OUCH! Ive had this as long as I can remember....When I first used this technique everything that I applied pressure to hurt...Grandually its releasing. I use it all the time now..amazing - thank you.

What is this greater nature?

I only feel alone when I am around others. To avoid feeling this I avoid interaction with others. For me this started at 53.

Girls suffer more because of controlling parents esp. in India😭

Yes You are right ...!! Thank Youfor Your recommendation!!

In my case I went no contact eventually, twice. The first time I was still taking a few calls from my mom (without revealing any information about my life), but I lived in a different country and didn't visit them. Contact was eventually reestablished... until things deteriorated again (not my fault , my father is violent, my mom a toxic enabler). Then I completely went no contact with both. They did eventually come around and started behaving differently (especially my mom tried much harder). I mostly grey rock them (or "pink" rock). They get zero information about my life out of me, but I'm friendly/empathetic to a degree. I do need to divert their phone calls on a regular basis (pretending my phone is off) while carrying on with my life. There is some physical meeting with my mom, brief, and in places where I can escape if she gets out of line. It's exhausting but due to complicated circumstances I'm currently choosing to do this. Just saying: no contact can sometimes be a wakeup call for parents. The important thing is THEY must want contact back and YOU must have changed by the time contact is reestablished.

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why some kids become homeless adults and parents who say, "it wasn't my fault" "it's not my fault" "it's all your fault" "you want me to spoil my kids?" "i didn't have that, when i was younger, so my kids are not going to have that"

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kids be like: "i want to go back to school" controlling parents be like: "but doesn't that cost monies?" "but don't you have trouble writing papers?" "why don't you do something that makes you monies?"

"you have to do what i tell you to do because i have a college degree and you don't...because i'm the oldest and you're not...because i have more years of experience compared to you...etc" syndrome

i wish more meditations were like this one

What a very triggering video 🤮🤢. On point 👍

I think you hit the nail on the head. My final big expression of my feelings about a troubling part of my past I feel the need to discuss is actually about worrying and caring about sometime. Your video made me realize it. Using Lifespan Integration Therapy at the moment so have been making big progress. Also recommend Mickel Therapy.

Thank you Karuna. Your video is about what I had been through. OMG! I am a daughter of a controlling mother and I have a brother. I had to physically leave the country to have my own life somewhere else. My mother dedicated her life to her son. I had many counselling sessions to understand what had happened with my family life when I was growing up. I also grew up without a dad, however I see him now from time to time. I am now in my pre-retirement age. I go to visit my mum and brother twice a year, which I was made to do due to my mother's age. Otherwise, I would be called a bad daughter by them both, now also by my son. I think that three of them are manupulative individuals, which is sad to say. I tried to speak to my mum about how I feel, but it always comes back to her being right, not seeing anything different, her speaking the right words but not acting them and going back to conversations about how important my brother is to ME. I could not care less... I dedicated all my youth to my brother's life and how I should look after him. So, you see, I have been guilt tripped by my closest family! My husband is the only one, who sees what is going on and accepts me as I am. I feel frustrated with all of this and as you said they do not respect me. My mother was also very critical of my husband when we first got married and we almost ended up in devorce!

thank you this was awsome great information

My parents will literally insult me and if I say I dont like that. They tell me Im too sensitive and justify their actions. How do I not get hooked?

I hate this, I'm 50 and divorced. This has happened my entire life. I miss being married so much to be away from them. I am so lucky to have found this channel, thank you!

I can relate to this. I have been chanting, meditating and going to therapy for decades. Somatics has been the missing piece of the puzzle for me (in particular, Holistic Life Navigation has some free and inexpensive resources). Namaste.

When you say complex ptsd ! Are you talking about virgos who were born with ptsd or people that aquire ptsd after birth?

Speaking from personal experience, I would say that shame is the feeling that I have no right to exist whether or not I have done anything deserving of judgement or criticism. In other words, I feel that I have no right to exist simply for the sake of being alive. How many people in the world grow up with the belief that they are worthy of respect simple because they exist?

This was very so needed. I just got started therapy a few weeks ago and was questioning this. I realize how much I need to meditate consistently. I’m glad I came across your page. Thank you!😊 ❤I already subscribed.

