Young Men NEED Adventure! w/

[@pintswithaquinas]

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[@amyschlegel1180]

Matt, I love both Pints with Aquinas and your locals only stream. I especially love your interviews with George Farmer. Please bring him back on soon, or maybe both him and Michael Knowles. Besides hearing about Candace's conversion, possible topics for George and Michael could include "holy friendships throughout Catholic church history" and the Church's stance on the ethics of hunting for sport!

[@debbienowak5713]

My 23 year-old son is planning to drive by himself over 5,000 miles to Alaska in the wintertime. The mama bear in me says "that's reckless and dangerous and therefore you shouldn't do it." Then I listened to you all explaining why it's a GOOD thing he wants to do that. *sigh*

[@jamiemiller7106]

Alaska is a wonderful place for big adventures!! Raising kids up North is a dream!

[@perhael]

Sounds a bit like Into the Wild.

[@AJKPenguin]

Lucky him. I planned a big road trip in high school but never went on it.

[@blitzkreig4887]

Men need to push a little to identify their strengths and know their limits. Entrepreneur/Adventurer/Pioneer are roles that help you achieve this.

[@Anthny1]

Just make sure he's got a plan!

[@fake_name841]

I'm glad Matt said North Dakota. My best friend was 24, had just been fired from a job and had been cheated on by his girlfriend. He took a job as a baseball coach there that paid $3k a year and offered you a dorm. He took it and is no longer a coach there but met his wife out there. Was promoted 4 times at his first company and is now making 6 figures in at a new company. His debts are all paid off and he really became a man out there.

[@CatholicSamurai]

I love being a husband and a father, but I also recognize that once I was married my life slowed down and stabilized exponentially. Which is natural and good, but also means some of the “pipe dreams” that I could have accomplished and places I could have travelled to are no longer feasible. A man should always be at peace with his situation and have himself in hand without weight of regrets - a young single man is in his prime time to tackle the world and do anything and everything!

[@windsongshf]

Dennis Prager talks about how there are trade offs for any choice we make in life. If you had carried on pursuing your pipe dreams you'd pay the price of not marrying who you did and when you did. By choosing to marry, the price was giving up the pipe dreams you could no longer pursue because of responsibilities. The key is being aware of the price one pays and if you are willing to pay it. This has given me a sense of peace when making a life decision. I don't always know exactly how it's going to turn out in the end, but at least it was a conscience choice.

[@LoralyynB]

I hope you get to have some adventures some day with your sons! I think my husband could relate to you and I hope the same for him.

[@crossbearer6453]

“Doing everything and anything “ isn’t the best thing to aspire to do You should do great Godly things Living in a monastery can be one , pilgrimage to Rome,volunteering in a charity or hospital or orphanage , doing what you can to make the world a better place

[@crossbearer6453]

@truly blessed leasing women and children??? Explain that please

[@STSBP]

I’m with Thomas Aquinas on this one, ambition is the excess of magnanimity. Love is not ambitious and seeks not her own

[@jenniferbush41]

My boyfriend, who's 45 now, left his home in Nashville at 20 yrs old because he decided he wanted to go to CA. He didn't want to be famous or anything, he just wanted to see it. On his way, he drove through Phoenix. Got to CA, slept in his car for a bit. Decided that he didn't like CA but he really liked Phoenix when he was there, so he drove back to Phoenix & decided to live there for a few years. From there, he moved here to Jacksonville, FL & then to Atlanta. While he was living in Atlanta, he decided to travel. This was between about 26-32 yrs old. He's been to every state in the lower 48, plus Canada & Mexico. He definitely had adventures!

[@ep_med7822]

Ironically, I'm currently 28, I got married under a year ago and immediately moved 2,000 miles from home, and now I do what I call nomad/mercenary maxing. We still don't have kids yet unfortunately, so I'm about to take a potential six figure security contracting job at the border. Simultaneously I still run a nonprofit protecting chapels and parishes in the state I originated from. People develop differently. To the young men out there, take risks while you can. Develop skills. Network with people. Be willing to travel. Be willing to get uncomfortable. EDIT: Wife is pregnant with twins and I've been working on operation Lone Star for a cool minute. Life is interesting!

[@Dupstan]

Where were you at 26? Thats how I am currently and I feel stuck but comfortable.

[@ep_med7822]

@@Dupstan at 26 I was living with my parents working as a county EMT and security guard for scraps. I developed the nonprofit then and had been furiously pursuing new training and education opportunities. What kind of work are you doing or pursuing?

[@Dupstan]

@@ep_med7822 im working in state government, managing a state run minority outreach program pretty much. I like it but it doesnt pay very well

[@carlac33]

Yes! I remember hearing of research done that basically said that if you don't let your young boys take risks, as they grow older, they'll become either too scared and lacking in confidence to take any risk (even so much as asking for a raise) or rebel and take insane risks (sexual promiscuity, drug or alcohol abuse, violent activities, etc ). So parents and grandparents aren't doing their kids any favor by helicopter parenting.

