You Have The Power | In Your Relationships

[@karenbrown3081]

I worked for a Doctor whom I respected so much! He would always tell me “Choose your battles”. I have followed that ever since. I stop and think…Karen, is this circumstance worth the battle. It has been a life saver and prevented a lot of heartache!!

[@karenbrown3081]

But I do believe some battles are warranted…if you choose the battle, go after it full force!

[@ALittleBitShabby]

Over the past year and a half I've felt so powerless and at the same time was diagnosed with health issues making things worse. I felt so defeated and depressed, but I'm now starting to reclaim my power. I know the things to do to make myself feel better every day and although it may take me a while to feel like I did in 2019, you have to make a start! Your inspirational videos are some of my absolute favourites Lisa, always thankful for your take on each aspect of confidence and taking control of your own destiny 💕⭐

[@LisaLisaD1]

Thank you so much, Issy! You are certainly not alone, it’s been a tough few years, and health problems are hard to handle, sending you a big hug! ❤️😘 Lisa

[@EH-MiM]

Thank you for your comment. I can relate. So happy to hear you’re reclaiming your power. Keep getting stronger. 😊

[@Denise4ever]

My son and I had a text argument over something stupid back in June, and we haven’t spoken since. He said something to hurt my feelings and I remember thinking how disrespectful. But, after listening to this video I decided to send him a message today. Just said he’s been on my mind and that I loved him, and always will. He hasn’t responded yet, but, I’m hoping he does. What you said about consequences is what hit home with me. I cry a lot lately because of a stupid text fight which has led to not speaking for over 3 months. I want to choose peace also. I have a tendency to react and tear up cards and stupid things that have HUGE consequences. This has really got me thinking. Thank you.

[@LisaLisaD1]

Awe, Denise! You did so good, I hope he responds quickly and you can come to a “truce” 🥰 I’m happy for you!! 🥰😘

[@Denise4ever]

@@LisaLisaD1 ❤️ Thank you. I hope so too!

[@HollyL56]

Denise just wanted to say hugs to you. And good for you. I bet he responds soon. Much love!

[@Denise4ever]

@@HollyL56 Thank you!

[@r.melindar.1349]

@@Denise4ever praying for restoration...🙏💜

[@gowynnie]

Wow. That is a ton of work on your part. Husband have no idea the background reflection we do to keep a marriage together. Meanwhile they say stuff with no filter or thought of consequence that we have to finesse to continue a workable marriage. Also, when I try to talk he doesn’t listen, hear me or care. Is like I don’t count as much as he does. After 20 years of it I’m exhausted. I don’t know how much longer I can keep it up. I was a strong, independent woman in my 30’s when we met. Now I don’t know what I am.

[@VanityismyReligion]

Leave the jerk and find yourself. You should be a priority in your life. You deserve better, to be heard, to be seen, to be taken seriously. Men are not emotionally stupid, they are just used to not having to to the work. Many were raised that way. Men are capable of compassion. But not all are willing. All the best!

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

One of the things that irks me is when people, particularly men that I don’t even know nor have met personally from social media would insert themselves giving me backhanded snide comments. They act as if I’m their wife or girlfriend and they just throw their insecurities and projections. I don’t tolerate that. Treat people how you want to be treated has been my go to motto. I don’t give anyone permission to treat me less than kind and I remove them out of the equation. The best advice I got from a secret service I know said to me “ Don’t follow them into their chaos” just own your power and retain your peace and surround myself with people who get me and value me. Respect is so important to me.

[@tammydavidson8285]

I appreciate your message...but. what I was hoping for was coaching on how to better stand up for myself in a non passive aggressive way.

[@BellaSC]

You can’t carry other people’s problems. We all have bad days. If someone is rude to me in a store, my first thought is something is going on in their life, and it it roll off me. If I take it home then it becomes my problem.

