1 Word That Will Get Him Glued to You

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In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick reveals a special and easy dating hack for women, 1 word that will get him glued to you. He discusses why it contains so much power and what proper mindset needs to accompany it.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

*NEW SUMMER 2024* I now offer self-guided *online courses* to help women of ANY age and experience level CRUSH those single streets FASTER and more efficiently! 🙂 Check out my course offerings here 👉 www.boyfriendblueprint.com/courses

[@lizzyfunnybunny9020]

i'm 33 second in....... the word is NO. i need to start using the word NO much more often. NO more yes girl

[@mishomara6193]

Danielle Summers good for you xx

[@phoenixangel7872]

Yea im gonna say no

[@louisestevenson5102]

Practice in the mirror

[@jeanpittenger94]

Its really hard to say no when you love sex lol. But if you want to find a permanent guy start saying no! If you give sex on the first date the guy is going to think you were too easy and say goodbye to him. I only made that mistake once he was gorgeous hot he asked me on a date but he was so dam gorgeous lust got in the way. Sexy nice body. I wanted to continue seeing him but he said I was too easy on the 1st date and never seen him again. I learned that lesson the hard way.

[@lisaanderson1695]

Sorry to tell you, the immaturity lasts into the late 30s and often the 40s.

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

... And even the 50's

[@kimtree322]

Keep going.. my dad is 70 and still immature

[@michellerichardson3090]

It never ends lol

[@cristaljustice4534]

Well immaturity has nothing to do with age it has to do with your mentality. The way you are and the way you react to the world around you.

[@onyxzx10]

Yes..and it seem that the older don’t know what to do with a grown women..they be over playful to cover their lack of shivery

[@candidemetay1296]

If a guy flakes on me he will never hear from me again.

[@Positiveenergy68]

Exactly!

[@lisawentworth6831]

True...mine made it a point of making sure he wouldn't flake, because the last guy I dated stood me up at a fancy 'do. But, he ha pulled away, and he does use me as a 'doormat' as my friends say, fast forward a few years. Did I blow it?

[@ruthiemonroig1614]

The word..No..will have him stalking you 🤪

[@angelasjambox]

Next, you're too immature for me is all I think if a guy flakes on me.

[@doris6683]

Is it so hard to be simple? Like tell your feeling to the other person and just be honest with each other? Why so many games, so many "tests" etc? Just f*kin speak your mind damn it!

[@Xiolee1]

I know how you feel 😔 manipulating someone just so you can be with them is disingenuous. If you can not be real in the beginning of the relationship how are you going to survive later down the road?

[@doris6683]

@@Xiolee1 exactly

[@sparklyxshine4796]

Thats what I always do..

[@MissJacquelineXOXO]

Thank you! PREACH girl! 👏🙌

[@newbeginnings1543]

Exactly!

[@patmanchester8045]

and if he will not respect you're saying 'No", drop him.

[@handsomesquidward2130]

PERIOD😚

[@diplomatgirl171]

I’m binge watching your videos. Keep them coming!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yay! Awesome, Inga! Thank for watching! 😃

[@vickyvictoria4u]

Same here, even as I’m falling asleep I’ll play them 🙂

[@AlannahBMorin]

Inga Litvinsky ...👌🏾😅

[@christinecarver1665]

Why are his videos so soothing?

[@katd137]

Me too!

[@annavitoskova8562]

I've just watched like 15 videos of yours and I can't stop xddd anyone same? no? okay, just me..

[@funclassylassy4426]

No. Move over and please pass the popcorn😄

[@kimbarroga218]

lol we have all the time in the world now

[@audreyrose_1979]

This is so true... have you ever wondered why the guys we keep on saying NO are the same guy that keeps on pursuing us...

[@cl3x18999]

Spot on. I'm just afraid that saying "no" to the man I actually like will lead him to contact someone else. 😭

[@hopewilliams7081]

They think you're playing hard to get

[@cl3x18999]

@@hopewilliams7081 could be true, but i think after 2 years of "nah, no thanks" some dudes should get it..

[@katiehunt3083]

I do not even have to watch this one. I already guessed it. It's NO. Men suck.

[@angiemathiesen7871]

Ryan, I am 50 and still dealing with the stuff I dealt with with men when I was in my 20’s. Frustrating!

[@nata3467]

Me too. Why so much BS?

[@christinaconkle4987]

What about midlife dating...dating in your 40's.. Things are so different..Men are lonely and needy or play to many games and woman in our 40's are over the bs.

