Young Women, Narcissism and the Selfie Phenomenon | Mary McGill | TEDxGalway

[@TheHealthConscounist]

Instagram is a way for narcissism to be socially acceptable. No matter what gender you are

[@JadedJade_]

Reginald King look at most “rappers” get real dude... it’s everyone.

[@blackmarketarmy]

@Dharmadasa its still both genders, even if you believe it is primarily girls. Just because this woman and many feminists don't want to take accountability doesn't mean we stoop to that level.

[@blackmarketarmy]

@Dharmadasa I'm just saying just because she doesn't want to take accountability doesn't mean I will neglect the fact that men act narcisistically on social media too

[@R49_Complete]

@@blackmarketarmy Please dont. Selfie narcissism is hands down primarily a female problem. Yes, you have men engaging in it to but nowhere NEAR at the nauseating levels that women do. If you think it's "both genders" because you see men here and there with selfie sticks and making fools of themselves at he gym - you're clearly not really that deep into social media enough to see how selfie culture is damn near a mental illness at this point with women. I'm a frequent business traveler and I can tell you it's worldwide and 99% of the selfie narcissism I see that really borders on some sort of mental disease is from women.

[@f2004-d8q]

mainly women, u bigot

[@navonmyhand7999]

Lowkey feel like I just wasted my time because "jk it's just all men's fault" could have summed this up pretty well.

[@RenaudDemaret]

Yes this discourse begin be very tiring.

[@Imactuallynighthawk]

Glad I read the comments first 😂

[@mustangjack06]

Love how she spent this entire video making excuses for the behavior vs trying to answer real questions about it.

[@R49_Complete]

The issue is that selfie narcissism is one of the few problems in today's society that's hands down a female problem and has very little to with men or can be twisted into being "men's fault" - so naturally she has to tapdance around making women accountable for it.

[@fasttrackblastback8286]

All girls think they're 10s and they're told to believe it

[@soldatheero]

People need to stop using the term narcissism when what they really should be saying is vanity. Narcissists do not have to be vain and narcissism is more about dominate personalities that manipulate other people and cannot processes self criticism, they bring down other people's confidence and hearts and they can never admit to their own faults.. Narcissism is way more complex than just some girls taking selfies because they are overly obsessed with their own image.

[@andersjohandalbylarsen1559]

IT is true that to classify someone as narcissistic means what you states above. However there is also a more general social term narcissism, that has more to do with a great vulnerability in our minds today and not about taking pictures of your self or simply being self-obsessed.

[@sweethartia]

Johan Kallan very true

[@Exsugarbabe1]

Agreed, vainity is totally harmless and a massive source of pleasure for people, narcissists are incredibly harmful.

[@malvavisco10]

*dominant

[@Atman81]

soldatheero True, but how would you classify the Kardashians? Narcissistic, vain, manipulative, influential & selfiegurus.

[@MrMisdemeanor1]

I thought this video would speak of living in the moment free from selfies or how the girls at the baseball game should interact with each other instead of taking selfies or how excessive selfies are not healthy for anyone. It is really in defense of girls who love to take selfies.

[@jasonr8834]

You joking? You think for a second a woman would lead a single soul to believe their greatest source of attention may possess even an ounce of negative reprocussions? Ah man... When pigs fly.

[@Imactuallynighthawk]

Guess we’re the idiots for thinking a Ted talk would have some nuance. This is the first one of these I’ve watched in years and I was instantly reminded why I don’t watch these videos 🤣

[@oddfitnesstimbrennan560]

I suppose the selfie 🤳 phenomenon is healthy and should continue into decades to come hurray for digital portraits of Girls

[@Ariovistus50]

This is why I always read comments first. Thanks for saving me some time.

[@maharanapratap370]

Stop 'liking' female pics on social media.

[@Krizzee]

Impossible there's always some thirsty guy

[@tomwright2554]

Guys should stop thirsting on women and getting offended by every movement for equality possible and then women wouldn't feel a need to post so many particular kinds of typical type selfies.

[@RisXXX]

THis theoris is one big LOL Women are making selfies because they are deprivileged in society? Women making selfies is evidence how far we are from equality. This one big joke, not science. This girl calls herself "researcher" LOL

[@summertime1875]

Maharana Pratap Absolutely. .They haven't earned it and it gives them a sense of power and position over others, thus feeding narsasatic traits..MGTOW 👍

[@fatherleo4603]

It's usually women liking other women's pics. Then they go and talk about them behind their backs 😂😂😂

[@InsightsAbroad]

I don't really see how anyone can justify taking daily photos of oneself. I was always taught vanity was shallow. What if men were posting selfies on the scale that women do? We would be pounced upon as vain narcissistic losers. The double standard cracks me up

[@kk-zo5wp]

Men do take selfies and quiet often. I'm shocked to be sitting by a guy in public and he's taking a picture of himself and noticing multiple pictures of himself on his phone. I've seen it way too often. And, check there profiles. Shirtless pics or pics with them holding a gun or smoking a blunt.

