Your Friendly Successful Psychopath | Dharmendra Rai | TEDxSGGSCC

When most people think of psychopaths they think of Hannibal Lecter or The Joker. These are "bad" "full blown" psychopaths. Psychopathy operates on a scale so there are people that are high on the psychopathy scale who have only the good traits of psychopaths . What are these traits? How can you acquire them? How can you become A Friendly Successful Psychopath?
Meet this perfect fusion of geniousity and creativity who is not just the first Mind Map Trainer of Mumbai but has also been blazoned a 'Genius' by Tony Buzan - Mind Map Inventor and Nobel Peace Prize Nominee. He is a pure gem
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@nonnon1746]

Dharmendra Rai - teaching people how to be good psychopaths

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you non non

[@Brunnch]

I needed this as a psychopath

[@xiii2048]

honestly its nice for someone to talk about how people who suffer from psychopathy can use their mindset for public benefit, instead of basically saying anyone with these traits might as well be a serial killer. definitely one of the most insensitively handled and stigmatized set of traits to be labeled an illness.

[@judithwaltman1652]

They thought ppl with psychopathic traits were good for company's but turned out that although they made cutthroat decisions when it came to business they also affected the employees in a massively negative way that was not worth it. He thinks it's cool to be a psychopath so he self diagnosed on a website probably not answering the questions honestly but selectively so that he would be able to brag how much a a good psychopath he is. He is a narcissist that's insecure not a confident psychopath.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for your views Jud

[@buffhotchkiss7400]

Maybe he could on his speech and presenration since he is an expert. Lol

[@cuhzlightyear8151]

glad I asked

[@thenextbigthing1393]

Did any of you fools realise that the first reply to this comment is the guy that gave the Ted talk?

[@bm-ub6zc]

Yeah a lot of narcissists have mistaken themselves as psychopaths. I've met nice psychopaths, and they really don't make a fuzz about it. One psychopath I've known became a midwife and not a CEO, but she's confident and satisfied with what she does. She doesn't care about wether society perceives her as "successful" or not. But it's because she grew up in a wealthy and sheltered family. If she had more hardships in childhood (poverty, violence, abuse, crime), she could've become a sadistic killer or a ceo or politician.

[@darkanser]

A strenuous mental exercise would be to try to see the world and existence through the eyes of a psychopath. This makes me think of when I first read INTERVIEW WITH THE VAMPIRE by Anne Rice. Until that book I realized that every story and myth about vampires that I had been exposed to was written from a victim's and/or human point of view. Anne Rice had created a world through the eyes of vampires. I don't endorse psychopathic behavior but I think I've learned a little on how their minds work.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for commenting Kasnar . Read books by Kevin Dutton if you want to know more

[@jennefercameron5673]

Don’t psychopaths only do good deeds for something in return? They treat people like business transactions. “I did this for you so now you owe me” mentality. Him even saying “the longer you take to get your “return investment” the value of your good deed you did decreases over time” proves it. That’s manipulative. Psychopaths never do anything just for being nice. Psychopaths only ever do something nice when they want something from you.

[@zander1500]

@John Peckham I'm also a Phychopath, I killed 3 animals but truly regret it, I bully all my friends and I even poked one with a knife, I manipulate alot of people but yet I hate myself for it, I'm 14 and want to know how to stay as a functioning member of society, I'm scared, honestly, afraid of my future because all the media states that phychopath are murders and what if it becomes true, thats my biggest fear, please tell me if you haven't killed someone or can relate with me..

[@zander1500]

@John PeckhamIt's boy, but what can I do to remove all my murderous and negative thoughts and the media all states that I will never feel empathy and love, this tear me apart and makes me not want to live with that I will never wind love and love my children...

[@zander1500]

@John Peckham I cry every night because of all the bad things I did, I stole from and lie to my dad and enough though my mom makes the best of me I always makes te worst of her, this is what I need help with, being good, it feels impossible, but I can't confess all my secrets, I am afraid they wil disown me, how am I supposed to make th love me if I can love them truly, I can be sad and with no effort become natural, I wish I could be normal, it pains to say that but it's true, if I can't feel I don't want to live anymore.

[@zander1500]

@John Peckham I cry every night because of all the bad things I did, I stole from and lie to my dad and enough though my mom makes the best of me I always makes te worst of her, this is what I need help with, being good, it feels impossible, but I can't confess all my secrets, I am afraid they wil disown me, how am I supposed to make th love me if I can love them truly, I can be sad and with no effort become natural, I wish I could be normal, it pains to say that but it's true, if I can't feel I don't want to live anymore.

