The Truth Behind Mixed Height Dating

Relationships aren’t always easy - especially when people start to question chemistry based on appearances alone. Welcome back to Raising Heights with Zach and Tori Roloff. This week we’re diving into the topic of dating in a mixed-height relationship.
With the pressure of public opinions, overcoming initial reactions and learning to ignore outside negativity, we talk about what it’s like to date someone who is different from you. Don’t let outside opinions keep you from your happiness - live and lead with open-mindedness, love and acceptance.
In this episode, we talk about:
💕 The truth about dating for mixed-height couples
💕 Winning over Tori’s dad (he did not approve at first)
💕 Zach’s struggle with PDA and why it was actually a good thing
💕 Why outside opinions do nothing but keep you from happiness
00:00 - Intro
04:07 - Running a marathon, fears, doubts, and encouragement from friends
08:34 - Children's sleep studies and recovery
12:34 - Parenting and child development
16:59 - Mixed height dating, with a focus on people with dwarfism
22:04 - Dating preferences and height
27:00 - Dating challenges and height differences
33:19 - Dating, disability, and identity
40:55 - Dating for people with dwarfism, emphasizing self-confidence and presentation
44:42 - Parenting and disability, friends play together despite height differences
49:07 - Relationships with a child with dwarfism
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[@LaneSims]

Zack has such a chill and even keel personality. Great husband qualities !

[@viccimauldin9786]

Yes but sometimes that type of attitude leaves a person felt not acknowledged or loved.

[@LaneSims]

@@viccimauldin9786 projecting much? Quite a dramatic response to me just commenting on him being chill.

[@user-si6qm8jr6v]

I think Zach’s parents never limited him and they did an amazing job of showing him an example of never quit attitude. I imagine y’all are doing the same for your kids. ❤

[@jennyt4624]

I have brain cancer and had a a massive stroke when they removed my first tumor leaving me permanently disabled, I then met my now husband who is also a stroke survivor and also has a birth defect/limb difference. We are a hot mess, but perfect for each other and have a beautiful love. Most people were supportive of our marriage, but there were a few sideways glances, we just ignored them.

[@ericaaubie860]

The two of them talking are so cute. They look like pro's at it. Love is on the inside. It does matter about your color, size, disability, weight; or height.

[@pamelaknecht441]

My granny always told me from the time I was little there’s a pair of shoes that fit every pair of feet, aren’t you glad your hubby and you found your perfect pair that fit!!

[@shannonking1096]

I love how authentic Zack is

[@shontaraduncan1880]

These two are so adorable together. They compliment each other so well.. you choose well Zackery. Because back in the day you couldn’t tell me you weren’t gonna be my husband😂😂😂. Tori thank you for bringing out the stud muffin in Zack. 🥰

[@taramc6794]

❤❤❤ spot on!

[@4tracey2inspire]

I want you to know how happy Zach and Tori upload day makes me!

[@amyannshipyor4096]

Height should not matter. Being honest, loyal, and caring is all that should matter. I am glad that you guys. Are so open and honest about your relationships and your life’s.

[@67mialee]

Don’t sell yourself short Tori!! You are a fellow runner, no matter what body you do it in ❤

[@dawnseely1013]

LOVE this so much! Zack - you missed your calling in not going into psychology/Christian counseling as a profession. THAT SAID, this podcast settles it! And Tori - you compliment Zack so well and I love hearing all of what you have to share! Just so good and real.

[@taramc6794]

I love it! He is great, who knows one day he may find his way there.

[@kathyallison2298]

Yes, they are young, and although busy, plenty of time to go back to school, should either choose to do.

[@shannonking1096]

I agree! Zack is so balanced

[@sonjaanderson6933]

I canot remember many men tall or short that have so much intelligence and understanding than Zach. This man is so knowledgeable and loving. I came to their podcast because of ‘little people, big world’ but now is loving Zach and Tori for the best podcast on KZbin. I also love the children and want to see them more often. This episode today was epic.

[@janetbirky1626]

Zach and Tori - if every child had parents like you two - wow!! The world would be such a better place!

[@heatherprator3185]

I have to say something to how much I respect y’all. The fact you keep toxic relationships out, good for you.

[@elizabethvaniterson2175]

Amy is the reason Zac. She gave ya'll tough love she gave ya'll true love.

