10 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Love You (Even If You Think They Do)

[@silviacarafoli424]

My ex partner showed all those 10 signs. He didn't love me, he never did. He is a narcisist and only cares about himself. I'll never let anyone treat me like that anymore.

[@AshleysAngelsForever]

@silviacarafoli424 Well, Narcissistic tendencies do evolve only around 1 partner and that is the Narcissist. Very sad but true.

[@laurielong7038]

Doesn't love you 1. Pretends to be busy 2. Only in for physical 3. Rarely compliments 4. Codependent 5. Initiates contact for their needs 6. Afraid of being alone. 7. Blames you. 8. No respect. 9. No effort 10. Doesn't care about your feelings.

[@shanonangermeyer-norman5280]

according to this list no one loves no one

[@warriorprincess5077]

Thank You

[@elainstill1671]

Surprise! 🙄

[@jl2937]

That sums it up

[@pavvmulgund5822]

Afraid and very hurt broken signals yar this list😢

[@davidnashclassical9106]

Another sign: How do they spend their time? If they prefer to spend hours on electrictronic media rather than sharing their time with you, there's a definite problem.

[@NX350_Joe]

Ya, spot on. I was in bed for 2 hrs laying in bed, waiting for a chat, while she is busy watching 2 hrs KZbin non stop in the living hall. By the time I wanted to talk to her, she said " look, I am very tired n need to sleep now"

[@Mockduck2020]

That could simply be an addlction

[@Mockduck2020]

What is with the flashing on the picture in the screen? I’m afraid I might have a seizure.

[@NX350_Joe]

@@Mockduck2020 she didn't have such addiction until she started the church group chat or she was busy texting someone secretly n hiding her phone

[@redunbiased8417]

Are you referring to a man who playing an xbox or computer? Typical.. if woman can have their own hobby.. why can’t we have our only hobby tho?

[@NoMoreTears64]

No more partners for me. I choose peace.

[@brandonsampson-qr9cq]

amen brother

[@donnageorge2761]

I have been alone for 30 years by choice, things are a lot more peaceful when you don’t have partner in your life you can get lonely. I’ll admit it ,sometimes I think I’m in a mistake enthused to be alone. I’ve been alone since I’ve been in my 30s. I just had enough of it all.

[@KeriThomas-cs1mo]

If you have to 'question' if someone truly loves you, they don't. When people truly love us, we 'know' without question.

[@beaj.h.1017]

exactly! :-)

[@craighalvorson77]

Of course!

[@shadonnathompson6343]

So true ❤

[@IreneElizondo-1974]

My partner invited me over just to end our relationship face to face. Told me that I’m not on his level and ever will be so he was DONE with me. I once asked him if he could at least TRY to love me a little bit more so that I can feel it and his response was…. If I need to feel loved the. I should go find it with someone else…… talk about heartbreak…. That response tore my heart to pieces. Loving someone so much and hearing them say something like that to you HURTS LIKE HELL!

[@lasond2471]

This response has nothing to do with you. Sometimes people choose and or reject people for the wrong reason. Pray, ask for strength and find happiness in other things. Keep busy and strive to be the best version of yourself and someone worthy of you will find you. I pray the very best for you!

[@joannekellaway4746]

I have been married for 31 years,the first 12 months he love bombed me. He now, hardly speaks, we are never intimate,he blames me for everything. I have always worked, and still work full time at 60 years of age. He thinks it’s ok to spend all of his money on cars, bikes, etc. I spend my wages on improving the house. I cook, bake, and do packed lunch for him ever day, I get no thanks. I am so sad that I have become like a mother to this man, who has zero respect for me.😢

[@laurakello8526]

Horrible n you have no respect for you

[@marynjoki5385]

Just STOP also start spending money on yourself and things you love doing and buying. Stop improving the house been 31 years of improving it live and enjoy your life you wont take that house to the grave with you. Cook because you need to eat and nourish your body not because you need to feed him. Dont do packed lunches for him he has hands to make his own or money to buy lunch. Stop mothering him you are his wife not his mother. 12 months you were his wife then you became his mother so stop being his mother. Work on yourself and self-worth and changing yourself and priorities will make you things clearly you cant change him but can only change yourself he cant make you happy but make yourself happy. Good luck

[@angeltexas3208]

Save yourself! You are wasting good life time on someone that has settled on using you!!

[@roxannebarker2622]

😢

[@Jessi.ca777]

I'm praying for you Joanne🙏 ...take time to love yourself & indulge in things you enjoy in your free time❤

[@karengordon6610]

Mine was “In Love With Our Couch, not Me” Helped everyone but his wife and 3 sons. We only went places he wanted to go to. Never helped around the house, complained when asked to do something and wouldn’t help out. Divorced him after 22 years if this behavior and never got married again.

[@elizabethcampbell5428]

Glad you were smart never marry again

[@AshleysAngelsForever]

@karengordon6610, what a shining star and example you are for all of us. Thank you for connecting

[@pnutbuttajelly1049]

Wow I had to make sure I didn't write this. I am now in a separation because he was exactly like this

[@michaelangelo5783]

Exactly how my fiance acts (mother of my son). Complains if we don't go to the park or store she wants to go to. Hardly ever helps with chores and acts like I should kiss her rear if she half azs cleans up the bathroom or walks the garbage out. I do 99% of chores, shopping, cooking, laundry, putting the kid to bed/bath/teeth brush/etc, taking care of the dogs (mine and hers)...oh, and she doesn't drive/have a license! And acts as if doing all the driving isn't a chore. When she moved in 2 years ago I had my newer car and two older cars I offered her (late 90s honda or lexus) that were well maintained. She never even got her permit. If I wouldn't lose my son i would have dumped her ages ago.

[@verakathrynsmith3508]

That sounds like my daughter's husband perfectly. He hasn't held a job for long, doesn't help around the house at all, but helps everyone else,has done time,uses drugs,has messed around on her,is verbally abusive to the kids,has jumped on me, destroys property, gets dogs ;then won't be responsible for them, and there's no chance he'll change anytime soon. I wish she'd divorce him and remove that millstone from around our necks(have lived with them since 2020, and am now waiting on housing. I hate this waiting.

