You Don’t Need a Plan to Have Fun

[@ddavis504]

These Black Friday sales are making it tough for my backlog...I just had to physically look at my unfinished games to tell myself, "You don't need give into the sales...stay away."

[@kbdc]

i tell myself that every time. bought over 100 games the past few weeks cause of fanatical's insane bundle prices

[@JoshR842]

Especially steam sales. Got nearly 100 games and about a third are unfinished or un played. A lot of times I'm replaying games that I know how to beat and learned the playstyle. Where as my unfinished games need more time to learn or delve into the story. Which isn't easy to commit to playing and learning when you have responsibilities IRL

[@ddavis504]

@@JoshR842 exactly this lol

[@NookDeSus]

I mean it's still good to have a few on wishlist and buy them on sales to queue up ur backlog, but yeah when you have dozens of unplayed games while still looking at sales then you have shopping addiction 😂

[@maximilian2843]

100 games? Holy cow! I bought 4 games and was like. Damn that's too many for my backlog but 90% off is a fugging steal!

[@brundeasie_OG]

My least favorite part of society is the thought that if an activity cant be used to make money it is useless.

[@damndanieI]

Exactly, it's even more annoying when people close to you think gaming is useless because you ain't getting money with it.

[@angrygamer4120]

Straight up, like, I work 40 hours a week on average, let me CHILL/GAME in PEACE.

[@schizo_fox]

some years back i was thinking that, but these days i am not entirely sure. you can wake up one day and your job position is basically gone, that means it is definitely useful to somehow put your future into multiple baskets. now it doesnt mean all of it has to be work, but this AI era definitely put a lot of people in uncertainity.

[@Aryan-MNV-2000]

I absolutely despise that idea.

[@ThrillhouseToTheMax]

I've always suffered from this need to "perfect" the game, which results in me harming my experience with the game because instead of just playing it and enjoying what happens, I'm constantly worried that I'm not playing it "the right way". I love jrpgs, but I have this constant urge to get things "correct" the first time round. But this video is a refreshing take and something I needed to hear. Thank you. I'm going to just play a game for the sake of enjoyment and not worry about the outcome.

[@renestubbe6465]

Same here mate…

[@normanofthetempest7347]

Like anything it takes a bit of training and being mindful but you can get yourself out of that play optimization style. You might fail a few times but thats okay. Thats a part of fixing bad habits.

[@울디마러]

That so me 😭

[@jonathangersamYT]

Xbox quick resume has been a game changer for me. In the evening after all work n chores done, I have about 40 mins to spend unwinding and it’s so great to just start playing thru any of the last 7 or so games I launched. No intro, no loading, no credits, no cutscenes. Back exactly to where I left off. After 5 mins if I’m not feeling it, I quickly change to another game on quick resume in about 5 seconds. Usually last thing I play is to quick-resume into a tekken round that was on pause and just beat up the AI for 3 rounds or so. Game changer for busy people and/or analysis paralysis.

[@jonathangersamYT]

BTW quick resume should be on all platforms. PS PC Switch all of them. I have a ps5 that’s collecting dust even though it’s my most powerful console at home it’s just so clunky to start up I get anxious and impatient and it ruins the flow of the session for me.

[@JamieR]

This is why Nintendo Switch has been so great too. You literally pick up and continue where you left off. And it becomes more focused since it's just the last title. And not having to feel like everything has to be optimized (guides, spreadsheets etc) all the time. That truly killed my enjoyment in gaming for a long time. Couldn't switch the brain out of that producitivity mindset, and instead always felt like I was wasting my time as I wasn't being productive. Instead of enjoying the thing just to selfishly enjoy it... for myself. Which is nothing wrong with as this experience is OURS. We get to choose how to spend the time. And I'm not saying we should hedonistically only pursuit pleasures, but that they are an integral part for a balanced and healthy life.

[@namelessgary643]

A key thing I’ve had to help my wife learn is that hobby time is (or at least can be) productive. Spending time with your hobbies, your passions, the things that make you happy, is self-care and self care is productive! Like anything in life, you can take it to an extreme and make it unhealthy. However, if your other responsibilities finished and you have some free time, spend it doing something you care about. That will always be productive.

