How to Increase Love in Your Relationship | Jonathan Ljungqvist | TEDxZagreb

Jonathan Ljungqvist, who became a rising professional adventurer at a young age, came to the realization early in life that a successful career was only a piece to life's puzzle. In his first TEDx Lund he talked about 3 life lessons from traveling the world, but this time he defies the audience's expectations. He instead tells his story of how pursuing a successful career led him to embark on life's biggest project up to date, the one within his own relationship. Perhaps this popular story theme has been told before, but not like this! Professional adventurer who has: Biked from Sweden to Tanzania; Kayaked from Sweden to the black sea; Roller-skied across Australia. Adventurer has been in his blood for many years now but he makes his living as operative manager at davidjpphillips.com and they work with coaching in external and internal communication. When he's not doing adventure or public speaking he loves to be at home at Lakehouse and just walk the dog, read a really good book or meditate! This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@JWu-jt7fz]

Thank you for these 3 tips: 1. Hug 2. Gratitude 3. Communicate from the heart

[@amandaarnold7864]

This is a wonderful topic and speech! Jonathan is the love of my life but like we can all agree on, love is complicated. Starting our oxytocin project was the best journey we have embarked upon together and I know we are happier for it! I am so grateful, not only for Jonathan, but because oxytocin is something we humans share and need. Cheers!

[@adventurepear]

I LOVE YOU

[@DomenicoMazzaSm]

Hello Amanda, I hope the best for your life toghether, as you know or you'll, the marriage is a little bit more complicated .that's not enough to be happy,sometimes it Will be hard but there 's always a solution which you toghether must search . Toghether is the magic word A very big hug from my heart to yours

[@adventurepear]

@@DomenicoMazzaSm Thank you for the advice :)

[@amandaarnold7864]

@@DomenicoMazzaSm very true! you are so right..together and teamwork is KEY!

[@WAA-uj3ow]

Congrats ❤️

[@anaderol5408]

Jonathan is absolutely correct - I did not know it was called oxytocin... we just call it 'being in love' - after 33 years together (30 of them married) twice we've been on the brink of calling it quits but we worked on it and today we are like a couple of adolescents (we are both rapidly approaching 70) - we hug/ we cuddle / we kiss / we love each other and as Jonathan says - LOOK at each other, go for walks together. One thing Jonathan missed - LAUGH together - share jokes to start with but after a while it becomes easier to find amusement in every day things. Take care of each other - offer to help in a task and be confident to ask for help in a task. Plan little projects together - like clearing out the wardrobe - (a boring task but together it is done faster and it's more fun). However, I have a little advice for Jonathan and Amanda - I know it's fashionable but try and keep the mega expressions of your love more private - the turning up at work with flowers, in my mind, is not so cool - it smacks of possession and wanting to show others how good a partner you are - instead surprise her with the flowers at home. I won't even comment on the public proposal - mine was on top of a promontory - overlooking the Pacific Ocean - it was a blissful moment which still makes my skin tingle. It was our moment.

[@eugheniat.2121]

Great comment & I have one question- why would you watch a video like this if you are happily married for the last 30 years?

[@TheCeciD]

@@eugheniat.2121maybe came up on his recommendation. I personally searched for this one but I do get off videos sometimes and get curious as to what it may actually be about so I watch 😅

[@venust.4119]

It’s easy to give up and say “it didn’t work”. Take time and analyze what can be done to fix it. Good talk.

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you very much!

[@Megdracula]

Exactly. This is it. If you love that person all options should be explored to find a mutual motivation to make this work if you both wish to be together.

[@Bion05]

Why am I not surprised the moment he called her up i was like yep we're gonna see a proposal

[@WAA-uj3ow]

Me too😄

[@fststudy2903]

This is a tough subject for long-term partners. And I believe that everyone should watch this!

[@adventurepear]

Glad to hear that you liked it!

[@voskimkhitaryan2639]

I loved it and I'm happy for you both. Much happiness and long life.

[@TrevCircleStudios]

So glad I got to witness this in person!

[@adventurepear]

Is was a true honor meeting you!!

[@TrevCircleStudios]

@@adventurepear Likewise!

