8 Things You Need to Know About Self-Love

Self love is so important to live a happy, healthy life! So, are you looking for tips on how to love yourself and how to improve your personal growth? In a world that grows more demanding, stressful, and complex day by day, self love might not be at the forefront of your mind. We hope with this video, you’ll understand a bit more about self-love and incorporate it more into your everyday life, if you haven’t already.
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[@Psych2go]

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[@AnonymousCheeseEnjoyer]

Yes

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Ok

[@AnonymousCheeseEnjoyer]

@@subscribetoscp-173oritsnap5 no please don't do it

[@seanmcfadden3712]

I'm still contemplating getting a black ring for my right, middle finger. That said, one of our alpacas likes dangling jewelry, so a necklace is right out.

[@itz_ic21gaming97]

I really needed to what this. Now i understand the self love is not selfish and it important.

[@ICEcoldJT]

“Do not try to fix whatever comes in your life. Fix yourself in such a way that whatever comes, you will be fine.” ❤️

[@diice23]

Thanks man... I needed that😅✌ Have a great day.

[@amie2243]

Its harder then it sounds

[@miewmiew4447]

Woaah... that's one inspirational comment ✊❤️

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the uplifting quote!

[@peach816]

Thanks..

[@SuperWiiBros08]

I think I've been able to love myself more by days, but I'm still working to heal my emotional wounds

[@rinatopotato]

Same here, you're not alone! ❤️

[@Psych2go]

What did you do differently to facilitate self love?

[@SuperWiiBros08]

@@Psych2go just been trying to get along with the right people and try to do what can make me happy

[@ladyofthemoon7393]

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[@cretino7058]

UP!

[@yanyanamarante3092]

Me to self: Self love is not selfish, self love is not selfish, SELF LOVE IS NOT SELFISH

[@aeshagalal3332]

Yeah self love is not selfish ^^

[@josiepayne5058]

That’s what I need to tell myself non- stop

[@Metzli]

But the moment you try to show the little tiny bit of self-love and confidence, everyone thinks you're selfish and narcissistic... ._.

[@ericodavidtabo3086]

Self love is selfish. And that’s completely okay

[@Radhuya]

​True! Self love is selfish, and it's important to know when being selfish is healthy ​@@ericodavidtabo3086

[@LeeIsVeryEmo]

I've been sitting here crying about someone who doesn't like me and blaming myself this is just the thing i need thank you

[@kimberlybogert-nemeth4760]

I did a few weeks ago cry over a crush😌..but it will be ok Your gonna be ok💗Take care 🌸💖

[@logtube8844]

I love you♡

[@catwoman3753]

However and whoever makes you feel selfish just because YOU chose to put yourself first, THEY are the selfish , self-centred ones , because they weren’t placed first on your list. Just remember that to give your best in any situation or to anyone , you must firstly have 100% of yourself in order to help others. ❣️Be true to yourself always... others will love you and stand by your side... ❤️God bless all

[@serena-hi4xt]

that person doesn't deserve you then. dont blame yourself for that sort of thing please. i love you, we love you

[@genmae2967]

I love you!! Let's spread love!!!

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

Stop comparing yourself to others. Don't worry about others' opinions. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Remember your value doesn't lie in how your body looks. Don't be afraid to let go of toxic people👍

[@sd.sophie6337]

Thank you for this comment 💜 I really needed it

[@thenixdragon7685]

[@windtoons5295]

❤️✨ Thanks!

[@Rotan_Paska]

How can i get toxip people out if he is my bro :0

[@burgerkiller4438]

ok, I need people to argue with me because I can literally find something I disagree with in every single one of your advices: 1. Stop comparing yourself to others: I am an above average student, I managed to get into the best highschool in town I have always had good grades I won or did very well in a lot of competitions, but for me it was not enough since I knew I could do more, and when I failed I felt bad about myself. When I would say things like I am bad or I am stupid my friends would say things like: "well you are smarter than most of your peers don't be so hard on yourself". That...made me feel better. In my case the better advice would be TO compare myself to others, and knowing that just reversing an advice makes it work sometimes as well and that it basically exists for you to just feel better and not as acual advice, it makes it empty. 2. Don't worry about other's opinions Now this is almost like saying don't worry about paying taxes. Your relations with other people and other people's opinions about you **matter**. In fact just being a dick might make you lose your friends, since you become the toxic person you yourself recommend to let go. Ignoring other people's opinions can make your whole life lonely. Being nice or trying to be nice is a good thing, not a bad thing. 3. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Well there is one thing we can agree on, mistakes are bad right? Well accepting your mistakes as normal things can make you ignorant to them and stop you from self improving. I mean if your mistakes are ok why should you put effort into not doing them? This mentality is obviously stupid. 4. Remember your value doesn't lie in how your body looks. I mean, if we are to ignore other people's opinions, your value is what you think it is, or rather what you decide it is. For a super model or culturist (idk if this is a word in English I mean people who grow muscles competetivly), how their body looks is the most important thing ever. For you, I mean you decide. If we are to take into account other people's opinion, we all judge based on looks at least somewhat. If you are fat, if your hair is all over the place, if you haven't taken a shower in ages. 5. Don't be afraid to let go of toxic people Yes so this person is being mean almost all the time, he tells me that he has suicidal toughts because of problems he has in his family. Other people aren't inclined to help him because of his behaviour and he understands that it is bad,but says he is unable to change. He constantly tells you abou his problems and asks for help without ever doing anything to better himself. Oh what I should just stop talking to him and just kinda hope he doesn't kill himself when one of his last friends leave him? Without feeling morally accountable in any way as in that is acually the rightious, good and moral decision? Oh cool thx for the advice bro.

