This is such a powerful and profound video.. And I can relate to a lot with this conversation.. I'm so grateful..Ty!!

I know it's wrong and unhealthy to hold on to a grudge, but it's not unnatural. I held a grudge against a chef from my old catering job for how she mishandled a situation. It happened in October 2022. It seems as though I said something upsetting and unfiltered, because it brought me to the office with the chef and my then-boss. I have NO idea what I said, but apparently it involved misunderstood joking. I think the chef mentioned what's funny to me may not be funny to others? I think she also hinted I brought up a sensitive topic at some point? She never told me what I said though. She told me I could only talk about work and school. I felt bad enough if I upset anyone, but the chef didn't help; she put salt in the wound and all. One way how was she asked my ex-boss if she had anything to add. That was crueI, and I didn't deserve to hear that. In fact, I didn't deserve being in the office with them. I may have made some mistakes, but I feel I deserved some respect, dignity, and delicacy. She could've just spoken to me in private, and I would've listened willingly. And she should've been more polite about the issue, asked for my side, and imagined how I would feel. I was extremely uncomfortable and felt like a bad guy. And the next day, she said "How are you?" to me. Uh, *not good,* of course, given what happened the day prior. Now, I owned up to my mistakes and apologized, and she told me she wasn't trying to "give it to me" while gesturing like an angry person---she was trying to "help me be successful." I find that patronizing and insuIting, because that implies I'm a big faiIure who needs her help to be better. Besides, her question to my ex-boss contradicts her claim. I spoke very little to her during my final days at the job, answering her "How are you?" with "Eh." Then I left the job, but I still saw her around, but I pretended that I didn't and retreated before we made eye contact. Finally, this year, she picked up on it and asked me why I'd been giving her the cold shoulder, and I told her off. It felt so good to let her know how angry I was with her. Yes, what happened was a few years ago, but I needed to get it off my chest, and she needed to hear how she was in the wrong too. Was that, and my grudge for that long, peculiar and absurd?

Have you like. Lived in reality. Plenty of reason to be anxious so stfu

What a beautiful presentation! I feel so warm in my heart right now! The most important lesson I learned is to accept and love everyone, including myself, as they are!!!! Thank you Dr Elisha for this profound podcast!

Yes!!! Thank you!

I’ll be happier when I find inner peace.

bro, the biggest issue is when I'm negative I have no motivation to implement what you say

How should we find the place of holding complaint in our bodies.?

Couldn’t have expected the mutual quest for cheesy tunnels… but, the rest is gold.

Drugs.

Once again, Elisha frames and explains things in a way that is so clear and easy to grasp. Thank you!

Here we go, I fucking love people who think education is magic. I have ASD and trauma because of that condition and how I was treated. I WILL NOT let you teach me. Solve that. Without changing me, because too many people have tried. Because YOU can’t. It’s all on me.

Fantastic. The enthusiasm was tangible for me, and moving in the best ways. I’m invigorated. I will now reflect on one area I can apply emotional first aid. I really really want the substance and meaning of the lesson here to sink in deep so it can be recalled with ease from within myself. Like I think I heard, repetition. And intention. Just a beautiful teaching today. Thank you. 🙏

I’m 100% behind you on this. Ironically, the world is also behind you, but in a different sense of the word.

Yes!

Protect your peace 👌👌

Incredibly engaging conversation that allowed me to get real usable advice and direction in how to approach emotional life. Thanks so much for creating this content that cuts through and brings a path to follow.

Wow.. meaningful and inspiring. Emotional first aid? Who knew! Love this concept and the importance of tending to our psychological injuries with tenderness and awareness. Looking forward to learning more… thanks Dr Goldstein!

Very helpful!

Emotional first aid!! So meaningful!!

This first episode was such a gentle and meaningful reminder of how important it is to care for our emotional well-being. I loved the idea of emotional hygiene and treating our inner life with the same care we give to our physical health. Dr. Goldstein’s approach felt so kind and practical, especially the way he encouraged meeting emotions like loneliness or rejection with curiosity and compassion. It felt like a real invitation to pause and reconnect with myself. I’m so grateful for this offering and look forward to learning more in future episodes. Thank you.

