Your Assumptions - Let's Get Personal (2019)

[@beckiejbrown]

Two things: 1) A huge thank you to my sister who helped make this video possible! 2) I answered 57 originally, with a draft of 34 minutes. I cut it down to something more consumable. I'll film another later in the year. x

[@Jonathan.mp4]

i would have preferred something as long as that i find your videos so calming

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

Thank you Becky and Becky's sister.💖

[@greensteve9307]

I'm glad you cut it down, I generally skip anyones' vids if they are over 20 min. Short attention span!! :P

[@annabelyates5219]

"I'm a shy, introverted mess!" - so relatable 😂

[@IcaDunn]

Tbh I think that people are interested in your sex life is because you have quite a different view about it than others

[@kaylapearl2332]

Your makeup looks really nice in this video! Also that blue is very flattering. You’re very wise and I like the twist you put on this instead of just saying yes and no like I have seen with some.

[@ToneBreistrand]

"I don't think anyone really knows what's going on" the most accurate description of Brexit

[@OlaStellaElla]

"I'm a shy introverted mess." GIRL, SAMEEE

[@beckiejbrown]

SENDING HUGS MY FELLOW INTROVERTER!

[@beckiejbrown]

I will respond to comments when I can, it's been an awfully busy day today

[@eviesharp17]

take your time lovely and you’re doing a wonderful job!

[@alyssamuppet]

I know you say you aren't funny but I do love your dry wit.

[@beckiejbrown]

See, I don't even know or understand what dry with is haha! :D. Thank you though! x

[@alyssamuppet]

@@beckiejbrown Your sarcasm. It always brings a smile to my face.

[@beckiejbrown]

@@alyssamuppet Fantastic. Wonderful... thanks...... *slow clap*. Joking, well... I'm trying to joke. I'm not good at jokes. Oh this comment is hard haha :D. Thank you for what you've said --Miss Dry wit! :D x

[@alyssamuppet]

@@beckiejbrown This might be the absolute best comment I have ever seen!

[@happycakes45]

Ashoom.

[@beckiejbrown]

YOUTOOOOB

[@pirategirl102]

Okay well your laugh is super cute even if it's an alien experience

[@miam1775]

The honesty and the cutting you always have put in, and are putting in to your perfectly produced and well outspoken videos, have always been very interesting for me. You often help me feel comfortet in difficult times. Thanks a lot for still being around!

[@surfvolume]

I hadn't really noticed that you don't laugh. You've always seemed quirky and different. But you smile and emote enough that it feels like your joking and that you're joyful. Maybe it's just a niche brand of comedy. Anyway, your videos are always pleasant to watch.

[@surfvolume]

*you're Just like the other one in the SAME SENTENCE! 😳

[@marcyjrtmom8139]

Becky I have spent most of my life worrying about what other people thought of me. When I reached my 60’s a light bulb suddenly went off. I thought... I am a child of God. He created me and if I am good enough for him, I am good enough for ANYBODY and anyone who thinks otherwise can take that up with God..not me! It was so freeing! Just do you. Let others think what they want. Try your hardest each day, be kind and grateful and let the haters hate.

[@watermelonwishes4193]

@Marcy Szulewski I can totally relate. I'm 52 going on 12 (lol) and I still struggle with this. I don't worry with everyone anymore but I do still worry to some extent.

[@m3tr0id86]

I just don't care about what people think, far less couldn't care less about what people assume about me. If people couldn't care less of whether I live or die, why do I need to care what people think. Most of the time people just keep trying to tell me what to do and yet they have provided nothing to truly help me.

[@teamilkandhoneys]

I wouldn't let it affect me but I do think it'd be interesting to know what kind of vibe I give off. Like, once I was told I appeared stuck-up. The reason? I always was dressed up (because it's what I find comfortable) and never spoke to anyone (social anxiety) perceptions can be intriguing. And... Way off. But yeah, generally not caring what people think if one can get to that point saves you from so much heartache and stress.

