Thank you Patrick for sharing your son with us .

Ben is 42. Been in rehab 5 times. Will keep ya’ll posted

How old is Ben?

People underestimate how important/valuable (no pun intended) it is to be able to pay the bills and live comfortably. If a couple starts to struggle financially for whatever reason then things get REAL hard. Money is statistically the #1 reason for unhappiness/arguments/divorce. So it's easy to not consider that when it's not something you have to deal with - I don't mean that as a slight towards you. Congratulations on your success and on your new look on life and most importantly your sobriety. Better to have lived it and be able to retrospect so I wouldn't say never ever :) Enjoying your videos and your frank and honest discussions thank you!

Your genuine concern ,he still feels it even intoxicated.all the ❤from Belgium

He has been on the floor all day. How will he leave the house and sit up at a meeting?

Love your channel ❤

Your food looks amazing ❤

Yum!

Thank you Patrick for these videos- they are really informative and inspiring- hang in there Ben 🙏❤️‍🩹

RiP

Thank you for your service Patrick- you are awesome great example of step 12 🙏

Patrick .you are such a good good man to care so much for this man ,it is wonderful to see someone care so much for another human being today .Hope he can be saved ❤

I love how you give him hope Patrick

I got 24 years sober i quit January year 2000 .. Almost lost my life in the hospital alcohol withdrawal . doctors told me if i had drank even 1 more day i would have died. I ran into all kinds of medical issues.. Had seizures. Had to have a blood transfusion as well. I have a rare blood type someone come in at 3am donated blood to me saved my life. Took about 3 week almost a month before i was released from hospital. Alcohol abuse and withdrawl is the worst thing anyone can endure an what people don't realize is they have to have it to function at this point or yes they can die from withdrawl .. After i got out of the hospital i signed myself into a inpatient program for 30 days. I did that then i went and signed into a out patient program 6 months of that. Then i also did 1 full year after care 3 days week 1 hr sessions. Been clean ever since... Those programs are a must to achieve the tools you will need in red flag zones its very important part of the recovery imo.. Myself i hated alcohol AA meetings i did a few an never again hated them they did not help me. Hope your friend decides to change his life before its to late

thanks for this! not all heroes wears a cape! i hope he will be ok

Oh Patrick he is in such bad shape. No way he can detox himself plus there could be medical complications too. I was told “call me before you pick up that drink, not after.” Most times I drank first tho. I’m sure he is severely dehydrated and not been eating. (Orange juice will help keep his sugars elevated coming off the booze) All a bad mix. Don’t think he’s ready for half way house. They’d kick him out pretty quick for drinking. Needs stabilizing first (medical detox) and meetings every day. Start him on step one. Have him write down how he’s powerless. If he doesn’t, he’s not ready. Good luck. Helped many get sober in my years in AA.

Praying for this man!

Get him to rehab Patrick,best of luck ❤

Hi Patrick from France, thanks for your videos. All of my friends left because of alcohol and I was very close to death two times because of alcohol + valium combination = respiratory arrest. Back in those days I was so exhausted, drinking a liter of vodka a day and some beer, thinking I lost everything and my life was done so I was planning to do it again voluntarily and the third time would be good. I was only 35. But life been stronger, now I'm 37 and things are getting so much better. Alcohol creates depression and makes you feel like shit. It's very difficult to stop but it's worth it. There is always sun behind the storm. And the real help I needed wasn't AA but psychoanalysis with the good psychiatrist. Now I understand a lot of things and I even have myself a beer sometimes knowing my limits and only if I'm feeling good, because if I'm not I know the vodka bottle is not far and I'd fall to the ground in a couple of days. I think like Ben says that nobody else than an (ex)alcoholic can understand what a hell it is and how long the way is to get better. You seem to be a good friend Patrick. I'm sad mine are not there anymore, but I understand.

It’s sad to hear him. Good luck to you getting through to him Patrick.

I drank every day for 35 years. I got to the VERY end then checked into broward county re hab here in fort Lauderdale florida for a 30 day in house treat center called BARC, broard county rehabe center. I turned my life over to GOD and gave myself a chance, have been 100% sober now for 14 years. Did years of AA meetings, for the first 30 days 1 sometimes 2 meetings a day had tons of tears and support that has lasted me 14 years of sobriety and now at 69 years old at least wake hang over free and living the life I miss out on prior to rehab, AA and GOD. Give yourself a chance and live it up a free person.

Hi my name is EFRAEM KAMBATO l am alcoholic from England thanks l am struggling

What a great story! Thanks for sharing. ✌🏼

My thoughts and 🙏 are with you Ben. We are all 🙏 for you. Keep up the great work Patrick.