[@zander1500]

I'm afraid of becoming something that's not me, I know who I want to be but it's simply not possible for me! I JUST WANT TO BE NORMAL!

[@samtrader]

I don't think he is a psychopath. He is just a rational person

[@umeshsoman]

Whoa!! Love this amazing provoking and thought provoking video! Dharmendra, you sir, are one of the most amazing speakers I have seen on TEDx 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for your understated review of my talk Umesh !

[@Sironil]

ok, he lost me at the point he said "I am a good psychopath" given the fact that narcissism is a crucial part of psychopathy. to clarify, a narcissist would be expected to say he's the good one. even when the reality is the opposite. that and positive traits of psychopathy are always presented as beneficial in very specific and simplified scenarios. try being a child of not even a full blown psychopath in the real world. little chance you'll become a mentally healthy adult. even if you don't inherit the genes

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for watching Sironil :)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

The talk is about good psychopaths . If a person inherits the traits of a good psychopath he may not be mentally healthy He could be mentally super healthy

[@anniestaes430]

i grew up under the regime of an anti social father.; there's a saying that goes : childeren often turn into the exact copy of their mom or dad.. but often they become exactly the opposite. Lucky for me i turned out to be an empath... only downside to it is that i attracted a whole bunch of psychopath friends and women... Never mind the icon, this ain't my account. I'm a 43y old guy.

[@MarioVesco]

I can't understand why narcissistic personality disorder gets confused with psychopathy all the time. There are psycopahts, narcissists and psychopathic-narcissist, with the latter being just a subset of the wider psychopaths group. So, no, narcissism is not a crucial part of psychopathy but it is of narcissistic-psychopathy.

[@anniestaes430]

depends on how we preceive narcissism. They surely aren't Always ego maniacs, but they all do show a tendency to think that their criteria upon which they form thoughts, actions and reactions are better then those of the people they compete with or in general. This is often why they attack other peoples criteria, which is a very dangerous and damaging assault. Our criteria by which we run our lives are very key to the quallity of our lives. Atleast this is my take on your question.

[@alex4423]

You cant self diagnose yourself as a psychopath, sociopath, or someone having aspd. Especially over a website. It doesn't matter who makes the website, it doesnt take a small portion of a day to be diagnosed. Even professionals can't diagnose someone as a psychopath, sociopath, or someone having aspd or borderline aspd traits in just a day.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Obviously you know better

[@alex4423]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap for someone who portrays himself as an intelligent person in this matter, you have such hostility towards everyone who disagrees with you in the comments. What a way to spend your time. How about research rather than dwell.

[@alex4423]

If you did your research rather than just wanting a diagnosis, you would know that nothing I said was opinionated. You're clearly just wanting negative attention for whatever reason. You're wanting a diagnosis. You are not a psychopath. Just watching your videos I'd be able to conclude such a heinous statement.

[@psychopathdave7393]

That's kind of funny. I have 7 diagnoses here from the US Dept of Justice, FBI, NSA, as well as 3 state prisons and 1 from Dr. Robert Hare himself. I have turned down interviews from TLC, FoxNews, TedX and more. I can't even assume to know your intelligence level, but I would suspect it is around average from your language and commenting. I am one of the most diagnosed psychopaths in the world, with scientific studies written about me. You have failed to state even a suitable aspect of why you are in disagreement with what has been said here.

[@AnjuArunMatta]

Amazing Dharmender..

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for your enduring support Anju !

[@bebeezra]

Thank you for the talk. Enjoyed it. However, the quote from the JOKER is, "I'm not a *monster*, I'm just ahead of the curve."... not pyscopath.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

" inspired "

[@nouveaxriche5595]

He made it PG, not PG-13, for the crowd.

[@______-795]

Well I scored higher than the average on the psychopathy test but yes I agree most psychopaths are successful because they are usually ruthless and cool under pressure unlike the rest

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you 😊

[@______-795]

But most psychopaths (like me) often feel remorse and guilt if their actions are not justified (to them)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@______-795 That s exactly what makes you a good person . A bad psychopath never feels remorse - ever

[@______-795]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap well most psychopaths maybe even you are mild psychopaths which makes us very different from what people think of us

[@______-795]

We do not want to kill anyone or even hurt others without a cause

[@esnutaliah]

I need to watch this every day :D

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Esnutaliah :)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Which part specifically ?

