(36yo - New Subscriber) Hello Karuna, I've been loving and have been massively positively loving your channel and this video in particular. The validation vibes I am feeling from your content are nothing short of remarkable. I'm in this last resort phase with my last living parent (67yo) who with some research and exploration on my part, all signs point to a covert narcissistic parent so far. That communication piece you touched on in this video called out to me as along with all our other struggles has been a huge block and hurdle for me. I'm a little foggy about what you mean by developing an airline voice. I'm not sure if you have another video that elaborates on this, if they're is o would appreciate a link reply. I feel that I would benefit from your delivery of this. I think a lot of your viewers would also. Keep shining and thriving... ❤

Quite a broad brush that you paint with, leaving little room for parenting a child.

I had to eliminate sadness as a child because it was a weakness that would be weaponized against me!!

I’m glad I found your channel. Beautiful content - thank you for making this a focus of advocacy.

I only felt a little silly doing this but it was worth it as my cramping was alleviated!

I stopped sharing my interests because of fear. Especially if it's something she doesn't understand or agree with

Thank you your message has really touched me. I know nothing about psychology.but somehow I've tried everything you said in my own tin pot way. I've bought a van done it up and been ridiculed and criticized.well funk that shit. I'm off I've nothing but they have each other god bless em. They will tear each other apart get out folks I'm in Czech Republic now talk about really cool people get out

The danger lies in development as it handed down through generations. In terms the "Software " has been honed while the target is often too young to understand the complexity or the source . A common trait is to hide the source as it would make the perpetrator vulnerable to trauma again .

My ex cheated me out of thousands after getting me to sign a sort of pre nuptial that he never properly ratified. He had a legal team look at it and did everything except confirm it the way it was meant to be done. I didn't know this and lost almost £14 000. These people crawl the earth everywhere...

Thank you for this video, I have been gotten myself into this recurring cycle where my mom kept interfere with my individuality which led to me feeling exhausted and anxious. Your insights on this family relationship really helped me to be more on my decision making for myself.

I isolate myself to meditate

Nope , took tons of crap an abuse a kid , not taking any as a adult . People got a problem with my anger , not my problem, just like it wasn't thier problem when they were abusive an mentally an physically , they didn't care then so why should i care now .

This is a beautiful meditation. Thank you so much.

Well, im 22 and she still care what I do in college, which makes things in terms of grades a little bit more complicated. I just want to be left alone. Plus, she takes away both my phones as punishment..so yea

Abusive parents and siblings, then abusive friendships, then abusive boyfriends, one of which abuses me through the legal system, abusive co-workers, abusive church members, abusive therapists, abusive lawyers, abusive neighbors.....it hurts so much that i can't tell myself im safe, because it isn't true in my circumstance. Constant, on-going abusive has landed me in poverty, so everywhere i move there are violent methheads, animal abusers, sexual predators, corrupt police, hearing domestic violence.....how am i supposed to heal, when the trauma is constant, and still continuing to this day? I have done all i can....kicked out all abusers, live by myself, work for myself, no more marijuana, alcohol NOR sex.....but i have metheads cooking to the front and back of me (literally), and i can't afford to move. I tried moving once before from a methead neighborhood, only to move right into another one? Doesn't do any good to move, because im low income, and there's meth, violence, abuse EVERYWHERE I GO! No, dear, i am not safe now, and it doesn't look like i ever will be....and i never have been. So.....how does someone like me recover? Perhaps we don't, but i am truely happy for those who actually ARE able to get to a safe place, and actually BE safe.

My father is a camillion, double standard control freak he's one sided only he has no accountiblity or take responsibility I have to walk on eggshells around him and feel worthless and like I'm not good enough. My sister is one of his flying monkeys she and him both call me paranoid, crazy, tell me I'm too sensitive, I'm just imagining things. I end up yelling at her because she pisses me for using crazy making on me.

❤ Thank you Karuna. 🌼

Due to rent $ I cannot afford my own place. I cannot stomach roommates any longer. It's become unsafe to live with strangers any longer. I moved back into my parents in my forties. I just came back from being away for ten days and I watched myself instantly shut down. Eat more, watch TV. When I was gone I was becoming an artist again. Now I'm just going through the motions, finding joy here and there but it has to be a secret from them. I can see they loved me being gone. I just can't cope as they made me into someone who cannot succeed in life and now I'm back with them. I've always been the punching bag, the scapegoat. Always made to feel like something was wrong with me. I've never had kids, never been married, am not educated. I'm stuck here. I have a good job and am amazing dog but financially it's not enough at the moment. I don't know why people don't help me. I'm extroverted but don't get close to people as I can't believe people would let me stay in such an abusive situation. Meaning when I get close to someone and they dont help.... I've never had a boyfriend even want to take a photo with me, except one. He passed which is why I am back here. And I am attractive and fit.... I remain cheerful. One may say, stop complaining and do something about it! Well, where's the magical money for that? Housing vs income prices in my suddenly affluent region won't allow. I cannot work all the time due to health issues, brought on by child neglect I think. My dad is evil, my mom's his slave, I'm his scapegoat and my sister is his golden child. The End.

