10 Conversation DO's & DON'Ts and 53 Great Questions To Get To Know Someone

[@arulrajesh]

I answered most of these questions while he was asking them and found out quite a lot about myself.

[@blessedmslady7016]

😋

[@xavier4503]

I feel like these questions are most useful when you think about your answers to them-and how you might mention that in a conversation as a segue into asking the question yourself, or at least moving the conversation along.

[@MumRah]

Me to, turns out that I find myself boring 😆

[@jacksonguillory8114]

Same bro this had me looking into myself big time

[@jacoblopez2995]

This guy is so genuine. A real role model indeed.

[@stylishoversixty9459]

Excellent the art of conversation has become lost society is so connected to their cellphones I-Pads and laptops that we become unaware of the people around us when in public we don't even say hello or share a friendly smile thanks for all the fine suggestions!

[@wazzap500]

Preach it Mr. Gadson!

[@michaeldale3096]

Frank Gadson about 10 years ago, while in Australia, I stopped at a restaurant on the highway between Canberra and Sydney. It was about midnight. The place was large and packed. At a large table next to mine was a group of teenagers celebrating an 18th birthday. One would expect rowdiness or noise at least. No. Silence reigned apart from the odd chuckle or murmur. My partner and I realised that they all seemed to be gaming on their phones, until the penny dropped that they were texting their friends around the table. Stunning, I suppose at least they were out together.

[@nutyyyy]

Speak for yourself sir 😆 It is quite a shame, but using the advice outlined in this video you can get almost anyone to open up.

[@ericamarinolasco7699]

10's Conversation DO'S and DONT'S and 53 Great Questions To Get To Know Someone 2:01 Do not be afraid of vulnerability 2:19 Do ease into more difficult questions 2:43 Do understand the context of the conversation 3:10 Do give other people time to warm up 3:26 Do not beat the dead horse along the way 3:59 Do listen carefully to what other people say 4:28 Do not have a cookbook of questions 4:52 Do be prepared for unexpected answers 5:00 Do ask open ended questions 5:23. Do not ask question you will not answer yourself --- 5:43 What do you do when you are not working? 5:58 Did you choose your profession or did your profession choose you? 6:08 Why would you do if you won the lottery? 6:20 What is your favorite way to relax? 6:24 What is your favorite book? 6:26 What makes you laugh the most? 6:34 What is your favorite holiday? 6:48 What was the last movie you saw? 7:00 What is your favorite TV show? 7:04 What is one thing you are glad you did but will never do again? 7:15 When people come to you for help what do they ask you for? 7:32 Who is your go to band or artist? 7:41 Why is something you like to do the old fashioned way? 7:45 What is something you recently formed an opinion on? 7:57 What are you interested in that most people have never heard of? 8:09 What is someone you think everyone should do at least once in their life? 8:23 What is something people are obsessed with that you just do not get? 8:36 What is the most interesting place you have been to? 8:38 What is the luckiest thing that has ever happened to you? 8:51 What is your biggest pet peeves with modern technology? 8:55 What object have you been searching for with no luck? 9:00 What social customs do you feel should disappear? 9:11 What quirky things do people do where you are from? 9:21 Who or where would you haunt if you were a ghost? --- 9:41 What's get you out of bed everyday? 9:52 What do you value in a friendship? 10:03 What do you say more often "yes or no"? 10:17 What would you tell your teenage self if you can go back in time? 10:38 What is the hardest part about raising your children? 10:51 What do you think is wrong in modern parenting? 10:58 What gets you fired up? 11:30 What mistake did you make over and over again? 11:55 What have you created that you are most proud of? 12:04 What is the best thing you have gotten from your parents? 12:17 What is one responsibility that you wish you did not have? 12:38 What is the best and worst thing about getting older? 12:55 What change encounter changed your life forever? 13:14 What do you regret not doing? 13:21 Do you believe in second chances? 13:33 Do you want to retire to live or live to retire? 13:48 What are some of the things you wish you can unlearn? 13:58 What do you wish your brain was better at doing? 14:12 What or who could you not live without? 14:16 When do you feel the most confident? 14:29 If a crystal ball could tell you anything about your future what would it be? 14:37 What scares you most about future? 14:40 If you could change one personal decision in the last what would it be? 14:47 What goal are you working on now? 15:03 When was the last time you cried? 15:51 Do you believe that people are the whim destiny or that they can create the future themselves? 15:21 Who is someone you miss having in life? 15:34 What is a question you always wanted to ask but is too afraid to?

