate me" - Kierkegaard

[@cicholasnage]

This is one of the best advices anyone can get. The more you reflect, the more you'd realize that much of our self are choices, be it emotions, identities or problems. We give power to the elements of our lives. This is almost the same as the thing with Nihilism. As people realize that we are nothing and have no inherent identity, or that the world have no inherent meaning, they'd feel terrified and nihilistic because there's no purpose to live for anything anymore. However, you can also be on the other side. Since the world is a blank space, that means we can create our own meanings, we can create our own self, and modify our character with the values and identities that would make us happy and fulfilled, the possibilities are endless.

[@Kryptiik]

This is one of the better channels I’ve found on the tube. Thanks for posting these.

[@nouralaya8833]

You're the human version of my ultimate, relaxing brain

[@NewEpictetus]

I rarely comment, but this is exception. You are the proper man. The way you think, speak and act is what an ideal man should be. Thank you deep from my heart for everything. Continue your work. All the best.

[@flyingfeathers_]

You don't seem like the type of person to care about looks but God made you an incredibly beautiful man.

[@now591]

Handsome is the appropriate adjective applying to a male.

[@solemems4518]

I feel this comment kinda misses the point of the vid lol, beautiful is a fine word to describe a man

[@edwardmorris3453]

@@solemems4518 Yeah. Anal-retentive is the appropriate adjective applying to now591.

[@Rotting12]

@@now591if you’re emotionally immature enough to assign pronouns to something with no gender why are you here?

[@nathaliearzapalo3137]

Hello, I'm just really grateful for finding you in here, makes me really happy to know that there's still people like you with such a really rich awareness and a great mind! Can't wait for more videos ❤ Greetings from Peru!

[@soybeans8139]

I just found your channel and I’m so grateful.

[@djabdi]

I discovered this account today and have been binging your content, thank you!

[@lowiseowl]

I'm very glad to have discovered your channel! That moment when you wake up knowing nothing- that is so liberating and unfortunately never lasts for long enough! I love this video and appreciate what you say 🙌🏻

[@siripatc28]

Your voice is so soothing 🍃

[@jonjeziorski5354]

Thank you for making this! The content of your speech was extremely rich.

[@clairjunior5291]

I wholeheartedly agree with you. I never join any group or organization. I think doing so prevents freethinking and develops bias.

[@mariacarmelinamontesano4358]

I just found your channel. I am so intrigued by the wisdom.

[@higherlaw]

Once we remove the external things that we identify with, this allows us to revert to our true selves, our innocent child-like nature with nothing to fear, no hatred or distrust, nothing but love and kindness towards others.

[@Mikemeshell63]

Wise man,hard to find these days.

[@coffee-syrup]

Thank you for sharing this with us. I love your channel, I feel very afortunate that I can be listening to your words right now.

[@valentinamarquez6540]

listening to you talk is getting me through an existential crisis. i’m glad i found this channel

[@sissalovesbeingalive]

Great awareness!!!! We are the one observing the ego, the mind.

[@rezaf7086]

❤so as always; great inspiration in your speech which make me happy to find your channel, and keep up my brother ❤respect 👍

[@Cy4nSw4n]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤ I've found that I've done this regarding my generation a bit

[@docrock66]

These run deep. One of the best channels on yt in past decade. Thank you sincerely.

[@Autumn-ep1ky]

I’m glad youtube recommended this channel to me, thank you. Your language helps me in understanding this much better.

[@Maidenofthestones]

Thank you for sharing your energy & thoughts. Your soul conveys it all. Thank you so very much.

[@expatlaura6531]

This is my favorite video of yours so far ❤ Achieving this type of samadhi in one’s life is something I strive for.

[@Maverick_Sage]

I was going to count you as a phony but as you started speaking, you sounded more and more like me, not saying I'm not phony to some sense, we all are. Though we strive and suffer, try or don't the better path is the one suffering doing what you think is truth, and I see that in you. I've subscribed to you and you're now part of the few people I like to listen to who are interested in truth, maybe you want some fame and money too, but it's a hell of a lot better than getting famous for other stuff imo. Keep it up, would like to this channel grow.

[@Maverick_Sage]

Though I do see you're hiding behind all this, but you're new, new people usually do. You do know you're attractive and you use that to your advantage, which as a guy if you can use it right, all the more power to you, women can't be the only ones right?

[@Rotting12]

@@Maverick_Sagecringe af

[@Maverick_Sage]

@@Rotting12 That username

[@soniazismess2489]

I’m so glad I found this channel in the time I needed it the most

[@dmc549]

Beautiful message. Takes some repeating to understand and convince the conscience mind of its truth.