[@VerniceGodoy]

In the last days men will be lovers of themselves and their hearts wax cold. I believe that is true.

[@ronniegrimm5363]

You probably say that because no man wants someone with a mindset like you

[@robynmarsh1358]

I never heard that but I believe it to be true also. Married 43 years and we live as roommates 😢

[@gorgeouswales9635]

@@robynmarsh1358yes there’s a scripture. Let me find it

[@gorgeouswales9635]

@@robynmarsh1358 that’s true here’s a scripture to read it, if you want, 2 Timothy 3:1-

[@robynmarsh1358]

​@@gorgeouswales9635thank you. Started reading the bible last 3 months, and read the scripture you suggested.

[@jeffreypmitchell]

Traumatized people do these things. It’s Not their fault. Just say goodbye. Don’t contact them anymore. Choose Not to blame. Take 50% responsibility for doing your part. Remember the good times and move on to the best of your ability. Closure is Not real. Yes, it is very hard. Things will improve day by day. Seek counseling for yourself. Become a healthy Individual on your own journey.

[@davidnashclassical9106]

@jeffreypmitchell Thanks! You have an interesting thought. There is no blame on my end toward folks like that, I see it as a tragedy that it's all they want out of life.

[@peacelovejoyandhappiness]

@@jeffreypmitchell kzbin.info/www/bejne/nmKZdaCahtureJIsi=7SBY7xCnJOqevg-I

[@jeffreysnodgrass9743]

Thats to hard to do for most people

[@chiaraA.]

best advice

[@WalterVetterli]

@@mareebrocklehurst9370 Just go--somewhere!!

[@annhobson1975]

Love is built on respect.

[@NX350_Joe]

@@annhobson1975 love is on mutual trust n respect which it doesn't work now

[@tabletalk33]

Maybe that's why there is so little love in the world. Familiarity breeds contempt.

[@NX350_Joe]

@@tabletalk33 people are heartless nowadays, only for themselves. Self centered

[@annhobson1975]

@@NX350_Joe You cannot have love without respect being involved. How do you love someone that you don't respect???

[@NX350_Joe]

@@annhobson1975 agree. Just now I am trauma bond stage n just stuck in my brain not able to walk out of it. It is really painful

[@MichaelKubat-tt7lo]

Jealousy, false accusations and a insatiable desire for unwavering DRAMA pretty much ruined my first marriage. I escaped it and to a huge financial hit in the process, but in the end, it was well worth it.....

[@jacquelinerebraca3291]

This is some of what we're going through but he is not fighting for this relationship it seems to be only me there r timers hours go by and he doesn't speak to me there isn't any physical contact he says he's just not in the mood he says he not happy with me I'm tired of fighting f9r this relationship alone😢

[@SuccessSeasons]

Do not chase after happiness; it is always within you." That hit hard in the best way possible. Thanks for your video !

[@EsperanzaReynolds-h3f]

I think that goes for family too and friends. Because they only call me when they need something. Im always the one checking on them. Calling them , helping them. Etc .

[@beaj.h.1017]

Esperanza- just stop caring &start not give a fuck about them! Someone who do not miss you or had not noticed your absence -had never cared for you in the first place anyway!

[@Klapauzius-369]

Da reicht manchmal EIN gut formulierter, ernsthafter Satz. Man muss nicht beleidigen oder Kontakt abbrechen - aber Grenzen ziehen! "Ich helfe dir, aber: ......"

[@darrylmorissette9274]

Add to this..."when your partner does not defend you to THEIR negative family talking about you and friends calling you down" then they don't love you!!! If your partner defends other people's negativity towards you ...MOVE ON ...FOR YOUR OWN PIECE OF MIND AND SELF RESPECT !!!!

[@A-of-one]

@ANNA OF NO ONE 🅰️OMG ...ITS LIKE YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT ME ‼️THIS JUST HAPPENS TO ME THIS LAST 2 WEEKS ...I AM STILL TRYING TO RECOVER BUT PEOPLE STILL TREATENS ME ...BECAUSE HE TALKED BAD ABOUT ME ...AND EVERY ONE BELIEVES HIM 🎉😢🎉

[@QueenofArgyle2525]

@@darrylmorissette9274 👍🎯

[@katjay3125]

Peace*

[@Tbn48ibp]

@@darrylmorissette9274 amen!!!

[@RubeniaSpencer]

Yes indeed I totally agree with u 💯

[@joemax2304]

Respect is the most important thing in a relationship out of this comes love

[@michaeldingman9029]

❤ You are so right, my friend.👍

[@karinhare2271]

Wow this is true

[@MareeHarris-fg1sn]

So true! I am 63 and still confronting these truths in my life

[@MI2OOB]

77 here and my X told me that our relationship had to be secret because his mother would give him hell. I knew he was a “mama’s boy but I found out it was all his other women that he was dating.😊

[@carolecochrane8173]

They don't want to take you out , and would rather watch sport on the TV.😐

[@judycrisenbery2982]

I'm 71 & still dealing with this

[@K.j.h.279]

Same..

[@AshleysAngelsForever]

Wow, I'm so sorry that you had to endure this cruel and intentional hurtful act. 😢 This is just burning me up with an anger.

[@carolyn5666]

After a 41 year marriage I can fervently say you are 100% right and would add facing your husband does not truly love you after 4 children can be the hardest part but God Almighty will expose the truth and free you in Gods perfect timing.❤ Thank you

[@melanieknowles7002]

Indeed God's timing. 32 years of he'll for me. When I truly forgave him God's peace and calm came upon me. 12 hours later I was a widow. I got a second chance in life and am truly living a beautiful life. Let go. Let God. Strength and peace to you from beautiful Africa.