[@summerjoy2930]

True love is love you give and you get, without asking, demanding or craving for. Respect, loyalty, honesty, touch, smell, laugh, look, protection, all good feelings making one- love for life. Communication is the key. When you communicate you have no problems. Congratulations to both of you. All the best.

[@jeffaholics2289]

Wow wasn’t expecting that at the end, I wish you guys both success and happiness.

[@NISHUGARVU]

He's so excited to tell these so simple yet mind blowing techniques.

[@chipixie]

Thank you for sharing this moment with us!

[@mitiarajaonarison7691]

This one is my favorite ted talk, I'm always watching one all of them everyday as I'm about to learn english and then I came across to a such great message about love, so not only that's give me encouragement but it also give like big hope and I strongly wanna to restart my relationships by experiencing all these powerful oxitocyne advices...I almost had tears in my eyes by seeing both being in love...good luck for you and thank you so much..

[@adadaslavaamne157]

also beautiful moment for a proposal well done!

[@adventurepear]

Thank you :)

[@ariellll4819]

Awww this made me cry the happiest tears for you two!!

[@yanasnychenkova6012]

🇺🇦hi from Ukraine! Awesome things to learn! Thank you Jonathan and Amanda!🙏❤️

[@jontaylor-cummings4068]

Lovely! So glad Amanda said YES! :) Wishing you guys all the very best for a love-filled and happy future together. I would say make a habit of showing love!

[@bessrivera5039]

Wow!! It's about time Jonathan!!Congratulations to both of you!

[@gaylesantone1885]

I got quite emotional and will watch this many more times!

[@ihuomanwoke5873]

Absolutely, amazing! Congratulations!

[@miegy8650]

I cried after watching the speech... Too much Oxytocin was produced at once!! Such a wonderful couple you are! Best wishes and regards.

[@HBSugar1106]

Awwww that was awesome!!!!!! Wow what a finale ending lol. That was fantastic!

[@ssuperssara1]

This is a really important message to everyone! In these covid times, we should be careful with all our relationships. Thank you for your thoughts Jonathan!

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

ssuperssara1 Thank you 🙂

[@MetalDeathMusic]

I'm in the exact same situation. We've not been our best to each other, and I've had a hard time communicating on things like children, moving in together. Unfortunately, she left because of these. I've been working on myself, but how can I give this a chance now? I believe this will make us far stronger.

[@angelaandromedas3206]

THIS SHOULD HAVE A BILLION VIEWS BRILLIANT INFORMATION XXXX THANK YOU WHOLEHEARTEDLY

[@valuabletipseasylife]

Thanks for talking about this lovely argument. Love is all I need. The love of my life? Nature. Being in nature and liberty.

[@adventurepear]

I must say I love the nature to! Thank you so much for the comment!!

[@hathu-hy8bb]

Thank you for sharing. So lovely ending 😍

[@edyourlife]

So grateful to find this video, thanks Jonathan 😀

[@mariam-016]

I’m grateful to have watched this! Thanks guys!

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[@safiraimoney]

what a beautiful ending of such a insipiring talk

[@BeenaKK]

Just woww.... I don't have a thing to tell you Jonathan. You are just imperfectly perfect. Such a raw and genuine person you are that shows on your face. Thank you for highlighting about Oxytocin. It brought goosebumps when you proposed Amanda. Wishing you loads of love and bliss with Amanda along with a bunch of wonderful kids. Keep smiling... Keep laughing... Keep inspiring us.....! Loads of love from India!

[@FellyMahlatsi]

I actually cried. What a wow

[@cynthiajones1461]

This was absolutely spot on. Just an excellent talk.

[@temujin5743]

Loved this speech!

[@louchieamartinez6878]

Wowww I didn't know that there is a Ted talk that has a proposal in it. ❤❤❤

[@meddyfurniture]

Swedish people are the kindest human beings I’ve ever come across they’re sooo good!

[@priscillahawayek7752]

Thank you for sharing this holy instant!

[@aidaymarlenkyzy9840]

Woaw this is such a beautiful video ! Thank-you for this !

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you 🙏☺️

[@manelabachi8943]

Don't give up and say it wouldn't work / try to find the problem , fix it and protect your relationship ❤

[@almt1486]

When the other person gives up on you is one the hardest things to experience.