[@theweirdo3034]

Ah, thank you.

[@EvvrEndeavors]

Thank you so much

[@jbmz]

Thank you kind sir

[@2bitrasputin793]

"You have nice teeth. Where did you get them?"

[@givemechoco9753]

"Thanks, I grew them myself*

[@ml4898]

“You’ve got lovely eyes. Are they real?”

[@anandbhawsar3464]

😂😂😂

[@estherloidanc]

Medicaid but I'm missing my back bottom ones. It's no longer covered .

[@estherloidanc]

Who would you hunt if you were a brat

[@danielmiyahara320]

I have autism so I'm pretty socially awkward and can't read social cues so this helps, like a guide

[@Rob_-dv6ei]

My brother has the greatest conversation starter of all: Would you rather fight 10 duck-sized horses or 1 horse-sized duck? Always gets the conversation going.

[@mysticmagicsmurfdarklord6844]

I’m going to use that

[@chrike01]

I'd be so turned off by that

[@mysticmagicsmurfdarklord6844]

@@chrike01 To each their own

[@jadenyuki3138]

I think 10 duck horses

[@ouicestbien]

You made a grave error there by first establishing that horses are the size of ducks. Of course I'll then want to fight one horse-sized duck, which will be...a regular duck.

[@marcusayala6933]

I'm a freshman in high school and some of these make me laugh, but others I think are very interesting. I love the Gentlemens Gazette, just tying to see how I can improve on myself. And one of those things is conversation starters.

[@James_Tharp]

Same mate, I’m a seventh grader who bought myself a suit. It is a black three piece and I love it. Gentleman’s Gazette has been incredible and I am glad there are others like me.

[@marcusayala6933]

@@James_Tharp that's really impressive! I'm a sophomore now, have a great school year!

[@James_Tharp]

@@marcusayala6933 thanks, you too

[@erforscher]

I am now happy and satisfied to know that this is one of the priceless contents that I got from youtube. This is a boon to the youtube community. You are the best example of what a Gentleman should be like. 😊

[@demekagamine]

"What gets you out of bed in the morning?" Well you see, I've always been passionate about not starving to death.

[@barcalonga]

If I were asked some of those “starter” questions at a party, I would feel like the person was a bit nosy, too inquisitive, and I would definitely be inclined not to answer and find someone less-interrogating to talk to!!!!

[@roaklarson9699]

Some of these are better asked deeper into a conversation; me, personally I'd answer any of these.

[@Drodz1030]

Maybe youre a bit closed off

[@barcalonga]

@@Drodz1030 don't know what you can possibly mean by that - seems like a personal comment - but when one is at a party, you want to have a conversation, not be interrogated. Framing some of these with statements about your own preferences and opinions before inviting the other person to contribute is a much more refined and eloquent way of going about this.

[@Rbtamaki]

Hi, Raphael and Gentlemen Gazette, first time commenting here. Just wanted to know I really love your channel. I came by it around 3 years ago and is now by far the channel I watch most videos. This channel really got me into classical style, teached me most things I know about the subject, and even directed me to where to look further (recently got 'Dressing the Men' and 'Gentlemen' books). Just wanted to show how glad I am with your channel, and also from your store: got a couple of ties and neckties there which are simply gorgeous and earned me many compliments already. Please continue your good work and looking forward to new contents

[@nikonissinen6772]

54: Why on on earth do you move sideways?

[@cmcgloughlin]

I just noticed this myself and now I can’t unsee it. It’s like he’s on a slow conveyor belt

[@rwhendricks2762]

This is gold

[@RawHoneyBee]

I’m a woman but these videos are still so helpful!

[@f52_yeevy]

I loved how Raphael said “…this way you’ll understand wether they listen to classical music or Radiohead” like there’s nothing else. Both two amazing choices though!

[@f52_yeevy]

@luke5100 That's true! (btw, I don't remember anything of the video nor my comment, which is quite unusual. Anyway, have a good day:)

[@Kiddomike]

Prepare for unexpected answers: Q: So, what are your plans for the weekend? A: Gerbil hats. I'm going to make hats for gerbils. On a serious note, these are great and practical tips for people who struggle with conversations and hate having awkward moments. Thanks, Raphael!!!

