You either get a prenup that you and your boo write or one that the government writes for you...

[@laceyl5682]

If you don't write your own the government does it for you. Omg i never thought about it this way but that is so true. There are already standards in place that the legal system defaults to when individuals don't have their own agreement. What a light bulb moment. Thank you for this 💜

[@massdisruption3437]

A light bulb moment is never get into a this contract with the government. Why do you need their validation on your love.

[@laceyl5682]

@@massdisruption3437 I absolutely used to agree with this. Not because of validation but I never liked the whole "property" aspect of a marriage contract. But a marriage actually protects a woman legally and financially. You have zero rights when a long-term relationship ends unless you're married. You could've given them your whole life, supported everything they did, focused on nothing but their success for years and still have zero rights cuz you aren't married. Even in the case where it's not an obvious imbalance like I just mentioned what about when your person gets sick, injured, unconscious in the hospital. Zero rights cuz you're not married. Their children or parents will default to decision makers legally. What a nightmare that could be. There are so many reasons that we need legal status if we are sharing our lives with someone. And the government doesn't see it as a sale of property only religions do so I'm ok with it now. Lol.

[@jmasaki]

But why is the legal system so messed up to begin with?

[@massdisruption3437]

@@laceyl5682 hmm women need to be protected????😂😂😂😂 That’s Rich very rich statement. A contract should protect both parties. Yet men aren’t protected in the vast majority of cases. If a man provides a life for a woman and they don’t have kids and she chooses not to work. Combined with she doesn’t cook or clean. She is entitled to 50 percent of that man’s earnings. When she chose to be a dead beat????? That isn’t fair,equitable,or right but it happens the vast majority of times. So whether women want a contract or not the vast majority of these young men’s aren’t walking down that path. That’s because they have rights that are above the government. Rights above religion😂😂😂. There choosing not to be pawns. Women will suffer for it. Not having the ability to see that their interest isn’t the only side of the equation. We will see how it plays out. It’s a shame that Rockefeller financed feminism and females bought into an unholy alliance which is anti nature. Again thanks for your input your very smart but only see the woman’s side.

[@Bumling]

The car insurance analogy was perfect.

[@alo2285]

It was in a sense. I get it, it changed me getting one... if someone is worth marrying in general 😅. But no one talks about car insurance because it's illegal not to have it 😅😅

[@Aerie925]

You get car insurance b/c it’s illegal to drive uninsured. It’s not illegal to marry uninsured.

[@santos016]

The car insurance analogy was taken from Tom Leykis who warned all men back in the early 2000s not to get married.. To this day, he is absolutely right..

[@bobnolen568]

​@@Aerie925😂 I was gonna say you are literally forced to get car insurance

[@reggies8732]

No, it was not. We get car insurance because we have to.

[@jicalzad]

if a couple is able to agree & sign a prenup then it's a good sign of a healthy relationship & hopefully a great marriage.

[@SharenaHartley]

If I get married he will sign a prenup or there will not be a marriage

[@AD-oy8nm]

@@SharenaHartley your only saying that b/c you have more assets coming into the marriage, if you are the poor one you wouldn't be asking for it.

[@argates6507]

​@@AD-oy8nmthat's like getting insurance on a $500 beater. You're not getting insurance for your car, you're getting insurance in the event you damage some else's property. If you're broke, a prenup can handle custody of children and pets, child support, and other things that have nothing to do with monetary assets.

[@Whoknows688]

​@argates6507 you can get full coverage on any car you want to have it on lol "liability only" isn't the only option for paid off cars (regardless of cost)

[@AD-oy8nm]

@@argates6507 the "poorer" person is not gonna voluntarily eagerly sign a pre-nup my comment still stands

[@cassie5712]

Comparing a prenup to car insurance just made it click for me! That’s a very rational reason to get one.

[@IAmThee_]

Not having car insurance is illegal... so no, it's not the same. Not even close. Most people wouldn't get it if they didn't have to.

[@durodolatomiwa5572]

​@@IAmThee_I don't think she is saying that prenup should be made compulsory as well. She is just trying to communicate the idea that Prenup should be considered before marriage, that's why she said it isn't the sexiest thing.