[@zdhl30]

I appreciate you having this conversation. As a female with physical disability that has been in a relationship for 25 years, it's always been difficult and you spoke gospel when you said we already have to overcompensate to outshine the physical appearance. Especially for a girl. Especially within social circles and work. Much love to you and your family. 😊

[@user-dr6ne4nb7n]

It’s so nice to see Zach’s real personality verses a script from the show. You guys compliment each other very well.

[@dwilliamston5]

This was awesome!!!! Tori you got a good man and Zach you got a good woman. Love you guys!!!❤❤

[@shannen7917]

Something you touched on Tori resonated with me and I echo your sentiments. I almost wrote off my now husband when we first met because of his height (we’re actually the exact same height but I was used to dating taller guys). 27 beautiful years and 2 kids later, I think about that one brief moment and how I could have easily missed out on something amazing for such a truly meaningless reason. Obviously not the same as your experience, but it is something I have reflected on over time and completely agree with you on. This was a great episode and I thank you both for sharing it with us!

[@cathycastro731]

Zach definitely has the IT factor. You are both so relatable. Love you guys ❤

[@sharonsue441]

I just hope both of you realize how special you are as a couple and as two intelligent people speaking out to the rest of the country about your life and how you manage each step along the way. You are both great examples of what married couples should be and parents to very lucky children.. You both communicate well with each other and work out your problems, which is usually the number one reason couples do not stay together and fight all the time. Thank you again for being you.❤❤❤❤❤

[@TheReviewStudios]

Another great episode so many things I could comment on but I just want to say anyone who can't see how genuine your relationship is probably has their own issues to deal with.

[@outback7092]

As a 2yo, I had both tonsils and adenoids removed, 50yr later I can honestly say, I rarely suffer/suffered colds, flu, runny nose nor have I even had the recent 'cvd word' illness. ...yet. I'm glad I had them removed. She will be much healthier and 'head cleared' up, now. Really happy for the little angel ! xo

[@kathystanton1309]

I had my tonsils out when I was 10. Haven't ever had an earache or sore throat since. I'm 68.

[@Nurturing2]

Hurts my heart that height was even an issue. It’s all hurtful, whether it’s height, sex, etc. Ego is based in fear. The only thing real is love. ♥️❤️♥️

[@Sarah-Graham575]

I agree! Those that prejudge others whether it’s height, race or anything at all that differs from themselves DO miss out on so much in life. We learn & grow from ‘different’! An open mind is a learning active mind💪🏼💪🏾🧠🧠🧠

[@MamaBehr312]

Zach, your input regarding Jackson was so eye opening. I raised girls, but have mainly grandsons. Thank you for the wise words of not interfering with their interactions in play. Whether dealing with dwarfism or a child that's just different in some way this wisdom was priceless.

[@Kel642]

I just watched your series on TV for the FIRST time. I think your family is amazing, strong, smart, and able. We all have family issues, I certainly do. Early in the series I no longer saw Zach as disabled, only as short. Same with your relationship of each other. Very soon I stopped seeing the difference because your minds and souls blend so beautifully. You have a respect for each other, your children included, that so many families are lacking. Well done! Good luck in your run Tori.

[@user-si6qm8jr6v]

I love seeing y’all’s personalities through the podcast. You are both awesome. Zach is so different than the show. It has been so awesome to see that!

[@jillh.9617]

I love that you post so early in the morning 😀

[@hikeandsee7621]

Omg. The story of jay got me teary-eyed 😭😭 As a mom, I see what your friend wanted to do. But, I totally understand that you can't step in.

[@cynthiafritze7418]

Mixed height dating! That headline grabbed me.

[@chessyharris6200]

I can really relate to this post as someone who suffers from a physical disability. Thank you for sharing ❤ your family.

[@lindaplant1235]

Y'all are an amazing couple and I'm thankful for you sharing your faith and realness

[@SharonBrown-yn6fz]

My god to be told you shouldn’t be having kids is degrading and really disgusting to me, that’s not anyone’s business…….. why does someone have the nerve to say that. How dare they????? Tori and zach you two have the most gorgeous three kiddos and I love seeing them. Anyone can become disabled from sickness or accidents. So no enjoy life and to hell with them all.