[@leticiapalomimo6704]

Yeah me 2

[@yashrathi4147]

Great talk!

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Yash

[@RishiGangoly]

Good show buddy. Nice one.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Rishi Ex Apple & India's First Website Coach

[@Rasheens-Story]

Best explanation 👍🏽

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Girly Sheeny !

[@buffalosolider206]

Embracing chaos is important. I think this is what he means by “wasting food”

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Nope The talk is too short for sub text

[@mariazitkalasa323]

They may not kill but they are still dangerous. If you wouldn't want to be married to one then how can you say they are good? Studies show while they initially do good in business they end up harming it in the long run.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for watching Maria :)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

I think marriage is one of the most stupid concepts in the world & don't know how you have connected that with my talk. Could you clarify ?

[@LLCisyouandme]

Marriage is about commitment. It is about actual selflessness, not about what for the nonce might be portrayed as selfless. Businesses profit short term from leveraging their potential customers, inveigling them into abusive contracts, taking advantage. Long term, people learn.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Yay ! Almost 61 ,000 views !

[@polygloticious]

"Friendly" successful psychopath - that pretty much describes a person with narcissistic personality disorder. I guess that diagnoses doesn't sound cool enough for them.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Disorderly ppl see disorder everywhere

[@polygloticious]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap yep. This is exactly the answer I would expect from a pathological narc. "Friendliness" is faked when it comes to NPD.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

My 5 th TEDx Talk - Your Friendly Successful Psychopath - celebrates its 4 th Anniversary !

[@mentormags]

Very well delivered, 👏👌

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you !

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Yay 63 000 views!

[@daveh5625]

thank you comments below for saying what I was thinking...also,...the lack of empathy is lethal for a loving relationship.... Dave

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for watching Dave :)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

There are 2 types of empathy . Hot empathy - where someone feels what you are feeling . Cold empathy - where someone understands what you are feeling but does not feel what you are feeling . If you lose your leg in an accident what would you prefer your lover do at that time ? Capriole around like a headless Usain & be entirely useless & maybe dangerous to you Or would you prefer your lover to behave like Spock & urgently reduce your pain & take you to a doc immediately . Psychopaths are great at cold empathy

[@LLCisyouandme]

Understanding being the relative term. The practical reality is that what you're characterizing as "cold empathy" more often takes the form of "I see you respond particularly emotionally to X." When I want to elicit an emotional response in order to get what I want from you I'll do X. And you can count on that emotion being one of those that brings the most immediate results--a base emotion like hate or fear or sadness. Your entire scenario is couched in language that appeals to the non-narcissist. Psychopaths are not lovers, they are abusers. Spock (a fictional character) was not someone without empathy, he was someone who through rationality did not let it lead him to do the wrong thing, by his precept of "the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few." Psychopaths believe their needs outweigh *all other considerations.* If I lost my leg, I would not be counting on a psychopath to be able to disentangle himself from some selfish peccadillo to even recognize my distress.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

You are really poor at information processing if you think that after watching my talk

[@eufhoriacr2346]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap your talk is disinformative. Your main intention for this talk is to hide your psychopathy as a virtue, psychopaths are dangerous and can't be trustful you sound just like Donald Trump and he is a psychopath.

[@jamielee2802]

You aint a phycopath bro

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Yippee ki-yay

[@michaelking9416]

You guys have no idea what you’re talking about

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Have the lambs stopped screaming Nep ?

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

You re not the head of the family Mikey

[@jordydrop]

psychopathy and psychopathic traits exist on a continuum. countries/regions have varying diagnostic criteria for psychopathy. to observe someone as a "psychopath" or "not a psychopath" assumes an arbitrary set of definitions and diagnostic criteria. there's a distinction between factor 1 psychopathy and factor 2 psychopathy in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, which is used in USA.

[@wetelectronics238]

Grandiosity and transactional view of relationships

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

To grandiosity I 'd like to quote Sir Doyle " I cannot agree with those who rank modesty among the virtues "

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

About the other thing - there are no non transactional views of relationships . Want to understand this deeper ? I could send you a blog article based on research

[@cutecats1368]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap Than you are oposed to the Christian believe too. I don't state it as a critique but as a matter of fact.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Happy 5 th Birthday to the world's first TEDx Talk on the concept of a good psychopath !

[@Kometheus]

Cringe bag

[@gurneetsingh6284]

Nice

[@leticiapalomimo6704]

I wondered a good psychopath can be a empathy person?