[@MZB80]

they do, though - they're just not vilified for it as women are.

[@InsightsAbroad]

They do? I guess I am lucky not to have any friends like this. The occasional selfie is ok, but if you are posting several each day OR even in a week, you might wanna see a therapist

[@Bradmhj]

Marta Browne beauty decays over the years. They think their beauty will last forever. But when I look at a girl and then her mother I can only think how short it will be. Rather than being selfless they’re selfish and build the whole basis of life around their looks and are left with little to nothing. Selflessness, love, and wisdom is true beauty but few ppl in our culture seek it, at least before looks and self confirmation from others

[@Cagon415]

@@kk-zo5wp trying to say something without saying it. Clever.

[@Ajitsingh-gc4sn]

I never thought selfie was a 'gender' issue until she made it.That sense of self pity is pathetic.

[@tarekadam9652]

TedX presentations are the academic equivalent of selfies.

[@RenaudDemaret]

Haha it's true good point, but on more interesting. Same as comments for us :)

[@oddfitnesstimbrennan560]

Hahaha

[@mulisaurus]

Lol good explanation

[@SuperBartles]

What gets me is the slightly patronising, dumbed-down way they all talk to us.

[@deeperinsider2544]

like, not at all 😂

[@WorldEagleKW]

The problem I have with these feminists is that I never hear them complaining about the lack of equal representation in occupations like brick layers or street sweepers. However they pick the top of the social-economical hierarchy, where a very small percent of men mainly occupy, and demand equality of outcome. They ignore the fact that the majority of the human beings that are at the bottom are men. Their behavior and so-called “research” on feminism is dividing men and women. This is very vicious. Men and women have always struggled and worked together in the tough past. Can we just love each other?

[@garethphillips6048]

WorldEagleKW It’s not vicious. It’s called female nature. Don’t take it too personally. They treat other Women with the same contempt. Women don’t even like / trust other women. That tells you everything you need to know.

[@RamKumar-yi6wn]

@@garethphillips6048 Damn , you've got no filter mate 🤣

[@akj7]

Exactly! They also go "The top x of something (good) is dominated by men, so why is the society so sexist towards women?" But forget that the bottom y of the same thing is dominated by men too.

[@Lakenbeer]

We'll always be the last ones off a sinking ship. Our bodies are cannonfodder.

[@409raul]

Wait, what is her point exactly?? Is she trying to justify selfies & narcissim?? I'm confused

[@Alayne89]

I think her point is that it is a complex phenomenon and more study is needed. Many aspects of our daily lives are overly simplified, particularly when it relates to new technology or younger generations, and is dismissed by mass media as something either immoral or worthless. This talk was a bit of an intro into what she is studying.

[@beepersify]

You think taking selfies equals narcissism?

[@XTheOneCat]

@@beepersify I think it may mean it. may

[@carolinetheta]

I think she is just saying that women's relationship to their own image is one that has been shaped by patriarchy. It is hard to separate our own sense of value from our appearance because we are socialized to believe, through advertising and mass media in particular, that our appearance says everything about our cultural value. Vicious cycle and as ELana says above, complex.

[@jyazman]

Yep she needs more funding as its difficult and time consuming to find a way to blame men and the patriarchy for anything negative that may come outta this......

[@TheImprov]

Two questions: 1. Why do some women wear heels when they know it hurts and uncomfortable to walk in? 2. Why do some women do not wear jackets when going out for night life when its cold out?

[@blackmarketarmy]

according to this woman the answer would be that its because of the patriarchy rendering women incapable of agency

[@spartan2111]

@@blackmarketarmy hahahaha,you get the point john :P

[@TimmyTues]

Right, being obsessed with getting more value reinforcement through social media is men's fault...Not the narcissists. It's called personal accountability. Try some.

[@wavybump]

You first

[@MariaSantos-uo3pb]

Tim Moschini ok boomer

[@stanzakpa971]

John Something 😂😂 right!? SMH

[@logandennis1601]

lol

[@marieferguson2442]

@MALVINDINHO true I am older generation kids were kids then playing outside playing games outside all day long rain snow sleet what happened kids got older and for rest of life they have happy memories of childhood

[@forgednotcast612]

Folks always say they value their privacy but then post themselves and family all over social media. Hypocrisy at its highest

[@profoundobserver2533]

they take selfies to feed their addiction to likes on social media.