[@Myeverydaywifelife]

People are terrible sometimes and not limited to their situation. People who have Like 6 or more kids are looked done on by others also. Ain’t no one’s business! I’ve even heard people look down on couples that decided not to have any kids. That their decision.

[@willj1598]

There are so many traits in prospective parents that are truly concerning, but some people think physical stature is important? Of all the Roloffs we are still able to observe, he seems like the most mature and level headed one.

[@Kimberly-zv7gr]

I’m a 5’6” mom and my son’s dad is 5’10”. He is 5’3” and was in the 5th percentile from birth. He is 34 now. My father was 6’3” and my brother is 6’5”. Height was a big deal in my family. But I worried but guess what? The world doesn’t care so I found out! There are places for EVERY HEIGHT! He ended up being a coxswain in his crew team and was successful in life. There was nothing to worry about. He is married now owns his own business has passions in life that is alllll that matters. My son was able to achieve satisfaction in his life and height just wasn’t an issue. Love and support is what babies need!

[@valeriefromoregon]

My son is 5’10 I’m 4’10 no one believes he’s my son .. people judge me wrong my whole life.

[@Kimberly-zv7gr]

I sorry for your pain and I was wrong to imply my son didn’t have lots of challenges with his height in life. I just thought it was going to be the end of the world for him and thank his the planet is a huge place with lots of opportunities to experience life and he was lucky to have managed a way through.

[@irenemichie3581]

You guys are hysterical and so transparent. That’s why I love following and listening to you. Keep up The great job!!

[@patvangordon1888]

Profound, helpful conversation at the end of this video for all Moms. We want so badly to teach our children to respect others. Zach's input was good to hear. You're a great husband and father, Zach, as is Tori a great wife and mother. You two were meant for one another. Great communication is the key to a fruitful and happy marriage. You two rock it.

[@donna.j]

Tori, your eyes sparkled when you were talking about the half-marathon. Keep it up!

[@jdaasa2011]

I love listening to you two talk about the issues of raising children. Thank you for sharing!

[@d2kizme1]

I literally died when Tori said “and a whale aproches you” and he’s just like “😮 no no NO”

[@taramc6794]

😂😂😂

[@carolc303]

Same! I was totally laughing out loud 😂

[@budgetwithrenay2419]

lol; yes; I couldn’t stop laughing!

[@melissalee1094]

Here to see how many times Tori says 100%. 🤪 But seriously... Love this podcast! You guys are doing great!

[@antishafloyd7032]

😂😂 I just noticed she says that a lot love it

[@Neverendinghappyland]

I’m so glad you guys talked about the ins and out of how it is to raise children with difference, gave me perspective on the child’s outlook. I have worked in a daycare for 10 years, I have 3 kids and I try to relate how I felt growing up with how I raise my kids, but its awesome to hear you guy’s stories on how you guys raise your kids and how Zach has experienced things growing up, helps to put kids and others with differences and disabilities into perspective.

[@brendaboyd2131]

I simply love you guys! You kill me with your open and honest shows! I wish more people were like you. Glad you and the kids are doing well!

[@amyworrell9563]

Your podcast is so inspiring. You are both so wise and seem like wonderful parents, and I love how you interact with each other. It’s so respectful and thoughtful. Love this podcast!!

[@maureenguichard7291]

What a great conversation! You two are such thoughtful and aware parents.

[@constructdestruct360]

You learn so much more with these podcast than you ever could with LPBW episodes. More substance here!

[@LearningLeadersGrowLiveGive]

Love boy/girl dynamics conversation. Soooo good about moms and boys!

[@elizabethcampbell1642]

Giving your kids agency skills is a gift. Loved this episode.

[@mightymouse2098]

Your love and family values means everything. I love your style and your beautiful family.

[@carolmorgan9228]

You guys are awesome. I enjoy your podcasts so much. Such an encouragement to other parents, and for me with grown children and grandkids, you give me hope for the younger generation. Thank you for sharing your lives and your faith. Y'all just rock!

[@MarisolGuadalupe-og8vs]

I love to see Zach so out of his shell from when he was younger. Love that you both have these talks to help me get it!!!! You both are such great people! God bless

[@redcreekfarm4305]

This is so insightful and helpful ❤ this was my fav podcast so far and I like it that yall talk over each other a little-you can tell yall are speaking to each other genuinely and for real, no scripts. Love that!