[@Brandedtrust]

0:29 -“Aren’t psychopaths supposed to be bad people”. Can’t that be said of all people. At least that’s what certain religious and legal structures would have you believe.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Believe rational stuff or irrational stuff . One man cannot serve 2 mistresses . If you believe in irrational stuff I m not the speaker for you

[@Jack-xb5ew]

When people see dying people half way across the world on a tv commercial they might say some words to reflect their sadness but thats because of how we have been raised. In our hearts most of us dont care about others wellbeing unless their close. If we did a poll in the UK and asked to choose between having no mobile phones or internet unless strictly for work or saving 1 billion people in a foreign country.. what would the true answer be and not the fake answer we would give in front of others. We are all 2 faced if things were taken into action. We are animals, remember that!

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Yay 62 000 views!

[@jyotbirlamba]

Boom. Mind = Blown

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Jyotbir

[@TheKarizzable]

What's with all of those creepy replies he's been posting. Also the audio is skipping.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Perception is projection

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Almost 5 7 0 0 0 views on 28 th Mar 2022 ! Thank you all !

[@Rasheens-Story]

You said it💯

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Girly

[@faizaarshad9132]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap are you a psychopath? Not tryna be rude just asking

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@faizaarshad9132 answer in the video

[@faizaarshad9132]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap Oki

[@faizaarshad9132]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap IAM SO CONFUSED MY BRAIN ISNT WORKINg just tell are u Or are u Notttt

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

5 6 0 0 0 views crossed as of 3 rd Feb 2022 ! Thank you all !

[@dagnos6914]

I am a highly sensitive empath who can do many things at once because I have a greater capacity to use the sensitivities of my body, neurological system, and brain in tandem with cognitive awareness and motor skill. He says that you can not really do more than one thing at once. In my experience developing myself with my heightened abilities, that is not the entire truth. Some tasks DO require switching when they require laser concentration but there are often times when I am using two hands in tandem for two different tasks at the very same time and do them well. i think this is a case of the speaker being limited in his understanding of the expansive ways a person can map themselves and condition themselves to be ambidextrous in both motor skill and in multitasking.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Science defines multi tasking as doing more than one thing at one time that requires conscious attention . If you say you can do this you can offer yourself to scientific scrutiny at the nearest neuroscience college

[@schonlingg.wunderbar2985]

If you divide X by Y>1 the result will be a fraction of X.

[@Isochest]

Hahaha! What an impossible concept! They are not even friendly to themselves in the long run. And "success" is subjective. Perhaps in the destruction of others and ultimately themselves. Martha Stout has summed them up.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for commenting

[@joemuis23]

has it been proven that psychopaths pass on their traits. also even if they do what's a negative message going to do in a british culture. english is shame based. positivism is required to survive in this language.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

5 5 0 0 0 views crossed as of 5 th Nov 2021 ! Thank you all !

[@grecogreco4]

This guy: Multi-tasking is very bad. Me: Drawing while watching this video.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Multi tasking is not bad . Multi tasking does not exist in humans . Attempting to multi task is to go down the Trump road

[@raraavis7782]

Lmao - only a psychopath could think that overeating can be cured that easily! Seriously though, this talk was...quite thought provoking. And while I do appreciate the points you're making... isn't your giving advice to 'normal' people a little like a cat advising a bunch of dogs? I mean, we are what we are...and we tend to act accordingly. I do wonder though, why you choose to 'out' yourself as a psychopath? I mean, you can't have done it because your (presumably nonexistent) consciousness told you to. Are the advantages of volunteering to join the 'freakshow' (so to speak, and I mean no disrespect here) outweigh the disadvantage of people being aware of your condition (which must surely make it harder to manipulate or take advantage)? It would seem to me, that a true psychopath (even one acting within the confines of the law) would want to avoid detection at all cost. I wish your talk had been about that...it would have been far more interesting than the things you did point out - which weren't exactly groundbreaking news to anyone watching TedTalks for a while.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Hi Rara Avis , Thank you for watching my talk :)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

I did'nt say it was easy . If it was, so many blubbers would not congest the planet

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

" love me for what I am " - famous last words ?

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Think Tony Stark over Bruce Wayne

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Disagree. Which other TEDx talk / s mention all my points ?

[@Jack-xb5ew]

Here in England, most people are forced into public education which is basically a cage of distraction and "multitasking". Then they give you homework to do at home every night which is switching constantly. Forced to be non pychopaths by the government cba

[@bm-ub6zc]

Dear Mr Rai, I think your advice is all good, but I highly doubt you're a psychopath. You seem too proud of it. Those psychopaths I've met in my life don't care about being psychopaths.