[@kateybernal2295]

Profound Observer it’s all attention based ...she didn’t discuss that tho

[@jasonr8834]

Women are addicted to attention

[@kateybernal2295]

Profound Observer them likes just prove they don’t like themselves in my opinion. What happens when they get old r if they push out a couple babies n it’s hard to get that youthful body back. I wonder what will happen then. Trust me I can’t wait to find out! The dr Phil phone will be RINGING!!! Lol

[@AuroraNin]

@@jasonr8834 People are addicted to attention. And some people aren't.

[@kritische3959]

Glenna Smith TRUE XD

[@yeboscrebo4451]

I'd like to have a girl who is engaged with something other than her reflection. The girl I want forgets herself and serves others. The girl I'm searching for doesn't spend hours crafting a fictional online persona. She doesn't compare herself to others because she doesn't need to - she's already happy as she is. I don't want anything to do with the kind of women this lady describes. I want a woman who would be a good mother.

[@monikazimovaart]

I wish you could incarnate as a woman and had the chance to try doing exactly what you said and be a perfectly example for others 😗

[@armandohenriquez2103]

They don't exist

[@constantincatalinpatrut7975]

@Glenna Smith tf

[@iamsofia3782]

You have a lot of wants. I hope you yourself have something to offer 😅

[@WildSorrel]

there is so much funny and ridiculous about your comment I dont even know where to start

[@roby1211]

That was one of the most uninformative talks I have ever heard on TED. No sources cited , no scientifically objectified data , no analysis of the ‘data’ and drawing on zero comparison eg male selfies. This was nothing short of pseudo science.

[@dianneb2224]

Roberto - it was uninformative and hard to understand as well. Not sure what her point was. Selfies are all about “me” and letting everyone else know how you’re having more fun than they are. That self centered behavior is actually unattractive for anyone - male or female and should not be encouraged in my opinion.

[@gladiammgtow4092]

What else would you expect from a female?

[@dianneb2224]

Coffee Drinker - I agree. Especially true in today’s culture.

[@tae912]

@@dianneb2224 LOL ok i had to check the comment section to confirm what i was thinking and good thing im not the only one thinking the same thing.

[@joebroers5227]

sure you don’t mean ‘kool-ade’ Drinker? ~he’ll rip your lungs out Jim ~

[@你好オレンジ]

Women take selfies to be more known in their social clique. Socialization is very important to women, people's perception of them is based on how they look. This is why a lot of women wear makeup daily and wear uncomfortable high heels. Just look at the big instagram stars, they didn't become famous until they got plastic surgery to get "hot". People like Kim Kardashian and Iggy Azaelia wouldn't be known today, had they not gotten cosmetic surgery. They would just be another average woman. Being adored fills a gap in most people lives if they grew up very insecure.

[@starstone7]

You just described a woman's addiction to feeding her own narcissism. Girls are raised to be spoiled, they grow up into adulthood to go out in the world to try to further feed that spoiled upbringing.

[@你好オレンジ]

starstone7 Narcissism is more of about personality and perception. Narcissists are not insecure, but most women are.

[@starstone7]

你好オレンジ Narcissism is about much more than that, narcissism means extreme love of self or the over glorification of self esteem (which means self ego), the act of elevating self esteem is narcissism, and it is wrong for people, who are not the source of existence, to elevate self esteem. Narcissists get insecure when they don't get to elevate self esteem, it is one of the reasons why they abuse people, thus this is why feminazis abuse people (mostly men).

[@БэмбиКанди]

Narcissism is a diagnosed disease. Psychopathy is also another diagnose. These conditions are terrible for both society and the person. Real Narcissists actually damage themselves with self destructive behavior as well as some psychopaths who really end up with life in jail for some dungeon full of bodies. They really are not in the same mindset as the celebrities and actresses. The CEO of Lockheed Martin is probably 400x more Narcissist than Beyonce and 10000000x more pervasive than the entire adult industry of porn actresses. Lets. Be. Real...!

[@thatguy22441]

It's in our pain that we find our values and in our values that we find our pain. Our unhappiness comes from the disparity between they way we'd like things to be and the way things actually are. The average Western woman grows up getting her values from Disney princesses and romcoms. Once they find out that reality is nothing like what they saw on TV they get bitter.

[@melissalynn7777]

im convinced there is no benefit in social media, i invite a debate

[@JMigUK]

You just won the debate

[@jasonr8834]

Correct. That's why I haven't had any social media for about 4 years now aside from KZbin (purely for entertainment, never post anything besides comments).

[@mrtoad1408]

Birthday reminders

[@val_valentine003]

Only one i can think of is that people can post and promote their business and brands to get money.

[@ViktorVZ-ro]

@@val_valentine003 I saw this TED about some millionaire guy deleting his social medias saying, if someone wants you, they'll find you (to hire you). And I thought about it... Now when you need to search for a number to order a pizza or find a lawyer, do you use social medias or search engines like Google ?