[@laurismackin4036]

Lisa I feel my marriage is similar to yours except we’ve been married for 51 years. I live in Sydney Australia and have been in lockdown since June and it has really but a strain on our marriage he is used to playing bowls and seeing his mates, we are very social and enjoy our friends and going out to eat. I find I really have to keep quiet, hopefully things will change soon.

[@dutchgirl7947]

Whoa!!! That's many years of love and patience! lol!! I think that is just wonderful! 💞

[@LisaLisaD1]

Ugh, I know! They say the domestic abuse rates have gone up, not to mention the children 😩 I’m so sorry you all are on such strict lockdown ❤️ Lisa

[@jenniediaz2895]

Sit Down and Listen to Each Other With Out Interrupting One An Other,💝

[@healthybitesbrenda]

This made me so emotional. I resonate with so much of what you said, about winning an argument. Even if I’m right, but it upsets someone, I deeply care about, what’s the point? I feel horrible 😣. Now that I’m older, I’ve really made changes-especially this past year. We’ve all realized how quickly, someone can be gone from your life!! So, I’ve made some changes too.This was so inspiring Lisa 💕.

[@dominique7490]

Emerson Eggerichs- Love and Respect. If a man feels disrespected, he will be unloving, if a woman feels unloved, she will be disrespectful. This is the crazy cycle.

[@trishgoins5007]

I often say, “it’s no one’s business what I’m thinking”. Meaning, just because it’s my thoughts or feelings doesn’t mean I have to say it. My mother always said, “be kind to everyone. You never know what they go home to”. I’m Very quick witted and could cut anyone with my words. I CHOOSE not to. It’s not always easy! Sometimes I cry for what i have said. I have never cried for what I didn’t say.

[@ScienceNsoul3]

Your quote “I’ve never cried for what I didn’t say” really resonates with me, and I’ll be carrying it with me going forward.

[@trishgoins5007]

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[@nixie1986]

Lisa is right. Give up the need to be right. Just 😌 relax.

[@happymunchkin2812]

I love this subject Lisa. I’m so bad at this type to my husband and after listening this from you, I told myself that I’m going to be better that’s not let myself get mad at my love one to respond anything he said or does. Thank you so much for helping us.😊

[@emilymartin3319]

Thank you Lisa! Such a valuable reminder of what’s really important in life 💕.

[@tawny1962]

Love,love,love these kind of videos that you do. You could be a motivational Speaker ❤️

[@kellycann50]

I really really enjoyed this video. my job is at an answering service company and I cannot tell you how rude people can be to people trying to do their job and take a message for the company that they’re calling for. My job is to be efficient, take the message as quickly as I can and of course always be polite. There are moments that someone will be rude or yell at me for no reason at all and it sets me off and I have responded before I’ve even had a chance to realize that I shouldn’t have said what I said. This is something I’m currently working on is learning to control my reactions to somebody being rude to me and either not respond or kill them with kindness. It’s stopping my self before it’s already out of my mouth which is hard for me to be honest. But like you said, I don’t feel good afterwards, I worry about the possibility of what could happen with my job and it’s just not the person I want to be. Thank you so much for this video Lisa it’s giving me lots to think about. Lots of love Kelly💕

[@vhuffman1974]

This was a great video! And yes please talk more about how carnivore has changed your life. I think this would be very helpful to a lot of us! 😊

[@Lisa-yg9tn]

Feelings come from our thoughts so change your thoughts, change the outcome

[@cindyolson]

Thank you so much Lisa, I listened to this twice.

[@allison4227]

Thank you Lisa this is what I'm learning to focus on understanding rather than to be understood. You put it so beautifully. There are many Teacher's but the key is to be able to carry it over in simplicity and you do it so well. Greetings from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@n.peterson9673]

I just love you!! Thank you for this message...it was very timely for me! ♥️

[@MQS11]

I'd rather be happy than right any day! Love these videos, TYSM

[@becuteforme]

Wow perfect timing. ✨

[@laila9269]

Being a doormat is not where my power lies.

