10 Life-changing Lessons from The 5 Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman | Book Summary

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What’s the one book that will have the biggest impact on your relationships? The 5 Love Languages!
Today’s book summary and book review: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. This book will rock your relationships. If you read only one book that will have the biggest impact on your relationships, it’s this one! Gary Chapman’s amazing relationship book has influenced millions of couples worldwide for decades. You might also consider getting the full book for this - it’s killer!
Special note: This book is not just for intimate relationships. The book works great for every relationship you have (co-workers/family/strangers/sales / etc).
Here are the best 10 ideas from “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.
★★★ BIG 10 IDEAS ★★★
(2:15) EMOTIONAL LOVE TANK
Metaphor like our car has a gas tank, our love life has a love tank.
keep this tank full. If we neglect our love tank, we’ll start to get bigger problems.
we need love… stats show we’re not too good at it:
40% of marriages in USA divorce
60% of second
75% of third
What’s happening? Where do we go wrong?
(3:45) DON’T BE IN LOVE
Falling in love is the opposite of what we should strive for. That honeymoon style chick flick/notebook rain make out scene.
(8:00) LANGUAGES OF LOVE (LEARN THEM)
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch
Gifts
Acts of Service
In order for the other person to feel loved, we must understand and speak their love language to them. Otherwise we might as well be speaking in Chinese when they understand English.
(10:00) QUALITY TIME
This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. Most “typical” love language.
HOW TO & TIPS:
Intentional date night - schedule it in!
Avoid routines. Relationship killer.
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(12:45) WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
This love languages uses words to affirm other people. Not just words - but deeper reasons behind them. Give them the “WHY” “I love you” vs. “I love you because…..” or “Great job with that project” vs. “Great job with that project - you put a lot of time in it shows”
HOW TO & TIPS:
Focus on giving one killer compliment x a day.
Compliment in presence of peers / brag about them in front of people.
No longer “Thank you” it’s “Thank you for….”
(15:15) GIFTS
Not materialistic. Not diamonds everyday. Gifts can be cards, can be flower, can be favorite soda from Trader Joes.
HOW TO & TIPS:
Remember important dates.
Focus on thoughtful ness behind gift.
Keep log in your phone if she mentions something she likes - order it in bulk one day, disperse over time.
(18:00) ACTS OF SERVICE
For these people, actions speak louder than words. My dad: Would do my laundry and clean my room. Wash my car. This was his love language.
HOW TO & TIPS:
Don’t be lazy - pisses this person off like no other.
Cook them dinner. Do their Laundry. Make the bed. Clean their space / room / desk / etc.
Volunteer to help out more.
(19:30) PHYSICAL TOUCH
To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch (not bedroom only).
Hand holding / hugs / PDA / etc.
(22:00) FIND YOURS
TEST ONLINE: www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
TEST IN BOOK: amzn.to/28O7uCw
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[@tamrieanncagley1035]

Great summary! Thank you so much for all the work you put into these videos.

[@maximo5737]

your clarity is amazing

[@MariahFan09]

So true about the gifts. My love language is gifts and I don't need expensive things, I just prefer to receive love in a distant way like that and it shows me that you do care when you take the time and money (sometimes) to give me something that made you think of me or that you thought I would like

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Thank you very much Clark for the simple down to earth Review. Loved it.

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LOVE your book reviews!! The sound was fine on my end. The length wasn't too long. Thanks!

[@robertwhall4458]

Thank you for recording this video Clark. I've read the book, and I recognise that you've given a thoughtful and comprehensive summary with some new examples.

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Enjoyed that !! so true, appreciate the effort you put in to making the video 👌🏼

[@clarkkegley]

You got it, man! Thanks for watching.

[@ThePfindley]

awesome video. Thanks for the profound clarity.

[@lauraluna9465]

omg ..thank you for taking the time to put this together...iv been trying to finsh this book...and you did an awesome job summary the chapter's up.