[@IsraelCountryCube]

Yeah I wish there were more younger females who werent scared to ask whatever male they so choose to procreate and live a life with if they sccept then bam everyones good and evertjing better

[@kwasr1067]

I went into the military at 18 it has its drawbacks but I’m glad I did. It was an adventure I will never forget! The best part was it forced me out of my isolated small town shell I was in and, open my eyes to what was in the world!

[@tired_eyes49]

Thank you for posting this clip! I’m a young woman, freshly graduated from my undergraduate program and waiting a bit to do my two masters and a doctorate. Ive felt so absolutely stuck, without ambition, scared, etc. I’ve also always been in that boat of succeeding in school, and now that I’m out I feel blindsided and lost, partially due to mental and physical health issues, partially due to the conditioning of two decades of schooling, but also due to this lack of drive and an overthinking nature. Perhaps I do need to just go for it!

[@cashtache]

Hey I’m right there with ya :) I’m gonna go for it and so should you!

[@SL-es5kb]

If you are in early twenties the most important adventure you can pursue is getting married and having a child. Don’t believe the lies that it closes off possibility or precludes career. I had child after undergrad and went on to law school at 28 when she was five. Have practiced and also did a masters. Did this with an autoimmune disease. Honestly I wish I had had at least one more cause when I tried again in late thirties it didn’t happen. I’m 42 now and my daughter is going to university so plenty of decades ahead to accomplish anything I want.

[@tired_eyes49]

@@SL-es5kb I didn't include my romantic life in the comment because I didn't care to divulge such information, but I'm happy you commented with this. I have a boyfriend who is actually converting to Catholicism, and we plan to get married after he enters the Church (sadly not this Easter). Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me! It makes me feel more certain that not jumping straight into master's programs is the right thing for me at this time. My mentor waited 8 years between undergrad and master's. I pray you and your family are well!

[@IsraelCountryCube]

I don't think the advice given to young men could apply to a young woman. For a female really the only adventure you need is to get married. That would be good for me to control my lust and to simply give it to my wife. And if I do that then I could build a wall of china.

[@Jonathan-co6eh]

I am having a crisis in my life right now and all of sudden this video makes sense.

[@ArleneAdkinsZell]

Wonderful discussion! I wish every young person could hear it and would learn to take a risk while they are young enough to bounce back if they fall flat.

[@toddgruber5729]

This is awesome. There’s a lot of wisdom in this. Young guys, definitely listen to this and pray about it.

[@georgekaftan2000]

Is it wrong to want the only the simple pleasures in life? All I want is to get married and have a family in my hometown. To provide for them and protect them and help all of us get to heaven. That's my life's goal. I'll do anything I need to do to get there. Do I need to swing any harder?

[@fragwagon]

One of my main reasons in writing an old fashioned boy's adventure story. I feel they've been a bit neglected and put down!

[@andrewklan8371]

Which book?

[@bikecameraaction3334]

Fellas, you imagine that risk is only for young people with no family/kids, but there is nothing better than a family pursuing risks together, whether moving overseas, starting a new life somewhere...etc

[@Dupstan]

Man im 26 and have been in a relatively low paying stable government job for the last three years since i graduated college. Ive always had a calling to go elsewhere as Im still based in my home state, 2 hours from my family. Ive been yearning for more but chalked it up to being egoistic and not being grateful for what I have now. Idk what I want to do with my life but i have this feeling in my heart to move somewhere else, like a bigger city where theres more iobs and opportunity but im hesitant as it would make visitng my family less frequent and easy. Not sure what to do

[@raulrovelo5544]

Move! Your family will always be there for you, but you might be called to start your own family, and you have to think about your future with them, as hard as it may seem now that you're not there yet. You will do well!

[@Dupstan]

@@homewithtea yes i have good relationship with them. Thing is that I dont want to move back there because for economic reasons. I have an affordable place here that I can afford with my salary. Thats actually another hurdle. If i move elsewhere ill be making more but paying more for rent and expenses as well

[@brendawg8002]

I could listen to these guys talk all day long.

[@stephankwapis]

Taking risks when I was younger always paid off. The crazy thing is I’m now more successful than I’ve ever been, my business is thriving, wife and kids are doing great, and I’m more terrified now than I was back then sleeping in my car trying to get to this point.

[@mikeindiacharliehotelalpha2373]

Disagree. If you have grand aspirations and nothing to loose, go ahead and give it a shot. But if you're comfortable making steady progress where you're at there's really no reason to do something crazy just for the sake of it. Most young men in the middle ages never even left their village and they turned out just fine. #medievalgrindset

[@TruePT]

Thanks for posting this clip!