[@evarudmik2164]

You are 100% right. 44 years marriage Children grandchildren but somehow they think they don’t have to work at Keeping the relationship strong, they get lazy or start giving up… And it’s easier for them to run away then solve might require a little work on their part. Hope our prayers help us🙏💕

[@evarudmik2164]

You are 100% right. 44 years marriage Children grandchildren but somehow they think they don’t have to work at Keeping the relationship strong, they get lazy or start giving up… And it’s easier for them to run away then solve might require a little work on their part. Hope our prayers help us🙏💕

[@GloriaDaley-og1zo]

52 year marriage and I totally agree with this list. It’s very hard to realize that the end of my life is near and my husband doesn’t seem to care that I have been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. No emotional support whatsoever. Continues to expect me to do everything and meet his needs without any concerns for me. I feel so alone.

[@robynhewett2813]

I agree. Look for Red Flags in the Marriage. The day I married my Husband I actually was pregnant with my Son & had terrible Morning Sickness! My Husband when the Minister's back was turned swore at me saying, " I told you not to wear that bloody Pink Lipstick!". It's been like that for many years on end. (The Emotional Abuse). I'm supposed to be "sexless", He behaved like a Married Batchelor never being around, wouldn't drive me to Hospital when I had Gastroenteritis very badly. I ended up having it for nearly 7 weeks & my weight dropped down to six & a half Stone. He refused to take me out when I was a young Woman after I had bought a nice little dress saying, "If you wear that, I'm not taking you out!". When I asked why, he said that " I looked too nice!" Many, many other acts of Emotional Abuse! Believe it or not I am still married to this Man after 50 years. I have broken my Thigh Bone, had Pneumonia twice badly, have suffered a Stroke, had Ulcers in my Stomach due to Stress, & recently have had my Lungs washed again due to an Infection. He has always been emotionally unavailable & hasn't had my back! Ladies, we owe it to ourselves to look after ourselves physically & mentally! If being treated without respect, get out of the relationship before you get too old! There are many nice People out there. Don't put up with things as I have done. I want to leave him now. I should have left a long time ago. If WE are not good for ourselves, especially health-wise, we are not good for anyone else! Make yourself a priority in your life & above all be kind to other People. A lot of Women think that they have to have a Man in their lives. That is not so! Better to be a whole happy Person than put up with being dragged down as I have been! I hope this helps others. Regards.😢

[@Soralella71]

If you are with someone like this, you don’t love yourself.

[@gilliancook2084]

CRITICS....!!!

[@Tatjana.B]

It's the main point.

[@joniangelsrreal6262]

Well done…😊

[@garlandtif8055]

😂😂 unless they're a psychopath. Who knows how to act like they love u .

[@lulubelle53]

yes self love is such an issue.....

[@melebakani3130]

So true...relationships should have mutual feelings...should not be one way effort

[@MacBaby2208]

Every relationship I’ve ever been in. I gave up.

[@vanillasmerk5742]

If you know,,you know. Dont doubt yourself. The signs are always there.

[@marjoriemurray4381]

I believe in your list. My husband did not love me…he was all consumed with his dreams and desires. The man child could not love or care for anyone other than himself

[@lianne5836]

No they can't love someone else, but always lie that they do.

[@earlenejones5833]

Been there

[@laurakello8526]

Sad for them

[@springaerium]

Wao, this really opened my eyes on why my ex-husband did what he did. He didn't really love me! I guess he was only with me for 20 years because I loved him and did whatever he told me to. Lesson learned.

[@matildamaher111]

Hubby compliments me, we spend quality time, he suggested date nights and we follow it.

[@laiba7025]

Youre lucky girl. Always be grateful❤

[@jeankeats3200]

How long have you been married? If you say a long time then you are lucky.

[@gorgeouswales9635]

Good keep it going 🔥🔥🔥

[@gorgeouswales9635]

Good keep it going🔥🔥🔥

[@bella4644]

My husband has shown how little he cares for me. His actions speak louder than words. The last straw was two months ago when he made a tight U-turn on a busy street. Our SUV was sideways on the street because it was too big. There were two lanes of cars coming in our direction. My side of the door was going to get hit if these cars didn't stop which they did. The cars were only a few inches to my side door. The drivers were all honking and cursing at the stupidity of my husband's actions. My husband disregarded my life when he pulled that failed stunt. Such a selfish action. You wait when the road is clear, not risk other people's lives. I'm leaving him in three years once our son goes off to college. For now, we're strangers sharing a house. He is in counseling. I am too for the trauma.

[@Alderheart27]

Omg I’m so sorry that happened I hope that you can get better

[@annemariewellhoff982]

I think u shouldn’t put on hold ur life for 3 years

[@anapratap8103]

I’m so sorry to hear that story of yours. I had a quite similar situation. We were on the road in our car and about to merge in a circular motion in park way from another park way when an SUV from behind suddenly appeared in front of us. My husband got pissed and tried to speed pass through the SUV. But the SUV driver would purposely block our way by occupying two lanes while speeding up as well. I was telling my husband to let it go but he doesn’t seem to hear me… he tried to squeeze our car in the narrow space on the left lane to get ahead of this SUV and I felt that we already hit the curve. I just closed my eyes and prayed as I imagined us turning upside down if he would really push himself. That SUV was determined to win the car chase and sped up way faster once we got to the major parkway … It made me realized then that my husband doesn’t really care about my life because he doesn’t even care about his own. He cares more of his ego… so when we got to the restaurant, I was really shaking so badly and it took awhile before I calmed down. It was an unforgettable experience for me.

[@kentspeigner8738]

@@anapratap8103 Yes, you have a serious problem. Good luck!

[@kentspeigner8738]

Don’t think you need to wait three years. Make your plan and take action. Your son will probably understand, he is old enough. Good luck.

[@julieerin115]

#7 Was constantly picking fights over the most trivial things.

[@dohnutz8452]

This would be so much better WITHOUT the overly LOUD music!

[@m-jl.2381]

It's so funny to me how many people are complaining about the music in this video. I like it. This is a great example of how everyone has different preferences. You may want to check your settings, though because there are some settings that make background music louder than it needs to be ( depending on the device).

