1. 👄💋I WAS THE SIDE CHICK & DIDN’T KNOW IT!!! 😩💔 HE LIED TO ME TOO | Fumi Desalu-Vold

[@BarbB56]

I am a 65 year old white woman. I have loved watching your makeup tutorials and listening to the sound advice you give. Thank you Fumi for your hard work. Xx

[@sugababe971]

I had never thought about the fact that being well put together for an event was to show appreciation and support to our loved ones... Thank you for this, Fumi!

[@sweetspice9120]

Yes it is a sign of respect. We are taught in Africa to dress well when visiting ppl because it means we have regard for them

[@FumiDesaluVold]

You're so welcome darling. You are a part of a tribe wether you know it or not, and you are depended upon when u show up in full force. You are their ARMOUR.

[@sugababe971]

@@FumiDesaluVold That is deep! I always dress well as a sign of respect towards me and towards others. But I was never going full force fearing that it might be perceived as arrogance, showing off,... Maybe because I've never been embraced as a member of a tribe. Now I know better

[@whatnot798]

@@sweetspice9120 very true.

[@thequeenmidas]

This is correct. Respect the other person with your put togetherness🙌🏿✨

[@veronicadaeh2336]

Fumi you could really do well with giving Charm classes not just to girls but women who never was taught etiquette, Self-worth, Feminity, Class. You are a doll and role model. 🌹

[@dr-k1667]

Fumi is helping women while looking like WONDER WOMAN in this episode. I am happy to see the support for women who were betrayed and for the advice. We must support our sisters and brothers who stand for what is right.

[@blossom6235]

exactly, I agree!!!

[@A.F.U-A]

You know!!!

[@barbara54]

Fabulous woman.

[@liliaittryingsimeon8717]

Beautiful

[@thickbrownlegs1859]

It’s the lying tongue for me. I hate liars!! Be honest so I can make a decision, don’t take my decision away from me.

[@sylviemorgan9770]

Me too, I hate lies...

[@traceylennon1204]

THANK YOU

[@wendyfitzgerald9179]

Yes! exactly!

[@Ashas.Garden]

“That’s below me.” Simple, concise and reflects the full measure of her own high self-esteem. ❤️ No additional words needed.

[@calitomms22]

I feel the same way, it is beneath me to be dating somebody else sloppy seconds.🤮🤮

[@miscyjay4450]

Well said!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Waridi23]

This has always been how I feel and I always tell guys the same thing. I cannot be number two. You cannot subject me to nonsense drama just for your enjoyment. Hell no!

[@trudy_triad]

When I tell you I snapped my fingers and clapped for her when she said this. I am in Chech everytime I tune into this KZbin channel. 😆

[@reitaebohon7853]

Did I not know a guy who rented an apartment like he wasn't attached elsewhere.... he was only on a break from the home. I knew after 2 years when moving forward seemed impossible. Fummi, some of them have PHD in this matter.

[@ujunwaaniere9798]

I know this video is old but I must admit that you are one of the positive impacts of social media ❤

[@tashamonetformulations]

Fumi I could listen to your stories for hours. It's not the stories themselves , it's your way of telling them

[@Jaidzeka36]

I also think it's absurd for people to date someone who is separated from their spouse. It just seems wrong because things aren't finalized

[@Khangel]

Although I would agree with you in general, in my situation, we were both separated over 1 year. We have been married 18 years.

[@KimmiesKloset85]

I can see the point but sometimes divorces take forever (especially if someone purppselyn drags it out) and people are ready to move on with their lives. I wouldn't get with someone NEWLY separated though...it's too fresh and still within time to reconcile.

[@egwthe1]

This is absurd. I went through a divorce that took almost 3 years. So should I wait 3 years for someone else?

[@DanaConquersBoutique]

Nooooo, Fumi you kill me with these cliffhangers 😭 but I love that you make us wait also. Beautiful look and I can’t wait to find out how you tried to help uplift Mrs Tony.