Patrick is right Ben, Iv'e been there also.

my best to Ben! I am still in that world and am 30 and want to be better, hoping I can get better myself.

You AA people are true heroes

XXOO

Dude, you are an amazing friend!

Praying for Ben. Hope. There’s always hope. Signed, a Mother of an Alcoholic

Psych meds and than alcohol are the worst form of addiction. Fortunately I hate alcohol and other substances, but I lost so many people which were close and it is devastating and sometimes forcing someone to get help or try to help can make things worse. Alcoholics are surrounded by demons all the time and with other alcoholics and their demons too, alcohol and pain somehow connect people. It is a blessing for you Patrick that you have find a torch and stairs to come out from the downward spiral. Sometimes life can be heavy and cruel but substance abuse make things much worse, there is sollution for everything. Best reards, Sim✌🏻👍🏻🌞

Prayers for Ben!

My mother died from this disease last year. I was going down a similar path, and hope I've had my last drink. 56 days sober today.

How did you lose all your multi millions?

Traditional 11. Maybe take some time and read and understand.

What a gift your sobriety is for others 😢 😭 both my childrens fathers are alcholics and its so hard. Im not in a relationship with either of them and my daughter doesnt know her father which is heartbreaking but i know i made the right decision but it truely breaks my heart 💔

Looks like Richard from fast and loud

Thank you for doing this Patrick. You are what everyone in recovery strives to be, a lighthouse for others. If you save even one life it’s all worth it. I’ve been randomly dropping this knowledge whenever I get a chance, since I got clean 7 yrs ago: PLEASE, I say this with all the love & hope I can for anyone struggling, Do Not just stop drinking on your own. I was told to keep drinking until I arrived at the hospital when my detox began. The withdrawal can be fatal and cause cardiac arrest, even if you are not a daily drinker (which I was, all day every day the party didn’t stop and wasn’t fun anymore). I was trying to find treatment for someone recently and he died this way. I was too late, and it haunts me every single day 😔. His name was Robert, and he was only 32, and homeless because of alcoholism.. he died alone, outside..somebody’s baby boy. 🥺🙏 Never give up. On anyone.

Hallo Patrick, my name is Mike from Germany. I'm 60 year old. I follow you on KZbin since February this year. I really like and appreciate your way of talking about your personal way and experiences in connection with alcohol abuse and sobriety. Some parts are quite familiar for me. So keep going the way you're on. And, in German we say "Chapeau!" so far. Sincerely

🙏🏽for your total healing and restoration in Jesus's Name!

So informative sir! I stuck with my DaD through AA until he got to the other side! Thank you Patrick!

thank you for this as an adult child of an alcoholic my mom my step sisters and my step brother went to see my dad back in the late 1970s early 1980s my dad was on a stretcher in a hallway the doctor told him no more booze or butts but the bad thing was before that 1976 July 23 my mom was born in 1935 my dad 1939 my dad was drunk a doctor came into the waiting room he said which one do you want to save he said the mother and my mom told me later if they came to her she would have said the baby fast forward to the time a little toddler sees her father on a stretcher then when the parents divorce then the father does not pay child support for awhile recruits the addictive middle child step sister to try and kidnap her youngest sibling to do away with her. I have had food allergies over the years arthritis all kinds of problems but I like my mom said do not want sympathy but understanding my mom went to court against my dad in 1988 my dad made the mistake of saying to the judge but I do not get to see her and the judge said after you were drunk on a stretcher tried to kill your daughters family tried to kill your daughter and her family in a car wreck abused your daughter and you never will see her ever again. She said but you are going to pay child support my dad moved out of state I looked on the computer one day he died of alcoholism in 2005 my step bro on my dads side a month or two before him so thanks for stopping before it got worse I am the poster adult child for what happens when it gets worse you had the courage to stop and that means a lot from where I am sitting truth

Is it a daily forever struggle? Do you ever have a day that you don't think about it?

Thank you for helping Ben

Thank you. Must be the O'Neill Irish blood.

I hope "Ben" can stay the course. Without help from sponsors like you, being available, the outcome would not even be a question of what will happen next. WI Friend

Please read Cancer as a Metabolic Disease from Thomas Seyfried. He’s got plenty of videos and research to dig through. Go down the rabbit hole. Thanks to Jesus you can spread your message.

Been watching some of your stuff. Please get cancer as a Metabolic disease by Thomas Seyfried, and go down the rabbit hole. There’s plenty videos with him and others on KZbin. Go down the rabbit hole and do your diligence. Game changing knowledge in battling cancer. Thanks to Jesus that you are able to spread your message.

patrick---how much and how long did she drink ?