My biggest concern right now is music. I use Spotify and don’t want to have to download a bunch of music and load it onto a phone. Anyone have any suggestions?

Thank you so much for this video Charlie. I was diagnosed aged 56 just before Christmas and have felt horribly overwhelmed with a multitude of emotions. Your video has voiced exactly my experience which has been so comforting. It also resonates with why I felt so angry towards my father who throughout my life has minimised and dismissed my own experiences and voice. He has now done this with my diagnosis. But this time I have more clarity. Now that I have navigated the intensity of the Christmas period, I hope I will be able to start processing. Your video has been the companion I had needed over the last 10 days. Thank you .

I call bullshit.

I discovered my new specialness right around the time my student loan deferral elapsed.

I relate to this so much and am longing for the benefits of the flip phone that you laid out. I'm now looking forward to making the switch for 2025 and watching more videos to see how to make it practical. Love this!!

This is one of the most relatable videos, that I’ve watched in a long time. I’m about to be 35 and for the first time ever my Dr. has mentioned autism to me in the last month. it explains so much. it makes me feel so much despair, but watching your video has made me feel less alone.

What you said about getting in sticky situations and not being safe hit home hard. I am 62 years old, never diagnosed (self diagnosed in October 2023), and by this time in life, there is no one left but predators. I still don't recognize them until it is too late. They come in the way of "support" or "help" but they mean to do neither.

i love your videos, i relate a lot about everything you said here, im thinking about getting a flip phone, but im mostly worried about apps to pay or uber, and how i would manage. Also perhaps you could have a community manager or someone who helps you with social media, like you create and record the videos and they’ll post it, so you won’t be so overwhelmed! Thank you for this video, i often feel like nobody gets this, all my close friends seem fine with social media but for me is so deteriorating to my health, it’s exhausting. Wish you the best on your journey

😊Reduce Distraction,,, 😊Start Acting... 😊Stick to it...Practicing .. Thank you My Dear... Loves...

My negative self talk tends to happen when someone (usually my wife) ignores my concerns or feelings or an accommodation I have asked for hundreds or thousands of times. My brain then latches onto the pattern of times where I have been ignored or unappreciated throughout my life. Then the negative self talk tells me that nobody ever appreciates me, my opinions and feelings never matter, etc. In those moments, my brain forgets about the times when I have been appreciated, or when my opinions or feelings were taken seriously. I'm sometimes able to cut off the negativity mid-sentence, but rarely. I haven't yet been able to challenge the truth of those negative self statements (especially the "never" part) in the moment. When I'm in the middle of those negative thoughts, it feels useless (or even harmful) to point out to others that I'm feeling ignored or unappreciated. And when those negative thoughts have passed, it feels too late and too confrontational to bring up what happened and how it made me feel. The rational part of my brain says I should say something about it, in case they didn't realize what they were doing (or the effect it was having on me), but the fear of confrontation is far stronger.

Did you say procreate is FREE??? In the US it’s like $6-$13 (iPhone vs iPad versions)

Never made a resolution. Never will. Contentment is key. Cool onesie 😎👍🏻

This is a great idea 😀 it's like a treasure box for when you feel bored. I love it

OMG that's such a good idea 🤯 I have some stim toys just out of reach and that's it, I end up just scrolling forever instead. Sometimes I crochet but then that's the main activity and TV/movie is purely in the background

Resolutions are for suckers!

I absolutely love this!!! Radically loving and accepting myself is a wonderful goal to have for this coming year. I have spent my entire life trying to "fix me" or "heal me" or become "better". And I am frankly tired. So, to rest and relax into a space of full on loving myself as I am. Is a beautiful space to be!

:~) awesome

I feel you! I used to make a bunch of new year's resolutions every year and would really want to "complete" them, a lot of them were usually relating to routines with hygiene and hobbies and drinking water... there would always be an effort to do them several times throughout the months with new approaches, new systems, but nothing would ever stick, because I thought consistency = perfection. Once I learned I was autistic, and once I went through a tumultuous time earlier this year lol, I had no choice but to work on myself with these goals in mind, but at my own pace, making sure I had grace for myself. These goals I had were things I'd wanted to do for years consistently, like brushing teeth twice a day and showering more than once a week. I had to physically write out lists and check them off every day, along with affirmations to set my intention for the day. Since then I've moved to a lovely app called Finch for my goals, but I only moved digitally when I knew I could handle it (as sometimes in the past I would forget to look at my to do list). I've been developing things to fall back on, like having three set days a week to shower but if I feel unable to do it on my scheduled day, I can do it tomorrow, or brushing teeth any hour of the day, allowing myself to pace around which helps with the sensory aspects of it. And I'm not perfect, I never will be, I'm only but a person, I forget to eat here and there and don't always drink all my water, but I think what's helped me get to where I am now is giving myself more time and space to work on these goals. Understanding where I'm at can help a lot because I meet myself there, give myself just the right amount of pressure to do something for my health, and accommodating where it's needed! Also just resting in general creative rest singing painting sleeping early etc that helps me bunches I didn't mean for this to get so long I hope it helps someone maybe