[@Beyond50Beauty]

@Dana Foster, I KNOWWWWW, right? And we fall for it EVERY time ;-)

[@summerslotus1109]

Don't SHE!!! Lol

[@garnellwallace5594]

Fumi you are giving us The Young and the Restless, The Bold and Beautiful, Days of our Lives, Loving, One Life to Live, Passions, and All My Children with these episodes! I'm on the edge of my seat eating peanuts and hanging on every word. Your life is a Tellenovella and we live for it!

[@summerslotus1109]

And then she DROP KICKED YOU!!! WE WAITING!!!--

[@kamlabenlawrence8835]

Fumi u are excellent loving the way u are educating us as female

[@tennehfromayan6387]

Yes she is 😃

[@DORCASDIASRIESMAKINGMEMORIES]

She ABSOLUTELY IS!

[@ogechukwuvivianezeani3104]

Absolutely right👍

[@AdaAtigogo]

When I look at you, I told myself, It is not late to get the kind of life I want. You are always saying it the way it is , my daughter is going to college and encourage her to watch your videos because there is a lot to learn.

[@theugandanvillagewife6647]

RIP my dear #Husband you respected me from the start despite being in LDR to begin with you didn't expect cookies even after we physically met and waited till we both said I do. I miss you so much and always proud of you. Sleep well my babes 💓

[@katybug6572]

You’re honestly giving me the motivation to start looking good again ugh I’m being very very honest, I let myself go.. I used to have it ALLLLL on point, no matter what I was doing even just chillin at home I still had my hair nice n a cute yet comfy outfit.. now I’m just eh who cares anymore I’m 35 so blahhhh lol but honestly, I just found ur channel couple days ago and recently became single again- I think it’s time I turn my own FABULOSITY back on! Lol I dunno why I just put that all out there- but you are so honest yourself n I just had to tell you, your very inspiring.. not just great advice on the exterior beauty- but also on the inside, our interior beauty. You’re truly a Goddess and I’m so glad I found your channel Auntie! You’re just so awesome! Keep up the FABULOUSNESS!! Hehe XoXo 💜😉🙏🌸✌️👍❤️‍🔥

[@amandaspaintinglessons9908]

35 is YOUNG!!! You can do it!

[@karmaisanillusion7307]

I’m happy to hear your mind shift😊😊

[@estherbeamsforaballad3342]

Kind of late, but if that's you in your pfp, you're really pretty. As said in the video, don't let some guy's invalidation of you make you invalidate yourself. Plus 35 is still pretty young. Even the way you write is youthful 🎉🌹💕💞👗🍨🎄🧁🍿enjoy your youth and validate yourself 🥂💝❣

[@teniaosayande6355]

yes indeed. at 41 & single I'm doing the same. time to put that fabulousness in high gear!! 😘😘

[@wordsbymaribeja1470]

@@teniaosayande6355 Same.

[@shabanakhan507]

Fumi, you’re the greatest example of a feminist. You’re smart, funny and you support other women. Big hugs from Toronto xx

[@jamilaabubakar8356]

It'll depend on your definition of a feminist

[@jennifersterling4239]

When you abstain you feel Empowers. I love that feel Fumi.

[@gldnglow]

I'm on the floor at 11 mins in. 😂 We're about the same age and once I moved out, it was ingrained in me to always meet a date out. Do not let him come to your house until you know him well.

[@dr-k1667]

We have a new show in the Fumiverse. This is what the people need and the women want!

[@fashionandluxury101]

Where were you 20 years ago when I needed a friend like you! ❤️listen up young people; these are words of wisdom!! This is better than a Netflix series!

[@veniestagourdine3881]

Agree 110% It’s as if she’s narrating a book. I’m all in .