[@datboi6954]

1. Self-Love is not linear 0:47 2. Self-Love is not selfish 1:49 3. Self-Love is not a rapid process 2:25 4. Self-Love is important 2:59 5. Uncovering sources of healing can be difficult 3:31 6. Accept your own compassion 4:25 7. Follow your heart 5:26 8. Self-Love isn't always fun 6:16 I hope I could help! :)

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for putting this together!

[@im4ni_b]

Thanks, now I know what to focus on 😉

[@her1sch]

How is your comment 20 hours ago and this vid is 46 mins ago?!? 😳

[@k9aussie898]

@@her1sch that's what i was thinking KZbin must be drunk

[@im4ni_b]

@@her1sch yeah how?!

[@LARADEKA]

_If you want to love others, learn to love yourself._ _If you want to help others, learn to help yourself._ *_If you want to heal others, heal yourself before them._* *_That is the golden rule we all need._*

[@shaymay2892]

Beautifully summarized.

[@THEMAN-ru8ek]

So love our self first.. before we love others

[@HolisticDistraction5]

off to heal myself before a person thats about to die from blood loss

[@AmberPatoc]

​@@HolisticDistraction5Selflove and healing yourself is not selfish... It's like showing people how you treat yourself on how you want to be treated and treating other people like a mirror,when you give respect to them, respect will also reflect back to you,so if you are cruel,you didn't truly love yourself because when you are cruel,you're showing your behavior to other people how you want to be treated.You can't pour from an empty cup,you cannot share oxygen to another person in an airplane if you yourself is suffocating

[@Emi.Lovely]

​@@HolisticDistraction5are you insinuating that self love is selfish?

[@kareensha325]

Before my depression I used to really hate myself and find fault in myself due to others' actions. I healed from that phase and have started to accept and love myself now. Some of the closest people in my life started to bring me down because I was getting confident, and they told me that I was self absorbed. I decided to cut ties with them and I was feeling so awful, thought it was selfish. I feel much better after this. I really needed this so thank you ❤️

[@monicaperez2843]

Kareensha, you made the right call!

[@ariellebc3823]

As a confident person myself I am usually told similar things (usually as a joke) But loving yourself is not selfish/self absorbed, as long as you know you have the right intentions at heart :) I wish you all the best with your future heeling journey 💕

[@MrMikail06]

How did u get confident

[@jessiglow7292]

Fighting 💪💪😇 You're stronger than you think

[@meridablack4402]

so srong! kudos to you

[@SelfMadeWealth]

Don't spend countless hours entertaining yourself in the hope of implementing it someday. Close youtube after watching this video and implement something you watched.

[@katelynbrown98]

THIS!!

[@The_Rising_Tempest_Emilia]

My procrastinating self: "I'll do it tomorrow"

[@cameronm896]

There's a plague going on right now imma pass on going outside

[@amsaal081_]

Like wowwwww

[@kadambaritamilarasan568]

Unique comment ❤️ Tqsm

[@ch3rriexx]

It's like this channel knows what I need at the moment

[@Psych2go]

We hope this video has helped you in some way :)

[@Robbiechris1]

Agree

[@poonkuzhalyeswaravelu9800]

100% true

[@adayinthelifeofgeorgia3844]

Me too xx

[@souhaila5879]

Really!!

[@aqsamj8861]

Never let others thoughts get to you. Never believe what people talk bad about you. Never let someones opinion affect you. Theyre nobody to judge you. Never let them be a reason for you to hate yourself. Bcoz that literally ruins your happiness. And they wouldn't even care. So never stop loving yourself. Know your worth.

[@aqsamj8861]

@키라Kira thank you😊. There was a time when I believed those people and ik how much it cost me. I love myself now. And im glad i learned how to. Hope this video helps people love themselves ❤️

[@truptimane169]

But how could we do that?

[@cheriann6461]

I've noticed that the more I learn to love and accept myself, the easier and more joyful I find it to love and accept others. That in turn causes others to better love and accept me, which helps me see the good in myself. It's a lovely cycle.

[@clintraymundo6547]

Huh, I never thought of it as a cycle. That’s interesting! I’ll keep that mind. Thanks!

[@snuppl512]

Interesting point! It's true!

[@wannabepengu1763]

Honestly the person that does the voice for this would be good as one of those people that make podcasts that you listen too that help you sleep, the voice is very soft and calming.

[@MyMarsham]

Yeah, her voice is perfect.

[@saieshsurujbally6438]

Are we forgetting the animator? Their art style is so good

[@mysticalpie4695]

Also Asmr

[@wannabepengu1763]

@@saieshsurujbally6438 No we will not! It’s amazing! True talent

[@ifrahjama2215]

She has a youtube channel. Her name is Amanda Silvera

[@pyschologygeek]

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

[@AyeshaKhan-vf1jn]

@Krishna Patel I am from India I completely agree with what you said

[@Jzombi301]

well shit i guess i fucking hate myself...