[@jonwilson8170]

The music is too loud, its distracting and makes it harder to hear what is being said. But then again my hearing is less than perfect. For me, its not so much of a preference but more about being able to hear the message. If its important

[@patricverlinden4342]

I agree!👍

[@albundy9597]

Love isn't a lasting condition, it changes over time, familiarity does that, be an adult about it, only teenagers want continual love but that is something only a dog can give you.

[@anitajohnson381]

GOD cam give it!

[@vladcraioveanu233]

and cats.

[@daveh9803]

The difference is in the decisions the partners make. If they make the choice, every day, to love each other with caring and respect, then it absolutely can last. Relationships are like a three legged stool. There are two individuals and the relationship itself. If one of those three legs is removed, everything collapses. The relationship leg gets its support from both individuals choosing to give that support.

[@Packard1940]

@albundy9597 That sounds absolutely ridiculous. Love never fails and it lasts. So, one would have to examine themselves if they ever loved the other person truely. It could have many many things but not love.

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

There is so much wrong with this statement on every level. My husband passed away last year. Our relationship survived because we CHOSE to prioritize each other. To me the perspective you just presented is the " immature one". True love is eternal ❤

[@mariab2133]

Beware of becoming a rebound object.... Initially put you on a pedestal...short term, but enough to relentlessly leave you in pieces!

[@mareebrocklehurst9370]

@@mariab2133 you hit the nail on the head

[@cathysavill2551]

My boyfriend is not accustomed to sharing and showing his feelings, but I know he cares about me and loves me because he does other things that shows me like buying the food he knows I like, in fact he buys most of the stuff and does all the shopping, mind you, I have bad vision so he helps me with alot of things!! I really love him ❤❤

[@jeankeats3200]

Not too shabby! That's nice...

[@jameslyons4919]

That sounds cool. That sounds like a good genuine relationship you two have which focuses on creativity and different aspects of relating to each other. Very healthy.

[@randyfocht737]

All of these things are exactly what a Narcissist does. What is a Narcissist? It is a child who was never given unconditional love, and then spoiled on top of that. It creates a very dysfunctional human being, who you can never understand because what they do is NOT normal.

[@Bus_em]

Wife had a serious multi vehicle accident with a seizure, & it's affected her emotional ability. She's not as affectionate or understanding, but I can't leave her as we've already spoken with doctors & she'll never make it on her own or with anyone else's assistance, because she still responds to me & not others. So it's not so cut & dry in leaving your spouse.

[@FaithfulandTrue949]

Oh wow, God hears your struggles and cries, it's a labour of love may He strengthen and comfort you in your distress and heal your wife 🙏🏻💕

[@IreneKerford]

Yes he blames me for everything

[@annetterobinson6439]

YEA ITS!OK....I ❤ MYSELF ...I CAN BUY MY OWN FLOWERS TOO.....👍👌👍👌💯💯💯💯

[@XtrmTJ97]

That's why you will be a lonely old lady 😮

[@dianepritchard1296]

If they deliberately cut you off and abandon you emotionally, physically and mentally or don't care what you think or don't care if you're slowly bleeding to death and look like death warmed over or wake you up from a sound sleep to tell you that they're leaving and walk out the door the day after your youngest son's birthday plus lots of other crappy things, those are definite signs that they don't love you...

[@vernlindbergs3221]

Why the intrusive background music? Unnecessary and annoying.

[@jasonboydgg6316]

It’s not I can hear him fine

[@rajunaidu1232]

Why is that annoying background music

[@peacelovejoyandhappiness]

Yes, I really dislike the music in the background.

[@bornagain2890]

Put it on mute and read the closed captions 😊

[@peacelovejoyandhappiness]

@@bornagain2890 what an awesome awesome idea. 💡 thank you for your suggestion.

[@bornagain2890]

@@peacelovejoyandhappiness you're very welcome!

[@michellestout6118]

😂😂😂

[@PC1974]

Save yourself the hassle - stay single.

[@juliegaudet7816]

You are describing an Avoidant Personality type.

[@williamjlusk7940]

And Avoid the Dismissive Avoidants - please! A total waste of your time!!!

[@HikerGirl-ct3nd]

@@williamjlusk7940i wasted 17 years i was married to one

[@annofcleavers5791]

More like a narcissist

[@duartesimoes508]

"They are afraid of being alone" only until they find someone else. Then, to your absolute surprise, you will be dumped in a split second. Often you don't see it coming. Be aware of how many friends and false friends you have around you.The latter know everything but will tell you nothing.

[@thomasday8143]

I believe one of the main signs is that their actions never ever correspond with what they tell you a complete contradiction avoid they say they're constantly saying that they care they love you but their actions never show what is coming out of their mouths or even what they text you

[@pererjosephbest3144]

I'm experiencing the same symptoms for at least 7 years and I'm heart broken because despite the loveless relationship I still love her 💔

[@cindyolson6994]

They complement you in conversation with their friends rather than to you directly. Example. Talking on the phone with a friend -she made a wonderful breakfast this morning. She went grocery shopping and purchased just the right things she did a good job shopping all this when I am in ear shot. But does not say it directly to me.

[@georgemichaels2325]

My Dad did that to me. Never a good word. Same for my Mother. I treated my kids differently. By His Grace,thank God.

[@SM-fx6yo]

That’s not even complimenting it’s bragging and of course even if there are compliments on any level they do this strategically to appear the nice guy and get everyone on their side. If you ever tell the truth or breakup they won’t believe it.

[@rdm98607]

Sounds like complimenting the hired help. Good boy , good girl, good dog

[@LilladyTK]

Typical my girl is better than yours brag .. More about the attention they are getting while pointing out the pros about their partner that gets other men interested in her... Works like a charm for porn ring hit it and quit it promos just before ghosting and passing said partner to someone else I've witnessed

[@LibraryBP2]

Does your partner always make jokes or say condescending remarks about you in public or with close friends. If they belittle you in order to feel superior. If they always interrupt you when you're trying to speak about something they don't seem to care about. . .They don't really love you, just themselves!