[@BravelySuper]

You post. I click. Turned 40 this year and find that I've been enjoying games so much more because I've slowed down and LET MYSELF. No pressure, no trying to ensure everything is perfect, no feeling like I have to keep up with DPS races. Young me worked way too hard lol. Thanks for being chill and making me feel like I'm not just getting old. Maybe I'm just learning to enjoy things in a different way!

[@whosaidthat84]

Also in the 40 club and I feel this comment. I practically exclusively play single player games because I lost that competitive edge years ago. I used to be pretty good a Mortal Kombat and Street Fighter but life got in the way and keeping up with the youngsters is totally impossible. I love playing games at my own pace and my own time.

[@showmerockk]

I felt this so much. I finally was able to start doing this with books/games/shows/movies this year. If I'm not having fun with something I just drop it and move on.

[@antoniodias5646]

Im trying to do this but end up thinking of the backlog or the games that im allways leaving unfinished...

[@RoyalLudwig]

This is something Im so guilty of. I always try to optimize every single thing. I even believe that its the core reason for why I still suffer from depression, because I attach a lot of my self worth to my performance. Ill try my best to get away from that way of thinking but its just a reflex for me to do it right and overanalyze.🙈 Thank you so much for making this video, its exactly what I need. I have trouble trusting my way of doing things, its very easy for me to fall for the trap of constantly doing it the way someone else wants me to. Sometimes I even expect others to want me to do something in a particular way, even tho they dont have expectations. Im just so used to doing it like this, but the more often i catch my subconscious thoughts on trying to go this route, the less power theyll have over me and the more free I become! The funny thing is, I actually want to start a youtube channel on exactly these topics, how to enjoy gaming again.

[@Eeiiaane]

Seems like I needed to hear this, I'm at a point where I can no longer enjoy or have fun on any video games I play because I feel like I don't know why I'm playing video games anymore, it's like I lost the very reason on why I play them, maybe you are right I'm planning to much or I always set a certain goal or have to do something perfect or smooth or I'm being way too competitive instead of just having fun..

[@viciousmonkey1992]

In the book "4000 weeks," by Oliver Burkeman, he quotes the writer Gary Eberle who refers to the term "deep time," - a time when we "slip into a realm where there is enough of everything, where we are not trying to fill a void in ourselves or the world.” The boundary separating the self from the rest of reality grows blurry, and time stands still. “The clock does not stop, of course, but we do not hear it ticking.” In our world, it is near impossible to forget the ticking clock. Every second, we feel like we are wasting our precious time. But in 1925, Carl Jung spoke of gigantic herds of animals in Kenya, grazing heads nodding, the herds moving forward like slow rivers, scarcely any sound save the melancholy cry of a bird of prey. "This was the stillness of the eternal beginning," he said. "The world as it always had been, in the state of non-being." This is a world without the shackles of a clock.

[@Zappieroth]

Knowing, And staying true to yourself. That is the key to the universe.

[@aegisleague4053]

Keeping myself busy with work for most of the day means I value my free time a lot more. I’m not ever looking for something to play or do, I’m always excited to be able to do what I enjoy.

[@the_gtc]

This video was super timely

[@DFz_007]

Optimizing is fine but if it’s ruining the enjoyment you were getting from x thing, then it’s losing the original purpose. It should accentuate not suck the joy out.

[@brentjohnson9467]

I recommended your channel to my therapist today. You're so good at helping me combat my desire to absorb all the toxicity of productivity gurus and constantly beat myself up when I don't reach my goals. Daily. It's always a good time when you release a new video. Plus, your delivery is so chill.

