JUST RETURNING AFTER ONE YEAR. WENT NO CONTACT, SHE REACHED OUT AND NOW WERE TOGETHER AND STRONGER THAN EVER. WANT TO GIVE A SINCERE THANK YOU, COACH LEE.
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Awesome Josue! Thank you for returning to encourage people with your good news!
@ronaldclaude1892 Жыл бұрын
Hi, Congratulations on you getting back with your ex. Can you tell me more about that please
@psalms1163 Жыл бұрын
Awesome
@ronaldclaude1892 Жыл бұрын
@@josuerodriguez5991 That’s awesome. I hope no contact works for me. This is a tough situation.
@TelBil2010 Жыл бұрын
Best of luck to you both
@balcoz2004 Жыл бұрын
No contact is strong, but please don't do like me and use it only to get your ex back. Stop checking their socials and unfriend them if it makes you feel better. Just try to work on yourself and try to slowly move on. Meet new people and rewrite your own narrative without them in it. The right person will come back eventually, but please don't pause your life and wait for it.
@feliciawashington4538 Жыл бұрын
Well spoken..
@RanaJones Жыл бұрын
😘😘🙏
@user-lo7zg9ig8c Жыл бұрын
Thanks for saying it so well. Im wishing I’d never crossed those lines from friends to lovers regardless I was supposed to fall in love with my “best friend”.
@legendcrump2375 Жыл бұрын
I did that for so longggggg...now I know better
@lowlowsandclothes9923 Жыл бұрын
Good thing she unfriended me haha, if not I would probably be there checking every day
@_xplosion5557 Жыл бұрын
I wish love was more than just a mind game
@wisconsinfarmer474211 ай бұрын
I know. If one can't be honest with themself, how are they ever going to honest with another?
@starlight-d4e6 ай бұрын
It's called infatuation and lust, hun, not love. Love is divine. This generation is doomed.
@karimabdulkarim74105 ай бұрын
There is a 1% that is pure love, not just some mind game, but that’s only when it is with the right person (rare as f)
@thedude68675 ай бұрын
Sadly pure love is very rare. And in the end is all about psychology and brain chemistry not "love from fair tales". Sad truth.
@christinejones47855 ай бұрын
So do I far too many Players far too many mind games
@Fre3brd Жыл бұрын
If someone breaks up with you, don’t even reply. Go no contact as soon as possible and give them what they think they want….which is no more “you”…….trust me.. most of the time, this abrupt action will spark their curiosity and THEY will reach out. But, when they do…really ask yourself if THEY are what YOU really want. You made it this far, after all!
@adzmisa238511 ай бұрын
Badly need this advice right now 😢
@amelie-db7gu10 ай бұрын
Such good advice. Relationships are meant to be safe places and the way some of these people have ditched us is not safe. Do we really need that instability in our lives?
@panda990999 ай бұрын
She broke up with me and i didn't even answer
@user-qy9ku7cj5v4 ай бұрын
I overpursued and then I pushed her away into the arms of another man. This happened over Holidays. She still wanted to be friends but I refused and told her I want romance only or nothing at all. The reality is that I still love her a lot. However like other's have said before, why should I be her backup plan if she does come back. It's always going to be a feeling of second option. I know I deserve better along with anyone else who has been cheated on, or used. Waiting for someone or taking someone back never ends well! I found out the hard way and it's a lesson I will never forget.
@lnzprazak271111 ай бұрын
No contact is really for YOU. A chance to breathe, and recover, and regain strength.
@gihankavi11793 ай бұрын
❤
@angelb.96329 күн бұрын
I agree, don't hold on to hope they'll return... Nothing is guaranteed in life and You can always count on impertinence! Accept the change in a positive way and work on your own happiness, stay strong, regain your peace, amen🙏
@yosefacevedo55534 ай бұрын
Almost 4 weeks of No Contact. Watching these videos is certainly helping with the pain.
@RodneyBrownАй бұрын
I’m a week in today, and I already feel better
@bol3iz18 күн бұрын
Stay strong brother
@sayanmandal9212 Жыл бұрын
My ex contacted me 2 days ago, we had a good talk...she said at the end that she had realised what i have done for her in our entire 6 year relationship, she was impulsive , and now she is understanding as she is getting mature...she apologized...it took her 6 months... Thanks for your advice and all the amazing videos... For now, i have made her clear that my entire focus is building my career... I just want to say to all those souls who are suffering..."be strong, identify your value, focus on your career, as your career will not betray you" ...
@CiluhStyle1 Жыл бұрын
I only been separated for 2 months and some days but we have children. 7 year relationship. Hopefully, it can get fixed like yours.
@-theultimateredpillturp2162 Жыл бұрын
Sign a Common Law Contract or Marriage Contract, protect your asset, guys!
@pj8624 Жыл бұрын
So very happy for you!!! :)
@MrGearoid65 Жыл бұрын
Super. You just need to focus on you. Well done!😊
@jefflehoux9619 Жыл бұрын
Your career can definitely betray you.
@norine852510 ай бұрын
Been in a NC for almost 1 week now. Proud of myself for letting it be a clean break. No argument, no accusations, no pleading, no defending; just simply accepting his decision and telling him "it's okay, i'll be fine.. i dont want to stay friends".. been going to gym 3 times in the last week and watching a lot of coaching video's to stay strong.. its been only a week.. but i will be doing just fine
@kishoreburvin293110 ай бұрын
He didn't contact me.. 😢. He called me 6days back. I called him. But he didn't respond me..I text him. He didn't reply me.
@A2NoobGaming9 ай бұрын
me too , NC and went to gym . it is also 1 weeks now but we didnot end good . We fight and he was rude but nvm anymore ,release
@aupisrk12649 ай бұрын
How are you now
@marielaticas45439 ай бұрын
Please give us an update. We’re all in this together 🙏
@norine85259 ай бұрын
So, basically I fucked up.. he did come back very carefully.. sending me memes on instagram privately and very short conversations. Fun, but very briefly. But sooooo slow! I over-invested and in an impulsive moment I felt I just wanted him back in my life; even if it's just friends.. so I asked him to call me because I deleted his number.. he called me instantly and we talked for like 2 hours on the phone.. me replying my point of view as I didnt really do that when he broke up. But it was an overall pleasant conversation. But he wasnt there where he needed to be... yet.... And then last saturday I went out with friends, had a little bit too much wine and got frisky after he send me a flirtatious text.. I asked him to come and pick me up and we had a very passionate night together. But in the days after it more felt like a bootycall. So yesterday I send him a message saying we really cant do friends apparently... and that despite me having enjoyed saturdaynight a lot, its not what i want to settle for with him and that it makes it impossible for me to move on this way.. that i feel we are a very good match together and I do want to make it work with him... that all issues he had, are things we could have worked out. That all that was needed is us being willing to make it work..but that our issue is that he doesnt want to, so there is no point. And now I restarted my no-contact.... first 24 hours are done.... I really messed it up by wanting to go too fast! Like.. I do feel there still was no pleading and begging... and there still were no arguments or bad moments.. and I do feel I said things that could really make him re-think his decision and choice.. but I feel I also messed up badly by being too eager. I dont know I will get him back now.. kinda feel like i won't...😢
@limosan0stra Жыл бұрын
I have used the no contact rule the minute I split with my ex. It was hard but I stuck to it. Not only did I heal at my own pace but I healed so much that I started attracting those around me. A year and somewhat later, I met someone else and I have never been so happy. It works when you believe in yourself enough in relation to removing yourself in a place that no longer serves you.