[@theperfectbeing]

I love how she completely circumvents all accountability for young women, as if they don't have their own agency (particularly those in their 20s).

[@oygevaltanuddashoah4644]

Muh patreearkie dude haven't you heard? I swear the hamster in her brain is about to fly off the wheel

[@metalheadjake3339]

Everything is our fault. We are men. Everything is apprently our fault.

[@chiko98]

They still somehow found a way to blame men... Smh

[@Mr89siR]

Like clockwork.its always the patriarchy and societal pressure.

[@smendes2004]

Men value female beauty, don't they??

[@jasonr8834]

@@smendes2004 Women value men's looks no? You don't see men taking nearly as many selfies or looking for attention on social media nearly as much. Not to mention, I haven't seen any men holding a gun to a woman's head to take selfies, nor overlook them for not taking them. I know it's hard because you're a woman, buy try just for a second not to blame men for all your problems, and you may get a tad closer to actually solving them.

[@badland153]

@@jasonr8834 lol exactly!

[@mrtoad1408]

@@smendes2004 There is no true value in something that isn't earned. Most women aren't actually as attractive as they seem as they know about angles, lighting, filters and makeup. They do it for cheap attention and then wonder why they end up feeling empty.

[@raysmyth8596]

After a very short period of listening to this article I realised that it was going to just as facile and vacuous as the young women taking the "selfies" in the hosts initial images.If only women could get over themselves and become aware of the wider world, they could enrich their lives greatly!

[@FranciscoGonzalez-ic7fr]

sumary: it's a man's fault.

[@logandennis1601]

LOL

[@springrollwang4441]

Gender study, always leads to man's fault.

[@aprild.9992]

It's not men's fault, this is getting old.

[@smendes2004]

Men value female beauty, don't they?

[@jasonr8834]

@@smendes2004 I'm going to reply to this regurgitated comment in a different way because no matter how you cut it, this is a poor excuse. Men value good cooks too and a nice massages after work, you don't see women jumping at the opportunity to do these things or not scream opression when it's requested.

[@conradangel8602]

Its neither a gender nor a generational issue. We have over the last 40 years almost totally abandoned good spiritual values and replaced them with a shallow delusion of materialism

[@Enrij]

Sooo let me get this straight. Man bad, woman good?

[@BroTheDude]

Women will go do things they have no interest in just for the instagram pics

[@zoridacasting5661]

men too

[@dakotatrue12]

Zorida Casting no they don’t.

[@BelleDeJour224]

BroTheDude this is true

[@kyoki86]

Facts that's why women love traveling now because they can just take pictures to post on Instagram to show people they have a better life than you.

[@jaybrick8973]

@@kyoki86 everyone does that

[@susanspice2994]

I'm not enjoying the fact she's applying modern terms to a post modern era. Since the 1980s, (according to most sociologists) we have a lot more choice. If a man or woman wants to post a selfie they will, if they don't want to they won't. I think they're conscious enough to know there are other things to photograph and put on social media if they want to

[@f2004-d8q]

useless gender.

[@troygardner1610]

This misses the rise of clinical narcissists sociopathic who lack empathy from being raised by likely chain of narcissistic parents. All children are narcissistic by nature, and upbringing to adult, they are supposed to gain empathy as a contributing member of society/family units. This sadly doesn't happen as often as it should be.

[@sherrym5556]

True!! Kids are definitely narcissistic.

[@jstone5239]

A woman making excuses for women’s behaviour, I’ve never seen that before...

[@uberlephrad8218]

Never have I ever...

[@scottalbers2518]

Since when does citing a philosopher PROVE the philosophy?

[@vincentlaw1415]

Since a university degree became a faste of money

[@tobiokanlawon1562]

The philosophy had been proved ages ago

[@PonShaul]

She cites Judith Butler, which means that for her gobbledygook can be used as evidence and proof is a social construct that can be tweaked in whatever way it fits the narrative

[@brokenvanityboston]

People think “oh this argument has a premise and I understand the conclusion of the premise therefore it’s right!” When really the whole point of philosophy is to debate the PREMISES !!

[@DaveNagrom]

I believe society has created this problem, of vanity and entitlement. We have told our children that they are great, and wonderful just the way they are. Of course, this is not true in the real world. Greatness is defined by what you do. It is not inherent. You may have been endowed by your creator with all the tools to be virtuous and accomplished, to make a positive contribution to society. Whether your character and conduct are consistent with virtue, has everything to do with how you choose to behave. What we ought to be telling our children, is that we love them, and that they have the potential to be virtuous and accomplished, if they choose to. We should encourage them to do so. We may always love them, and by love them, I mean, do what is in their best interest. However, whether or not we respect and admire them, is the result of their behaviour. Everyone may deserve to be treated with courtesy, and not mistreated. However, respect is earned, and rewards must be achieved. When we encourage our children to cultivate their character, and value a work ethic as the means to achieving their goals, we give them the tools for self-respect and self-worth.

