YOU WILL GET LONELY my struggles with loneliness and travel

[@KRodCollective]

Thanks for watching! Are any nervous about being lonely while traveling alone?

[@mancunianinlondon]

I travel solo a lot and have seen couples in restaurants who dont say a word to each other. No conversation at all. I see this often and wonder why they go on holidays together. It just appears senseless. The most awkward part of solo travel is dining alone in the evening. Sometines you do get stares, judgemental looks and comments. You have to harden up. See the world if you want to or you will merely sit there watching netflix forever and never live

[@KRodCollective]

This!!! I too feel like dinner alone in the evenings always has some sort of awkwardness to it. I agree with you, we have to live our lives regardless if you want to see the world. 💕

[@caipirinha_king1632]

As a man that’s divorced after 25 years of marriage and traveling with my wife and kids, I can totally relate. I can’t remember having a sad moment so low as when I first boarded a plane without my family… Thankfully I used to travel solo when I was single. It still bums me out seeing couples and families while I’m out. But I can’t say that I’ve ever been somewhere and haven’t had a great time talking to the locals and other travelers. Sometimes it’s not the destination and environment that draws me back for a return visit. It’s the people.

[@KRodCollective]

I imagine that first trip without your family was so difficult. Thank you for sharing this with us. 💕I totally agree, sometimes my love for certain destinations is because I love the people so much!

[@_NadiaT]

I really wanna solo travel and for me loneliness is definitely what makes me feel the most intimidated by solo travel. I'm generally content with my own company but loneliness definitely creeps in when I see others 'having a better time', and this can even happen at home too. For me, solo traveling feels like a HUGE jump out of my comfort zone, because I want to go somewhere where I feel like I have a chance at meeting solo travellers, and is culturally and linguistically more in my comfort zone (likely Europe - I speak English and French). But, Europe is so far lol and to make it worth my time and $$, I feel like I need to go for a least a month. Anyways...yes, I totally need to remember my 'why'; I love travel and it really helps me to understand and make sense of this world and my place in it. I'm also at a place where I want to grow and build my confidence, and I think solo travel will help with this. Thank you for this advice!

[@KRodCollective]

Hey Nadia! Thank you for watching! 😄 I totally understand this. We are in the same boat and you are certainly not alone in that. I will be doing just fine with my own company and content with whatever I'm doing, but the minute I look over and see someone else 'having a better time,' those feelings will instantly come to haunt me. LOL I hope you get a chance to try solo traveling, if you haven't already! If you do, please let me know what you think and how it was for you. And sometimes you never know. I have been on trips totally expecting to make friends and meet people and I meet NO ONE. But then I'll go on a different trip expecting to enjoy all my time by myself and end up meeting the best people. 💕

[@_NadiaT]

@@KRodCollective that’s so true! There really is only one way to find out how the trip will go, by actually going😅

[@sherunswithscissors]

Maybe try staying in a hostel - most have private rooms too - and then you can get together with other people, cook, explore etc. Lots of cheap or free tours from hostels. (And I’m 60 years old.)

[@kwesi-annbrown4276]

You hit the nail in the head for me? I've been wanting to solo travel but I know loneliness will cause me to feel depressed

[@Iamstaceek]

I think solo traveling will make most of us feel Lonely like you said but I also believe that there are some GREAT benefits traveling alone. One benefit is 1. You have to solely depend on God to be with you and to lead you. 2. You become more self aware of yourself and begin to trust yourself with the journey. You'll never truly know who you are and what you are capable of until you travel by yourself 3. You have the opportunity to meet new people and build relationships that may last a long time. 4. You have the opportunity to learn about different cities, states, countries or even cultures. And there are plenty of more benefits but trust the process.

[@KRodCollective]

Yes to all of this Stacee! I have met so many incredible people while traveling by myself and I try myself more now than ever before because of it too. So many great benefits! 💕

[@DD654-jx9kl]

I have felt before so lonely in different cities going by myself, but also going with people, and I have learned that being single and doing solo travel is something I won’t regret because for years I wanted to have the economic resources and the freedom of being single. I have so many friends who are unhappy with their relationships or even marriages. I know we have a life on social media, but also one who is really ours. Thanks for your video!