[@barcalonga]

Kiddomike glad it’s not hats out of gerbils....

[@nathalie_desrosiers]

54. What nobody asked you but you always dreamed of answering.

[@ayeansh]

Surprisingly, that was how I perceived the question to originally be, on a second look it was the other way round haha. Maybe I just want people to be asking me better questions.

[@philomath67]

Excellent questions. I wouldn't know how to answer 95% of them if I were asked. I'd have to really think. But thank you for presenting interesting questions to ask others.

[@mestwategelagle201]

sven you truly are gentlemen wow i'm just 14 and i'm watching how to be gentlemen i've subscribed many of your videos love your cufflink

[@gentlemansgazette]

+mestwate gelagle glad to hear that!

[@LoscoX]

Lucky you! I can watch only now these videos in my twenties, because before I was not enough able to watch a video in English comfortably because I'm Italian. I would like to watch them when I started 3 years ago to search for how to be elegant in the right way, inspired by Light Yagami in death note. Here in Italy, we have Douglas Mortimer for gentleman guidelines, but he is more useful to get the history and the culture of the dressing, and not for practical suggests as Gentleman's gazette, because he often speaks as a boomer, who prefer remind the good old days, than think about how to be a gentleman in the society of nowadays, and more importantly, for people out his range of age.

[@FsimulatorX]

Yimeches

[@LuisDiaz-lk9pf]

Thank you for a great video. Very insightful. I think people in our society have forgotten how to speak with each other and have meaningful conversations. Great work.

[@gentlemansgazette]

+Luis Diaz Gracias

[@danieltiborhajzer3952]

Excellent video as always, love the new background :)

[@gentlemansgazette]

Thank you!

[@Newburyk]

Raphael! Thank you so much for this video! I recently started working at a English Tutoring job in Japan and I have been trying to improve my conversational skills. I will be using these tips and questions at work tomorrow! Excellent videos as always.

[@SueEmmDee]

Do not ask about regrets and do not get too "in depth" in any conversation with a stranger or near stranger.

[@youisstupid2586]

It’s not the same around the world. In east people talk about their lives and you look arrogant on uninterested if you don’t ask leading questions.

[@MichaelMbonile]

liked even before the video started playing I just love the channel and its contents

[@juancabeza5809]

2:37 I hate when people ask me this question, especially if I just met them!... I feel like they're trying to know more about me to talk shit on my back!... I rather be asked: "What you do for a living and What are your goals in life?"... Which of course I will explain how wonderful it has been for me so far! (Thank God for that). So it depends on the occasion and the person for example:"What is your hobby?" to a young man and "What do you do for a living and your near future goals?" to a grown up man.

[@juancabeza5809]

5:49 This is exactly the kind of question that makes me walk away from people!!!... I like when people talk to me about them selves and if we have something in common that's when I know the conversation is going to be stellar!!!. Also their honest opinion about a topic with the reason behind it is something I really respect!

[@pointonepointtwo7045]

I usually just debate about anything, the Socratic method is a great way to invoke people to think for themselves. Though it requires some level of willingness to change ones perception of reality.

[@BigHenFor]

But is that suitable for starting up conversations with strangers?

[@nubetoob9292]

Wow. This guy has covered all facets of life.

[@somerandombacon9749]

This is a lifesaver, thank you.

[@martinjames1518]

i saw 3 times best video i've ever seen this year thank you one more time.

[@juancarlosbeltran2856]

I just moved to another city where I only know some high school friends and the guys at work. I hope I can use this video in a positive way. Regards, Raphael!

[@jonathanvuong]

This definitely needs more attention

[@marcofavro7050]

Just started watching the channel. I love it. Keep up the amazing work

[@sheafisher3578]

Great video! Constructive criticism: “quirky” was spelled “quriky” on question 23.

[@snacklofter]

Good advice.Thank you.

[@tanishamarko9251]

blessed to have this channel on youtube

[@chensenhan]

Fantastic! I will share this with my friends and watch it before every date. Thank you!

[@pablorenan1]

In my personal opinion, I would ask 1 or 2 questions ti see if the conversations flows natural, if motive the personal feels unconfartable, I would stop inmidiatlly

[@fedormakarov3309]

I am truly greatful to you, sir, for creating such content.

[@omarkiller2222]

Soz but its spelled grateful. Don't feel bad, I make mistakes like this all the time, especially when talking to handsome men like Sven. P.S. I'm a guy ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@whatsamatta_u]

Such great ideas!!!