[@sandrapatriciaoriguarios4589]

I agree, it's not fun to do things to please other people. That's where setting boundaries is important.

[@Racecar564]

Thank you, this helps me! I've gotten to the point that I do care about how I'm feeling and try to do the right thing, while also avoiding being critical if it's not apparent. I consider it vital to be honest with boundaries, and to be clear if I'm not feeling up to something. To know that this means I'm practicing self-love means I know I've hella improved.

[@internationalentertainment6906]

AMEN TO SELF LOVE..🎼🎧🎼😎🎼🎧😎😎🎼🎼😎🎼🎧🔥🎶🎶💫✨🙏🎶🙏✨⚖️🎶🎸📸🎥🔥8/8/2022

[@jewlzn7130]

I'm on my self love journey. I started last year after lock down. I was always out initially, out dancing, out for happy hours, out for everything I could possibly find, but never ever dared to just stay home and build confidence, self compassion and awareness. Lock down changed that. Very challenging at first and still is sometimes, but very much worth it. I associate with people from a much higher ground. I am happier, calmer and more myself. I meditate, pray, journal and it has calmed my spirit a lot. I go to my inner child a lot and draw from her. When I was younger, my parents loved my sister more, I was compared negatively to her. Also, my dad was abusive and our household was so chaotic and frightening for me as a child, so it led to this self hate and lack of self confidence. But, hoping to work on it, and be a better person

[@aurora_boketto7746]

Thats crazy! It was the exact opposite for me. I started after lock down to but I mostly stayed to myself and spent most my time texting instead of actually hanging out with my friends. Lock down made me realize I missed that one to one interaction and face to faceness. Since im super introverted it kinda shocked me. I started going out more and just being in nature, I journal more to now (it rlly is so calming^^lol) I dealt with abusive parents to- im really sorry you had to go through that I hope you're doing better now and that someone can treat you right to make up for that :( How is your journey going now? I'm finding self love is one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. Coping with self hate mainly. I still seek validation due to having a neglectful dad so I found that was the hardest part.- creating love within when you cant really explain it, and meeting ppl who can give you that kind of love is pretty hard. I'm proud of you for making the change you needed

[@jewlzn7130]

@@aurora_boketto7746 I'm so happy reading your message. Lockdown was definitely a turning point for most people, I think we all had to find ways to cope. I think for me there was just so much of the same constant negativity and never questioning the validity of the negative thoughts. I am happily on my journey still. I think the worst is behind me. After abuse or any kind of trauma, there's an inner child in us that hasn't grown that is the source of a lot of our negativity. We have to reparent that child and bring her to the surface. I do a lot of affirmations, some while I'm sleeping. But some whilst awake. I question my negative thoughts and trust in my intuition more. Things will be fine. Im sending you virtual hugs cause I know that missing love from a parent is so hard. Affirmations have helped me to stop seeking so much external validation. They've helped somewhat. But, im in a place where I trust myself more. And with self trust, I also know that even if I make a mistake, things will be fine. So, im doing good😊

[@aurora_boketto7746]

@@jewlzn7130 I'm so happy you're doing good! Hugs xx!! I had to learn to question a lot of the negative thoughts as well. Its crazy that we have to learn that lol I'm glad you trust yourself to, that such a hard thing to learn. I'll have to try self affirmations xD Its so good you understand this topic a lot, self love n trust requires a lottt of understanding

[@StacyLee-oq9po]

WAIT WHY DID we have the Same childhood. Same shit with my sister and my dad

[@jessicafreitas3831]

Abuse issues too, even today (I'm 23).

[@justviasyl]

Self-love takes a lot of practice and loving ourselves is a choice we can make. No matter how much other people can love us, we won't be truly content if we don't have the space for it ourselves on the inside. The kindness and compassion we so easily give to others? We need to extend that towards ourselves too 💓 Hope we all choose ourselves today and every single day. The relationship we have with ourselves is most important and can set the tone for every other relationship you have 💫 Here's to all of us healing, reflecting, and practicing 👊

[@grilledcheezie247]

we all need this now PERIODT.

[@seanmcfadden3712]

Took me a bit to realize that was PERIOD, not PERIDOT.

[@namenlos2838]

@@seanmcfadden3712 Me too. Oh I wish there was Peridot :(

[@seanmcfadden3712]

@@namenlos2838 She is my favourite Gem. I definitely find her relatable.

[@namenlos2838]

@@seanmcfadden3712 You have a good taste ;)

[@rexklxss13yo]

Nope

[@MissRusababy]

2# is so relatable. I’m sometimes scared to love myself because I don’t want to seem rude. I was focusing on everyone else’s needs to the point I wasn’t doing anything for myself. I didn’t want to seem rude, so I didn’t do anything to love myself. This video really helped with that. Thank you💖💖💖💖

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing!! Glad you find it helpful

[@mysticalpie4695]

Same I can relate as well #2, Its always think about others and no time for self

[@noworneversoulbeach]

Sometime I won’t even realize I’ve spent a week in bed until it’s too late... 😕

[@noworneversoulbeach]

@Y Yi u too 💙

[@coachtlove]

Aww I feel this.. what worked for me was daily/weekly to do lists with check boxes on the side! Works wonders when you actually utilize the to-do list. True productivity breeds confidence and self love! Many blessings!