[@haileyavery3867]

I love your accent it’s so calming

[@flubberamoebes]

One reason I love watching your videos is because you are so very different from me in some ways and yet so similar in others. Your religious beliefs and your way of putting them into words, for instance, are fascinating to me! I don't generally have a very positive view on religion or religious people, in part because of the many loud voices speaking in the name of it that have caused so much harm, in part because my brain is wired in a hyper-rational way that views religion as nothing more than an evolutionarily stable strategy that self-perpetuates exceptionally well. The way you talk about it, however, humanizes it in a way that I think is incredibly important and that generates some much-needed compassion among people holding different beliefs. It isn't always easy seeing the positive sides of something when there are harmful ones as well, and I sincerely thank you for bringing those to light!

[@shesaysdisco]

Your eye makeup in this video is absolutely incredible. I couldn’t stop admiring it!

[@kozzab413]

anyone else love the fact she uses old videos! not just once or twice but loads of times! also did I read a tweet wrong or are you doing a sort of Christian talk thingy? if so I'm so interested in that! keep up the good work! been following your life since....years...XD he inspiration for me :)

[@piddlydiddly]

As someone who was once very anti-religion. I have come to LOVE your videos. I watched you for years before I saw a video you posted on Christianity. You have made me very open minded to religion, I no longer see it as some scary threat. All I see if love. Thank you.

[@joskusko]

Watching your videos makes me feel so nostalgic bc I think I became a subscriber of yours in like 2013?? and I used to be obsessed with youtube back then but I’ve been watching less and less videos for a while already so now that I’m here again, it brings back memories 🙈✨

[@Anoukvs91]

I love this video! I think you’ve grown so much in the last few years. I never really understood why happiness doesn’t come as natural to you as it does for most people, but I always respected you pushing through it and try to make the best of things even though you felt all those “negative” feelings. Its like this you can handle more than the you from a few years ago. I’m a high sensitive person as well and although we’re different, When watching your videos I feel like growing and changing right along with you. It makes me look at my own life sometimes. So Thank you ❤️

[@idaosbornfrandsen7162]

+++ I haven't watched for a few years but used to binge watch Becky. So happy that I remembered you and checked in. Thank you for you Becky.

[@moondogg55]

You have good, bad, and neutral qualities, but one of the most admirable things about you, is that you are the SAME PERSON you were, when I saw your first vlog (well, the 1st I saw -) Easter .. you were 14. Matured, improved, educated, well traveled and independent. But you have remained true to yourself. You have grown and seen both the good and bad within yourself and others. For me, you've been constant source insight and delight. I appreciate you and your vlog. Best wishes in all you do!

[@emmatessier600]

I like this conversation about assumptions people can make based off of you online presence, which is not the entirety of you. One of the things your 'persona' has made me assume is that you are too self-involved and self-assured. It's a perception that I got from only a few minutes of you talking (in a video where you happen to appear confident), but really you were just expressing yourself the best you could and trying to have some fun too. So I'm learning now to not take a perception like that too seriously.

[@luciab.2287]

I haven't watched your videos in a long time, but it's so lovely to see you. I always feel like your super relatable, and wise and working through your shit like everyone else. hope 2019 has been kind to u.

[@Mr_Right]

Your voice is so superpleasant, your videos can be used for ambient sound. Like the recordings of oceanwaves, forest sounds, birds and waterfalls.

[@AlbertEisbaer]

I think you handled this video exceptionally well! Thank you for making it 🙂

[@JennieMichelle96]

Your voice is so soothing Beckie... watching your videos really help me chill out! Hope you’re doing well!

[@MiguelThinks]

I love talking to people but I do find friendship hard, and I do prefer fewer but good friends. I love that you like deep conversations!

[@maddiechristine3966]

Hey Becky, I really enjoyed this video. I’ve been watching you since I was a wee high schooler! It’s really neat to see how you’ve changed and grown into the considerate and thoughtful person you are now (not that you weren’t those things before, It’s just that I was particularly struck with the reflective tone of this video). I get the feeling you’re not entirely at the place you want yourself to be emotionally and economically , but I just wanted to say I really admire you’re perspective and the graciousness with which you are handling life’s hard stops. I think you’re really admirable and someone worth looking up to :) anyway, I love your content and I hope good things are on the horizon for you!