@shirleybragat2773 Жыл бұрын
He/She didn’t even reach out within those months?
@limosan0stra Жыл бұрын
@@shirleybragat2773 yes she did, every single day. Constant phone calls and text messages. Even tried to talk to me through various social media platforms. I guess in the end the no contact worked for me because I had no expectations. I let time do it’s thing and it gave me a clear vision of what I wanted and needed in life. Granted no contact works if you want them back, but it could also work when you’re ready to heal and move forward. Only you can decide what’s best for you.
@limosan0stra Жыл бұрын
@@emmah8343 she did
@maltheri9833 Жыл бұрын
@@limosan0stra Sucks when you really only want her. I don't want to move on I want her to change. Same principle I can't be tunnel visioned on her. I have to leave her alone and simply live my life apart from her.
@cavaliercanzone2277 Жыл бұрын
I hope that I will be strong like you
@hopewanjiru5560 Жыл бұрын
We went no contact for a long period of time. He came back, we are stronger than ever!! I used to be here listening to this videos every single day and all I can say is trust the process! You either heal from it or it makes you guys stronger either way it’s a win win 😊👍🏽
@user-tw7zg6ko6e Жыл бұрын
That's amazing! How long were y'all in NC for?
@hopewanjiru5560 Жыл бұрын
@@user-tw7zg6ko6e for 8 months
@user-tw7zg6ko6e Жыл бұрын
@@moytheboytech616 I've been in NC for a little over 2 months. And I'm right there with you. Some days/nights are hard as hell but I always come back to these videos and comments to give me encouragement and hope. Just keep going and improving yourself! You're not alone in this
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
hopewanjiru5560, Coach Lee is very proud of you both. He has a Workshop which he and I recommend you join. It's excellent and it has EVERYTHING you need to know about yourself and so much more.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
@MariaMartinez_07 Жыл бұрын
I’m happy for you both! This did not work in my case. I reached out after a year of us being broken up and within that time 8 months of NC. And his poor choices led me to breaking up with him again and walking away for good this time. There are no third chances not when he hasn’t shown me he’s changed and worked on his issues. It’s heartbreaking but I know my worth. Wishing you the best! ❤
@todddruffles770 Жыл бұрын
Please be careful when celebrating your ex coming back to reconcile due to no contact. There are many people that may find false hope in this due to wanting to get back with their ex.
@roser8911 Жыл бұрын
It’s been 1 year and 4 months no contact!!! It’s done!!! I’m 100% detached!!! My ex has been reaching out in person at my gym and text me about 1 year now. I ignore him. I’ll let him enjoy the loss
@Liz-dragon-street. Жыл бұрын
Glad you found yourself and the love you have for yourself ❤
@roser8911 Жыл бұрын
@@Liz-dragon-street. yes, thank you!!! Coach lee is right!! Your ex never forget you, even when they married or have kids. So stay strong if you ever get dumped.
@roser8911 Жыл бұрын
@@antilaw9911 no, I learned how to live without him. I’m glad he asked for the breakup.
@psalms1163 Жыл бұрын
How long was ur relationship? It's been 112 days of no contact and it's been torment for me 24/7/112.
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
@@antilaw9911 what a weird comment. You sound bitter jealous. Seek professional help
@andriihnatiuk4279 ай бұрын
I’m in my second day guys, it’s hard. But all your comments give me a lote of hope. Beginning a big journey.
@oldtimeycabins9 ай бұрын
I’m with you
@sanderschat8 ай бұрын
How you doing these days?
@ahmedmresat22487 ай бұрын
Hey what happend did it work?!
@missmania45616 ай бұрын
It’s my first day … it’s so hard 🫠
@chesberger44746 ай бұрын
@@missmania4561 Hang in there, im almost a week in. It sucks it really does. Keep this in mind though, every day that goes by, you get stronger and they actually get weaker if you stay in no contact whatsoever. These stages in the video do actually happen. When this person comes back, make sure you have the high ground.
@v.o.warrior9021 Жыл бұрын
So sad all these people who pour in so much love are just discarded away, included me as of three weeks ago. No drama, no side pieces, support, encouragement man of my word. Still not enough. True Love doesn’t cause heartbreak attachment does. Hope all are stronger on the other side❤️
@WowNemy Жыл бұрын
How are you handling it? It''s been almost two weeks for me and I'm already feeling guilty and preoccupied about what happened.
@craigy69111 ай бұрын
90% of Women today are horrible I’ve just left my wife after she said she’s not happy wants a divorce all about her we have a child in a great husband and great dad her on the other hand has been messaging on social media a lad she works with I’ve gone no contact with her now for 1 week and I’m going strong the love fizz has gone and I’ve thought what was I thinking she’s been awful to me all through our 12 year relationship no going back for me I’m gonna concentrate on me and the child
@poeticwaxer10 ай бұрын
@@craigy691and I feel all men are horrible. How about we just accept that a lot of people aren’t healthy..
@user-gj5vt2ye9n10 ай бұрын
Wow. How did the KZbin youtube algorithm bring me here. I finally escaped a 27 year old relationship. Finally reached a point were I thought I could survive without the person I devoted myself to and genuinely loved. So unconditional that even when it had become toxic and abusive I couldn't break free. Then a few months back I told her I will leave now. Just as she had told me to do so many times the last decade or so. This was met with this ridiculous notion that I was cheating and I was leaving for someone else. No. I never thought I wanted, needed or deserved someone better. I just wanted her...but she made it impossible for it to be. A lot of things caused the relationship to fail. But to some degree bad advice and videos like these plant ideas in minds of people who are easily influenced. Who is this advise for? High schoo? But then again the older I get the more I see that people act as foolish as they did in their younger years. Damn, I guess relationships are just wars and battles.on who is the better manipulator. I'ts never ending. My advise for a man or woman, son or daughter. Never fully open your heart to what you think is love in a romantic relationship. The absolute only that will accomplish is give one or.the other an ultimate weapon.
@christinejones47855 ай бұрын
Yes its attachment not Love ❤
@kitty_s23456 Жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Lee. This week was the 1 year anniversary of my breakup. I almost forgot about it - didn't remember on the exact day. Which is good, since it means that I have recovered and have detached from my ex. He never broke no contact, didn't attempt to reconcile. Which is OK - I'm at a much better place now and am indifferent to him. I binge watched your vids at the start of my healing journey. Thanks for all your vids. If anyone reads this - you'll be OK. Take your time to heal, you can do it. You're not alone. Love and light to all.
@annabylina Жыл бұрын
Do you still want to get back together?
@kitty_s23456 Жыл бұрын
@@annabylina no, not anymore. I found out that he had a 3rd party while we were still together. That hurt, but it took a lot of healing to pull myself together. There's also a new person which is "knocking" on my door, so will see how it goes.
