10 Boundaries that BREAK Toxic Relationship Patterns

[@LoveByDesign]

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[@raynebow5289]

I just stepped away from a potential situationship. In the beginning, I made a list of my boundaries, deal-breakers, and needs. Those weren’t met. It took a couple of weeks, but I regained my self-control and let the person go. Hopefully next time will be a couple of days instead of a couple of weeks. And one day it’ll be a couple of hours the moment I see a dealbreaker. And then a couple of minutes once I honor my internal boundaries. I’m learning the sooner I set and honor my boundaries, the les likely I will be to suffer intense pain and stress if I’d ignored those gut feelings

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m so glad to hear you’re honoring your internal boundaries. I’d love to discuss how I can further help you with this: www.healyourheart.school/call

[@wendydaniel1110]

Toxic hope keeps you spinning on the hampster wheel ❤

[@teadororudy]

Very helpful, as I’m grieving having to walk away from a situationship due to my needs not being met. I fell hard for this man. It’s been 6 weeks and it’s not really any easier, but I’m staying strong and not contacting him. These tips and exercises do help. Going to the gym and celebrating my gains has been one of the best things helping me keep it together. Thank you.

[@LoveByDesign]

I would love to discuss how I can help you: www.healyourheart.school/call

[@belleiccm9801]

I've been going to the gym too to help me heal from a very painful break up. Enjoy your gym time and your celebrations💐

[@jennifers.8772]

Amazing video, thank you. I see where I’ve gone wrong. Despite setting boundaries and expressing them, this person pushed and pushed until I relented. I should have left them but I was already attached and then started looking at their potential and also thinking I could teach or change them. Never again.

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m so glad you that clarity from this video!! ❤️

[@kawaiimetalrebellion]

This is so timely! I was told that I shouldn't put emotions into my text messages such as emojis. I was just speaking out my boundaries as "hey, i felt disrespected when you do this. I'd appreciate it if you would..." I was baffled. It felt like is that him trying to take control? Or just misunderstanding my messaging? I felt dismissed.

[@LoveByDesign]

It sounds dismissive to me - and that’s the thing, we can set boundaries but people don’t have to observe them. It’s up to us to reinforce them and follow through with consequences if they don’t. Someone being dismissive of you, or telling you how to communicate, doesn’t sound like they are respecting you, your boundaries or your communication style.

[@kawaiimetalrebellion]

@LoveByDesign Will try to communicate and try to learn the other person's style but if it happens again, I'm out.

[@olgakozlova4413]

Thank you! This is organizing the thought a lot.

[@LoveByDesign]

Wonderful to hear! ❤️

[@SuperAmber217]

i’ve been watching these videos for weeks definitely gonna give you a call

[@LoveByDesign]

Great! You can book here: www.healyourheart.school/call

[@sthlmnoir]

i get so much help from your vids, tysm ❣

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m so so happy to hear this 🩷

[@belleiccm9801]

Thank you so much, Amy! This is so helpful for me. Abandoning self has become a way of life for me because of my childhood - I'm the eldest of 10 - and other unhealthy family dynamics. The 10 boundary examples you have given are right on target for what I need to do. More wisdom and power to you🙂

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m so glad this helped! I’d love to chat about how I can further guide you: www.healyourheart.school/call

[@aquariusstar7248]

I appreciate the practical exercise at the end. I realize i have a habit of quickly sating yes to others but to myself it takes a lot of effort to decide. Having this healing corcle map os going to help me to make better decisions from thevplace of self as center rather than other- centeredness. Thank you!🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@khanyigcwabaza2530]

Khanyi from South Africa here, thank you so much for your wonderful videos. I have so much unlearning and re-learning to do but it's never too late thanks to your videos. God bless you Amy.... ❤

[@mirariri98]

Khanyi from Rich Famous and African? I hope so. 🫶🫶🫶

[@s22centuaryfox]

How this video is so good and explained in such a good and an u derstandable way giving hope and in a way that's also practical. Thank you, God bless you. ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

You are so welcome! 🙏

[@prettynatural1973]

Thank you

[@carissaoliphant6196]

Soooo Good!!!! ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

Thank you 🙏

[@s22centuaryfox]

So true male values are more respected than women's and I'm glad women are becoming more wearing and learning to have better standards.

[@Polly1589]

20:00 What to do when I don't have friends and not even family? My friends were avoidants and emotionally not available like the men I dated (also like my family members). It seems like I only have avoidant people in my life, it is so hurtful. I needed to end the friendships since they constantly letting me down.

[@LoveByDesign]

This used to be me - when I realised I had my own healing to do to become emotionally available so I could have an attract secure friendships with people. If you only attract avoidant people in your life it’s because your filter is only letting them in. Does that make sense?

[@Polly1589]

@@LoveByDesign totally! I'm on my healing journey since 15 years already but only this year I realized the trauma my parents gave me and that my friends are actually not available. I let go of everyone at this point. I'm so ready to let healthy people in but still need to work on identify them.

[@brendapokorny326]

I don’t understand the difference between emotions and feelings in your boundaries chart. Aren’t they the same thing? I’m not sure what I’m missing on this point.

[@annastone5624]

I’m really enjoying this video, great content, thabkyou.. But this seems very extreme to block someone’s number simply because ‘You’re not compatible and simply don’t have enough in common’ I presume you explain that to them first? so it’s not ghosting them.. then ok.

[@LoveByDesign]

Healthy communication is absolutely important! Blocking is for your own peace of mind. It’s not necessary if you feel comfortable reinforcing your own boundaries.

[@annastone5624]

Thanks. Brilliant content, so clear which makes it extra helpfull., .

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[@LoveByDesign]

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[@khanyigcwabaza2530]

This person is relentless but you handle him with such grace. It's beautiful to see ​@@LoveByDesign

[@dingdong6452]

Im tired

[@Lighttub]

Same

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m sorry to hear this ❤️