[@JMPStart]

Problem for me is I don't even know what I want to do, and more importantly I'm not entirely sure what God wants me to do either

[@martinrivera6770]

I was in your position at some point, and in some ways I still sometimes feel like “idk truly what is my God-given purpose”… then it hit me. God only asks us to know him, love him, and serve him. And to do what you’re supposed to be doing just this very moment, with whole heart and intention. Idk if that makes sense.. but I recommend first to develop a strong spiritual habit of prayer (the Rosary daily is a must), and receiving the sacraments frequently (Eucharist and confessions especially) because that’s where Graces come from. Everything else will fall into place in God’s divine timing. Another small piece of advice I heard that really stuck with me: I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage, “when one door closes another one opens”.. well, sometimes doors are closed, but not locked shut, and it’s up to you to turn the knob, open it, and see for yourself what’s inside. Sometimes that’s God’s way to let you discover your charisms and take risks on your own, as these gentlemen suggest in the clip. God will lock shut the doors he doesn’t want you to open, and he will sometimes open doors wide open for you, but most times I reckon God simply leaves the door unlocked. Just go open a few doors and see what’s it all about! God bless you.

[@laljohnkhuptong2110]

Should I convert to Catholicism?

[@SteampunkCrusader]

We have bacon

[@elijah33smith]

Yes

[@gethimrock]

Yes. Keep watching pints and read some ed Feser and Aquinas and start praying and your life will change

[@shlamallama6433]

Ask friends of yours that are serious Catholics and get in contact with them. If you're open to it, start praying the rosary.

[@laljohnkhuptong2110]

@@gethimrock give me suggestions to read, step by step guide for complete comprehension.

[@JamesSchlosser507]

It took your sound guy at the end saying, "like the video" for me to actually like it.

[@terryrodbourn2793]

As a young Man I joined the Army to pay off my Student Loans after I graduated college in Marketing and became a satellite communicator repairer and travel to thirty different countries tries installing equipment in far places that's why I only did six years, I was tied of traveling all over the World!

[@Bradley_Stein]

I took a bit of a similar route. I graduated from Oregon State University with a degree in Electrical and Computer Engineering a couple years ago. When I graduated, I had four offers: one with a small power systems company in Eugene, another with Intel in a Portland suburb with the same team where I had an internship before, a third in Boise with Micron, and a fourth in Madison to do healthcare IT with Epic. I was not trained for IT and the only time I had been to Wisconsin was the couple days where they flew me out to see the campus. I ended up accepting that job anyway for a few reasons. One: I wanted to get out of Oregon, two: I knew that if I didn’t take that job, I would have had the most “what ifs”, and three: I also knew that even if I ended up hating it, I wasn’t going to regret it because then I would know for sure how I felt about it. Nine months into that job, I quit because it wasn’t for me. Two weeks after I quit, I accepted an electrical engineering job in (funnily enough since it was mentioned in this video) North Dakota. I went on a wild ride to get here, but I’m glad I went on it!

[@georgeluke6382]

Take risks if you’re young. But do so near a solid church, and with the intention to risk with your eyes open to wisdom. Proverbs, a chapter a day, basically gets at this balance here- we need the fear of the Lord, in the context of God’s people, manifest in being slow to speak, quick to hear, slow to anger, lust-killing, marriage-seeking and dilligent in working to become skillful in righteousness and in something, showing off your skills in such a way that your local magistrate and community, and eventually a worthy woman you choose to wed, manifests your pursuit of the wise and good life.

[@michaellarson3697]

Very helpful conversation to have in today's day and age. Thanks!

[@Caritasaveritas]

In a cloud of stogies - four brave, vigilant Catholic men talk sense.

[@shepherdessinthefray]

I had a thought recently that there are Stupid/Reckless decisions that are toward the Good. (And then of course there are stupid/reckless decisions aimed toward the Evil) What we might call “Stupidity” or “Recklessness,” isn’t inherently bad. Something we need to remember as a society on the whole.

[@collegepennsylvania837]

"If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world.” - CS Lewis Key To Eternal Life: kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4vHp2CKqc6Aock

[@basscharenborg6441]

Me: *reeds title* Also me: 'Can't afford it...'😞

[@Southernromanist]

What is the name of the episode on Locals?

[@madz9158]

I haven’t watched the video yet but the title says it all!!! ❤

[@EMarieGallery]

I love collaborations with my favorite channels I feel like Cupid, like I found y’all first…even though I didn’t. My truth.