[@noworneversoulbeach]

@@coachtlove thank you!

[@Emmizlol]

Her voice is so soothing and calm, i could fall asleep

[@darknightincolors6018]

The best things in life are the people you love, the places you’ve seen, and the memories you’ve made along the way.

[@Psych2go]

This is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing this. This should be a poster!

[@nctoutsold2022]

The worst thing about being early is there's no comments to like. 🙄

[@enterhere2948]

Ikr. 😂

[@sky-tinh3560]

Well, there is yours. ^^

[@salvaciontubello3341]

I am the 233 likes! ewe

[@windtoons5295]

Yes!! 😂😂

[@innolobaton]

8 Things to know about self-love 1. Self love is not a linear process 2. Self love is not selfish 3. Self love is not a rapid process 4. Self love is important 5. Uncovering sources can be difficult 6. Self love accepting your compassion 7. Self love means follow your heart 8. Self love is not always fun

[@aishwaryagwyneth5075]

Me to self : thank you for being with me even when I was searching shelter in a wrong company

[@kimseokjinyeojachingu4407]

hey army 😁

[@martincristian4567]

"If God had committed some orphan to your care, would you have neglected him so? Yet He has entrusted your own self to you." Epictetus, stoic philosopher.

[@Rotan_Paska]

Um..... No, i dont believe in god.....

[@youreabtch3408]

@@Rotan_Paska That’s okay!

[@Metzli]

I'd give the orphan to someone more responsible because I'm not the right person to look after anyone, lol

[@Owen2131_]

Self love is hard for me. I have Autism, ADHD, OCD, and Anxiety. When high school started for me a few years ago its been hard to keep myself happy and when covid came in 2020 and quarantine happened I shattered, and I was drained. I am in therapy now and Im a senior in high school, my passions are Music/Performing arts, and Esports/Pro Gaming.

[@bubbledafoxy]

aww im so sorry :< also its good that you are in therapy now! its going to make you feel better uwu

[@ShaeDshaDe]

Keep doing what you like and keep up the amazing work :)

[@adayinthelifeofgeorgia3844]

I have epilepsy and seizures and learning disabilities and autism too I feel you it is hard 💖💖💖🥰🥰😭❤️

[@dragonartstudios]

I hope after 1 year, you at least have yourself now dear.

[@dylansauter8780]

i needed this video.... the last few days have been so difficult and struggling and ive felt so alone as of late, its so hard to love yourself and sometimes it feels so impossible, i cant go a couple hours without breaking down bawling and knowing that im not alone in this difficult road makes me feel safer, thank you from the bottom of my heart

[@Wilson-vx6ty]

You’re not alone Dylan. ❤️

[@Rozehunnie]

We're in this together, you're never truly alone~

[@NigGaara]

‘We’re all alone in this together’ -Dave

[@theloneindividual]

No matter how lonely it gets, there will always be a handful of people to help you out. I hope you re doing well.

[@zombiedoggie2732]

I needed this video, thank you. As someone with depression, self love is difficult. When the train of negative self talk gets going, it's one that's hard to stop.

[@zombiedoggie2732]

@@leonmagala8332 Obvious troll being obvious troll. Move along.

[@zombiedoggie2732]

@@leonmagala8332 What are you talking about?

[@zombiedoggie2732]

@@leonmagala8332 So? I don't upload videos. That is why I have no subscribers.

[@zombiedoggie2732]

@@leonmagala8332 Leave me alone.

[@vidushigaur2843]

Hey, hope everyone’s doing great!✨

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! Hope you're doing well too

[@laurieford6373]

You as well

[@Sofia_847]

I'm always scared that I'll do something wrong, that I'll hurt someone and that I'll ruin my own life. But my friends, my family told me that I should stop feeling guilty about everything and love myself more than anything. That it's not always my fault and even when it is that's okay, I'm just a person and I also make mistakes and I should accept myself. I should learn how to not be scared to loose people cause I know it'll happen a lot. It just happens in life. You start a new chapter without them and even if it was your fault it's good to move on. The people I love helped me without even noticing and that's why I love them all so so much We're not alone ❤️ we're all just people and no matter what happened, always love yourself!

[@user-xz4xz2yt5p]

Some person I know says that " it's more easy to love others than loving your own self. It's easy to give up something or sacrifice for others while you're struggling with yourself. "

[@upbestsalt1551]

That's the case for me

[@natcat4023]

Her voice is so peaceful!

[@angii4818]

me : in a zoom class *sees notification* me : class can wait

[@meistdebbi5388]

LMAOOO SAME

[@Em-hy4ig]

class dismissed

[@Psych2go]

Hahaha

[@ifrahjama2215]

Frrr lolll

[@KxNOxUTA]

You might be surprised to find how much healing happens in your surroundings when you start to live in self-love. Although especially at the beginning you might run into many issues, because you're growing and start to change and not everyone around you may like or support that change. But once you're through with shedding whoever cannot follow (and there's no judgement in this), even if noone is left, there'll still be you. And that self-loving you is a compass and a magnet in life. It's such a relief to know your pace and communicate it. People who came along or come in might surprise you with not only being accepting and loving, they'll also eventually feel something that maybe could be described as "the social permission to do the same". Because even if we technically require no permission, it's still significantly easer to do something (or not do something) when there's no judgment and resistance to overcome.