@NeymarJr-uz4ph Жыл бұрын
Don’t start new relationship until you get over your ex that’s good for you and other person
@shalinidutt5963 Жыл бұрын
Time is a great healer
@Da-hellFreesHorseSlaves Жыл бұрын
He's looking at my stories. Still no contact for almost a week now. I already refused being friend zoned last week. I am focusing on myself and God.
@Da-hellFreesHorseSlaves Жыл бұрын
I would never abruptly break up with someone unless ultimate violence and disrespect happens. I believe in talking things out peacefully.
@ntubeboris582011 ай бұрын
Please what if you have never laid hands on your girlfriend for 2yrs and this particular time you lose self control after she was physically assaulting you by pulling your dress and u lose self control a slap her just that ones, can you forgive that person after he has beg for forgiveness so many times genuinely for hitting u?
@JamesJones-jg8jk11 ай бұрын
So accurate. I think it hurts more when it's abrupt.
@aundavioncook21319 ай бұрын
It's sad but honestly I have even been willing to deal with the physical stuff on multiple occasions
@Da-hellFreesHorseSlaves9 ай бұрын
@@aundavioncook2131 never allow anyone to put hands on you for a violent reason. Love yourself as God loves you.
@tiffanywhitman93727 ай бұрын
Exactly.
@DeadMysticx Жыл бұрын
Almost 10 months guys, stay strong
@akashpatil815911 ай бұрын
More power to you 💞
@MercedesBenxx8 ай бұрын
Update?
@zolanddd00075 ай бұрын
Just give that shit up bro that’s insane 😂
@beautalley67 Жыл бұрын
I remember after my break up, I found Coach Lee. Watching these videos helped me so much!! It’s been almost a year and a half, and I’m doing so well and feel better. Stay strong and move forward!! You’ll be ok!
@bosslady991 Жыл бұрын
That’s awesome 🙌
@tmsthemasterstrikes6232 Жыл бұрын
Dear it's 3 years she has blocked me .Even I dnt know why just because she got some 3 rd person in her life all the faults all the negative things was pointed on me...Days are passing by..But it's ok to be honest and cry then to be selfish ,betrayer
@lizp637 Жыл бұрын
Me too! 15 months and hes just made contact. 10 yrs we were together. I went straight into no contact after being dumped. So so hard to do. I hope hes hurting as much as I did. I've moved on! Thanks coach Lee for all those videos, you don't know how much they helped me!
@jertemondejar170911 ай бұрын
8pó
@jertemondejar170911 ай бұрын
8il
@ao5624 Жыл бұрын
Update!! My ex reached out to me today after almost 60 days of no contact. Not sure if I want to go back but time will tell. I follow coach Lee's advice and it worked.
@spideymen1544 Жыл бұрын
How's it been
@ao5624 Жыл бұрын
@@JJ-dw4lz We are back together. Going on strong. The no contact works! Thanks to coach Lee.
@Juliette277 Жыл бұрын
@@ao5624any tips on not losing hope during nc?
@sobreezy2456 Жыл бұрын
@@Juliette277all you can do is work on yourself so that if she does reach out. You have an edge if you’d except her back or not
@jesusdiaz4675Ай бұрын
How did they contact you. Was it like hey how you been? Or just checking on how u been?
@Bobess22 Жыл бұрын
I’m just about to hit 4 months NC. Definitely feeling better. I still go through bad moments - dreams etc. but these videos helped me so much over this time.
@JoshP86 Жыл бұрын
It's a long way brother but after a year you will feel a lot better, sometimes you'll miss her and have nightmares about it but those things will fade away.
@joshtuk Жыл бұрын
@@Markdaamannn it’s over, man. Sorry.
@annelily1883 Жыл бұрын
The dreams are so painful. Especially ones when he comes back and everything is good again. I wake up and for a moment, I’m so relieved. And then I see the emptiness on his side of the bed and my heart breaks all over again. I am glad you’re feeling better. Wishing you all the best. For me, it’s been 3 months since he left (my fault), and 11 days NC. Take care 🙏🏻
@JoshP86 Жыл бұрын
@@annelily1883 I feel you, sometimes I dream about getting together, fixing the problems, even kissing and having s3x but it's just a dream and it won't be real again. And I'm over a year of NC, geez! no stalking or asking for some info about her. It takes a lot of time to heal.
@annelily1883 Жыл бұрын
@@JoshP86 holy cow!! That’s a king time to keep this up. I respect you. 🙏🏻 I’m hurting but I’m still hoping. I’ve pulled my tantrums and dumb sh*t before, and he’s come back. This time I outdid myself on the tantrum (a misunderstanding, but it’s no excuse), but it’s also the first time I’m actively working on myself with therapy, counseling, exercise (to relieve stress and take my anger out, and general good health), and I hope and pray he understands I’ve changed. He’s not the only great man in the world, but he’s the one I want and love. You’re so tough! Good luck to you, I genuinely hope you stop feeling any pain about this and move on to a happy and healthy relationship! 💚
@sebm8075 Жыл бұрын
After 6 months of no contact And a month of her reaching out (I never ignored her) she is coming over for lunch tomorrow .. it was a bad break up I begged and chased but because I loved her I disappeared.. had no choice And she came back Really stick to no contact it hurts but it works
@SasukeUchiha-kp2ex Жыл бұрын
But 6 months are a very Long time isnt it?
@cuscos186610 ай бұрын
update?
@sebm807510 ай бұрын
@cuscos1866 I wasn't prepared for when she returned and didn't do the self-improvement necessary so she quickly disappeared again .. Fortunately,I moved on with life and don't care anymore and just made a better life for myself for the next person who comes a long 🙂
@kpakbama15265 ай бұрын
@sebm8075 similar situation but yet she says she cares and the other talked sweet n said she loved me was that how your kinda went?
@mattgcar842 ай бұрын
I guess I been a month out on my NC and my ex is going nuts I won't chase
@jayc342009 Жыл бұрын
This channel was life changing when my ex broke up with me and flaunted her new rebound, taught me so much. I have grown so much and can confidently say if i ever experience a breakup again i will be in a much better position. Btw my exe's rebound failed like they all do, i was her rebound guy too. Don't be a rebound guy.
@MrBlackTechnique6 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@oxygene65 Жыл бұрын
I broke up with my girlfriend on New Years Day. She moved out because of my own stupid behaviour. Ever since then I've been glued to Coach Lee and if I'm honest I dont think I could have managed to cope without watching his videos every single day. I did the no contact and I worked on myself during that time. I got the Emergency Break Up Kit and watched it over and over again. But I really thought I had blown it and had convinced myself the worst would happen and that I'd never see my ex again, especially because of the circumstances of the break up. Last week my ex got back in contact, since then we've been messaging and calling eachother every day and tomorrow we are meeting up. One step at a time, but the way we've been speaking the future is looking bright. Slowly but surely. Thank you Coach Lee, your videos have been an absolute life saver. And to everyone going through this. It is hell. But keep the faith. Work on yourself, try and develop some healthy habits like meditation, working out, get out and about with friends. Even at your lowest when you think there is no hope good things do happen. Be strong.