[@manelabachi8943]

Yeah .. you're right but you gotta move

[@xrundateamet1550]

What a great talk and a talented story-teller!

[@adventurepear]

And I must say I love your company idea, super exiting! keep it up!

[@wyndaindonezian]

Watch until the end. Because I thought after he finished his speech, it was the end. So powerful !!! My only Ted talks show that makes me cry of happiness. I will do my oxytocin project too!

[@FellyMahlatsi]

Thought I was the only one; I cried too. It is the only Ted talk show I've ever watched where the presenter demonstrated live what they meant 🥺😭

[@wyndaindonezian]

@@FellyMahlatsi exactly

[@marlenesabiooliva7667]

Marriage Encounter (ME) is the best marriage saver. My husband and I attended the Marriage Encounter Weekend (MEW) Seminar. After the seminar, we were able to renew our relationship. As if we were a newly married couple, although we were on the 22nd year of our married life at that time. ME rekindle our marriage because there were three in that relation: God my husband and me. God bless!

[@motv-independentthinkingfo3817]

GREAT SPEECH AND AWESOME ENDING! A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL AND SHE SAID YES AFTER HE DID HIS WHOLE SPEECH ON HER AND HOW MUCH HE LOVES HER THIS IS TRULY BEAUTIFUL 💯❤😃

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you so much 😃🙏

[@motv-independentthinkingfo3817]

@@jonathanljungqvist9112 Absolutely thank you for the great video and inspiring proof of your love

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

MO TV- INDEPENDENT THINKING FOR THE FREE MIND you’re welcome 🙂

[@motv-independentthinkingfo3817]

@@jonathanljungqvist9112 😃

[@valentineenedah5132]

This is really beautiful.

[@vanessadanson5923]

Wow wow wow. Absolutely powerful

[@jessicawilliams9197]

Beautiful! I love the mind to heart communication ❤️

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[@viranjith]

Why is my face leaking! Congratulations this was very beautiful

[@gorkapalazio]

Great person and aventurer. Thankx a lot 4 your advices.

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Gorka Jakobe Palazio thank you 🙂

[@catherinedarringer1762]

Such a beautiful way to start my day. Thank you for sharing.

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Catherine Darringer so happy you liked my talk 🙂 Thank you!

[@_vickyjayy_]

Hi Can we talk

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Vicky Jay sure 🙂

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[@nawrozzahanpreety6857]

This is how partners should be

[@Bumbledora]

Truly heart-warming 👍👍👍🌹

[@ngocthissi3792]

It's exactly what i need. Thanks so much

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

You are welcome 🙏

[@janicelee6697]

😭😭😭 this is so sweet ❤️

[@tofu003]

This topic I say, is a great project and so much informations I need

[@JenLiu147]

Best Ted Talk ever!! ❤

[@courtneychristian3772]

Great presentation

[@salvadorabsalon3561]

Men cry? Because I am crying!!

[@xtancycomedy]

I so much love this topic ❤❤❤ This is really a nice tip's ❤❤

[@leticiagarcia8607]

Love this!

[@kingLemourio]

That's the best I have ever seen in my life

[@adventurepear]

Wow thank you so much!!

[@i.einspration4404]

thx for sharing this...

[@hersheybiz9512]

Congratulations 🎊🍾

[@peytoncavnar9214]

Thank you so much for this speech! It is very inspiring! My partner and I have been together for a while and have had a couple "make it or break it" points. I truly love him so much so thank you for making me feel empowered in my ability to give and receive love. God bless you all.

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[@mahaveerdmuragi6272]

It's an underrated video ☹️ it should has some spotlight

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you so much!

[@snowtheacatt]

wow. this is great

[@seeforyourself7841]

Congrats!

[@athenemutyambizi3828]

wow! thats the cutest thing I've watched today!

[@adadaslavaamne157]

really enjoyed this video thanks for the tips

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Adadaslavaa mne I’m so happy you liked it 🙂

[@happyhome6394]

God bless you both

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you 🙏🙏

[@marc-andrebenoit5776]

Goosebumps

[@louchieamartinez6878]

Puree love 💗🙏

[@rezaoxox]

what a moving talk. tanx!