Interesting! I didn't think of these goals as ways to improve me, but to improve my life. Usually they are about trying new ways to support myself, sometimes they are about keeping up a habit that I liked in this year. This could be something for you too? Like, to look for things you are grateful for or proud of and decide you want to continue doing it❤ And I really liked the video of howToAdhd about how to think of succeeding vs failing and what paths to choose when you are overwhelmed. Not adding new things is a key concept there as well 💪🏻

Someone Bring back the Flip-phone era😩... My Mum had the Nokia Slide phone, Papa had the Keypad phones but NOT A SINGLE Flip-Phone came into my family & I couldn't say anything bc I was a Child & 14-15 yrs ago Children were Not allowed to have personal digital tech(idk about other countries but in India🇮🇳, Indian parents strictly prohibited technology in Children's hand... No tech in hands before age 18)

It's difficult because most likely your mind didn't consider your home to be a safe place when you were young. Therefore a lot less points of reference

I’m being diagnosed, along with gifted mind and severe ADHD. I’m just starting my unmasking as well. Just want to send you my love ❤

WhatsApp is ending support for Kaios phones

Thanks so much for this! AM looking at this exact phone and it was a perfect summary for me! Not sure you actually need to put your SIM into the old phone for banking as that's all on wifi?! But I may be wrong...

Very scary how people nowadays are so dependant on technology. It's like we don't wanna let out brains to do the thinking anymore. The figuring out life anymore that we need a device on us 24/7 to do all that. 😣Smartphones - Stupid people.

cutecutepebble! and perfect jeanshadenpocket omg! vibes: green on a jean!

Be careful chewing too much gum friends, it can cause some gastric problems 🤗

I work in a bar which obviously can be very overstimulating as an audhd-er, so I'm trying to figure out as many of these "sneaky" soothing habits as possible! I've got a growing collection of different flavoured gums because it's such an easy go-to. I love the clenching fists idea too, will try that. A good shake around/wrist flapping in the privacy of the bathroom helps me out too.

Im using spin the wheel it gamifies decisions so i can trick my brain into thinking "this is fuuuuurn" 😝

Oooof that hit hard

I totally hacked myself with the kettle re-boils by getting a whistling stove top kettle, i can not ignore or forget about a screaming appliance 🤣

Oh I already do some of these😮

When in public and in a bathroom you mostly do NOT want to inhale deep in there 😂 The other tips are great 👍

I misread the bathroom one as 'Deep Cleaning in Bathroom' and I was like yea, cleaning does make me feel better ToT my brain

Bathrooms are too busy. Highly recommend the sewing/craft area of the store has one. Much quieter and usually in the back corner of the store.

I do the rocking/swaying one and the finger tappy !! I also will tense and release different muscles like the hand thing but it's usually moving like my knee caps up and down? :3 I could mention more things I do but they're not all subtle !! :)))

I already did all of them, and can say: all of them work. And some of them I don't even do inside pockets. Just be free. What can they do if you aren't masking?

I always did the hand counting and fist ones! Never knew it was doing this!

I finger tap, and sway a lot lol also gum

Omh the chewing gum flavor! I love that flavor so much!

I've been having a similar realization lately - I actually thought I was being nicer to myself, but then caught myself hauling out the same old lines I used to beat myself up with. A hard habit to break - I like your idea of recording yourself so you can actually hear what's coming out of your mouth!

Just don't deep breathe in the wrong bathroom...

I already do all of these, got anything with more of a kick? (Good video btw)

Thank you for these, I could really use them

Didn't realized I had already doing a few things on my own...huh 😅

I should get some gum and stop biting my cheeks 😅

Chew gum? Dont you mean chew the inside of my mouth :'']

Item in pocket, clenching and unclenching, and deep breaths. Done all of those, but didn’t know what they were doing except that I felt better

I do a lot of those already, but I've never tried finger tapping before thanks for the tip !

Thank you for sharing your journey with this. I no longer use short form social media, and dont plan on going back to it, I prefer long form for sure😊