@annabylina Жыл бұрын
I hope that you could reconsile
@oxygene65 Жыл бұрын
@@joasok3642 sorry I could have made that clearer, we broke up, she left me. (as I said, she moved out)
@annelily1883 Жыл бұрын
I just burst into tears reading this. In my situation, I’m the one at fault. My ex fiancé broke up with me on New Years Day, and it was wholly my fault. No cheating or anything, but I threw a huge dumb tantrum over a complete misunderstanding. I’ve done this before, and he was sick of it. He moved out that day, though he still has stuff here. I went through cycles of begging and pleading for him to come back, and then getting angry at him and texting mean things because in the moment I felt like he was overreacting. I was so SO wrong. I’m on 11 days of NC, and in the last three months I’ve started therapy, grief counseling (a lot of my temper tantrums were because I am still having trouble getting over losing my father to illness), and two weeks ago, I started seeing a psychiatrist too. I’m exercising almost every day, and I’ve paid off all my debt. Basically I’ve done everything he’s been wanting me to do the 4 years we were together. A few weeks after the breakup he suggested we can be FWB, because I contacted him late at night on Snapchat, though he likely should have known that I would decline. Which I did. Maybe it would have led to us getting back together, it had once before in exactly this situation, and but I think what happened is he thought I was getting back with my ex husband. But I can’t allow my heart to be risked that badly. Anyway, I’m praying for you and your ex, and all the people hurting on here. And I pray my ex comes back. I worry that since I’m the one that caused the breakup, maybe the NC advice would be different for me. But I said all I need to say, and the last contact I made with him (to which he didn’t reply) was just saying I love him and wish him well. 11 days and still no contact. I’m not blocked, but he doesn’t interact at all anymore, way before I went NC. I hope I can have him back, and not because I’m desperate or unattractive or anything, but because he’s wonderful, I love him, and I’m doing all I can to be better, for both myself and for him. Take care 🙏🏻💚
@oxygene65 Жыл бұрын
@@annabylina thank you, I'm ever so pleased to say that we met up and it went far better than anything I was expecting. She was blown away with the work I've been doing on myself over the past 3 months, not just the physical change, but she picked up on my energy and my demeanor. We are now in a relationship again, taking one day at a time, but she has made it very clear that she wants this just as much as me. I never thought this would happen, but it goes to show that good things do happen when you least expect it, and if you put in the work it really really does pay off.
@oxygene65 Жыл бұрын
@@annelily1883 I was the one at fault too, for pretty much the same reason, tantrums, over reacting and saying things that I instantly regretted. It wasn't the first time either and she'd just had enough of it and no wonder she moved out. Well done on putting all those positive steps in place, it takes a lot of strength. And also well done on refusing the FWB thing too. That was totally the right thing to do. My ex didnt block me too, and it was so tough to leave her alone. But when we were talking the other night she said she was so amazed and appreciated it so much that I gave her the space and understood the strength it took to do it. Believe me it really makes a difference. We are now back together and that is because she saw the change in me, was grateful for the no contact to give her space and time to heal. If I'd been the same person that she last saw 3 months ago I'm sure this would never have happened. Hang on in there. Give the NC a chance to work and stay positive. Focus on yourself and trust me, when the time is right and he sees the amazing work you've been doing for yourself then there is a really good chance that it will work out. I'll be praying for you too 💚
@Manifest08911 ай бұрын
I am two months today in no contact, Still following your advice. Not going to lie the first 30 days was extremely painful, but I pushed through!! I now feel 85% better, back in the gym, focusing on me, my goals and having fun with my friends etc. I didn’t quite understand the no contact rule in the beginning, I knew I had to do It because I felt like I was losing myself trying to earn love from someone else. So I blocked my ex completely on everything, I even deleted most of my social media to return to myself. I must say I feel a lot more self empowered right now then I ever have. I am uncertain as to whether my ex and I will ever get back together. But what I do know is that no contact truly makes a difference on self. So thank you for your coaching it definitely helps. Anyone who’s faced with this challenge do it for yourself, to regain your personal power, strength and confidence. To gain peace!💯 🙏🏾
@akankshatalwar53079 ай бұрын
Did he/she come back or you’re still on no contact terms?
@Fit_soldier8 ай бұрын
@@akankshatalwar5307did yours come back its been a month since you made this comment
@povertyhitstheroad86637 ай бұрын
no contact means you blocked him also on social media?
@Lovelylife8447 Жыл бұрын
It’s been around 10 weeks or so. Still hurts and I cry often. Trying my best to let go and move on. I don’t believe he’ll be back… I’m not even sure he really ever cared about me. Thankful God has a plan for my life and one day I’ll understand why I had to go through this very painful experience.
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Beth, most of us went thru the same feelings. I was also in a horrible relationship with a narcissist, and it nearly killed me. TIME is the essence. Go out with your friends, pick up a hobby, and read. That took my mind off him and it DOES work. Get out of the house. Take care of yourself. You will be fine! ❤️🌷
@RanaJones Жыл бұрын
I once had such 😭😭😭
@Jus-Too-Smoove Жыл бұрын
This was a good one. I like the you wouldn’t show up for work when you’ve been fired analogy
@tulipchic34 Жыл бұрын
I could never beg a person to be with me. It’s just not on me.
@muzih.ngwenya9768 Жыл бұрын
No Contact should be included in the book 48 Laws of Power.
@roselaurence10935 ай бұрын
Its there use absence to create respect and honour law number 16
@user-vs2ci6ly8d8 ай бұрын
Its been 6 months and I am still going stronger than ever.Thank you
@annajamjam1383 Жыл бұрын
My ex couldn’t even tell me it was over he friend zoned me. I was the one who called it out and said we need to have a conversation. That’s worse then being dumped when they don’t even have the respect or maturity to be honest about how they feel
@tdrive398 Жыл бұрын
Womyn invented "friend-zoning"; Men are perfecting it. Womyn unhappy. Too bad. Womyn are the ones who NEED 'closure'.
@lateashaevans4579 Жыл бұрын
A month ago he send a friend request on Facebook then 1 sec later he block me so I text him said is over
@Saranda478710 ай бұрын
@@tdrive398Womyn? Wth is that?
@tdrive39810 ай бұрын
@@Saranda4787 Aren't you a strong, independent f-enist who don't need men? Just describing them as they are: wo-myn, not wo-men. Bitter lonely losers.
@DFW817 Жыл бұрын
In a 5yr relationship, just this past Saturday my GF was wanting to plan a vacation together. Sunday, she said “I had an attitude the last two months and she deserves better. So now she wants to break up.” Relationships are so weird.
@plunderersparadise6 ай бұрын
In the end, watching this not even makes me more wise, but also helps me to spend time in a productive way. Feel connected - not separated
@ferencmondik31 Жыл бұрын
He is the best of all coaches. The rest I wouldn't even consider so-called "coaches". Intelligent, calm, relaxed, a pinch of great sense of (YES) masculine humour. I'm still in the middle of your process of getting my ex back as well as myself. I'm feeling better day by day by watching your videos. Brilliant content. All the best, Ferenc
@Theforgotten10Ай бұрын
The void your ex left needs to be filled with healthy behaviors. No contact is extremely helpful. Fill that void with personal growth. Be genuine about it though, your ex can smell false confidence.