[@muthonimutonga492]

This perspective has changed the way I see prenups

[@Mijah1016]

It's crucial to protect both parties, and the perfect time to discuss it is when everything is going well.

[@Evie-e3h]

100% agree!! If you don’t do a prenup the government already has one for you.

[@emmalarson]

Yup!! My sister insisted on a prenup to protect some assets she had before she met her husband. He was a little uncomfortable, I think because this was his second marriage, but he signed it! They’re very happy together. It was just to protect what was already hers incase the worst happens.

[@zen_rt]

Guurl! Preach this to all the Trad Wives. Ladies, you need to protect yourselves from the unexpected car crash. 😢

[@lorimondel]

I 100% agree with this sentiment. We have car insurance, health insurance, phone insurance, life insurance, and warranties we pay for on numerous things (cars, phones, computers, etc). We even have pet insurance, among other things. There's even business insurance. Why do we discourage people to have prenuptial (and post-nuptial...yes these do exist as well) agreements? It's a no-brainer. Marriage is a contract/business decision/agreement that two people enter into at the end of the day. Better you two have it squared away before anyone else (like the government) gets involved. Also, sidenote: Why are all these famous people who should know better not getting prenups? That doesn't seem like a wise business decision at all.

[@Taylor086]

Because the Church doesn't believe in divorce they frown upon it, or at least they used to. They prefer the marriage work out, rather than divorce. Pre-nup is an incentive for divorce. No pre-nup forces the couple to stay in the marriage and work things out.

[@deeabee96]

Especially when J lo’s been married multiple times before and been on and off with that guy for decades lmao. No prenup in this scenario seems crazy to me.

[@fdm2155]

Also, people are in a much better place to be reasonable and fair at the start of the marriage.

[@smania7575]

​@@Taylor086Prenups are not an incentive for divorce. The way it is now, marriage without a prenup is an incentive for women to get divorced. Women usually get more out of a divorce than men. Prenups for women are what holds them accountable. Prenups for men are what give them the peace of mind in marrying a woman because they've already settled everything. And most divorces (80%+) are filed by women. Men are willing to put up with a lot more discomfort than women in relationships. If I was a single man in this day and age, there is absolutely no way I'd marry without a prenup. And since prenups can still be thrown out in court, I'd still be hesitant on marriage with a prenup.

[@zen_rt]

​@@Taylor086All those Trad Wives need to get a pre-nup. Just as many Christian marriages fail as any other. And invariably, the Wives are left holding the babies with no means of support, because they gave up their careers to support their families. . And as for the idea that a pre-nup encourages divorce, is just ignorant religious superstition

[@michellelee5538]

You broke it down in an EXCELLENT way Vivian 🙌🏾

[@jessitabonita]

Same goes for a will! Better to prepare one while you're in good health and of sound mind, regardless if you have any dependents NOW so you don't get taken for granted later.

[@rosej5029]

Also, to PREVENT the relatives left behind from guessing who gets what.

[@valk7229]

Women who bring property and assets into a marriage should keep it "sole and separate". Resist the urge to combine everything and put your new love's name on your stuff. This goes double if you have children. Have a will, living trust, and an pre- arranged guardian. You can always change it later.

[@SouthernRayLA]

Getting married in October. Just sent over our prenup to our lawyers about a week ago. We were both on the same page and wrote and revised it together. I made the mistake of telling my mom, who then told my dad, and he was completely against but the great part about it is he has absolutely no say in the matter😊 My fiancé and I are both fair people, we communicate well and are both committed to doing the hard work that comes with marriage. However if we ever get to a point where we have exhausted all options and the marriage can’t be saved, we will both be protected and not let feelings cloud our judgement. Divorces bring out the worst in people and things get messy. I never want to be like that with the person I love.

[@heatherb4775]

Divorce is why I never want to get married. But IF I happen to this is a must-have advice.

[@jollama]

Make your vows mean something then instead of contributing to the statistic that half of marriages end in divorce

[@juicysmith38235]

​@@jollamaI agree, however you cannot control the other person ...