[@makeupfiend8426]

Christina Conkle I’ve dated men in their 30s and 40s. I’m 36. Last guy I dated was 44. Apparently, they’re still into all the f-ing games. Unfortunately we have to play games forever

[@stormchylde3999]

Try being in your 50's. Might as well be invisible. And yeah, all of that applies to this age as well. I think a lot of it's because men who are single later in life have issues that are the reason they're still single, or are divorced (same thing applies as to why they're divorced), or they have all of these fears from their last relationship, or they want to play around if they were married a long time and think they've missed out.

[@rebeccaann5364]

Yup I can completely agree. I date older men and I personally prefer it that way. I am in a open relationship with my friend, he is alot older like 25 years older then me. I have known him for years so we were friends first and now we have been lover for 4 years.

[@jess77surfs]

Agreed

[@christinegreenwood4093]

Rhiannon omg you are soooo right.

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

When a guy flakes on me, that’s the end for me. Done finito! I don’t waste time. It’s like a job interview. If you come late or bail, they will look for another prospective employee. It’s that simple. A real man will show up because he’s serious about wanting to know you.

[@lc-bats]

Basically it shows you respect yourself

[@01Maleika]

Friends often ask me why I'm interested in older guys. People say why? they are too old, only for money etc. But my experience with that is, I'm addicted to maturity. That's what I've been always looking for. They value women higher. They want intimacy, honest conversations. I prefer that.

[@emilywunderlich3126]

I was so happy when he said the word was "NO". The last thing I wanted to hear was someone saying why people should say yes to everything and everyone all the time. Recognizing when to say NO in relationships or other areas of life is so valuable. There's a book called essentialism by Greg Mckeown that's pretty amazing and they talk all about the many different ways to decline something (at work, in a career, social schedule, family etc). It's definitely worth the read and works well with this video. Thanks Ryan for posting this!

[@---nj7hl]

Emily Wunderlich Yes or you'll burn out or stress so much you will eventually be snappy w the ppl u live or work with.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

🙌🏼🙌🏼Emily!

[@jessybee4723]

I’ve applied everything you are teaching an OMG IS IT WORKING!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙏 THANK YOU

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Awesome Jessy! 🙌🏼 I love to hear that!! Can you give me an example of a positive outcome that occurred for you recently?

[@jessybee4723]

Ryan Patrick my boyfriend is 23 I’m 30 I used to Make myself available to him whenever. I was basically doing everything you say not to 🤭 texting back right away always down to hang out . I pulled back I started making boundaries and setting rules for myself like I’m not gonna text him back right away I’m not gonna answer the phone every single time he calls and just making myself a little bit more mysterious and it’s working and it’s driving him nuts not knowing what I am doing not always being available to him and telling him No he’s loving it! We met on tinder it was just supposed to be a hook up then we fell in love an had a baby an we have been in a off period in the relationship somehow came across ur channel You’re the first person to actually get straight to the point and a video and tell us exactly what we need to do without all the extra stuff and it works it really works My relationship right now couldn’t be better we’re back on track we’re back to how we were in the beginning and I love it thank you so much

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@jessybee4723 You bet Jessy 😊

[@thaboisco2071]

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[@arbel7655]

I really wish I'd known all of these earlier.

[@kimt8162]

You have to hold off on being intimate because it helps you dish out "the player". Because I went slow, two guys showed up as players right away. AKA, they got another girl pregnant that I didn't even know about very quickly. Trying to get pregnant is NOT the way to try to nail the guy. It hopefully becomes the merging of two lives. Yes, time flies but you really want to try to set boundaries that work with your life.....your trying to get him into "your world".

[@jenniferschwartz1020]

I get the premise of being “too available” isn’t attractive, but what about during covid / quarantine?

[@BridiesMammaG]

Worked for me. I need me time and he couldn't wait to see me

[@luvlife8277]

I said no for almost a month when we started dating and he still 4 months later can’t believe I made him wait that long. Think it made him want me more 😉

[@leesteal4458]

Really? I am almost 4 months in and still saying no. Lol

[@leesteal4458]

Really, just a month? I am almost 4 months in and still saying, no.

[@adday.]

@@leesteal4458 OMG.

[@leesteal4458]

@@adday. That's not long sweetie. Get to know the guy. Value yourself. We women are worth it.

[@elenachiritescu2681]

@@leesteal4458 I totally agree with you. But I am 100% that he is having sex with someone else though...