[@KRodCollective]

I couldn’t agree more. Thank you so much! And it’s true. I think we all can struggle with loneliness from time to time whether single or married. But I will never regret solo traveling. ❤️

[@morris5190]

Before coming out as gay, I traveled from Australia to Europe in my mid twenties, and remember the “lonely” feeling hitting me when I’d sit at a cafe people watching or walk into a bar on my own or sit in the park for a picnic. It took some adjusting to sit still and find some joy in solitude. The loneliness came and went in waves, but it’s definitely a skill to learn and as I get older I like finding people I travel well with to have at least one or two familiar faces. At home you know friends and family aren’t far, but being 20 hrs or more away from home is a different experience. Thanks for sharing your insights!

[@KRodCollective]

I love this! Thank you so much for sharing such a thoughtful comment. That’s the best way to describe it. It comes in waves and just like you, I’ve had to adjust and sometimes sit with those feelings as I knew solo traveling would never exit my life. And I still get a little lonely from time to time depending on the trip and where I am in my life. Thank you as well for sharing your experiences with us! ❤️

[@Momo-po5tn]

Thank you so much for this 💗💖💓❤️ I feel burnt out from flaky friends. Im a big believer now in not waiting for someone to choose me to go do things. Even small stuff like movies, out skating, see a show etc ive constantly have people flake on me. Im starting to get comforable doing things alone - going out to eat, watching a show, going for walks, driving a city over etc. Ive gotten comments that judge me negatively for doing it alone. My next goals are to travel to cities nearby (3hrs or less) and spending the whole day there or the weekend alone and seeing how I like it. Im wondering if documenting my time there will help with loneliness or entertainment while alone. Feels boring to drive to another city to eat and then just scroll social media or watch tv. So i think making short vlogs as my way of journaling is a more positive way to enjoy that time alone. I love this and so happy i found your channel. Thanks for being vunerable here and sharing because I needed to hear it! 🙏🏾

[@KRodCollective]

Hiiii!!! Aww thank yoU! Ugh, yes! The flakiness is something I will never understand. 🙄Never mind the people who want to judge you and say negative things! I have gotten the same and I love that you are not letting other people hold you back from enjoying and doing the things that you want to do and experience. Sometimes ppl will always have something negative to say. GOOD FOR YOU! Yes! Documenting it sounds like such a great idea. Mini travel vlogs! So fun!! Sometimes when I'm driving by myself to a different city, I love to play a good podcast or I'll make a great playlist before I go. Happy and safe travels to you! You got this! 🤗💕

[@Rockerlady]

I totally relate when you mentioned flaky friends ruining plans! I had this problem in the past but now am willing to go to local events solo. As far as travel goes, I admire people who can travel solo. I have not gotten to that point yet because I find the airport process overwhelming. Last month, I went on a great trip to Northern Europe. I went with a relative and tour group.

[@MsKia0302]

Glad you made the point of experiencing loneliness while traveling with others. I’ve experienced this and am really interested in solo travel. Thank you for this video! ❤️

[@KRodCollective]

Yes! It can strike with or without people. Happy and safe travels. Thank you for watching! 💕

[@patriciamata7292]

I am an introvert and I have a bit of social anxiety, and at the same time I love travelling, so I travel most of my life solo. It can definetly be very challenging at times to put myself our of my comfort zone, but its also so liberating and enriching. You learn so much and grow so much! You learn to overcome so many of your fears aswell.. And loneliness is definetly something that will come with solo travelling, but as you say in your video - its perfectly ok to feel lonely! Thanks for the video. You are a very good communicator!

[@KRodCollective]

Aww thank you! I love this! It's so true: you learn so much and you also grow in the process. Cheers to you for continuing to put yourself out there and challenge yourself. Sometimes even when we're surrounded by people, we can still feel lonely. But it's what we do with that loneliness that matters. Much love to you! Thank you for sharing this with us! ❣️

[@43grantct]

The first time is hard. But once you do it you feel like you can accomplish anything. I loved this video, #FACTS on all levels. PS I also had someone tell me that I shouldn't travel alone, its wrong and not safe. You can't let someone else's fear influence your dreams and goals.

[@KRodCollective]

YES!! I couldn't agree with this more! Starting is always the hardest part, but once you do it once and get the hang of it, it truly feels like you can do anything. And yes to other people's influence. People always think they know what's best for you because they are basing it off of their experiences but don't let anyone influence your dreams! Love it! 💕

[@maryly09]

I so want to do it, but I'm so terrified too, especially about safety.