[@naomiackerman9851]

Sometimes self love is really hard... I used to listen to others feeling or help them or caring for others, but I dint realize theres one person I forgot to love...myself...

[@asmigupta2338]

When I think who is the person I love the most then I think of me. My self love is always constant. Sometimes I do feel that I am not good or want to hate myself but that thought does not last for long and I come back to loving myself

[@gamingwithjae5963]

We all have insecurities but that what make everyone special, so just be you

[@radhikagupta9789]

Idk why but i feel so accomplished when I time travel 😂

[@Mani-ks2em]

Lol

[@Psych2go]

Congrats on time traveling?

[@chaosdromanah8620]

Can i borrow your Time Machine

[@JORDAN23TV]

Ikr

[@wannabepengu1763]

Wrong video? If not, give me that time machine!

[@parkerwaldo3204]

I have never had any self love in my life, and I do not think I ever will. But after watching this video, maybe I can change and take the steps necessary in order to value and cherish my life.

[@lugaruna]

Thanks for this:) i kinda needed to hear that it's okay to feel crappy. At a previous job a coworker would say that if i was grumpy or sad that i was one of those people that could influence everybody around me. Kinda anoying if someone tells that to you because it made me feel guilty and angry for laying that presure on me:/. So yea im trying to accept it if im feeling like crap and need time to heal.

[@KodaBea0g]

Thank you for being here, I'm a HUGE people pleaser and these videos are teaching me to live better step by step. Please continue to be amazing because there are so many people out there like me!

[@ChocoParfaitFra]

We need to explain what “prioritizing your needs” mean, because there are some real selfish people out there who take this to another level. When you’re forced to do something you don’t want to, because of whatever reason, that’s where you can prioritize yourself. Putting yourself first no matter what you makes you look selfish, but there are times in which it’s totally fine

[@chengjlcjl]

Agree~ This can apply in both professional and personal life. Don’t let others take you for granted or overusing you.

[@joeboxer3902]

It is my understanding that you must love yourself and be able to set healthy boundaries in order to be in a healthy relationship. It is also my understanding that you cannot force someone to love you. If both of these ideas are true. I don't love myself, due to abuse, abandonment, and depression issues. I don't believe it's possible to force myself to love myself any more than it's possible to force someone to love you. I think this logic is solid. If I I can't force me to love someone else, it doesn't seem logical that I can force me to love me. All the suggestions in this video seem absurd to me. I can't imagine a world where I would do any of them. If you are forced to take care of yourself that seems like a strong indicator that no one loves you enough to help you care for yourself. This is the world I live in. So far I have been unable to find anyone who can refute my logic. I suspect that is because it not possible to refute the logic. If anyone has any ideas it may keep from becoming a statistic.

[@aleaharmstrong6459]

I had a very good day today, even practiced self care and took care of my needs and kept myself busy! By the end of the day I felt drained, tired and began feeling sad out of nowhere!

[@myrthedekker4792]

"Part of loving yourself is feeling and expressing these (difficult) emotions without criticising yourself." I will be hanging this quote on a wall so I can see it every day and I will be reminded of this. That might help me get through some rough patches.

[@onceuve]

I have learned to love myself this 2021 It really makes me feel happy ☺️ I don't take it too far unless I don't see that it's already going too far It feels like someone is there for me... Please guys, love yourself and balance it with others Follow your dreams, not other's dreams

[@Psychodynamics-With-Martin]

Fantastic video! I've discovered that a common obstacle to self-love is the internalized negative voice from our parents. When we affirm to our inner child with statements like "I love you as you are," "You are important to me," and "You can trust me," the internalized parent often makes it feel like we're deceiving ourselves. Actively highlighting our flaws, it strives to prevent us from embracing self-love. Thus, a crucial step in cultivating self-love is often replacing this internalized parent and boldly telling it to leave us be.

[@ideblbelarmino9769]

This is very helpful to me. I'm still in the process of self care or self love. I've been giving to much to my family and others that I've forgotten how to take care of my self too. I need to go through some heartaches before I got a wake up call that self love is also important.

[@DrMd-jr3xt]

I need to watch this a trillion million times. Thank you so much! I needed this video. At the end of July 2020, I started trying to combat my self-hatred, realizing that self-love isn't a bad thing, like I always thought it was for nearly 19 years.

[@CarolinaKasey]

I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day..gifts, chocolates, and spending quality time with your partner. I’m single and to be honest I prefer spending time with myself. Because I’m a kind of person that gets easily drained from focusing, so much on my career, and studies. Thanks for making this. I’m a spiritual person, and I like to practice mindfulness by doing meditation for anything including self-love.

[@Tune.-.]

