Your Definition of Love is Wrong - Teal Swan

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What is your definition of love? How do you define love? The definition of love has gone through many transformations and we are on the edge of another awakening where our definition of Love will change again. Many people have different definitions of love and often our definitions lie in the unconscious mind. Teal Swan speaks about what love actually is.
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Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader and a Bestselling Author who is an expert in human development and relationships. She has over a decade of experience working with people of all walks of life with a mission to reduce human suffering.
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[@ViktorCzech]

Best quote from this vid: Real Love is that we are not loosing any part of Self to the other because we are consciously choosing to include them as us from our free will. Love this! Thank you Teal!

[@reyhana6511]

Untill recently my definition of love was to sacrifice myself for another person.

[@forfreedomssake4315]

Me too. I feel you

[@lhoprovatopervoi2750]

Yeah me too! Same situation. I need to learn otherwise

[@Midori559]

That's terrible!!!

[@stephanazor8898]

I know how that feels and it doesn't have to be this way

[@jakubrogacz6829]

Depends what do you think about as sacrifice. Love is a sacrifice. Sometimes. But it has to be a willing sacrifice.

[@LaurenInesRuiz]

When I listen to these videos I realize my mother has been amazing, not perfect but so wonderful. :)

[@flybabyskybaby]

Looooove this comment!!!! Everybody is all messed Up and searches for someone to blame. Thank you for showing love

[@jennazad4201]

I've never heard anyone put it this articulately before. I'm beginning to see people around me who are waking up to this perspective on love. Thank you, this is a very lovely message.

[@lukeclayton7578]

Love to me is like the ocean. It's an experience felt differently by many; some may be frightened by it, some addicted, while others may only see it through a screen. It has the power to pull you into itself and leave you washed up somewhere you could never imagine.

[@bipasha3113]

Thats beautiful.

[@awakeningmatters1111]

We cannot give what we do not have.

[@gianinarotaru7682]

Soooo to have in me samething good i need sameone to give me this kind of being, of love ,of lesson to be ....

[@ImmerseWithin]

The more self love we learn, the better the definition :)

[@ImmerseWithin]

The more self loving we are, the more we stop abandoning ourselves; the more we really listen to ourselves, so we become more self aware and we realise we are love. The real kind 😊 Not the judgemental, controlling, conditional... obscured definitions of love.

[@Gnosis33]

Lesbian love ftw

[@Newmoney1122]

SimiSari yes

[@anzwarthegreat9489]

SimiSari you lonely. Stfu

[@unknownx7252]

SimiSari truth!

[@drgnlady13]

So grateful to my mom for being the least selfish person I know. She showed me love no matter how stupid or mean I acted. Not that she didn't get angry or never punished me, but I always knew I deserved it. She never punished me over petty issues. I can only hope I've done as well with my kids.

[@Magician-se3gd]

jerk face ;)

[@drgnlady13]

Jesus Using Wifi in heaven And yet here I am. It's almost like I choose what to say and where to say it, rather than relying on your judgement. Crazy, right?

[@corsicanlulu]

lucky u domina, extremely lucky and blessed u...

[@yoursugarismine]

Jesus Using Wifi in heaven no need for you to write what you just wrote.

[@MsGuitars666]

Anger and punishment are not healthy ways of dealing with a child's behavior. Why do you think you were stupid or mean? Children make mistakes, but punishment will not help with that.

[@carlosrosario9920]

I'm grateful for my mom and I know she means well, but ever since my grandmother has passed on, I feel like it's heavily impacted both myself and my family. Particularly, my mom who despite trying to "show that she loves me" claims that she's always right, and cannot still come to terms with me because of how different I am compared to my other family members. She's always trying to force me to go to church, and whenever I don't do something, she'll guilt trip me and then play the victim like usual

[@1gamz]

Youre already aware of the situation. So get to action and stand up for yourself

[@kaze_graal]

I didn't understand what she was saying until I rewind the video several times and let it sink in, and I think I understood.. a bit. I guess I'm one of those who have self-centered parents, and I do not know what true love is or what she is talking about at all because I haven't experienced it yet. My definition of love was changed from "to take someone as part of yourself" to "having the free will (conscious choice) to take someone as a part of yourself in a way that would meet each others' needs).

