the first 30 seconds of this made me tear up :(

You: shout out to my fellow ADHDers who are probably listening to this whilst doing something else Me, listening to this at work whilst juggling like 5 different tasks at the same time: 👀

Omg THANK YOU for the Gaza mention, and likening it to the Hunger Games series. It honestly staggers me how some people can watch those movies and love them and root for the rebels, but then turn around and in real life have stances that range from "being asked to boycott Starbucks is a bridge too far for me" through to "actually I think that the wanton slaughter of tens of thousands of innocent civilians is justified actually" like wtf. Ive been rewatching tHG this week and good lord the number of parallels... the 75 years of violently-enforced opposition, the uncountable number of slaughtered children, the rising levels of public protest that gets soundly ignored (or violently quashed) by the sitting government, the pro-palestine/mockingjay graffiti, THE BOMBING OF A HOSPTIAL. It truly staggers me how anyone can watch those movies and be on Katniss' side, but then turn around and be pro-Israel even in the face of Israel's blatant genocidal actions.

I am 15 minutes into this video and it is making me so viscerally uncomfortable because it feels like someone i have never met is describing my own lived experience

Great work, just brilliant, thank you. I just had to share this. One request, please follow up on how ageism has its impact. I'm 67, Black, Trans, Lesbian and live in virtually complete social isolation due to the projected assumptions of folk my own age and those younger, and that is before addressing the cult of youth, policing of gendered norms, and racialized class within queer communities.

I’m 25, turning 26.. I’m beautiful, friendly, intelligent, and kind… and I haven’t had a friend I could just call and chat with for almost 10 years. I’m at the point where I’m ready to just give up on having close friendships in my life entirely and just focus on my relationship with my family and myself.

Now it feels like you have to be already close with someone for it to be acceptable to call them, but it’s almost impossible to achieve this level of closeness through texting and occasional coffee meet ups. So basically if you don’t already have a best friend, it feels like it will be virtually impossible for you to find one.

The fact that’s it’s not socially acceptable to call a friend when you just wanna talk anymore is a huge contributing factor as well - text is so much less personal and it’s hard to feel true closeness when you’re not able to actually speak and hear your friend’s voice on a regular basis. Texting just ends up feeling like work, especially when there are few opportunities to actually spend time together and you’ll just be playing catch up, as you said. This makes people drift further apart over time, as there’s no longer a feeling of satisfaction or genuine connection and closeness that comes through attempts at communication.

Victim Olympics. There is NO representation that wouldn't cause outrage because outrage is the goal, not representation 🥴

The episode where James dressed up as a Moltres had me going "Yep! He's gay!" A later episode reinforced it by having him say that he likes "flaming bowls", which I misheard as what you're probably all thinking.

Great video. I've noticed the uptick in people calling characters and/or the people who like characters 'Toxic' just for empathizing or rooting for said characters and their arcs. I find it very strange, and not surprising, that mostly it is queer-coded characters. Guess I'm just a toxic tranny 😂

"Men and women can be friends if they aren't weird about it" Lol nah. That's just super dismissive and not really a solution. The only way they wouldn't be 'weird about it' is if they're mutually NOT attracted to each other. Usually one party catches feelings and thats not something you can negotiate. Men can also have sex without forming attachment easily and will usually take the opportunity if she's physically passable - not even necessarily attractive. "boys are incentivised to play team sports / video games with each other - some sort of team activity with a goal. Girls are put on this path of tea party context where they socialise for the sake of it" Again, that's complete 'blank slate' fabricated horse shit 😂 No one is MADE to do anything, they naturally do this because men and women ARE NOT THE SAME. We're wired differently. There is SO much research on this, I don't get how people still go down this "blank slate - everything is socialisation" delusion. It's the same way that in the most gender egalitarian societies men and women differ even more in what they choose to do - vocation and occupation.

I love these kinds of videos I just long for a day when people understand that they need to put energy into friendships too, but i know thats not the only reason and personally put a lot of blame on the 40 hour work week and extreme lack of third places. As a queer male, I feel like the lack of emotional intimacy is even stronger, as I crave it and know I crave it, but feel others my age are still stuck in that gendered boys don't talk about feelings stage. it can all feel really hopeless sometimes

We NEED Autism representation, and it's wrong if you don't tell us or deny that a character is Autistic. At the same time when the writer tries to represent a autistic character in there show. They're doing it wrong because every autistic person is different. The shows that best represent autistic people are the shows that autistic people can relate to cause they have some of the same tendencies. Come on guys let's all Be politically correct so that no feelings get hurt. Circle logic is fun.