[@elierreyes9287]

Pro social psychopathy is different

[@whitetownent]

Yes I agree all people with disorders are the same and basically don't differ ever. Great point!!

[@Kometheus]

@@whitetownent He actually did make a good point. Maybe you just don't get what he was trying to say.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

I m smarter hence my behaviour is different

[@GamesCooky]

I'm very interested in these psychopaths who aren't criminals. I can't help correlate psychopathy with criminal behavior. It's always going to be a challenge distinguishing those with psychopathic traits, and those who are using psychopathy to gain attention. In most cases, i don't think there's any reason for a psychopath to admit he is a psychopath. This is just due to how tainted the word has become. I have seen people admit to psychopathy that i do believe to be right. But even so, it's hard to say. It's important to look at the few cognitive deficits of psychopathy. Asking them about what they feel, and what they don't feel. Asking them to describe certain emotional responses. What is their view on other people's emotions. And listen to their tone of voice as they're talking. You should be able to tell that something is a bit off. Atleast in some cases. Listen for a monotone voice that lacks much depth in it's tone. A so called disconnect between what the person is saying, and feeling while saying it. If a person is just talking with the same tone pitch throughout the whole sentences, then perhaps he's got some emotional deficits. I don't think this guy is a "full blown" psychopath. But it's very easy for anyone to adopt certain psychopathic traits into their lifestyle. What i'm not detecting is the shallow affect. Shallow affect is thought to be part of the genetic component of psychopathy. Also, he took one test and self diagnosed himself based on that. It takes more than that to get a proper diagnosis.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Wow ! Crossed 5 9 0 0 0 views !

[@shantanu6640]

Is it possible to meet you someday?

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Wow ! Close to 58 000 views !

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Wooooow ! Very close to 10,000 organic views !

[@youwhatmadeidk]

Dharmendra Rai better than the pesticide ridden ones!

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Thank you Mikey !

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Wooooooow ! 5,000 organic views ! Imagine me laughing like the Joker !

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53,000 views crossed as of 4 th July 2021 !

[@nupurnishant6911]

Focus Charm Ruthlessness Fearlessness Mental toughness Mindfulness Action 7 Deadly Wins from Kevin Dutton's Wisdom of Psychopaths.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

I beat Kevin to the Tedx plate😀

[@skepshark3843]

I just want to say that there are som many levels of psychopathy! Some people can have only a few trait but still be psychopathic! So yes, some psychopaths can feel feelings and feel guilt. Just remember, in the end; if you discriminate against a psycho. Your fear may come true. Unemotional people are just as dangerous as emotional ones

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

GrayContent thank you for your response. Psychopaths do not feel guilt

[@mysteryguy793]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap why do they like to manipulate others and never even appreciate anything others might to for them?

[@indi2468]

mysteryguy because they don’t feel emotions like regular people. They really couldn’t care less what you do for them.

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Wow ! Crossed 6 0 0 0 0 views !

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Almost 50,000 organic humble views !

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story on Netflix is a masterpiece . Appears to be very sincere to the real story

[@titussteenhuisen8864]

Maybe I am a good psychopath or just a victim of a bad one, I would be in favour to develop CRISPR treatment in a common virus as vector to reduce the number of people with this (serotonin) mutation Psychopaths always think they are good which in false they are a burden on society. We need a ‘treatment’ that is unavoidable random, just like this mutation is random.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Its good to keep thinking of cures . " Psychopaths always think they are good " is an absolutely wrong statement . Case in point Ed Kemper turned himself in . The police had utterly failed to nab him

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Woooooow ! Almost 25,000 views !

[@harryshepherd4232]

u a narc

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@harryshepherd4232 Thank you - blushing

[@ridayuliani8032]

as far as i know what we call with psychopathy (it's on ASPD group on DSM 5) caused by genetic, there's certain part of their brain that make them lacking empathy, oc that's just one of the traits and it has to be several traits come simultanously and continously to diagnose someone as psychopath, so if lacking empathy is the major part of a psychopath i think there's no good psychopath, bcs even they are very successful ppl, they get everything with a way that we might never want to do like "i'm gonna win the game no matter what, even if i have to break his leg", correct me if i'm wrong and sorry for my bad english