[@shannonratliff9444]

The advice you give in this video is so good and true. I appreciate you always encouraging us to assume responsibility and do the right thing. Once I really started reading my Bible and applying the word of God to my life I could not ignore Galatians 5 where it talks about self control being one of the fruits of the spirit of God. I know that as a woman I am more emotional than a man and that these feelings I experience seem so deep and real, especially when I am angry, but I have learned that they are just feelings and they pass and that when I have acted on them I have always regretted it. Forgiveness is such a powerful thing and in the times that I have been offended I have learned to just let it go and forgive and life is so much better because of that. Me allowing myself to act on offense always leads to me sinning, whether it be with my husband or anyone else. I don't want to sin against my Savior. He has forgiven me so much that I don't deserve. I know that I have many times offended and I do not want to be a hypocrite. Grace and mercy has been given me and I want to extend that to others. Thank you again for this video.

[@MyMaria1224]

Lisa I agree with you on everything that you said! I’ve been married 38 years and in my opinion it’s about respecting and listening to one another❤️❤️

[@kimberleym6236]

Lisa you are so WISE! Thank you for this! ❤️

[@mommybuss]

Best KZbin video I’ve watched. Ever. You put it in such a great way with thoughtfulness & kindness. Going to watch this again & again. Thank you!! 🥰

[@lisapeters425]

I always say I want to live a quiet life- meaning peaceful, contentment and focusing on my own family. Life is so much nicer when you can do this as much as possible! ❤️❤️

[@HollyL56]

Yes! True power is being in control of your emotions, in control of yourself! This was wonderful Lisa and we can never hear things like this too much. We are always growing and learning in all our various relationships with people. The peace starts with us. Thank you for sharing this!🤗❤️

[@LisaLisaD1]

Yes, Holly! I am definitely working on this every day, and I see the good results! Thank you!! 🥰

[@HollyL56]

@@LisaLisaD1 Me too, Lisa! We are always a work in progress, to our best self! You’re amazing, keep up the great content!💗

[@dawannalewis5186]

Lisa, I love these type of videos! and I can’t believe how much alike we are! I’m on this journey to learn myself and better who God created me to be! A good wife, mother, daughter and sister to the people I love the most my family! I will have my peace and I’m not giving that to anyone! It’s our life and we choose each day to walk in peace, love and Joy! I have much to learn and I’m doing the work! Thank you for this video ❤️

[@lisadim6866]

👏👏👏👏 Good talk thank you so much for your advice

[@angelacrowder6127]

Hi Lisa, So happy to see you! Thank you so much for your video! Have a beautiful day!!! ❤

[@joannelabryn7531]

GOSH LADY, YOU ARE GOING IN AN EXCITING DIRECTION, SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!

[@christieghunt5728]

That was so lovely.The Serenity Prayer has saved me many times I would rather be happy then be right. Love you❤️

[@lhillpa4654]

Loved this video and it was something that I really needed to be reminded of......working to be a better happier person. 😊

[@audraromero334]

So nicely said and also so true ❤️ sometimes being Right! Doesn’t mean we necessarily win….relationships are all about compromise 🙏

[@ellensonnenberg5142]

Can you do how to know if you’re in a toxic friendship and how to fix the situation?

[@janinelisa9715]

I couldn’t agree more lisa. I remember hearing dr Phil ask someone years ago “ do you want to be right or be happy?” I’m always focusing on having more peace in my life ❤️🧘🏻

[@chrissym7228]

I read once and have always remembered this Once you show you're negative or explosive emotional reaction is the exact time when you lose all of you're power

[@sunclover]

"Chump myself out" ? What does that mean? Is it a Southern saying? 🙂

[@radbaby3]

How can someone be mean to YOU? You're so friendly and good hearted!