I admire children who refuse to give up their ability to love after being brought up by a controlling parent. Like then that parent when going through an aging process which is not healthy at all then that parent while seeking compassion and empathy after asking to borrow an adult child's car for a short period of time to be only grinding the gears to cause a total break down of their adult son's car whom they are feeling envious of is something a very controlling and narcissistic parent might do too after bragging about how they can pass a driving test regardless of how many chronic health problems they had at the time...

Easy enough for me to recognize a controlling person now. Like somebody who is modelling self gratification techniques for all in his audience whom he is trying to control or when he is advising the temperature in the room while all others in the room are supposed to be practising their social imitation skills too at the time which is making everybody feel very uneasy at first while feeling faint.. Self gratification techniques which of course could never only at first get flagged as being against the law while it being only innapropriate at the time.

I got PSTD when I was 15. I got it from months of intense bullying at high school. Basically I was getting hunted down most days by bullies 10-20 people all hunting me down to beat me and film me getting bashed and then laugh at it spread it on social media. This happened often people would report my location via. text. I also had to leave the school and hide in bushes and watch people while prone because if I was caught I would be attacked. I was never safe. I walked to school after recess one morning and was attacked from behind. I fought off the attacker successfully but had a bottle thrown at my head and it got me in the temple and concussed me so I had to flee with all them following me. People were even coming past my house. I had a history of truama before this though. Basically since age 15 I have had symptoms of anxiety/fear of fighting, paranoid thoughts of being attacked again, sweating, butterflies in stomach, upset stomach feeling, feeling one edge when people raise there voice or I perceive someone will hurt me. When it is a aggressive situation I find I start to leave my body and feel instense build up of fear/rage within me I also start to shake and my voice goes trembling and soft, I look people dead in the eyes and just paranoid and sometimes I will scream and have explosive rage or maybe if someone attacked me physically I would go into autopilot and defend myself. This illness had held me back alot because it even happens in social situations fear of being attacked. Im 23 now and still haven't been able to beat it fully. It is alot better now though. Theres always hope. God heals. ❤✝️

Made my afternoon even though I’m late❤❤❤

Dear Karuna, Thank you so much for this video. I'm a quadriplegic from England, I've done EMDR before(6yrs ago) for PTSD and the trauma relating to a car accident that I suffered 18yrs ago when I was 17 which caused my quadriplegia. I am currently mid-EMDR for Complex PTSD (after falling off the wagon again with alcohol my psychologist and I unearthed a whole host of deep rooted childhood traumas), but what I wanted to say really is that this video is helping me on a day to day, sometimes hour to hour basis, whilst my brain is trying to process all these memories and situations I've buried away, it is currently firmly entrenched in my current toolkit of coping mechanisms. Also it's not just for able bodied people - it's accessible to everybody. All I can say is thank you so much for this video. Kind regards Tom

thank you my body and soul purified by this all way down

Thank you so very much. I really needed to hear this.

Just listening to this made me cry. Even though now that I'm married my mother still tries to control me/my family. She's rude and harsh to my husband if what my husband does is not up to her standards. I feel like I have low self-esteem. I have a lot of fears. I wonder if I'm capable. I love my mom but what you said about if you just ride with her interests, there's nothing going to be wrong but if you try to deviate just a little, she will take it against you personally. It's just so hard.

She is good.

I’m typing this before watching the entire video. I used to be very social, friendly and happy. Now I want to be left alone. I’m not depressed I just feel like I have wasted so much time in my life and I want to grow but I don’t have the energy to actually interact with people. I’m nice but when people wants to be friends with me I isolate myself. I don’t wanna hang out, respond text messages or be on social media.

This one video is amazing, I resonated with every single word. Tenderness, contemplative, beauty of the heart, isolating, safety, world, connect. It is somehow a conflict inside because if I isolate that is a way to set boundaries and feel safe, yet I wish to love the world, but - take my word - if I completely open, then the love toward anything is too intense, it burns me. The me does not remain.

