Thank you for sharing your journey with such honesty. There are so many of us dealing with depression and anxiety, it helps to know we’re not alone. I’ve been prescribed Zoloft but terrified of taking it because I don’t want to be on it for ever. Also afraid of the side effects. Good to know it helped you for those years and that you’ve been able to come off it and doing well. ❤

Thank you so much for this video. I’m talking from Brazil. I went off medication (escitalopram) a little more than 3 months ago and had a hard crises two days ago. I thought seriously about coming back to the medication, almost did, but resisted. I also took the medication for five years, and it did a lot for me, and I also felt prepared and stable to get off of it, but it is not easy. Yesterday I researched a lot about life after anti depressant and there is not much content about it out there. Im very glad I find this video and what a coincidence that you posted just 3 days ago! You are such a great communicator! Your video gave me hope about my recovery and gave a little more clarity about the things Im going through right now. Good luck to us! 🫶

thank God you didn't go on benzos

Was you ever housebound though withdrawals

I took setraline for 2 years ... 100mg i then spoke to my gp as i felt million times better after a year of therapy etc .. they put the dose down to 50 mg for 4 weeks then down to completely nothing ... its day 4 of not taking them and i feel emotinal , short tempered, and angry will this pass x

Why would you stop a medication?

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Just come across your videos when I searched 'boundaries for empaths '. Really helpful thanks. Dawn ❤😊

Just relating to other INFJ is reassuring...

Dangerous drugs

Thank you for your honesty! I came off of St Johns Wort at the recommendation of my doctor and switched to 25 mg of Zoloft for anxiety symptoms. This worked somewhat well for me at first, but within a few weeks, I have sunk into a pretty deep depression (just like that "heaviness" you describe) and this horrible feeling that everyone hates/is against me. I am now going to taper off the zoloft and back to the St. Johns Wort (which worked very well for me for my depression for years). I think my doctor was probably skeptical of St Johns Wort, but I can say without question that it helped me while I was taking it, and look forward to getting back on it.

Thank you, very informative <3

About 3 weeks cold turkey quitting after 18 years on. I think I finally did it .

Im comming from boundaries Video which helped me much and this one also !Danke !

I don't see how you can mistype ENTJ for ENFJ since only the observation functions are in the same spot. The judging axis is completely different. It's blatantly obvious when you listen to how they make their judgements, ENTJs will generally prefer logic driven decisions over emotional, ENTJs will rarely say something like hey lets stop the project because so and so is not on board and feeling badly about it. ENFJs make most of their decisions based on people, if so and so doesn't feel onboard and against it, ENFJs would care alot more than ENTJ, theres alot of Fe manipulation going on in the realm of Fe where as ENTJs get people onboard with hard logic and say stuff like hey you only have a job because we're making profit, your plan cuts profits by at least 30% which means we're going to go under so it doesn't matter if Timmy doesn't like this plan coz following your plan, we're all gonna lose our jobs including Timmy so your plan is just straight up a worse outcome. Where as the ENFJ may say something like the methods of which we've adopted to generate profits are questionable in ethics (even though it's not necessarily), many of the staff here don't feel morally justified in this approach, we need to reconsider and come to better consensus, Timmy had to see a psychologist due to the stress and moral dilemmas this company has put him through, enough is enough, we need change, we need to to cut back. Looking at the population of MBTI types, most women are SFJ and most men are STJs which means more men are likely to be onboard with the ENTJ and most women are more likely to be onboard with the ENFJ. Both have their perspectives, ENTJ is more focused on bottom line, outcome and PHYSICAL needs of the people, ENFJ is more focused on the EMOTIONAL needs of the people and harmony. Those who think ENTJ have low emotional intelligence are likely projecting coz they themselves value it thus they think ENTJs lack it but in actual fact, ENTJs look at emotional reasoning the same as logical reasoning i.e if the most efficient method to accomplish the outcome is by acting like an ENFJ then ENTJs will simply put on the Fe, the real reason why people complain about ENTJ's lack of Fe is because they themselves are not looking at the bottom line and how the world works etc... they're too focused on feelings hence the decisions of the ENTJ looks to be lacking in consideration to how one feels but the cost to value feelings over a bottom line will likely net u worse feelings later on or in the long run. ENTJs are simply cutting the b.s and getting straight to the essence of the issue, most issues are not easy to resolve and requires some kind of delayed gratification or sacrifice which means temporarily feeling bad, ENTJs are simply just very good at compartmentalizing their emotions coz they know they aren't going to feel better long term until this objective is met or that the root cause of the problem is resolved. Lastly, ENTJs are the least extroverted of all extroverts and is barely any more social than the most extroverted of the introverted types so I would say ENFJ is astronomically more "social" and "outgoing" than the ENTJ, the ENTJ is mostly out coz he wants something done or needs to network with people, not there to idly chit chat and feeling the Fe vibes etc... I would not put them in the same boat of extroversion at all, Te extroversion requires an outcome, it is heavily debate oriented and attaining and exchanging data/information whereas Fe extroversion seeks good vibes and actual socializing with people.