[@therightform9124]

This is a Narcissistic you’re speaking of. A whole new level.

[@pramodvora2067]

Good points to note. Life is a long journey and our minds are ever changing and one need to be: 1. non-violent in every way; 2. Fearless; and 3. Stay detached with everyone and everything. No thing stays with one forever. Take responsibility for your actions so you will not regret the outcome. Change will be easier to bear....!

[@catherinemalloy4207]

I’m 62, have no money, job or family. I’m stuck in a loveless marriage with no way out, what can I do to escape this nightmare I’m in?

[@QueenofArgyle2525]

Get out of the house and volunteer. Hang out at the library. Go to free senior functions. Make a life for yourself outside the home and kick is butt to a spare bedroom or the couch. Look up any help you can get from the government first before you dissolve the marriage.if married more than 10 years? You can claim on his Social Security sec if higher than your own. Be Sure to line up housing of some form First as now a days shelter is Much harder to achieve on low income❤

[@Lucia-j8f2s]

God rescued me I had to truly come to the end of myself concerning him first though It was a 33 yr relationship, and we were married He left me behind for another woman because i moved into my sunroom and quit sleeping with him!! He was irate and meaner than usual but I withstood it until God put his eyes on another woman on the internet in answer to my prayer

[@TraciSeibert]

Catherine, there is help.

[@teresacrow7578]

Go to church. Make friends. Take care of your body, nails, lotions, rest. Be honest with yourself and those around you. Remove yourself to a place in your home that will become your space and sanctuary. Pray. Work on your own character. Grow in the grace and knowledge of Christ. Work on your hair, clothes, etc..... put your outfits together and make new styles for yourself. Don't be afraid of success. Be ready for it!!

[@teresacrow7578]

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[@justtere]

What did I learn? My husband loved me as deeply as I loved him. He died a little over four years ago, after 35 tumultuous years together. It wasn't between us, it was usually outside sources. We stood back to back. Four years later, I still write him occasionally and talk to him every day. That’s what I learned.

[@GidarGaming]

Sorry for your loss. He was truly a lucky man to have someone like you to stand by his side and watch his back, and to still think about him so lovingly even years later after he's gone. That type of sincere loving relationship seems to be a rarity these days.

[@WalterVetterli]

I truly wish I could do that !!!!

[@roomofcybertron6380]

my two x-girlfriends had all 10 signs that made me heartbroken and i'm still suffering on it.

[@lilypagan4019]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that and I pray that you heal and find a reciprocal love! God Bless!😇🙏💕

[@JlynneBenson]

​@@lilypagan4019Ensure you're healed before you make someone your rebound to avoid treating the next woman the way you were treated by women because karma always comes back around.

[@JlynneBenson]

@roomofcybertron6380 see comment below; though, it tagged the person who commented to you before I did.

[@roomofcybertron6380]

@@lilypagan4019 thank you!

[@roomofcybertron6380]

@@JlynneBenson Thank you!

[@leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851]

I don’t believe my husband ever loved me. He used me to get his permanent residency card. Then he just stuck around for the sex. I resent him but I’m working on me to fix me.

[@helentaylor7132]

Aww, that's too bad! I sincerely hope you find your true self and a life that works for you, too. Obviously, that can be complicated. Wish you the best! Over the years I ran into two of those over the years but, fortunately, was able to read the signs early on. Unfortunately, my radar wasn't as good for narcissists. Luckily, being much older and more experienced now, I prefer my own company and that of true friends and family over any close relationship with a man. The only positive I can see in a committed relationship is two incomes but I'm not motivated by money. It comes with way too many obligations and expectations...and potential abuse. Have had my fill.

[@tablaso-ql1xg]

lol

[@bcazur4420]

How did you know he used you ? My wife told me the same and I never did that and I really don’t understand why she thought that?

[@leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851]

@@bcazur4420 he started to pull away as soon as his resident card came in. I was fooled by the love bombing!

[@leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851]

@@bcazur4420 because he started to treat me worse after he got it.

[@salvatoremattaliano9242]

And another sign is that they never touch you. Kiss you or hug you. Not talking about myself someone I know. Try to tell them there's something wrong there They don't want to hear it

[@QueenofArgyle2525]

🎯

[@WalterVetterli]

Totally agree !

[@AshleysAngelsForever]

I'd prefer to be alone. My marriage feels like I'm his maid, cook, clean and oh yes, go into your office and work

[@QueenofArgyle2525]

@@AshleysAngelsForever learned to just adjust around him. The secret is to not depend on him for positivity or my happiness. Be happy on my own terms.

[@Cutiepotato98]

Just like the bf of my daughter!I know this because I read it on my daughter’s mobile phone about their conversatoin!Feeling sad for my daughter!

[@helenahayes6150]

spot on, he definitely wasnt interested but he was respectful

[@veredcohen9079]

They don’t love me and it’s ok they don’t have to

[@andsoitbegins464]

Stand strong girl! Love yourself first, always.

[@Ms.Tee65]

Exactly, I love me💯

[@QuiDocetDiscit]

@@veredcohen9079 True...love is a gift not a right. But if they don't love us it doesn't diminish our value...a diamond that's not admired is STILL beautiful. We have broken our own hearts with expectations from the WRONG person. Be careful who you choose.

[@hulululu5346]

i am happier without him. he could not make the effort needed and he could not see it.

[@upstatevanlifer6918]

He sees it just refuses

[@EsperanzaReynolds-h3f]

I'm sorry 😔 I know you feel. 🙏

[@janeclark2953]

spending more and more hours away saying he's at work is one big give away that he is no longer invested in you and your life together.

[@kimlogan1278]

I had a relationship like that for years. A bunch of lies. Usually a Narc person does the disappearing acts. I'm here to tell you it's someone else on the side.

[@KerryKroll]

@@kimlogan1278 Not necessarily. He might just be lazy and likes to not have to do anything for someone who does it all.

