You're Lovely, You're Loveable and You're Loved | Bob Carley | TEDxGalway

No matter what the life challenge is, Love Never Fails.
Robert is a trainer and motivational speaker by trade. He's largely involved in Irish Mental Health organisations big and small. He regularly runs wellness workshops with Suicide or Survive, and runs his own organisation The Right Mind. He speaks from personal experience about the value of reaching out to someone who is feeling despondent with the simple phrase - You're lovely, you're lovable, you're loved.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@unclebobcarley1]

Sooooooo I've managed to get myself registered so that I can comment. Just want to say a huge thank you to the many people who took the time to listen to my heart. A special thank you to those who commented below. I really appreciate your views.

[@nuttyfroot]

unclebobcarley1 You are a lovely man. X

[@ZTG745]

I really needed this. Thank You.

[@LovingAtlanta]

unclebobcarley1 - 😔I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and sharing a great message, especially for those of us that are grasping at straws trying to meet just one more sunrise and sunset, one at a time. 💞

[@Valerianagit]

unclebobcarley1 Thank you and much love from the bottom of my heart. I have watched your ted talk every single morning since I found it.

[@insomniac9895]

Thank you, friend.

[@user-bk1ez4sz8t]

Oh how I wish my Dad said , even just once, ‘ You’re lovely, you’re loveable and your loved’

[@Sileaine]

That doesn't make it less true

[@joans6047]

@@Sileaine what a beautiful reply. Be blessed, lovely human!

[@joans6047]

@M 4 × I understand that you wish you heard it from your father, but hear it just the same, "You're lovely, you're lovable, and you're loved." "

[@user-bk1ez4sz8t]

@@joans6047 that's nice. thank you

[@joans6047]

@@user-bk1ez4sz8t 😊 and you're very welcome. I truly meant it. 🤗

[@janetmckenna_lowry]

A practical parenting tip: when a child does the epic silent cry: very, very, gently, blow on their face. Their emotions will totally release, and you can begin comforting and soothing them.

[@rahul_ji21]

What does blow mean??

[@lyvesauce]

When he asked to think of your happiest day, I got really sad bc I don’t remember my most favorite day. For the past two years, it’s been a downhill for me. And I don’t know what it means to be happy

[@kylemackay5760]

That's ok pet. It will come back to you =) For now, in the words of a very wise and loving man, You are lovely. You are loved. And you ARE lovable x

[@dahmalia8220]

same with me...feeling so empty

[@azeemqurbanali3281]

Read Quran islam is the only way out love you

[@spacewitch6922]

When he asked to think of your happiest day,I got really sad and cried...because it was my happy and complete family celebrating my 8th bday on 2008 in a zoo... I wish time stopped that moment...I hate growing up, I miss them so much... I envy those people who have complete family;and some of them don't even realize how blessed they are; they're just taking it for granted.

[@violeta3425]

Not necessary to be a moment in time. That day can be today, the PRESENT MOMENT.

[@tonymac5546]

I will carry the image of Robert being buttoned up in his father’s jacket for the rest of my life how beautiful 😊

[@SongofBeauty]

Tony Mac I cried. Me too.

[@VanessaSimon26]

Tony Mac me too

[@dsectctv5647]

Thats My Dad :) XX

[@1974Asha]

+DSECTC TV HE'S AMAZING! I'm Ronnie Nangle's granddaughter and the love thing is DEFF a family trait!!!

[@moniquevamado]

Seriously? Wow, you are blessed and I can imagine that you are an equally amazing person for being raised by a man like that. God bless you.

[@tinaomotoyosi]

congrats on having a dope ass dad!!

[@whizz8871]

this made me laugh so hard! tell your dad its brilliant from me!

[@nuttyfroot]

You are very lucky. ❤

[@lizhiva3]

I love how he simplifies the complexities of mental illness; he is like the rainbow breaking through the dark clouds! His authenticity and humor is like a huge warm HUG 🤗 Love never fails♥️👏🏽

[@unclebobcarley1]

Thank you

[@taffyann4534]

Really like this talk. I am learning to believe that love never fails

[@Toni-ec5lc]

“It’s 4/4, we all have a mental health, issues” Oh how true this is!! It’s amazing to see a man be so passionate on a subject like this

[@ck.campos]

"think of the greatest day of your life, feels good ain't it?" brain > best memory > that was good but it's over > sadness > deep sadness > oh god what I just did

[@jonmoore7387]

made me cry, need more of this kind of love in the world

[@moniquevamado]

Possibly the best TED talk of all time. I knew 5 minutes in, you were speaking my language. Will be sharing this widely. God bless you.