ENTJs don't actually shut off any perspectives, they already know all the perspectives since Te is constantly taking in everyone's thoughts and have made an executable plan out of it. It is pointless thinking that anything can happen from an execution perspective, you need to organize and structure likelihood and proceed with the most likely or most beneficial method, not sit there and be paralyzed in what ifs. ENTJs see so many roadblocks, hindrances and inefficiencies, most types aren't doers and essentially sit there and accomplish nothing and ENTJs are kind heartedly reminding people to just do it.

my husband and I have the same dynamic. and it is very interesting learning that I do have to sit boundaries in order for this situation to work because he is so dominant

Now i need to hear what an entj -male needs to do to have a healthy relationship w infj. -femalr

By denying myself the boundaries w an entj, he felt like an estj. Bevause he took wuthout regard to how i felt & was terribly abusuve.

Thank you very much for sharing your experience with tapering off. Your courage and strength is very visible. I’m planning on tapering off in the next 6 months from Zoloft (50mg). I tried to come off of it in the first week of August and my psychiatrist recommended 25 mg for 2 weeks and to stop completely, but I got so many panic attacks and anxiety that I had to get back on it. Hopefully, for the next attempt I’ll gradually slow it down. I also heavily relate to the dismissive nature that doctors hold when dealing with medication changes. Your advice helped me. As you mentioned, I think it’s really important to keep a good outlook and have that sense of hope throughout the process. I hope that I’m also able to conquer this journey and replenish my emotional palette again.

Thank goodness there’s someone who understands exactly how I feel. Especially guilty.

Hi, thanks for sharing your experience I found it very helpful. I’m male aged 60, live in UK, and was on 100 mg tablets one per day for around 3 years. This completely helped me with my anxiety. In April this year (2024) I decided to wean off and began by taking one tablet every other day for 6 weeks, this seemed to have no impact. Then in June dropped to one every 3 days and again this seemed ok. Then just a month ago I came off completely. Over there 4 weeks my tiredness and irritability has increased, but the worst thing has been really bad body aches - flu like aches, especially at night, or when sitting and lying down, often waking me and keeping me awake. I’m hoping this will fade as it’s not been pleasant, maybe I completely cut out too quickly. I’m writing this at 4am, another hour awake. Wondering if you, or others had any similar of these more physical symptoms? Hope you’re continuing to do well.😊

Thank you ❤

Why i dislike infj that much? I am entj female, I always feel infj is too hypocritical, not honest at all

I’m an INFJ married to my ENTJ husband for 12 years. This helps so much he recently just took a personality test at work and I was surprised to learn this was his personality but it makes total sense. Thank you for these good strategies… He is definitely very black-and-white and I’m so indecisive. I’m so glad he’s the leader in a relationship and this video helps me appreciate our differences more and also know where we need to work on things.!

I just came to the same conclusion recently, that 'connecting in the moment' makes me the best social version of myself. I think it has to do with letting go of Fi in the moment, not making any value judgments and letting criticism leak in. The background question 'is this or am I good or bad?' should be left, mostly, unanswered. Relying on 'am I correct or incorrect?' allows much more flow

I was like 1 minute into your video, and I was like, she's an INFJ - and I went to your bio to check and sure enough 😂😂. I've just begun my journey of setting boundaries and recognising that I'm actually an empath (I was so out of touch that I didn't even resonate with this word lol). Love from another INFJ <3

5 days withdrawing after 7 years last two years of 50mg dose. In a strong place mentally to do this I have all the withdrawal symptoms which are tiring but not impossible to live with. Hoping they subside. Keeping busy! Fasting and praying too. For anyone one dealing with this I commend you for taking the leap of faith. Wonderful testimony like this is super helpful thank you sister for yours!!! ❤

Thank you for sharing! I needed this. Can you share if you had weight gain while on it?

As an infj who constantly make space for other I thought the opposite would be someone who makes space for you? I find myself learning to establish boundaries and working hard on it. It’s hard for me to do. The thought of having to fight for myself with the person I am close to the most and spend everyday with seems exhausting and kind of sad. I door slammed my childhood best friend because of not establishing boundaries with her and her not considering me and my sacrifice. I wouldn’t want that to happen again. I learned my lesson about boundaries then but I don’t want a repeat..