[@diamondunicorn2421]

Before social media selfies never existed. We never had the technology to produce photos so easily. ...social media has brought on the excessive narcissism and selfie revolution. Not just women but men. Everyone wants approval. Approval they never received as young adults or children. It has open a whole new world in my open of exposed underlying issues.

[@TheHealthConscounist]

Men aren't more narcissistic than women when it comes to selfies, nor they are at the same level, that's BS

[@noway2434]

You are b.s.

[@PP-yx4rv]

the difference between an object and a subject is that a subject can act on its own, while any action experienced by the object is initiated by a subject. Yet, feminism are portraying the story of men objectifying women as the problem, while the proposed solutions always has to do with everything but the women in question. The irony here is that this solution, in it self is the problem, in effect its treating women as objects that need an external force to take action. If you dont want to be objectified, then stop "acting" like an object, and start acting like a subject.

[@mkaur6998]

That's very thought provoking. However don't you feel that 'objectification' is actually taught subconsciously at a very young age? At an age when little girls and boys are too young to control their own perception of 'object' vs 'subject'. Isn't that the real reason why we feel the responsibility to be carefull about gender narratives because we re looking out for how it affects younger people and children, when their identities are still being formed.I don't feel feminism is a 'problem' just because it points out the objectification as an issue. It could be that people have a hard time understanding just how this 'objectification' effects people. And that is exactly what the speaker is saying - that we need to look at society to understand this type of narcissisms root process.

[@Cagon415]

Why are women's issues handled with context and care, while men's issues just get labeled as toxic and forgotten about?

[@reubenjensen1007]

Only women are reduced to their appearance? Umm, lady, set up a male profile on Tinder and give it a whirl.

[@jasonr8834]

That would require her to take some form of accountability and reflect on her own actions. Then she wouldn't be able to blame men for all her problems anymore. Never gonna happen.

[@RaquelSantos-hj1mq]

Young women are obsessed with their beauty because of the primal drive for procreation-the continuation of our species. Men are attracted to beautiful women. Men are very visual. Watch a beautiful young woman walk into a room of men. Narcissism is present in both men and women. But it manifests in different ways.

[@vash2929]

No not all of us care how a woman looks i see beautiful woman all the time and i ignore them. I dont care what they look like cause about 95% of them are stuck on themselves gold diggers so ignore them and keep it moving

[@RenaudDemaret]

@@vash2929 You see them, so you don't ignore them, you was gotcha by their apparence ;)

[@tharun960]

These all seem like problems of unintelligent people or the average person..? What intelligent person with a purpose filled life takes their selfies, narcissism and social media too far..? People that are making this world a genuinely better place and contributing a lot probably don't do all this stuff or get too self absorbed..? If people paid attention to the world and the suffering of those around them from people to animals then there isn't the time and you wouldn't be inclined to be so self absorbed? The intelligent guys/girls I know who also have their lives/minds together aren't too busy with this sort of stuff.. Only dumb people I know are doing attention seeking shit..?

[@xxdexterlicious]

this is so true! I dont want to judge people, but every person I know whos very active on social media are the dumbest people I've met in my life.

[@uberlephrad8218]

@MALVINDINHO what

[@dorotatrzaska1742]

YOUNG and with low self-esteem

[@gloriav3v3v35]

JohnnyMavers okay maybe intelligent people may be self absorbed…so let’s change it to ✨wise✨ people…I doubt if someone was truly wise they wouldn’t need to prove themselves or try to be the best so yeah…wise People.

[@yaze3316]

intelligence is the ability to learn something, like when a concept has been realized, intelligence allows us progress that understanding. Intellectual is the ability to create theorys and ideas, epiphanies, through our own cognitive thought processing. you first need the concept to be made aware there is a problem before you you can solve it.

[@gehbaden12]

Pity. It's an important issue - yet her talk is full of fallacies and inconsistencies - just doesn't stand up to scrutiny. Sorry, Mary McGill. Better luck next time :)

[@sbeast64]

I'm not saying it's men's fault...but it's men's fault.

[@AZrakoon]

The problem in itself is not men's fault......some men gave these narcissistic women this power....at the same time corporations make some women feel insecure about their looks to profit from their insecurity.....as a consequence social media made some women go overboard...with shallow men giving them that power....and crossed the line into narcissism.....so there is no one to blame entirely

[@juliaperri6528]

I don’t know anything this girl just said but look I’m just gonna be honest, when I take a selfie it’s to get someone’s attention that’s it lol

[@jasonr8834]

We know

[@mrtoad1408]

Appreciate your honesty and I'm actually interested can I ask who's attention? As in do you care if it's strangers or people you know?