“treat yourself like you’re someone responsible for helping”-Jordan Peterson This is my way of self care.❤

[@kristajohnson9255]

I'm still in the process of healing from my own trauma. Recently I've made major changes to my life that people around me have noticed. One of these changes was I used to be so selfless that I put others first. In turn this hurt me a lot and only added stress to my plate making me unhappy. Recently I've started saying No and putting myself first or saying that I am gunna finish what I need first then help others. In turn my sister noticed this and was mad at me. She told me that self care is a good thing, but that I'm being selfish by putting myself first. I told her "No, to have self care you need to be a little selfish. There's no way you can take care of yourself without being a little selfish. It's okay to put yourself first. I've always put others first, now I'm learning to put myself first and that's ok. It's what I need for my own happiness and is healthy." She in turn tried making me feel guilty and told me I was selfish. Then she continued to try to tell me what I needed to do to not be selfish. She said instead of her helping my dad with his projects that I need to. I told her "I don't have to help anyone I'm not willing to. If I wanna focus on myself because all I've done for years is focus on others then I can do that. If you don't wanna help our dad with his projects then say so, but don't try to guilt trip me into doing what you want me to. I'm always gunna look out for myself first, then others. If everyone is drowning and I put on my life vest first then I can help a lot more people. Otherwise if I don't someone could drag me down with them and I could drown, or I would get exhausted from trying to stay afloat while trying to help everyone. You can't let yourself exhaust all that energy helping others to the point that you hurt yourself." She got really quiet and thought about it. Although she still felt bothered by my choice, she knew her opinion and what she wanted wasn't gunna happen. I wasn't going to budge and do what she wanted. I wasn't going to put myself last again. Some people will challenge you when you start putting yourself first, but don't let them push your boundaries. Stand strong and keep doing what's best for you. Her opinion hasn't changed, but she has left me alone about it. Never feel bad for taking care of yourself, and make it clear to others no matter what they want of you that you ultimately will do what makes you happy. That their opinions won't change what you choose out of your own best interest.

[@joelklein3501]

Recently I started to realize how many of my friends don't love themselves. It saddens me, and also it shows me more clearly why do they struggle so much. I always tell them that I know self love is hard, but the first step is to make peace with ourselves. We tend to judge ourselves way hursher than we judge anyone else. It is only natural, but we dhould give ourselves some slack. "If I met someone who was exacyly like me, what would be my opinion on them?" I think that many of us would like ourselves. So why all the stress? Being able to understand ourselves, befriend ourselves and forgive ourselves is so important

[@talith334]

I've always loved myself but I started practicing self-love consciously in the past year to be able to heal from a very devastating heartbreak. As you said in the video (which is really very sweet and incredibly helpful💖🙏🏻) it's very important to give ourselves love and compassion when healing emotional wounds. It's been a really bumpy journey, full of ups and downs but when I look back I am happy and proud that I have made it so far. I've been practicing yoga and meditation for years, and these two are my favourite tools of self-love.🌺 Or it can also be just a good relaxing bath in the companion of my favourite crystals, or dancing to my favourite music, or reading a good book, or walking in nature, or journaling my feelings... Anything that makes my soul shine 🥰 And also, probably the most important lesson to me: setting boundaries... To learn that no matter how much I love someone, I should not love him more than myself, and that I should not give up any parts of myself for anyone. 🙏🏻💖

[@ujjwalpathak5049]

Man I needed to hear this😭. Some of these things I discovered myself like self love is not a linear process. I had days when I was feeling on top of the world and there were other days when I was crying and asking god why I had to deal with this anyways. I thought this was a new area which needed a lot of study and that I won't find anything meaningful. But you people have put everything a person requires to start self love in such a beautiful way and for free. Your channel is the best thing that has happened to internet for all the people who struggle with mental health issues.

[@danielleedwards1222]

I was just about to break then I told myself I was there for her,told her to hold on because she is worth it and she is not alone. All mountains will be climbed. Go for ur dreams guys, even when hurting,treat yourself with self discipline to achieve ur highest self

[@oskartheloner9252]

It has been over two years that I follow your channel and it has heleped me A LOT in my journey to understand what the root of my problems where, what my trumas are and how to work with and around them to build a better version of myself. It has been a very long while I have been working on accepting and learning how to like myself first and then even love myself! What you said in the video about following your heart even if people around you pressure and expect you to follow a certain path resonates SO much with me. I'll be an history of art major soon but that ain't for me, I'm finishing this thing out of desperation at this point, I wanna go to academy of art right after this hell is done and NO ONE in my family understands or supports me- my own brother even criticizes me going as far as he can to spread his toxicity in my life. He thinks the only path possible is anything similiar to his own. My parents seem to understand that art is the onlt thing meant for me tho, at least that. I really needed this video, I have no words to thank you. Keep your work up, the people you're helping without even knowing are countless!! ✨️

[@ngheubik2964]

Life is hard, why people think it's easy. It's easy when u fine

[@thecia4493]

This entire channel has been a real blessing. I've been subscribed for over a year and I look forward to these videos every week and they've helped me on my own journey of self love and self discovery. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@skymasterson6504]

Everyday , I hold myself with tenderness and high regard. Tenderness and High Regard. Bless our hearts!

[@L8nightsnack]

Putting the effort to heal has been the best form of self-love I've done for myself

[@bryanrusso6640]

I'm in the process of loving myself, my therapy just started a few days ago and I'm really happy to finaly start my life, I feel like it's really going to help me. Thank you for making those videos, I was so scared to go to therapy, it took me so much time but now and thanks to your videos I'm here and I'm starting to heal, I'm also starting to accept myself for who I am... I actually am for the first time in my life proud of myself and I'm ready for this, I'm ready to learn how to love myself... Thank you again. You helped me a lot like my friends did too. Please continue with making videos. And to all who reads this, if you feel like something is wrong with you. Don't ever be scared to look out for help, they will hear you and listen to your thoughts, they will show you that you are worth of living, loving and being happy. Never be scared to be yourself, you are precious and worth of being loved. ❤️❤️❤️

[@sherryashm.1638]

I started to practice self-love a few months ago, it wasn't easy in the beginning i didn't know much about what self-love is exactly or how do i do it but slowly i started to do stuff for myself, started to listen to myself and made time for myself and i am still try and discovering this area.