[@bebekkartal]

You also say "we" while explaning/analysing people saying "we" - it made me smile :)

[@SamKatzHypnosis]

Thank you for your wisdom nugget, my brother. ✌🏽

[@channel_---]

This was a helpful reminder. Iv gone through immense changes and a loss of identity. Wanting to dissociate from a stressful situation I cant seem to accept, to create a new ego. To feel more secure. I was thinking today I wish I had amnesia so I could have a reason for the lack and no longer look back. I require a blueprint. Can I just live in the half awake ?

[@Neha-vg3ev]

Your videos came to my timeline when may be I needed them the most, thank you so much for making these videos

[@JosimarBezerra-fx8wb]

I'm so glad I've come across your channel. SUBSCRIBED!

[@empyria-voice]

You have Aragorn’s energy

[@romasgudisauskas3696]

Very nice video thank you for sharing. Look forward to seeing you more like this conversation.

[@isabelleuna4734]

What do you want to be when you grow up? Myself! This is what my 6 year old daughter told me the other day. I had to ask her the question twice and got the same answer twice. It was really profound. She is right. Let's be ourselves ! Just free from.....

[@captainhaddock6193]

I’m so glad I’ve found your channel. After the journey I’ve been on these past 6 months, the philosophical teachings you share in such an accessible, well articulated way are just what I’m needing right now. Please keep making more content.

[@DS40764]

So true. Our need to belong, is strong because we are social animals. So, we have to keep this in mind -how very important our identity is to us, and that we sometimes have to let it go to become ourselves. Great discussion.

[@BrunoFerraz-ib9rx]

another incredible video, keep the good work

[@thesaruul7372]

Really appreciate all of your videos ❤ Best youtube channel 😊

[@greylife_hansen_00]

just passed by and watch your video "Be absent for a while, you will come back better". Been watching a few more videos now, thank you for sharing your wisdom and perspective :> This is part of the reason why I want to make KZbin videos as well, sharing my wisdoms and experiences to others as well

[@margaretmcgregor5686]

Another re-watch philosophy man 😊 now that I am reading the ancients as well they are even more powerful 😊 from Scotland

[@playfulsteps9249]

The ego is so pernicious. How great to value things for what they are, not we wish them, wish us to be.

[@em_overlover]

this video so profound to me, it really evoked emotions i haven't felt in a long time. thank you for creating such a meaningful video :)

[@icejeons]

You should have a podcast I would definitely listen

[@Three_fairytales]

You are the type of imaginary character I always made it in my mind 😢

[@Sugarplumglitter]

Luv this! You are wonderful💖 Luv all you share and give to the world💖🌸✨

[@bebekkartal]

That was perfect - giving sport example was spot on

[@seandunlap1743]

thanks for sharing. it is much appreciated

[@philipholding]

We are group animals. Our social identity is always connected to groups. If I'm driving, I'm a road user (group), if I'm paying off my mortgage, I'm a householder (group). You are in a group making this video ( blogger, influencer, etc).We are interdependent on others, and that interdependence makes us group beings ( however fleeting),whether we consciously recognise it, admit it, or not! Name me one person on this earth who is not part of a group?

[@yumisage]

I don't know if your dream is to become a teacher or?? 😂

[@eternity.in.a.m0m3nt]

In the eyes of the human yes ,in the eyes of consciousness? I can be whatever i want depending on focus ,i can even choose not to be.

[@lalalabad]

I asked you in another video about insecurities, but I think this video is even better than the one you responded with. When I think about it rationally, the things I let affect me (the insecurities) are all about my ego, and artificial bullshit I let myself identify with. I’ve gotten feedback in my personal life that I lack nuance, I see life in black and white, and this is something I’m strongly trying to work on. It’s so easy for me to revert to old habits, and let the ego resurface, I wonder if you have a practical strategy That I can apply to make this a daily habit, to truly let go of all that shit I get worked up over.

[@jamesalexander6616]

Your channel is great; wonderful job!

[@hyrumstephens2002]

Thank you for creating content like this the world needs it

[@Marina.cm.]

Find your energy so calming and started exploring more of your vids today. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.

[@LovelyFlipFlops-jl9kl]

True we have roles we have to play and for some people they defend against useless attacks for years and this does create a false persona for defense. I however know me. Im soft and sweet and curious in my true nature. Theres no opportunity to be the true self in my environment. Love this video.

[@mariaolascoaga2725]

I was really attractive with the topic here, because I just finished to read " Atomic habits" and this book talk about if we want to change our habits we need to work in our identity... now I am bit confused. Probably I will watch many time this video in order to understand very well since English is my second language.