[@tonyturner3287]

Smh

[@iamsofia3782]

At least you're honest 😄

[@sara-bethanderson6488]

Legit, this woman rambles to the affect of a slightly more well spoke Jordan Peterson. Hard to follow and not because it's deep. Normal person playing intellectual and lacking a central point.. I call fake deep.

[@philu3]

This comment is underrated.She was indeed rambling pointlessly. In the end, it came down to women being victims of the patriarchy, like always (or something like that).

[@profoundobserver2533]

or..... and just bare with me... or... there isn't any deeper thing... it's called being shallow. and they are taking selfies to compete with other women. there is nothing deeper going on....

[@sfort515]

Profound Observer I don’t think women taken selfies to compete with other women

[@garethphillips6048]

S Fort Of course they do. They are constantly in competition with other women?

[@krisbaum1974]

oh wow this woman is so great at speaking for extended lengths about almost nothing.

[@budoboy]

agreed

[@krisbaum1974]

@Kaira Allen nowhere did I mention lack of refined speech structure.

[@thatguy5837]

Social media is slowly opening the eyes of society to the shallow and petty nature of women in general.

[@CL-zx6yy]

its mostly narcissism. stop reaching

[@gokhanj.yenigun7933]

So, once again, it is men's fault.

[@katyacastillo9001]

+Gokhan J. Yenigun if you look in the begning she explains that gender are pescribed roles by society, not just by men.

[@gokhanj.yenigun7933]

Nah, it is men's fault.

[@cuckingfunt9353]

It's always men's fault.

[@HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE]

Gokhan J. Yenigun lol 😂

[@HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE]

Dear Lord, I'm a wiman, and having the right to take a selfie without being judges is really not a way to show how awesome women are .. Selfies are stupid, unless you're having fun with another person or in a group, and keep to a few, and not everyday, and about everything. I find it SHUTTING when people post many selfies, and non of their children - not that I'm asking for daily pictures of their babies either...

[@atmosrepair]

"A society in order to stabilize and function has to curb men's tendency toward physical aggression and women's tendency toward vanity" - Stef Molyneux

[@filltofill]

so what sould we do? I did't get the point here..

[@springrollwang4441]

neuter all males.

[@FlightPolice]

Our society has a lot of flaws, most definitely. And I fear it will only get worse with the rise of virtual reality technology. The real reason behind this is that our brain has NOT evolved much in the last 100, 000 years. We are hard wired for simple tribal community life, not separatism and individualism as seen in the West. We can't cope with the rise of technology. That's why some radical changes should take place, and probably will in the 1000 years or so. Some of these changes will be a complete shift of values from materialistic to spiritual, and android technology that will aide our brain with filling the evolutionary gap we currently have.

[@tobyroyson9336]

she's reading too into it at the end of the day its just a bunch of materialistic shallow bimbo's trying to get attention. I never got this whole craze of doing selfies over and over and uploading them on social media. Its just vein and immature.

[@sfort515]

Toby Royson not true, read psychology journals and research, they back up her statements.

[@todoldtrafford]

It’s probably insecurity. Needing validation through likes and views for attention to prove self worth. Only insecure people worry about what others think of them. Secure people do not have a care in the world

[@yeboscrebo4451]

Mirror mirror on the wall who's the fairest one of all...

[@bobanderson3881]

Modern women are shallow and lost.

[@heyhoe168]

Are not we all lost?

[@KariMaxsoulreapergoddess]

*Says every man since the invention of the written language

[@sherrym5556]

Oh ok... WHAT DOES MODERN woman even mean to you? What an odd comment.

[@niallquinn9128]

The problem is corporate controlled culture and too much consumerism and commodification of people. Theres a lot of pressure to act as something immediately understandable and strong.

[@annjo1york994]

Few things are more vapid than selfies, but this talk may be one of them. As the saying goes, "There is no there there."

[@emgwin2028]

Either way, people who take selfies the way they do in this day and age are either emotionally unstable and insecure or self obsessed. Both types of people are toxic and carry baggage, so I won’t associate myself with people that have these traits.

[@quashky]

Again one of those who have misunderstood feminism... I have never ever met a selfie obsessed female who would be compassionate - all of them are so egoistic, it hurts.

[@sekidamail]

love how people like this talk about how we always hear only the male opinion of things then they go on to give you their opinion without once referring to a man thereby being guilty of the very thing they accuse us of...

[@BenjiPOTF]

Wow what a misleading title, way to clickbait

[@tomleykisfan7280]

I have worked around and closely with many women over my business career. A consistent comment that many women made was that they did not like working with or for other women and most preferred working for a man. Many women I have known have also stated that women are crazy. These comments were made without me asking or soliciting the comment. With that being said, I offer a quote from one of my favourite movies. In the movie, “As good as it gets”, Jack Nicholson, who plays a writer in the movie, is just leaving the publisher. The young female receptionist asks Nicholson a question. Receptionist: “How do you write women so well?” Nicholson: “I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.”