[@wildfyah]

Been working on more self love this past year. Setting those boundaries, picking back up hobbies I used to enjoy, being myself more.

[@claudiabarrios5758]

Wow, repeating to myself “My health and happiness are my own responsibility” hit a little hard this morning

[@riccardopelino]

I think i'm not ready to love myself yet, so i started "injecting" self-respect in me, walking in the woods, at the sunset, in the dark. This way, i fight external demons first, then i'm ready to fight my internal demons. I'm almost sure nobody cares, but still, the fact That i left this means a lot

[@bethanycharlotte9668]

I think you're doing really great and it makes a lot of sense its like giving yourself time to build up self-esteem and courage to do the tricky bits I've definitely done the same and I wish you all the best :)

[@riccardopelino]

@@bethanycharlotte9668 thank you, i'll keep doing this even tho i thought out another way to love myself: find someone who cares for me and copy That. I might get addicted to That person, what do you think?

[@bethanycharlotte9668]

@@riccardopelino yeah that's cool! you can also think about how you treat someone that you love or care about and start acting the same way towards yourself which might help you not get too attached to a particular person :)

[@riccardopelino]

@@bethanycharlotte9668 "might", but i guess i'll try. I just have to find someone who genuinely cares for me

[@bethanycharlotte9668]

@@riccardopelino aha I was trying to not come across preachy but yeah go for it! and maybe that person is you :)

[@dinishabhalia7759]

This is so true for me Loving yourself is extremely hard Many times I just wanted to give up but then I start all over again to accept and be proud of who I am 💜

[@donnadragon]

Ways I practice self love -meditation -praying -taking some R&R long warm baths listening to my favorite songs -sleeping in from time to time -making KZbin videos that I enjoy making for fun -singing to myself in my room -dancing by myself -knowing when to back away from certain situations and to put my foot down -talking to my self continuous (myself). When I’m alone in my room

[@Bennyfromthex]

I’m currently in the process of self love I feel comfortable with how I am and accept who I am as a whole❤️ Thanks for this video❕

[@gabby_5820]

Man. #2 and #6 is so damn relatable. Thank you for addressing these issues specifically, I needed it.

[@guesswho5790]

I really liked the emotional healing part of the video. Because I have come to realize that we all need different things at different times in our self-love journey. Right now I am cultivating patience without being complacent. I used to think self-love was about doing and saying whatever you wanted at any given time. Got into a lot of trouble and mental health issues. But now I see it is about what we NEED. Taking care of the basics like good sleep, eating right, physical activity, hygiene... Then you get specific on other areas like being social, and trying to be a better friend/daughter/whathaveyou; working hard towards a career or job you don't hate... And finding the right balance. All of these things are important, and depending on each moment in life one thing takes priority over another. Only to me, personally, nothing will ever be above my mental and physical wellbeing ever again. If you are not okay, nothing else will be.

[@MarkBond1111]

Just be proud of yourself, your past, your present and what you want to do with your future. You know how good you are by practicing what you preach. Self love regularly. No I mean ... You know what I mean. 🤪🥰

[@eic0rdless642]

I really appreciate this. A lot of people say it’s bad to let go of anger or bad emotions, when really. It’s the healthiest thing you can do for your mental health.

[@moranatinky]

I love the VO actresses voice - so soothing haha intonation is always on point

[@xrachx2902]

I'm really having a hard time loving myself and I'm really grateful for your videos for letting me know all of this. Soon when I finally learned how to appreciate myself more, I'll go back to this comment and let you know. Love lots, fighting! xoxo

[@simmalnaseeb7936]

Self love isnt always giving yourself, sometimes it is also about taking away from yourself. Like having less fun in days that you know you have an exam to pass! We often miss out on this aspect of self love but the last point summed it up pretty well

[@frankymonbal4663]

I agree with everything said in this video, I think that my self love grows as I try to understand who i am, and loving myself to remain away from pain.

[@clevergirl3264]

Starting this self love journey has been the most difficult thing I've ever had to do. I am putting myself in a position to actually convince myself that I am worthy love and that its possible to love me for who and what I am. My days are exactly as what was stated in this video......I still have so far to go to even see the beginning phases of this, albeit my therapist says otherwise. I'm not giving up(so says on one of my up days 😌) and every day I find something about myself that makes me want to build and improve upon. I am thankful for channels such as this and the positive side of yt, because I have to do this alone(no friends, no family) and the weight of it at times feel heart numbingly despairing, however I am someone to love and even if no one else does, I will. Day by day and hour by hour, I truly believe that its worth it, because regardless of what I was brainwashed to believe, I am worth it.....my apologies for the long post. Thank you for this amazing content. Please continue as long as you are able

[@joshuahunt3032]

...I just realized I might have a rather weak self-concept. I see myself as worth maintaining because I believe I can do good for the world, sure, but it feels like I barely know who I am emotionally.