@benithacalloway8286 Жыл бұрын
Oh my! I had to kiss you from my phone. You thoroughly described every detail about when the heart is broken and how you recuperate for few days because your body resists the pain . Meaning you start getting used to-the pain or you pass the stage of pain. When you finally cross the border or the shadow of the valley of death you start getting power again while your ex is in agony. This is when the table turns.😍❤🙏🏽 thank you coach Lee
@benithacalloway8286 Жыл бұрын
💯🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥💯❤️💰💰💰🏆👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@joeshmuckatelli44479 ай бұрын
The problem is, you have to keep in mind that while there's this "no contact" going on, you Ex is intimately contacting another. That why they left. no one leaves to be alone; they leave into the arms of another. So, if you are OK with that, then fine. Also, when they call back and want you back, it's because the "fling" they left you for didn't work out.
@ainsleymcclymont63088 ай бұрын
Im in that situation.. mother of my child moving on.. I do want to try no contact but inquire on my child. Best way to go about it.
@optimistprime31928 ай бұрын
Yup. Hell she moved away to a place closer to him, if not moved in with him directly. And that was before the breakup after I finally caught on to what she was doing. I won’t lie, even months later it still hurts. I’ve come to accept it on some level, and if she ever tries to come back she will find I’m no longer there.
@alisite41038 ай бұрын
Not always it is cheating..
@alequintana12089 ай бұрын
I broke up with my ex because he was bread crumbing me and he completely pulled back. Still have feelings for him after years… weird. Being on your own is better than unhappy with the wrong person
@richardDara-ot9zp Жыл бұрын
It's been a minute since I've completely healed the beard is looking great man thank you for everything I was heartbroken in February of 2020 I was devastated.. I remember in a comment I put that I believe you favorited I had said that your theme music became the theme music to my breakup, such a painful time for me but man your no-contact helped me so much. Everybody stand strong listen to this man he knows what he's talking about, it seems like the hardest thing to do but it does empower you for sure. You take your ex's attention away from them it's just like taking currency away from someone. Do not worry everyone it will be okay, love all of you we are all in this together The grieving is real but you're not alone.❤❤❤❤
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the update and encouragement for folks Don!
@alimaedenious2745 Жыл бұрын
I listen to you everyday and this helps my horrible anxiety……Thank you❤
@DontLookAtMuh4 ай бұрын
I feel so horrible 😢😢 I just want to call her and talk things over..
@vlocreativo9 ай бұрын
Something happened to me today. I was dumped harshly and abruptly on Monday and I had to bite the bull€t and did no contact, blocked, disappeared Houdini and he just messaged me today we had a good conversation but my path wasn't shaken to go back, my approach was calm and of self awareness. He asked why I blocked him and I said because he dumped me like he was taking the trash out. Stay strong people.
@johnnyt890210 ай бұрын
My gf dumped me; put me “on pause” (wtf is THAT?..lol). I bit my tongue and struggled hard and went all out zero contact. I got myself centered and even met someone else to the point where this new girl and I started a relationship. I was still reeling inside and missing my ex. After 3-4 months she contacted me out of the blue. In short, we got back together and we both see each other so differently. It’s so strong and amazing now. Our communication is better, we laugh harder, love stronger and have bonded so much better. Ty
@ApostleThe344 Жыл бұрын
Going on 4 months. I never begged or pleaded. They have my info if they wanted to talk they would have. Moving on looking for someone else
@bosslady991 Жыл бұрын
Move on they obviously have
@JoshP86 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, most of the time girls have a back up plan so, if she got rid of you is because she wants to be with her new lover.
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Guldham Style, I would move on. It's possible she has someone new.
@ApostleThe344 Жыл бұрын
@@bosslady991 fine by me i moved on started dating others the second she walked out
@ApostleThe344 Жыл бұрын
@@jannlewandowski5540 i already expect her to. I wasted 2 years
@tearthangel373 Жыл бұрын
Acceptance is key
@EEMonesE1 Жыл бұрын
Right!
@jambogb Жыл бұрын
over 7 months - I was desperate, now I am getting over it. Some days I'm crying like a baby (still) and some days I am feeling stronger. At the beginning I was a wreck! Getting better now - still sad but alive!
@RanaJones Жыл бұрын
So sorry dear friend 😭😭
@Liz-dragon-street. Жыл бұрын
❤🙏
@thokozanimasondo2592 Жыл бұрын
One day at a time.
@ravanjanae Жыл бұрын
how long you been with them?
@jambogb Жыл бұрын
@@ravanjanae from 2019 until 2022
@martinslanina8357 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate the "behind the scenes" demo of what actually happens. Thanks for everything. Was looking fir smth like this for a while.
@NorthstarcarcareLLC Жыл бұрын
I’m just in my saul Goodman phase. My love left me and I’ve just poured my energy into no contact and growing my business…and I see no contact working and my business has grown exponentially
@m.alexander7865 Жыл бұрын
I will comment on these videos as often as coach Lee posts them.. he is legit, 7 months of no contact, gave her the break up, pursued new hobbies, found new friends traveled alone and created a new life for myself.. the stages the ex goes through is true ! Follow his guidance it the real trick is to do it for YOU. His breakup kit was also a good purchase .. as corny as it sounds or feels. I have no regrets. Coach Lee got me through the hardest emotional times in regards to romance.. he knows what he is talking about and I'll always be grateful 🙏 ❤
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
M. Alexander, Coach Lee is the best!
@project00778 ай бұрын
"No one says...I was fired, but I'm gonna show up for work tomorrow..." 😂
@vishalfrrАй бұрын
i dont think you should be waiting for your ex to get back in life just move on with no contact and improve yourselves things will fall in place at the right time.
@rambojohnj.6117 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, You are sincerely the best advice on the internet. Clear. Concise. No playing games. I wish I had known all of your wisdom the first time she broke up with me. I didn’t give her the breakup, because it was 100% out of the blue, within a week, I called and asked her “do you love me?” “Yes”. “Do you think I love you?” “Yes”. “Is this what you want?” “No”. And we weren’t broken up anymore. The second time this happened, 100% out of the blue, I still didn’t know about no contact. Had I employed your strategies, I’d probably be back with her. But I don’t know if I’d even want that now.
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words John!
@SoundsSilver Жыл бұрын
same boat
@SilverFox-sh6ln Жыл бұрын
I remember when I watched your vids 6 months ago I didn’t go no contact I kept trying to reach out and she ghosted me to oblivion. Then I found someone else. And 6 months later I’m completely over my ex. And it feels very good. I doubt my ex will message me again but if she did I wouldn’t give her a chance in hell.
@chocolate-soulja4010 ай бұрын
I just woke up & found this video effortless! I'm kinda going through something like this. It makes it easier knowing what's going on in the brain. The universe must looking out for me teaching me! Thanxx for the lesson🙄
@danielozga8436 Жыл бұрын
Lee... dude... u have to be protected by all cost. I dont know what i would do without ur videos.. it helps so much.