[@WildRemedies]

Yes! I love the idea of the selfie being a way for women to take control of their lives and their situations and show that they are a beautiful amazing wonderful people and share that with others and to know that within themselves is beautiful

[@jstone5239]

Raven Blakely Is taking photos of yourself at a baseball game showing the world how amazing you are?

[@bbllee26]

I don't think she excuses narcissism like so many people are commenting. More than once she states the dangers of narcissism. She does explain where women narcissism comes from though. I am annoyed by it like everybody else. But men do it too, in a different way, and seemingly in a way that doesn't bother society as much. How many men out there on social media posting every single day how many miles they ran, the number of pushups they did, shirtless pictures of themselves working out etc.? And they probably do so for similar reasons than women do. I think we all have a propensity to be narcissist, men and women. Just different forms.

[@SWIFTzTrigger]

Oompa loompa doompety doo I've got another puzzle for you Oompa loompa doompety dee If you are wise you'll listen to me Who do you blame when your self obsessed vain, superficial and on the phone like a pest Blaming society is a lie and a shame You know exactly who's to blame Your own lack of personality Oompa loompa doompety da If you're not vain then you will go far You will live in happiness too Like the Oompa Loompa Doompety do

[@keithmoriyama5421]

If women can do everything better than men, backwards and in high heels...THEN WHY DON'T THEY!

[@keepgoing7533]

Selfies are cancer. Thank you have a nice day.

[@robbylebotha]

I just plugged out when she said "Women taking selfies has been used as an effective form of activism" (paraphrasing), ironically this is thee most narcissistic logic I've heard. Lets keep in mind, this is all happening while men build and improve things, particularly cameras, smartphones, laying internet lines ect.

[@RisXXX]

THis theoris is one big LOL Women are making selfies because they are deprivileged in society? Women making selfies is evidence how far we are from equality. This one big joke, not science. This girl calls herself "researcher" LOL

[@terryzuniga2473]

**Can't take a good selfie** **Decides to investigate against selfies**

[@WeFlushedNemo]

I came for a valid point, not a bias

[@80sOGRE]

she could have talked for 3 more hours to try and hammer her point home. it wouldn't change the fact the selfie is just part of a generation too busy with toys and distractions to grow up.

[@noahmize9790]

That is one delusional lady right there. She couldn't just acknowledge that kids tend to believe they are the center of the universe?

[@jorgem.4467]

This video shows what we knew all along. Shes trying to justify the obsessive way women use sites just like instagram for attention, then feminists complain about men objectifying women on the internet. What a sick, twisted world we live in.

[@clintlovewinds522]

Lol narcissism is just femininity?? bahaha that's the funniest defensive speech on narcissism ever

[@adbarnett5]

this talk was a troll food

[@anthonyseymour1403]

This should be called Crap Talk not Ted Talk. But she is clever. She turned selfie taking into a virtue signalling feminist rant. Well done!

[@paulpena5040]

Lol, this woman actually says "it's never been easy on young women" as she shows the pic of the baseball game with sorority sisters all taking pictures of themselves. yes, that looks sooooo stressful. I wonder how their livers,hearts, kidneys can take it all. Having all these male followers because you think you're the only cute girl on earth. I just can't imagine the insurmountable stress this must cause.

[@mgtowarena9636]

If I understand her argument correctly, then one could use Jordan Peterson's statement(s): Equal opportunity vs equal outcome. Its detrimental if we force outcomes. He further discusses that as societies become more egalitarian we see more differences between men and women. Men interested in things, Women interested in people/ families etc. If women want the representation in politics then they need to work for it, because they have the opportunity for it.

[@digiscream]

Can't help feeling that if this was a term paper, it'd fail. Starting with a conclusion, not examining the validity (or relevance) or external sources, cherry-picking data points, and mostly assertions without reasoning to back them up. It also feels somewhat self-serving to hear somebody who's being paid to research the selfie obsession assert that we _really_ need research into the selfie obsession. I hope that the resulting research paper is more rigorous than this talk, if only for the sake of the folk funding it.

[@shavonjenkins67]

They take selfies for attention because they suffer low self esteem. It’s like looking into a mirror and waiting for feedback from someone other than themselves. I call the selfie stick the magic wand of narcissists and photoshop is its magic powder! Whenever a man clicks the like button, it strokes the Narcissistic woman’s ego deeper than anything else!

[@pigknickers2975]

AVOID: NOTHING TO SEE HERE.... FEMINISM POSING AS SCIENCE >>>>> MOVE ON

[@DobbysStinkySock]

pigknickers thank you for the heads up. She's probably a narcissist too :(

[@Speed-dw6qp]

Yes. Complete waste of time.

