You're not Black Enough!! But you better not claim anything else!! POV of an MGM/ Exotical

[@RD-ub1jj]

I’m multi-generational mixed. To the world I’m black, to the black community I’m not black enough, and when I claim my blackness I’m told to be quiet, yet if I don’t claim my blackness I’m told that I’m ashamed of my roots. I literally can’t win so I’ve given up… I’m just me. To all my black and multiracial queens, I love yall. I stand with yall no matter what. Btw… I love this video so much. Thank you for speaking on it.

[@daniellehalo6923]

I feel this so much.

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

I gave up too😌 This is exactly what I’m talking about. Been going through this since a child. And it happens especially with MGMs bc we don’t have a parent that’s not partially Black so we are thrown in and quickly out of Blackness constantly. Happy this resonates with you✨💗

[@Dentsun4228]

people actually tell youj youj're not black enough?

[@RD-ub1jj]

@@Dentsun4228 all the time believe it or not, especially in conversations around things that affect the black community. I’m not black enough to have an opinion apparently lol.

[@EfeAikpokhio]

I hate people with this mentality. Trying to erase the original black image of black people. You are not black you are multiracial. Claim the other race. Leave black people alone. Stop targeting us because you see us as the weaker race and easier to manipulate. Claim the other races.

[@Lilithslittlehelper]

It's exhausting to be around those types of people, yet for some reason they want us to feel as if other groups won't accept us. Smh

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

It’s so tired🥱

[@wiltdwxtch]

Other groups of ppl have accepted me more than blacks so it’s def a lie

[@21a_monty]

@@LoverGirlsAnonymousI’m glad you gave it back to her in that moment and didn’t let it slide

[@davids9350]

@@wiltdwxtch No offense, but why does acceptance and approval matter to you? Do you accept and approve of yourself?

[@Music45387]

@@davids9350 Because it’s *human nature* to want to be accepted into a group of other humans. Just like you came into this thread to give your backhanded reply to her finding acceptance outside of the black community. 🤣

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Omg I screamed when you said her mentality was old and moldy 😂

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

Lmaooo🤣🤣 It was thooo

[@wiltdwxtch]

this is real for me. i started dating a white guy and we’ve been together for a little over a year, my family basically lit me up for this and told me I was a sellout and made comments abt how “dark” my skin is and I should be ashamed of myself for being with him. I’ve been called Oreo and whitewashed all my life and I’m honestly over it, then they felt the need to “remind” me that non BP hate me and will never accept me. When non BP have been the most accepting of me and have actually compared their hair texture and certain facial features to mine before. It honestly feels like jealousy on their end, they’re projecting

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@wiltdwxtch that’s terrible. I’m sorry you’ve experienced that. This sounds like exactly what you said it was- projecting and jealousy that you’ve decided to live a multicultural life and not just stay in the black “community”.

[@LXCD-t9p]

I also have experienced being called Oreo, wannabe white etc It became a constant criticism from black people so much that most of my friends are white. Some of my family harassed me for having so many white friends but when I hang around them they don't sit there and tease and harass me. So I am more comfortable with them than black people who tend to tease and bully me..I don't care anymore because I have dealt with this all my life and I refuse to hang around mean hateful people just because we're the same race

[@Dentsun4228]

@@wiltdwxtch why are you dating a white guy though? I mean given the state of race relations in America it's a good question. And your family knows you, perhaps better than you know yourself, so maybe there's something to what they say.

[@divinebeaute]

@@Dentsun4228probably because said white guy is an individual and so is she? them being in an interracial relationship doesn’t automatically mean there is something wrong with their dynamic. two individuals from different races can be in a loving healthy relationship, even in america. also saying her family knows her more than herself so there’s automatically some truth to what they said is crazy. you don’t know her or her family. stop rage-baiting and invalidating her story when her family clearly has very little regard for her multicultural identity and they’re just as ignorant as you.

[@Dentsun4228]

@@divinebeaute yes, it is entirely possible for people of different races to fall in love w each other. no question about that. that said, its valid to ask "why a white guy?" there's men of aa, asian, hispanic, arab, african, caribbean origins all over america. the only guy she could find just happens to be white? especially when you consider the power dynamics of race in america, there should always be some question about what is the true basis of the attraction. and if i were you, i would never dismiss the family as "ignorant." the family is the unit that raised her. they love her. they know her far better than you and me. if they have concerns about the relationship, they have a right and responsiblity to express their concerns. if i were the white guy, i would never want to be in a relationship with a bw whose family didnt accept me. those relationships are doomed to an ugly death.

[@TimXMan1000]

People can be so ignorant and prejudice it’s a shame. People are people and every shade, race and ethnicity is beautiful.

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@TimXMan1000 it surprises me every time I encounter it. Like, “oh. This again😑”

[@ritasmith972]

I am so glad that I found your channel because I always felt that I was the only person experiencing this. It feels good to that I'm not alone.