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

2 things here 1 ) Lack of warm empathy is just of one of the traits of psychopaths & 2 ) Reasons are genetic & environmental ie a bad childhood

[@goldfishon-steroids4946]

Lack of empathy wouldn’t make them bad, it’s what they do, most neural typical people aren’t good. A lot of people do bad things out of a mindset of scarcity

[@brianwalsh1401]

@@goldfishon-steroids4946 I disagree. I think most people try and be decent people but make mistakes sometimes based on the circumstances and definitely our upbringing. Healthy people can make sincere apologies and try and do better. If everyone acted like a narcissist or a sociopath the world would end pretty quickly. We are heading in that direction as more people become like that. Narcissists and sociopaths think everyone thinks like them. Just like I use to assume everyone thought like me and was a somewhat decent person. I WAS WRONG. Life experience has let me deal with many narcissists and sociopaths. They have been the worst experiences of my life and I'm lucky to still be around.

[@jaimerose9935]

the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. this is empathy. empathy isn't sympathy. it includes all types of being able to understand others feelings. Cognitive empathy and sympathy exist, and one can choose how to react, even if it isn't natural.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

54,000 views crossed as of 1 st Sep 2021 !

[@ThomasDoubting5]

Trust me they exist and they are widely becoming or have become social champions

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Joshua

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Wow It would be great if TED could send me a notification every time some one commented I m sorry for coming here after long Shall respond to all of you asap

[@lolboi2996]

Wow

[@SG-pc4sv]

Hello can you help me understand on what basis a bully picks a target in a workplace environment? Also what drives them to do this?

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@SG-pc4sv A garden variety bully would look at a physically weaker person A psychopath is an expert at finding a mentally weak person to attack . A normal bully has an agenda for bullying Like showing off his authority or to use people . A psychopath likes to bully because he is wired for it even though there may be no other practical benefit from it other than the enjoyment of bullying itself . Psychopaths feel compelled to dominate Very few movies portray psychopaths correctly Silence Of The Lambs did a very accurate depiction Lecter manages to bully Clarice from within a cage

[@SG-pc4sv]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap Thanks! The ones i am dealing with are cowards tho. I am not a physically or mentally weak person. However i am an empathetic person. Problem is these two guys are my direct superiors and they're sabotaging my work and that irritates me smh. HR is pathetic.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@SG-pc4sv All bullies are cowards Being a bully is an overcompensation

[@mariazitkalasa323]

How are they defining success?

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for watching Maria :)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Business success as it tends to be objective & quantitative

[@LLCisyouandme]

And tends to ignore damage done when it can count money taken in. The end justifying the means is a business mantra that would of course appeal to a narcissist. How many times have we seen the likes of the John Rigas of Adelphia notoriety, who built a successful business only later to defraud countless stockholders of $Billion+ in order to buy personal (subjective) stuff (objects) that pleased him. In his squirrely mind that was being "objective."

[@mehakkhurana6919]

He's just amazing.

[@nosoyhaternosoyhater1396]

Starting on 12:27 I can tell you all there is a better way. But hey, I'm in it for the long haul.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Famous last words

[@subhamsinghal5351]

Amazing 🌟

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Subham

[@chrisdaniels1970]

What is the name of the guy who you referred to being the great man of influence?

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

If you let me know at what time I mentioned it - it ll help Its probably Bob Cialdini

[@chrisdaniels1970]

Dharmendra Rai he was the only person you mentioned

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@chrisdaniels1970 I just spotted it It is Bob Cialdini . I mentioned more ppl like Kevin Dutton

[@chrisdaniels1970]

Dharmendra Rai I rewatched the video Yes it was bob thanks!!! Do you have an email ? I believe I have a story to share with you That is along this topic. Can probably use it in your case studies.. let me know.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@chrisdaniels1970 Wow my response has been deleted Search for my website by my name & send me a msg there I think mentioning emails here is verboten Such psychopaths !