[@Samantha-wu5vn]

I love your podcast. You are both well-spoken, and you have educated me in every show. Thank you Zach, and Tori for allowing us viewers to be entertained by your views and comments, and Zach you have a natural comedic ability to make us laugh. 😊

[@marjolainejane1506]

And that Zack is pushing back politely when she interrupts.

[@kristineclark43]

I just love you both so much. The perfect amount of back and forth and you can just feel and see the love you share for each other and your children. Keep the podcast coming. ❤Kris 🇨🇦

[@Donna-gg4zo]

Thank you for discussing something many of us have wondered about in such an insightful, intelligent manner. Keep up the podcasts! Best thing I watched last night.

[@tammyhaynes9877]

Wow, what an informative episode! Zach had two awesome parents that were able to instill some valuable lessons in him. Torey does such a great job of listening and following his lead when it comes to parenting a dwarf son. You both are wise beyond your years and your kiddos are very fortunate to have you as their parents!

[@leahcravens9615]

My husband has cystic fibrosis and people say that he should not have kids. we could not have kids, but they say anyone creating someone that has to go through pain is wrong to do and I believe that is so false they bring something into the world and God loves them just the same.

[@arena2236]

My mom and I were waiting for the show to be back in TLC Latam. Finally. Seeing all of you is amazing, your family, your beautiful kids, we love you. Greetings from Colombia, South America.

[@steveddavis]

Great episode, thanks for sharing 👊

[@jcclfruitofthespirit]

I grew up with a dad that became a quadriplegic over time. Some would call that a disability. I grew up caring for him. Feeding him, changing him, bathing him... all of that. In my opinion, the only disability i saw in my dad was his anger. He had an anger problem all his life and he was terrifying.

[@merelialcaraz7351]

Aww I’m sorry 😢 Hopefully you’re in a better place now. ❤️ My dad is an alcoholic and we always tell him why can’t you just get drunk and leave us alone in peace!

[@budgetwithrenay2419]

Perfectly said!

[@Kathryn-qj4zc]

Great episode!!

[@maggieabrent]

Great learning here! Thank you for sharing your experience and advice for parents.

[@cabweirich2284]

One of your best podcasts!

[@dianaj3139]

Real Parenting stuff!! Nice conversation!

[@ninasimonetti4819]

This is the first of your podcast that i’ve listened to and i loved it and subscribed! Great playground story about Jackson, and kudos to Tori for listening to your instincts and just dealing with the discomfort. I love when Zach said (about a intervening on your kid’s behalf, or not) figure out if you are doing it just to make yourself feel better, and if so, don’t do it. Keep up that discipline to be intentional, self aware and great people and great parents!

[@marcialarue8357]

I've already seen your half marathon video! 😮 Luckily you did great! Congratulations! 🎉

[@msjdb723]

You guys are so refreshing. Whatever heights you were to be, you're both just loaded with positive personality. 👍🏻😍

[@pollyannaprinciple5860]

You two are such a wonderful couple. You seem like soulmates.

[@fionajocher2531]

My husband is 6ft. I am 4 ft 8. He met your Mom while on a night out with business colleagues on a business trip in Portland. He yold her about us.She was so nice to him. People can be unkind about height but your show taught me a lot. The best was one time when your Mom said about how difficult it is to hold things with small hands. I used to feel so clumsy now I look at how things fit in my hands. God has put you together. So you are made for each other. Thanks for continuing to teach me.

[@lfcatchall]

You guys are so cool please remember to cherish each other and cherish 💕 what you have. It's a blessing.

[@Tokeepmypromise]

Thanks for sharing your story! It's evident watching this that you both love each other very much!

[@mariasostre654]

Love watching these, I look forward to watching Ya'll every Thursday, God bless 🙏♥️

[@deanab64]

Great episode!! Love you guys. You crack me up when you both get the giggles ❤

[@user-yy1zo2dq2e]

What a great couple and a great couple of individuals. As a parent myself, I would be so proud that these were my kids, which I am sure theirs are!

[@shiloalsip22]

CONGRATULATIONS ON 100K!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@slomo1716]

Zach is my hero! He is a WONDERFUL BRILLIANT MAN who was so lucky to find Tori Both are so adorable and I love their common sense about love, relationships and marriage!