[@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663]

Fumi you are on point with this one. My Daddy ,Grandfather, Uncles and Male Cousins sat all of the Young Women in my family down and told us bring all Male suitors home so that they can size him up. They also said that Men can enjoy you, take a 🚿 and then its a wrap. This was wonderful for the young women to hear💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤

[@cynthiacarr2093]

Older Women Too! 😁❤👸🏾💯💯💯💯👍🏾👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🔥🔥🔥

[@rahabhenderson2480]

I think that part of the issue so many of us don't have males to bring them home to..cause men will see thru other men and they can put you up on game..god bless the men in your life

[@creolekween]

You are so blessed to have men in your family who care for you. It brought a tear to my eye.

[@achatwithgoitse]

The men in your family are doing amazing. Transparency is really needed with these things

[@papamamatthews9210]

"It is below me. I feel like I'm that fabulous..." I wish all females felt that way about themselves

[@zenobiahood6969]

Some know not how to achieve it! I'd love to have that gift.

[@God.sDaughter]

Stop calling w0men females.

[@blossom6235]

Fums, you really need to have your own round table talk show, this discussions is so helpful for girls who's going through this thing of being a side chick unknowingly or knowingly, thanks for sharing your experience with us, I can't wait for part two!!!!!!!!!

[@achatwithgoitse]

Yeah coz u can start off unknowing 😢 then find out but now u in love 😅

[@patriciamharris5664]

Agreed!!! ❤

[@aponteaida913]

Instead of sleeping, I am here in NYC watching Auntie Fumi, she is just Fabulous. Thank you for being there and sharing your wisdom. May God bless you.

[@kirbiejohnson4475]

lol, i was ALL IN and you said "that's for part 2" NOOO! I luv these S2S, everything you are saying is EXACTLY, EXACTLY what my momma told me. I'm stunned even in causal relationships women give a part of them to a man, who moves on and wonder why we can't "find" the right man. As my momma used to say "it's a man's job to find you, and if he wait to long to put a ring on it move on, but don't jump in the bed with him" Thanks, Fumi

[@janelleespinosa6247]

If I only had a good friend like you in my life when I was dating. You just make everything make sense, plus you have a good sense of your worth, so important!

[@carolpettersen114]

Fumi, I think you found your niche in these Sister 2 Sister videos! They are soooo good! It's like having a big Sister looking out for you!

[@bfeltonwilson1]

I totally agree, if you don't see yourself as the jewel you are...neither will he! Make him wait--if he loves you--he will stay if he only wants to get into your pants, he will leave when he realizes you're better than he deserves. It's old fashioned but it does work.

[@arcoiris890]

Yep, I believe in no sex until marriage, because of situations like this. My bf has been waiting for me for 4 yrs. He knows if he really wants me, not use me, what he needs to do.

[@bahlemotshegoa4528]

"They are puppies, they'l do anything until they get the cookies"🤣🤣....i love it

[@tennehfromayan6387]

Right 😅😂

[@consolatricemwanza4161]

I love you Fumi. Your maturity, elegance, wonderful personality...goodness, you are a rare combination of all the good things.

[@marjanarif8231]

Glad you are encouraging women to take care of themselves for their own mental and physical health.

[@udegbebrothers6006]

I love the way Fumi tells her stories, you can actually visualize it. Can't wait for part 2.

[@blissowen4149]

Aunty fums, you are a fantastic story teller, thank you for making my cold London evening worthwhile 🙏🏾

[@rosieking383]

Guys do this all the time. I was a victim of this too... When I confronted him about why he lied, his response was, "I knew you wouldn't accept me, so I lied!" So damn selfish!!!! Me too, I'm now #TeamAbstinence... Thank you, Fumi. ♥ I thought I had something wrong with me because I can't handle being a side whatever! Same reason. I find it rather disgusting! Love you, Fumi!