[@adventurepear]

What was your feeling after the talk? thank you! :)

[@krishnanita3796]

God bless you.

[@jonathanljungqvist4312]

Thank you!

[@kimb2989]

Cute proposal.. He seems to really love her. Most guys would give up easily, he didnt. Congrats girl!

[@dvails]

Women give up just as easily.

[@Oneaverageboi]

Loved this one!

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

One average boi thank you 🙂

[@vibingarchive]

thanks brother

[@NIGHTWHEEL...]

What a beautiful ending

[@WickLoeswick-yi1yj]

This was amazing related to it so much. Especially the part of the 10 straws (Neuro receptors) in a the water (hormones) inside the glass (your brain) if you are busy using 8 of those straws and maxing them out then it’s a safe assumption that those two other ones may never be used, could be clogged or atrophy. This is what happen to Jonathon and he didn’t even know it until he got the call from his Longterm girlfriend saying I don’t know how to comfort or love me. What was not talked about was lessening his life hobbies of chasing mountains, fame and adventure. And by doing that he put some attention/focus on his oxytocin Neuro receptor (straw) and by hugging, eye contact and talking fromThe heart he buffed up that straw until it was as thick as a milk shake straw. I too lost this straw bc I had so many other hobbies and passions that my oxytocin Neuro receptor was completely atrophied and took stopping cold turkey many of my “positive” selfish passions that made me feel good but dried up All the hormones for neuroreceptors and left my cup dry.

[@annettefella8945]

So sweet

[@paddle_smith]

Oh man! I didn't notice I was smiling from ear to ear at the end of this video! Congrats!

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you!!

[@SELEONORE]

Yes me too can’t stop smiling ;-), feeling this lucky hormone through my veins at the end. What a bliss to find this ‘proposal’ speach!

[@user-it3jl1oq1q]

Me too :)

[@AwesomeThanTheMiz]

This made me cry

[@Kevin509wisdom]

Dare to share your emotion.

[@alejandrabustillomoreno8228]

It was beautiful!!!

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you 🙂

[@simplypqz]

i am crying.

[@mvarnold8950]

Great speach Jonathan!

[@adventurepear]

thank you :)

[@afraw]

That was a great talk. Very diffucult publicum

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[@masturawrites]

I love your watch

[@SavannahVu1985]

Ngawwwww this was beautiful

[@skimbok896]

I think this can help us all. Well done

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you 🙏

[@francescodegregori8100]

Hay un hombre con el que me gustaría que contactes y que me ayude a restaurar mi matrimonio en solo 2 días.

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Ponte en contacto con él ahora en WhatsApp y su nombre es Wilson Thomas, ese es el nombre del hombre poderoso, ok número de WhatsApp: [phone]..

[@sadiyoyuusuf6705]

Thanks ❤❤👍

[@adventurepear]

You are welcome!

[@FgroupIndonesia]

we will of course apply it. and thanks for the oxytocin project advice. it's given for granted. :)

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[@WEIKOV69]

Beautiful!

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[@MorolongWaMorakile]

😭❤️Beautiful

[@jmer9126]

There is a great experiment in Japan on physical contact for young children and oxytocin levels in both the children and their parents.

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

J Mercure Do you have more information about that?

[@nassimbensayah4568]

Amazing

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Thank you 🙂

[@janabradley6302]

Okay...that was dope

[@patricenitagoredema8844]

This is beautiful.

[@jetjean19]

Its been hard to increased the love if the relationship keep in Long distance relationship for almost 9 years 😢 Instead its looking cold the love

[@jonathanljungqvist9112]

Sorry to hear this! Anything I can do?

[@Mosdefinitelyable]

Long distance can work just do the gratitude use video to communicate try harder!

[@TijwokPeter]

Communication - talking about fears. - eye contact.

[@yanamartinez9666]

Don't forget hugging 👥

[@jenniferklein6904]

Thank you Jonathan u just changed my life

[@jenniferklein6904]

My husband is in prison over alcohol and I was ready to give up but I realized I love him I felt he left me when I needed him the most in was so angry

[@Lovefromtheartistmarz]

This is cool

[@suedafeti7041]

i cried.