[@jiminawake5926]

Brutally honest. Straight to the point. Love it.

[@Midori559]

I grew up with parents who are self-centered. As a result, my perception of of the world and how the world works and how relationship (love) works is upside down.

[@CzechwithVeronika]

If Teal would not make any other video, this is a huge eye opener, and she's done her job here on the Earth. THANK YOU, Teal! I absolutely understand so many things that happened in my life and why they happened. Thanks also for the hope of the SHIFT coming. It's needed!

[@HugBunnies]

Spot. On. I think I've learned this lesson over the past few weeks with my mother--this new definition of love. I've definitely mentalized it, but I don't think I've 'felt' or integrated it truly/fully because I'm still dependent on her, and forced to be connected to her for my own survival. I still have trouble putting other people's needs first, as it 'would' feel like I'm being swallowed. Realizing that I have to fully understand the old definition of love, and therefore see how it's played out in all aspects of my life and those around me, and then let it go. This is what I learned from this video, Teal. Thank you so much for your insight!

[@joshuabyrdvictorious8609]

About a month ago, I said that I would love to be in a relationship with a woman around my age who would hold me in her arms (like you typically see men doing with women), but I received negative feedback about it, some of which where hurtful accusations, and one person even called me a needy borderline narcissist for needing to feel loved. One person accused me of wanting to take everything from the relationship without giving anything in return, both which were false accusations. I never was the way these people said. I was only speaking a truth about myself. I'm not perverted, like the stereotypes say. I'm not scared of strong women. I respect strong women. I don't see where I went wrong in this. I shattered all of the stereotypes, and still received hurtful feedback. It hurts. : (

[@_midday.m_3776]

Sorry, you had to go through that, Everyone deserves to be loved in every way they desire.

[@victorarregnelle8976]

To be yourself there needs to be love, which humans lack. You are ahead of them in this regard. Ever wonder why we still need the reptilian brain? For lack of love. In a chaotic world we need to react quick to survive. lake of love keeps us primitive.

[@bryanmaxwell8519]

Since 2003, began vibrating eminating around the frequency of my personal transformed, transmutated, conceptualized version of love. 4 people's managed to show up in this space , a space I hold for all . How many beings here, amazes me the same as how few. 🎤 One is the loneliest number🎵 that you will ever know 🕉☸. Your work is Devine Teal, Blessing your Heart...

[@DanielleAbigail]

I would just like to say to all the beautiful people here that in my opinion, love is only the beginning. I didn't have perfect parents, but I know they loved me...truly loved me...and I'm so grateful for them. My definition of love was never accepting someone no matter what they did to me. Neither was it as perfect as True Love. But there are still complications and issues that will arise; there will be misunderstandings and hurt feelings; compromise and communication are key. Love doesn't mean your relationship will be perfect, and working hard on your relationship doesn't mean love isn't present. We are human beings and we are imperfect. We have to work for everything and that means getting comfortable is not an option. So remember...love is only the beginning.

[@JonathanSeagullUtube]

The essence of love is: acceptance and/or appreciation. Unconditional love is unconditional acceptance and/or appreciation. "Mutual best interests" is a natural flow from acceptance and/or appreciation of the other into "oneness" of both. "Mutual best interests" brings forth a lot of questions, most answered by knowing the others needs.

[@jonnyk9496]

Grateful for you Teal.. the collective pool of consciousness seems to key many of us in to what you choose to share while you’re still thinking about sharing them. Y-our presence is a gift. Thankyou. ❤️

[@feelingfeni4798]

wow.. you just made my day! I posted this video to my facebook page. I have been awake to the abuse now for only a month, and great people like you are keeping me going spiritually. I love your definitions of correct and incorrect or abusive love. YOUR AWESOME

[@ella7d]