[@quietandsimple5134]

I turn 32 in a few days. For some reason, with less time for gaming, I feel what you say. Trying to decide what to play really took the joy out for me because I focus more on what other games I could play instead of just playing something and then deciding if I enjoy it or not... Gonna try to be different now

[@proggz39]

I don’t know about you guys but I don’t have a spreadsheet open when playing a game. I used to trophy hunt but it was ruining my enjoyment of gaming so now I just play for fun and try to immerse myself as much as I can. Even though I have a massive backlog I don’t play to beat a game, I just take my time until I beat the game and move on to the next one

[@damndanieI]

I am interested to know why you stopped trophy hunting? Was it the tedious and boring grind? I just started actively trophy hunting this year

[@TheHorus91]

Same here. I currently trophy hunt and I'm finding my self hating it more now

[@booki230]

It's crazy you talk about this subject when just a few days ago I had a small crisis due to trying to optimize every single second of free time I have. This past year has been pretty busy, I'm relatively new to the work market, so I'm not used to having so little free time and on top of that in February I started working out and eating better to improve my health and it's been great, but that kind of thing doesn't leave much free time if you add the time I spend working. So I have been obsessing about getting the most out of my free time and planning every single second of my day, until last week when my brain pretty much had to reset. It all hit me at once and I realized I have to work on just letting things out of my control every now and then, nothing good comes out of trying to Min-Max life.

[@chaos4335]

Your commentary’s are honestly amazing. Real messages from a real person. Keep making these bro

[@bingobetes1825]

I love hearing your commentary. I was excited to hear that you like survivor. That is one of the few shows that my wife and I enjoy watching together and have watched every episode over the last 6ish years. And we do need some “wasted time”

[@davidas5049]

Thank you man! I needed this, thx , love your channel

[@andrewhudson7108]

“Fun stands for finally understnding nothing. And that's what's fun about fun, you don't have to get it.” -Gary Busey

[@Prestige_00]

Was thinking about this the other day, in the context of always checking reviews and opinions about things before trying it out. It's useful don't get me wrong, but there's a difference between trying to completely optimise and find the best possible thing to do, and just jumping into something if the reviews look good enough and if you think it looks cool. No need to put so much pressure on it

[@GamersGuild777]

Great Video!!! Feels like games and gamers now a day forget to have fun!

[@DragonElf01]

"You kind of need boredom. You need unstructured stretches of time to reconnect with yourself." That right there. There's so much intrinsic wealth when you allow yourself to have moments of quiet, of reflection, and just doing what you feel in the moment to be right. I'm very guilty of just falling into habit and over optimizing my free time simply out of fear, more so a fear of tomorrow. I dont like my job very much, ive got maybe 3-4 hrs a night to myself and sometimes its torture thinking "Okay do i want to game for a bit? Watch some anime? I should study for a bit too so i can find a better job soon. Oh and i should start learning how to write novels since ive always wanted to do that..." There's a pressure to always be doing something productive for myself since ill be spending a lot of time doing something i dont particularly enjoy other than to provide for myself. Whats helped me is ive set a very loose "After-Work Self Care" Routine to do once i get home, though now im thinking i need to add a gap of quiet time to that as well.

[@edelweiss8930]

I've been trying to be more mindful and actually finish games and it's been hard, not just because of fomo but in general I'm easily distracted now. I've had to sort of lock-in with games, I'll pick one game and almost force myself to play it, the end result though is that I just finished my first playthrough of Dark Souls Remastered and I'm quite content with that, so I'll try to stay with that approach for now.

[@outaspace-animations]

Thank you for your words of wisdom

[@jnee]

A therapist once told me to pause every time I use the word 'should'. It's fine to follow advice, but if you're saying 'should' more than 'want to' then it might be time to reassess

[@Shralla]

Fantastic video, I tell myself this stuff all the time but it's nice to hear it from somebody else.

[@nohcam22]

There is no productivity without fun and rest.

[@mikeamato174]

Got a visceral reaction when he crossed that bridge in PUBG. The PTSD kicked in lol

[@TheRopiak]

Great video, totally resonates with me over the past few years esp. But I've been trying to be more intentional, made a list of games of some I have and don't have that are solid less then 20 hour experiences I try to tackle and its been fun. If I can't decide I just play Chivalry 2 cause I love it lol

[@DFz_007]

Also the most incredible part of this video is finding a fellow survivor fan 🤣 hoping Rachel wins this season!

[@dallassukerkin6878]

It is indeed very much the case that all too often we fall into the trap of optimising the fun out of everything!

[@otterwala]

Your recent videos have been coming out just in time, every time. I've been trying to figure out if I even like video games. I get so overwhelmed thinking about playing video games, how does that make sense? I absolutely need to disconnect and have fun with things again.