[@CA2SD]

You are 💯on point! I have been telling ppl that “no” is a complete answer. Just don’t over explain yourself. Just be respectful.

[@JustAZillennial]

Yes. And also, be honest. If you have a different opinion or don't agree with him, don't be afraid to admit it, but don't be rude about it. Have the mindset of, "Even though I don't agree with your opinion, I am still open to it." Relationships aren't about extensions of each other, they're about two separate people with their own beliefs and opinions who are willing to work together and compromise in areas to make the relationship work.

[@Username_me1618]

We got intimate on the second date.... happily married. I guess it depends... just trust your feelings

[@annam6332]

Nala ❤️❤️

[@1980deanne]

Yes im concerned now cause we had sex on the second date 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@leesteal4458]

True.

[@LyrasRaven]

That’s great! He must have seen that there are other valuable qualities in you too. Saying no is just showing one side of you, “having preferences”

[@OneiricBlur]

well... maybe happily married. plenty of happily married women’s happily married husbands on the dating apps looking for happiness elsewhere. like 80% are married men whose wives are oblivious.

[@anonie8770]

I have been a widow for 7 years I tried to date after mourning and dating didn't work for me so I decided to NOT date ANYMORE AT ALL. I'M HAPPY BEING SINGLE. Dating is TO much work.

[@nofybn7794]

Yes. I have never been married but I agree, too much work for us women.

[@hs8shsubjsishejw747]

Relly do. Make you tired just lost my love husband l love him very much going out for 6 yers marry 20 yers lost him 7 month ago to fine other man abit to much for me now

[@katiehunt3083]

They won't like you if you do this, they won't like you if you do that....waaaaay to much work. I have never been married either, and I just do not care if i hold my mouth right, text the wrong thing, do the wrong thing anymore. Men do not care....I don't either.

[@hs8shsubjsishejw747]

To much work towind the man heart ldo the same thing after mourning didn't work l decided to stay with my feeling rembering my laet my husband all time very lonely but then no much l can do 😢

[@hs8shsubjsishejw747]

😔😢😭l lost good husband good lover good person in my life 😔

[@kimberleestovall9519]

How about a guy in his 60’s!! Still immature!!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yup, him too. What's immature, Kimberlee?

[@GG-rw8cz]

Omg your videos are SO EFFING USEFUL!! Thanks! and I've watched a lot of dating videos lol but surprisingly, yours are standing out...

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Awesome G G! This is *amazing* feedback for me, thank you! I'll keep 'em coming 😄

[@lindat1317]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick I am binge watching you bigtime! Even as a "mature woman" with life lessons behind me, we are still women and men wanting love and holding onto it for the long haul.

[@cleanteeth68]

I recently went out with a guy that talked about his ex gf a lot .. he said they actually had lunch 2 weeks ago.. 3 dates in and i asked him if was over her yet.. And he said.. no sorry.. but I’m trying to get myself back out there.. and build memories with someone else.. blah blah blah.. red flag right?? Would love to see a video addressing some red flags like these and if i should run the other way when he tells me this.. i surely don’t want to be his “crutch” to help him get over her but i also don’t want to miss out on a potential great guy.. lol.. I’m 52 btw..

[@inday83dyosah]

I can actually relate to that "saying NO to having sex". That is just right as I've experienced. 😊

[@PinkyMsBrain]

This is so true... everytime when I say NO , a guy goes crazy he will always take it like a challenge to get me to say Yes so I like to give them that challenge but with a tease.

[@patriciafarrell1071]

Ryan, you’re fun. I wish you had a live cocktail teaching session.. I think it would be so helpful and fun!! All of your information is awesome.

[@egyptianqueen4007]

I think a person should wait until they are in a relationship. Otherwise it's just a hook up and why buy the milk when you can get it for free?

[@molliepearson3675]

Ryan, here's a phrase I'm curious to hear your thoughts on when a woman is absolutely done with a guy who played her: "You are not nice." My therapist told me to use this phrase and the TWO times I've used it, guys completely FLIP THEIR LID. Lol. It's great. But it's definitely only reserved for when all hell broke loose and I'm not trying to fix things with them. What is going on in a guy's mind when their "nice guy reputation" is tarnished or threatened by this phrase?

[@genericname7020]

As a man, if a woman says I'm not nice, I take that as a compliment. Guys don't want to known as "the nice guy."