[@KRodCollective]

I totally understand. Take your time with it and maybe start small. You got this! Please let me know if I can help in any way. 💕

[@deejo1823]

My fear is having enough money. With lots of money I'm good. So much time will be wasted having to consider your travel mate desires and respecting their time. Alone, you can control what you want to see and when. Even the best of friends will be fighting before the trip is over.

[@KRodCollective]

Yes!! This is such a good point! I’ve def had issues with traveling with other ppl who like to spend a loooot of money and I’m like “uhhh…I ain’t got it.” I love my friends, but I can’t travel with all of them, that’s for sure. Traveling alone def gives you more control! Love that Dee. Thank you for sharing! 💕

[@marinaabdullah3245]

I love traveling solo. I went to Florence for a month solo last February. And you're absolutely right. Remembering why I did it made all the difference. I went to certain restaurants often and got to know the people there and that made a big difference in my food experience and my service! Thank you for your informative and enjoyable videos. Lots of things to help me on my next solo trip to Madrid in March 2023❤️✈️🧳 🇪🇸 🍷🎶

[@KRodCollective]

Hi Marina!! Ugh, isn't Florence so gorgeous! I just know you had a great time there! Thank you for sharing. You're going to love Madrid!!!! It's one of my favorites! I love it there so much! Have the best time ever! Lots of love! Happy travels! 💕

[@qwerty31888]

ty for the video, i can relate to it a lot, i remember when i moved to ny just by myself, it was super scary. i had no friends, no family, no plans, English as a 3d language which i haven't practiced much and not even support from my family. here i am 3 years later, having the best experiences of my life and yes i still get lonely, but its so worth it. now im trying to get out of my comfort zone and travel, i am terrified and anxious again of being alone but i will do it =)

[@KRodCollective]

I LOVE THIS!! Thank you so much for sharing! You can do hard things. If you can move to NY by yourself with English as your 3rd language, you can do a whole lot more! Good luck to you! You can do it!! 💕

[@qwerty31888]

@@KRodCollective thank you! Just came back from dc solo trip, and I LOVED IT! you helped me with your videos(took some tips), got me inspired 🥰 thanks again!

[@garyrobinson8665]

I solo travel. Mainly to Porto Portugal. I've been over 12 times over the years. I sure get lonely sometimes I nearly came home a week early one time because I really missed my dog but I got over it. I've made a few friends there over the years so im no longer completely alone and I do meet new people everytime i go.

[@KRodCollective]

I love Porto! How wonderful! Yes, it’s so beautiful when you meet new people and continue to connect with them over the years. I totally understand where you’re coming from. Thank you for sharing! 💕

[@phxminnie]

I understand completely! I am heading to Istanbul again in September for 3 months. This will be my 7th solo trip to Turkey. During past trips, I remember being been hit with bouts of loneliness and having momentary pity parties! Lots of "woe is me!" moments. LOL But thank goodness I was able to move on past it because I would remember my grandfather telling me as a kid to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps", in other words, reminding me that I will get past it. I have made great friends in Istanbul, so I know they are only a phone call away if I need to talk to someone or visit. And I have a family at home, just a text message or video chat away. Totally agree, it's ok to feel lonely. And I have cried, too! So glad I found your videos just before my upcoming trip!

[@KRodCollective]

Hi Bonnie! Thank you for watching! I'm so glad you understand the struggle! haha It's so nice to know that we are not alone in our struggles and that other people have battled with what we have struggled with too. I totally feel you on the "woe is me" moments. I try not to stay in those moments too long as well, but I too have had so many of them. Good luck on your upcoming trip to Istanbul. I hope you enjoy time with your friends and community there! 💕

[@KissyRock]

Thank you for this video! You inspired me with your honesty and determination of moving to Spain back then. You followed your own voice instead of other's and it turned out great. I did some experiments for myself like working in Spain for a few weeks and later on had a solo vacation there. Next week I step it up and go 3 weeks to Thailand. Sometimes I wish I could experience some cool moments live with a friend and that's when the loneliness comes up. Overall I like the independency, the surprises that God might have in store and to 'feed' my spirit by escaping my comfort life once in a while. I just don't need to worry about what other people might think and trust my inner voice like you did :)

[@KRodCollective]

Hi Kirsten!! Aww thank you!! YAY!! How is Thailand! That's so exciting! I totally agree with you. Sometimes, I do something cool or interesting and would love to have had a friend there to experience it with me. YES! Love those surprises from God! Safe travels! 💕Thank you for watching!