This video came at the perfect time. I was balling my eyes out just yesterday, because I also held the old definition of love. I kept having visions of a dark road ahead if i continued on this particular timeline in pursuit of this love. In holding the old perspective I had the realization that to be "loved" by some is much worse than being hated by them. What I thought was love brought about a great fear of neglecting myself and my own needs in order to make the other person happy. I knew that I was capable of such behavior in thinking that this love was unconditional. I was ready to risk my own safety is a strange way. The pull that I had towards this person felt like I knew him from a past life or something, much like a moth to an ancient flame. I made the hard decision to let him go. he said that I gave up too easy, but I say I didn't give up. I learned to let go. I have hope that this new definition of love will manifest itself into my reality. Teal, I hope one day we can be real friend's and that you'll truly feel this new definition that you speak of too. People think that they love us, because we are beautiful, smart, and interesting. people's opinions of these conditions for "love" could change for whatever reason. Will they love us then? I want to know what love is for myself. I may not fully understand oneness and unconditional love yet, but i can say this, I appreciate your content and love you for it. You are changing the world even though some days may feel more difficult than others. Keep making them and I'll keep watching. 💛💛💛💛

[@vman0515]

Ms. Teal I have to be honest with you when I was listening to this I literally said out loud that you are one very insightful person. Since I watched this video I now realize that what I have been doing has not been selfish in anyway because I simply look how whoever I involve myself with, that we both win and now I see it has a very real and accurate name. I just wanted to say thank you very much, I wish you much peace and happiness in your travels...

[@annavillalpando4872]

She NEVER seizes to amaze me. Thank you Teal 🙌🏼 3 years later. I see she’s totally right. We are definitely moving out of the old definition of love. Thank goodness! 😅

[@carlosrosario9920]

I'm going through a recent break up and it's made me question my perception on love more since

[@daveyleeriot]

Some of Teal's philosophies & perceptions are so accurate that I hafta wait a few months in between listening to her videos bcuz too much truth at one time can be emotionally devastating

[@theresa348]

she is beyond beautiful.

[@killanavil101]

Desdemona luna i was thinking the same

[@theresa348]

❤❤

[@LaRedPDX]

It's part of the spell /witchcraft ?? Lol

[@oneildinkha2483]

Domina

[@jonsteve2834]

hi teal can you make a video with examples of mutual meeting of needs and how it works. your examples shine so much light on matters. thanks your one amazing being.

[@tomstarwalker]

She's making sense. The "us" in the relationship is really important.

[@mysticallight6548]

I am glad I'm not the only one that has always felt and believed this to be the true definition of love., but meeting someone on this same frequency and belief is what feels impossible.

[@HenccaF]

For me this was the most accurate of all the videos I've listened before. Thank you for sharing this wisdom! I wish all people would realize the trap of "love"

[@StrangeBotwin007]

teal you seem so hopeful in this video i love it

[@bladefiresc59]

I like that "and all of this is about to change" part LOL

[@cadenrolland5250]

I love myself unconditionally. Everyone else gets conditions for that closeness.

[@Maarten8867]

You can't give it to yourself and exclude others, that is not unconditional.

[@cadenrolland5250]

Please explain your view on this a little more, because sometime loving myself unconditionally means pushing others away.

[@hanaezra9452]

In love you take the others best interest as your own best interest!! 💥 💥 💥 💥

[@carolho847]

My friend has been recommending your videos to me for ages and today I finally started watching them. You are amazing Teal Swan. Everything you say is so refreshing, it's kinda like a palate cleanser to my mind. Love your work!!!!!! xoxoxoxoxo

[@clocksie123]

Eye opener! Thanks! That was what i was missing! I felt there was something going wrong but couldn't discribe it. This is exactly how it feels!

[@Katiejaa]

Doesn’t matter what struggle I’m in, or where I am in my process... You always have a video for me. Amazing!

[@nathandunlap6957]

actually mine is pretty right. it been right enough to open a few other's hearts and not to play games with them or her..none like other people.

[@freyjafreyja]

Damn!! I just asked how we confuse love with anxiety!! Right on time as usual!!! I LOVE YOU WOMAN!!!!

[@lesaspravka1173]

This is such a core concept that I just sent it to Mind Valley Academy because they are talking about what love is and they are still not quite getting it. I hope doing this is good. Because I authentically want good.