[@jollama]

@@juicysmith38235 What I said applies to both parties. If you have to control the other person then you shouldn’t be getting married to begin with

[@FlightX101]

@@jollama That's how I see it. To each their own of course but if I have to consider the other person divorcing I simply won't get married to them in the first place. Ive had too many friends date someone for 6, 7 months then immediately get married creating a disaster lol. But in Vivis case I totally understand that she own several businesses which would be at risk in case of some unfortunate event.

[@chrispollock7507]

@@jollamayour vows could mean everything to you but may mean nothing to your spouse. One thing I learned going through a divorce was how my ex used to divorce law against me. I held my vows pretty close to my heart so she would strung me along with the idea she would show up to counseling but never did. Then after year and a half of separation she slapped me with a rent bill for a house I was paying everything on, mortgage, taxes, insurance, utilities, upkeep. I learned a lot about divorce law. And how unfair it could be. Best advice I can give is if there is any major problems in your marriage, like wife sucking another man’s D when you come home unannounced, contract an attorney ASAP. Don’t think you can fix it on your own.

[@brd2122]

I hate the way he asked the question: “why should WOMEN want a prenup?” implying that only men have money to protect. Most women now are also working outside the home. The set up to his question sounded like he was in the 1950s 🙄🤣

[@rayzee0285]

Because most guys all struck there or at least in the 1970s.

[@HelloKitty-gr9vb]

For real! Like women are now out-earning men. When a man wants prenup: oh hes protecting against gold diggers. When women want it: “huh? Why?” 🤣

[@qb4428]

Because women don't marry down. Duh.

[@Shboobii]

​@@HelloKitty-gr9vb women can out earn men because men don't require a lot to live. Context is important when making these statements

[@silviat0306]

My best friend who is on maternity leave still earns more than her husband ( or let’s say she’s still the pillar of the family in the more sense of the word than him). She’s drained from responsibilities and can’t take it anymore. So in that situation (and of course not only), wouldn’t prenup be a good thing ?

[@s.r6331]

Crazy how I never thought it LIKE that

[@beverlyjames07]

A Prenup is a blessing. Mature adults should be able to discuss one prior to partnership (including moving in together) and or marriage. At least speak to a lawyer about options. Keeping it real.

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

It’s mind blowing to me how some people don’t care or see it that way. I know people who would scoff at the idea of even suggesting it as if it’s not normal or as if it’s weird.

[@julieburkhardt61]

marriage insurance. brilliant!😊

[@fanime1]

My father taught me this at a young age and I'm glad he did. I'm also glad my fiance is understanding and not insulted.

[@silviat0306]

I come from a middle class family and I was about to write a nasty comment on prenups but then I remembered that my parents got divorced 18 years ago and MY mom that earns WAY LESS than my father still pays for the mistakes my sweet father has made in the past and he doesn’t give a F*** about those things, made me reconsider my comment and yes. Prenups are a necessity! Thank you !

[@andreasker5308]

Can I ask out of a place of curiosity only but why did you previously think negatively about prenups? I just notice it a lot on people and don’t get it. To me I have always seen it the way this woman describes it which is an agreement for both parties after a divorce

[@silviat0306]

As you mentioned, I didn’t fully understand the concept of prenup at first, but I’ve come to realize that marriage today doesn’t carry the same emotional or moral weight it once did. Statistically, marriages tend to last shorter than they used to, and it's no longer seen as a necessity for many people. In countries like France, for example, they offer alternative systems like legal partnerships alongside marriage, reflecting changing views on commitment. People are also marrying much later in life. Initially, I thought the idea of a prenuptial agreement would be offensive, regardless of someone’s gender/sex or profession. However, after looking into it and considering the experiences of those who’ve been through it, I now see that prenups are practical and quite normal. The more you learn about relationships, the more you understand how they evolve over time. AND the more you read and the more you learn the more perspectives you have into a certain topic.