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[@sf5823]

This is one of my favourite subjects... LOVE! ❤️ Wow Look at all your books, awesome! Looking forward to listening to the top 10 tips...thanks for the recommendation xxx

[@VictoriaMartinez-hg5tt]

Great summary. Good job! Thanks.

[@NateAmado]

Awesome, thank you for making this. For all of these. It's a good refresher since I've already read the book, and I can see how it would be a good primer for books I haven't read yet. If I remember right, my top 2 love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch. I appreciate how you gave practical examples for each.

[@TaniaSeabock]

OMG!!! I love your mom! She was so smart! Thanks for the video! :)

[@KelseaHenderson]

Very helpful. Thank you!

[@vickielarson-hills8447]

Enjoyed this overview because it gave the highlights. Will be ordering the book!

[@alexanderarango9156]

I really enjoy the way you explain things Clark. God bless and thank you

[@Mattelk001]

Thank you - that was awesome!

[@bethaniascott2798]

Thank you so much for the summary

[@Scott-bd1ji]

Great video! Good choice of book as well. One thing that I don't think you quite covered was that people may speak and hear totally different love languages. For example you mentioned that your father spoke with acts of service, but maybe he responded (heard love) through quality time or physical touch. In other words, just because someone speaks a certain love language it doesn't necessarily mean that it is the love language they are most receptive to. Keep on keeping on brother!

[@Presmelb]

This is great ! I appreciate the end :)

[@tamarabengochea8446]

Great explanation, very helpful. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

[@AY-lv6we]

Thank you very much for making a great video on this very important subject of interpersonal relationship. Well done.

[@oldsoul7953]

Love love love this book! One of the top favourite books. Great video

[@michellehawthorne254]

Awesome synopsis Thanks 🙏🏼🥰

[@joannehowell8150]

Thank you. Great summary. God Bless

[@thabilenxumalo9275]

Wow! And I have those table topics..👏🏽 Thanks so much for the big ideas! Really great to listen to and pick pointers!

[@lynndiful]

I love your book summary!

[@natashabanky9507]

First, physical touch and second, quality time. This video is invaluable. I just rewatched it.

[@darolsole5547]

My love language is spending quality time together and holding hands and cuddling

[@Sommertimeflowers]

I super appreciate these 🤓🙏🙌

[@genesebelius4466]

Thanks for the information.

[@SusiePettit]

great video -thanks!

[@1fashionbliss]

I read this book a few years ago with my husband and needed a refresher, thank you!👍🏼😊

[@oliviariley781]

Great review with some really great examples. I just ordered Table Topics because I suspect that quality time is one of my boyfriend’s top two languages. This was really helpful. I also loved the example of the friend with the gifts on standby. That’s a clever friend! I’m currently reading the book but wanted to hear others’ thoughts on it and this was such a great video.

[@mariacreager7117]

A very good video! Thank you. :)

[@annkeiper2082]

I have the book but enjoy your take on it , thank you

[@carmenshirk366]

Awesome video!

[@LilachLavy]

Excellent ... Thank you....

[@KEEPGROWING123.]

Thanks for this video dude

[@jenniferbright2506]

Thanks so much for this video. It really makes things a lot easier even being in a relationship for 10 years. This will be fun and helpful for us to watch together. I am more of quality time and physical touch type of girl where he is a act of service and gift type of guy. This is definitely helpful. I subbed and definitely liked!

[@tracystarreveld]

Amazingly clear, detailed, insightful and useful presentation - thank you so much! Such a shame the volume is too low - mine is on max and I'm still struggling to hear you.

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Use a Bluetooth external speaker

[@cr2645]

alright I need to buy this book

[@mylor1066]

First time I've seen one if your vids and thus is a great synopsis of a fantastic book. Perfect for explaining to my friend what it's about and I learnt a new thing with the words of affirmation, adding that fourth word "... For..." You've earnt a sub from me! I'm looking forward to checking out your other reviews.

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Awesome

[@CareFreeCommuting]

Not sure if you've heard of Richard Rohr, but he led me to checking out the Enneagram. I won't say much more than that, only I believe you'd find it highly enjoyable. Enneagram, Strength Finders 2.0 and Love Languages in that order have greatly benefited my life (along with going to school for psychology).

