10 Signs You're an INFJ, One of the Rarest Personality Types in the World

Signs you're an INFJ, one of the rarest personality types
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[@FrankJames]

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[@merpii6831]

How did you comment an hour ago when you published the video 7 minutes ago?

[@oterysrhaegan645]

I have, in fact my family is like, stop! Its too many options!

[@MLion-pz9lk]

Franckie we all miss your Fashion Face at the end, when you used to say " Stay Cool and attractive ...." ; then they was your kinda Vogue sight closing the video : ;-* yeah, kinda like that smiley. Please make us this sight again Franck, we beg you ! Make us live again in this unforgivenable world ! Stay Cool and Atttrativvv . . . .: *

[@Amal91]

I think I'm the only one who is clicking on the last videos, feeling you are really see 😂🚶‍♀️

[@bethelliot7140]

@ I would say it is close, the original Sherlock Holmes probably would be xsxx rather than an xnxx because he uses his senses more over his feelings, not sure about the rest but he is probably something like an ISTP or ISTJ

[@helloanyahere2876]

Me: oh yeah, I’m totally an INFJ Also me: watches every single “Are you an INFJ?” video because I need to be constantly reassured and validated or else I think I’m faking my own personality

[@AzarTheVoid]

Oh no this is too real xd can relate

[@dkarain]

I can relate to this so much!!!!!

[@gabrieldossantossanta5656]

Yeh, it's like taking a test hundred times it's not enough, we NEED have 100% sure.

[@AutumnsWitch]

Hahaha same!

[@lexilaughren1995]

If there is room for overthinking we gonna do it

[@juju.2018]

INFJs don’t actually think they’re INFJs 😂

[@potatofry2175]

yes

[@TheBoardOfAlphas]

I can relate. I want to stay as an INFJ but I have to take at least 2 or 3 Tests a week to make sure I'm still an INFJ

[@louisevalliere4362]

@@TheBoardOfAlphas you are right .... I do the same thing too

[@Sneha-vk5jr]

I have taken MBTI test 4 time and every time i got INFJ but still have a doubt!! 😂

[@tiatan2514]

@@TheBoardOfAlphas LMFAO

[@kyaran2463]

Did any other INFJ’s get told that they were pretty mature for their age when they were younger? I feel like since INFJ’s are practically social chameleons, I had an easy time talking to both the adults and the kids without ever being able to actually fit in with either of them.

[@leyknow2453]

Got this a lot tho

[@Delimon007]

Multiple times

[@aprilchronister9980]

Yes, for sure. Some people would say,"your an old soul for your age". I would think, "um, I guess thats ok- hmm."

[@jibrilbarreza8085]

I was told I seemed like a 40yr old when I was just 24 👍

[@karenhowell9011]

Yessss!

[@ankitasukhija1140]

Me an INFJ, reading all the comments so that I can relate to people and assure myself that there are people who go through the same situation and feel the same as myself. Phew!

[@deveshgupta3627]

Apn indians h na isliye.

[@debasmitade74]

Holy relatable 😆

[@the_trippy_unicorn]

True

[@Moitreyee473]

No way, I was going to cmmt this. Why is this whole cmmt section so relatable ?! Am I really an INFJ as the test says and the cmmts I can relate or this is just a conspiracy of humans to tell basic human traits and trick people into believing they are Infj ?

[@avocadobacardi3903]

Same😵

[@angkhoanguyen8113]

Me: I know I'm an INFJ Also me: Am I really an INFJ?

[@celmoon5024]

Same

[@clarissae.9845]

Right? I made the test several times and watched videos about it and really could relate but at the same time I'm like "nah I don't know if I do this" or "this character trait isn't that distinctive" So on the one hand I feel finally understood, but on the other hand I question it every time because I am unsure if it fits 100%

[@blackcat6374]

Me every two weeks: Until this moment I have believed that instead of an INFJ I might be an: INTJ, INTP, INFP, and ENFJ

[@lana8314]

@@blackcat6374 lol same

[@angkhoanguyen8113]

@@blackcat6374 the first time I took the test, I got ESTP 😱😱😱 Then I got ENFJ, then INTJ. But after truly listening to myself, I finally got INFJ 😁😁😁😁😁

[@kobugikobugi]

Hey fellow INFJs, i know you're overthinking right now

[@breezymango4113]

Hahaha. Correct.

[@thewwmm25]

you got me!

[@lana8314]

You got me there

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Yep

[@brandonkanyange5714]

So true hahahaha

[@CA-hp9ir]

"You are not alone. You are not broken somehow. You have something unique to offer." 😭 Thank you 🥺

[@eddyhypnotizer2481]

Yea, but what exactly?

[@scarletjohansson9091]

True I see happu to see these comments

[@sunniertimer598]

@@eddyhypnotizer2481 My thoughts exactly!

[@theoc.4291]

i felt this too

[@rachelle5150]

Thank you. 😭💔🙏🏼

[@ladybirdy]

As an INFJ I feel the pressure of being the RAREST type, and I'm like "I don't know if I am that special" "what if I am faking my entire personality" so this video made me really really happy and more relaxed, thanks Frank P.S I did do the test I'm no just saying that I am an INFJ.

[@dinkin_flicka14]

Sometimes it helps us to sleep at nights telling to ourselves that how "cool" and rare we are, and sometimes those same things keep us at nights. It's a double edged sword.

[@ladybirdy]

@@dinkin_flicka14 Exactly, it's really weird how much can a little personality test make our heads

[@Hibari471]

EXACTLY It feels like a responsibility God-

[@realShtayeh]

I feel u

[@morningrosie3684]

SAMMMMMMMMMEE

[@claudd.s.9302]

Being an INFJ is being aware of everything all the time, and seeing how other people ignore all of it. It's frustrating.