Minute 5. Standing ovation. What is in spirituality referred to as "negative path" and "non action" is actually much better than progressive spirituality: the non action is a complete openness to what arises with no aim at all at purifying whatsoever. Eric Baret claims "there are no mistakes. Any time you want to correct yourself you make a violence". Another important tool in spirituality should be to put God and the Perfection fo what is, and our being unconditionally loved BEFORE any attempt to change us. "But I must change, I am responsible, victim, and so on...": this is the point. In progressive spirituality one tries always to change something ot to transcend something, you are always "doing", never taking into account the only thing that brings together both the treatment of trauma and spirituality: the perfection and God-driven innocence of what is. The okayness. The essence of it, as it is. The change will follow this non action, and not the other way around. For somebody highly traumatized to embark on a spiritual journey of purification and evolution means not to be even able to get angry because it is not "good". Spirituality is not about good or bad, it is the unconditional. If spirituality becomes a way to ask more and more of yourself, to correct more and more, to never allow anything, to judge more, than it is not serving. What a traumatized needs is the chance for something he never thought possible: to be as he is, not to feel iper responsible, not to have to be perfect, to stop being so terribly demanding. Spirituality should be this rest, this complete not demanding. What comes out of this is such a spaciousness that you can be brought up by what awakened in you. It is not you who makes the job. I'll make a simple example: I am annoyed by someone. Since I learnt to be still in meditation, since I learnt that I should not react, since I learnt that what is outside is inside... then I immediately go like: "OMG, I am annoyed, so let's see... what is wrong? I should not be annoyed, I should be bla bla bla". Spirituality is: "How annoyed I feel". Completely annoyed, allowed, felt, as it is. That is it. Then no furhter action will be required. Spirituality is to ease, not to make more difficult: that is mind.

It is very interesting, these traumatized individuals (like me) lack of a "basis". Yet, I don't feel ashamed because the others manage the "beingness" (pointed out to by Mooji etc) but I feel ashamed of the Beauty of the soul. It is true, one needs to allow all the aspects and raise, I have seen it many times myself. But I have also seen the opposite: we are traumatized because the trauma itself is an open door to be more than individuals, and sometimes the resistance is not to the individual but to the "Higher". Sometimes I have seen that trying to put it all together by myself or with any teacher was simply not possible, whereas when I admit this profound wish for the divine, it is the Higher Power that brings it all together. The idea that we have to be "the full spectrum" is sometimes just egoic. The point is that we fear the Beauty in which, willing or not, we'll be dissolved. One final note: I do agree with you that simply being can be absolutely the wrong choice, when a resistance is prevailng. The treasure is almost always in the resistance itself when felt and gone through in total innocence. There is no feeling at all that cannot be gone through with total innocence. Even shame.

Does it feel like someone has a fist in your solar plexus and it's opening and then closing over and over with a shortness of breath? I've had chest pains before but never anything like this it's not a sharp pain but a discomfortt pain

Oh bless you are such a lovely warm lady but my ADHD is triggering and I can’t understand some of your angles… sorry I am not meaning to be critical it’s just me not being able to take it in.

Hey Karuna, I still have a question regarding your comment on non duality. Can I maybe write you an email?

Because people are morons? simple.

I hate so called 'friends'! When a hug would save me, there isn't one. Mine doesn't come from childhood trauma - I didn't have one! It's the adult arseholes who just don't care x

Im glad i stumbled on this channel ❤

The thing that makes me wanna fucking vomit is the hypocrisy of these parents that judge great parents 🙄

Sorry you went through this i really hate your dad for what he did to you. My parents always hated me and dad tried to kill me but im free of them and im happy and at peace now we didn't deserve any of this ❤love and peace

After I educated myself on psychopaths Now they see me as a lunatic that needs ti be locked up. Lol lol lol lol Really too funny.

Absolutely do not tell a psychopath your real feelings

I had no idea_ read - evan starks book Thanks Doc Stark

Thank you!

I have childhood trauma. I allowed people to disrespect me and blame me for their bad behavior. I did a lot of therapy. I did EMDR and DBT therapy. I am now being truthful and allowing myself to feel my anger from being disrespected. I can now leave hurtful relationships or abusive jobs. I can love and respect myself. I don't have to feel guilty or shameful for taking care of myself. This is where I am. I am in recovery from codependency. I am safe and respect myself.

Love your page. Just found it. Subscribed ! 🎉

I notice my kindness /happiness triggers negative controlling narcassists lol