Are ENTJ’s Alpha males? Or?

Thanks so much for sharing this. So inspiring and good to hear. Were there other welllness things you prioritized, i.e., diet, meditation exercise?

Me also came off it after 10 years ❤appreciated 👏

Love this

This is to you. Can i get off of zoloft if i set my clock back to 1973 if this makes sense.

Wow I can’t believe that doctor told you to just go cold turkey from twelve and telling you that it should be fine and it’s basically nothing There is research now which shows hyperbolic tapering is the safest. Which means the lower the dose the less you should increase it by as the withdrawals symptoms are actually strong at lower doses.

Did you gain weight on Zoloft? Did it have a negative effect on motivation?

Great video! A healthy entj has developed their emotional intelligence. (Just as I feel ive grown -infj- by developing my logical, rational thinking -with the help of my entj)

I'm infj, and have always been drawn to entj's. I love their energy, self discipline and reliability.

That's not good that the communication with you and your doctor was cut off. Without your records. It really is a bad thing.

Ane, thanks so much. You are so beautiful and inspiring. My 26 year old son has been on that medication for six years now, un Spain. He has totally decided to withdraw. It is good to know people who had achieved the goal! God bless!

So super grateful for your channel. Thank you for this video. 💜

Thank you for sharing your experience! ❤

Thanks for the video Anne Marie, it was really interesting and a lot of things that sounded very familiar😅 INFJ woman married to ENTJ man for 6 years here. Very interested to hear more. Don’t know any people in that same type relationship.❤

My dreams have always felt a bit disconnected from my essential self who's always present. I mean every other blue moon or so I'll have one that uniquely stands out, usually through a specific emotion or feeling it leaves within the body. But like I said dreams haven't been my area of focus in regards to shadow work and getting in touch with the sub/unconscious. BTW I'm an INFJ as well so I found what you said about them interesting. But anyways I have a theory I'd like to put forth to anyone reading this and Id love anybody's feedback so here it is. I grew up in a highly narcissistic/alcoholic dysfunctional family system where each family member was assigned a specific role that we had to play in order for the family unit, as a whole, to more or less function. So me being the youngest member which meant the most vulnerable, a truth teller, naturally empathic, and HSP, I was given the role of the scapegoat. I just turned 37 yesterday and still, even after almost 2-3yrs of constant internal work in a wide range of areas, modalities, meditations, etc. I'm still the goat no matter what physical evidence or proof or research I bring forward for all eyes to see nothing has changed except for the additional trauma I've had to endure throughout this "journey back to self." But as fate would have it last night around the actual time of my actual birth I was experiencing a full on assault by my sister and her husband and at some point during the madness I felt a shift inside myself. That place where all that self doubt, hatred, not feeling good enough, unworthy, unlovable, we all know that place I'm talking about, all that was gone but something else was in its place. It was me lol. It felt so familiar you know, the best way I can describe it is I remember being that little boy and having that first experience of being scapegoated and I had the thought, wait this can't be right why's this happening. Then last night as I'm fully triggered out in fight/flight and being bombarded from all directions while in this kinda observer perspective watching it all go down I just knew that the part that had replaced all that negative self identity, it was that inner child, but oddly he was fully grown lol, looking at me with this unconditional loving grin that just said to me, well it's about time you listened and actually believed in me. Sorry for the novel but I had to give enough context first. So my theory is could it be possible that because I was constantly and consistently and systematically destroyed over and over again in such a unique and twisted way that as it was causing the damage it was also cultivating the ability to connect with the shadow within the entire time? I mean to me personally it would so much. Maybe not how it got there initially, but it would explain why I was able to hear and feel and sense that it knew, maybe not consciously, but fully aware of the lies and manipulations from day one. Anyways, I hope some of this makes some sense to you guys lol. I'd love to hear anyone's thoughts on it😅

You've got this!

"I was raised to lift everyone else up and downplay myself", where are you lifting people to if you are lower than them? Elevate yourselves first and others will climb to reach you. Good self work, keep it up.

Yup, yup and yup. You can only transition into your real self, with enough self-knowledge. Knowing what you like and don't like. Knowing what you will tolerate and not tolerate. Keeping the peace, by letting others know your boundaries. And, having the confidence to stand up for yourself and not caving under pressure to someone else's dominate will. Seeing through everyone's facade, and knowing who they truly are, at the heart level, whether good, bad or indifferent. Pull the plug out of manipulators, gaslighters and narcissists becomes child's play.

I asked my INFJ girl to marry me a couple of months ago. I'm an ENTJ.

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