Very useful prespective for me to incorporate in my therapeutic journey

David, I'm a poor guy from Brazil, but I would pay 9000 USD in a blink of eye for your program. I'm saving money to buy your platinum partnership program - the lifetime access one. Thank so much for your work

Would be really cool if you released a philosophy course

David, I am reading the book attached by Levine and Heller, on attachment theory. In it the authors state that if your anxious you should make it very clear to your partner what needs you have. How is this reconciled with your teachings of having to meet your own needs and the IFS "kitchen model"?

Hi, David. I suffer from severy anxiety and I'm thinking about buying the Emotional mastery program. Will it work for me?

Only 4 spots??? Will definitely be keeping an eye out for the next vid😅

Thanks for sharing this beautiful exercise! I actually cried and it felt really good and relieving! Here's my (impefect, but as spontaneous and honest as I could): Warrior: take action; Wizard: don't seek external validation; Lover: love comes from the inside; Sovereign: be present everyday.

Hii David, the background music is pretty loud in comparison to the narration, could you lower it in the next video?

Very profound sad brought back lots of memories and insights. I was doing my detox tea ,as had others things I was doing n not really listening . Will do properly latter thanks David

Hi David, Would you say that the unhealed are "inauthentic"? Thank you!!!! And also there are gurus that say that relational wounds cannot be solved outside the context of a relationship, would you agree?

"Helping hundreds of thousands of people, from over 87 countries" Never gets old 🙌🏾

isn't attiude everything ? in a relationship ?

The audio wasn’t clear- What was the book title he mention? Something about what woman want

its funny how you often make topics that fits with whats going on in my life right now and messages that I need to hear just at this moment. The endless matches on tinder leading me nowhere is a big issue for me now

I hope you continue to make podcasts, whatever topic you decide is best. Been following since the Man Up Show days!

Great Podcast David. Much respect. ✊

Activities activities activities... What if one is a homebody who likes debating on the internet or something

Don't beat around the bush, . ..get to the point. Else you are boring.

Hi David, could you make a video about wade wilson? This topic is very interesting how a lot of women react to this men. A murder treated like a rockstar.

Needs more views!!

Greetings from Brazil!! Thank you very much for this excellent podcast!! The information you provide here is life-changing for all the men who are trying to get to their best version as socially intelligent persons.

David, in my experience, many men go to therapy however they don't change. Including mental health professionals. Ive heard hyper masculine men say they hate change and project " the tough guy, facade." (Identify with being an Alpha Male.) Have you ever listened to Ken Reid ( clinican)? Curious about your option of him.

Excellent podcast, David. A great definition. Thank you!

I can see this not lasting long term. But it is funny.

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This was amazing thank you Dr. Tian.

21:39 The well analogy is really good. I look forward to be able to overflow with love and fun so I can also share it with other people, rather than trying to get people to fulfill me out of my own neediness, which affected not only my love life but social life as well. But these episodes always remind to focus on the therapeutic process and in time I'll understand and take of these parts of mine so that they can have their needs met and take on healthier roles!

For a long time I thought to be authentic is to be rigid and stick to some of parts. Util I met David and understood there is high self, I was so afraid to live my shadowed parts and fearful I would be rejected by people.

Back in the day, there was David D'Angelo's Cocky Comedy and Allen Roger Curries Mode One that really helped me. Then a bit later there was Mark Manson's Models. Although also from back in the day there was Julien Blanc whose pickup career fell apart but now teaches more shadow work stuff and working on yourself rather than pick up. But yes, if anyone is telling you to take red, black or any other pills, run!

Great episode, I really appreciate this one. Thanks David!

WOW! What a great episode!

Lovely episode!