[@Cvandyful]

Being an INFJ: Always being told I read too much into everything.

[@virgoprismatix]

Ugh yesss. Both irritating and sad to see others have such poor insight into their own actions. Then to have to watch the aftermath unfold, too 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Laura-Yu]

@@Cvandyful as an ISTP, I admit, I said this to xNFx’s. Why make social and personal situations difficult with trying to dive deep and reading into implications-

[@Cvandyful]

@@Laura-YuI'm never angry about it. I am frustrated and also always reminding myself to be gracious. It is likely true that I understand them more than they do me. Thanks for the interaction.

[@bpsara]

This pandemic is the MOST FRUSTRATING AND REAL example of this and I want it to over please.

[@tokensharma3738]

Don't worry, being the rarest personality type isn't as cool as other types think. Being rarest also means being rarely understood. So, be happy with what you are. - An INFJ

[@PriHL]

Long before I knew my type, I liked the fact that I am somewhat different and original. Although it often came with many problems, I wouldn't change it. I always thought - better that some people don't get me and my values than go against my values and feel bad about it just because someone failed to understand the bigger picture. My values are my values and if you don't like it, you know where the backside of the door is.

[@sikai385]

@@PriHL you sound like an infp

[@PriHL]

@@sikai385 I have about 0 "P" in me. Definitely INFJ, and "J" af.

[@ariadnarivas260]

As an INFJ, I can confirm.

[@nissachavez23]

Exactly what I be thinking 😔

[@jessicadanielle4872]

I think the hardest thing about being an INFJ is the amount of alone time needed-I mean HOW do we even function in families, the work place, and society if we mostly avoid socializing 🙈 then when we do socialize we care too much and get Insta-drained

[@FloridaGirl-]

I have a family member who at the least is an extreme introvert. They never smile, rarely laugh, uaually a straight zombie face. No emotion.I find it draining. Reminds me of autism. Thing is. It doesn’t take much for them to be drained AT ALL. It’s strange. Though I do try and understand it. Seems lonely to me. But, 🤷‍♀️.

[@shubrototiizika6835]

Man I skip all social situations, including family events. I don't know how to act, then overthinking how people negatively thinks of me, how to act in a way I can prove them wrong. Then I just get anxiety and decide to fake some emergency and skip it all together

[@firebolt95]

“I can be spontaneous if I planned for it” is the perfect description

[@chaoticbreeze6262]

Another sign: you don't really feel good about being an INFJ.

[@Sonnyjune69]

I’d rather be any other type. It sucks so bad for so many reasons and I’m not just saying that to sound edgy. Anybody wishing they were INFJ to be “rare” or whatever is because they don’t understand the significant drawbacks that are included.

[@loref4200]

I would say that is one of the first signs. Fi critic is a real hag.

[@Winternightsnowflower]

True that, I was deeply disappointed finding out, I wanted to be an INTP or INTJ instead 😞 Maybe, because I just dislike some of my traits like the confirmation thingy 😅

[@noemirodriguez9137]

When I first found out I was INFJ, i was MAD 😂 i was like "i don't want to be different!" I also felt left out and like no one understood me cause of something else, then only to found out that I was the world's "rarest personality type"?? Yeah, that didn't sit well with me

[@yurisurran9869]

@@Winternightsnowflower LMAO same 😂 Then took a test (on 16personalities off course 😂) and got INFP, I was like OK, the description is kinda me. I didn't bother until two years later I was like let me redo it for fun, and somehow got INFJ. I came to know people get mistyped as INFJ on that site hence proceeded doing tests on other sites too, I keep getting INFJ, INFP or INTJ. I somehow found this channel and I have never felt so exposed since then due to how much I relate to stuff on the INFJ videos, I also checked the cognitive functions but like in my head I'm still looking for that confirmation that it really is my type😂

[@chaoticbreeze6262]

INFJs be like: anxiously planning unimportant tasks, yet not having the perfect plan to achieve their goals, they have a vision though. Just things come up... You know.

[@georgiam.3957]

Yeah seems about right

[@cass8330]

Te is the true planner I think.. not that Ni Ti can't.. Te is all about execution and also "anything that works".. it's the HOW

[@chaoticbreeze6262]

@@cass8330 I'm a bit relieved to hear that

[@alashea2974]

Truth

[@diogocasstro]

"I'm in this comments...and I liked"

[@emmslc1226]

as an INFJ i reallllly relate to over-planning. i literally have specific times for certain things. i start work at 3:45, so i park my car at 3:35, wait until 3:39 to get ready to leave, get out my car at 3:41, walk to a specific part of the road until 3:43, and then i enter work. like wtf is wrong with me?? i take being an INFJ to another level sometimes.

[@rachellerockel]

I feel seen by this text

[@scaredwolf1206]

Not me showing up to everything at least 15 min early just to sit in my car and wait to be on time...

[@saradfv]

Omg, I completely understand you. I have a time for everything I do, (when I'm at home though, I just don't care but this can be also because currently I have too much free time), but when I was studying I had even the time to do "nothing" planned.

[@Zuhureeey]

my friend found my notebook where i made plans like this and the bitch had the audacity to laugh at me

[@miriii_6066]

NO I DO THAT TOOO. I just feel the urge to schedule my routine and WRITE A TO DO LIST. If i have lots of things to do, i like to break it down so that its easier and seems more "doable". If i dont make a to do list, ill panic on what i should do first because maybe A is much more efficient at this time but B is much easier to do! Planning my friend PLANNING IS KEY.

[@exqueenscarlet7340]

I over plan, then never use the plan I over planned

[@yoshuaisnotok8794]

Why is this me lol

[@jay-xl1vd]

INFJ’s are so rare everyone: I’M AN INFJ

[@binu7645]

...