[@notthat__notthis6788]

I don’t think this man is a psychopath I’m hear watching videos about personality disorders trying to figure out why I do the things I do repetitively and have traits of all the triad yet there’s important ones in each I don’t have I’m sure a internet test cannot self diagnose these pd I’m successful but want to understand why I have little to no remorse for hurting people I love whilst also wanting to look after the people I love but feel like I’m constantly having to remind myself to do it. I think if you really have a personality disorder like this you either stay hidden with no desire to change or seek therapy to understand and learn to how to control your urges to use people for gain without concern of the cost. Seeking therapy is very tricky as someone with these traits will try to manipulate it into a situation where they are told they are okay and then keep doing what they want. However if you understand it and really want to be a good person you don’t need to have empathy or remorse not to hurt people just understand that it’s not the right thing to do.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you for your input 😀

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Wow ! 44,544 organic views ! on Sun 24 th May 2020

[@leothehustler]

Im a good psychopath also,but when I play sports i go above the limits xd

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Stick to video games

[@faizaarshad9132]

I dont think theres something as "good psychopath" Psychopaths are manipulative Liars killers(not all) aggressive and lack empathy

[@leothehustler]

@@faizaarshad9132 bro this comment is from 2020 xd

[@faizaarshad9132]

@@leothehustler K and? That ain't funny

[@patrickbateman569]

Like I love myself and all and have a pretty big ego. And when someone does better than me or has something better than me I get annoyed and I want to hurt them. But I’m not a psychopath. At least I wouldn’t see myself as one. I’m just a narcissist nothing more

[@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807]

Good psychopaths. I've only dealt with the bad ones.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Then you have 'nt dealt with the best

[@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap LOL

[@cynthiaallen9225]

The BEST are ruthless.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Cyn !

[@kayaphus4303]

Psychopaths are secretly wise. If reality was a game, they are born with a cheat code knowing they're in the matrix...and exploit it. Everyone mocks psychopaths but secretly fantasizes they were one.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Damn right !

[@jarrodyuki7081]

i have no conscience or empathy.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Are you in Broadmoor?

[@kushalchugh3826]

Mind= blown (!!!!!!)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Thank you Kushal

[@lilypeterson7465]

Have anyone ever taken the hare test and got over 30?

[@psychopathdave7393]

As a 7x diagnosed type 1 aspd+p (psychopathy) by the US Dept of Justice, FBI and several mental health organizations, and turning down interviews from CNN, TedX, FoxNews, TLC, Dr. Phil, I can tell you, you CANNOT test yourself for psychopathy. Dharmendra Rai is a little different as he had already been diganosed. if you think you have psychopathy, go see a real psychiatrist, NOT a therapy counselor. I burned down a house at 7 years old just to see what burned bodies looked like. At 12 I strangled my neighbors dog and dissected it and properly labeled it. Why? I was bored.

[@lilypeterson7465]

PsychopathDave I have no intention of self testing.Don’t know how you came to that conclusion. I am not interested in what you’ve done. There are plenty of cases of misdiagnosis all time long, even by top doctors. Thank you for the information anyways. Btw, Watch your tone when you reply to any comments.

[@buffhotchkiss7400]

Oh stats the law of probability. If your not picky sure the more people you hit up.the more likely your going to pick up people. Your on talking quantity. You never factored quality in the equasion. Some are picky and on the border between illnesses.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Focus on both

[@8u773ts]

What if you don't want to return the favor? What if you never asked for the help? :-)

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Flaring , Thank you for your comment . If you don t want to return favours than dont . Be ready to lose the relationship . If you never asked for help then you are lying . Even Clark Kent needs help all the time !

[@UnitXification]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap What he meant was: What if he never asked YOU for help. Because of that he won't be afraid of losing the relationship.

[@bm-ub6zc]

Your advice lack nuance and subtlety. I highly doubt any successful psychopath would be so obvious in their manipulation.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

This is a Tedx talk Not a Bard talk 🙄

[@acreymundo]

This guy’s argument is, in my opinion, completely ludicrous.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Hi Ana, It is not my argument . Whatever I am saying is the product of very credible research

[@acreymundo]

Dharmendra Rai that may be the case. But as in most things, it’s the interpretation of the data that is the key. I know that people with no conscience are not bound by anything from doing whatever is in their best interest, even if it’s at others’ expense. I do agree that our fear-based, reward-driven society rewards the basest instincts such as domination and greed. Imagine wasting resources as a good recommendation, in pursuit of what? Perhaps you are a sociopath as you say.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@acreymundo Thank you for telling me about what ppl without a conscience can do but that s another topic - bad psycho or full formed psycho When did I say I am a sociopath ?

[@acreymundo]

Dharmendra Rai at 10 seconds into your talk. You said friendly, successful psychopath...

[@joemuis23]

@@acreymundo friendly and succesful dont meam all loving. it means jungle. if you are in the jungle you might want to gain allies. by negating a mans perspective you arent learning. for english to survive there'd need to be more racism towards foreign nations rather than former colonies. india could have been a prodigy but china was chosen and this is the result. also imagine the concept of face. if you lose face, you die socially. so how can this be accounted for when we are in identity politics for years now?