[@KissyRock]

@@KRodCollective hii, thanx for your response. Tomorrow evening I fly back to Holland. I had a great time in Thailand, delicious food, kind locals and tourists, beautiful temples and nature. I had a good balance between doing things for myself and do something with people I've met at the hostels or in the public transport :)

[@thegamingrelish9272]

I find it really hard travelling solo. For me personally as I’m currently living in Australia I find it hard to make a core group of friends because everyone is moving around all the time so the friends you do make only last a couple of days or weeks. I only have 1 friend here in Melbourne and it’s difficult tbh. I feel like doing things on my own is boring and not exciting, plus I find most activities to do are made for at least two or more. The only solo activity I find is walking around the park or going to the movies. I feel like when I’m doing things it’s not because I want to do them but because I’m bored and don’t have anyone to spend time with so I end up just going for long walks. Hopefully it gets easier but who knows. My therapist told me that I’m lacking deep social connections which is true because I’m a people person

[@KRodCollective]

I relate to this so much more than you know. I totally get it. I've moved aroung a little bit and I've def had ups and downs with making friends and being in community at different times. And I understand where you're coming from in terms of not necessarily choosing to do things by yourself, but rather forced too. Although I love doing things alone and solo traveling, there are times where I'm like "Ehhh, I'm over this. I'd rather be with a friend." Have grace for yourself and know that you are NOT alone. I don't know exactly how to 'fix' this per say, but just wanted you to know that I have the same thoughts and struggle with this as well. 💕

[@emskeeeee]

Awesome video. I think being lonely can be so challenging but so strengthening! these are great thoughts 🤔 💭

[@KRodCollective]

Thank you Emily! I totally agree, it is strengthening indeed!

[@1Shawol416]

I have my first international solo trip booked for Jamaica. I’m not so much concerned about general loneliness, but as a Black woman I’m more concerned with racism/prejudice (which is why I picked a place full of Black people for my first trip) and feeling alone amongst other cultures. Would love if you could do a video about places that are safe/unsafe/uncomfortable for solo Black women in particular. For example I was looking at nice places in Florida…but then I wondered if I would be the only Black person in an expensive place in a red state and I just 😅

[@KRodCollective]

Hi there! Girl, I totally feel you. I get it and this is a very real and true concern. We have to think about these things and take this into consideration as Black women. I can make a video on this, thank you for that suggestion. 💕

[@1Shawol416]

@@KRodCollective Thank you for sharing your journey!

[@KRodCollective]

@@1Shawol416 Thank you for watching and being part of it! 🥰

[@OkThen2024]

Totally agree!

[@toonie2083]

I just want to say thank you so much for this video! I am currently 4 weeks into a solo trip in Europe and returned to a spot I had previously visited with family, and all the loneliness just hit me at once. The realisation of how different this trip is to previous trips and to what I expected. I still have 8 more weeks of travelling solo before I meet up with my partner so that also felt massively daunting. This video helped me so much more than I can explain so thank you x

[@KRodCollective]

Hi!! Aww, I'm so happy to hear this video was helpful. I hope you had an amazing trip. Yes, I too have returned to places that I once visited with friends or family and have felt similar. Safe travels to you! 💕

[@AHappy]

I recently just went on my first extended solo travel and had a lot of these feelings. Just binged a bunch of your videos. You got a new subbie here

[@KRodCollective]

Thank you for watching and subscribing!! Ugh, yes girl. Solo travel can be so fun and rewarding, but it can be tough sometimes too. At least we are not alone. 💕

[@Mari0931]

Loved this video sooo much, thank you for sharing! I'm planning my first international solo travel and it's scary!

[@KRodCollective]

I hear that Andy! It's gonna be great though! I hope you have the best time ever! You got this! 💕

[@CSR-z2m]

God bless you! Coming across your video/page was meant to be. This video is so inspiring and just what I needed. Thank you😊

[@KRodCollective]

This is the sweetest comment. Thank you for watching! Welcome to the community! You got this! God bless you too! Big hugs! 💕

[@eggface17]

This needs WAY more likes! 👍🏻

[@KRodCollective]

Aww you’re sweet. ❤️

[@sabrinanewberry8770]