[@lynnnelson8095]

Such a great subject….sure made me think about myself how I react!!! Thank you 🙏🏻

[@meganryan9945]

Wise, thoughtful words❤️

[@Vero587]

I love my hubby very much, been married for 12 years. We have so much in common, and were both very confident people and really enjoy each other. There is one thing though that have always annoyed me. He is constantly nagging, and complaining on how things are not done his way. I told him many times to stop nagging so much but its like he cant stop himself and now after 12 years he's nagging under his breath but still loud enough that I can hear lol I am more of a person that if something is bugging me I just take care of it but he doesnt do that he just complains. Even my 6 yr old he said "daddy always wants everything to be perfect, I can't do everything perfectly". I felt so bad hearing that and didnt know how to explain that that's how daddy is..any suggestions on how to handle this?

[@GenXtothe7thPower]

My husband and I used to have this issue I feel it really started to resolve itself around the 12 year mark, we are on year 18 now. I feel he’s gotten much better being nit picky and perfectist…which I am not on many things..and I wish I could pinpoint exactly why…so don’t lose faith! Even the best marriage has rocky years. As for your son, I told my kids the world is full of different people, some laid back easy going like mom…and some wound up tight and easily annoyed like dad..the kids will get experience dealing with both extremes and they’ll know how to handle them and hopefully the kids will find a balance for themselves, ya know

[@Vero587]

@@GenXtothe7thPower Thank you! I really hope this resolves soon. I find it takes too much space in his head and I really do not want our boys (5 and 6 yr old) to get this from him.

[@GenXtothe7thPower]

@@Vero587 it doesn’t sound like they will, I know my parents had some qualities that I wanted to avoid as a parent, I have to be realistic that my kids will take the good and leave the bad, too..hopefully! Lol

[@LisaLisaD1]

I think this is common, I think men nag more than women 😜 the only thing you can do is talk to him about it when it’s not a “hot issue”, when you are getting along, just tell him how it makes you feel not really focusing on criticizing him, and that you would like to resolve the issues~ maybe then he will at least think about it the next time and it will gradually get better 🥰

[@embeexoxo]

Someone I work with once said that in every conflict, you have two buckets: one is filled with water and one is filled with gasoline. YOU get to choose which bucket you pour in the fire.

[@mummamia1967]

Oh Emily I love this.

[@cmac6992]

The word that comes to mind hearing you speak on this topic is GRACE. You are giving others grace and leading by grace.

[@annieabfab6258]

👌🏼👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️🐨🇦🇺

[@becuteforme]

We usually don't argue but when we do, I cry a lil bit because I get emotional (I hate arguing) and then I grab his credit card and go shopping. 😂🙈

[@jenniediaz2895]

K,So Your on the Right!?

[@jacklynallen1776]

I agree with most of what your saying. The only thing that may be different is if your spouse continually over reacts and then believes it’s okay to continue behaving this way because your apologetic and let it go time and time again.

[@jacklynallen1776]

Not saying you do this Lisa, using this example for myself and possibly others. Thank you for these videos. Very informative ❤️

[@anahutcheson6579]

Lisa thankyou for a great video. Just wondering how do you get there? Reading, self reflection ?😘

[@pathughes5060]

You are a lovely person Lisa xx

[@eijaananda2539]

I agree 100% with what you say, and I feel that that's how I like to do things. When my husband left for another woman, I was shocked and devastated. I thought our marriage was so good, and it was easy for the majority of the time. I've had to take a hard look at myself to see my part in all of that. Even though it has been the worst thing, it has pushed me to grow like no other. I'm determined to be a better person because of it.

[@lindamcgrew3385]

Send them love “no matter what”. thank you for sharing 😊

[@dotsonms]

Thank you for this Lisa!! I'm in a situation where I'm constantly pushed to be on the defensive and have become very reactive... It's so exhausting.

[@jenniferm586]

Sounds like you need to be done with that relationship.

[@pathughes5060]

👍👍 xx

[@diannedballard2372]

Wise words from such a sweet beauty. Thank you Lisa!❤️

[@Unkuuu]

I agree. I don’t feel it’s my job to “correct” everyone. I should correct myself when needed and move on lol.