[@wendyluvsgod4473]

Love hearing you two laugh together. Great show, very thought provoking. One of the harshest realities for me growing up is that life is not fair. No matter who you are. Yet I was raised with adults around me seeking to make everything “fair.” Long term this can create expectations that are too high & contribute to entitlement & a possibly controlling nature.

[@ninajustice9535]

Another great podcast 🤗 I've never knew how amazing some podcast are, this is the only one I even watch every Thursday I'm tuned in.

[@blessedtruckerswife5172]

One of my favorite episodes!!! Love y'all

[@PrettyNpetty86]

Absolutely great podcast ! loved every topic you touched on. i am 4’11 now disabled from work injury. i still have more confidence now because i am cautious of my surroundings but won’t ever show it.

[@DawnShipley1977]

I am glad you made it through the 1/2 marathon. It is something I could never do.

[@juliepiggott7331]

Another great episode, you guys are the best ❤

[@ljvargas1058]

I love your podcast(s) and have learned so much from your honest conversation(s) with each other. I can see the love ❤ you have for each other.

[@mscarlarn]

I so love watching you channel. You two are such good parents! My kids are grown-I don’t need parenting advice. But love watching and listening to yours. You both have your stuff together and are so good with your kids. Strong work!!! Xoxo

[@samanthaclothier8581]

I loved this episode. ❤ Great topic!

[@patjones5723]

Ty for VERY informative content!!! ❤

[@jean1644]

U guys are so thoughtful & smart!! ❤️💯

[@roseannsnow3410]

I sure enjoyed this podcast..you guys made me laugh and then I realized because I laughed out loud how into the conversation I was..keep up the good work!! ❤️

[@jllannoo]

I tried doing a one month walking challenge, was doing great but then I spent lower back in the last week. Causes me to pause but now that I’m recovered back at it even though the challenge has ended. Anything is possible. Keep pushing forward.

[@karencompton4851]

You two are so insightful about raising kids. It’s very unusual for younger parents. It’s very refreshing to see parents that don’t fix all their kids problems and let them work it out. You should be so proud of yourselves.

[@jscasecase471]

I love listening to your convos. You are so down to earth. God made you for him and him for you. There is no one else who has a say. Keep up the great convos.

[@BOBBIEKARNIEWICZ-pw1he]

I Love y’all so much!!! Enjoyed this episode very much ❤

[@jackielavelle7974]

Great episode ~ 💕

[@lisabrear3989]

This has been my fav. episode, particularly your last topic. My son relies on a wheelchair for mobility and there are not too many young kids in that situation. A lot of learning on how to navigate inclusion! He has a magnetic personality which draws people to him. He is 17 now, but when he was in grade 5/6 many of his friends fell away, because many kids are more concerned about out how they look and who they associate with. His friends through high school have been kids who are mature and GET IT! And while that was hard to watch back then, it had to happen naturally. Your children will attract those with good character and the test of time will tell who those friends are. My son’s favourite thing to do is play on an adult wheelchair rugby team and the people he plays with are of exceptional character. It is amazing to see! Trying hard to step back and let life happen!

[@heatherklick3667]

Have watched Zach and his family since forever. I guess I just accept you as you are. You are not disabled. You Zach are just you. So happy I finally get to hear your views and your REAL personality! Thank you both for having this podcast. 😊

[@jean1644]

What an awesome podcast!! ❤️💯

[@knan75]

I love to see the wisdom you show as parents! ❤

[@user-vl1pl2cj7l]

I love this new show. The format, the topics, the presentation. One suggestion……let Zack finish his thoughts when he is speaking. Looking forward to the next one!

[@marisolcarrasco8346]

You both are so amazing as a couple and as individuals. I am so happy that you have a podcast. I learn a lot about topics I am not very familiar with and it teaches me something new all the time. Stay blessed you two.

[@autumtear702]

so so soooooooo excellent....alwaysssssssssss acknowledged that.....Zak and Tori have always had their shit together..BRAVOOOOOOOOO

[@libbyhull3884]

I am a fan…of you both,since you were kids! Loved this❤️

[@pattylajeunesse2787]

I truly enjoy listening to your Peak and pit on You Tube. Keep up the good work.

[@juliajones2283]

Very interesting conversation. I feel it got to be a bit of a therapy session for you both too which was good. Xx

[@heidiharmon6678]

I’ve been watching you guys since the beginning and love you and your family so much! ❤