[@BearerOfTheCurse666]

Thanks a lot. Im a brazilian fan. And i know.. strange country. And I feel like a stranger in the nest, an outsider. Everything you said, I question myself here and those around me.

[@brendalhunt9720]

My dear child . Thank you for being so young and awakening. I’m 65 and I noticed some comments that people are commenting on is your good looks , that’s adorable. Lololo . I saw Byron Kate for a nine day retreat. She was also gorgeous. And what a mind blowing experience. Anyways I thought anything you identified with is your ego? I’m mean I’m not even my name. It’s just a label. I also saw the one on being alone . Thank you for validating me. My boyfriend and I just broke up and I want to be alone so bad. So are you saying victuals can be an identity. I hope you can answer my questions. Keep up the good work. Brenda

[@eliseoriondark7442]

Protect your peace dont attach on anything despite the storm where always know how to relax within ourselves

[@ctobi707]

very valuable video thank you

[@dredre1696]

A 14 minute 29 second video that flew by as fast as totality did during the solar eclipse today in Maine (~3 minutes). Good material! Better for me to work with it than anything else I want to go on about. Timely opportunity too, as I had a rugged (i.e., a quite rough) day when I wanted to be fast and flawless at everything in every moment. Ego and self-identity, eh. As a hmmm "native Mainer," go Red Sox! /jk

[@사이보그-i6p]

I agree completely, and I agree one should indentify with said virtues. However, I think this still makes up open for attack but it is our own responsibility to follow our chosen virtues. Nobody is perfect therefore at some point one will make an error and be open for attack. But I like to believe that is is a necessity considering the bigger picture.

[@sublime_death_000]

another flattering comment.

[@lue1485]

I think I found my comfort zone 🩷.

[@science212]

We are conscious machines, with free will and self. No mystical. No marxism.

[@GarryBurgess]

I love and share your respect for philosophy. Recently though I have made dramatic shifts in my point of view, now wanting to read everything written by or about Carl Jung, with his amazing insights into the theory of personality that have shocked and delighted me, and powerful ways to explore the subconscious mind. He would describe the EGO as a cork floating on the ocean, with the ocean being our subconscious mind, the real source of our emotions and feels, which really drive and control us.

[@janrobert3176]

Our true identity is a child of God. Once we realize and accept that we were created for God's love and companionship, everything falls into place. We belong to God and should act accordingly. Jesus told us that no one can snatch us out of his hand. Our ego disappears when we seek to imitate Jesus and listen to the words that He has spoken to us. The Greek philosophers had the right idea, but God Himself manifested in the flesh to teach us the Way to Him. Blessings to you.

[@Mgmg.mg574]

Some of the worst people I know believe in god

[@NorthernPear]

My husband’s anger over the Bruins losing the Stanley cup makes a lot more sense now.

[@bandieong8581]

haha ! excellent take on identity and ego. You remind me of Mark Manson ! he says that we avoid things that threatens our identity.

[@elenistamatiou]

The word "ego" is a Greek word and it is the first person singular personal pronoun. It means "I". It was never meant to be problematic, it initially was and can still be, in the correct context, a very healthy word, as it it denotes the "Εγώ", the self. The self is all we have. Ego was supposed to refer to that. The self. Who we are. It got degraded as a word/notion in time. Someone at some point should talk about the word ego and explain to people how much of a beautiful and healthy word it fundamentally is.

[@roksyu]

Could you please advise some books on that topic? Thank you very much for this wideo!

[@oustabarbara]

Great video. Consciousness shines through you. Beautiful to see. Still it seems that when sharing from a non-egoic place one gets often attacked or even censored. But I see what you mean in the context of the ego. The process of Consciousness becoming more and more embedded in the physical body makes us humble, human and vulnerable and simultaneously stronger on a deeper level. The Heart gets reinforced. Maybe we could say that ego is about temporal power and being present as our higher self/Heart/no-self is true 'power'. It cannot be killed. When one is not afraid to die (which is the 'problem' with the ego in fact; fear of death) one stands free in the duality of earthly life and its challenges. I've been in a coma a year ago and it's true, in the beyond there is no fear, no worry... Just Oneness.

[@azharkalyani4273]

Your comment give me a lot of courage to die before i die.. I'm on an edge..❤

[@oustabarbara]

@@azharkalyani4273 ❤

[@oustabarbara]

I was just sharing my experience here. Without any purpose neither to encourage anything. I saw a valuable part of my process reflected in what the man of this account is sharing very clearly about the ego and relativising/transcending the ego. I'm afraid I only get your message now. (English is not my native language) If you are depressed or long for physically dying it is important you talk to people nearby. May you find strength and courage.