[@sandracockrum17]

Lol 😂 he's gonna wanna.... Pow! That was weird 🤣 I didn't mean to do that...... Kill me ! Ryan you crack me up. 🙏❤️

[@valadina4477]

Can you do a video on men that are extremely smart, bookworms or he's in a genius status and how to handle a relationship from the beginning and what to do to date and keep them because those type of men have no common sense, they are a little slow when it comes to dating and relationships😔 no shade but it's the truth

[@katiehunt3083]

Vala Dina RIGHT?!? I met my "genius" father at age 30. 15 years later he puts a "break up" letter in my birthday card...and completely ceases all communication. I think all men are the same. Just jerks....

[@andreapujol13]

I would suggest you to watch Amy Farrah Fowler dating Sheldon Cooper on TBBT :-) she is also a genius, but she has great interpersonal skills with this genius guy that is almost unbearably quirky xx

[@lc-bats]

Incredibly, they’re just the same as all men. Unfortunately I’m a pushover, and not with just men. I dated a math genius, but his emotional intelligence was less than average. He didn’t like when I enjoyed listening to him explain theories. I had no idea he didn’t. Literally he broke up with me Just because of that. Ryan explained men don’t like to be put on a pedestal, basically that’s what I did. Made me look undeserving and lowered my respect.

[@lc-bats]

@Anne Hedonia HAHAHA, i felt like I was walking on eggshells most of our time spent together. Actually the majority of the time.

[@goodone8516]

All these petty mind games just suck. People should just say yes if they mean yes and no when no. If God has a man for you, then all that is not necessary.

[@lolarodriguez9284]

Good One right im soooo tired of getting on YT and everyone wants you to play games act like you dont care even into marriage saying dont have emotions dont you dareeeee love that man god forbid🙄😔 even he hes your husband dont trust him push them away. Dont tell them anything about you cause no one cares these days. Dont love anybody while your at it too! Its a dog eat dog world🙄like no how about we be good and respect each other both sides and stop giving men excuses to play a game 😂 crazy cause i dont have time to put energy into making someone think idgaf about them?!?! Rather put that into living my real life

[@goodone8516]

@@lolarodriguez9284 Exactly. All these mind games are just a waste of time. If the man wants a woman just say it flat out. The woman on the receiving end, if you're into him, then just say yes or no if you're not. People are too old to be playing games. Men and women should both learn to master the honest gesture of rejection from another person. Stop trying to let every no hurt your confidence. Better accept an honest no, than he/she having to play all these mind games. Honesty is still the best policy in my book. All these games are just time consuming and meaningless. By the time you are done playing all these games, you are old, not sexy and worn out.

[@lolarodriguez9284]

Good One right those are the shitty people. They dont deserve us anyways. Im not playing games with shitty people anymore! Just to end up with a shitty prize that i know nothing about. No, im gonna give the right one the chance idk. Ive always felt the most love when we were friends first THEN fell to love each other so much that way they knew almost everything about me im comfortable confident and not being intentionally hurt played with or lied to. In my eyes real friends dont hurt their friends so its not the same playing field its equal level fun and trusting. You can love and care for a friend but still sleep sound at night knowing theyll be there for you to call on the next day and they can look forward to you too you dont expect sex answers or to be lied to cause you shouldnt really do that to anyone. I believe lying and cheating will ruin any relationship and after that its over. Your right people need to stop playing games.

[@sandraculter869]

IF you mean it. I believe games are disingenuous, but the other person is not always genuine and honest either. Go with your heart but keep your head too. Most importantly, pay attention to your intuition. Pay attention to how you FEEL when you perceive the other's body language; it could save your life. Don't fall for love-bombing. I recommend learning about how toxic people target you. There's lots of stuff in you tube about that.

[@victorabustamante7207]

@@goodone8516 Let me guess you're probably an older person, tired of life etc... but you missed the whole point. And for that I guess that's why you're in that miserable situation. You should of been wiser and said NO, more often

[@cathygarrick9957]

I'm 45 and have been doing everything as a complete pushover. Thanks Ryan Patrick for your wise advice.

[@susanfromsanantonio3873]

You are incredibly engaging and your information and delivery is amazing!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thank you Susan! 🙂

[@arbel7655]

TBH, Dating in my late 40's feels ten times worse.

[@jennielin33]

I'm also 40 and just starting to date again and its different from my 20s and a bit harder and confusing a little

[@Locomaid]

Wait til the fifties...

[@larisabellydance2492]

Same here, what happened to genuine people ? Can't be bothered with all the games

[@lmok6939]

Im 58 and I very rarely get to go on dates. Guess because I'm doing it all wrong.