[@rosiethreakallrosiefreckle5765]

I found this really comforting. Thank you Beckie

[@jasonmbray]

I can very much relate to people’s perception of truth based on what they see and do not know. Ten years ago, I was on an episode of MTV’s True Life, and when the episode aired, people would come up with certain perceptions based only what they see in what amounts to to at most around fifteen minutes of video. At one point I just got tired of certain types of comments and I replied to one and talked about the process that went into the episode and how they were trying to tell a certain story. I explained what actually happened, and just ended up getting a reply of “no, you are just lying.” And in my head I was just thinking “but I was THERE though.” And that can mess with your head. I am always glad to see you are able to talk about your experiences, and that you attempt to clear up misperceptions.

[@elliew2190]

Hey Beckie, in relation to the inspiration you've had on people's lives... I've been watching your videos for around 6 years now, and you're still one of the most interesting, clearly passionate people in my subscription box. Thanks for all the hard work you've put into KZbin, whether it be mental health awareness or just fun cooking videos! It really is wild how someone can have such an influence on you when you haven't even met them. xx

[@sashaalexandra8699]

I truly love this video. And it reminds me of your old videos; perhaps because of the snipits of the old ones. I love seeing you talk about your life, your perception of life, or a multitude of other things. I just feel like you really care, and truly to try understand what you like and what to know more about. And I’d love to meet have a overly deep conversation.

[@TannerandGus_2023]

"People want to know the ins and outs" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@beckiejbrown]

*Face palm*. I'm good at doing those puns without thinking... I'm not even trying to be funny haha!

[@greensteve9307]

@@beckiejbrown: I don't know if this will help (or if you already know it) but all the other female youtubers I follow -- Lucy Moon, Savannah Brown, Carrie Hope Fletcher, Dodie Clark , Emily Hart, Emma Blackery, Hannah Witton, Sabrina Cruz, to name a few -- also suffer from people who demand to know the intimate details of their sex lives. You are not alone in being subject to this creepy, unacceptable behaviour.

[@VicMorrowsGhost]

This was a very brave question to ask and a very video to talk about. Respect. I was also glad to see one of mine got answered. Also that "ins and outs" pun made me spit my frickn' tea" xD

[@felixskars3706]

Hey Beckie, I know it's random to post this on this video, but I just wanted to say I am so, so sorry about all the hate you get. Your eyes seem to hold a lot of sadness, but your smile is still beautiful. It reminds me of a friend of mine who seems to get the short stick from strangers too, with people always choosing to prey on her kindness. You are so very strong for continuing this battle and moving forward, and I wish you the very best.

[@izzypoyer3368]

I know u said u don’t laugh much but I’d like to say the clip u put in of u laughing was so sweet and innocent 😇

[@oliviairish3657]

You are giving me Taylor Swift vibes with your lipstick and hair color! 😂❤️

[@Torsee]

I've told her many a time, that she should pursue a career in modeling or voice. She speaks so eloquently! And that hair style is killer. But I'm just a keyboard warrior from the states. What do I know.

[@millypep]

That little laugh reaction you have is the most gorgeous noise 💕

[@nialapin]

I relate to so many things you said about yourself, your thoughts, and your experiences. I really appreciate you and your channel. ^^

[@representationmetaphorique]

I’ve been watching your content for around 6 years and your voice and gave have always been comforting.

[@lynsamfortas]

Tbh the bit that you help people much more. I told you this on instagram in the past but besides all the times you helped cheer me up or made me feel better when I was down, you also lead me into God and encouraged me for my own faith journey in a time I really really needed exactly that faith to get up from the deep deep pit of despair I had fallen into. So again, besides everything else, you've helped get me back up from probably the darkest period of my life. Thank you ❤️

[@amandas3511]

If it weren't for the fact that I don't believe you'd like it and I'm across an ocean, I wish I could give you a hug right now. I'm sorry for all the hate you deal with and I wish you knew how much love we all have for you and how wonderful you really are, flaws and all and how you inspire all of us. ❤❤

[@DodZz666]

I really appreciate your honesty

[@zoelor7923]

I really appreciate how you speak about growth and change of self. You've put a lot of what I feel into words I could never find. Thanks for being so open about it!