@anupriya823210 ай бұрын
Thankuu your words healed me in my worst situation when i am going towards darkness of depression... Pray for me i would get healed😌
@isaacjacobs378510 ай бұрын
This whole NC thing can also get in the way of the Universe and the energies of putting you back together. If there is true love and you both miss each other, then talk. Forget the power, just feel. Go with the energy, keep it respectful, don't allow to be used, but also don't allow NC too much power in itself, you might lose your forever because you are not communicating.
@kkloveslove9 ай бұрын
This is one of the best videos I've seen on this topic. I was dumped (first time in my life), mostly circumstantial but also I caused him pain with my words- so he left. At first I was begging and pleading for a second chance and apologized numerous times for the pain caused etc. (I was going through the loss of a mother and toxic divorce- I was clearly not my best self but even in that he said I was the most amazing women he'd ever met) He'd call me like every few days and the last time he did so I didn't answer- he texted yesterday- didn't answer. He's said that he will "talk to" other women in one of our last convos and he needed clarity that I was the one- cool, do that. You don't get to call me every few days and me continue to be available for you- my mindset shifted and this video is the exact extra confirmation I totally made the right choice :)
@Goosebumps871 Жыл бұрын
Anyone watching this should buy his emergency breakup kit to support him for all his help!!!! Instead of watching random videos it’s curated in a way that makes sense and really helps you through the breakup process then you can come back and watch these videos.
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Thank you. 😌
@francekelly51037 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂emergency break up kit😂😂😂😂
@ayeeshaBLАй бұрын
I've listened to so many videos, I've reflected so much on everything, and this video has literally made everything click. It's hitting the nail on the head
@boldcitycc Жыл бұрын
It’s a shame that people are so screwed up, that it has to be this way. They can’t just love you cause you’re a great guy. You have play all this mental mind f stuff. And it is all 100% true. I have lived it with one woman several times. Don’t even want her back anymore.. But we connected in a way like I never have with anyone else. I respected and valued what we had. She never did, and I learned after the first couple times, that it works exactly as he says.. Write emails, try and convince them of your love does the opposite. In that moment they could give two shits about what you feel. It’s all about what she feels. So all that talking just annoys her. You walk away, and your value goes up. It’s pretty stupid really. Emotionally immature BS. Maybe one day I’ll meet a woman who isn’t this screwed up that just wants it to be real.. No BS games
@richardcollins586 Жыл бұрын
Spent a weekend with one recently, known her two years. I’m the only guy that treats her right apparently and her daughter says she should get together with me, she told me she loved me. It’s not enough, she wants someone to argue with, I walk away from all that and would rather talk things through to resolve conflict. I went NC when I got back. The weekend was supposed to be about us getting closer together, it was anything but that. I wouldn’t care if I ever spoke to her again for the way she treated me.
@boldcitycc Жыл бұрын
@@richardcollins586 yeah, it’s like until they’re lying in a hospital bed somewhere when they’re old, they just take you for granted. You bond , and come to see the relationship as having much value, and being irreplaceable. That means you sit down together like adults,not go in to some mode where you have to be alone for a week or so as you convince yourself I’m not enough.. I have flaws… Guess what, so did she..That is unrealistic and immature relationship skills. I loved her with all her flaws.. That’s the difference.. I find this especially true of very attractive women, which mine was. The whole point I made clear to her when we first got back together after not seeing her since the 90’s , was I wanted real, and to be able to open up and not hold back. Unfortunately man, that’s the movies, as you kill attraction being too real. You have to keep them chasing and not get too deep. It’s not how I want to live, but I stepped out of being on my game, and I got gut wrenching heartache for it. Best thing you can do is what you did. Good luck to you
@sitarampradhan8488 Жыл бұрын
It's how woman phycology works to keep her hooked. you must put them on pedestal, strongly disagree with some case, some time bring tears her eye, make her very happy. Those old days are gone where masculine and feminine were respected.
@MicahAlbert-hl9du11 ай бұрын
So true bro. Sounds like my story. She played games the whole relationship, I played none. Breakup games, jealousy games, attention games, silent games....took me a while to understand she was very emotionally damaged. A lot of it was her fault and her doing though she will never admit to any wrongdoing of the smallest degree and points the finger at everyone. We were both so incredibly close. That was hard to get past.
@Purpleiciousbabe10 ай бұрын
Best comment ever! Couldn’t agree! Humans needs to grow up 🎉!
@evaaro1603 Жыл бұрын
no contact forever if they are a narcissist...
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Eva Aro. ABSOLUTELY NOT! ❤
@S1000xrhp7 ай бұрын
As a widower after 40 years together I never thought I'd be in another relationship but here I am 3 years in. My partner is loving and has a strong rock of beliefs, very traditional, fun & compliant but equally takes no shit because she has had a hard life. I know that if we split then we are done because it will be over something fundamental to our relationship. It wont be something petty or anything that we can compromise over. She won't contact me nor will I contact her. I know this already and accept it, while I'm more willing to compromise i have my red lines too. We are good together, we respect each other and are forgiving. This gives us strength and resilience but if disrespect crept in on either part, it will be bye and thanks for the good times. Im grateful that we wont play silly games and strategies to get back together, if we split its going to be over something we can't fix.
@trizahnjuguna1471 Жыл бұрын
I was there never thought ever if I’ll laugh one day . I was crushed I didn’t beg I moved moved until he came back to his senses . Now we are happily married
@CreateUsername483 Жыл бұрын
how long did he take to come back
@lovelifeeat7761 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story ❤
@trizahnjuguna1471 Жыл бұрын
@@CreateUsername483 it took 5 months and I never called him or even checked his social media he came back begging
@ocheerup1324 Жыл бұрын
Well… my ex turned out to be a narc. I was debating whether he was or wasn’t. The only reason he texted me was to tell me he is doing wonderful (after he broke up with me). Nah, he was trying to tell me he was with someone else. I’m done. If he ever truly comes back, I don’t want someone who doesn’t care about me or my feelings. He broke my heart and lied- he doesn’t care. Never even gave me a reasons why the break up was happening, because he wanted to move on to the next girl. 😢
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
OCHEERUP, I was with a narc for 5 years. I discarded him. They are TOXIC! NEVER GO BACK WITH A NARC. I'm proud of you for getting away from him! 👍
@RanaJones Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry about that dear friend ♥️💐🌹
@sobreezy2456 Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry that happened to you
@annabylina Жыл бұрын
My man has stayed in relief stage forever. Can't believe that after 5 years I had meant nothing for him. He never asked how am I since. 7 month. Unbearable pain. I know it's all for the best however.
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Digital Magic, I'm so sorry for you. Be grateful that someone like that is gone! What kind of a life would you have had if he was still there? Start going out and have some fun. Pick up a good hobby, and make sure you get out of the house. Big hug for you..❤❤⚘️
@wata80966 ай бұрын
The pain is the problem, you waiting is the problem, give up on him by giving yourself the value you gave to him. He feels your energy and know you still around. Don't be around give a f* you should honour yourself enough to not care anymore.