[@cosmicvixxonalice6795]

Exactly. The marriage license is literally nothing more than a financial contract. Your signature is agreement to be subject to the divorce laws of the state. Who has ever read those? Prenup is writing the contract yourself.

[@ChristBean]

Jackson and April from Greys Anatomy fighting over custody of their unborn child are the key example I always think back to

[@NicoleLLewis]

If nothing else, a prenup forces you to have the money discussion. Given money is one of the biggest things couples fight about, you need to have a discussion. Sit down with your partner, hammer it out, and be done with it. And while you're at it, get a will, because if you don't, the government gets to write that too . . .

[@youniverse6841]

Girl is too real and smart as heck! That's why she's rich!

[@dharadhara8306]

Oh my! That comment about govt was an eye opener!

[@melissagamarra7611]

I always loved the analogy of a business partnership. You would never go into a business relationship without a contract to protect everyone, well same goes for marriage. People act like a prenup is one size fits all but really you can customize it to whatever makes sense.

[@matthewrose8002]

Women don't want to sign it usually because they are the biggest beneficiaries of the government splitting the assets. In fact the laws right now in place give HUGE benefits to the women especially if you lie about abuse. The state will PAY for everything for the defense of the women and in those cases the DEFENSE attorney AND JUDGE get a bonus from the man's social security to pay them. That is why it is rigged against men. The states also are encouraged to prosecute these cases since the state will take a percentage of the spousal support money. In fact in most states the 2nd to 4th highest income for the state budge comes from the divorce industry through taking that percentage of money.

[@matthewrose8002]

FYI, there are a huge number of cases where the state prosecuted the man even though the women stated she wanted to drop the charges.

[@marcocarrillo3923]

I wish all women would agree to this same logic

[@shirrelljackson6365]

Agree!! Both men and women should do this

[@santos016]

Audience !-- I'm 54yrs w/22 years divorced, and the only word to describe my life is nothing but "BLISS"... My health is better, my obesity has gone, my stress levels have dissipated, my diabetes is cured, my hair has grown back, my finances have tripled in my bank account. I come home to nothing but peace after work without any drama, nagging, or seeing my significant other being completely ungrateful for all that I do for her. Modern American women are the absolute worst companions for men.

[@andreasker5308]

THIS!!!!! That’s why I have never ever understood people who get offended by prenups. To me those people seem like red flags because it’s literally an agreement before you are married it doesn’t have to only benefit one party. A good prenup looks out for both parties and is fair and just.

[@sabir11]

Yes...prenups and a paternity test at birth...great ideas.

[@PhDDimeKB]

No, you get insurance because the government requires it

[@FlightX101]

Yes and no. For example, you can run around right now with no medical insurance but may the lord be with you if you get rushed to an ER room lol cuz its gonna cost your salary if its bad......and the hospital will hunt you down. But for Cars, Boats, and Planes the government requires it as your actions now directly affect others. If insurance wasn't required the only option in this scenario would be to DRAG the other person to court every single time you get into an accident which would be a horrible system. (Great for lawyers lol)

[@OOoOoo-vl9pn]

​@FlightX101 it's against the law now to not have medical insurance. They wrote in the back of Obama care..

[@tybaltbaptiste8899]

Ugh. She makes so much sense. i love it

[@InternetStuff2]

See, I came in rich, you came in poor. Yer not leevin' wit' ma' munneh...

[@jeraldb2868]

This woman speaks facts!

[@mybunnysnowflake]

As someone who has worked in that field and worked on prenuptual agreements, it's simply stating who owns what coming into the marriage and could even be useful in the case of death and determining estate assets. There are many people as well who will use it as an opportunity to review assets and sometimes transfer property into smp (survivorship martial property).

[@katrinadoiron1075]

Well, here in Canada, the laws definitely doesn't create equally . Whoever plays the game best i truly wish i would have had a prenuptial agreement.

[@matthewrose8002]

The government also writes a car insurance policy for those that don't get car insurance which is usually with a clause of going to jail or paying huge fines.

[@rankincreates9500]

Wow that car insurance analogy is perfection

[@a1piece]

Finally!!!!! The government has their own prenup for you. Write your own if you don’t agree with theirs. Every Marriage in every culture has a prenup!!!!!

