The ironic thing is, when People tell you, you are not the child of your "parents", because you are not related. BUT you also should NOT looking for your biological "real" parents, because that is "selfish" towards your "parents". Or they want to tell you to be happy and thankful to be "chosen". Yes, it is super easy to forget that you were not wanted and selected for replacing the unborn child your "parents" could not have (at least that's how I FELT, that's my personal pov.) Some people are stupid as hell. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Im also adopted from NY City

I was so messed up about the family tree project. I believe it was one of my first "F" grades because I didn't even want to deal with it.

I was adopted as soon as I was born ( I was kept in the family) then my adopted mother discovered that she was pregnant with my sister, at 81/2 months old my mum went into hospital and had a very difficult birth; she had to stay in hospital for 3 week's; I didn't stop crying the whole time she was away, and when she came home with baby sister she didn't have much time for me so again I didn't stop crying until I started to walk, and then I seemed to be much happier ( my mum's words not mine). I have suffered with anger issues, plus I was told that I was a lazy good for nothing, now I get " I've done a lot for you." I don't trust people much, and I have problems with relationships.

Sorry I just now found this channel. Thanks for your vulnerability and amazingness. 🙏🙏🙏 I'm a therapist in training (I'll graduated in July from the MSW program at IU Bloomington) and certified yoga teacher (love the somatic). And I want to specialize in serving transracial adoptees, folks struggling to cope with grief and loss, and parenting. Thanks for blending informal/raw/authentic stuff with research and evidence. Absolutely love it. I'd love to partner one day on a podcast or something via internet- but I'm focusing on my graduation now and frankly the idea of editing videos makes me want to avoid putting myself out there on the internet. Just saying - love this video, this is the first one I've seen from you guys. And I'm an adoptee ^_^

Such amazing information! As a Mom I'm looking to help my sweet son navigate his world. Thank you so much!!!

For people asking about how much adoption costs, how much did your birth cost? Was it a few thousand dollars on medical bills? Did your parents take a loan for you to be birthed in a hospital? How much was the insurance to cover your care?

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Wow this is powerful!!

Thank you!! I am so sick of hearing agencies encouraging potential adoptive parents to widen their portfolios to match sooner and accepting parents that obviously aren’t ready for adoption!!

Brett, you remind me of my friend named Iris!😂🤣 You both are so funny! Your channel helps me fell good about me being adopted from China.

Do I need some software installed to be able to use it? Does it work when plugged in an iPad? How do I know it is the microphone that is recording?

I want to get adopted, life is so lonely

My white coworker keeps doing this. He keeps following me all around the job site It’s annoying I will tell him to stop doing that today

Omg!! This is literally my coworker!! F#$!

It didn't sound nice with the guy on the left but it sounded sooooo good with the guy on the right :p

I wanna starts but idk what to buy, in Amazon today is on $89 because came with a headphone. Thanks

wow! Thank you so much! I have read so much, but this is so clear and easy to understand as a parent! I shared it with his teachers too!

This was everything. Im am an adoptive parent of two boys ages 13 and 18. AND Im a trauma coach. So, fair to say...SPOT ON. Thanks so much for sharing in such a profound way.

how can i filter this mic to eliminate background noise?

Hi - my name is fuqian and I am 8 years old. I was born in china and now I am in jordan with my mom. Your show was funny. I really hate showers and every day my mom tries to tell me to take a shower.

Do you have your own list of pros and cons? What’s the point of this video?? I sense you have an opinion opposing adoption and people who do adopt. But you didn’t exactly make that clear and I’m sorry this video DOESNT help anyone.

We are coming for you South Korean government officials!!!!!!!! May the South Korean government officials feel the pain and suffering that their own government officials have conflicted on South Korean orphans. It’s not over and it’s going the beginning. South Korea, China and United States of America is responsible for trafficking children. I won’t back down.

Abolish adoption and abolish foster care. Adoption and foster care is a death sentence. Foster care is the Devil himself and adoption is is death. South Korea is responsible for trafficking their children ☠️

Abortion is preferred.

Love the example - do your kids fear you or want to call you when they screw up ♥️

Love this ♥️ don’t be the victim. Be the hero. Decide.

oh the sound un altered was better hahaha

For me I'm Ethiopian and being around white people still makes me very uncomfortable .. I live in the Netherlands and was aopted by white people. I only grew up around white people and it didn't help me

Hello sir ,have a good day ,i have a question ,if my condencer mic i connect to my soundcard then i will put female usb to aux in this situation is no psroblem sir

We plan on adopting teens in the near future. Hearing your perspective was very valuable. I thank you for sharing your insight. This conversation helps us to better understand the underlying feelings we will undoubtedly encounter. We have raised 3 biological children and are attempting to prepare ourselves for something that is going to be a totally different experience. I thank you for sharing and caring to share. I appreciate your brave journey.

Adoption is never for the GOOD of a child. Even infants are being abused (and may die) will suffer extreme trauma as a result of being placed with strangers in their infancy. Adoption doesn't fix trauma.

What about the times you tell someone you're adopted, and they're like... "Oh..." or "I'm so sorry. I didn't know." Or they find out your foster name, and they start calling you that. I put an end to that really quick and haven't told anyone since.

How can you hear yourself or monitor using this mic?

I hate it when people say they understand the pain you went & are going through

I blady love u guys u are sooooo funny Eventhough my adoption isn't funny U guys made me laugh & cry at same time

Can I use this for console ?

God the apartment thing!!! I'm in a block and I hate hearing people in the other apartments/flats talking moving about banging etc.

Thank u I'm new to these mics and ordered it a couple days ago

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Let me recommend The World is my Home, by James Michener. He was adopted and I could relate to so much in the autobiography.

As an adoptive mom, thank you for your videos! I'm only wishing I had found these sooner. My husband and I had a pretty long waiting period before adopting our son, and looking back, I am so grateful for that. Because if I'm being honest, I'm not sure we had all of our "reasons" worked out before we first set foot in the agency. But the time spent waiting gave us plenty of opportunity to reflect, and our attitudes and understanding definitely shifted. Of course we're still far from perfect, but I'm now really thankful we didn't become parents before learning what we know now.

I am 20 years old girl . I want to be adopted ....my life feels so lonely.

i have the mic so how do you turn it on ? hp computer its on

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Like an adoptive parent would listen to this. Adoptive parents rarely want to hear what I have to say, no matter what, because it upsets their world view.

I just found you guys. Thank you for talking about all of this stuff. When someone says, "Oh, he/she should be grateful," I just want to say: Why? Shouldn't everyone be grateful? Why are adoptees expected to be extra grateful. If I'm not grateful enough, does that make me a bad adoptee?

Ah, the infamous family tree project! As an adult, I've figured out that my family tree is three-dimensional. But the middle school one just felt like a lie, a bold-faced lie. I sucked it up, because I didn't want to bother anyone.

Lol I love you guys

Good review, shave it off 👍🤣