I think a good story about a character who can be considered disfigured is the cursed princess club web comic that was turned into an actual graphic novel. The main character is also a teenage girl, and I think that is really important considering the pressure on teen girls to look beautiful.

was not expecting to see lestat catching strays😂

A movie with a queer character doesn’t need to have the whole movie about them being queer either. You can just as easily add in a queer character and make it normalised where no one questions it. There’s also so much potential to add depth to a character with queerness

can we speak about Conner's Kent bisexuality in Young Justice 😔😔

These are amazing much-needed videos. Thank you!

I watched a Different Man after this. I really enjoyed it!

The amount of times ive heard people tie Asexuality to incels & celibate people. Ive even been called a unic! Its important for us to be part of the community so we dont face this alone...

About systemic misogyny in cheerleading: I’ve heard that today, cheer scholarships are basically always given to male cheerleaders bc of their importance, perceived or real to stunts 💀🙏

I need to listen to these artists songs! 😍

I have ADHD 😂 was listening to listening to this while getting ready this morning and then when trying and failing to nap after work this afternoon

I’ve heard that Elphaba in the original book for Wicked was intersex (though this wasn’t the best representation) and i think that makes so much sense with her dealing with society thinking she’s a “freak” or trying to “fix” her, which is similar to intersexism

Many people are disgusted or unsettled when they see my joints move abnormally due to EDS. This happens somewhat often

One half of my body is also bigger than the other and I've had spider veins since childhood. I remember a few kids being outwardly grossed out by them, it's why I don't wear shorts outside the house

THANK YOU for making this video.

46:27 There is a very high pitched ringing in the audio whenever this person is on the video and it becomes unlistenable.

The hair said everything about how this video would go..Number on a scale??😂😂Overweight isn't healthy and kids should know it

You disgust me, losing weight is a positive notion that will impact you positively exercise is not merely entertainment it’s supposed to be for your health. You’re meant to do it for your well-being not for your enjoyment.

Thank you for speaking at the pace I actually want to process things at.

Wonder is still widely used in classrooms as a bastion of tolerance. If teachers or parents are looking for something similar that is more realistic for that age group, I would highly recommend Insignificant Events in the Life of a Cactus instead. It includes a character with a congenital disfigurement (a young girl born without arms) and her new best friend who has Tourettes. They both navigate their differences in very different ways. If the goal of giving middle-grade kids a book like this is to build empathy, it does a great job showing that not everyone is embarrassed or even really hindered by their disfigurement. It also reminds kids that forcing anyone to feel a certain way about things they struggle with, the constant positivity and love yourself mantras, can also be harmful in the way that they don't really help someone who is processing their own trauma/treatment. I loved it as an adult, and I think kids would too.

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Loved the video, and thank you for keeping this ADHDer company while I attempt to finish the blanket I am weaving in time for Christmas. I started it in September, had plenty of time, yet here I am, with 2/3 to do and 48 h to go... Cemetery Boys is a great book. I have put The Spirit Bares Its Teeth on the TBR.

you are actually the second youtuber that I follow that has been weirdly locked out of adsense. Jill Bearup has faced the same issue!

You made my day better. Thank you a lot:]

I have the same problem.

Relateable. Same problem.

Aliceband is a really good band and her song 'worms' is about being a gay woman.

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I noticed that people treated me differently when I began my male-to-female transition. As a boy and a man, I looked like Jimi Hendrix in high school and dressed like a blaxploitation movie pimp, because it was the '70s, lol! In college, I looked like Prince, and dressed like Miami Vice in the '80s. In the '90s, I wore a high-top "fade", with the Bat Signal shaved in the back of my head, and red-rimmed glasses, like Sally Jessy Raphael's, lol! I had trouble getting dates and jobs, and was almost arrested twice, because I was shy, geeky, and a large, scary black man. When I came out as trans, people told me three times daily I was beautiful! Police treated me like a lady, except when I was once almost arrested for using the ladies' room, until I was advised by LGBT activists to complain to the assistant police chief! Now, I use ladies' and family rooms unopposed. During my first year in drag, I scared off gay-bashers with pepper spray on several occasions! Since then, I go everywhere in girl mode, without incident. My love life improved 200%, making me a bisexual, poly, and kinky goth chick! I went from a near-incel man to a rock star-like woman! I never had bisexual threesomes or did BDSM as a man!! My social skills improved, too. I became more assertive as an activist, charming and romantic in sexual situations, successful as an artist, and intimidating to bigots, and abusers in girl mode.

I just felt a sudden need to remind you that you're loved and needed. You're always beautiful, I'm sure that even without anything covering the problems you mention, you'd still be one of the most beautiful people in the world. You're alwaus beautiful, inside and outside. You're always loved and needed. Thank you for being here. I'm really happy you exist.