[@estherbeamsforaballad3342]

"He wants to be upset🙄😏 like I care 😌" hahaaa I love it😂😂

[@CommonSenseSisters]

"You need to stick with the guidelines because in that retrospect you will get your clarity" what a commonsensical 👏🏽statement you've made Fabulous Fumi❤️ we look forward to part 2....... your makeup 💄 & hair is gorgeous 😘

[@moonbeam7815]

Thank you so much, for always giving it to us straight and for being so real, with us. It's the Oxytocin. You know, that "bonding hormone. You've heard about it, Auntie. The hormone that binds a mother to her baby, is the same hormone that binds a woman to her male partner, when they are physically intimate and body fluids are exchanged. And THAT is why and what makes it emotionally difficult for women to detach, or walk away. But Aunt Fumi, you already knew all of this. Just a gentle reminder

[@blessingsbest6838]

I have learnt about Oxytocin very well and yes so true!

[@therealconqueror1373]

These stories are juicy yet quite motivating and empowering...lessons being learnt and making better choices so we don't need to deal with heart breaks

[@marthalove5241]

Thanks!

[@carmelozimba9554]

Fumi Fumi how can you do us like that!!😂WHAT a cliffhanger! !Can't wait for the next episode!So much wisdom.Bless you

[@tamikaqueen1203]

Liking this channel. Ladies do a back round check on that guy. Met this guy & I felt he was slick talking. I ran a back round check on him & found out he was married.

[@estherbeamsforaballad3342]

"It's below me" 💎 once you found out! Yes! That's how I feel about it too. Thank Jesus He has allowed me feel this way. I don't know how some women feel good dating other women's husbands. I really think they feel special like they're catering their nurturing services to these creatures. But it just feels spiritually unclean to me. To each their own, I guess.

[@savvyfeminist4700]

"it's below me to date another girl's sloppy seconds" now that needs to be on your merch! You better preach Fumi.

[@kimivey285]

My goodness Fumi!! You know how the kids gather around for story time sitting Indian style? That’s me in my mind and saying awwwwww when you said stay tuned for part II. 😂 You are classy at al times and I love it!!

[@tammi67able]

Amén To everything you said! So beautiful and wise! You said you were thin then you thin now, you look fabulous! God bless you!

[@chiakwamary2919]

The make up was fabulous but the energy more fabulous, I love you Aunty Fumi, Thanks a million times Am really learning from your videos both make-up tutorial and Sister to Sister. I have had such experience from men . You know what? We learn everyday

[@pennyarmstrong309]

I absolutely love Fumi, her show is so real, and on point. Peace my sister keep blessing and sending your beautiful light out we really need you.

[@carlo9678]

You, my darling, are the sister I never had - that I seriously do wish that I had! Love you!

[@breatherepeat]

So much wisdom packed into 33 minutes.... Fumi! You're a blessing.

[@agelessrestyling]

Fumi I was sitting on the edge of my chair for this story time, can’t wait to see part two.

[@TheParadisebird]

This make up is my most favorite of all you ever did. It's so timleess, so classy, so beautiful. It works now, would have worked 20 years ago and will works in 20 years. Love it!!!!

[@aquarise3791]

Ugh Fumi KNOWS how to leave us wanting more. What a queen. Love you Fumi!

[@lindalilajameelal.6011]

It is not arrogance. It is SELF-RESPECT!!! It is DIGNITY!!! Can't wait for part 2 🙂 BTW, your story time is better than telenovelas. I am typical Caribbean. I really enjoy telenovelas 🤭

[@BetsysH0pe]

Sis, your show is amazing - I really needed to hear this. My fabulosity level is quite low right now, but I’m going to work on it, you have inspired me. Much love xx

[@rukyakpowaye967]

Aunty Fumi, I came across your channel 3 weeks ago and I can say for a fact that I love you and everything you believe in. I wish I had met you earlier in life. But its never too late. Thank you for all these stories and advice on sister 2 sister they are changing lives.

[@moonbeam7815]

I LOVE to hear you speak. Love your voice, love your accent, love the way you pronounce your words and WE LOVE your sweet pouty way you use your lips to form your words. You are so loving and so, so lovable!