@nnoir2 ай бұрын
Starting today, will try to come back in the future for updates. Thanks everyone
@margaretmsoo20605 ай бұрын
We broke up 2years ago and i went silent. He called me yesterday 😢😢.. New subscriber ❤
@ce.379 Жыл бұрын
So grateful for your professional insight on everything regarding ex’s and relationships!!!
@jude8602 Жыл бұрын
You're amazing Coach Lee. I was dating a separated man (married 17y two kids) he had wanted out for a long time and finally spent last year exiting the relationship and they both brought separate homes and were moving on. We met AFTER they were fully separated. We became very close, spoke 3h every night, spent every weekend and were falling in love - we even booked/paid for holiday to Bali together. Through this time I was very sensitive and respectful about his ex and kids. Six weeks ago he blindsided me with saying he missed his family and was returning to her. I did all the wrong things and he blocked me but we have exchanged emails recently and he said "he had made his bed and now had to lie in it" and then that he "misses me and so much more" - I replied a day later that I did too but then nothing. I'm now going 100% no contact since finding you and hope I'll be able to move on. But I've also watched your rebound relationship videos and am confused - who's the rebound me or the ex ?
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Jude, at this point, there is no rebound. Keep away from him and preserve your sanity. Take care!
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
You might have been a rebound but unlikely you are fully just a rebound since his life changed as much as it did. He is probably feeling the consequences of the divorce and missing the “mom, dad, and the kids” part of it. That can be very confusing. You’ll have to wait to see what he really wants. I would wait 3 months to heal and grieve and then do your best to move on if he hasn’t returned.
@jude8602 Жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee he moved back in with her so its over.. the sad thing is we talked for the first time today and he said a day doesn't go by when he doesn't think of us and yet here we are. You were spot on about missing the family (kids are 17 and 20 though) but I have no choice but to close the door and move on. I miss him so much.
@Blushcoco Жыл бұрын
@@jude8602 never ever be with a man that is still married no matter how much he said they are separated he used you now he misses her and back with her. Take this as a lesson never be with a man that isn’t officially divorced
@joenoe99529 ай бұрын
@@Blushcoco amen and better to be a couple years post divorce also.
@kebman Жыл бұрын
I always ghost women who break up with me. If they want they can try to get back with me, but breaking up with me is a huge breach of trust and loyalty. So, if she wants to get back to me, she had _better_ make it up to me.
@Flickit1007 ай бұрын
If you get dumped, the chances of her doing it again are much higher.
@rainerneumeister5239 Жыл бұрын
It’s so true , her previous ex made himself available to her for 3 years by staying in contact with her regularly but she never went back to him and I imagine looked upon him only as a friend who she could get back at any time she wanted.
@Contact_Info11 ай бұрын
My ex went back.to.him after 10 years
@MrFingerz14 Жыл бұрын
After 34 days of radio silence I can’t shake the feeling that my ex doesn’t even care..😞
@MrFingerz14 Жыл бұрын
@@thepaintedcupcake1578 Appreciate the reply. I’ll check that video out.
@thepaintedcupcake1578 Жыл бұрын
I believe the title of the video is called: "Is the 30 Day No Contact Rule ENOUGH To Get An Ex Back?" I hope you are doing okay, in spite of your current circumstances!
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Here is my video about that time frame: kzbin.info/www/bejne/r4SwZ6mbiZVjfK8
@thepaintedcupcake1578 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for all of your help, Coach Lee! You are much appreciated and valuable to those who are hurting! I hope he will see your reply!
@just_livingit Жыл бұрын
Im on day 2 of no contact, i had to distance myself a bit because my ex girlfriend would be very hot and cold with me. I broke up the relationship and then realized it was a mistake now she doesnt know what she wants. These videos help me and are all i look forward too. I even joined the support group. Hopefully i can book a coaching session with Coach Lee once I get paid this week.
@thesouluniversal Жыл бұрын
It wasnt a mistake, trust your judgement. You deserve better than someone who doesnt know what they want.
@don4717 Жыл бұрын
I did. the same mistake.. she wanted time and i hadnt give her the time and put her under pressure for 3 weeks and than i break up with her. 1 day later i realised the mistake and told her but she was understandable angry and sad. Now i give her the time and Hope i didnt do to much pressure in the beginning.
@exxcaliburs6002 Жыл бұрын
Defn not a mistake, although it may feel that way atm. I had the same situation with a come and go girl. Dealing with that is a horror show and you know it. If she gives a fuk, shell put in, if not, its the most destructive thingbin the world to you. Fuk that mate. Look after yourself, work out, find your centre. If youre seeing someone, people are either in or out. Theres no grey there. We ended it yesterday. I was ready but disappointed but knew it was for the best. If youre more unhappy than happy you need to clear the deck, as hard as it is.
@Contact_Info11 ай бұрын
Did you go.back.to.her? Did she reach out?
@mikyl-fo8rh Жыл бұрын
Ghosting is the derogatory term for no contact but they're identical, until the no contact simps and returns🙄
@abhishekalandkar1537 Жыл бұрын
what a video , what a video , coach Lee , perhaps the best coach on the surface of world KZbin family. Listen him , he make us feel so attractive , so confident , so superalpha , so good in our own skin. Thanq so much coach , you're literally helping lives to thriving through hardest phases. Perhaps , the megamegasuperstar in the topic. Experience is everything !!!
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
What a weird comment
@abhishekalandkar1537 Жыл бұрын
@@sloanmagnum5009 mind own business..stay away..
@JeffKnows1 Жыл бұрын
So thankful I found Coach Lee. I felt my gf slipping away and I chased and it only pushed her away more. She needed time and I wasn’t picking up the clues. Now she has broken up with me to get her space. I have been in NC from day one since she made the breakup official.
@CiluhStyle1 Жыл бұрын
Same
@mihranhorses Жыл бұрын
I wish I would have known about you to months ago. Every single step you count in your video, I live this to the extreme. Emotional roller coaster.
@garvald Жыл бұрын
This is all under the presumption that the person leaving isn't taking antidepressants. They're relieved, but numb. I'd like to see more on that topic please
@hsafranify Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee ; very great video on this brain; physical manifestation from people in a relationship - especially when you and Ken on a live chat mixed in potential different personalties an ex may have had or still have to go along for the ride; including possible personality disorder symptoms; which this video gives more insight into concepts like stress hormones; and human behavior; and how these can effect people with a variety personalties in different ways; in addition to just a one size fits all human behavior/physical manifestation of the brain from a romantic relationship that broke up (i hope a lot of people watch Ken and your live chats)!
@planetmercurygaming Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, you have really helped me through my darkest days, and while I doubt NC will work for my ex, videos like this instill a bit of hope that you may be correct. I didnt handle the break up well, but before NC our last conversation was playful. Anyways, thank you for these videos, thank you for always knowing what to say to help me feel strong!
