Wrong!! Emotionally unavailable people don't give everything in love. In fact quite the opposite. The more emotionally unavailable they are the less they will give and the more they will run. They put not effort at all in relationships and 90% have one foot out of the door.

Closing off my feelings for my wife because she cant respect them, show any level of nurture. I dont recognize her anymore. She even seems dangerous

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THANK YOU!❤

My parents were both there for me and I had a good relationship with them, so I wasn't abandoned by them. But I was teased and bullied in school starting in kindergarten all the way through junior high by both boys and girls. A dance I attended the last year of junior high was mortifying; this was the first time I asked boys if they wanted to dance and I was ridiculed, laughed at, and rejected. Then my best friend danced with my crush and bragged about it to me, knowing that I really liked this kid. So in my subconscious mind I suppose I have never felt "good enough" or worthy of an actual relationship with someone that is available. I've only ever shared mutual attraction with guys that already have girlfriends. The last one was married and it literally took me years to get over the pain of that situation. I've been working on myself for years and studying how to change things around (I'm a big believer in the law of attraction and saying positive affirmations/meditation) but sometimes it's a struggle.

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Fantastic video. One of the best out there on the subjects

I was always pointing out to my ex that his words and actions never lined up, how inconsistent he was. I was his second marriage, second divorce. For someone who spent no time with me, or talked with me, he's all about it now. Unfortunately for him I'm pretty solid and am walking away from this with confidence and no stress.

Re it's hard to leave... It genuinely is difficult to meet someone who is right. You have to dig deep and be brave and cut the cord. Each month you are with someone who can't or doesn't want to meet mutual needs, the more dispirited you become

This is such a good video. It explains a lot for me.

Those list are bery relatable of how i feel. I even feel the most ugliest after i left the relationship i didn’t understand why this happem all of the sudden

He said he was going to do his part at loosing weight when I went to college and that his best way we could give me support was when I get a career. His was 28 at the time i was 21. Im 22 now doing a career in aviation I asked him if he could meet me at a specific time at a 2 flightschool i was checking out do to them being sneaky w prices etc. he didnt wake up in time (like always) and i was left alone going to a flight school with 0 zero knowledge. I felt devastated. This was the last time he would ever broke a promise to me. 4-5 years in my 1 ever relationship it felt like my innocence was taken away from me. Lol im venting here :)

Hello Amy I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your most helpful videos. Lots of love and positive vibrations from Daniela in the United Kingdom 🥰

13:00 I am a very comfortable male , lost my wife to Alzheimer's, Howevery I have had a spiritual awakening and have focused on my intuition. Yes many hours of releasing many energies.(Check our Dr. Bradley Nelson's work) . Lol never cried so much in my life letting energy go. So I am uncertain how to play this role. I feel / understand what she is saying ever before her 2 hour explanation but as a sigma male feel very comfortable leading. In my late 50's .. please advise me of your thoughts.

Talking to a stranger about my relationship doesn’t exist in my world

What about a man thats realized that he's emotionally unavailable, 8 years into a relationship. Do i break up with my partner to let her free of the hurt of ive put her through as I try to be emotionally available and healthy? While i learn how to make her feel heard seen and undertood?

Why fall in love when you are emotionally unavailable? Why

So glad I found you on here! @LoveByDesign Amy Kerr! ❤️‍🔥

tysm for this !!1

Guys are always very physically full on with me from the outset and I find it hard to deal with. This is particularly prevalent with guys on dating apps. They tend to go off me when they do not get what they want. I tend to share my experiences and my growth generally with people where I am into self-growth but this could be classed as over sharing.

What happens if we already started the physical connection unfortunatley. Is there a way to fix things?

Being secure and having a realistic sense of self is super important. For me it's the no.1 thing I look out for. If the person can't even objectively assess themselves & their mistakes, it will be difficult for them to overcome struggles in their life

I wonder why is that they reject you that much?? Or is it their emotional unavailability that we feel? Because they “want to be with you” but with their behaviour and “priorities”, so in a way it’s YOU who have to follow through with that. But the rejection is constant, and one of the most contradictory things, like…they really don’t want to be with you and they really don’t like you 💁🏻‍♀️ Then YOU don’t like them when you see all of this.

Guy here. Been dating a relatively secure girl for about 2 months now and this video has really helped me to make sense of of some things. It's been really secure. All I've known in my life is dating emotionally unavailible women, but this this girl is different and in a good way but it's also really challenging at times. So thanks for the videos you make, they make a difference.

Ladies recovering from an abusive relationship- a relationship with a narcissist or male borderline takes ages to recover from- because you have been used and abused to such a high degree.

am I emotionally unavailable is the question one should ask.