[@estherbeamsforaballad3342]

This might be a random comment with such a serious topic but I love🥰 the unintentional sounds you create with your makeup palettes/cases as you talk to us. They give some nice tingles☺️

[@dubc04life]

Can you do a video on maintaining relationships with family abroad, like your adult child(ren) in the States? I'm 35 and will be dealing with this soon 😓

[@patriciawhitten3298]

You are the queen of cliffhangers. Wow, can hardly wait for part II.

[@trudy_triad]

Listen. I didn't think I could be a bigger fan of Fumi until I watched this video. 🤯🔥🔥❣

[@Ralynva]

It's amazing that you're sharing this story. I just was saying to my colleague about concerns she was having with a gentleman. I expressed my concerns about the health risk that he can cause with unprotected sex or having multiple partners.. that point was an on-time message for ME!!! Love you sister/friend!!

[@mariac6280]

I was also a side chic and didn't know it. God has been protecting me all along. I could've been in a mess situation. Loving your channel Fummi.

[@soniairak80]

Hahaha I love this woman, her stories are EVERYTHING. I just discovered this channel like a wekk ago and I can’t get enough

[@donnaholmes1158]

Such an elegant beautiful woman who knows her worth. Luv ya!

[@dr-k1667]

Cliffhanger!!! I'll be back for part 2! Believe it!

[@lovelybrown3217]

Its so wonderfull how you speak about your beautyful friend! not manny woman are able to speak about their beautyful friends like that. I wish more woman are like that.

[@milliem1061]

Mama Fumi..

[@melvaspence17862]

Excellent content as usual. Proper woman teachings are so important to stand out from the pack.

[@cheryldevers7750]

Hi Fumi, I am in my sixties, and I love watching you!!! Been divorced for 5 yrs, and this episode is the very reason why I’m sooo skeptical about dating. I am blessed and don’t look my age, so I get approached by younger men a lot. I feel I am worth more than just the cookies, so I continue to hold out for whoever God has out there for me ! Not easy but I’m worth it!! Thanks for all of your wisdom. It is soo needed these days. God bless you .

[@sweetestscooby]

I don't care what anybody says but Aunty Fumi tells the best stories!!!!! I love you so much! I learn so much from you. When you said 'It is below me to date another woman sloppy seconds" Yes queen!!!!! I felt that

[@gretac85]

Fumi !!!! You’re killing me with these cliffhangers ‼️😫😫😫 I love your channel and the makeup is as glamorous as ever. I love your laugh it’s magical, when I hear it I know you are getting ready to get real and raw. See you on the conclusion of part two!!!💕❤️♥️

[@DeeDee-fo9yx]

Yeeessss Fumi - PREACH!!!! You are indeed to fabulous to have been a side chick. I'm 62 and I've told younger women those exact same warnings for decades. Thank you so much for this very important video.

[@ElegantPaws01]

You area fantastic story teller. This, my lady is your wheelhouse. You are the modern female Aesop and one classy lady.

[@shalas.6322]

When do we get part two?!!! FUMI you are so engaging. I love the makeup and stories. You look fabulous. Your content is Always full of gems 💎

[@ninahauke5600]

OMG!!!! You got me again Fumi!!! Hanging on the edge of my seat for the rest of this story!!!

[@6rockinrobin]

STILL fabulous! Love from Palestine, Fumi!

[@moyaj82]

This is your calling Fumes. You have me actually responding to you like "uhuh". I have never in my life done that. Great job.

[@givenmahlangu1266]

I agree with you mama, there is something about abstinence that will make you see clearly through the fog .

[@susandoyle1177]

If any woman dislikes this probably the side chick and they know it. I love these stories ❤️❤️❤️

[@SandcastleGirl]

😂😂😂

[@LydiaJarra]

It’s below me to date another girl’s sloppy seconds - preach Aunty Fumi!! 🙌🏾This is the level of confidence in my life I want ❤️❤️❤️

[@Jujulocs88]

Fumi, your laugh is magical. You're such an amazing woman. I love your stories ♡♡♡ and what you said about Armenians makes so much sense. Kim Kardashian is of Armenian descent and she only dates African American men. I now understand why.