[@alejandragonzalez6003]

Maybe we tend to attract each other 🤷🏻‍♀️:)

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

This should easily be logically figured out as to why that seems to be the case.

[@chrisjenkins9978]

😂🤣😂

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

@XxkittystickerzxX Yes! Most "INFJs" are not INFJs. Many of them seem to lack Ti-logic to easily see "why it is the case" that there are so many INFJs in these "circles". It is blatantly obvious.

[@sierra930]

or another title, ‘being called out for 12 minutes straight’

[@svnshree7373]

yeahh lol

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Same

[@kgpatel9670]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/eYHPYmeFocitm5I🙏👍

[@AhmadApp]

I feel you

[@lizzybeth7400]

Hahaha for real

[@ihaveaname4109]

"They tend to act differently depending on who they're around." Me, just realising why I feel like I'm acting differently with some of my friends compared to others: 😳 IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW

[@NightCloudI]

Ikr, I've been told I'm acting like my cousin after spending some time with her and only recently I've come to realisation that It might be the cameleon effect.. And now when reading your comment I've also realised that I act differently around my cousin and my friend too.

[@cora5976]

I've taken 3 personality tests and got INFJ every time and I hear being a woman and an INFJ is even more rare... I have mixed feelings about this but its comforting to hear someone describe ..exactly who I am and say "we" .. it makes me feel understood and not so alone, its nice 🙂 thanks

[@yukoner5898]

Bring INFJ, had to do switch my mindset for when at work in comparison to my normal life. When geared to personal life, come out as INFJ every time. When forced to talk to others in a work setting, I wear an ENFP mask. There might be a lot of ENFP’s out there that are actually INFJ, if they switch their thinking to regular life, and not working life.

[@davemauriello8088]

I'm an INFJ and I've dated at least 3 INFJs so I've always been skeptical of how rare we are...or we just have an innate ability to find each other, or...(cue the over-analyzing process).

[@RozzaaBee]

That awkward moment when your separate friend groups meet for the first time and you don't know how to act because you're a social chameleon 😅

[@FlashBangBANGz]

Just slowly walk away.

[@RozzaaBee]

@@FlashBangBANGz ..and watch the explosion from a distance?

[@Zeldafan1ify]

Pull the iconic "i really wanna stay, trust me, like I REALLY WANNA stay, i wanna stay so bad that I REPEAT AND EMPHASIZE HOW MUCH I WISH TO STAY, but oh bummer- I have this excuse I iust came up with on the spot to escape this social situation and I really must go k bye-"

[@sansity2358]

This is funny because I got instagram recently, and people from all my different social groups are following me and I'm not sure what to post that will appeal to all of them

[@harinibhashyam3125]

IKR!!

[@SpoilYourselfNatural]

An INFJ clicks on the link to be assured they are in fact an INFJ 🤣...

[@swiatalicji9544]

I feel called out

[@patricemasterson2982]

i thought i was an intp but i clicked the link and got infj-t

[@user-sy5wf6kh1w]

Wow just profiled me to a sentence

[@frogreadingabook]

@@patricemasterson2982 im curious, what website or test did you take to get this result? ive only taken the one on the 16 personalities website, but i was not aware about the letter after infj! :0

[@patricemasterson2982]

frog reading a book yea I also took it on 16 personalities and there was a t after it. It when people ask me I just say infj

[@guyncali2]

It's not that I feel like I don't know who I am, it's just that sometimes I feel like a walking contradiction, and the contradictions all make sense in the context they are expressed in. Now, the fakeness can be real. Often I pretend to care when I just don't give a shit. However, if I somehow make a personal connection with someone, I care too much. There's the walking contradiction again. Damnit.

[@naptime3373]

I've taken the MBTI test so many times and I get both INFJ INTJ and thats because I believe that its important to understand when you need to think logically and when feeling is better. Because sometimes emotion can only get in the way of making a decision. On the other hand it can also be one sided if you only think logically. And I need to have both sides in order to make a decision that I can be sure that I am making the right decision.

[@michellemalan5228]

Same... but what gets me is I go and read the INTJ personality and I can't relate to it as much as the INFJ one. So that tends to give me more reassurance... and I say that yet here I am watching this video to gain more validation :)

[@johnathanrhoades7751]

This is also a common thing for people who were trained to "act rationally". Men are often put under this pressure in the USA at least.

[@Akali-fu1jv]

Same

[@deespaeth8180]

Maybe you're an Infj with a strong T current? My husband is an ST, and from him, I'm learning to use my T function more.

[@deespaeth8180]

I do agree with you that sometimes when making decisions, one has to figure out the best approach. Sometimes T decisions will not work for F problems. If someone you love hurt you deeply, all the rationality in the world won't help fix it. You need either an apology or an infj door slam to fix it imho. I hate when T say, just get over it. Or you're too sensative. Try a little tenderness and sympathy. When F is hurting, "you're too sensative", just makes you sound like an A hole.

[@mythmakergwen]

*INFJ is the rarest personality type* Everyone: You know, I am something of an INFJ myself.

[@deeryyyyy707]

Its getting annoying. I'm confused if I'm an INFJ now..

[@RobertHosein]

Lol, that's so true. But I know for a fact that I'm an INFJ cause I did multiple personality type quizzes personally over a large span of time, and I also did a couple for work/school related, and in specialised psychological testing.

[@ezriquinn6706]

Not me I'm an ENFJ 😏

[@m.yuheyla2759]

cmon we searched for this.

[@ElffieElix]

@@ezriquinn6706 eyyyyy enfj squad

[@nicoleonfeels]

“This toaster makes toast.” - I don’t think any personality type would be impressed by this kind of review 😂

[@vedangarekar1390]

Which doubles down as a good example of giving bad examples you see. Unintentional yeah but that's what gets the most laughs out of people I've seen. You dont mean it to be funny but for them it's actually funny.