[@alexstornello3180]

Wow. I feel like you were talking directly to me. This is so incredibly relevant to my relationship with my parents. My boyfriend has said similar things to me about how I act with my mother and how she acts with me and how it affects his and my relationship, but hearing it from you is deeply validating. I am officially shook. Thank you.

[@nuvi01]

Love is about giving. The more you give, the more you love! it's as simple as that!

[@marinaBSNRN]

Late Wayne Dyer spoke well of different kinds of love,specifically about human love vs God's love in one of his programs. I strive to love people unconditionally as much as we let each other do that. That makes me and people who are in contact with me feel better.

[@DustinWoloschuk]

Oooohhhh... this is one of your best videos yet. I live every video I've ever seen by you so far... but this one may be my favorite!!! Thank you!!!

[@darksol99darkwizard]

Thank you for this. I needed to hear this. So love is not something I can do without a partner. I can’t love without being loved back. To love without being loved back is not love… it’s hard to swallow, but really helpful. 🙏 I love your content and would love to come to a talk.

[@akamamiki6406]

OMG I was just thinking about this topic and you made one. It answered all of my questions related to love. I can’t express how grateful I am. ❤️

[@kylahyland7048]

I just read about your past... it's amazing to see where you started and where you are now. Your journey between has become inspirational. Thank you 💞

[@sunflower6434]

This is the best explanation I have heard about true love…and about love in general.

[@joepvr4532]

Love is not giving up and help eachother to become themselves without all abuse and suffering. Unity creates positive vibrations and feelings of happiness.

[@user-xj1fn2se9e]

Amazing how on point she is ! When you take the knowledge she shares with us and filter it through the Heart and then the Mind, the results are limitless ! I appreciate you Teal ! Thank You !

[@Nae721]

Beautiful background Teal very soothing!!

[@willemhendrikvangreunen5276]

I have sed this a few times.... But SHES Explaining my life and relationship word by word.... My life line

[@Tentacle19]

I have been a fan of Teal's since I discovered her about a year ago, but I feel I've finally outgrown her work. That's a good thing, I guess. But I am also sad that I don't feel inspired by her work as much. Oh well. Maybe I will again down the road. In terms of the law of attraction, which she also teaches, I'm not sure why she puts so much energy into the problems, rather than solutions, which is a completely different energy than the problem. Does anyone else feel this way? Just curious. Wishing Teal and everyone all the best.

[@maloneyj55]

Truth cuts through all masks and lies.... Thank you for this video. I love how honest, and authentic you are about this stuff. It shows character and courage it's inspiring... I wonder how much expectations ruin relationships especially those that go unsaid. It would be very good to understand and know the expectations you have before you go into relationship and see where and why you need these things. You could then work on the real issues that make you feel lacking in certain things like affection, attention, sexuality, or whatever it is you feel a lack of and not project it on someone else.

[@petermars10]

Thank god you got this out there, I ve been struggling to explain this for years to friends family and patients and have felt like I am banging my head against the wall

You have to love people in a way that makes them feel free and learn to really care about and enjoy someone without judging them and trying to get them to conform to preconceived notions of who they should be and how they should act in your mind.

[@harmonyloveinfinity]

Thank you Teal! This is very insightful. Many of us including myself, as we are beginning to question what it is to be in loving relationships, whether it is with our children or spouses. I shall have to use this video as a learning tool and watch it several times. Namaste

[@tomcrush5456]

If you read more opinion about the definition of love, you can go shoutyouropinion.com and know the different types of opinion from the different person.

[@MuseSunflower]

Short video was such a tease. I miss your longer ones!!

[@conspiracytheorist2181]

*The reasoning part of my brain understands but my emotional body, my heart, is so destroyed by chronic, severe betrayal traumas that I cannot do what I clearly recognize to be the right thing. I do love You so much for continuing to try!*

[@conspiracytheorist2181]

*That's sweet. But the brain keeps the score on the physiological level. Healthy neuro-pathways have been extinguished while the unhealthy ones are permanently engraved. It's a matter of nerves, tissue, and chemicals.The Spirit protests! But matter is matter and will have its way.*

[@RomanoFrancine]

Until it doesn't.