1:15:30 damn you didnt have to call me out like that 😭😭

ok so i have a few things with this, first of all when it comes to the trans thing. The doctor is good at medicine, trans genderism isnt a medical thing or a logical thing its an identity thing, as an autistic guy myself i have serious trouble understanding transgenderism because the idea of feeling like a gender sounds insane to me, and its a shame because i often feel i cant express that without being considered a dick, yes i do want people to fit into neat nice little boxes, that would be better in my view and i think a lot of other autistic people feel the same way, do i want any one to experience harm, no do i want to be able to use the wrong name or pronouns without my race, gender and sexuality being brought up and used to assume i have some strange form of hate, also no.

well, this should start at the notion that LGBH (LGB+hetero) are not queer :) ugly, fat, poor, etc are not queer. And have more narrow definition of queer, bc so far definition of "queer" is so inflated that it makes "hetero" minority . And in the end it looks like any viable definition of "queer" makes it "against rules of given society" (and if you'll include all known "queer" into normal, then there will be INVENTED some new queer - which will be *outside* that normal). So, it is not that "X is villain" then "X must be queer", it is opposite - when "X is queer of that society", when "X is opposing society" (or struggling within it, or vilified by it) then "X is evil of society" (i.e. X - is villain). ------ You can see it right now - who is opposite of queer society (QSociety for short)? Who is THE VILLAIN of that QSociety? Yep, it that person who is *excluded* from that society, and who is enemy of the QSociety - it is "that one evil heteronormative X" :DDDD

I always took the "my mother had me tested" comments from BBT as a test for "crazy" (like that's a medical term) because it usually followed Penny or someone outside the boys saying Sheldon is "crazy". Your point isn't wrong at all, just a point to how the writers kept it all so vague that it ended up working against them even worse than they realized when they basically equated having autism to being crazy.

I'm terrified of graduating because of this. once i live alone... who's to say i won't _stay_ alone, now that i won't be somewhere that'll force me to make friends? i couldn't sleep thinking about my fear of being abandoned and alone. i had periods of loneliness where i even talked to (very primitive at the time) artificial intelligence to have someone, anyone to spend time with. i have close friends now who I'm very open with, but what if they'll be too busy? what will happen when we go our seprate ways? how will i ever make new connections? I'm really scared.

I have two layers to figuring out my lgbt identity. I realized early on that I'm attracted to women when I was playing Knights of the Old Republic in middle school and developed a crush on Mission Vao It took me until last year to realize that I'm trans, which would also make me a lesbian. The first step on the *long* journey to figuring that out was Pokemon Sapphire, one of the first times I had a choice in my character's gender and the first time I picked the female option. I have a soft spot for both Mission and May because of that.

Id be interested to see you break down a character call laios from the anime "delicious in dungeon" as i think hes a pretty good rep of autistic people

20:35 This kind of confirms my suspicion that male friendships are more about sharing emotions for support while female friendships are more about sharing support and synchronising emotions. It always baffles me how women can know other women for decades and not know basic information about each other, while men typically tend to share many intimate details with other men as a cry for help.

05:35 It's a myth that past relationships don't affect women, I noticed that a lot of women become avoidant of certain personality traits or even style choices if a previous boyfriend or girlfriend had it. I never got the idea that relationship history only ever affect men, while it's true that men are more likely to still have feelings for past lovers (regardless if she's the first, second, third, fourth, or one-hundred-twentieth), women tend to get over the man but not get over what drove her away from him.

I have friends that are very seperate and it does feel like I have to choose them over each other regularly. This is mostly with online friendships with very different interests. In person I have more combined friend groups and I recently managed to get a lot of my friends together and they got to chat a lot and talk about stuff they heard from me second hand. Books, uni, life etc. I hope I can get us together for a picnic sometime because a lot of them will be moving out of the country after the bachelor. Also another friend started inviting people over for game nights and it's the freaking best!!

I’d be more social if I wasn’t working 45 hours.

Not my fault if my peer females is only willing to open themselves to their lovers. They just don't think good friendship is worth the same amount of effort and time, idk why. I'm surprised that most of my females friends I know feel like they don't really care nor wanting female friendship anymore once they found husbands (who they deemed can double as a friend in their life)

Our country is such a gluttonous country at this point it has created a movement criticizing "fatphobia". They didn't even have this shit in 2005 when it became widely apparent so many people were becoming obese.

Yes they need to learn god gave them a chance

My favorite color after this video is pink, because FuchSia for that "movie"

Honestly this is all of my current friendships. We only meet up for everyone's birthday. We eat and do small talk. I suck at small talk. Society for millennials and down encourages the catch-up style relationship. Ideas like you don't need anyone. Everyone is an introvert like everyone is OCD. I hope the younger generations realize that this idea is harmful and that people need social interaction. It's why solitary confinement is so horrible.

Immediately you say u werent straight but touched one another... Kay

This video makes my heart ache.

Thing one: great videos loving the content Thing two: lmao I thought it'd be funny to say I am so ADHD i am either watching while listening to music or writing or listening while on the Xbox Again, keep it up!