Was reminded of this video when making a character in the new Dragon Age video game, because amongst the 30something(?) complexion options was a trio of (admittedly fairly mild) "Acne" options and something in my brain immediately relaxed at how much more realistic and, for lack of a better word, normal adding acne to the character made them look to my eye 😅

This video is brilliant. It also helped me get in touch with how creepy it was that an ex of mine checked up on what social events I would be attending on Facebook and turned up several times as if by chance, until we got together. She confessed this later, laughing while saying she stalked me and I laughed along, quickly repressing and eventually forgetting my discomfort until this moment. We actually had a mostly great four years together, which may be part of the reason I totally let go of how it began. I am still grateful for the relationship, but it started with something quite manipulative. Part of my reason for sharing, as a man, is to offer a reminder that not all manipulation is done by men on women.

this very much might be an only me idea, but as an aroace person myself, i think aro and ace identities definitely belong in the lgbtq community, but it should be its own section of identities. like, at the moment we only have gender and sexuality (and intersex tho which is odd cuz i dont see anyone questioning if they belong in the lgbtq community despite the fact that it isnt gender or sexuality) i think aro and ace identities should be split from sexualities and have it's own umbrella term as the how or how much of attraction, still within the same community though. i also think that if someone's attraction has been affected by experiences or medication or their environment etc, their valid to use those labels if they feel they fit. but ultimately i think its up to the individuals

Stay away from my kids!

Stay awat from my kids!!!!

Here are some disabled heroes for you to appreciate: - Zoro, Shanks and Aokiji (One Piece) - The main character and Harpae (Pocket Mirror) - Guts (Berserk) - Lee Sin (League of Legends) - Luca, Hummer, Junior, Doreen, André, Smudge, Jimmy Five, (Monica and Friends) - Alice (American McGee's Alice) - Simon Henriksson (Cry of Fear)

47:31 We did know that if Agatha tried to take Death's power, it would kill her...

40:00 These make me so sad to see. There really is no variety to the final noses, which… these women all looked fine but what if they wanted a different shape than the tiny straight nose they got in the end? IMO noses are the most distinctive feature of people’s faces, so it’s extra jarring to see essentially the same nose put on across all these women whose faces are otherwise so distinct.

I was really nervous to watch this because to this day I still flinch whenever I hear the word discourse. I realized and accepted that I was ace right before the discourse started. I saw the community I had just joined collapse under the weight of aphobia and "are aces actually LGBT?" and aces being cichet "because we were just straight people who didn't want sex and don't actually face any discrimination" and there's so much more I've tried to forget and move past. I still identify as very much ace, but I don't identify with the LGBT community anymore because of this nonsense. Regardless, I'm still scared to say I'm ace out loud in a lot of spaces, especially online. Most times I just say I'm queer. Mostly because of this, but also attraction is complected and queer is the word that best fits that for me. If I hadn't found queer blogs that were ace-inclusive I don't think I would identify as asexual anymore. I'd still think I was broken in some fundamental way.

The point at 23:50 with Calcium is more complex than just a important during/after "menopause" thing. At a certain point in your life you reach your "peak" bone mass and health and from there it is downhill due to age (certain cells that build up bone mass decline in activity). Women after the menopause suffer especially hard from this, since estrogen plays a certain part in regulation of osteoclast/blasts and hormone levels drop significantly. Because of this, your bones should be in the best possible condition BEFORE menopause. With bone degradation, it's not about "strengthening" or "repairing" but preserving what's there.

It's interesting what abnormalities are viewed negatively vs positively. EDS runs in my family. My parents are in their 60s. And, continually, I am shocked when I meet an elderly person and then learn they're in their 60s. The reason is that, due to skin hyperflexibility, my mom barely has any wrinkles. This is the symptom of a condition, but it's read as positive because it makes her look younger. Meanwhile I'm 24 and awash with health problems that people associate with old age. Joint pain, my knee "giving out", crackly joints, on top of all sorts of other debilitating issues. But I*look* young; I have big eyes, abnormally so, and extremely soft skin. People compliment me by telling me I look 16 (sometimes followed by asking me out 🤮). But I'm sick. Even my hyperflexibility is considered "sexy" by a lot of people. Then again, flexibility is a trait that, for most people, peaks in childhood and wanes in adulthood. My disability makes me closer resemble a child, which makes me more attractive by conventional standards. Meanwhile a person whose disability makes them look older or "different" in a way that isn't analogous with being childlike will be othered.

Is it polari or palare? Thinking of that Morrissey song

Passing privilege is such a double-edged sword. Things like having invisible illnesses, orientations or identities, being a migrant or mix-raced... We live between worlds, in that liminal space that has some of the advantages and disadvantages of both, but it also has its own particular struggles. We don't suffer most of the blunt, active direct discrimination others in our minorities do. But we do get denied our realities, have to justify them and tend to feel lost and that we don't belong. The percieved belonging to the opresor group makes us witness a lot of that discrimination with the raw hatred society makes them limit to their ´peers´. And we deny our own needs because they are not as intense or visible or known or explainable or whatever. I have a big scar, but it's on my belly. I am a late diagnosed autistic woman with just level 1. I am aroace, but never had to turn anyone down. I have chronic illnesses, but they rarely affect me in my day to day life. I've been deppressed and with anxiety for years, but could always function well enough (with sick leaves from work).