[@khaledyo3090]

the sound is not high enough

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That's what volume buttons are for :) (looking into fixing it for next video. Thanks for your support!)

[@khaledyo3090]

no probleme man haha I set the volume button to the max and even with that it seems a little to weak but no probleme i love your videos

[@AY-lv6we]

Use a Bluetooth external speaker

[@bryceoreeso5262]

"Killer compliment" I bet that's from how to talk to anyone 😉 I read this book because of your video!

[@MrShark-no3bq]

Awesome summary. Baby horse is a foal.

[@NadiaPeach30]

I love this book! Have you read Love and Respect? It's a great book also

[@BobF510]

I'm struck by the perceptive wisdom of this piece. A book with similar subjects opened new exploratory paths. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@eunicegantt3069]

My primary is Words & Affirmations. My secondary is physical touch.

[@FusionThunderNW]

Goood Stuff

[@CALLewisATL]

HUGE fan of this book! Def not a book manly guys would pick up, but I was like you, once I picked it up I thought it was genius. Gary Chapman went a little crazy after the success of this book and it it like 20 other 5 languages books. Def not reading those; no disrespect to Gary but I feel like I got his best and I'm cool. Lol, you checking out the others?

[@zillehuma822]

one language missed is PATIENCE. sometimes people are going through stuff and they just want distance and not to worry about the relationship. Also respect, every relationship is based on a little bit to alot of respect.

[@draketdraco]

acts of service the second one words of affirmation

[@Empress-og5st]

Thank you for that Enlightenment. Information I no idea that there were five love languages I am 56 years old I am learning real love is

[@elaineanderson4891]

I ordered the book. I took the test. The test said I like quality time however I show my love through acts of service. What does that mean?

[@johnparinellojr.2035]

That's a good book, what are your thoughts on men are for Mars and women are from Venus ?

[@clarkkegley]

Didn't make it through the full thing - not sure why. I hear it's great though?

[@twinny12009]

Hi can't seem to access you free book:-(

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How do I download the 11 questions that change your life The link is taking me to a download of google which I already have and dong want another one . Please help .

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[@forlornqueen]

Mine is physical touch

[@TheShelstar]

Hello great video just wondering I can’t see the 30 questions ... where would I find them.. ?😁

[@oliviariley781]

Shelstar. w White the link is in the description box

[@mileman23]

if you love someone, protect them from their worst fear

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[@MX-CO]

I Have a Relationship question for anyone who want to give advice. I know a guy , that has A Girlfriend of 5 years , basically wife , they have 3 young children under 5 , They have a problem, that they cant seen t solve related to sex, the Guy wants sex at least once a week , the girl wants it once a month, and niether will budge , the guy says without it he is unhappy, and doesn't feel close to the girl, like hanging around a friend. The girl says i just cant do it when im not in the mood , this problem has been Discussed in 500 ways 500 times. It is effecting every part of the relationship, Both claim to be attracted to each other , get along well other than this problem and are both loving parents, the guys considers ending the relationship over this because he is Genuinely unhappy with once a month. And after all the talks now thinks this will never change, The only reason he hasnt ended it is because he loves the kids and doesn't want to not live with them. He hasnt cheated or tried to meet anyone else.

[@imahick5723]

Compromise for twice a month. For young couple that seems like too little to me but hey? Maybe it's time to make the commitment or move on? How does this improve?

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Is the singles version any different from this original version?

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Wish the video audio was louder

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Baby horse = foal!

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It's purple for a reason

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Why?

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Colt stud! Baby horse is a colt 😘😘

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Foal

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Celestial Way foal actually right?

[@rashidaquil5284]

this looks more work for men and women are receiving only....I believe women need to step up too

[@truebluegrit]

Awesome! But horses have foals and cows have calves...

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Better without the moustache, nice video

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superman lol

[@Brando-_-440]

When she speaks all these languages...

[@mikewills6753]

Hard to listen to this coty boy after he called a baby horse a calf! At least know what you're talking about.