[@Juliassshh]

As an Italian viewer, I love how passionate you were about the 'don't cut spaghetti' thing😂 I really enjoyed this video by the way, it's so interesting to see what other people assume!

[@beckiejbrown]

Oh we are very passionate about spagetti in the Brown house, it's a constant argument here haha! :D

[@alenimelis4969]

Beckie Jane Brown Salve Amici[ it's Latin for Hello Friend ] [ I'm Sardinian by the way ] have a Great Day

[@matsutsuav]

i love that laugh and your facial expression when you tried the avocado it makes me smile

[@beckiejbrown]

I actually like it now, though it's good on toast or with lots of salt.... it took time to love it! :D

[@Lebofilms]

Like that one person said, I don't make assumptions about you, or at least try not to. However, since that is the theme of this video, I will make one now. I ASSUME you painted your nails to match the color of your sweater for this video :). If I'm wrong it was a happy coincidence as I liked that small aspect to the video.

[@bookishlybecca]

You spoke so eloquently in this, Beckie! I really enjoyed watching this video. I can definitely relate to a lot of what you spoke about. :)

[@nickclark6001]

Except for the "gotton" word, I was shocked Becky, your English has always been exemplorary . Have you noticed all the other Americanisms gradually infecting our language ? In 20 years our children will have American accents 😘

[@beckiejbrown]

@@nickclark6001 My accent has slipped badly this year. I'm not good at accents but my accent slips depending on who I am with. My accent is specific with family, it even Americanised when I spent time there in 2012, 2013 and 2016. Even this year, I worked with over 500 families in one of my jobs and by the end of my time there, my Essex accent was back. I'm working on removing it once more... though it's taking time. To lose my 't''s is a little upsetting to hear back, that an my vowels! There's nothing wrong with an Essex accent, but I don't like hearing my past within my present. I associate that twang in my voice with a Rebecca long gone! She has to go! :D. GOE? Gowe. x

[@nickclark6001]

@@beckiejbrown Thanks for your thoughts, I quite like an Essex Accent,but you are mainly queen's English,Thank goodness you don't say "like" every other word yet 😁 I love your hair,you are looking after it well, Take Care X🌷🌻🌾🌺🌹

[@beckiejbrown]

@@nickclark6001 I have a friend who talks like the Queen, it's so wonderful. She has a fantastic vocabluary too. It's like listenin to snow! :D. Oh don't get me started on the 'like'. OH BOY! :D. I do say 's'pose' and 'you know' alot though, not sure if that's an essexism! :D

[@surfvolume]

Beckie Jane Brown An accent video would be interesting if your trap memory could assemble all the examples of the changes it's gone through. -American here, dontcha know

[@SelanneFan8]

“I’m a shy, introverted mess” This shy introverted mess understands and does not judge. 👋🏼 fellow introverted mess!

[@beckiejbrown]

WHY HELLO THERE! :D

[@BrokenDarkFire]

I love the idea for this video! From my perspective of being a viewer, it seems like people do have a lot of assumptions about you. I've probably got a few myself that I'm not consciously aware of. This video sort of made me realize what assumptions I'd made about you that others had also made.

[@Lexiaaa2202]

I used to watch this channel years ago! Nice to see you’re still making videos!

[@kaityblackme]

I love your messy hair 😭❤️

[@VictoriaMorganawesometori]

Yes. There have been many people in my life who assume they understand my inner workings. Will TELL me who I am, and I hate it, because it shows how much they don't know me. And this usually comes from people who have spent a tiny amount of time with me.

[@AP-ek6by]

I loved this! In a way quite therapeutic (don't know if I have spelled that correctly) ❤

[@AliceBloodshucker]

Love how introspective you are, this is very therapeutic

[@aesyfreedom9655]

Also, a lot of this stuff, we have in common

[@katiebaker1924]

Beckie I love your videos your voice so soothing. Love your thrift art and empty’s videos. Please keep producing your videos. Your a ray of sunshine to my subscribe bell xx

[@Cellogrinder1]

It’s always nice to hear from you, Rebecca. Best of luck in all things.

