When the father said if he didn't pay the mortgage that he would derail the wedding, he should have said,"Good!" and walk away.

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He should have broken off relationship the moment they started any talk starting A rEAl mEN . 🙄😤🤨😮‍💨

You asked her to marry you after a year? OMG. What a fool! You need to go years with a women (and not pay for them) to have any chance of wedding out a gold digger. Him: "In our culture..." Me: "That's funny... in my culture it's expected that the bride's family provide a dowry for their daughter and pay the entire cost of the wedding. It's a way to transfer wealth from one generation to the next and ensure the newly weds are able to have good start and have grandchildren. Typically you give two years of your yearly income to my father a month before the wedding and they hold it while we perform background checks on your family, a purity test on her, polygraph test, etc."

When the FIL made mention about paying for their mortgage as a sign of rest, I would’ve immediately called my Pat and put him on speaker phone for my folks to hear. We would’ve had a good laugh over the phone while he was trying to pull that off!!! Lmao!!! Then I would’ve said something slick like, “fuck your family…your daughter is marrying into mine! Not the other way around!”

Most cultures even the most conservatives ones, usually have the parents buying an apartment for the newlyweds. Its usually not the son in law paying for the parent's mortgage. Sometimes dowries are part of the deal but that is usually between the parents

These are the shittiest of parents I have ever heard on Reddit

If it is so important, how was you girl friend able to get onto your laptop, why didn't you have an offsite (i.e. Cloud) storage, and why didn't you have file history enabled? What would have happened if you were robed or had a fire? And what court where you in where you needed a lawyer? US small claims would be up to $25k? However, as to the GF... I'd get a PDF copy of the judgement and every few years tract her down online to see who she's with or working for... and send them a copy of your judgement.

Are they chinese?

It seems unlikely that the laptop was not password protected.

Onlookers that have no idea who she is?

Traditionally in most cultures, it's the woman joining her husband's family, not the husband joining the wife's. The bride price was things like oxen, crops, and the such to prove he can provide for the daughter.

This guy was a Simp. Paying more than half the wedding cost. The fiancé marked you for her dad from the beginning. There was no relationship with your fiancé. The whole time you were a simple MARK.

That's really absurd, mama mia. Run , that whole family are mine diggers. Gold digger 😅😂. Respect my ass

You should stand your ground. Your fiancee sounds like she's entitled. 😮 get far, far away from her.

Everyone wants someone who has high work ethic and is trying to make that 🍞 up until they realize what that means

He should have walked after the first request of paying off the mortgage

Just ask for the endowment, if there is non, and there is never one nowadays and the family of the bride does not pay the wedding. You shouldn't pay a dime.

Lol

Wow. No mention is made of this guys life growing up but wow. Thst cannot of been a nice childhood

Good for you standing your ground. You don't need this BS 😅😅😅

Lol.

Cultural thing to pay off the brides parents mortgage when marrying into the family. What bs country are they from.

😂😅😭🤣traditions are cultural, manmade😂😅😭🤣 should have agreed as long as it gets transferred to his name 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽😂😅😭🤣

This behavior is beyond entitlement and sounds criminal.

"Being a supportive boyfriend, I agreed to pay her share of the bills." In short, he showed her he was a doormat, and she began walking all over him. What did he think was going to happen? Men like this are the reason there are so many spoiled, selfish, irresponsible and entitled women out there who think that taking advantage of people is fair game. And it's only when it gets really bad that they finally take action.

You're a sap you should have sued by asking could have caused your career your life.

Token payment? Paying off their mortgage is a "token"? Yeah, right. I'll pay it off after I sell that bridge in Brooklyn that I own. Wow, you dodged a bullet.

These stories go on forever where the OP keeps metioning final straws, tipping points etc… and start all over again with trying to reason with the irrational person they’re dealingvwith.

These were borderline psychopathic people who were attempting blatant blackmail. And the main reason they did this is because they knew he was as weak as water and was far too easy to manipulate. This man let this go on for way too long, and even at the end was far too soft on them. He should have shut this down immediately and certainly taken legal action against them for defamation when they continued the lies and personal attacks. There's no way you let people like this get away with this type of behavior as you are giving them carte blanche to do the same to someone else down the line.

Next level of my dog ate my homework

Would have helped to learn exactly which tradition they're referring to; where do they originate from? Never heard any such custom from south Asian or Middle Eastern cultures. Are these people Romani by any chance? That would explain a lot.

Many try to use my manners and ethics against me by showing no manners and ethics.

Naw, I would have walked immediately. Don't even join the game Gentlemen.

Traditional Brides parents pay .ex's family is full bs. There's no relationship

Really red flags 🚩 early 😮great choice moving forward

She's more concerned about her reputation taking a hit once the reasons for the cancelled marriage come out. Golddiggers and their mooching parents are not general popular.

“Respect Token ” op only needs to say "i respectfully decline your super moronic demand"

Wow, does the fiancé have beer flavored nipples or something? WTF did the OP stay with such a toxic cesspool of a family for that long?

Bullets dodged run man run

Bit of a simp, possibly

great story but the ants should have been held accountable as well she was there she knew the whole thing and she was an accomplice

You can't be nice to moochers like this. Her father threatened---"Give me money or you can't have my useless daughter". The demands would only increase. Dude dodged a bullet.

It reminds me of the one about a British guy who had a Chinese fiance, the woman and her family started demanding dowry, that the guy surrendered his entire salary and a long list of "tradition" perks for her and her family, when the guy rightfully pointed out that the fiance had been living on the west for a decade not following most chinese traditons and that he wasnt receiving any benefit of what they were demanding the woman without blinking told him that he was following the traditions she liked and ignoring whatever she dont, against such kind of mentality there is no possible compromise, just cut your loses and dump the woman and the entitled family.

What did her family give to him and HIS family as a sign of respect for the combining of their families?

Dowries are paid by the bride's family. They are a bribe to take her off their backs.

ALWAYS challenge such things. Demand proof instantly everytime.

"Find another man to fund you and your deadbeat parents." Simple.

Wait… Umm if you get married, your funds is for home then help others. She wrong however he sounds like a simp HALF YOUR SALARY unless you banking $$$, this story sounds stupid

Actually it is traditional for the soon to be bride's PARENTS to pay for the wedding! Remember that, men.