[@Gladyscakekitchen]

Funmi got my full attention for nearly 30mins n I didn't miss a beat! Her story with " I can give the gift of good bye " still gets me laughing.. what a legend!thank you for sharing your wisdom Aunty Funmi... blessings to you n more x

[@delisapeters170]

Amen that statement said it all and should be the view of all of us as women. It is and should be beneath us all to date another woman husband/boyfriend etc. We should consider ourselves fabulous enough to deserve more. If we all had that point of view we would change the culture overnight.

[@Gooneridgetv]

I’m enjoying your makeup tutorial but at the same time I’m anxious to hear your story 🤣 you are fabulous and so funny too beautiful girl!

[@passiedn219]

Aunty fumi you are one of kind! If only all women where like you. Your definitely a sister to sister that any female would love to have as a Friend. 💜💜💜

[@shayla312]

I don't know why this is the video the universe chose as our introduction, but I am thankful to now know of you💕💕

[@chidinmaegbulefu6236]

I just love the way you teach lessons with your stories as well as teach us how to apply make up . As one who doesn't use much make up because I don't understand what much of it is for. I normally just put on lipstick and eye pencil with a little eyeshadow and I'm done . I'm learning a lot even though am not dark skined .New subscriber here 😀

[@queenb660]

Welcome to Fumiland in whatever skin color you are we are sisters. Love you ❤️

[@olufunkeo8576]

You tell your stories so beautifully and I love the life you bring into every detail. I love the overall look...drips fabulosity. Thank you for sharing real life stories and makeup tutorials. I look forward to the next episode. I love you Aunt Fumi Desalu-Vold ❤️💝🌺🌹🤩🙌🏽👌

[@TeeBoss_Empire]

Hi mama, my family and I are watching and we’re all sending our regards from Nigeria

[@luyigairene7037]

I have never frequently checked any you- tuber channel the way I check auntie fumi’s page for any video update…am addicted for sure…your just a ray of sunshine ☀️

[@annkdrama-queen1254]

Fumi, I love how you’re giving solid advice to our young women bcaz I never understood why women don’t respect their body and sleep with men on the second date. I know the saying is it’s my body I do whatever I want to do and that’s true but sleeping with a man without knowing him is absolutely crazy, you’re bonding with someone you know nothing about. I truly appreciate you Fumi, these stories are reality and needs to be talked about. Luv you to pieces, god blessings to you and your family💖

[@sierragalful]

Fumi girl, I love the way you tell these story. Honestly feels like I am watching a movie. I love your makeup. When you said thats below me, I jumped from the edge of my seat and clapped. Yes, thats my queen right there. Thanks for giving us sister sister. Can't wait for part 2. Hugs🤗🤗🤗

[@pattikaymakcian1473]

live for these story times sister to sister All so,I married a Arminian, bad news, he was a cheater ,physical abuser, went through hard times,But 15 yrs ago.i kicked him out the door

[@kamenterpriz3439]

Sis, Fumi. I loved it. But at my age, I can't be given cliffhangers. LOL!

[@veroanijs536]

Heading straight to part 2🏃🏿‍♀️

[@patriciagraham3671]

Hello Fumi Wonderful.. I'm a Mature Woman dating again.so I must say Thank You can't wait for PT 2. You're Fabulous I do like the high ponytail. I'm trying to decide if I should dye my hair or get the gray mixture for my ponytail. Seen you soon 🦋🦋🦋🦋

[@sharonnjeri2999]

Oooh fumi🤗🤗, this is the best advice!!, And you should really do an episode On why ladies must look fabulous anytime , coz most times women tend to forget that they should do it for themselves .

[@jennyweezy1373]

This is a moral lesson to we all ladies here ,thanks fumi for sharing your experience with us .I 💕 you mama .

[@yettytube]

Funmi please can you drop part 2 with immediate effect .loool...I love listening to your stories, so interesting and quite educative also

[@sandya1168]

Can’t wait to see your next episode Fumi. Thanks for educating all women before falling for the wrong guy.