[@ThousandairesClub]

*I love the concept of buying a game and not playing it until I'm ready for the fun it offers* 👌

[@starkiel]

What I've realized is that the root cause for this is PvP oriented games, where you can't even begin to 'have fun' without considering meta and optimization... and also after experiencing the rush of winning in PvP, single player games where you beat on bots and npcs no longer feels rewarding...

[@TwiztidPixiel]

Ive went back to playing old games on older consoles. Anything before the ps4 era.

[@TheSinlessAssassin]

Yeah I tried earlier in the year to "schedule" some backlog clearing. I only played ONE out of many games and it took me 4 weeks to finish a 12 hour game. I really liked the game, but it was too optimized and systemized. I've had a lot more fun just playing whatever I feel like whenever I felt like it, and whenever I COULD do so without interrupting any responsibilities or social obligations.

[@crissepiroth]

The thing is I tried this approach but I start a game, play it for 3 hours then search for another one and so on. I don't feel like that's a good aproach either

[@TheSinlessAssassin]

@@crissepiroth which? The scheduled one or playing whenever and whatever?

[@crissepiroth]

@@TheSinlessAssassin the playing whatever and whenever

[@TheSinlessAssassin]

@@crissepiroth youll find your own way

[@drgonzo123]

I have a big issue with this. If I’m not playing one of my new games or something in my backlog I feel like I’m wasting my time. I go through weeks not settling on a new game and just dabble here and there. I know it’s dumb, but it is a real issue with how I feel about my hobby.

[@patschmautz]

the way i see it now if i want to buy a game i can go to look at my backlog and try something else. the games on sale will only go more on sale as time goes by.

[@AkramAlrashed-g1w]

Hey ive been playing an indie game that is so chill yet interesting it’s called “Arco” it’s one of the best games I’ve played, and I wanted to share it with you guys

[@malachor5ve]

Hey BBKDRAGOON what would youbsay are the 3 or 4 most important productivity tips in your opinion? Theres so many tips out there, what would you say are the most important ones?

[@mangekyos82]

i started ratchet and clank today bc of this vid and it's really fun so far 🔥🔥

[@snooter1263]

Hey man, can you talk about not being afraid to disappoint other people, parents in particular

[@CircleofPharaohs]

Thanks for this video I recently started playing silent hill 3 ps2 even though I should prolly play a newer game but I want to have fun and enjoy the world of silent hill

[@jameskozy7254]

I just look at my collection and pick a game to play. Games I finished this year: Metroid zero mission (GBA) Pokemon white (DS) Uncharted Golden abyss (PSvita) Dead space remake (PS5) Zelda Minish Cap (GBA) Hotel Dusk room 215 (DS) Katamari damacy reroll (Switch) Kirby return to dreamland deluxe (Switch) Unicorn overlord (Switch) Persona 3 reload (PS5) Astro bot (PS5) Naruto rise of a ninja (Xbox 360) The liar princess and the blind prince (Switch) Deadly creatures (Wii) Emio the smiling man (Switch) ICO (PS3) Nier Automata (PS4) Astros playroom (PS5) Skies of arcadia legends (Gamecube)

[@neloangelo8]

Wise words

[@evan-2267]

thx man 💚

[@jeremy123577]

This video speaks volumes because u went back and play bastion by supergiant game and for a short game it was alot of fun

[@rickytan7101]

Optimizing fun to maximize time takes out all the fun of just messing around 🤣. Just enjoy your time and relax.

[@Mandalorian_of_Christ]

Boredom and loneliness...even in the Internet age and gaming...hurts. I LOVE RedM role play in the RDR2 worldd..but have such a hard time interacting with other players due to anxiety and PTSD...I want to make a story and series for Farm Sim 25 but just have no motivation. So many story's in my head...but I've never been one of the "cool kids" and at 45 it's just hard. People, as much as I want to interact, because we're meant to be social, but even off the internet I'm an outsider and outcast. It sucks not having friends

[@Mandalorian_of_Christ]

...and I've NEVER followed the crowd, from the 80s as a kid, 90s as a teen and now. I've never been into trends and look at some of the trends out there and think back to how I was doing a lot of them back before it was cool. I remember when gaming was just for the nerds and ooutcasts, and got picked on for gaming. Now those that pickedon us are now in it cause it's cool and most nerds and outcasts are getting offline

