Can Emotionally Unavailable Men Change?

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[@wendydaniel1110]

Give yourself the gift of walking away and staying away. Move on. Change yourself . Court yourself, love yourself, and depend on yourself for love. Quit chasing " deadwood" for love when they don't even love themselves...❤

[@Doidao-xx5vf]

I agree with you. As a man any time a woman tries to change me or “fix” me. It turns me off. Honestly it’s annoying, intruding, clingy, and creepy. Not only do I think like this but many men also agree. Either the woman likes the guy the way he is or she can just walk away. It’s that simple.

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[@alliwhite3941]

Amen

[@EdelweisSusie]

Did that - been alone for 25 years as a consequence. Wish to God I’d have stayed: having someone is better than the loneliness of being solo.

[@teadororudy]

Yep. Give them the gift of your absence.

[@catchcourtcourt]

Waited 15 months. He would say I was a blessing, he loved me but never fully was all in. Then he picked a fight and hung up on me 2 weeks ago. Haven’t heard from him since. I’m not even sad, I just don’t know how he could be so cruel. Didn’t I deserve a better ending?

[@LoveByDesign]

You deserve a person who is all in, and loves you fully. Sounds like it needed to end when he couldn’t give you that ❤️

[@bamess838]

20 years later, and I have supported and waited and tried to help. He’s been in and out of counseling. Claims he wants to change, but then shut down isolates and stone walls. Roller coaster ride. Everything is wonderful until I indicate any sort of unhappiness with anything he says or does and then all hell breaks loose as he can’t handle any constructive criticism or have a conversation about it. It is literally ruined my entire adult life. And yet I still love him. Time to focus on me and figure out why it’s so painful.

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[@aussieallstar66]

Rene Brown book Atlas of the Heart. Narcissists. My father was one. And my ex. I am starting to think men and women were never meant to have close emotional relationships. That this is a fairly recent construct. Particularly in a marriage scenario. It was unusual in my mothers generation. Women want more now they can be financially independent. But men have not changed.

[@21stCenturyDude]

We can change, but it's not you who can change us. We have to deeply desire to change and even when that happens, it's not certain that we'll succeed.

[@sharajackson2129]

These men need to take responsibility we are not here to rescue them .Not my problem.Walk away lifes to short ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

It’s not your problem - and people will either take responsibility or not.

[@TaniaMason-xh3xw]

I think the hard part for me was that for 18 months he was emotionally available and seemed committed and invested - and then about a year ago it just suddenly all changed and I found myself in a relationship with a complete stranger. It's so difficult, but time for me to move on.

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[@Joisu121]

I had a similar thing. Emotionally available for 12 months then stopped

[@Miriam-ul4ke]

Lets be real, your talking about 30 percent of the population avoidants. Mostly men and 1 percent of them change, its rare and never going to happen have been with one for 6 years, ive now become like him and hes upset about it and keeps chasing me but im not avoidant, ive gone from anxious to secure to now i dont care anymore and hes constantly chasing me now. Tables turn and the person who cares the least wins.

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m not specifically talking about men with avoidant attachment. I’m talking broadly about men with varying backgrounds of attachment wounding that show up differently on a case by case basis.

[@Miriam-ul4ke]

Temporary emotionally unavailable men are normal, they change, the ones your talking about in the end will never change, you either accept who they are right now or move on as nothing is going to change, but yes temporary unavailable men will revert back and they can be worked with.

[@LoveByDesign]

@@Miriam-ul4ke this is not a black and white conversation, you are missing nuance here. I know of chronically unavailable people who've healed, myself included.

[@Miriam-ul4ke]

@@LoveByDesign yes the 1 percent i talked about, anxious people are not scared of relationships and jump in head first so even if they are avoidant to themselves, they show up in the relationship as over giving and loving, they attract the ones that run away and never change, those are the ones everyone is complaining about not the anxious people.

[@YF-ey7uq]

Do you have a video for unavailable men due to divorce trauma?

[@a.d.b535]

My avoidant was married 25 years, then divorced, and has gone thru 4 relationships in the 8 years since. He's usually ducks conversations.

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[@margaretlopez6246]

This was really helpful. I'd like the guude too. Thank you

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[@taraleightaracumming6726]

mine says ged try to change, and never did any work.

[@LoveByDesign]

Yes, often their words and actions are not aligned 🙏

[@glo22297]

Can you also talk about situational emotional unavailability too?

[@LoveByDesign]

What specifically about situational emotional unavailability do you want to know more about?

[@critter_paws]

Legitimate question (might sound snarky 🤷) is this a nice term for npd? I just began the video sorry if this is addressed or if there is something that is obviously different

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[@Audrey-k2h]

They can with work Most don't want to bc they can manipulate with their sad stories and gain others pity

[@LoveByDesign]

Some men are like this, many are not intentionally manipulative.

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