[@luapogtv8667]

i find it harder because in your 20s you're driven by your hormones and passion, and in your 40s it takes a little longer to get there....you actually have to focus on other things first.

[@LisaGemini]

This is true, Ryan. Especially if he asks for sex too soon. I'm thankful I've never been afraid to say no, even when I was newly divorced and in my late 20s.

[@unfilteredthoughtsforyou]

I can never stop watching u Ryan. This is a year old video and I am so much enjoying it. I love all ur guidance 💜

[@mackenzilowery684]

I'm 24, hopefully I find someone to stick with tired of all this dating and already been married once! Can I just be who I'm supposed to be with!!! Sheesh

[@sweetgirl4u247]

I have been saying No since I can remember. My favorite word. Lol

[@nelimandin8793]

Ryan, you are cute! ;-)

[@jmoser96]

Ryan's got somebody so leave him alone LOL

[@gingerjoy5836]

Absofreakinlutely!👍🏼

[@mine176p]

He could have just talked to me- too late, I've already had a mental funeral

[@jacquelinemosley3298]

Ryan, You say wait a month for sex but only see a guy once a week. So you're saying after meeting a guy 4 times than it's ok to have sex? I am not going to create a soul tie with a guy after 4 interactions. I believe woman are being told to be intimate way to early and ends up hurt. The old saying "why buy the cow when the milk is free." Is still true. I think woman should wait till there is a strong commitment and that takes longer than a month.

[@iwaynew4203]

Haha these days every thing has changed it's not the way you think.

[@paratroopergirl4064]

No sex with him for 30 days??? Oh, he's having sex - just not with you!

[@Aquariusly_QNatti]

I just realize I do this stuff without thinking about it..except I wait longer than 30 days.

[@phyllzphyllo6243]

What about kissing on the first date ,

[@mab3900]

Binge watching these videos to finally understand how these things work

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Awesome! Enjoy the journey 🙂

[@yasminaahmed104]

Soo after you've given the goods...how do you start saying NO?! He'd just go get a girl who says YES, YES HELLL YESSSS 😳

[@egyptianqueen4007]

That is why you shouldn't sleep with them until you guys are official.

[@theresalevario5729]

I waited a 1 and a half years for sex, asked me to come over one night and I was busy he went on a trip with some friends. Got back from the trip and didn't call me or text me for a week. Finally I asked him what's going on. He asked me to come over I told him I was busy. I offered the next day he said he wasn't home. I said ok another time. The next day he told me he was on his way home. I asked if I could go over in a few minutes. Her never answered. I went over and every light in his house was off his car in the driveway. I left and didn't message him. 2 days later he sent me 😁😄😁😄 what does that mean. Is he laughing at me

[@yasminaahmed104]

@Egyptian Queen...I live and learn girl!

[@yasminaahmed104]

@@theresalevario5729 this mean he is one Dumbass foolish boy!

[@blondie9933]

Ok so these videos are great and very specific. Although I need step by step instructions. 😂 So for the first date I say "no" but set up another day to meet up? Also you said it helps to see the guy once a week because I should be busy. What if I can't fill up my whole week to do things? Would I lie and make something up? But then on the flipside it would seem inauthentic and I'm sure a guy can pick up on that.. 😣

[@mirandaelaine9511]

Ah. This guy is really hot. 😬 great advice in these videos too

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

You're too kind Miranda! 😄

[@paulamitchell1637]

How about immature 52 year olds?.....

[@savannahnovotny8789]

I didn't have a male role model to explain this stuff to me, I'm glad I found your channel.

[@lisaboguta2271]

What if you kiss and fool around a bit but don't have sex? Is that ruining this?

[@vickiweber4718]

I need to watch this on repeat. I think this has made me realize why I'm such a jerk magnet. I tend to be a pushover. I'm currently dealing with a guy who wants to have sex with me but doesn't want to be in a relationship. Apparently I need to be more firm with my "no" instead of "Well, if things were this way...". Thank you so much for the wake up call.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

You bet, Vicki!

[@ty1480]

I'm a bit unsure about something you said. Only see him once a week at first, sex after the 4th week but make up your mind after 6 weeks. A little confused. How do you get to know a guy after only meeting him 4 times? Sometimes we can know someone for years and still not know the real them. I wouldn't be having sex with anyone after only 4 dates.