Having another or more than one human providing care, respect, attention, compassion, safety, are not needs. they are privileges that can be taken away at any time, that no one deserves and no one should get. If you cannot survive torment and ostracization, then you are spoiled and used to hand outs. It took me so, so long, to learn what it felt like to be treated the way all those around me have been treated since they were adolescents. Others tell me I like being alone, or that I am alone for being born wrong, while surrounded by friends at all times themselves. I had four weeks total with favorite person before they changed jobs. Everyone speaks from this perspective and find themselves credible and noble for having these privlidges. And find they got them due to their own goodness, they have this goodness and intelligence because they are given these gifts. Am I full of it for saying this? It's true from my own experience. But no one else Is saying this. if someone was capable of cellos, and had my life, they would attempt a mass of cars. I wish I was not armless. I wish I had the strength to help others back. Masses of cars have been done to get back at sufferings lesser than what I have endured. Words don't change peo0le. Wounds do. - agent black

I think there's also something to explore with the connection between "Red Wine Supernova" and "Champagne Supernova," that a lot of people miss because they're so aesthetically different. At the same time the parallels in the naming are kinda impossible not to see once you look. It's a really interesting contrast because Champagne Supernova is a song written by a (homophobic) man, who was riding in on the periphery of a queer counterculture movement (the punk grunge that later evolved into pop punk with L7, Nirvana, Hole, Alanis Morissette, Green Day, Butthole Surfers, Garbage, &c). With Champagne Supernova centering around themes of drug use (especially heroin, alcohol, and psychedelics) with intimate partners. Including the loss of those people to addiction and the feelings of closeness and connections that it can bring. Something that was really relatable to people who were using taking drugs together as a substitute for intimacy when sex was potentially deadly, but also incredibly disconnected from the subculture that the author drew from for its themes and aesthetics. The long melancholy attitude in Champagne is something that was very much a part of the live-fast die-young punk rock, EDM, and queer culture in the US & UK of the 1990s due to the AIDS pandemic and governments' efforts to use it as a weapon to exterminate queer people resulting in a sense of life as both intolerable, painful, to be escaped, and fleeting. So while the views of the author on queerness were negative, his inherent connection to the culture created a very relatable piece that was steeped in the melancholia of the times. Red Wine Supernova takes similar themes of connection, coming of age in a queer-driven alternative culture (in this case from the perspective of an out queer woman) but with a much different Outlook and perspective. While Champagne focuses on loss, grief, and disconnection and the eschewing of sexual themes for psychedelic and narcotic ones, Red Wine Instead focuses on the fun and playful bonds that queer people can make through sexual experiences with each other. Red Wine also captures the hope and joy of a future where sexual experiences and experimentation can be enjoyed freely and (relatively) without consequences. Red Wine Supernova really does work well as a queer woman's response to a straight man who wrote about his experiences connecting with people through drug use and opposing queer sexuality when undoubtedly surrounded by it. Reveling in the bonds made and exploding with pep and energy while the older song wilts into lonely despair.

What if you have libido but it's not directed towards having sex or sexual activity? And what if you also don't like sex or kissing and think these things sound stressful and gross? And what if despite all of that, you still want to be with someone and start a family?

really loved the section about moral OCD and stigma - as a queer teen i spent a lot of time online around activist ideas but didn't realise what moral OCD was until this year and just thought i was uniquely horrible and a Bad Person

I read all these comments and I feel bad for everyone. I’m over 30, weird neurodivergent cat, and most of my friends are weird as well, I was lucky to find people like me. My longest friendship is 17 years, we met online and then in person, she went to my wedding, we constantly travel to visit each other and go to concerts together. My husband also has his friends, but the thing is that we ended up sharing friendships. Most of his friend became mine, I mean, I can hang out with the,, without my husband being around. He can do the same with my friend, because they also have similar tastes. They even went to a music festival together, do I feel jealous? Not at all, because I didn’t want to go 😂 a week later I went to another festival with another friend of us, without my husband, because all of us have met for so many years, sometimes we fought, we have deep conversations and there’s confidence. Most of them are also cats, which is cool. We can meow at each other.

I don’t know why but I don’t see data as fully ace, more as how he doesn’t realise his feelings he doesn’t realise his attraction (like, he may very well be on the spectrum). Who I do think is ace is Lore; I think it could have happened (hc) that Soong was confused and ask lore if his sexuality program and he was like “I could but I do not wish to” and soong thinks there is a mistake but there is none it’s just like with humans. And since data is programming is based of Lore’s it would be instresting to see how two people with the same capabilities in that sense can have two different perspectives that don’t rely on “data is ace cause he doesn’t have emotions” idk. Don’t take this way too seriously y’all

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Can I just say you look so incredibly cute in the sponsor clip with your no makeup makeup look 🥺