[@littlemj90]

Thank you Rebecca for being so open and honest. Glad your back uploaded. I've been missing you. Xx

[@greensteve9307]

Don't give in to the pressure to share more than you want to. Your true followers will stick around to enjoy the parts of your life you share.

[@Kayokak]

I don't know if you ever have mixed emotions about having 10 years of your life cataloged on youtube (not everything obviously). It must be interesting though to be able to go back and see the previous you. Recalling who you were can be a lot different than actual hard evidence of it. The scientific aspect being that after 10 years all the cells that were "you" are no longer you. We also change mentally. Putting those together, is the past you the current you? You are the same person but essentially everything about you can be entirely different. It's a crazy thought train to go down.

[@Spitzbanane]

your laugh is lovely deal with it!

[@sareletje]

I actually found it incredibly hard to even come up with an assumption.. I don't really like assuming things about people at all. But it did make me think, and I'm always really interested by what people assume!

[@TheMissCorky]

No judgement, just love! Take care of yourself sweetie xx

[@oliviairish3657]

I love seeing your videos in my sub box!

[@rachelmcquade8910]

"Let's get personal" Why do I read that in my head to the tune of "Let's get physical"?

[@hanpiller]

Hey Beckie! 1) I LOVE that your making more videos! I’ve missed you! 2) it’s sweet/weird to see what people assume about you as I try my best not to assume things about you 3) FUCK THE RUDE PEOPLE! 4) You do you girl ❤️

[@lisalivet2795]

I hear you mentioning a boyfriend. Are you back together with James? Or has someone else stolen your heart? 😊 (or is it one of the precorded videos, in that case: sorry for asking)

[@beckiejbrown]

We are. Things are better now, but we're off social media compared to before. It's tricky trying to be private when someone is your life. So it slips in. xx

[@lisalivet2795]

@@beckiejbrown Im so happy for the two of you! But I absolutely understand that you want to keep it (more) private this time. Feel free to delete these comments if needs be.

[@Tszar2011]

I relate to a lot of the responses you gave in this video. I also am particularly sensitive, and struggle to relate to people. Sometimes I wonder if I lie somewhere on the spectrum, but that it wasn't picked up when I was younger. The only thing I hope for you is that you're working towards a life of happiness ❤ I assume that you will get there one day, just don't give up!

[@Tszar2011]

Also I wrote this comment without scrolling down to read the others. I hope you don't think I was trying to diagnose you, just notice the similarities and wonder about myself ❤

[@beckiejbrown]

@@Tszar2011 All good, all good! :D x

[@Tszar2011]

Beckie Jane Brown ❤ xxx

[@mlkirkl09]

Based on what I see, you are extremely smart and wise well beyond your 26 years and I think that is why you don't laugh very often, and that is OK. You are a very analytical thinker, even with your art. You have changed so much, and for the better. I believe all a person needs is a few very close friends. The ones you can go to in hard times, and who will listen.

[@SarahAlice]

I loved this video Beckie! I don't want to say I know you because I don't (unfortunately! I feel like you'd be a great person to be friends with) but I felt I got to know you a bit more through this video. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@WhiteEcoFreak]

I think Joe lycet says it best never assume you know what's going on in someone's life if you assume you make an ass out of u and me. Even tho it's about him arguing about a parking fine but I think this phrase should be taken everywhere in life

[@eviesharp17]

your makeup looks super lovely in this and you seem super wise! sending you love and light

[@millypep]

Yes! Her eye makeup in particular makes her eyes look huuuuuge

[@lsedge7280]

I'm so sorry that you've got some people so badly harassing you! You're the nicest person and I can't imagine why anyone would harass you out of all people!

[@raysacassanelli500]

Question. What are your love languages? ❤️❤️

[@holly_4132]

Beckie I think (this is just my opinion btw) people are fascinated by your, say, sex life or what you do with your friends because they are so used to having every bit of information about someones private life at their fingertips. And you seem to be someone who doesn't use the internet for every little thing. Which I do too and I appreciate that you don't feel the need to share almost everything. Plus your a very real person and I love that. Sorry this is so long, I tend to ramble...