[@VanessaSimon26]

Monique Amado - Artist & Life Coach yes!

[@craigsblock7179]

Fantastic message! Love never fails! I for one, don’t have any partner at the moment but I have found self love and I am still nurturing this feeling because at the end of the day, I am all I’ve got in this world and until I find my soul mate, I will do my best to uphold and care for myself!

[@gracelou91]

I love that wish I could do the same, I base my happiness off of my partner its constant distress with certain issues etc but I dont know how to keep my head focused on myself😔

[@mihoando3813]

love doesn't get wasted...it gets you through

[@BetterDays_Now]

❤️ "You're lovely, you're lovable and you're loved. " 🎯 What a beautiful thing to say every time you hug a child. ❤️🙂

[@lamyaamer1646]

well Robert, your story is inspiring, that's because you never gave up on love when you said love never fails, but imagine when you are that person as you are and meet someone who gets the best out of you, pretending to love you and then dump you cool hearted.

[@littlemisskitch]

I am in tears watching this. Thank you so much for this beautiful talk!

[@alynneflanery9918]

he had a wonderful dad...made me cry when he talked about him.

[@danihan14]

Robert, thank you so much for sharing your experience as we need love more than ever before, now and future. I, myself just realized a few days ago that truly Loving ourselves is the absolutely best gift we can give ourselves and to the world. We are all imperfect in our own special ways and it is perfectly fine to be imperfect and messed up...and loving our own shortcomings and imperfections is the start of an amazing life! Cheers to all the lovely people in the world!!!

[@2women88]

R.I.P. my beloved Dad and my best friend forever, love never failed

[@trudypeterson3230]

Love failed me all my life but through it all I still have hope!

[@kristymounsey3450]

Trudy Peterson my heart was broken when my ex left me three weeks before the wedding. It was the best thing that ever happened. Love never fails. Now I am free to be with a man who loves me.

[@lalishka52]

You know why.. It fails in your case?? You must be realized the reason... Self love first.. Then build self - esteem.. Really i just notice how much i missed when i focused on others reactions at what i give.. I loved others more than me.. I gave them incorage.. Help.. Money.. Evrything.. Untel they felt i am stuped.. Untel they treated me sooo bad.. I realized that i forgot of what my self want from me... I missed my value by give others attention... But not anymore.. Love your self take care of you .. Second love others.

[@gracelou91]

@@lalishka52 im the same im with someone I'd walk the earth for I base my happiness off of him and I'm so down in myself because I'm there for whenever everybody needs me but when I need someone there's nobody there for me so I'm lost right now, completely lost.

[@chopincookies]

This is the most beautiful thing I've seen in this while; first I thought "that's a first class Shakespearean theatre for you gentlemen", then I laughed so hard "that's a pure good ol' Victorian comedy!", then, with a struck of a lighting, tears began falling down my cheeks... albeit all that, the performance ended with such happiness―after all I must say this inspired me very much. I hereby give Mr Carley a warm regard and gratitude. God bless.

[@erhpin7796]

I knew I messed up when I couldn't think of the time when i was the happiest.

[@charissedecalongne2553]

Easily one of the best Tedtalks ever. I tip my hat off to you sir!

[@mariarich5142]

I WATCH THIS VIDEO PRETTY FREQUENTLY & HIS TALK IS PUT TOGETHER BEAUTIFULLY. IT TOUCHES BE EVERY TIME AND REFRESHES ME. THE PIGEON JOKE CRACKS ME UP EVERY TIME 😂

[@rayjamesv5641]

I love the way he presents so energetic.💕

[@VanessaSimon26]

This is one of my favorite Ted Talks!!!!! Thank you! Love never fails, even when your depressed even when you think of separation. LOVE NEVER FAILS. God bless you! I am filled with new hope! I am being healed now in the name of God. I am Joy and I am lovable and lovely.

[@tinamagdalena8015]

Love never fails! Thank you…what a difference your message has made for me today and all those your life has touched. God bless you ❤️🌹❤️

[@garethmorgan3665]

Lovely talk, lovely voice, lovely man.