[@conspiracytheorist2181]

*When does it not?*

[@conspiracytheorist2181]

*Look, that's like saying that you can breathe underwater once you lose your identity as a creature of the air; or that you will cease to need food once you overcome your identity as an animal made of flesh. I have no identity. But I have permanent brain structures left over from the time when I did have an identity. There's a mechanical side to life. You're probably too young to understand. Free will and free choice slowly but steadily fall away. Our experience becomes over-determined by the neural pathways and synaptic connections engraved in our brains.*

[@RomanoFrancine]

When you're no longer determined to keep it that way. Reread your words and try to see how this things are still a matter of clinging to the things you value as importante.

[@Chickmamapalletfarm]

I am so grateful to have had great parents. I am so lucky. This video made things clear about friends and people I know.

[@corinnecasper8768]

I love your definitions of real love and what society tells us is true.

[@nodumonotha8147]

i'm so thankful for you

[@angelicalcorpse7136]

I love you teal keep the videos coming!! Very helpful

[@marcelwilliams8236]

Well my definition of love is not wrong then because this is EXACTLY! how I've always felt & even furthermore I've always seen the dogma in certain people when they said they loved him or her, it always seem to me as not the true love they thought/think they have, so thanks Teal for just validating for me that I've always known what real love is! blessings!🔯

[@ResidentEvilReVerseUniverse]

Teal thank you so much for teaching us all about the healthy ways of love, and compassion

[@dr.sabrinaschmitz104]

Deep gratitude Teal, for explaining this to me.

[@basilbaby7678]

I hope many young people view this video, and side step the mistakes and confusion that have been the themes in my life. Our current definition of love is toxic and a perpetual snare.

[@creator8503]

im so damn traumatized by 'love' literally like an open fresh wound, the heartbreak, yet it happens almost a year ago

[@LuaLeonetti]

Thank you... I feel I need more explaination about what is real love and how it looks like in everyday situation... How does it feel like... Because it's so new... ❤

[@vitalino1981]

Did all like Teal saying here. Take my GF's interests even prior to my own. Never let her down, never fail, always supportive. Never ever got the same treatment back. More so, after 3 years of relationships she left me, saying that I'm not enough masculine. Can someone explain me wtfck I did wrong and why Teal describes unconditional love, which in real relationships simply don't work, because people are so fucked up that they need roller coaster of emotions 24/7 to keep them in?

[@AXharoth]

dont be with those people

[@EdgarParedes.127]

I'm sorry you had to go through that experience. I listen to teal with a grain of salt, as some concepts make sense and others don't. please check out stefan molyneux. his arguments will kick you in the seat of your pants. you will get your times worth.

[@googleuser8656]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

[@eternamenteamata]

you change my life Teal

[@Bushmaster804]

Love to me was and I still believe, since I liked it so much, is looking into someone’s eyes and feeling loving hit you till you feel a hit feeling hit you in the eyes.

[@phoenixrising1675]

You are so beautiful.... I love beautiful teachers... I feel so blessed... and that beauty runs deep.... so wise you are young one!

[@bluewater2241]

Very grateful to come across to you Teal ,I learning a lots and how I resonate with most what you say .Many blessing for bring light to my journey .🐬

[@Bobfishfuwen]

I didn't really understand that. It sounded like she was saying love is respect, compromise and being considerate. This seems to be more describing how to have a successful loving relationship rather than what love feels like.

[@beautifulL52]

I 100% completely agree. This is explained so well.

[@dionysostheliberator2287]

Feeling so incredibly thankful and validated just now. Thank You very much, Teal!

[@lizaheart2239]

We must realize when you follow the ego you are having a wrong meaning for love. We learn Love in heaven. In heaven we learn Truth, Goodness and Love, in Earth we learn Compassion. endurance and tolerance and have to still use it with truth, goodness and love. Ego isn't us, the realization that the ego is but a "special'" trap program by the power that be in order to keep you in a spiral low frequency matrix. You are really your higher Self, and must tune to it, and realize that in order to escape the "false." matrix you have to uncreate your ego who is set to be the guard keeping you in your mental matrix prison.