[@vladimirlem1104]

If there is a stranger that passes me by sometimes and I want to talk to her, what should I do? I would love a video on that.

[@globetrotter5800]

These are great questions! I'm going to incorporate many of them in training program at work. Thanks!

[@harlanabraham7772]

Subscribed and even hit the like button. Enjoyed watching this video.

[@martinjames1518]

thank you very much im 33 years old and your video really help me a lot. i may be a little bit arregent . but i think im pretty good . your video make me think i still have a lot to improve.

[@Patriotalliance]

Is tne back ground moving or is it Sven? We may never know. Notice that he appears to slowly slide from side to side.

[@ishowyouapple]

Thank you for writing the entire video in the description. I can save like 16 min, and skim through it in seconds to see if there's anything useful!

[@corporate.security]

MG I don't think that came across as you think that came across.

[@Rbtamaki]

Great questions! Thank you

[@EmanuelTeixeiradaCunha-Plus]

Very very good subject. Regards.

[@gentlemansgazette]

Glad you liked it.

[@alikaraki4929]

Keep going!!!

[@eddiealva4453]

Hola, Great video!! Congrats. Saying:" It takes a gentleman to teach a guy how to be a gentleman"

[@Cyb3riano]

Excellent questions! 😃

[@arneflemming2034]

Hey Raphael, seems like you left on the steady shot on on your camera. When using a tripod you have to turn it off or you will get these jittering edges like on the bookshelf. And if your camera allows for it you may open up the aperture to blur out the background a little more. Otherwise i really like the new background.

[@gentlemansgazette]

+Arne Flemming no, the vibration control is not the issue. It is the slider. When you open up more just a little movement will render you out of focus and that can be painful. I am with you, open at 1.4 you get nice bokeh but unless you have a focus puller it is not practical.

[@trigger5.563]

My new favorite channel

[@christopherlagasse5363]

I like the background!

[@gentlemansgazette]

Thanks!

[@Worldtravel2013]

This is such a lovely video.

[@JessifurC]

Do you have a guide how to think of questions on the spot or keep the conversation flowing as I'm/after listening to someone respond? I always draw blanks... Can you give examples and example conversations...

[@ultrafloss492]

Very nice! Thanks very much☺️

[@saulgoodman7509]

I'm only up to question 42 but they seem very annoyed im asking so many questions. Help

[@robinpclarke]

I don't think I'd ask any of those. They might be just about ok in a social setting (party, wedding, funeral, concert). Outside of that context, my asking any of those of a lady would come over as "hitting on" - "chatting up", which is fine if they want to be chatted up anyway by no-longer-so-glamorous myself, but probably not. More appropriate is to ask something "beyond personal", for instance "Excuse me, what do you think of [latest news event]?" or "Excuse me, may I ask why are you wearing a mask in the street?"

[@TheJackson4825]

great video!

[@JeroendenOtterheeftswag]

Great one!

[@marmary85]

I love your videos but I feel like life is way more simpler!! I don’t need metaphors to ask questions. Instead of “What makes you out of your bed?” I simply ask “What motivates you?” Or instead of bunch questions about hobbies,I simply ask “What excites you?”

[@neohlongwane8147]

He looks like G-Eazy

[@oksills]

What does that mean?

[@sheafisher3578]

oksills It’s a G-Eazy song.

[@KWPZ21]

I don't know who easy is and I don't plan to find out.

[@iiiacu]

Omg yes. Great, now I can't see him otherwise

[@rajabisaacs7396]

PLEASE for the sake of all fix that camera shake, otherwise, wonderful and informative video that I will try to take tips from and use throughout my daily life

[@robinpclarke]

Have you considered joining Islamic State? Why not? Are you one of those people who reckon racists should be prevented from saying what they think? What would you do if you chanced to meet the greatest genius alive? Do you know who I am? Have you ever watched the Gentleman's Gazette channel? What sort of questions would you reckon to be suitable round here?

[@gorgeousgye]

Awesome video, best video I have seen on engaging conversations

[@sverchkov]

When will the video on how to find an interlocutor ready to answer 53 questions without being arrested come out :)

[@bemnet2000]

Nice background video, I love it.

[@DayzOfGlory]

Hi, I have a charcoal grey suit and I was wondering what would be a good overcoat for it. Is a tan double breasted Burberry trench coat (at knees) a suitable color or should I look for another color and style. Any suggestions?