[@dhenderson1810]

Maybe the job requires him to work for many hours. If you marry a doctor, a cop, a fire-fighter etc, then you know what you signed on to. They can't neglect everyone else to fit into your timeline.

[@jimlyon7276]

It'a just a bit difficult trying to take 'all' of this on board, when the back ground music is so noisy! If I turn the volume down to minimise that, I then have trouble hearing the commentary. - A no win situation !

[@thithachnguyen8913]

Better with out music 😄!

[@glengardner3734]

Cut the background 🎵🎶🎵 music. Annoying and difficult to concentrate on what is being said😮

[@goldeneddie]

Agree 100% Plinky-plinkky-plinky-plinky-plinky-plinky-plinky-plinky!

[@ramblinvanman6250]

My ex told me she "Fukin hated" me, I took it as a sign!

[@sandraleehurst7350]

My divorce, after 31 yrs was final yesterday from a covert narcissist

[@iraschellenberg-kollenstei2247]

Congratulations! Never look back. I wish you a very, very, very happy life!

[@mikejohn0088]

Keep the door firmly closed -- never consider answering a knock ---NEVER.

[@angeltexas3208]

🙏❤️🙏 enjoy your new life and prayers going up for peace and prosperity ✔️

[@christineZagorski]

I'm PROUD of you ❤ That kind of person is Extremely hard to get away from. GOID JOB ❤

[@DeborahThird-og1uo]

FREEEEEDOMMMMM!!!!!!! 👊

[@billyrubin3108]

The biggest sign that they don’t love you is when they want all of your attention disregarding the needs of your own family.

[@originalnightshade4582]

As a retired Psych nurse, I can tell you this is just not true, when you become a couple or marry YOUR PARTNER BECOMES YOUR FAMILY.

[@DeaconKid236]

Yes.

[@kimclark5998]

I'm done trying, relationships are for younger people I guess

[@kimlogan1278]

It's the younger people that are the worst ones.

[@icysnow57cold64]

I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other. Women do emotionally connect with other women, better than men do. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.

[@lulubelle53]

so true

[@icysnow57cold64]

@@lulubelle53 Women are better at understanding and communication. Women in general have an uncanny ability to read between the lines, to read body language, and to decipher meaning in what other people are actually trying to say, or to pick up on signals about what someone isn't trying to say, but what they are really thinking. When it comes to emotional compatibility, women prefer other women over men by a long shot. Women are a lot more emotionally compatible with other women than they are with men. Men and women are not really compatible with each other.

[@upstatevanlifer6918]

Good question its so much work id rather just forget it at this point. Between jobs paying bills kids parents house upkeep somehow 2 people suppose to worship the ground each other walk on too? Ya ok

[@icysnow57cold64]

@@upstatevanlifer6918 Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all, and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, And most couples who are still together are usually not happy being together. Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships.

[@dawnolson7276]

⁠​⁠@@icysnow57cold64 9:57

[@dhenderson1810]

I remember a woman on "Oprah" say that her husband used to leave the toilet seat up. It annoyed her. Her husband died in 9/11 and she said she would give anything to come home and see that toilet seat left up.

[@monarene44]

Excellent video. Totally on point.

[@millie-q5f]

So happy I came across this site Because every good sign mentioned here is exactly what I see in a person I'm most interested in and they too I fight for them all the time because they are sick and tired of unwanted attention that comes their way and comes and tells me I'm happy to defend them to the utmost WE spend alot of time together despite the fact many people are roundabout us we sit aside and only our friends come to us making sure we're ok😊 Thank you for this to know we're both on the right track

[@ez_the_dancer]

Wow. My twin flame did everyone of these 😢 especially #10. He didn’t care about my feelings.

[@cheadukes5837]

😅no

[@seaofstars223]

That's because twin flames are bs. They are trauma bonds or karmic.

[@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight]

NOT a twin flame then.

[@ez_the_dancer]

@@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight actually he is because he launched my spiritual interest and my dark night of the soul. His actions are meant to trigger me. And either way we are still interconnected so we are still connected 🤍💚🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@J.84]

Twin flame is bulshit. It is just another therm to tolerate an obsessive and toxic form of relationship! You launched the "spiritual awakening" and "dark night of the soul" on your own, being hurt and rejected of believe nonsense and "spiritual" hokuspokus. And if you really went through the dark night of the soul, then you wouldn't be here moping around that your supposed twin flame gives a gods damen shit about you. If it was selfless love then you could let it roam free like a butterfly and be happy and feel loved without boundaries including yourself. Think about it without a funny label🦋 Dont restrict yourself from happiness.

[@IreneElizondo-1974]

If they start screaming at you whenever you question them… they hate tot to truth and get. Very angry when they get confronted with the truth or question them so they have to tell truth!

[@TheBigdog868]

I was never a man the ladies paid much attention to. As such, the ones I ended up with saw me coming. What an easy mark I was! But it's okay. Nobody promised me that my life would be a rose garden. 🌹 I learned how to love myself through those mistakes. I learned how to fight and stand up for myself. I am working on learning how to trust again. It's been a long road. One that I may never finish. That too, is okay ❤ The only way to kill a dream is to achieve it.

[@angeltexas3208]

🙏❤️🙏

[@kimlogan1278]

Always love yourself.❤

[@corilemos7929]

Sometimes someone pushes you into being emotionally un attached. When the Trust is broken.

[@krodamobsta4873]

Playing victim you miss that one

[@LenSheppard-sc2vw]

Just roommates, superficial conversation, no future building. Lots of wisdom here. This can be said, it was made for me! Bad relationships are always made on sand.

[@willaknotts1298]

Friday dates. Catch up. Touching each other often. Hugs. Lots of compliments..subtly. Teach independence. Check in daily. Frequent calls. Dont play part of parent. Take responsibility always. Respect their privacy. Planning fun. Caring for them. Love is everything. ❤ You know the truth.

[@randyfocht737]

Love it. I always have to ask my wife for hugs. Never get them. She will push me away. No intimacy. No affection. No point being in a marriage without love! Love your thoughts!