Thanks Dr. Goldstein. I needed this right now!

This couldn't have come at a better time. It's pure gold - I can't wait for the next one - EVERYONE needs this!

Excellent video Dr. Goldstein. I love this new direction with your podcast. I look forward to future episodes. 😊 Question: When you refer to emotional health, are you synonymously referring to mental health also as these are very intertwined?

High anxiety is the number one enemy of good sleep and health.

I am a chronic complainer and it's due to my high pain level from arthritis. I hate when I complain to people , but I feel like I always have to apologize for the things I can no longer do. I want to stop this 😫. So, thank you very much for the video.

I don't know the answer to such conflicts, but I do know that revenge makes life worse for all those involved, other than maybe crisis profiteers. I also don't think we're hearing the whole truth, and solutions are very difficult when the ones who inform the public get paid to lie for nefarious reasons. Take money and massive profit out of the equation, and we see more than a biased viewpoint.. Ask why someone would do such things, other than "they hate us for our freedom"(Like they tried to push on us after 9/11), or "Their God is the false god and our's is the true one.", and other such nonsense. There's much more going on here than is being mass marketed, but the emotionalism is an effective tool for those responsible on all sides of such misery creating evil.

Nice bubble you live in keep tellin urself this. Ask children in poverty and war the same

Thank you.

היי האם זה צולם בנברסקה?

Thank you

Disliking your video made me feel really happy

I don't have negative thought so much about myself, but of the world and people around me. I already watch as little news as possible due to all the reports of senseless violence, war and hatred. Organizations, politicians and businesses that are only interested in people as a source of financial profit, including the churches. Scamming people and finding loop holes in law to justify their own corruption. What a world! I just prefer to concentrate my interests in my family and hobbies and the hell with everything else!

Its good to take control of your emotions, specially if its expressed in an inappropriate way. However, control is a good practice only if you are able to show and not suppress your emotions in a healthy and free, without judgement to yourself.

Thanks Elisha, this is a good one for me. You are too young to have used a Rolodex.

Does it actually rewire you brain or it just relaxes you

Help me pls I have 2 kids 2old and 7 I am alone in my home I suffer schezoprenia last year I can't afford financially nobody believe me my day so sad and I can't focus and understand feeling I feel numb my mom is old help me came my house pls

What do you charge Doc? I am stuck in fight, flight, freeze state for 14 months now. It is debilitating. I also have had Hashimoto thyroiditis for 35 years. Would love to know if you could help me.

I'm grateful for the pleasant grounded information on this channel :) I remember learning about this from Heartmath when I was first learning about HRV breathwork. They said that the breathwork worked a lot better when you remembered a happy grateful memory. I played around with some HRV biofeedback and it worked. My score would drop wildly if I got into a negative thought loop. Had to fully chill and recenter to get the score up, gratitude is an elevated feeling, the sensation itself tells us it's good. Not some fleeting pleasure, it has a comfy settled-in feeling when I get there.

I’m grateful for my family ❤

I totally agree-I am suffering immensely with adrenal fatigue, due to overwhelm

Helps my mind to stop going a mile a minute and it helps my breathing slow down. When I get stressed or have anxiety I get hot.

If it feels less like a stimulant and more like something you can just lay down and relax to, does that tie into adhd at all? I’ve always been curious.

I think my brain is wired as a pessimist even as a child, the negativity has caused a great deal of anxiety, panic attacks and depression

It’s funny because mdma takes all of my anxiety away. It feels like the opposite of a party drug and just makes me want to get in a blanket with my friends and cuddle lol

Very calming

Amazing , hello dr , i need your help .. where can I contact you...any Instagram handle or what's app.

I agree 100%

lol funniest thing is I was looking for videos on why I mustn’t buy the new AirPods and this is the first video I watched and the AirPods look amazing 😭😂😂

Good 😊🇬🇧👍🏽❤️👏🏽