Great video

I'd like to think that many men (honestly probably a bit more than women) are being delusional about their struggles. Delusional in a way because their true feelings are berried behind deep layers of shame and other layers of protectors that wants them to remain stoic and "strong". Going to a regular psychologist may just strengthen their inner critic like it did to me. Getting help from pickup and dating coaches worsened it even more because they tried to make me ignore my more vulnerable and submissive parts. IFS taught me that there are no part that are completely bad or unacceptable. No parts of mine were formed to harm me or others. Prior to that I was not aware that I was running away from a lot of deep pain and just distracting myself via finger pointing and ego based achievements. Didn't matter how many self help books I read either, they didn't help me to read myself, my managers parts included. The therapeutic process of IFS as well as several somatic focused exercises and therapies have cracked open a lot of those overprotective layers of mine. Even though I still stumble a bit some days, I get up again quicker and am not self sabotating like I used to.

24:02 It also seems natural to me that seeking information and understanding of the process like in your podcast would help your protector parts "give in" or relax more naturally than going "blind" for therapy. Not that it would replace a good therapist working with your protector parts first, but I guess it would help.

Cope harder

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Wow❤ Props to Leon man, to open up like that. Mad respect to him!! This was a very insightful episode as it showed the concepts that you have covered in other episodes and psychotherapy in real life and how we can navigate it. This really shows how we can go about our neediness. Thanks for this one David! Respect to Leon!

Hey that took some balls to do open up on a public platform thanks for sharing Leon I identify with a few things you said , and David Thanks 👍👍

What, married people are supposed to have sex???

Thanks David. Familiar with Shinzen Young's work?

Another great episode David. Since you been mentioning the therapeutic process and different psychotherapy models in many of your episodes, I would love to hear your thoughts on Bruce Eckers work on Memory Reconsolidation, Coherence therapy or his book Unlocking the Emotional Brain if you are familiar with it...

Fantastic talk yet again David. You once again hit the nail on the head with so many of your points! So many people want the dopamine hits these days and seemingly loose their ability to feel good in the moment and about themselves (and I guess serotonin enhancing activities and mindsets) due to goal oriented manager parts running the show. As prof Sam Vaknin pointed out, that it's better to be intrinsicly motivated by the joy of doing something rather than extrinsicly motivation by achievement chasing.

Hi David, I am really struggling with this idea you focused on here and in the previous episode with unconditional love. Surely there are limits and balance to it no? It makes me wonder if you in your head speak to yourself and your typical clients, because that would create bias, as your clients probably are high achievers from business world (I imagine they buy courses and therapy more readily). This would mean you just want to set the balance straight for them and push them in the unconditional direction. But ... let's say you have someone who didn't achieve much, or "fell of the train" hard and lost almost everything, battles depression and struggles with discipline. It's not right they deserve love only as they were born so to speak no? Or it's not about deserving, but they need to have some capacity to take care of their partner no? And I don't mean financially necessarily, but mental energy and capacity to care for someone. So, shouldn't you be saying more something about balanced approach? That achievements have hard diminishing returns pretty quick, but, the core stability and strength man can build is pretty important no? I get your message, but find it hard to accept as you don't draw the line. Women will want basicaly functional man no? And probably most of them will want at least slightly above average successful man. No? Could you differentiate between being functional and being achiever somehow? If one fell to the bottom and wants to climb back, which is it? Being functional or achiever?

After we broke up she kept calling me a month later she isn't trying to hangout now she says she has no urge. My answer was please don't call me unless u want to see me. Why would I sit here and go back and forth with someone who wants a phone buddy or has low interest with me ? She loves me but isn't in love me with me. She's basically friendzonin me in her own way. It's not forcing its called self respect I don't want friendship so I'm walking away

Sometimes I meet people who when talking to them I feel “warm” and positive, and I notice other people tend to smile at them or open up to them them, but when I talk to people I feel like I am draining and it’s almost like there is a invisible wall between me and som people I interact with, can you make an episode on how to be more like former or what exactly causes this.

I’d love to share this with one of my brothers but he’s so uptight I feel it would backfire on me.

really good episode David, thanks