[@AlbertTimmons]

What about not wanting to show affection , love or not wanting to have sex anymore ? Those should be big red flags ! I think I know a married couple like that , even if it's none of my business .

[@תמרעוזיאל-ת7ג]

The music is disturbing

[@Suzi195]

Love is not a noun; it's a verb. We tend to forget that and are constantly looking for that emotional lift and honeymoon feeling but that eventually leaves that's when real Love takes over and it becomes an action not a feeling.

[@dellaholzer1011]

Thank you for that information. Very helpful.😢

[@TracyS6309]

And what if there is no intimacy at all? Doesn’t listen 👂 to my needs for feeling loved. Wife is asking not hubby Dave.

[@kellyrooney282]

I have a hubby, Dave also, I ask and he doesn’t answer, NO intimacy for years! I gained weight because of medical issues. I had breast cancer and he didn’t even take me to appointments. The Cancer came back twice and I had to yell at him just to take me to radiation treatments! I have had enough, I’m leaving him! I should have done it years ago! I want to enjoy the time I have left. So far I’m cancer free, but - you never know!

[@Diana-007]

The flashing lights and AI voice is hard work!

[@helentaylor7132]

🤣 Yeah, didn't get a like from me either.

[@helentaylor7132]

But we did both comment which is an unfortunate bonus for "IT."

[@KarenTam-uq4pj]

My husband plays video games for hours, I am basically alone. Now looking back he was giving me those signs but with 2 children I held on. You won't allow yourself to see what so clear to others.😢

[@brandonsampson-qr9cq]

i learned the hard way... staying together to stave off a broken family never works...you just end up eating a bunch of s.h.1.t and not being able to give 100% to your kids due to suffering thru misery. its a hard lesson learned,but invaluable once you realize

[@blubberface9176]

I think he Loves me,but he has no respect. I never do anything right. I always had to prove myself,and he has a habit of giving compliment and then put you down. He hardly ever will admit he was wrong. I end up saying im sorry.

[@GidarGaming]

Some things to think about (rhetorical): 1 - Did he ever actually say "I love you" or do you merely think that yourself? 2 - Why doesn't he have respect for you, can you think of any reason why and does that reason make sense? 3 - When he puts you down, is it in a serious and hurtful way or a silly and playful teasing way for fun? 4 - How often is he wrong? Does his admission of wrongdoing line up well with his frequency of actually being wrong? Does he apologize when he has wronged you? 5 - Is it a mutually-beneficial relationship? Have you asked him tactful questions to determine his motivation to be with you?

[@gloriarangott8803]

Leave!!!😢

[@randyfocht737]

He's a narcissist. You cannot understand what he is until you study all of the things that Narcissist do. Please study!

[@AlleyWilliams-yl1pl]

Im so sad ,everyday im in tears ,. I fill so alone. He makes me feel so ugly , like im not good enough for him. Im a few yrs.older than him . My heart is so broken it hurts so bad . I have no self esteem anymore. I feel like im not goid enough to go out in public anymore.

[@sandramichaud8033]

My health insurance included a gym membership. I found good friends in small classes. If not that, some adult Ed craft classes where you can be with others and make new friends and laugh. I also found solace in sewing…making quilts…it’s a project that I enjoy doing. It takes a long time but I have a goal.

[@randyfocht737]

Long time past, time to leave

[@SusieMullins-t6i]

The background “music” here is insanely repetitious and revoltingly annoying. It completely distracts from what is being said. PLEASE TAKE IT AWAY!!! 😡😡😡😡😡

[@lizardme88]

I am 120 and I'm still confronting these truths in my life.

[@youngk001]

Ex boyfriend did all these except the contact one. always needed me to be in constant contact with him and made sure i was updating him on everything i was doing every 5-30 minutes smh. Im glad i walked away and had enough respect for myself.

[@laurakello8526]

He was insecure

[@SandyShore-nl3kr]

Have been with my partner 30 yrs +, he refuses to marry me although he told me to put my engagement ring back on, which I won't because it seems to be a lie!!! He seems to sit and just watch TV or go out for a walk or he also meets up with his mate once a week for a pint and a chat. I always know when he wants something...he starts smiling at me and being nice other times I may as well not be there and that is soon to become a reality!

[@JordonL]

Covert narcissistic ex I'm glad I'm free

[@dhenderson1810]

I think if they physically or psychologically abuse you, then they don't love you.

[@maxinemarcia]

i ws married 36 years and he exhibited the signs you mentioned. A very abusive dood. He became his father AND his mother and disappeared on me. It was awful . And i was powerless to do anything but put up with it. I knew how ill he was, but the devil took him over. I stayed and he decided to not get treatment for cancer. Before he died he told me how much he loved me. It took being on his death bed for him to "partially" come back to himself for 5 minutes. Then he went to the devil again. So just because they engage in the signs you state it's not always because they don't love you. The love is covered by layers of krap and they are buried alive.

[@jeanniesparks4624]

Well at least you aren't subject to him anymore.

[@maxinemarcia]

@@jeanniesparks4624 quite true

[@HilarioLarryCabrera]

This is maddening i dot divorced after 25 years. She admitted to me she didn't love from the start. This compliment theory. I would compliment her. Intold her since we were teenagers that she looked the most beautiful first thing in the morning. I loved seeing her at that moment. When she would get done up for events. She would worry about makup and stuff. I'd tell her just put as little as possible. You have real natural beauty. She would say: you just don't want to look good. (?). She would read and listen to all these Facebook or KZbin relationship stuff. I would find out as She would a random yet specific topic for a fight. Example: after listening to this one. I would come home to the following statement.... all those times you told me I don't need makeup. You don't say because you mean it. You just don't want me to look good. I then would ask; have I ever said? Don't wear that. Font wear makeup. Never right? I've just mentioned you need to worry about looking good. You always do, and i bring up that i,ve always felt your and saw your beauty in the morning. Not everyone can look good right when waking up. You do. Anyway, she is no longer my wife. After almost 28 years. She was just.crazy.