I've been doing this meditation for quite a while now and I just have to comment again. You have no idea the impact you've had on my life, Karuna. You helped me overcome the deepest fear of death I carried in my body. When I brought it close to me, I felt a tremendous whoosh of relief and I was breathing heavily. I feel so free now, thank you.

Omg ! I was meditating & connecting with my Higher Self one day to find the answer to "Why i have to go through disassociation? What am I experiencing this?" It said because it teaches you to be detached & not control anything. You can realise you aren't any of the identities you hold on to. That was such an eye opener. Today i stumbled upon your video & this perspective is definitely so much more empowering. How about we use everything for our spiritual evolution. Thank you for sharing this 💜

❤ thank you can relate totally

Omg!!! Thanks God I found this info!!! Thanks Karuna!!

Thanks Karuna!!!! I’m having a lot of Aha Moments!!!❤

What an amazing content!! It was so healing ❤… Thanks for integrating these subjects so beautifully!!

Wow, such a fantastic explanation! Now it all makes sense! Thank you so much! This was the missing piece in my understanding.

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This is so me. I am angry at my abusers, which are my own family.

Totally agree

Thank you so very much xx

So well explained

My head hurts thinking abt this mn, im so fed up of this ,i feel this overwhelming pressure by my parents, i hate being controlled by them, I cant even focus on something properly.its just sucks so much.

Isolating and having zero human attachment keeps me safe. Every therapist that told me it's my trauma my abuse causing it. No. Every person I met was abusive. Now I see everyone as a potential abuser and embracing misanthropy has set me free from the chains of human false attachment. Let's face it, what exactly am I missing? Animals are sincere bringing true love and joy to my life, humans can't compete nor compare. I don't want love from humans, flawed false fake and not worth it. Humans lead you into misery as this is their true nature. Who said we are here to gain relationships from other people? The juice ain't worth the squeeze and I will not offer my love and empathy to humans. I deteste them and for over a decade I have remained safe. If people take your advice then they'll soon find out that eventually humans will stab you in the back. Don't get me started on female friendships, females have been the worse perpetrators of abuse in my life.

Some women are more mind based/goal based as well

Thank you! Love is actually behaviors, so true.

I was told by my evil sister that "I never was one of them" Thank God and all his wisdom ,I am not. My family has done everything they can think of to destroy me and anything that I love and enjoy. EVIL comes in many forms. They care nothing about hurting innocent children and pets to get to you. The farther you can be away from them and their selfish lives the better. Thank you for sharing. I do not feel so alone. I am sorry your family does not know how to love. They will create their own Misery and also future generations of it. Stay strong and keep being the loving person that you are .I am glad your son is not exposed to them anymore.

Boa noite!

Indeed it's a beautiful meditation thank you from tue bottom of my heart really ❤

My father is very narcissistic and is a control freak ! Can't even have my own life because of him he's emotionally draining .

Often recieve silent treatment 😢thanks for the upload on this topic !

Your videos are really great!!! Thank you!

I went through the anger and withdrawal phases today and I just found this video and u helped my cry bitterly which actually is venting my emotions thanks

Thank you for this! Which is the other video you mention of people who can't express emotions?

🙋🏻‍♀️🙁I don’t have friends. I’ve been restricted , manipulated, isolated. Get punishmrnts whenever I fail to obey.

I moved half the country away from my family, got into recovery and have spent the last 28 years traveling, making art and denying them of their controlling ways. Couldn’t be happier. ✝️

This friend who is 23 his parents are so controlling over him it's ridiculous

I am suffering from this and it is traumatic

7:02 this last part is powerful! I do feel a huge change from where I was a year ago. Educating myself was the key! I do have setbacks, where I feel all that I’ve learned is lost, but through my recovery I know this is an old, untrue, story I telling myself cause I’m scared. This reality comes faster & fast each year. It’s not the fastest of recoveries & may take hindsight to see it, but going up is a million time better than down, no matter the speed!

Thank you so much. This video was very helpful and i feel like my feelings are validated. My father is extremely religious and conservative he raised me to obey him then get married and obey my husband which never happened. I’ve been away for him for 8 years now but my scars never healed. Im considering therapy.

I like the part where she sang hidey ho

No undertone of love ever, well into adulthood they’ve never even come through for the smallest things - they will even go as far as to agree to watch my son promise him a fun time and then pretty much neglect him while he’s there. Promised to help me get out of my 9-5 as a single mother - but when I set up and opened my business they’re no where to be seen…