[@Dan-iy1hc]

Late ik but I feel like your self concept is very grounded, powerful, and morally makes a lot of sense. This is the kind of person I try to be. I would only say if you get to know yourself emotionally, you may be not only better at maintaining yourself but also at the ideal of contributing good to the world

[@ushriyamoodley1257]

Thank you so so much for putting up this video. Yesterday I was feeling my absolute lowest and was starting to criticize myself. I really needed the reminder so thank you 🙂

[@abhishekpadhye4337]

U explain so nicely, things becomes much more clearer than earlier and i am feeling more crystal clear

[@chloemaccourt8779]

Number seven reminds me of one of my favorite anime quotes: "Before you save anyone you've got to save yourself first, then you can worry about them." -Rin Tohsaka

[@bluewatchdog7]

Whenever i am burned out from all the school stuff and insecurities. I go to this channel. Thank you Psych to go, you've really helped me 🥰 God bless everyone who reads this ❤

[@dhamaniamaibam4428]

6:16 ( Self love isn't always fun) Thank You for telling this and it also hit me very hard because i always time hate myself it takes longer to realize that i hate myself . I always thought that self love is always fun because of that i don't do hard work and always criticize myself . Now i found that self-love is always not fun Thank you

[@thegreatzucchiniidkalastna3743]

I used to think loving yourself and taking care of your personal problems was narcissistic, not for anyone else but I have higher standards for myself because idk, but I’ve really been trying to work on that. These videos help me understand psychology and the importance of mental health more, so I really appreciate you guys :3

[@thomaslalor6109]

My mental health has deteriorated more especially since lockdown. I find your videos very helpful and a great resource for me. Thanks Pysch 2 go!

[@boomboxboi192]

It's really hard for me to practice self-love; I specifically struggle with acknowledgment of my appearance and my achievements. Hearing you say that I matter, that it's not selfish to think about myself in a positive way..I needed that. Thank you ❤️❤️

[@obo7707]

I so much enjoy your videos. The person who does the voice-over seems so kind and loving , just what is needed for the content being discussed. Thank all of you who make these videos , you who take the time out of your lives to help hurting people.

[@zamyrahwright8383]

I never thought that I would need this video to shine light, on things I didn't know about self-love, it makes me feel more light knowing these things about self-love.

[@highhopes8840]

I feel like my flaws are permanent. Almost like they define me.

[@uhwhat9732]

It may seem that way to you, but I assure you, other people won't even notice those flaws until you point them out (psychical or like, ugh I'm so annoying and similar). We are not meant to be perfect because flaws also have something positive - it makes you unique and human. Maybe even social media wants you to think that way but I promise that you're perfect in your own way and flaws won't define you forever! (coming from a person that was very self absorbed by my flaws that I forgot I also have good qualities for almost a decade)

[@highhopes8840]

@@uhwhat9732 thank you, I needed to read that 🙂

[@alannac.7392]

Same

[@clintraymundo6547]

Maybe not all flaws, but yea, some flaws are permanents. But they don’t define you; they are a part of you. And your flaws deserved to be loved just as much as your strengths. For me, that’s how you really love yourself .

[@ni-ni1228]

Why do i always think i love myself but i also think im so selfish if i'm doing something for myself 😭

[@RPGKingdom64]

‘Self Love isn’t always fun’, I hear you! I’m currently winding down in bed, because I want to support myself to get 8 hours of sleep every night. I’m trying to be disciplined 😄

[@alexanderbelyakov1964]

Perfect timing. Love you guys, the amount of knowledge and help I have received from this channel is truly amazing!

[@kirstencooley5447]

I enjoyed this video. I practice "self-love" by getting enough rest and setting boundaries. There are some areas I need to work on like not judging myself for my "stinky thinking", which include OCD and anxiety. I judge myself for doing things imperfectly. For me, everything needs to go the way I want or feel it should go. I can be hard on myself and underestimate my intelligence. I do practice self-care and learning to prioritize my tasks. I no longer feel sorry for myself and let others know how I feel. I am more vulnerable than before. I take on healthier habits and have a routine for myself. Self-love isn't easy like the video mentioned and takes time.

[@patrickbarrett114]

“The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other's welcome, and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart. Take down the love letters from the bookshelf, the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror. Sit. Feast on your life.” Derek Walcott - “Love After Love”

[@suzetteospi]

Thank you, that was very helpful. I never knew what self-love was or how to practice it. The concept eluded me and I always felt a very loud and strong "no!" inside myself whenever I heard the term "self-love". Your advice made it easier for me to understand.

[@zhekinahtarzona5164]

Very timely! This is what I have discovered & learned during this quarantine ✨ Thank you for this points that gave more comprehensive concept about self love 😘 Sometimes all you need is self-affirmations, a pat on your own shoulder and hug your own Bestfriend which is yourself. ♥️

[@adayinthelifeofgeorgia3844]

Just got outta a relationship and doing loads of things of self love 💖 for myself 😜 I’ve got to find out about who I am so I’m finding out who I am 🤩🥳🥰😘

[@devidaughter7782]

"your health and happiness are yours to protect and maintain; taking the steps to do so is never selfish" (2:16). . . "the way you love yourself shows others how to love you" (3:12)

[@cookiemonster2371]

I think self love is unconditional. I am on a journey to heal myself and become a better version of myself.