Very well said. I have experienced my body talking to me after I had a call with a toxic person for the second time. I felt anxiety, sinking feeling and cried.

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So what really is moving too fast tho? Spending the night too soon? Calling him baby?

Besttttt... Why i am crying i am not even half way through it 😢

How did you end it with the emotionally unavailable man? I’m struggling with that conversation.

Is this the same as simply attracting emotionally unavailable men, going on two dates, realizing they're emotionally unavailable-among other problems- then moving on from them? Idk if anyone can stop these types of guys from approaching them.

1. Got angry when i told him i keep my ringer on silent. "you never respond to me within an hour after i text you." Not true at all. 2. Almost all of his conversations were of controversial issues where he'd make outrageous claims and told me that he didnt care for my questioning him, asking for clarification or offering different perspectives. 3. Made light of serious topics, i.e. making sexual jokes about my narcissistic mother. 4. Weaponized the abuse i suffered from my mother as a comeback after I told him i didnt appreciate the sexual jokes about her. 5. Kept texting me unrelated pics when I was talking to him over the phone. He woukd get upset if I didnt acknowledge said pics and compliment him. 6. "Im not changing for anybody," when I told him I didnt like somethijg he did. 7. I told him I was trying to get back with a former employer who was going to give me way more money than I was making. He responded, "Oh so that means you're going to be doing less work. Ya know? Like those CEOs who make all the money and do no work. 8. Never acknowledged any of my accomplishments but I was expected to dole out compliments when he sent me pics of his making dinner. He never complimented anything about me tho. 9. Talked about exes a lot. 10. He turned up the music when I was talking because he said the convo was getting tense and he wanted to lighten it up. 11. "Im surprised you had a great relationship with your dad. Ive never met a girl who did." 12. "I don't need nothing from nobody." 13. "Youre not the only girl in town with a mouth." Meaning...he could get oral s x from other women if he wanted. 14. He kept bringing up the fact I didnt kiss him. "No woman has EVER hidden their lips from me." Lol 15. I messed my leg up in the gym and he never asked how I was doing or that he hoped I would get better. 16. He was a man of low intelligence who relied only on what was in front of him to make often asinine claims. 17. I honestly dont know how he managed to get married and have a 5-year relationship with another woman. The guy is a total nutnik. 18. "Im the easiest person to talk to." "I've never cheated or hit a woman." 😬 Luckily, I only went on two dates with this guy and never put out or kissed him. It was one date too many. Fuuuuuu

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Thank you so much for your videos. I am going through a very difficult divorce, and your videos have really been helping me work through these dark days.

Just for kicks because i knew i was done with the guy, i told him he was emotionally unavailable to me for some of the reasons you described. He came back with, "Well, YOU are the one who's emotionally unavailable for not having your ringer on. I dated a girl like and that shi. pissed me off. It always takes you more than an hour to respond to my [attention-seeking] texts and pics [where I'm begging you for compliments and validation]." I literally walked away dumbfounded at his response.

Honestly I agree with everything you say here..I just ended a very similar relationship recently with someone..I was so on the edge of mental sanity. But you gave up after only 4 weeks?? That's really no time at all when dating. Just an observation

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SUCH an excellent video! Thank you.

I should have known when my now ex husband said foreplay was too much work 😮

I'm a dude and that is so me... also makes sense regarding it coming from my childhood... this helped me... I think I'm in a phase like that now...

Your take on dating issues is so real❤️ Keep it up

Told I was too needy

This is a timely video. I needed to hear it.Thank you so much. I am in the situation, unhealthy, unbalanced in order to receive validation and love.Please help me

Soooo GRATEFUL for your explaining about the advice in other videos on how to attract and basically abandon your authentic self YET AGAIN🪷🤍🪷🤍🪷 I see this in all make up and image obsessions of this modern world too

Oh my goodness... It is so clear now... I feel at my best helping others and my partner, but when they are getting stronger i feel so anxious and fear that they will leave me 😳 ' You are going to come with me now' 🦋🩷🙏🏽

SOOOO SOOOO HELPFUL, CLARIFYING AND SOOTHING at the same time🙏🏽👌🏽🙏🏽👌🏽🙏🏽👌🏽🙏🏽👌🏽🙏🏽👌🏽

So well explained, very clarifying, thank you so much for all your videos 🙏🏽🪷 i have noticed that i am sacrificing a lot to help my partner and others out. It makes me angry when they ask for more and better feel so overwhelmed and guilty when i say no... A deep fear (and reality) that they leave me when i don't do/be what they want me to. I felt ashamed and afraid. The anxious connection type. Your words are so healing🤍

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