[@dangowad5368]

I think a toaster wasn't the best example - as I don't perceive toasters as having a qualitative function, with toasters either it works or it doesn't. I wanted to buy a gaming chair however and was more swayed by the reviews telling me how much they loved it than necessarily a run down of its features.

[@marinobrajdo6488]

Actually, for comedic value - some would.

[@alextorres990]

INTJs maybe 😂 my husband prefers reviews like this because "I don't need my toaster to make coffee and do my taxes, I just need it to make toast. It doesn't have to be the best, toast is toast."

[@LinYouToo]

@@Emily-mv4cx my dad was an ISTP and that’s exactly him. Even buying a real Christmas tree when I was a kid… He would point at a tree and say let’s get this one. It was as if he was saying, hey this one has needles, it’ll do, and it’s green. LoL never mind what we kids wanted 🌲

[@jordanyforrester]

I recently discovered that I've been an INFJ my whole life, but I thought I was extroverted because I wasn't afraid to socialize with others. I always felt like I was being dramatic for feeling like no one understood me, but now I know I'm rare...which doesn't really help me lol

[@cilantro6150]

As an INFJ i found out I can make poems, hence I made a poem to all the other INFJs out there: My Self esteem is so down, you can't even see the ground My Ego is do high, I can't even see the sky but the combination of both is nevertheless as a heartless composition of I - N - F - J - S (INFJs)

[@sunnymorning228]

Honestly I dont like how overhyped our personality type is.

[@sunnymorning228]

@@nndlovu1878 yeah I can see that. The appeal of being "unigue" and "rare" - this is why some people want to identify as an INFJ but in reality, there is only one YOU in the world and, no matter how many people share the same qualities...no one else can be YOU. For me it's like - every personality type is beautiful in it's own way. Imagine if everyone in the world had the same personality type...chaos, mankind today would literally cease to exist. Every personality type has something incredibly valuable to offer the world. Each comes with a slightly different way of learning new information, seeing the world, making decisions, and interacting with others. And that means that we each have the potential to positively impact the world in different ways.

[@michaelraad857]

@@sunnymorning228 While I've always wondered what it would be like to be crammed into a room with a bunch of other INFJ's, you're correct in saying that each and every personality type is important and brings something new to this world! We need different perspectives and unique qualities to expand the dynamics of society. Well said.

[@advitisawant479]

Ifkr!! And thanks for putting " our". It makes me and others feel included

[@Moitreyee473]

It doesn't feel rare anymore

[@janiecekeys4765]

Mann nobody wants this, they talk behind our backs but wont dare say it to our face, alphas rallying the group against us. Then we have to assert our dominance using logic and ethics.

[@hiyeena3365]

It’s funny how u know me better than most people..

[@ghostlyblaze7793]

Damn, that hits hard

[@blurviy]

True it felt like I was getting dragged.

[@yourfuturewaifu9061]

You know people?!

[@vanillad1346]

Ikr like literally

[@cloudy192]

When a 13 minute youtube video explains how you are better than you ever could lol...

[@jillianover10000]

I'm an INFJ and my sister is an ESFP. She was always making me do stuff spur of the moment and it stressed me out. Now, however, we have a great system. I plan our elaborate vacations and book all the hotels and activities months in advance. And then once we arrive, I sit back and she figures out where we eat and what to do in the downtime (I've learned to leave *shudder* hours blank on the schedule so she can drag me on adventures)

[@cara.leo_]

The giving examples part killed me. I was wondering to myself one day why I have a hard time sharing stories at parties... I just don't have one I can pull off the top of my head, unless I'd rehearsed it for the specific purpose of telling it at parties. I much prefer talking about the meaning of life. Lol!

[@xinkage9429]

Video: "The rarest personality type" Apparently all the Infjs of the world are here, in this comment section

[@mythmakergwen]

I feel alone.

[@jassiethebunnyqueen222]

@@mythmakergwen same 😔 I'm am INFP

[@mango9808]

Lol

[@lukayaroslav9914]

There are like 80-140 million INFJs out there man.

[@jassiethebunnyqueen222]

@@lukayaroslav9914 🤣

[@Broukas]

I really think we should say “the least common personality type,” because soooo many people in online groups latch on to the word RARE. They wear it like an elitist badge of honor. “I have the rarest personality type therefore I’m special.” Which, honestly, doesn’t seem like a very INFJ thing to do.

[@celmoon5024]

The truth is that no one is special in this world. We are all in the same boat.

[@cantin8697]

And people can pretend to have it so they can feel special

[@lana8314]

True I mean being infj isn't that cool and special as others think. It is just the least common and one of mbti types. Every mbti personality has its unique strengths and weaknesses.

[@thiswowzer3217]

Finally. Rare does not mean useful

[@Emeraldsword124]

Being the least common is pretty lonely too

[@SFVone]

"I can be spontaneous if I've planned for it" Me looking at a Cheesecake Factory menu.

[@kdkaboom55]

I can’t eat at Cheesecake Factory…too many options 🥴

[@LisaHall1014]

The, "Who am I...really?" Question can be answered in part by asking which types of friends do you enjoy hanging out with the most. It can better be answered by periodically isolating yourself for a few days or weeks and finding out what you do for fun on your own, instead of being influenced by what everyone else enjoys. What types of books do you pick out for yourself? What movies/KZbin videos do you watch? What music do you listen to? What do you think about? The hard thing is that while I'm drained so darn quick (like two hours is plenty guys, no we really don't need to find another activity to do) I'm also highly social. Can any other INFJs tell me if they're also constantly torn between, "I wanna hang out with my favorite people all the time!" And, "Wow I'm so tired. Where's the bed??"

