I have really low eq so I appreciate these pods. I hope they continue

Watching my niece whose Chinese with her tiger mom and it’s difficult to see the insane pressure and expectations put on her, lack of emotional availability and love shown and no reward or activities they do to reward all the work they have her do. Childhood goes by so fast. Spend time, show love and build that close relationship and trust with your child while you can

Im a new subscriber and I instantly got obsessed with your channel!! ❤

8:40~~ so important

34:45 so important

please keep doing such interesting podcasts in Chinese language with English subtitles

Thank you so much for this video! I (24F) found it super helpful and relatable! It's been hard for me to make boundaries with my asian parents as a working adult with my own interests and career advancements. I know I'm very privileged to have loving parents who care and worry for me but sometimes it's way too much. Especially with how they keep asking me when I will get a boyfriend. I'm just more focued on work and learning different things (no boyfriend just like how they wanted me throughout high school and college lol). I'll definitely be watching a few more videos in this series when I have the time!

Everyone is the same, when you sneeze around new people, you do it as quietly as possible. After some years, you sneeze like an old man and it can be heard throughout the entire city block XD

You guys are like the next Mickey and Minnie Mouse lol 😍😍 too sweet 🫠

is there gonna be more mandarin podcast episodes?

Dealing with my asian parents right now, grades are kinda sucking in hs Im glad to be in the wondrous joys of mentally containing my creeping horrid emotions that I've holed up for a while (sarcasm). Hoping that this video'll help me cope with my asian parents better before I finally can't hold up anymore.

Really enjoyed your podcast !

Thanks for this. I ve learned a lot of Chinese from your conversation.

i am here to learn chinese.

Why the fuck are they asking for a large percentage of my money? Why didn't they help pay for college? Why didn't they save for retirement? Why do they act like we live in ching chong commieland and someone has to take care of them?

Nobody else has been with me offline in any way shape or form like that for over 18 years not since separated from my ex-spouse 4 years ago and I was only with him for 17 miserable years I have desperately tried to get my ex spouse to give me a divorce and he won't but since nobody's been with me and that way offline or any not even sexually or anything like that I don't really worry about it anymore like I used to I've been alone I've been used to it.

My wife and I raised our two children in an Asian home and way. It has been difficult as they got older. Both our children born in the USA. It’s still a struggle in our relationships. Fully understand what you have shared. Adjustments are hard when two cultures clash.

Fuck the Chinese parent mentality fucking dictators

Damn a hot Asian girl like you needs a big white guy and not "doctor" kevin Asian egg roll...

wait, are you guys actually doctors, or just "Heath care professionals"? IF the latter, then you guys DISHONOUR AND SHAME YOUR FAMILY!

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“I didn’t blow up until 2020”… your editor kept that in the video all 2-7 times ?! 😅

Impressed! How do you keep up your Mandarin? As a TW-American, my Chinese has gotten so much worse since moving out of my parent's house.

Not me watching this on a iPod touch 😂

I went to find this video because my parents just shouted at me in a batshit crazy manner. For context, i'm 30 and my sister is 17. Her prom is on 2 Dec 2024 after her A lvl exams end on 28 Nov. Her school ask for payment, so i paid, and i just notify my parents that it will be held at (where and when). cause if her prom is at 5pm, then before that i need to bring her to do manicure, do hair, makeup. so I'm taking leave from work. my parents scolded me bc they didnt think she nd to go, they foresee her results will be bad, so they want to punish her in advance. Also, they think it's a waste of money, my sister is so vain. anything that spends money and isnt useful for studies, my sister is not allowed to go.