[@tomatoesonstrings]

Hi Rebecca- I have a question, but am wary in asking it in public. Where could I ask something that is more private? hope this makes sense x

[@LiveFromTheAbyss]

Have you ever studied other religions? If so, What were they and what was your initial reaction to them?

[@WiWillemijn]

11:06 hahaha Btw people who cut spaghetti are the people I dont and will never understand

[@libbylilley4880]

One of the picky eater ones was me! No idea why I had this assumption🤣 love Becky, have watched you for years xx

[@beckiejbrown]

Hello there! :D Aww and thank you x

[@rebeccas7137]

Just wanted to say that I really appreciate your videos. Thank you Beckie 🙂💙 x

[@beckiejbrown]

Thank you :)

[@Charlieeeax]

Thank you Beckie I needed a video today❤

[@themonkeyonyourback]

You like the office. Your sense of humor is fine haha

[@nojerama788]

I absolutely adore that you are so passionate about spaghetti 💙

[@RehmanKhan4u]

I said that ungrateful bit and I'm sorry for hurting ur feelings.

[@beckiejbrown]

All good! I can understand why people may think it. And hey, I asked for assumptions - I wanted to hear. x

[@oliverhalewood3364]

Your awesome Becky and I love how honest you are. Your an inspiration And perfectly imperfect I hope you live a very healthy and happy life because your such a good egg!

[@xandranicholai7301]

It’s you’re not your

[@oliverhalewood3364]

I’m dyslexic but Thank you for telling me :)

[@bekah2917]

Throughout the video I kept thinking of your voice doppelgänger, Emma Watson. And I think you are an infj

[@laoisemacken3210]

I’m just curious and very glad your not gone, but did I imagine that you filmed a video saying you were quitting KZbin just a few weeks ago? Xx

[@beckiejbrown]

I stopped filming videos for my TrichJournal kzbin.info So that's where you've seen me talk about quitting. I haven't quitted here:! xx

[@emmapark8530]

A lot of what you said about yourself become rings very very true.big hugs x

[@r0obbie389]

I was wondering. When you Will do your photos every Day video. Because its 10 years now its time you updated❤️

[@sleepyzebra11]

I love the ways you tend to talk about yourself and your feelings with acceptance, and maybe curiosity. Also, shit, online harassment is real and i really didn't know the extent of yours but that's big and freaking awful....how strange and sad, hope you're free of it soon

[@buddhaxombie4282]

I assume you do not realize I like listening to your videos while doing the dishes.

[@olivinhaolivetti]

Re: online harassment Honestly, I sometimes worry for the GG crowd. They really seem obsessed with certain internet influencers (beckie being one of them). I used to lurk on some forums there expecting to see some nice discussion but it was just too toxic to keep up with. The worst part is that they can’t even acknowledge that what they’re doing is futile, they’re actually pretty self righteous about their gossiping lol

[@Elizabeth-li7wb]

I relate to you so deeply

[@soph_c901x]

I love your honesty always 💗

[@ginathorne3553]

I just love this woman. Ur videos help me soooo much thank u xxx

[@KySheDiver]

You’re such a lovely young woman. I find that you’re a lot braver than maybe you give yourself credit for.

[@bryonymason3104]

I don't think it's good to analyse and publicly discuss possible diagnoses. This could really be upsetting for some people, and with Rebecca being a public figure there's clearly a reason she's not telling us such a thing if she is. You (and I) can think and speculate to ourselves, but please don't make a comment like this when you really don't know everything. I'm autistic and even though I'm *well* versed in the symptoms, how it effects you being a woman as well and how that further complicates the autistic experience, but I'm not going to publicly diagnose people. Unless you've done a formal assessment of Rebecca, then don't come here and comment a diagnosis. It's both inappropriate and so damn rude.

[@liahlow1435]

YES! Those assumptions are dangerous!

[@MiraLeto]

I didn't make it to make an entry on instagram, so I want to assume you're on the road of writing/publishing?

[@beckiejbrown]

I've applied to things over the last few months, nothing yet. :( x

[@MiraLeto]

Beckie Jane Brown I wish you the best of luck! I'd hope one day I can read a book of yours❤️