[@MesRevesEnRose]

The analogy 🤯 doesn't concern me though because I got married during my broke era. 😂 (Hopefully my rich era comes soon 🤞🏾)

[@Username0467]

Even broke people should have prenups. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@cocopucks]

Social security retirement and death benefits.if you live in the US. The divorced party may still be eligible if you don't have a pre/post nuptial that excludes them. Pre/post nuptials have nothing to do with being rich. a legal marriage is a contract whether you are rich or poor.

[@emilybusby6922]

And hopefully they don’t walk away during your rich era when it does come!🙃🙃🙃

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

⁠@@Username0467 Exactly, and people always treat broke people as if they have nothing to take advantage of which is just not true. They shame people who are broke like “what are you worried about you’re broke,” yet broke people still have a whole entire income to take advantage of, or assets in their name, and not everyone is broke forever. It’s still a whole ‘nother income! if you add a broke person’s income to yours, most people would see a huge lifestyle upgrade…

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

@@Username0467​​⁠​⁠ Exactly, and people always treat them as if they have nothing to take advantage of which is just not true. They shame people who are broke like what are you worried about you’re broke, yet broke people still have a whole entire income to take advantage of, or assets in their name, and not everyone is broke forever. It’s still a whole income! If you add that to most people’s income they would see a huge lifestyle upgrade.

[@tamaravukcevic2236]

I second that! I've always understood the importance of the prenup for both sides and all social classes,but,unfortunately,none of my friends or colleagues have...People see it as a trust issue rather than an agreement that protects both sides.

[@adriennetravels]

A prenump sounds sexy AF.

[@StarcoreLabs]

Careful, insurance companies might start selling marriage insurance as a premium policy.

[@williamfranklin6283]

With a 50% failure rate it's never going to happen.

[@turc01]

What people are failing to understand is that its a PRE-nuptial, mean BEFORE the marriage. So you are hashing out anything you are bringing into the marriage so you dont lose your assets you gain before the marriage. Once married, everything you accumulate TOGETHER because you are a team and married, like buying a house or other assets like a business is both of yours. Unless you are willing to go ti for tat legally every year or so, which is exhausting and not a good sign of a healthy marriage, prenuptials for the vast majority of people is pointless. The bottom line is that divorce laws are outdated and need to be more just, especially for men, since women are equally capable of supporting themselves after divorce.

[@williamfranklin6283]

You can change a prenup to include assets accrued after a marriage or write a postnup agreement.

[@turc01]

@williamfranklin6283 the reason why I stated in my comment that unless you want to go tit for tat every year or so to legally hash out what is your vs what is his go for it. But that's not a prenuptial, which is my point. People think just because they have a prenuptial that they can leave with the majority of what was accumulated throughout the marriage because they came into the marriage that way. This is not true and a misconception. They only leave with what they brought in, not what was accumulated. This frame of thinking is also not a sign of a good marriage. If you buy a house with a spouse and then immediately say this is mine not yours or you get this much when we break up...then why get married at all if all you're thinking about are your assest when you break up. Why would you even think about "when you break up" instead of putting that same energy into being together and building together. The message is all wrong here which is also my point that the vast majority of people do not need prenuptial agreements. They need to learn conflict resolution to build strong family units, and the laws favoring women for divorce also need to change. The only thing the prenuptial agreement should state is that whoever files for divorce gets nothing.

[@jackxiao9702]

You write a prenup so the lawyers don’t get half.

[@mustbetrippin7406]

At the end she said that's insane. It seems to me that the collective (society) is perpetually getting married without prenups and getting into horrible divorce situations. Society is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Society is insane!!!

[@menaleo7872]

Before marriage, what's yours and what's his stays that way. After marriage, it's called accrual. You've both worked for it. Even if one is the at home partner, you are still doing a job. If you buy a house, put it in both names, even if one is paying the mortgage. Same for car/s, etc. Where I live, it's called Out of Community of Property. If it's In Community of Property, and a partner runs up a bad debt, they can come after the other. Things need to be clearly stated. Also, it needs to be stated, in case of death, if the other person gets the deceased's pension, etc. A Will/Testament can be unknowingly changed, but not a pre-nup agreement.