[@hannahrose3686]

Love never fails..it is the person we love who fails us😞

[@joyyu7753]

I think it's alot to do with his energy and vibe more so than his beautiful stories. Even though it's an online video, I can tell it was purely positive.

[@namara598]

I am on the journey of encouraging people to embrace love. Thank you for my new slogan: LOVE NEVER FAILS. Oh, and for taking time to visit my country😊 Uganda🇺🇬

[@ghosted1662]

This guy hit the jackpot of love. For the rest of us, love fails all the time.

[@Alphacentauri819]

ghosted166 then it never was love... hope you experience it. We have to learn to love ourselves first...

[@stuarteverett6544]

This man is incredible

[@susannahwilliams5568]

What a great guy, loved his talk😀

[@francinegray9383]

Watching again in 2019, because I needed to hear this.

[@camillevangestel5173]

"LOVE NEVER FAILS" - it never did - it never will. One awesome TED talk Rob! Hope my entire network gets to see this too. I surely gave them the opportunity ;))

[@ferlyntaho9289]

C Truth You’ll be okay

[@sherikling1033]

What a gorgeous talk. I really needed to hear this today.

[@sujinkim8069]

Mr. Bob Carley made me chuckle like a child. What a delightful & funny fellow human being!

[@hildamaguire2093]

What a legend - thanks for sharing your story! It's so true - I look forward to seeing you at the Cycle against Suicide congress! You will be such an Assist and inspiration - Bob Carley!!

[@ESTMYNDA]

Such a beautiful heart felt life and story ❤️

[@AkosiMr.killerGaming]

All the best to you and yours, Bob🌻🙏🙏

[@saraa3418]

I've been trying to build up my courage to start a business selling the yarn and fiber I dye. Thank you for giving this talk, it makes me more able to picture my business being successful, because I love dyeing yarn and fiber.

[@karencernan414]

Dear Sara - I would buy your yarn! :-)

[@Deathbycurves]

Well, now I’m crying. ❤️

[@miaallen6161]

Today is Christmas. Before watching this video, I may have been at my lowest this whole year. This video brought me out of my whirlwind of thoughts and reminded me of what always keeps me going: *LOVE NEVER FAILS*

[@francinegray9383]

Wonderful reference to his Dad, when he was a boy.

[@Ignoraaance]

Wow this video was such an emotional roller coaster but its message is wonderful.

[@magsfay2840]

I could never hear this message too many times I wish my Mum and Dad told me I'm lovely loveable and loved

[@christineemma1619]

What a fantastic speaker! I think this is the most important idea to ever be shared ♥️

[@jaleneszuba9980]

What a wonderful funny engaging presentation. Thank you for the reminder to look for love within ourselves and from those around us.

[@cynthiahudson2688]

I want to go to the church of Bob....lol. You are an amazing speaker and a lovely man. Thank you so very much

[@lauraatkinson8920]

This man’s message was amazing ❤

[@candykandy]

Omg that accent 😍the talk is brilliant too Just want to add the ending made me cry ❤️

[@razeedamohammed7656]

Thank You ..Mr Carly.....!!!! please continue your mental health awareness as it is sad we still view it as unimportant.....and weak individuals.....love never fails!!! its true ....i have no great love story....being divorced....but whats wrong with having one good thought that i am loveable among all the millions of negative thoughts!whats to lose ?......love is found in the most unexpected places doesn't mean it has to be romantic relationship......if we feel emotions doesn't others as well.....the journey is hard and is getting harder I wish you and your family all the best in your ventures!

[@Parkitloveit]

What a wonderful intelligent comedian full of love and understanding of the world and the human beings ❤️

[@1louiseward]

Excellent Presentation on mental health and the power of love, a rollercoaster of emotion, well done!

[@svaught1]

One of the best Ted Talks ever. Thank you!!

[@JakeTroxell]

So I'm only 3 minutes in but know this is one powerful talk. I can sense the people actually feel like they are being spoken to, like something inside of them is being noticed and seen. Can't wait for the rest of the talk.

[@sgreen9088]

"Love never fails" that's Biblical principle there.

[@darrellwalker8541]

Rob would be very well aware of that.

[@angiemacken]

Thanks for the encouragement and reminder LOVE NEVER FAILS.