[@highfiveo]

That’s funny! If I isolated myself Id be fine.

[@Cvandyful]

Being an INFJ: People are always telling me I read too much into everything. 💁‍♀️

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Same

[@okplay9446]

My brother often tells me I look for a deeper meaning when there is none to be found

[@hugofontes5708]

@@okplay9446 except there always are, specially when it happened multiple times before "No, thing X doesn't mean Y, you are being crazy" "yeah? And why did you do thing X _again_ after these several other occasions? We already talked about it, there must be a reason and Y makes sense, what is it then?"

[@littlepearlsofrandomness]

“INFJs tend to overplan” - hmmm that explains my crazy spreadsheeting all of the time. I love me a spreadsheet 💕

[@WillBlacksilver]

Wow me too! I'm a strange creative graphic designer who's strangely into spreadsheets and databases. I even taught the payroll officer a thing or two XD.

[@ariellerose7894]

Omg i relate to this so much.

[@Z-LightfulMemories]

Or lists of lists, lol

[@kgpatel9670]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/eYHPYmeFocitm5I. 👍🙏

[@Amanda-wi8kc]

@@Z-LightfulMemories i came here to also reply lists lol!!

[@yureka88]

It's really difficult at times to be an INFJ. Sometimes I just want to fit in without all the strategical thinking it involves, just to interact in a social setting.

[@zacm1488]

I'm glad I re-watched this video. I've been in a bit of a personality type crisis. I've doubted myself a little bit because you hear how often the infj is mistyped or how rare it is. On top of that it's also easy to self type incorrectly because you do chameleon so much. It always stresses me out in these comments sections when people seem so confident about what type they are. I feel like I'm better at guessing other people's types then understanding my own. But this video, everything you list, struck me as true.

[@siaz1162]

Me an infj : *sees the title* am I still an infj, idk let's find out

[@sarah52292]

Same 😂😂😂

[@Tei_022]

Lol me tryna convince myself I’m not an INFJ so I can be free from myself

[@TheGiftof7PRESENTS]

Facts lol. I’m constantly like 🤔

[@l.artista1403]

Lol....well..yeah

[@ihuomaotika2656]

Yeesssss😂😂💔

[@Qmrd1]

I feel we are slow (not dumb, just over-process things), not flexible and therefore over-plan things

[@user-ms3pk5do9z]

I agree with that

[@horseygirlsec25]

Agreed. I have ADD on top of being an INFJ, which makes for interesting times... I am literally a walking contradiction.

[@agathaplayziez4953]

yep...

[@WillBlacksilver]

I have a inferiority complex of being slow. But sometimes I amaze myself.

[@JokerCrowe]

I tried out improv theatre, and it was really really difficult, but also So much fun! And now I'm better at being spontaneous and thinking on my feet, so it's definitely possible to improve it though!

[@asighttowonder878]

"They will over plan, even something as simple as going to Chipotle" Urgh not me looking at the menu at home and deciding what I want before I go into any restaurant ever 😅 Another thing I guess that goes along with the over planning is basically because we don't like to be caught off guard because it leads to panic. Like being thrust into a new physical environment or meeting a new group of people or trying a new activity you've never done often doesn't seem like "an exciting new adventure" but rather anxiety and panic at not knowing what to do and how to act but if you had planned it then maybe you would.

[@froggygod2973]

Ugh, as a INFJ with bad eyesight I relate to this too much. I will look up directions, menus, prices, everything before hand because I worry I’ll freeze up on the spot or not be able to see the menu. Don’t wanna waste people’s time or my time!!

[@finnegan4443]

Man the example one hurts. I've been frustrated with this my whole life at least now I know I'm not alone :')

[@hyhy2235]

Nah but the social chameleon one 💀💀💀💀

[@rustybrain6774]

I can be spontaneous if I plan for it! 😅😅 sooooo truuuee!!

[@gwendyb7077]

Yeah, me

[@thewwmm25]

the only way to be haha

[@kellyrodas1227]

If this ain’t me 😂😂

[@tessmer5541]

I’m an INFJ and I have a million notebooks and sticky notes with lists and plans and schedules... I may have a problem

[@rosestulip444]

omg same and sometimes i write the same lists over and over again, i swear you can find hundreds of lists in my room with the same aspects 💀

[@rachellerockel]

I thought it was just me 🤪

[@Derosnec1111]

I am definately not going to tell you about my trello

[@BlackCoffeeee]

Oh! Now I feel like a failed INFJ! I would get stressed by keeping notes. I can't even keep a diary because I feel too much pressure to communicate my thoughts with it. I'd write what I think my diary would 'want' to hear. 😂

[@Levntna]

Same here

[@meligarrett9197]

You’ve got that example thing right. I hate job interviews when they say , “ Tell me a time when thus and so happened and how did you handle it? Or, “ You’re in a specific situation. How do you respond?” ( My mind : who’s involved?do I know them? Are we friends or just coworkers? etc.etc.etc.).😳

[@mckennafeist]

"Number 3... this might hurt a little." Yes...yes it did

[@soap5648]

The title: INFJ’s are the rarest personality type The INFJ’s in the comment section: *allow me to introduce myself*

[@studytime8007]

Obviously not all r

[@Bear1470.]

Well if it is the rarest, then the 3k people who have commented out of the 7B+ people in the world, it means theres a 1 in 2,333,333.33 chance that you'll meet one of them.

[@virgoprismatix]

So you’re saying my spontaneous plan to go hiking with my dog at 6am this Saturday in hopes of not running into anyone who’ll try to start a conversation with me isn’t actually spontaneous?

[@ComplicatedSimplicite]

😂😂😂 Glad I’m not the only one. I’ve been known to duck and hide when I see people in the grocery store that I know even if I really like them.