[@jstephen]

Car insurance is required, and we all complain about it. Prenup should also be mandatory, this would save a fortune in court costs.

[@WilkinsMichael]

Ahhh, now that sometimes the woman might have to pay in the divorce SUDDENLY prenups are OK. Got it.

[@zacharybounds]

This is for both parties stops a stay at home wife from being screwed and stops a good man from being financially ripped apart by a cheating spouse win/win

[@shawnkelly5419]

Guess who wins in a divorce? The lawyers. 😂

[@2222harrys]

Sometimes prenups aren’t enforceable and this depends on your country. Sometimes the courts take it as a suggestion on how to divide your assets and money after a divorce. A prenup may not work if you have children or dependants because it’s now about supporting your children.

[@Ramanhere468]

Remember folks, get a Pre-nup AND a Post-nup!! Don’t be stupid. 😂😊

[@omaimaf9963]

In my country you get to choose on the wedding contract to have separate or joint assets, but either way what you had before your wedding or what you inherit is yours it doesn’t get touched by a divorce. So weird that it’s this convoluted in usa.

[@carmennervoso8985]

Prenup made from a place where you both love each other as opposed from anger

[@northernbunny9894]

Every time I heard someone saying that they didn't want to marry a man because of a prenatal agreement, I was like.Why doesn't she get a lawyer and I have one too.

[@Anna_win-hou]

Curious about what to be included in the prenup? 😅if you’re comfortable, can u talk about yours and your boo’s 👀

[@FreeWorldSpirit313]

I'll never be rich but it think it's a good gesture regardless. I think it's one more sign to say I'm wanting to be with the person and not just want you have.

[@turtle4llama]

A prenup is just pre-negotiating your divorce.

[@maxsonthonax1020]

All relationships should be contractual & above all transactional. Economics says so.

[@jenniferoliveira2858]

She makes perfect sense.

[@raulm116]

Big Ben gonna get paid! 1 for the boys! Let's celebrate 🥳

[@MSB195]

great advice

[@fourtywater77]

That's one pretty Asian woman

[@waynecmontgomery]

The best instrument to have is an irrevocable trust. Prenups can be scrapped for the government's prenup.

[@jameswallace2487]

Well explained.

[@ollieb6706]

Prenuptial agreements are a case of you giving before you have started. Also in the UK they aren't legally binding.

[@the.kristihall]

I want a pre-nup when the time comes and I have barely any assets to my name, while my partner has a house he inherited from his family. I would never want him to think I was after half of that house. That house is his, and eventually it’s for our kids, but I only get benefit from it while I’m with him (which my plan is forever, so idgaf about signing anyway, because I’ll mean my vows and I intend for this agreement to never need to be actioned).

[@Luniel11]

That's what you intend but the pre up is for protection against the worst of what your partner "may" intend. We can't live in fantasy and pretend that divorce would never happen to me, "we are true love, we are real".

[@the.kristihall]

@@Luniel11that’s why I’m happy to sign one anyway, just in case. I’d never want to take his childhood home. By all means, I’ll be entitled to half of community property acquired during the marriage, but I’d never want to take his family’s house.

[@SimplyMulani]

You are absolutely right!

[@GoldenGirl0901]

Well said!

[@cryjohn7257]

Love this!

[@ms.anonymous5323]

Girlll i used to side eye the prenup but damnnnnn car one convinced me i will get one when i get a partner lmaoo 😂

[@Gpr1me]

Touché 🤝

[@judylandry302]

Marriage is a government sanctioned contract. Make it work for you, too.

[@17h127]

Well said Vivian ☺️

[@victerrios6509]

But we do ALL say we dont want insurance ...

[@Ask.Me.Marie.Anything]

110% AGREE 👍

[@jasonarcovio6923]

Cars, homes or, businesses. All investments and agreements need insurance 👍🏼

[@K9_MAMA]

Car insurance is mandatory. Many states mandate Collision Auto Insurance - but there are many who drive illegally. Therefore, I always have full coverage including under and uninsured coverage.