[@sienna4435]

I just subscribed to your channel recently. I love watching your videos. I like the way you deliver your words, it's just like you are full of emotions. Very interesting. 😊

[@odettev.6095]

I like you !! And you make me laugh!!! 🤣🤣👌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻😘

[@npkrn6764]

Hey Ryan, I get your reasoning behind the saying no to his first request for a first date BUT - What if it's an amazing opportunity like a concert?? And he already has the tickets?? And doesn't ask you to pay for your ticket?? I bring up this scenario because this happened to me. A guy I knew through friends and I had started talking and as timing would have it - his first date proposal was for a Metallica concert! NO WAY in this lifetime or any other would I say no to that haha!!! C'mon!!! Haha 😁

[@egyptianqueen4007]

I wouldn't pass that up either lol

[@annmalone1585]

He wanted to kiss me the first date and I said No! He never asked again..... guess he was no that interested

[@KD-rc3mg]

Lmao

[@loraincesare3743]

Straight to the point. Like you👍

[@lw3674]

You are good, but the theme music is a disaster! Too loud and lack of harmony.

[@roseedelaube9]

I don't agree at all for the sex part and seeing him only once a week for 6 months. It feels so lame to me. I don't want that !

[@suzannescorner199]

6 weeks not 6 months, thank goodness 😂😂

[@roseedelaube9]

@@suzannescorner199 yes!! Sorry, I'm French native speaker, my mistake 😂😅

[@suzannescorner199]

@@roseedelaube9 Je parle français aussi!! Il n'y a pas de souci!! Heureusement qu'il a dit 6 semaines et pas 6 mois 😂

[@roseedelaube9]

@@suzannescorner199 oui franchement, mon cerveau m'a joué des tours, en mode trop dur de nos jours de garder l'attention d'un homme...

[@suzannescorner199]

C'est vrai que ça paraît dur comme ça. Je trouve que Ryan Patrick explique de manière claire comment comprendre les hommes. Il n'a pas tort dans un sens, attendre un peu avant de s'investir c'est prendre moins de risques !!!

[@misskitty2115]

It's easy to not have sex ...if your not at his house ...otherwise it'll be too difficult to hide sexual feelings

[@nicf8152]

I honestly do not think in this modern era, and with the amount of women out there who do sleep on the second or 3rd date that holding out for a month will do anything. You are dammed if you do dammed if you don't. I just got rejected by a guy ive known for a good chunk of time because i said i wanted to develop something meaningful before sleeping with together. He responded that is totally fine however I want sex and something just casual and off he went to another girl. I think more men are like this esp in San Francisco where I am strugggggling to find anyone willing to commit. I think the problem is us women started having sex too soon as a whole and it's just screwed everything up. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free. And single I stay because my wallet is closed. Also if you keep on doing this telling men no, and get rejected over and over again ( talking about sex) it really does mess with your head. Saying No in my opinion also keeps you single just as much as sleeping with them too soon does.

[@genericname7020]

Great comment. You explain this dynamic very well. Someone said "Today, women are liberated sexually, but they also liberated themselves from relationships." Plus with the way things are going prostitution is going to be legal, which means it will be cheaper. This cute little manipulation tactic of withholding sex from a man to generate compliance from him will be over. The days of "do this and that for me or no sex for you" will be over .

[@sonzswtsoundz]

Wow you're cool thanks...it is easy to say no because he lives in another country. .then again it would be hard to say no if he visits,because he lives in another country. But I understand your point...he'd respect me more, and I'll respect myself...so no it is!...it'll be so dam hard but I'll do it because I'll see if this will help him either stay or go for good...and by that I'll have my dignity in tact still...and that he'd know I'm not easy like I was way back then hahaha 🤔Btw we were teenagers in love...and it's been years and years since I've seen him...

[@michelewaterman2890]

I hate playing these silly games! Just get to know each other if there’s any attraction. Honesty all the way. If you like someone, you want to see them, why postpone that. Communication- learning their views on IMPORTANT topics is key! People don’t communicate properly. Anyone can go kissing and cuddling etc etc- but we are all unique in our thought patterns (or so we should be)! Relationships SHOULD start from the neck up!!! How we think is what makes us so different!

[@joannajade1824]

I didn't have sex with him for a year.

[@sissycynara6585]

That remind them with their mom when they were growing up 😂🤣😂🤣🤣 Men love you when you remind them of their mom

[@Dandelion_flight]

Rizz Estorninos 😂😂😂 especially when they never had genuine mummy’s love since young. 😭

[@larisamiller5320]

Um... yeah well I messed up bc I not only has sex rights away but I got pregnant in the first month...but now we are still together and getting married, and moving in together....our son will be born in two months....