@Jus-Too-Smoove Жыл бұрын
It’s suppose to work for you not your ex bro. Improve what you feel you need to improve upon and she’ll see that shit (trust) they always find a way, especially women and then start questioning her decision. Women want men bro despite what the media or movies here in America tells us. So boss up and understand you probably just want them back to reject them and not saying you don’t love her, but lets keep it a stack and get on your purpose bro. Make the world a better place. It’s been a year and some months since my ex dumped me and I thought she was the “one.” Fast forward and I’m loving life bro and I still work with my ex lol. Man this shit gets better for real. Stay disciplined man. Let that shit hurt for a while and use that shit to level up.
@DarazBhai-rx9bc Жыл бұрын
5 Months Of Modified no contact - as we were colleagues. Talked around 2/3 times in this period. As we were in serious relationship for 5 years, i hanged up there,told me there is no chance 2 months ago. But from now on, no contact is for myself, to get back myself. I know i have lost several months from my life, but this should be a new start..also found another crush Say good luck to me fellows. Good luck to you guys.Thanks Coach Lee for saving my reputation
@smokeygrif958910 ай бұрын
Has anyone here read the book Attached? It’s a good book and has a lot of good information on the types of attachment. Anxious, secure or avoidance. Figure out which you are and what either your partner is and or what is best suited for you. I highly recommend this to anyone interested
@shantavalentine9537 Жыл бұрын
He is so right I remember my ex husband leaving he for another woman. I thought life had enough thru looked so happy . Matching outfits etc. I could t eat I could t sleep 6 months later they ended and he was begging me even stalking me popping up at church etc. I had moved on and was happy. Forgiveness doesn’t require reconnection. I’m going through this again with a current ex and I know soon the tables will turn and if it doesn’t they weren’t for you
@parastoofarmani6065 Жыл бұрын
My ex reached me out after 9 months of NC he apologized me for every bad things he have done to me , he said he missed me and my voice, and after this conversation he didn't text again. He is just watching my stories in silence.
@SasukeUchiha-kp2ex Жыл бұрын
So how did U react?
@TaylorJohnson1 Жыл бұрын
Today is the official end of my relationship. I'm in and out, crying and revengeful. Just blocked him. I'm staying away for good.
@janillrodriguez80306 ай бұрын
My ex girlfriend changed about a month ago. 22 days ago she broke up with me starting wasn’t sure what she wanted. I begged plead, cried. Saw each other two weeks ago, again same thing. She confessed she is talking to her ex, the one that cheated on her many times and treated her like shit. 8 days of no contact and I realized that I was too much of a woman for her. Staying strong even though my heart is broken.
@SpaceMel00 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee's No Contact worked in my case, a long term relationship of over 6 years severed for someone else to take my place. Took only a little over 2 weeks. I give this advice but for some reason, not everyone will follow it. I like learning more what happened like vasopressin and oxytocin (did not know), plus the cortisol. Buy the break-up kit and follow. My SO has confirmed stuff that Coach Lee has said, admits to being a jerk back then. We now are spending the rest of our lives together and my SO has been awesome for a year after we got back together. We were "friends" for 4 months before I got asked to get back together. (Not the normal situation I understand).
@johnton6488 Жыл бұрын
This is so precise, original and in my opinion so much above hundreds video on this topic.
@curtishomer141810 ай бұрын
I give her the break up,,and today I told her ,I can keep crying for her.I working 2 jobs.I told her that now .I turn my cell phone off!!!.I am so hurt now and I love her so much But I need to stay in disappear mode..it's best to focus on 2 jobs..it's hard on me
@user-hc3zm3dl9g9 ай бұрын
fantastic thanks youve given me the strength i needed to be honest with myself and stop chasing something even when the break-up isn't my fault.
@DAGE2023 Жыл бұрын
Very nice articulated and dissected. Thank you coach for all this beautiful content that you are creating, helps a lot. All the best to you and coach Ken
@urworstnightmare4510 ай бұрын
Im on no contact phase now, thank your for this guidance coach! much love 💌
@povertyhitstheroad86637 ай бұрын
no contact means you blocked him/her also on social media?
@user-dn5bi4si5w3 ай бұрын
The narcissist's brain is deranged before no contact, deranged during no contact, and deranged after no contact.
@debyshay31928 ай бұрын
My ex block me n unblock me several times I accept him many times but now it's has been three months no contact and am feeling better n strong until this time I accept that he will never come back am moving on I will be single for a very long time I will be loving myself more until I met the right one for now it's only about me
@tylermorgan9018 Жыл бұрын
We have two kids together. It's hard to stay no contact. I find myself not communicating at all and it hurts my kids. She didn't just dump me, she hurt the kids. Hopefully she'll come to her senses soon and realize I'm the best thing to her and our children. She's crazy for doing this. It hurts soooo much. I didn't just lose her, i lost my kids. ....
@stubulu9 ай бұрын
I feel you man. Hang in there. Going through something similar.
@robynalvin28499 ай бұрын
Coach Lea has a video on how you got no contact when you have children together.
@pandorastokoe4201 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Lee, you are a one man life saver, listening to you lifts my mood no end! Thank you :)
@biankafucskodancefitness7 ай бұрын
No contact is amazing . Got my ex back!
@pauliegualtieri368 Жыл бұрын
I wish no contact would work in my case, but it’s impossible.
@JesseJames771 Жыл бұрын
My ex and I broke up 9 months ago and she started dating someone about a month after the break up. After a few early mistakes, I've been in NC for 7 months now, but she is still with the new guy. They've been together for almost 8 months at this point, and it seems like they are very serious. They have gone on trips together, spent the holidays together, and she posts on social media about how happy she is with this new person and how thankful she is for him. I was with her for almost a year and she never once posted me on social media. I'm still devastated over here and I don't think there is any way she is coming back, and I don't know how to move on. I feel pathetic even though there are lots of girls who would go on a date with me, but I only want her :( Someone please help.
@90blacknight Жыл бұрын
Stand firm. People who need to let the world know how happy they are, typically are not happy at all. It's just a cope. Forget social media. It's just smoke and mirrors. Most men are weak. Give that guy some time and he'll almost definitely start messing up in some way. Your silence and disappearance will eventually make an impact, if it hasn't already. Vanish from her life. Post nothing. Let her imagination run wild. People don't imagine you're suffering when they hear nothing and know nothing. She'll think she's absolutely inconsequential to your life, and that you're happy with someone else. She will imagine the worst, which is envisioning you at your best, because it's the worst she can feel. Stand firm.
@darshtools Жыл бұрын
You really need to know what you deserve buddy. If your ex immediately went into a relationship after she broke up with you, it just means the other guy was always there. She just wanted a reason to walk away from you, and get along with him. I understand how you feel. I understand you have feelings for her and you want her back. But just think about this. Would you really be happy to be someone's second choice? Would you like to commit to someone who doesn't commit to you? If it is so, then it can never bloom into a beautiful relationship. Glad you realise that you know you have other options. Try them out. Who knows you may find someone who values you as much as you value yourself
@alangodfrey3598 Жыл бұрын
Fuuuu her your going to be good 💯
@Kredka66 Жыл бұрын
First thing is to stop looking at her social media. It only makes you feel worse. I have been there, but decided not to look at it and cut him off completely. 6 months strong despite he contacted me recently. I no longer want him back