[@Hashyman94]

Muslims have had prenups for years. It’s not common in most muslims cultures but in my culture we agree on a dowry as well as a prenup before we sign a wedding contract. Marriage is just a contract at the end of the day, the expectation of marriage should never be divorce but it happens 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@olgasantiago-agirlfriendsguide]

Wait! Whaaat???!😂 JLongot married AGAIN AND is facing ANOTHER divorce???!!😏this woman NEEDS to learn to be content being alone.😊

[@AnneWilkynson]

My Ex is retired on a lake, I'm in the basement apartment in my Daughters house.. I blew it, we had 4 children and I knew he'd be awful. Biggest mistake ever. All I got was child support, not enough, and he stopped the minute the kids finished high school as if they were immediately out of the house.

[@tamraleone-scott6038]

There are women and men that benifit from prenups. It’s a contract that is followed with expectations and the more detailed it is the better. That way nothing is mis understood

[@th1926]

Sadly, some states do not encourage them, so tjen you can't find lawyers to help you set them up or learn about the pitfalls that occur during a divorce if theyre nit set up well.

[@tonyamathis6667]

It should be a standard part of the marriage process

[@Gunter_Custom]

The best answer to this is ... Never get married .😂

[@Portia620]

THIS!! I was left in bad position but not honesty. That’s kind of my own fault. I should’ve never stopped working with my brother was found dead and I kinda had to was a long a lot very horrible time. It’s a long story but anyway it doesn’t matter if you do a prenup people can take it when you’re married to them they can hide it and mismanage it and everything else!!! 😢

[@fabiennevdk7045]

Also, better to make decisions about each other while both of you are still in a place where you care about each other’s well-being vs. when vengeful ‘divorce feelings’ kick in and take the wheel. 😂

[@joannk5259]

Brilliantly explained!❤

[@zahiraameen6371]

Magrib/dower is gifted by the groom to be to the bride. The bride decides the Dower/Dowry she wants. Prenup & Al-imoney is the Islamic way. Divorce was available to Muslims and Muslim women could call for a divorce way before European women were allowed to. Plus, married women keep their maiden name. They don't need to switch to their husbands.

[@thelkorny]

O my, courts are finally acknowledging men have the same rights as women when it comes to divorce and who gets what. And it's allready a news item for women to pre nup.

[@StefShock]

Also, when a billionaire dies and everything he has is left to the wife or husband, it doesn’t secure the family he has outside of the partner, like the parents and the extended family of the billionaire. A prenup insures that everyone gets a piece when the person with money dies.

[@Proserpina858]

so what should be in a prenup? each walk away with whatever they bring before and during the marriage and only pay for community expenses? you have to be specific. otherwise that community property rule kicks in

[@A.J.P.]

The insurance for marriage is…. Not getting married 😂

[@dwoolf7019]

Guys don't be shamed into losing half or more of your assets. Especially if she wasn't there in the beginning to help build.

[@NoNo-ng9sl]

In J-Lo's and Ben's case I don't think it's entirely a big deal since both are A. equally rich B. Both wont dispute their assets/earning prior to the marriage C. Will probably split whatever they did earn together for those 2 years. It's safe to say these two just want to move on. I suggest a prenuptial in 90% of marriages, but these two aren't 90% of people.

[@TA-np4mc]

Any money used to contribute to their lifestyle is considered community property. With a good lawyer, he could get close to half of her lifetime earnings.

[@NoNo-ng9sl]

​@TA-np4mc That would work both ways wouldn't it? In any case, doubt Ben will do that. Or she will even take it that far. I mean she filed herself, and didn't even use a lawyer. Not her first rodeo.

[@jaimyrparra536]

I dont know, we dont have prenups before, maybe thats the reason we're still together we dont want to have a headaches over splitting things, thats so much work.

[@sebazizou]

Actually i get insurance because the government forces me to do so

[@edwinapinnock8622]

My BFF you are right.