I’m glad y’all are happy now but wow hearing this makes miki sound like a mean girl. And her fishing for compliments.. err. Kevin you have a heart of gold

i don't want to date someone in healthcare even as a student MA its just so hard especially when your partner works these long 12 hours shifts, i am so depressed from being alone in the house all day literally he is gone for HOURS! i feel like im falling out of love because we lack spending quality time together

We are Hispanic. We told our 3 daughters we could not afford private schools. Furthermore we believe children should get part time jobs to chip in for their personal expenses. Like you mentioned we are fortunate to live in California where the best public schools exist. Thus our girls went to Cal., UCLA and U.C.Irvine. Once they were independent (not an Asian concept), we never asked them for money nor did they ever ask us for money. I gave one daughter money to buy a car cash so she would not have to pay interest payments. She paid me back in 6 months. Thus we raised them to be independent of us. We planned for our retirement through our own investments and retirement plans. We would never consider asking our children for money.

Wow! Great information. Asians never want to raise children to become adults.

Navigating the culture is the most challenging part. Parents were kids at one point too and they had their own frustrations and challenges. Now that I'm a parent I'm not following entirely in their footsteps but I do understand better their perspective, and I feel I'm in a better place to pick and choose what works for my family from the Asian and Western cultures I grew up in.

This is nice and much to applaud. However the questions were soooo banal, how tall are you? what do you like to eat? Not very interesting. Maybe you could try working with the "Proust Questionnaire," its questions are much more interesting.

mau belajar mandarian

Love China

I kept replaying this episode multiple times. Im understand why Miki said ‘you needa be prepared to handle all your financials if you don’t take your parents recommendation’ but I’m SHOCKED that you rationalized it to make it sounds like a rule. This is a really typical Asian thing as conditional love. I don’t mean that parents should support you no matter what kinda stupid decisions you made. But this ‘I will take back everything if you don’t listen to me’ as if it’s a punishment just makes me SICK.

Come on, PE and orchestra never count in high school gpa

i JUST discovered your podcast channel and now I'm gonna binge listen!! WOOHOO MORE CONTENT!!

God, this podcast just confirms the two faced, duplicitous nature of Asian parents. And why do we play along and not confront the inequity and indict them?

I disagree that you can find love from within to find your self worth. I think parents have to model that for you as your first teacher. So many of us learn that we had to perform and fulfill tasks and roles without getting any of the resources, support or love. It’s sickening. 🤢🤕

I’m Asian female and only recently did I realize, cognitively and experientially, that I was disowned by my family for marrying the “wrong” person. It’s like a cult growing up in an Asian household. ☠️🥺😡

Miki的中文真的很好，好多詞都知道，文法也用的很標準

Too old? Who tf doesn’t know what an iPod is. 😑 She didn’t even pronounced the name correctly. 💀

Kevin的中文听起来像公园里的大爷哈哈

Why does Kevin always interrupt Miki when she's talking? Let her finish her sentence. Kevin can be so annoying sometimes. He seems like a guy who does the bare minimum, but of course it might not be so, maybe i just got the wrong impression

What if you don’t have kids nor ever get married Nobody to depend on 😂

I found dating a non Asian or non Chinese person make life easier with my Chinese parents My Chinese parents treated my ex Chinese gf like shit But when I got a white gf she was treated a lot better and was quiet most of the time Big factor is the language barrier and they can’t communicate It’s for the best I don’t need more drama and headaches

Lot Chinese kids don’t leave the nest during college It’s very expensive I went to a local college near by so I didn’t have much change Lot kids have stunted social skills and date late in life . By that time it’s too late and gave up later and don’t care to find a partner and don’t get married and means no grandchildren for them As you get older the harder it is to find a gf . Most are married and taken or single moms You find out life is easier being alone and you rather be alone considering the divorce rate in North America and the laws that favour women Why bother. Just have a gf and that’s it

This type of parenting end up with kids that don’t tell you much Be it in the childhood or later as an adult White people it’s open communications fb and discussion and nothing is hidden

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I don't even have someone to get engaged to but I already got stressed with the engagement ring selection lol

天吶miki英文簡直完美哦！K有些生澀哈哈哈哈，不過上海口音好可愛哈哈哈哈