"friendships can be treated as outright threats to monogamous coupledom" ...oof, yeah. How do you deal with that? Feels like a no-win scenario to even bring it up.

watching this in 2024 giggling at the good omens section

“The Perfect Show You’ve Never Seen” is the title, but then you warn from spoilers if you haven’t watched the show. Only people who have watched the show would continue watching this, maybe a better title was needed for this video 😭

Asd always javing savant is just so annoying it actually works against people with autism who cannot get diagnosed because they are not geniusses…

I have 2 sets of friends, 2 friends from middle school that we still keep in contact with, and 2 friends from college. I turn 30 in July. Ive been so lonely since honestly after high school. I deleted all my social media so even the small "talks" id have online have gone away, the only time I hang out with anyone is when I invite my friends over and they show up. A lot of times they don't, and i dont hold it against them (anymore) but i wish they'd invite me to things too. But im at the point where I'm ready to give up trying to maintain the friendships. Only reason I haven't up until now is because they're my only friends left and I really don't want to have no one, but lately it's felt like I've been alone this whole time. At least I have my husband, who by some miracle, has friends who consistently reach out to him. He's the one that doesn't reach out. I tell him how loved and lucky he is, but he doesn't see it that way. I've sort of come to terms with my loneliness, but back then it used to hit me so hard.

My problem is you can’t seem to have platonic friends in media anymore? Best friends? Now they are gay lovers

Idk how to communicate it or discuss it with the full level of depth necessary but is it difficult to handle for anyone else that Rowan asks why do non autistic writers seem to think they can write about autistic experiences but she does not seem to do the same with why is she the one making this video? Like it’s not a massive problem just something I think is worth thinking about with this video. I do appreciate they wrote this with an autistic person helping them out it just feels a little strange not acknowledging it in this video.

Autism representation is still very white, very male but also very young. There is still a big gap for autistic female representation at any age and POC representation is almost unknown. WHere are the women? and all the adults come to think of it? Speaking as someone who only got their official diagnosis at 37 despite being suspected from an early age. Not to mention queer autistic representation - there can be a surprisingly a large amount of bigotry amongst some queer and trans people since autistic people often do not conform to social gender norms and there is the danger they might be assumed as trans or on the flipside be trans but not aware of it. There is also the difficulty in education training and jobs - interviews and jobseeking these days are often actively anti-ND with most coaching for autistic people being 'LARP at being neurotypical'.

Hot take of mine is that Bruce Wayne is autistic but because of societal ableism and stigma around autism and poor education & equally as poor representation of autism being such a massive issue among uninformed neurotypicals or just allistic people (some ADHDers I’ve followed online before are incredibly ableist about autism which is a whole other level of fucked up imho) hate autistic people or our behaviour as much as some of them love Batman and as Batman is a massive special interest for me I find it incredibly ableist. Idk if this is the best worded way of expressing this but just saying I am dealing with a massive spike in autistic burnout after losing 90% of my support from a governmental agency recently so I hope anyone who engages with this will excuse the lack of perfection in my writing.

Love on the spectrum is also very much unwilling to tackle autism with a neurodivergent affirming approach, I haven’t watched it in quite a while but from what I’ve seen in other fellow ND online circles it’s been made clear that some of the people on love on the spectrum are supportive of ‘therapies’ that are actively harmful towards autistic people for example with supporting ABA and collaboration with autism speaks.

Just gonna say this FUCK Autism Speaks! It breaks my heart that some of my favourite celebrities and artists support these monsters and it’s completely tainted my interest in supporting Jack Black especially as a fan of tenacious D and his work in some of my favourite movies as a result.

WTF

It's really frustrating to get halfway into something really interesting like this and the cc just ... stops. KZbin says it's still on, but there's no cc on my screen! Since you had to write a script and also edit the vid anyway, could you please consider supplying your own cc so that it doesn't just shut off like this, and also so that it doesn't get so many words so obviously wrong?

I'm not quite on the spectrum (but have traits, and solidly diagnosed BPD), and all the autistic people I've known have actually been the opposite of bigoted? They've all had a strong moral core. I don't get why there's sometimes a stereotype about autistic people being accidentally bigoted, but hey, I guess it depends on where someone is steered in life, just like literally everyone else who exists on this planet.

i recently went to my friend’s wedding and realized how socially isolated i was feeling and i had super long talks with both the bride and a friend i hung out with most of the time and as introverted as i can be, i still need friendship. i’m gonna call my bestie who lives across the country tomorrow bc i need that socialization badly. i also love her and miss her a lot 🥹but we’re in different timezones and i don’t want to bother her. i’ll just have to talk to her about that 😢 i hope everyone finds their community and support 💖

I was in an abusive QPR situation which caused me to lose all of my college friends, but it’s made me more determined to strengthen the friendships I had in high school. I hang out with two of my ex’s regularly. I just brought a coffee to a friend who started working at my high school so I also brought donut holes for the other teachers. I got to say hello to my principal whose phone number is still in my cell! Being able to strengthen old friendships I dropped the ball on when I left for college means we are redefining the relationship as it builds back into something more/completely new. Which is pretty cool and really interesting to watch happen 😊

The comments are fascinating. So many people openly saying "im physically, mentally, emotionally disabled, neurodivergent af/mab queer nb gnc and i have a hard time making friends because (insert explanation of how this person is literally a black hole that devours joy and creates only need for the efforts of others)" Like, maybe you can't change who you are, but please try to understand *why* you're a social pariah. I literally just read a comment that said "i can't do anything because im disabled and i always ask people to do everything for me, but i wish they'd do it without me asking" Like, damn, not once have you thought to yourself "i wonder if I'd enjoy being around someone that gave nothing and took everything?"