[@maidavranes6906]

You lost me after the self diagnosis.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Good one . There are not too many psycho detectors in Mumbai yet . Self reporting will have to do till then

[@UnitXification]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap There are clinical psychiatrists.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

@@UnitXification Not very many good ones in Mumbai

[@UnitXification]

@@DharmendraRaiMindMap How do you know?

[@katieandnick4113]

Psychopaths who know they are psychopaths do not tell people they are psychopaths. They certainly don’t do TED talks about being one. This guy is probably confused about what a psychopath is.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Yeah right

[@attheranch4876]

This guy sees himself as superior, ahead of the curve. Typical

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Nope I think I'm the stupidest man alive Keeps me hungry 😋

[@zachz699]

The announcement of the title was not nearly as edgy as he thought it was going to be lol

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Reallllllly ? What did you observe in terms of audience reaction IMMEDIATELY after I said it ?

[@maheshjejurkar9932]

Angrez.

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Sirf Angrezi bolte samay

[@richardhuntingmusic]

That’s hilarious that he self diagnosed himself. What is he a psychologist now that is trained to use DSM to diagnose people? Another thing is the poor choice of candidates for speeches causing propaganda You sir is a confused man, no offence that’s the reason I don’t watch all these TED talks because people can say whatever they want to persuade you even if it’s not true and these talks are usually not as academic as researches conducted at universities

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

Self diagnosis will have to do till a better , more viable & more accurate system is invented . I never said I diagnose people - It is obvious to anybody that you have tried to diagnose me . " Poor choice of candidates " is an ad hominem attack - a sure fire sign of intellectual impotence . If you can t attack a man's arguments - attack the man . " Confused man " - again an ad hominem attack with no logical reason . " People can say whatever they want to persuade you " - Wow ! Each & every thing I have said is backed by credible research I challenge you to prove that any part of my talk is definitely wrong . If you don t watch all these talks why did you see this one ? It is based on academic research - what makes you think its not . You sir are a terribly low IQ person - no offence - I love low IQ people - if it was 'nt for them I would not be a member of Mensa International

[@DharmendraRaiMindMap]

AMERICAN PSYCHO AMAZON REVIEW BY DHARMENDRA RAI 1 Star I m psycho about psychopaths . I saw American Psycho - was rather underwhelmed - yet picked up this book . I thought the inner dialogue would be more instructive & entertaining than the one in YOU . Gosh it was the total opposite . 400 pages of drivel ! So why did I not give it up ? Do I suffer from the sunk cost fallacy ? No . I like to read everything that may be significantly connected to psychopaths fiction & non fiction . That is my curse or blessing .If it is not yours don t waste your time with this book . The movie seemed to be going nowhere . It was like some guys just fooling around with a camera & probably on weed . But 2 things interested my 1 ) Chritian Bale did a fantastic job - his career best probably . I think he did BATEman far better than BATman ! I can never put Chris Nolan up there with David Fincher or Spielberg coz his sense of casting sucks but that s a story for another day . Fun fact BATMAN is mentioned on page 198 . Bale specially shines in the scenes where he has outbursts of anger - subtly - as in the biz card scene & loudly - as in the bum kill scenes 2 ) It was a refereshing take on psychopaths . Normally psychopath killers tend to be loners & not in high positions coz then they can kill undetected & also have time to do so . Here Pat is GQ personified . Also this is a dark comedy . Not dark enough & funny in very few scenes alas . But the scope was intriguing to me The author is the laziest one in the world . He just keeps desribing brand names over & over again . We get the point that this gent is brand obsessed, money obsessed , he 's a shallow scumbag et al . We don t need chapters that have more brands that a Cosmo magazine over & over again to get the point . At some points I literally felt he s done a copy paste . There are so many parts where he just drones on about the brands & objects in the room that there is a feeling of stagnation The Dry Clean scene is nother good one which one enjoys in the book because it is done very well in the movie It is a microscope held on to nothing . Magnifies nothing into more nothing & soon you feel nothing in your brain . There is no origin story as to why Pat became that way . Not a single other character is fleshed out . Its written in first person other than some switches in & out at the end trying to show the mental confusion in the character . Homeless people & women are victims . Whatever the message & story he could have done in it in under 200 pages . Brevity is the sould of wit , but the author alas is a twit ! I could go on but I have to leave . Dinner at Dorsia !