[@DRFESTERPUS69]

Thanks man, Was generally curious but i dont want to hear more feminism bullcrap.

[@ShadowViewsOnly]

Yeah... when she said that gender is a social construct... I opted out... She clearly has no idea about anything.

[@electrogather3384]

The selfie are just a phenomenon. If there are something that are more appropriate for woman's aesthetic and characteristics, selfies would no longer be irreplaceable, because the selfie is misunderstood by many people as narcissism, especially when it becomes tag of woman.

[@drcvagos-iu]

Narcissism is often seen as the fundamental attitude of all the women.. - Indeed this is well said.

[@jonjonah4288]

Is it not the fundamental attitude of all women though..? 😂

[@deramoklauferganger]

The biggest problem of feminism today is to prevent criticism of women's behavior.

[@ArizonaBaySwimming]

Delusional: the natural state of many women. INCLUDING THIS ONE

[@AlohaMichaelDaly]

I’m disappointed - she’s such a great woman, intelligent, (smart appearance by Ted standards), terrific communicator who never stumbled and soothes her audience quietly yet firmly - I find her research conclusions contradictory, weak and confusing.

[@bradleyjamison6404]

my mom didn't wear heels. single mother raised me... took me snake hunting in the creek, i guess because she didn't want me running around with a shotgun on my own. no comment, i guess... other than feminism isn't what most of y'all been led to believe.

[@iyakida2053]

Loving yourself is not bad..... But too much is another level...

[@htaedWhoKnew]

Its the simps fault

[@freddymarcel-marcum6831]

I can't understand what she's saying, all I hear is an enormous box of Kleenex blaming men for women taking selfies. Hey, try going out in public in the Middle East as a woman and try taking a selfie if Galway is so difficult. Please do.

[@kyrk2112]

What you do does not attract a man to procreate. What you look like does. As long as you continue to not take biology into account in your conversation, it will remain one sided and benefit the orphan cat population in this country.

[@togaturtle]

I feel like the only reason she thinks so highly of the selfie is because she's spent years studying it and doesn't want to just say that it's a convenient method of taking pictures

[@jimhendricks88]

She's just another feminist--I discovered this quickly into the video. Save yourself the few minutes. Cheers!

[@TheTruth24Seven]

accept they use the selfie to get a rich man.. who then funds the business ventures they are gunning for? countless examples of women and selfies who are out of control and unloyal, just as much as men. this lady is talking about the exception not the rule. she flooded her speech with all of these thought capturing moments to really allow you to soak in this bs hoping you feel it the way she does. i still dont, because its just not true

[@BabyLoveXs6]

This wasn’t even about narcissism. God bless our men. Now off to find what I was looking for.

[@juliaskagfjord6207]

Well, truth is looks fade, so I predict the young weomen will get over it. Hopefully they are actually enjoying their lives and not being obsessed with their appearance. I think life is a journey of finding self love, and being a loving person to others. Getting complimented on ones appearance builds a shallow confidence, but no more than that. The flawless looking-are just that. Nothing to be put on a pedestal! The true beauty is in ones character...anyone agree?!!

[@f2004-d8q]

take care of those old smelly pussies. they will be so alone.

[@akshitapradeep7115]

430 male chauvinists flocked to the video because of its title, expecting women to be criticized. Got disappointment when the speaker just objectively spoke about the 'selfie phenomenon'. And just to highlight, she is saying that the 'society' has coaxed women to care overtly about their looks. 'Society' consists men and women, and if you misheard it as 'men's' fault, it just shows your patriarchal view of the world where 'society' is represented by men alone.

[@Morrisopolous]

From experience, girls are more critical of other girls and their appearance. I think you'll find that most dress and portray a certain image to impress the scrutinising eye of the fellow gender. Men just look at the tits... ha

[@aleksisnaim5517]

Hahhaha so true

[@bethdarrow4489]

Thank you , Akshita!

[@bethdarrow4489]

The Faraj Movement , what is wrong with mentioning the male gaze?

[@stephelizabeth]

THANK YOU.

[@Lenci_the_Nugget]

Ah yes. We can all destroy the patriarchy by staring at our own selfies to feel seen. As a woman who has taken selfies, I find this talk patronizing.

[@renaeb105]

That's a lot of dislikes for a Ted Talk. Better luck next time Mary McGill.

[@chrisskalski7292]

The tech giants knew full well what this type of technology would do to women and men who consistently use it. Steve Job claimed he didn`t let his young children use ipads or iphones. It`s not healthy to be fixated on such superficial things like selfies and social media acceptance.

[@scaggly9239]

You tricked me. I thought you were going to highlight the effect of social media on women and their personalities. But you turned it into a defense of feminists.