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

Yes! Welcome to the channel.

[@ritasmith972]

That 300-pound woman can't take anything from anyone.

[@himerune]

I’m so happy for your new job ♡ Hope city life is treating you well. Resonated a lot with your story!

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

Thank you!!💕

[@jasmineali5699]

Congrats on the big girl job!!

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@jasmineali5699 Ty 😆💅🏼

[@InfatuationFaze]

This topic was deep and very nice hearing your feelings and perspective. Some people are just mean and hateful. It does show that they need to let go of old ideas. It’s so nice that those who get it, do not feed into the negativity. Culturally, the community has a lot of work to do. But people like the woman at the party will just have to be left behind.

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@InfatuationFaze thanks for listening! Yes, it’s a dated mentality and I hope it gradually phases out.

[@ExoticalHoney]

Thank you so much for speaking on this topic! 💛

[@chrismurray9483]

This is soo true. I’ve experience this all my life

[@telljoyce388]

These kind of people irk me

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@telljoyce388 it’s so lame 😒

[@dwanacoulter604]

This is definitely a thing DSW created and it’s sad. We just need to ignore them and their jealousy and insecurities that they try to project onto us. Let them sit in there misery we don’t owe them ANYTHING and we don’t need their acceptance

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@dwanacoulter604 definitely do not need their acceptance💅🏼✨

[@Dentsun4228]

i am not a woman. but i think this whole "dsw are jealous of lsw" is really overstated at least in america. there's a lot of competition among women and its on complexion, looks, hair etc. for example, my ls aunt told me that when she was teen, she was jealous of my ds aunt who happened to be more petite with a nicer shape. the ds aunt was envious because guys seemed to be attracted to the ls aunt's complexion. but those attitudes should change over time with maturity and education. for example, my 33 yo sister is a dsw and she has friends of all complexions. i have know bw all my life and they have ds and ls friends, but they still have competition and envy based on different attributes.

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@Dentsun4228 yes the thing is, once women decenter males’ opinions and attention, women as a whole will be better off.

[@Dentsun4228]

@@LoverGirlsAnonymous well, i wish you women luck decentering men from your lives. i hope you know it means men will respond by decentering women as well.

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@Dentsun4228 We don’t want you centered on us. We want you centered on your mental health, emotional intelligence, integrity and ya money. Then come see about us💅🏼

[@mschoy1597]

STORY OF MY LIFE!!!!!

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@mschoy1597 listen…😮‍💨

[@cynthiapickett8577]

Accurate.

[@jermainelindo6944]

ok 👌

[@Music45387]

🤣 I watched Cooley High and was not impressed!

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@Music45387 ikr. I was like 🥱😂

[@Dentsun4228]

it was groundbreaking for its time. a black version of american graffittti which was a huge coming-of-age movie. these days with so much black media it would not stand out.

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@Dentsun4228 I can appreciate that perspective on it.

[@Music45387]

@@Dentsun4228 🤣 That’s your opinion and in my opinion, there’s nothing groundbreaking about a bunch of teens skipping school and trying to have sex- no matter what demographic the teens are.

[@Dentsun4228]

@@Music45387 no there's nothing groundbreaking about teenagers being irresponsible. However the fact that this movie was made in 1970s about a group of black teenagers during a transformative period in their lives was groundbreaking, just as the movie American graffiti was considered groundbreaking for depicting white teenagers in the same stage of life. No movie before had ever examined the black experience in this way.

[@supwhatsupdudes]

Oof, been there.

[@jermainelindo6944]

yea

[@RicoMyers-f6n]

Mix race people are not black they different Race real black people are dark skin and jet black

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@RicoMyers-f6n do you hear anything in the video? 🎤…is this thing on?

[@RicoMyers-f6n]

@@LoverGirlsAnonymous I'm telling you about genes and science your not black your mix race you not dark skin ok forget the video 😈👹 is not important

[@msrenee7023]

These women are Biracial not black at all as a matter of fact they look more European

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

Some are biracial. Some are multi-generationally mixed. Some are light skinned. Some are darker skinned and mixed. It would make a lot more sense if you watched the video.

[@TexanforHarrisWalz]

Biracial is Black. Half Black but it’s still a part of them and they can certainly claim their Blackness. They grew up with Black parent, Black aunties, Black cousins, grandparents…

[@LoverGirlsAnonymous]

@@TexanforHarrisWalz yes thank you. the above comment you’re responding to is just another example of people trying to define us as multiracial/ light skinned/ exotical people. It’s like she comes here and gives us a prime example of what I’m saying happens to us. It’s played out sis. Stop it.

[@NanaSaga]

@@TexanforHarrisWalzthe sale can be said the other way. they also ouvre with non black parent ….We black people font have direct non-black parents .. 😊

[@NanaSaga]

@@LoverGirlsAnonymousthe girl us doing the same with black people……