[@Multipurpose_Bagel]

Excellent video! I know I'm far from the only one in the crisis boat, but I can see myself needing something different. I began my twenties well enough, even though I didn't have any idea of what I wanted to do or become. I went to school, did missionary work, worked several jobs, learned more about myself, etc. I have a lot to be thankful for and look back on in a positive way, and have narrowed in on some goals I want, but I didn't have anyone telling me to go out and try things. I'm almost 30 now, I have had goals and projects slip by or fail - attempts, but no lasting successes - I still live at home, I work but am not challenged and have no well-paying career, I have not been on big adventures or risks in many years, and no wife or children. The only extremes I hear are people saying "it's too late for me and I should give up trying", or "Just get out there and do it", but neither are a guiding hand reaching for help when you are down wrestling with the "why bother trying" question. I need something different, but not reckless. I need direction and vocation, but not out of fear.

[@EarlSoC]

Ideal blunt rotation.

[@12gardensbyj.verzino5]

Young men and women need to go on true mission trips! Like the missions done by the Omnes Gentes Project. Several levels of preaching the Gospel in countries where they hardly know Jesus Christ. Countries like Africa, Ecuadorian jungle , Amazonas , Laos and the North Pole.

[@Neb-ie5mj]

One thing I'm torn on this topic is how familes have gotten so spread out over the years. I'm not sure if a boy moving 1000 miles away is good for the family structure. I guess I am just used to seeing an old woman living by herself, and all her kids are at least a state away. This is not how families were until recent history, I realize that we have had innovations in transportation that have made this possible. That being said, the question remains, is it healthy to move far away from your family? I welcome any discussion on this.

[@IG88AAA]

It is not only a recent phenomenon. People have been moving for millennia. Warriors, nomads, pioneers and others have left behind family to plot new lands. Now we have the technology to stay connected better than the past. People that moved to the other side of the planet can now see their family daily, as opposed to a couple hundred years ago a person could expect to never see their family again.

[@Neb-ie5mj]

@@IG88AAA I'm not sure what the best way forward is, but in my opinion nothing beats in person structure. Now that doesn't have to only come from family but also community. I just would think it would be harder for a family to have 10 kids on their own, instead of having parents, aunts, uncles, and cousins to help out once in awhile. God Bless!

[@curtisl2000]

a 1st grader trying to mock an adult or sound like a intellectual would be infinitely more convincing than matt.

[@loganr.purchase7574]

At 6:52 does anyone else hear a whisper?

[@maritzamendoza4317]

Four great catholic men 🎉

[@adventureinallthings]

I think the panel miss this,a lot of young men have always been motivated to attract women by becoming ...more but todays dating scene means womens nature of hypergamy and the new tech of dating app lead them to chase only the top 20% of guys and the average guy does not get the same look in he did 20 years ago.I'm an older guy myself and I can see how modern dating is staked against the average younger Joe in a way is always wasn't in the past. Both matt's would tell you to go out and make something of yourself ( and you still should because none of us know the future ) but that even if all men did that, they would still just raise the average and the top 20% will still be the guys getting the girls. It's not working for most women either in the longer term but they figure that out too late as far as I can tell. I feel you son ! But don't give , up, you will be better placed if you try and as I said nobody knows how things pan out in the end, and besides you will feel better about it having tried even if you don't succeed 👍

[@Ezekiel_the_roach]

The problem with modern Christian manliness is that ambition gets mistaken for pride. Even for faithful Catholic men, you may be at the age where your expectations may not be the same as those of your parents. Your probably going to make them upset going after what you wanna do, but the alternative is having regrets.

[@Krig313]

I would say older men do too.

[@eoman69]

Liquidate your assets and invest in scratch offs

[@ZombieHouseFresnoCA]

you got off twitter for this?

[@hawktondog]

The cast is pretty disconnected from young men's issues but I can tell they care.

[@tvhead7074]

A big problem is alot of young guys don’t have girlfriends these days. The truth is most motivation for us guys stems from wanting to be with a woman. But if women no longer want to settle for average guys (and are instead going after the top 20% guys who don’t actually want them long term cause they have better options), those average guys will never better themselves.

[@SirHargreeves]

True. Male motivation is heavily based on wife and family. Our communist enemies want us without God, without love of country and without a family. Demoralised and dejected.

[@adventureinallthings]

I think the panel miss this, I'm an older guy myself and I can see how modern dating is staked against the average Joe in a way is always wasn't in the past. Both matt's would tell you to go out and make something of yourself ( and you still should because none of us know the future ) but that even if all men did that, they would still just raise the average and the top 20% will still be the guys getting the girls. It's not working for most women either in the longer term but they figure that out too late as far as I can tell. I feel you son ! But don't give , up, you will be better placed if you try and as I said nobody knows how things pan out in the end, and besides you will feel better about it having tried even if you don't succeed 👍

[@carlcproductions]

Precisely why I play video games