[@Prinzessinhanni]

What a lovely guy! So much love and Humor in this talk, thank you so much!

[@XxXailbheXxX]

So beautiful, so inspriring! Love never fails, and love triumphs over all.

[@Gratitudejoy21]

WONDERFUL!!!! THANK YOU FOR THE REMINDER!!!! THANK YOU for your work!!! And: you're a VERY GIFTED SPEAKER!!! LOVE from Belgium!!!!

[@mikahkilgore4972]

I’m definitely not holding back tears... Who am I kidding? I almost started balling at this.

[@jessiemccarthy3809]

This was exactly what I needed to hear, amazing!

[@SamanthaBoomtown]

You are amazing! Im bawling

[@annette8162]

This is probably my favorite TED Talk Ever ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@urbancitymusictv]

I watch a lot of videos some are definitely better than others I will probably never forget this one quite timely thank you

[@jaynichols6868]

Nice try, TedX. That's obviously Robin Williams trying out a new character. He's alive, people!

[@mmaeyen]

This is a brilliant talk! Such an important message. I love your energy, humour and passion.

[@bronsonmcdonald5473]

I enjoyed this Ted talk very much. I like the idea that I am a unique piece of a jigsaw puzzle. The nice thing about thinking about your favorite day (or any great day) is that the one thought tends to lead to a similar one. A few can change your mood.

[@karencernan414]

Bronson, that idea that I am a unique piece of a jigsaw puzzle is what got me, too!

[@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah7]

love never fails

[@carolgilmour1165]

So touching what a powerful talk

[@KoreanwithMissVicky]

Absolutely loved it! And it is true, love never fails!

[@lounyx2902]

Wow that was one of the best Ted talk I ever saw.

[@LovingAtlanta]

😔Well I’m glad love didn’t fail him. I’m sorry his wife passed away and I appreciate him sharing his story. 💞

[@VanessaSimon26]

LovingAtlanta It’s so beautiful! They way he tells the story! And then he got married again! Love again! His story is amazing.

[@eatdemonsforlunch]

I've come back to this video so many times :) It has helped me so so so much! I absolutely love this video and the contents behind it :)

[@MelindaLongoria]

I absolutely adore your accent and the way that you speak and bounce around the stage. Your talk is so interesting and funny! You did a great job. :-)

[@natalieoshea3263]

This is so precious, I laughed and cried and felt so much love :) thank you 🥰

[@BlackGirlGreenThumb]

the first time i’ve ever laughed at a ted x speech 😂 ... i def want the pastor to read 1 corinthians like he did

[@daemonka]

Wow! My heart just broke in half... to let more love in. Thank you

[@zeuxis9169]

Very inspiring! I think my patronus is now a grouchy old Irish man! 4:14

[@eggrolleggroll]

Bob Carley, I feel inspired.

[@eggrolleggroll]

I’m feeling the Robin Williams in me 😊

[@simplyredislandgirl]

Excellent presentation!👏👍😇

[@keln6497]

Love never fails x

[@marthaskelly1449]

Wow, in tears , so inspiring and funny, well done xxx

[@ntwaha732]

I laughed while watching this and I loved it so much, but now I just wana cry! :(

[@bethc495]

Very beautiful and moving 💞

[@TheTejaswini25]

thank you for that wonderful message.

[@francinegray9383]

I've missed my Irish side! So good, Uncle Bob.

[@chrishuggins9223]

Respectfully. Love never wins, love never fails. Perhaps'love' is of something different. Some small thing to consider regarding keep on moving forward. When putting one foot in front of the other, one is not quitting/stopping and is still moving forward even if they are sitting down and taking a look around. Take care or not, you have a wonderful family...no doubt.

[@shonylclaudia7370]

This made my month

[@yassinealoui7539]

this guy is super awsome!!

[@preciussmollbean2977]

Beautiful.. Every small step of love counts :)

[@Ralphitness]

wow, I cried twice before the ending. Phenomenal talk!

[@yayag.1393]

Awwww I loved that😭

[@nainem.4148]

Amazing!

[@houseofroyaltyministries5594]

So inspiring and touching

[@eleanorclub]

Nicely done and so moving. Thank you.

[@khiachenille834]

Excellent!! Filled with love!!

[@ellazhao9300]

omg, i'm crying so hard