[@azharkalyani4273]

Everything is fine, remaining confusion is dissolving, your views gave me clarity thats why i responded...Thanks😊

[@oustabarbara]

@@azharkalyani4273 ok! Then my initial interpretation of your message was right. Good to hear :)

[@michaels-meditations]

I like the advice given but I have some point to address too. The essence of what you are saying is don't focus on traits instead focus on action. Focus on trying to act properly, using "virtues" only aren't virtues also concepts that live outside our "selves" and once we start to strive for them are we not striving to a ideal version? So yes now the pain can't enter from the outside, but we can still generate pain from the inside because we think our current action is not "virtuous". Now you are your own worst critic, that can be very damaging, I can tell from experience. Next to this I think is it's misleading to call your essence, your true "self". I AMness does not resemble how we see our ego, self or identity in any way so to call the source your True Self, idk. Otherwise great talk, thanks for putting it in this way, you introduce the insight very shallow and invite the person to take the journey of the question "Who Am I?" to see how far the rabbit hole goes. It made me think of this TAO verse: Between birth and death, Three in ten are following life, Three in ten are following death, And men just passing from birth to death also number three in ten. Why is this so? Because they live their lives on the gross level. He who knows how to live can walk abroad Without fear of rhinoceros or tiger. He will not be wounded in battle. For in him rhinoceroses can find no place to thrust their horn, Tigers can find no place to use their claws, And weapons no place to pierce. Why is this so? Because he has no place for death to enter.

[@eternity.in.a.m0m3nt]

Problems vanish when you stop thinking ,because thoughts create emotions. Master consciousness and you will master reality ,because at that point who "i"am is not important.

[@samstetson7252]

My roles...are not my identity

[@-OurRealHistory-]

Joe Goldberg if he didn’t have an unhealthy manic obsession for romance

[@ruqaia9563]

I felt this when I left the religion that I was identified with

[@harvesterzhd]

needed this.

[@del-marmare1646]

Excellent, thanks

[@dres5510]

I am so glad I found you

[@TerryBlanchard-mp1ss]

Wisdom here. Look to hear more. 70+ years and counting.

[@terrypeters8682]

You have an ability to communicate that serves you well. I hope you can remain obscure and true to your convictions. This however will not lead to money or success in the eyes of society. It is a choice.

[@soulteacher_english]

and u're so attractive😸

[@RBshellseeker]

Thank you ☮️

[@aneelakhan1879]

can anyone tell me that what is the name of this intellectual? who is he, a teacher or motivational speaker? in quest of the knowledge, I found this video....

[@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger]

He is egoless. It’s refreshing, isn’t it?

[@summerheart9834]

0:51 woahhh ive never thought about it like that...

[@aether5213]

It's true that every group succumbs to baser in-group preference, but which group out of all the groups and cultures is aware and able to push back against it. The proof if self-evident in the author of this very video. Who else talks like this? What other culture and tradition is equally philosophically self-reflective?

[@redtree732]

Wow. Amazing video

[@atda1517]

Hi, I love your videos and I’ve been trying to live for virtue these past few weeks, but I’ve always assumed that you get these virtues and that you classify them according to who you identity as (parents, culture, education, religion …) If not then how are you supposed to determine the virtues that you should live by ?

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

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[@gran1s]

Love your videos!

[@Lone_Star86]

Looks like you have been reading Eckhart Tolles books 🙏☯️

[@IvorySeekers]

It is not wrong to identify ourselves with any group or nation. But we must be honest with accepting the good and bad keeping in mind the progressive approach. That is our sincerity to give value to our sincere contribution in unity of diversity.

[@Maverick_Sage]

Additional comments, I've done self-help for years and spirituality, had satori experience and all but I have a series of questions for you. Why do you want to get rid of the ego? What is this ego or who is this ego you're trying to get rid of, show me this ego. The reason why you want to be better is the same reason you aren't. This isn't something you can achieve if you want it to word it like that with conscious effort, I worked so many years on and off but it only happened to me middle of work suddenly for no reason.

[@mihkcs5372]

Closely related to advaita Vedanta or non duality I.e. no identification with body/thoughts/mind etc

[@sararosati4130]

Thank you.

[@mollyringwerm9224]

To identify is to mimic. And the mommy-baby seat of the ego mind thinks that without her reflection, no matter how contemptuous, that the self with die. And that fear keeps people trapped in psychological hells until their graves. If I'm not her little negative projection, then who am I? Most important question one can ever ask.

[@tristecherie7464]

Can you please speak about love..the journey to it man it sucks.

[@sentientbloodpuddle1458]

Definitely don't fully agree with your perspective here, but the video was interesting and I'll defo sub