[@roro28818]

🤣🤣 I love this video. You are so funny. I will start saying no more often

[@arlynlopega4387]

Why i had this video so late!☹️i screwed everything by saying yes always to him😭

[@bajacowgirl3228]

Okay so I've watched a few videos and I am a little confused. After 30 days (of which you're saying you should have had only four dates) you should have sex? But then you say you should only see your partner once a week for the first 6 weeks. So if you have sex after four dates and then blow him off for another week before you agree to go out again, isn't that going to crush his ego? Won't he be thinking you didn't like the sex or he wasn't good enough? I mean what if he spends the night and then wants to hang out the next day? Do you tell him no and make him go home? Seems a little confusing and a bit of game.

[@egyptianqueen4007]

How are you getting six weeks in 30 days? A month is only four weeks.

[@rebeccaann5364]

Omg my friend is 65 and he still like this every thing has to revolve around his schedule. And I finally was like no I have plans and a schedule of my own so get use to it. Since I started not letting our time revolve around his schedule I have noticed a big difference.

[@fayeholder2238]

I am dating a 46 years old and he behaving the same!!!

[@jasminej6281]

Love your video. It's pretty clean cut.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thanks Jaiza!

[@ritakugonza9558]

What happens to us in long distance relationships? Should I wait for sex until after a month of being physically together🥺🥺

[@savannahlibardi5163]

No no no no no no no I got it!! Lol thank you! And no hee hee

[@wizsmom]

10% is me listening to you 10% is me thinking how to follow them 80% is me looking at your mouth and how sexy you are while talking. You are so handsome 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

[@sandyhammond]

I'm sure we're not alone, Jessa :o)))

[@jacquelinef7174]

This guy in his 50s was trying to setup dates with me 3x in one week. I knew exactly what he was doing. Trying to get sex quickly. It didn't work. When he saw he couldn't get sex, he texted me that he could no longer date me. I said Good Riddance! We only knew each other for 10 days.

[@AGreyAlien]

really sad how desperate men can be. It's even more surprising considering his age. You definitely dodged a bullet!

[@jackholman17]

no

[@odettev.6095]

I like you !! And you make me laugh!!! 🤣🤣👌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻😘

[@Vegan7]

Wo wooot?! I’ve always had guys obsessed about me when I didn’t even bother and after seeing this video I think it’s because I’m Demisexual 😯😳

[@kimberlyannwright3964]

What if weve waited for 2 years 1 month, long distance relationship❓ AND he plans on moving here to move in with me . Eventually getting married! Can we have sex , oh my God ove waited 2 yrs and 1 month. I dont think I can wIt another week, ok. Maybe a couple days !! ??oyyy veyyy

[@phillyblaze777]

If a guy flakes on you - move on immediately. Everyone's time is important and flaking is the most rude, inconsiderate, immature thing a date can do.

[@belgicarivera4002]

There's a song in Spanish, written and interpreted by a famous Hispanic singer. The title of the song is "Dime Que No", (tell me no, in Spanish).I was thinking about the lyrics the other day. The lyrics say: tell me NO and you will have me thinking about you all day, trying to find a strategy to get you to say YES. The song has really interesting lyrics.

[@nayelischoice]

Ok, great. Now that I have all of this info. Where do I go to meet a nice decent guy!?!

[@virginiaATX]

Wait one month is long? What about not until marriage?

[@kelzlondon2138]

Binge watching KZbin and just thought hang on I really miss Ryan.. I don't need any dating advice right now just like your vids🤗🥰

[@ImmaQT2]

well Ive been doing everything backwards SMH.... was intimate with the guy (he's 54, Im 45) Ive been I guess you would say "dating" on the 2nd night I saw him. I see him almost every day since we 1st met a month ago. We've only gone out on 1 date (if you would even call it that) last week. Most of the time,I just go to his home or we run errands together... he works 7 days a week so its not like we get alot of time to make plans. Since he works days and I work nights,I ended up changing my schedule to days just so that we have time off at the same time... he tells me he always wants to see me daily (which I always do) and when I do,he's always asking me to spend the night... when I dont he gives me the puppy dog eyes which makes me feel guilty so I end up staying. We were suppose to be taking it slow (per his request) to get to know each other as friends and we did stop being intimate physically but to me, this isnt taking it slow since he suggested we find a place together (we're both needing to move out from our current living situation). Guess I should learn how to say NO to him more often. I dunno how he feels about me as Im afraid to come out and ask him but I guess he likes me enough to have me stick around all the darn time LOL Ive already met his mom thats in town now.