[@nupian06]

Awesome, great lesson, no surprise if many of us watching this start to weep 🙏, I feel very much related to this lesson in particular. I've always wondered when doing things to people out of love (unconditionally ) and they question my motivation , or didn't appreciate it, that i start doubting my self, although my intuition tells me I'm right (wasn't aware about the fact that we've been conditioned this way). Thank you so much Teal 💚 🌿🌹 🙌💫💎

[@waterlily6747]

Well all I can say is thank goodness it is about to change!

[@GaRciiA805]

Such a brash video title, and very dense topic to jump on. I applaud you miss Swan, much love, A soul with many names.

[@SC-vb2ui]

Teal You Messages are Heaven on Earth.

[@deepflyn3180]

To me, Teal might not have “all” answers… but damn, this resonated, … only with a couple of videos this woman helped me through things psychologists couldn’t. So thank you so much Teal

[@susanelaine7285]

A constant source of appreciating the phases one or both must attain to reach highest levels...acknowledging and removing conditions by which we are willing to compromise the expectation. Imagine

[@willyouwright]

Nothing is said on how to find or encourage others to act in this way.. most of the time people are happy to take what they can from you. Let talk about how to actually execute this. How do you act as one being when the other feels they are independant..

[@drummerjeroensimons]

I think real love in this earthly life is by definition a little complex, there we all suffer for egoparts, demands of society, fear based environment... I think there is still hope ofcourse...

[@420CCH420]

Thank you so much for being a beautiful portal into higher consciousness. Helping humans to transcend there self made problems! much love namaste

[@dianedonofrio8724]

Teal is such an amazing human...Every video is so profound, and every word is so deeply rooted in your deeper 'inner knowing' it seems she keeps reminding us, guiding us, towards this 'deeper truth'...as if we've all 'known' all along and Teal is there, every week to 'remind us' of what we have 'forgotten'....Sending love and blessings to Teal and family.

[@curiouskatsayshello4673]

Thank you Teal! 💕

[@E_m_p_t_i_n_e_s_s]

No way Teal... wow, huge synchronicity. Namaste

[@emancipationliberation9105]

You can't just keep giving... At some point you have to receive.

[@JosePerez-vn5nk]

Teal Swan is truly a queen

[@majidalavi3368]

You get exposed to life to different stages of life. From the moment of birth to 9months and then to 3years old, then to 15-18. However you apply all these on one person first, yourself. Your partner later reflect your relationship with you, if you think you are out of shape and try to justify everything through your heaviness, the partner leaves and use your weight as the excuse. You need to accept yourself fully to accept anyone else as part of you.

[@VeraliekeBusman]

'You need to accept yourself fully to accept anyone else as part of you.' This really gave me a big insight, thank you.

[@stephanazor8898]

It's interesting to see this. I reached a similar conclusion about 7 years earlier then when this video was published when I decided to look up the definition of love and trust and respect. The definitions aren't so definitive, it leaves the reader to interpret their own philosophy behind the meanings of these words. The challenge is finding people with this mutual philosophy.

[@Magician-se3gd]

I got 7 day banned off Facebook for sharing this video, Teal, just now. All please share

[@alyssad.4981]

Magician 11235 OMG the censorship!!!

[@CpT_PrInCeSs]

Seriously I have seen videos of nudity on fb that was allowed!!! So those videos are allowed but not teal swans videos that make this world better!!!! SMH 🤔

[@paareth]

Under what rule?

[@konykonfilms1099]

FACEBOOK IS BANED IN #CHINA & #RUSSIA MORE TO COME *

[@sylvestertredgett]

She's blowing up I can feel it. CNN in a year or 2

[@bountorester9624]

Thanks Teal, this helped me. The generations of background programming of how love is expressed as a need/want onesided and not mutual understanding causes gaps in relationships an even shapes personalities.

[@peterluong4142]

And this is why I will always be single and alone. I can’t seem to find real love. Eventually time tells me if the love is real or not.

[@elixirwellness3462]

I divorced the abuse & nelgect myself ~ however, my sons still also see thier Dad's "love" which I beleive now as they grow... they can see the choice on thier paths in life.