[@guilhermejunior2689]

I liked your vídeo👍 and I wish you a great day 🌞

[@kjay8069]

Hey lisa ! I am in Greece on holiday telling my friend about you . We are both mental health professionals in the uk . I am so inspired by you and your journey and the content of your videos. She is going to subscribe to your channel. You are the most fabulous example of personal growth, empathy and strong womanhood ! Love ❤️

[@SheriMorgan]

Love your videos Lisa!!! I’ve been married 23 years too… Great man advice & Life advice!! Also.. been carnivore for a month 1/2 .. thank you for sharing!! Love&light from California 💗💗

[@AnneLindsey1]

Very good advice! This may not work with some difficult people but with fairly reasonable people I think it’s great!! I say this because I have a family member who is often very argumentative and difficult. This doesn’t always work with them but I’ve learned to just walk away. Sometimes with that one person nothing works unfortunately. I absolutely hate conflict.

[@LisaLisaD1]

Exactly, I know a few that will not be ignored, you just have to do the best you can, and just know you are doing what’s best for your sanity 🥰

[@Louismoxley]

Lisa, you are like a fine wine .. you get better with age.. love watching you, listening to you,and taking your advice and recommendations.. God Bless you and your family including those that have fur🥰🐈

[@cb779]

This was a great topic and looking forward to others like this. My husband and I are both very reactive people. Most of our problems come from being a blended family. I am at that point where I just want to walk away because neither of us are willing to back down which is sad. This video did help me to realize that I don't have to win like this. Thank you Lisa.

[@BunnyBella821]

This was a lesson I learned as well. I learned about grace and it is truly powerful.

[@BeautifulLivingHome]

I really needed this right now💗 Thank you Lisa💗

[@carolperara6894]

Lisa ,Have you ever listened to Evy Pompouras ? I don’t know if I spelled her last name right! She was in the Secret Service among other things and she wrote a book called Bulletproof.. These are a lot of things I’ve heard her say. She did a Ted talk but she’s all over the internet. This was great 👍 as usual!!! ✨✨✨✨

[@lindajoly-gregory2590]

such a GREAT video subject and advice, Lisa!!!!! thank you❤️

[@mrskaa7584]

Lisa, I want you to know how much your talks help me. I am just a few years younger than you, at 47. I live in CA but I am from North Carolina, I was born in Charlotte, and my parents and my extended family are all from the western Carolinas. My momma died when I was in my 30s, and I'm an only child. If I had a big sister to help me negotiate these middle years, she would sound like you. I am so lucky to have found my "John" and have a good marriage also. But your talks remind me of some things that are important during these years, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@stephshorses3]

I’m just catching up on your videos and I love your explanation on this topic! I used to run my mouth and realized how hurtful it was to my relationship with my husband. Now I try to think before I speak and am trying to dull that edge I used to have! You’re like the big sister I’ve never had! Thank you!

[@shellyolson4641]

Good advice ❤️!

[@tonigoldman10]

Hi Lisa! I'm not in the you tube world but always worked in the field of education. I've experienced back stabbing and negative comments about me in that field of work as well. Wherever I go I see and hear negativity. People that are negative and/or mean obviously have some personal issues in their lives. Like you said, usually the best way to respond is to say or do nothing. It's a good idea to simply eliminate these toxic people from your life.,...as I have done.

[@lindaablitz2227]

My boss told me once “don’t fuel the fire” we both dealt with a lot of the public in our jobs however it helped me throughout my life in personal situations

[@glenf6639]

In my 22 year relationship I’ve always known I’m more of the spark plug. I appreciate what you’ve said here. I have learned that using my power is to use if for good….. to not have to be “right” and to build up my man. It doesn’t mean i have to be silent by any means however we have much more productive conversations when i don’t react immediately. I take a pause and it truly does end up lovely.