Thank you for this. This was very encouraging. I will be taking my first solo cruise next month and i talkied myself in akd out of it so many times. I just closed my eyes and hit the payment button. As I tell others that I'm solo traveling, they tell me how bold and daring that is akd that they wished they could do that. When i hear that, it makes me feel like im really doing something 🙃 my family is so proud of me and giess what? I proud of myself. My husband is feeling some type of way, but he will be ok. We haven't traveled without each other in the 32 years that we've been together,so i understand where he is coming from. I will definitely have this video to replay when or if I feel lonely. Thanks again

[@KRodCollective]

Hi Sabrina! Love, love, love this! You should be so proud of yourself! I love this for you! I also want to do a solo cruise this year, so definitely let me know how yours goes! Oh yes, I can imagine your husband may have some mixed feelings especially if you have traveled together for 32 years. I love that too! 🤗You will have a great time! Cheering for you! 💕

[@breanchu]

Your voice is so relaxing

[@KRodCollective]

hahaha Aww thank you!! Also, thank you for watching! Un abrazo enorme! 💕

[@breanchu]

@@KRodCollective Un abrazo! I'll wait for more videos to come :)

[@KRodCollective]

@@breanchu Yes!!!

[@CookieCoCo_OG]

The biggest struggle…. Comparing myself to others. Good video.

[@KRodCollective]

Same here Tiffany! It’s difficult, but we are all on our own journeys! Thanks for watching! 💕

[@dvotii]

❤

[@KRodCollective]

😘😘😘

[@eigrontopediax]

This video earned you my like and subscribe.

[@KRodCollective]

Awww thank you! 🥰Thank you for watching! 💕

[@1THiggs]

I've recently moved and I've been planning to take some trips alone this year and your videos are helping me out alot with the anxiety and I am beginning to feel more prepared. Thank you 🥳

[@KRodCollective]

YAY!! I love that! Take all the time you need. Can't wait to see when and where you end up going. I'm so glad my videos could help. 💕

[@dariamarshininapianist9832]

My solo trip to Barcelona starts in two weeks and I am so exited! And I do have fear of feeling lonely. I solo travelled for several times and some of these trips were amazing and some of them really frustrating. I am very curious, how does it go this time. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings, these are very supportive!❤

[@KRodCollective]

Hi Daria! Have so much fun in Barcelona! Amazing city! For me, it hasn’t changed too much over time. I’ve definitely gotten more confident but still battle with loneliness from time to time. But it ebbs and flows. Safe travels to you! And thank you for watching! ❤️

[@Karli4Sure]

I’ve just watched several of your videos. And I have to say you are a very upbeat person who is enjoyable to listen to explain your topics. I love how you’re proud of heritage & how authentic you are. You’re very well spoken as well. Thanks 🙏 for you’re great information.

[@KRodCollective]

Thank you for watching, Karli! Thank you also for your kind words!! 💕

[@eggface17]

Wow! This is so good! 😊

[@KRodCollective]

Thank you!! And thank you for watching! 💕

[@Marie-vt2ic]

This video helps me it's amazing

[@KRodCollective]

I’m so glad Marie!! 💕Thank you for watching!!

[@bacaroo]

thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts! Loved it!

[@KRodCollective]

Thank YOU so much for watching! 💕

[@johnjonson9126]

You are Awesome

[@KRodCollective]

Thank you, John! YOU are awesome! 💕

[@cp3onmtv963]

This was a great video. Appreciated you sharing this. 👌🏾

[@KRodCollective]

Thank you! I’m glad you liked it. Thanks for watching! 💕

[@OMGCantPickaName]

Thank you for making this video.

[@KRodCollective]

Thank YOU for watching! 💕

[@OkThen2024]

What are your thoughts on dating apps? Sketchy? Or a good idea?

[@KRodCollective]

You mean when traveling right? Eh, I'm kind of in the middle on those. Use with caution is my advice. haha But I know some people who have had great experiences with them while traveling.

[@andym28]

Ironically its the opposite of loneliness. I'm not sure if it's bad to explain or not. Any philosophy grads can say.

[@KRodCollective]

Hi Andy! What’s the opposite of loneliness?

[@cassandradistin2521]

If you cannot enjoy your own company that's a problem.

[@KRodCollective]

Yeah, I see where you’re coming from. I think it’s nuanced though. 💕

[@herbalsagenergy3198]

💫❤️💫🌹🌹🌹

[@KRodCollective]

❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕

[@MsWindyCity312]

I needed this video!! Thank you for your vulnerability 🫶🏽

[@KRodCollective]

Aww I'm so glad! Thank you for watching! 💕