[@jess77surfs]

Tried this with three different guys. It had the opposite effect. 😕 I know not every bit of advice on this channel applies to every guy in every situation. So, I take it in stride.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Hey Jess! Honestly, it could certainly be that these were just the wrong guys for you. “No” is one of the healthiest words you can use with someone. It implies boundaries. A man who is adversely affected by hearing it may be one of those “his way or the highway” types who will be *miserable* to be with and try to please. So yes, definitely take it in stride, but also look at your use of “No” as a natural screener in the dating arena 😉

[@jess77surfs]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick thank you for the feedback ♥️👍

[@23magneta]

What happens if you don't want to have sex until marriage? This is a pretty big "no" and I doubt most guys would find this attractive.

[@23magneta]

@@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 Lol. That doesn't show anything. I've had so many friends that complained about the sex drive of their spouse becoming nearly nonexistent during the first year of marriage. You need to make sure that you have a very solid bond (intellectually, emotionally and spiritually) because while sex is important, it isn't everything. You better hope you have a deeper connection because someday there will be a time when either one of you will be unable to have sex. What will you do then? If my friends had simply waited, they would have seen that their spouse was not the right person for them. They married their spouse because they were good in bed. Sometimes the sex can be so good that it completely blinds you and makes you unaware of the red flags, and it makes it too easy to avoid dealing with recurring relationship issues. How many married couples out there have such unsatisfying sex lives? The majority of them didn't wait until marriage. They were presumably satisfied with their spouse's performance prior to marriage, so they got married and yet, this didn't show them what sex would be like after marriage. Even worse, they were incompatible in so many ways with their spouse that didn't just involve the bedroom. It's easy to find a hundred people who are good in bed, but it is very difficult to find someone who truly loves you. Waiting until marriage doesn't guarantee anything either, but it does make it easier to view your relationship with a clear mind and notice the red flags. By all means, do what you like. I'm not judging you.

[@23magneta]

@@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 I didn't say sex isn't important, but you have to have something deeper than that. Sex before marriage does not indicate what sex will be like after marriage. That's my point. Too many people are duped into thinking that they know who they are marrying and what they can expect once they marry. Many people are dishonest about who they really are. Sex will not tell you whether your partner is deceiving you, otherwise many people would not marry their current spouses. It can make you feel your connection to your partner more deeply, but it does not reveal the reality of your connection (they are not necessarily the same thing, unfortunately).

[@AutumnBlossom]

@@23magneta I couldn't have said it better myself. I honestly believe that if there is great communication, respect, and a deep emotional, intellectual and spiritual bond between two people, the sex will be amazing. I'm also waiting for marriage to have sex. I want to save physical intimacy for a man who I have that deep connection with.

[@nofybn7794]

@@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 Wrong. There is no need to click in bed. Just talk before doing it, and be in LOVE. That is ALL that matters. Studies prove, just be in love. Sex is better when people are in love. That is clicking. No need to test it. Just talk beforehand. You don't have do to it, just talk.

[@victorabustamante7207]

@@23magneta You put that so much in perspective. You sound very wise because everything you said is spot on and makes absolutely perfect sense. I did the opposite and now we have no connection, nothing in common and even worse we aren't intimate because there was no love to begin with, just lust. It all disappeared, left us both empty and regretful. Thanks for you wisdom, hopefully smart people will take your awesome advice!

[@paulaneary7877]

A month before sex? What happened to getting married, then having sex? Seriously, what happened to that? Why do people think it is o.k. to have sex with anyone they are hanging out with? Just strange and dangerous.

[@melindaleal4506]

I know you are not going to want to hear this but now that I’m dating men in their 60s I am finally seeing the mature side of you.

[@lamuel4004]

Test , flakes on you. Send him a little bag of candy kisses & tell him to kiss off ! Or text it & a picture . If he treats you badly now ,he will treat you badly in marriage.

[@looslaura1]

Watching, rewatching 😀

[@misskitty2115]

You shouldn't see a guy more than once a week .?? WTF Why ? that's like nothing. Might as well NEVER see him if it's like that. Unless he's going to war or traveling , then I see no reason for this

[@senseijen8963]

If you like me, show up. If you flake on me it means you don't like me and I have to cross you out on the list. Why do I have to be be a Psych to diagnose what's going on?