You're Not The Boss of Me!

It's time to reframe defiance. When our kids don't listen to us or are being "defiant" by doing the complete opposite of what we've asked them to do, it's important to remember that they are still good kids. They are good kids who need firm and loving boundaries, connection, and to feel a little powerful on occasion. This week, Dr. Becky chats with a mom struggling with her son's "defiant" behavior and who's looking for a way to reconnect and repair with him.
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[@kristinmann2445]

Thank you! I so needed to hear this one. I’m in the EXACT same boat with my 4 year old boy! This was so helpful.

[@backhill36000]

This one was extra helpful, thank you!!

[@sillylilhippiechick]

Dr. Becky, thank you ❤ You have truly changed my heart. You have helped me understand that I AM Good Inside. ❤ I am not alone with these struggles. Your information and connections are Life Changing. I will be forever grateful to you for opening my eyes and my heart and helping me change. Your channel is greater than Gold. I discovered you from Mel Robbins page when you did a podcast with her. Literally a week ago my heart was broken. I felt like a monster of a mother. I felt stuck. Doomed. Unchangeable. I felt like a failure and I had given up on how to make thing's better for myself and my family. After listening to some of your podcasts my heart is Literally smiling. Because I feel hope now. I AM Good Inside and my family CAN change,, heal and be better. Thank you Dr. Becky forever, thank you. ❤❤ Thank you for the hope and for the tools! 💪

[@irinamesserschmidt4671]

❤This is simply AMAZING! literally THE ONE episode for everyone! Boundaries are so tricky, especially for people pleaser. This episode is just a HUGE step forward! Thank YOU soooo much, Dr. Becky!!! I totally appreciate your work! ❤

[@shawnabradshaw5452]

How do you do this with a DFK who may completely shut down (meltdown with "paralysis") with a boundary being set?