[@LouisLuzuka]

I had to learn this the hard way 😮

[@Link1309]

I feel you so much on this. One current example for me is Marvel Snap. I play it for 2 years (with a 3 months break inbetween). And my big issue is... i do enjoy it maybe 50% of the time? But it forces you to play everyday. On one side i know i should just quit it and be done with it. On the other side after the 3 months i took a break i missed out on a lot of stuff and i missed the game. So it feels like its either way shit :D

[@normanofthetempest7347]

I too used to enjoy marvelsnap. But I realized that I was dreading having to play it. So I quit. Dont spend money on that game. Gachas have this sunk cost trap which becomes a sort of hostage situation. Snaps monetization, and f2p growth forces you to play way too much. Keep trying to get clean even if you fail a few times.

[@buggyjohnson666]

I plan on enjoying this video.

[@TAHATPA]

exacly ... agreed

[@monado1761]

To me i just wanna make my playtime perfect with my game so much so that I almost never play my game if don't enter the flow state I immediately quit and wait for tomorrow 😢

[@eddierivero8315]

Why are you inside my head?!? I feel this issue 😅

[@ChrisPBacon-uk6uy]

Therapy 🚫 BBK 👍👍👍

[@maximilian2843]

If i only look for the best of the best i miss out on 90% of good games. Btw. Autumn sale on steam made me poor again. :(

[@yan_dj]

... Unless you have ADHD and your brain tries to stop you from playing games as if it's work, so if you DON'T "optimize" or "plan" you'll never play the games you want to play

[@NoahsArk999]

Anyone have any tips for an adult with adhd who cant play more than one game at a time otherwise the new game becomes the new phase and completely ruins your ability to play the last game?

[@butcherboyzNL]

Yeah I got the planningvirus during my time in college, the recovery of this virus takes years

[@eddybadblood]

We keep forgetting that video games are toys

[@DH-tt6gc]

What are your pc specs and what resolution do you play at and do you play on a tv sometimes ?

[@ExtraHecticana]

I have a challenge for you. Play a game like baldurs gate 3 or metaphor a souls like and don't look up any guides. Just play the game. You'll enjoy it much more

[@funkycow49]

what is the game at 1:08

[@PneumoniaFGC]

It's literally on the screen

[@zarkmuckerberg87]

nice commentary bruh

[@117TheSci-FiRabbit]

This whole video feels a lot like Minecraft not to go to fast to trust your gut do what you find fun not to go to fast but if you enjoy going fast that's fine but give yourself some down time and to not get caught up in the internets opinion of things.

[@grant2707]

when we getting a nier automata video

[@GeekyMina]

As soon as I unsubbed and uninstalled WoW after 15 years playing (the last 6 has been FOMO 💯) I am enjoying playing solo games again, I am even practicing drawing and enjoying other things, even if that means watching a movie or just chilling, I couldn't do that with WoW around, so much wasted time on queues, dealing with toxicity and for what? Should have stopped when it wasn't fun anymore.

[@K3VOS]

I could not play two single player games at the same time😂

[@nano7586]

This is why I hate gaming with my friends. They play games too systematically. Modern games are all about PvP and competition and I hate it. It's the most profitable type of product. It wasn't always like that. Counter Strike was much more fun, with more fun maps, custom sprays, lots of goofing around. But other games too. Now it's all about pushing that AAA RTX with shitty gameplay or making games ridiculously complex where it's no longer skill but rather memorizing to play games like a Wikipedia.

[@jeremyhofmann7034]

But what if…

[@sammyhorace7523]

Video kind of needs it for the Minecraft players

[@kbdc]

your channel is a need atp. always need to remind myself that gaming is a hobby and i should enjoy it for what it is

[@mikerochburns4104]

I'm gonna start by not watching videos filled with bloviated drivel.

[@zacharymartel5592]

You sly dog. Put NieR on the thumbnail and I'll click every time.

[@CNTconnoisseur]

Sounds to me like you're letting people influence you too much. In my opinion, you need to stop thinking about others.