[@ingcmm]

This is so true Lisa. I had the happiest marriage for 20 years and this is the way we handled our relationship, always keeping in mind we love each other and are in the same team. If that’s the case, what’s the sense in “winning” a battle? Do you want to be right or be happy?. He died earlier this year and the loss is irreparable but, at least, I can honestly say I have no regrets. There was nothing unsaid. There is nothing I wish we did different. Sending hugs your way! ❤️ thanks for addressing such important matters.

[@deemarkja]

Also think of a person's capacity. We're all beautiful souls with aptitude in certain areas. We might have strong areas that we over focus on. At the same time we don't understand other people's strong areas. I'm raising sons and this is what I notice causes conflict the most. What's relevant and important to me is the least of their worries. It makes me stand back and wonder about the significance of it all. I think what's important here is etiquette. Making another person comfortable. And sometimes in relationships this is the part that is lacking. Enjoy your day 🌹

[@aimeeboehme6510]

This was so helpful to me. I didn’t want to face my day or get out of bed. You have encouraged me beyond words. Thank you, Lisa.

[@janac2881]

Lisa, you r a gem!!!! Not gym😀💕. I was a PE teacher, not a speller. Lol

[@cindyvito1692]

My husband and I have been married 36 years. We both came from dysfunctional families with lots of drama and bickering. Our marriage started out this same way because we did not have any role models to show us otherwise. Over the years obviously, we grew, matured and learned so much about our feelings regarding how we were raised. Our marriage is good but we still have the bickering back and forth all the time. Our kids always think we are fighting but we aren’t. It just seems to be our way. I have hated it for years and years and do not know how to change this part of our lives. I have tried to talk to my husband about this and we both have tried to change this but unfortunately we always fall back into old habits.

[@alehdz5690]

Such great advice Lisa , true power does definitely lie in self control. Managing our emotions is daily work.

[@sussannekeith5676]

Take a dee breath before you react and stay in the present… … always the best plan. You are so real Lisa and I love these videos mixed in with makeup and beauty. Love you!❤️

[@TheKam77]

Awesome advice! I really learned from this. Thank you for sharing!

[@WildThings113]

The older i get i realize being mad is a waste of time that we can never get back..

[@jensankey1]

I watched this video yesterday and wanted to let you know I loved it. It truly helped me deal with a family member situation. You have such a positive attitude and that shows in each video. Thanks!!

[@sontzi]

I absolutely loved this. Thank you so very much. God bless you ❤️💕🥰

[@dollyrocker40]

im loving your positive videos im very much into law of attraction and practice it thank for the videos Lisa looking beautiful as always love faye uk

[@guilhermejunior2689]

You are sweet. Thanks for the tips

[@konabaca7672]

Thank you for sharing that happens quite often and I always overreact with a bad temper so I need to watch that thank you

[@moniker1111]

What I really want is peace. ❤. I have chosen to think other people are not believing bad about me to better appreciate my personal power. 😌

[@moniker1111]

Awe ❤. Next under God. Appreciate that husband.

[@rachellelee2125]

You nailed it with this video!! I am working all of these things in my new marriage.

[@BlondeTeaParty]

Hey Lisa, I just love these topics and look forward to hearing you talk more about the places people are rude. This resonates so much with me! xx Shaz

[@cassandrasmom]

I always love to hear your perspective on different life topics! I appreciate your wisdom and hope to learn from you. Have a fantastic day!

[@Kristiehornbuckle]

I believe true power is within God; he is way more important than I.

[@briellabenitez3024]

“ They think that their power lies in their response “ wow that really did it for me!!!

[@HollyL56]

Happy Monday Lisa!💗

[@magourn]

Great video! very insightful!

[@anelaraguz1892]

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[@r.melindar.1349]

First! Hugs from NC! The Lord spoke to me...im not married but this can apply to any situation.

[@carikabornman6189]

💘

[@gl85035]

I always run into some really rude people at Costco