[@maniacalmonster2293]

No... You are most likely not an INFJ

[@jaseman]

Oh thanks for posting this comment... its a good conversation starter :-)

[@santi7600]

I've been taking LOTS of 16 personalities test and I keep getting different results. Seeing this I've never felt so accomplished and so relating. I always ask my close friends how and what I do and how they see me when I do things lol because I always tell them there are things about me that only those people around me can define because I can't really tell

[@Mikadiaries]

it’s nice knowing that i’m not the only one who thinks this way!! sending love to my precious infjs

[@urvashibhushan8089]

Me, an INFJ: *SEES A VIDEO ABOUT MY OWN PERSONALITY TYPE SO THAT I GET TO UNDERSTAND MYSELF BETTER AND BECOME A BETTER PERSON* Clicks immediately

[@AlexBlank]

My mind is like a funnel. Haven't heard that one before.

[@ayalaajoul7594]

Me too

[@Doof_8103]

Yeah and if to much goes into the funnel to fast it overflows which is a disaster

[@imeldasutedja624]

"Number 3: You need permission to do what you want to do." So true! 💯👍🏻

[@janherickaorbase3869]

That explaining part hit me so hard. It happened once when I was explaining something specific in concept to my friend but when she asked about examples it all got messed up, the convo was getting messier and wider 😂

[@sailordora]

I am so confused by myself but I'm more confused that people can't understand me as I understand them and it's too disappointing. I feel that whenever I meet someone new in my life, I just have to send them this video for them to get to know me better 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lol101love]

I always described myself as a “floater” in high school. I didn’t have a group, I had a friend in every group.. I could always fit in wherever. Often times I didn’t want to fit in anywhere though. I didn’t want to be committed to a friend group

[@brandongates6290]

I was the same way, had my best friend but otherwise just floated around

[@alfiejordan4081]

Yeah same like just couldn't connect with people felt almost older than people in some ways like some of my friends friends were talking about doing stuff and I would be like I can see where this is going and it isn't going to end good so just never joined in with it like house parties and that sort of thing.

[@infernal..]

I've always had different friends each year. I'd even switch who i hang out with during the year lol.

[@RAT-ui8ow]

did all INFJ’s have the same high school experience or what

[@camilagonzalezrosales1176]

ME

[@thegoddessofedge]

I’m an INFJ, but I don’t think it’s important how “rare” someone’s personality is. I’m the type of person who has a soft spot for literally everyone, so as long as they’re a good person, rare or otherwise, I’m chill with whoever. Everyone’s important no matter their four letter personality type

[@TheBoardOfAlphas]

Agreed.

[@lifeisnotalmondtofu8629]

I agree with you. Being an INFJ doesn't mean you're on top of the world and people claiming "lololol im the rarest type say respect to me bro" just make me tired. I mean, I have no problem with INFJ but those, well, are just cringy af. Considering INTJ are the most uncommon type by now.

[@morningrosie3684]

Yep exactly

[@OK-hn7hs]

There's only 2 INFJ's in my class and its me and my best friend so he's the only one I can talk comfortably to

[@shrees5009]

considering i'm watching this video for reassurance, the therapist sponsorship was an excellent marketing strategy 💀

[@monica87512]

“Even if you feel weird, and that nobody can relate to you... you’re not alone and you’re not broken somehow...” Wow! I wasn’t expecting to get emotional at the end of the video. Lol Thank you for those encouraging words of wisdom. Great video (as always)!

[@nandinigautam5040]

Yup...this feels good to listen, more than self help videos

[@chamomilekitty7763]

Yeah! You don’t know how much I needed to hear that right now!

[@prez_wso]

*"tHe RaReSt pErSoNaLiTy tYpE"* 16p: hold my mistyping

[@prettypristinepoetry8984]

HAHHAHA

[@annika2076]

😂😂😂

[@SNinjaQK]

i get mistyped all the time

[@owdy3973]

I thought I'm mistyped (even if I can relate with pretty much all of these) but I just did another test (my 3rd ) and still gets INFJ, so yea pretty sure I'm an INFJ

[@kaloreadings4367]

16personalities has their own... definition for the types? It’s not like pure Myers Briggs. if people really cared about the actual MBTI types they’d study cognitive functions. So I don’t think 16personalities necessarily mistypes people, it’s just not the same... as... MBTI...

[@kaizokuwan5282]

I did the traditional test and I got INFP. Later on I tried another one that seemed more complete to me. But that time, I got 73 points at INFJ, which was also pretty close to INFP (69 points). So I'm really struggling to know which one I am, as I can relate to both personalities

[@beth8775]

I've gotten both results too. I think I lean a bit more towards J, but it's a fine line for me.

[@Lokis_Tea]

I was in that same position I’m questioning myself so much man

[@A____B]

Try the Jungian test, it's pretty accurate imo, the rest are trash-worthy

[@vidalia6142]

@@A____B I tried but I got INFP, I hate new things, Im seriously confused. Tho tbh I dont think I know myself very well.

[@Will-wo7wo]

This is why u learn the functions and not only take tests ;)

[@DaveRod76]

I’m just curious, those of you who know for sure you have the INFJ personality type, do you tend to use an over abundance of levity, jokes, quips, etc. to cope with what life throws at you, and cope with unpleasant or stressful situations?

[@artemis_time5924]

I hate how u read me rn

[@BlackCoffeeee]

I spent way too long trying to answer your question with a witty quip but I tired myself out 😂 so the simple answer is yes.

[@Jackn17_]

Usually whenever i have… depressing thoughts and then stop i make a joke to myself on how fast i can just move on from it, its really weird

[@maddoxledgerwood8955]

Hiw did u know

[@jeromebarry1741]

Two part answer. There is no 'for sure'. Yes.