[@helenhamblin1468]

The music hinders

[@laiba7025]

All these signs are present in my relationship. He shows all these mentioned signs. Im really dumb and blinded by love😢

[@randyfocht737]

It's hard to understand a narcissist because they don't think like a normal person. It's not even their fault. They were raised without unconditional love and that makes a person dysfunctional, and often becomes a narcissist out of fear of not being good enough to be loved.

[@ramonanatividad8690]

I agree with this list, and it will serve to help me leave this individual and help live alone .

[@jknightwolf4574]

people emotionally abused in a narcissistic relationship will start doing some of these things ,mainly keeping away finding something to keep them busy and happy then get blamed for not loving, unfortunately some people dont realise they are in a toxic relationship until its too late.

[@GPDuchess]

I've been married for 30+ years; at first i was convinced he loved me, then i realized he didn't give a shit, he cheated, beat me, all the signs you stated; now that i finally had enough and fell out of love, he's the best partner one can have; wt...

[@dantimber]

Sorry. I'd draw the line on cheating or physical abuse whether it's a woman's husband or a man's wife.

[@Deb-om6rf]

@@dantimberAbsolutely!! Same here.

[@kimberlykachel]

I was married for 24 yrs. We never fought or argued about anything. He pretty much did whatever he wanted to do. I allowed him his space. But it was when I needed him to spend time with me and do things together, because that's what you do as a couple. He stated our personalities conflicted and he didn't love me anymore. He was just infatuated. 24 yrs of infatuation. Smh.

[@irena-z2g]

@@kimberlykachel I think he was selfish, and sounds like my 25 year marriage, toomuch freedom, got him in trouble, yup a 25 year affair he had, the whole course of the marriage, and even invited her to the wedding. Imagine that, then made her my friend, my fake friend who fucks her friends husband. Imagine that! I was in the hospital with a ten pound tumor removal, which suffocated my kidney, so kidney surgery removal, adrenal gland removal, lost tons of spinal fluid, almost died that nite, while he was playing with her in my bed at home! Imagine that! Some fakesters are the best actors, and they robbed ya of 25 years of authentic love, and then they steal your house, and i mean the fullhouse being almost paid off, and now at almost 70, not sure what will occur since the beautiful Illinois courts say, no fault divorce, 50/50 split marital funds, while he is still technically married to me, 28 months after abandonment without reason, cause, excuse, living in Kentucky with his new fiance, in her house she inherited from her dead fiance. Boy, he sure knows how to attract money, doesn't he, and then he wants 225 K from me, and may force me out of the home, I lmost have paid off, not to mention his attempts to get it into foreclosure, and now still, creditors after him, my credit rating drops, insurance drops due to him, it's a mess, and the courts smile, and give this liar, cheater, immature greedy person, rewards, actually reinforcing this devilish, selfhish behavior. Imagine that! And no wonder the women of justice balancing the scales is blindfolded, yes my county, Will County is blindfolded, and the judges don't even know the detai8ls of the case, as the attorneys never presented it, and everyone gets richer, at our expense, all of them: financial, emotional, spiritual, record wise for credit rating, oh my, and it doesn't stop, until you sign on the dotted line, turn insane, or attempt to do yourself in. Yes, many many people couldn't take one more abuse, rejection, or problem forced upon them, out of their control, due to the vitriol of the husband or wife, in this day and age! Imagine that! The courts don't protect the innocent, they reward the guilty, the ones who claim bankrupt and being poor, while they drive their vets, wearing their rolex watches! Imagine that! And so the world spins on illusions of truth, when in reality, there are no soft clouds or rainbows, but jagged spiked edges which cut to the quip, so watch your loved one carefully, and be sure he/she is authentic, do not accept face value and words, but actions, lest you find yourself in a complicated web of lies, wherein you got no out, and are about to be eaten alive! Exit the web, while you can, and watch for the signs, so amply illustrated here.

[@abigailslade3824]

Number one is not necessarily true as both my husband and I like doing things by ourself but also like spending time together too.

[@dhenderson1810]

Yeah, you don't want to spend every second together.

[@rebeccablalock8021]

Whn they allow others to tlk abt u or run u dwn,or they do it themselves

[@athenacaimtarot]

This is more karmic lesson. Relationship should be equal. Not 1 way. Not sexual based only. If you remember when you may have met wait only sensually based and not much in common at all. Was it toxic somehow. For example always drinking or doing drugs extra. Then that may have been karmic lesson. They don't beat you down physically or mentally or verbal.

[@RobinsonPeter-xd4fw]

My Ex wife had all these signs, she made me a fool for 25 years, many times I pointed out and mentioned it to her she didn't reply single time she kept me just as husband as decorations piece, she was secretly engaged with how many I didn't know but when I knew I gave her chances to come back but she said she can continue a friend ship with me instead married life, I gave her every thing, good home,boys, luxury life specially the love I madly deeply delivered. Now I'm happy to have a free life I don't trust women now it's broken.

[@christineZagorski]

I'm so sorry... This is my story in reverse, I finally got a divorce from him after being married for 43 long years. I gave him The Best Years of my Life, sadly it was never reciprocated. I found the courage to set myself free.. I had never lived alone before so that took some adjusting.. But I'm doing just fine... There's hope no matter how old you are. We are responsible for our own happiness ❤ Hard lesson learned..

[@RobinsonPeter-xd4fw]

@@christineZagorski thanks for the comment, may Lord Jesus be with you for the rest of your life. Amen 🙏🙏

[@maydaman728]

I love this channel❤️ Please lower the music in the background, because it’s loud and having hard time listening to you!

[@flora5398]

Doesn’t help you when needed, even if he/she can. Only shows up for fun times. Leaves when you’re sick, or feeling down. Avoids talking in depth about the relationship. Only talks in vague terms, very superficial.

[@AshleysAngelsForever]

I'm going through this process right now. I have been faithfully married for 30 years? Wow.