[@atyabrashid2398]

DayzOfGlory I'd say you could rock that, no doubt

[@BigHenFor]

Tan is a neutral colour, and should work as long as it's not too orange in shade. Any neutral colour - black, grey, navy, brown, or kakhi - will do.

[@aquilad.perera9683]

I asked myself what my hobbies are...I now know that I am very boring

[@evgeny1583]

Throughout the video, I kept thinking of the answers a homeless person would give me about those questions.

[@matejkincl]

How do you move sideways throughout the video?

[@jaimezamudiomendez9426]

Con subtítulos en español. Please

[@hwanglee3330]

Don't start conversations to borrow money to someone, please just go to bank. That's a gentleman.

[@blessedmslady7016]

Oh the brain picking🤗

[@javierdiaz4966]

cool vid

[@Nierkairos]

Why would you dislike this?

[@theplasticdesert2408]

*Spit roasting is a good way, tho it for every gentleman.

[@megenberg8]

read any good books lately? ; )

[@whatisinpi7689]

Lady Tate the book of Job. Yo

[@arcx1000]

is it just me or does Sven look like he's been working out??

[@buserror]

Sven, I love you and all that, but the background is jittering on this video, and it's very distracting and hard to watch. Also, as you are such a keen photographer, please get a lens with less barrel distortion, and fix these verticals on the edge of the frame! Verticals are meant to be.. vertical! OCD? Moi? ;-)

[@dipro001]

What was the last movie you watched, Raphael?

[@gentlemansgazette]

+dipro001 The Life of David Gale, I really like Kevin Spacey

[@dipro001]

Thanks for responding; nice to know that this actually works. I haven’t heard about that movie, but I will keep it on my watch list.

[@jerrymartin7377]

You should make a video on PANAMA HAT'S. Love you're videos, great knowleage ! 👍

[@joshuatree1886]

I asked my husband the question: If you were a ghost whom or where would you like to haunt. He said: Joe Biden. I laughed and laughed.

[@libnypacheco]

Good stuff

[@gentlemansgazette]

+Libny Pacheco thanks

[@DarkPrinceOfClowns]

Do you happen to have a video, or a guide, that tells you what is considered personal and not? Or know of something like that that exists? I have the unfortunant problem that I wasn't born with this kind of knowledge, and to this day, for all my study of psychology and human nature, humans still baffle me. And I cannot seem to find a single good guide for what exactly is considered personal, and why. I mean... How is the relationship question personal, while hobbies are not? Or why is the vision one more personal than asking about their work? (The latter one, I can't even see any distinguishable difference, as they tend to intertwine.)

[@stevenrenfro9199]

Is there a magic carpet under your feet? How are you moving from side to side in this video?

[@andyhynes5364]

Your tie looks a bit slim for your lapel?

[@selimaachmetova2670]

why does internet NEVER help me ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[@dragonmaster7841]

Nobody talks anymore. Please do an update on proper texting etiquette.

[@Tubular1517]

Agreed.

[@Iknowsomeofthesewords]

Beck Stein, asking for proper texting etiquette suggests that you aren’t the type of person this video was intended for. It also suggests that you are okay with settling for the lower class of life the world is settling into.

[@autismscience8534]

It's easy to talkTO them. Getting them to talk back is the hard bit.

[@noton1199]

I don't why I'm here... 😢

[@deasley2]

. . . . But enough about me, let's talk about you. What do you think of me?

[@tonygio]

The alarm clock

[@BrainBurst369]

Man, you skip 28.

[@thomasjpuleo8112]

May God save me from polite conversation.

[@mjkcomposer]

his tie is crooked and its giving me a panic attack

[@boogalooblues3931]

Go make some friends and become a true #alpha!

[@omarkiller2222]

(ಠ_ಠ) No thanks I'd rather laugh at u

[@michellecollins4974]

Last movie you saw?.. not really that indicative of their taste.

[@crashbandicoot5470]

I appreciate and enjoy your content as well as your personality.... but I hate the music. It was charming at first, now it is just annoying especially how loud the opening and closing (trumpet? saxophone? ) part. Maybe if you lowered the volume of those parts and increased your voice volume somehow it would be alright.

[@DewTime]

Disagree. Keep the music

[@roboboro]

It's weird to hear sven mentioning radiohead.