[@Melisa-cj3zj]

“Reality isn’t happening so much in the outside world, but in my inner understanding of the outside world“ woah I’ve never heard such a great description of the reality I’m experiencing!

[@rhiannonrecommends]

"Whats the parking situation like" I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE ATTACKED

[@chalenakimgabu3927]

sameeeeee HAHAHAHA

[@scaredwolf1206]

I hate when I visit people at new places and can't find a good place to park ahead of time. Had a situation where I drove 7hrs to another state and didn't get the address until I was on my way. I was so nerve racked for where I was going to park. Which was not fun while driving 7hrs by myself.

[@momobs1]

The first thing i ask

[@betz5359]

8:58 - wanting to know how everyone else is feeling. omg I used to get so drained wondering how EVERY PERSON IN THE ROOM (or from a certain group or family) felt about EVERYONE ELSE in that same room/ group/ family. Like "hmm I wonder how nancy feels about that dog? and how robert feels about nancy? and what does the dog feel about robert?" LOL SO DRAINING. I would literally go thru every single person i saw that day. I still do it sometimes (but less regularly) and I don't even realize when I'm doing it!!

[@kdkaboom55]

Yaaaassss😑

[@HoranghaePower]

This was so accurate, thanks for explaining those points!! Now I'm sure that I'm still an INFJ, specifically an Advocate 😭✨

[@starchive4583]

“infjs are social chameleons” “focused on how they need to act around other people in order to put everyone at ease/fit in” “shape shift in order to get along with others” *alexa play mirrorball by taylor swift!*

[@remeneeseysere2750]

Hahahaha 🤣 Soulmate we are!!💜

[@ma.jaibelborbe6808]

Yeah this explains everything. I thought I am not an INFJ because I do this a lot. I thought Im a half extro then these lines hits me. And that was the time I admit, Im infj haha

[@karina9210]

Planning spontaneity, planning conversations, planning a day weeks in advance, planning, and more planning. Sounds about right.

[@chocolatesilverdoe986]

Yep

[@ayyq3174]

So damn true, I always feel like I need to ask permission when eating food in the fridge and to turn on the aircon.

[@taranpreetkaur8303]

This was so much spot on. I have been so overwhelmed with everything that has been going on lately in my life that I usually start watching these INFJ videos to understand myself more. Thanks Frank :) from a fellow INFJ.

[@aidadenisa8553]

We really are bad at giving examples, huh? A while ago I was talking to my friend about some stuff I was going through emotionally. After I realised I was unloading a bunch of abstract crap on her, I said "i can give you an example if you're confused". And she said "yes please". And it took me so long to find a real life situation to apply to what I had been talking about... I even got confused just thinking about it.

[@luneakvic]

yooooo i had the same problem too when i tried to talk to the psychiatrists about what i feel and how i feel usually, but then they always ask "what kind of situatione that make you feel like that/what did you do? can you give us some examples?)" and i was there like uhhhhh you think i can reflect the details on what actually happened back then on the spot?? explaining how i feel is already difficult enough for me???? aaand yeah of course i got misdiagnosed. like twice already i'm not even surprised at this point

[@readerofareader]

@@luneakvic oh no bless you 😂🌟

[@luneakvic]

@@readerofareader thanks homie, bless you too 😁✨

[@milokeresztesi4997]

I have that same problem. I hate it!!

[@user-hl1eo1hz7y]

The problem is only 30% of the population understands abstract thinking. 70% are concrete thinkers. Just try using a story to tell what you mean. You know,like jesus did. Oh yeah that didnt understand him either 🤷‍♂️

[@kayrr4612]

Another sign I'm an INFJ. I clicked this video to try to understand what I'm really like.

[@yurisurran9869]

Then there's me who still seeks for confirmation if I'm INFJ 😑

[@nello5383]

Same

[@thewwmm25]

@@yurisurran9869 "Am I really INFJ even though my life experiences and these videos talk about all the things I have been through?" "I guess so, but there's always that chance I'm not INFJ"

[@chocolatesilverdoe986]

Same lol

[@KristinaZiaDia]

The making examples thing made me laugh, so true! And making predictions. I remember clearly sitting with my friends in our 20s and telling them how their lives were going to turn out and they totally believed it, and I was so confident. It was kind of weird. But it all more or less came true. When I reflect on that now I was just intuitively playing out what was already going on in their lives, I wasn’t fortune telling, my predictions ended when there was no more current information to go off or when we started a new phase of life like marriage or parenthood and I didn’t have intuitive knowledge in that area yet.

[@rahafalkhaldi1897]

Y’all it’s alright not to be an INFJ, every single personality has its own mesmerizing qualities. I’m an ESFP 🤡

[@duckbacon3117]

I always hated my personality type, it has alot of disadvantages and people never really understands me. -INFP 😔

[@beluud5870]

7:10 OMG YES. Everytime I found something I find interesting, I feel the NEED to tell and talk about it with someone, I just love explainig everything to everyone lol. Especially theories about things like movies or series or whatever, and just silly fats about animals lol

[@rosestulip444]

when i got into mbti recently i wanted to tell everyone about it, but knowing it wouldnt fit into the conversation at all, i just kept it to myself :( made me really sad

[@scaredwolf1206]

Very true! I am glad my parents and friends listen to me ramble on about weird things I heard in a youtube video. It is also weird being the introvert in class raising your hand to input your "connection trees" of what y'all just learned just to get validation that you actually are learning the right thing. Please tell me this comment makes sense.

[@blackmber]

“This makes INFJs very routine oriented” Pfft that’s not me “When the iPhone updates its operating system, an INFJ might have a brief panic attack” *holding a 4-year old phone which has missed at least 3 software updates* Roasted

[@SamirCCat]

My phone is 7 years old and barely working. Still don't want to update the software or the actual phone.

[@tyrantkekeke]

Somewhat the same as mine, 4 year old phone, to me it feels fine but when my mum uses it, she asks me Why is your phone so slow? And stuff like that...

[@Kazuny]

just update your phone. there's no point in not wanting to do that.

[@alexandra926]

i thought i was the only one, i'm so glad i'm not alone

[@yoshuaisnotok8794]

My software update is mad at me cause I ignore him all the time

[@WhatTheColour]

Thanks for this video. I really thought something was wrong with me. But this explained a lot :) Good to know there are others like me

[@unknownsyllable1325]

Being an INFJ and never accepting my friend’s relationships because I know they’re going to end hurts like hell.

[@femaleforester]

is being INFJ genetic or does it come from upbringing or even trauma? sometimes I think this personality type has a lot of traumatized individuals.

[@gayaquinn7177]

Yup traumatizing events could make a person INFJ (in my case)

[@femaleforester]

@@gayaquinn7177 and in my case...

[@femaleforester]

@Humanity Skills it is known that personality is a mix of genes and experience. I don't think a personality type can be 100% genetic and unchanging

[@femaleforester]

@Humanity Skills but... you did 😆

[@kimj7645]

I swear most of INFJs at least have one ST parent, or worse abusive parents

[@Libra8410]

How other people feel vs. how I feel when making decisions is my biggest issue. I'll make decisions based on how other people feel/will feel and end up suffering in silence

[@Amal91]

😭

[@yurisurran9869]

I'm legit from doing this just now 😂

[@clarissae.9845]

I did this all the time and I still do. But somehow I learned to put myself first (at least in some situations) and it gets easier with time. Nevertheless whenever I do it I am still wondering how other people feel about it. I guess you can never shut it off completely just learn to live with it (which is totally fine)

[@TheBettermentChannel]

Frank u must have come really far in your INFJ journey. This is such a self-aware video about the INFJ traits. Thanks!

[@Woozi_animal_print______]

Now, I'm convinced. Especially the natural teacher part. Whenever I have some realizations or knowledge that I newly learned, I just randomly share it with my family or friends. Though odd, I'm still happy I can get to share it anyway. 😅

[@shizuozawach.4778]

to INFJ.... you are not alone... there are people who experience the same as yours ... me: that's nice! / but don't really want to be with the, /

[@intersightphotography]

I have met many INFJ'S online in telegram. Though my experience with all of them was not so very good but definitely learnt many things

[@Ali08]

@@intersightphotography Can you give examples of your experience with them?

[@biasedlyunbiased883]

Frank : for an infj it might be an extra struggle to eat right Me who forgets when I ate or what I ate: sweats nervously

[@chocolatesilverdoe986]

It's either I barely eat or I eat so much

[@gobyivvivilvaq]

me who eats a crapton of food:

[@jerocadenazzi6245]

This sounds like an ed, not trying to be mean but u should really check this out

[@FlashBangBANGz]

Me: *has ramen noodles and nuts everyday and tends to skip meals* Nah.

[@inkredibleweirdo]

Omg this is literally me 🤣

[@JaylenGohArts]

I smiled and laughed out while watching your INFJ videos because the facts are more than true. 😂 I've never found a channel that know me so well. Thank you Frank James! 😊

[@linafm8416]

Thank you so much. I'm almost 40 and i've been searching the reasons why am i the way i am for years. Previosly I've found information that really suits what I feel, but it's the first time I feel so understood. Definetly I'm an INFJ and I feel relieved to get to understand myself much better now. Thank you again and greetings from Barcelona

[@nello5383]

As INFJ and left-handed person i understand well what "rare" means 😂

[@lisaotj9676]

Same here

[@civilizedmonster]

Lol cool😂 not so cool. Right? -infj

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Same. I’m also a red head and autistic too so I guess that makes me more “rare”.

[@Lila-qs2xh]

Appreciate: "not knowing WHO you really are" Before it becomes: "not knowing WHAT you really are"

[@jadenavarro706]

As an INFJ, I can relate to everything you said, like every single think you said

[@Key_kx_]

I'm unsure what my personality type is, and I think I might be INFP or something, but I'm not sure yet 😅

[@sunriedelight9334]

few weeks back, im crying after I arguing with my family about the dangerous of plastic straws and they legit just laughed in my face 🥴 being infj it's fascinating and hurts at the same time, i take things too seriously it suck

[@janiecekeys4765]

Damn poor baby

[@maddoxledgerwood8955]

Yep here I had it happen...I'm a vegetarian...and tried to explain it to a judger...ended up crying

[@jelain3917]

Excuse me Mr. "INFJs really like to plan." I only have four different calendars.

[@jeni_roseu907]

I strongly agree with the 3rd one. You know, I do have faith in my knowledge understandings BUT I oftentimes feel like I still need confirmation from other people. it sucks, yes.

[@russellbergersen3296]

You hit the nail on the head with this one. But as I've gotten older, I've started to avoid social interaction as much as possible. Just too exhausting. Do I mind being alone most of the time? Hell no. After losing my wife to cancer, I'm convinced that I'm not going to find someone that understands me and my quirks. That and I just don't feel it's worth the effort to get to know someone else at this stage in my life. I've even narrowed my social circle down to just one, and he seems to have the same problems navigating life as I do.

[@glyza5481]

"You're not alone and you're not broken somehow. You have something unique to offer the world, don't forget that." His way of ending this video comforts me.

[@diyana]

me as an INFJ: laughing at myself so much because it's so true

[@darwindelacruz6380]

How

[@lesliengo8347]

I think it is also helpful to mention some aspects of our personality can be managed. For example, I am learning to make decisions without seeking approval if it has nothing to do with anyone else. I remind myself I am in charge of my own life and my own choices.