10 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Do!

[@sugarplumfairy20101]

Ok, rise your hand if you came here just to be better and more classy person but no intentions to grab a rich guy at all.

[@BikiniBanana]

Same here. But it's "rAise" your hand! 😊

[@flutistnotflautist4740]

I'm already married. I'm here to elevate myself.

[@WhiteHatDance]

I think Anna should rebrand her online media too, taking this into consideration.

[@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult]

@@WhiteHatDance yes. she is missing on a lot of $$$$$ gor focusing on the grab a rich guy lens

[@poisonedchalice]

Yes!!!!!

[@christinekobzeff]

Yes! This world needs more elegance!

[@winxlife2990]

I’m just here for fun, elegance is something that I never wanna have as a lifestyle since it’s unrealistic for my personality tho being elegant at work is all I need to do.

[@amnalatif4308]

I couldn't agree more. Yes this world needs more elegance

[@celesteinman56]

What are your thoughts on crossing your ankels and or crossing at the knees?

[@celesteinman56]

My husband's things it's sexy to show panty liners through clothes he claims it makes a man think of the panties their wearing. I certainly will don't see think that's elegant at all. I think dressing in a style that is smooth and not unkept looking is best. Your thoughts please. Thank you

[@mahrokhshayanpour3165]

Yes. Less trump

[@anjuvarghese5012]

Hey elegant ladies scrolling down have a nice day:-)

[@vidaamao3664]

Hahaha 😂🤣🤣

[@teeramirez464]

You as well! 😁

[@dalcloud8873]

Thank you! :)

[@jiexitee1627]

hahahahahha

[@silverxlightningx262]

girls support girls

[@cinderwhite]

As a mother, these are the things I want my daughter to know, not for any potential men, but for her own image and grasp on her own life.

[@oliveb6318]

I learned these when I was 19. I am blessed to have elegant, smart and classy women in my family.

[@annee3657]

So lucky...

[@miavos3610]

Are you bragging? Not elegant.

[@valka_zapalka]

Mia Vos sharing is not bragging. She doesn’t say that it’s an obvious thing a lady should know, she says that she’s grateful for having this influence in her life.

[@ksysha1987]

Валерия Иванова it was a joke 😊

[@clastriellepumenoza4452]

Mia Vos she’s flexing

[@italiantraditionalcatholic2390]

This is a big one.. I'm always telling my daughter..A real Lady doesn't chase men.. exactly right..

[@dellagillianwinterton969]

Agreed! I never did. Never was short for choice 😏

[@LoralLee]

@E Dennis So many people seem to operate from the assumption that they're one-dimensional and that fixing themselves up means they're not being real. I fail to see the logic in premise, but it definitely seems to have a lot of avid disciples.

[@allennassuna6640]

Please tell me more about chasing men coz I might be doing it unknowingly .

[@LoralLee]

@travpoet I'm afraid you've entirely misunderstood my meaning, and with that misunderstanding, decided I warranted a personal attack. My assertion is that people are not superficial simply because they prefer jeans over suits, or vice versa. Nor are people being fake or playing games simply because they wear both jeans and suits, depending on the occasion. However, it IS quite superficial to judge someone's entire character based on one facet of a story that someone else tells about them. We were told that a man dumped a lady because she wore sweatpants. It's both superficial and simplistic to think that that was the whole story when we know that people and relationships are so much more complex than that. Incidentally, I'm not a "couch." I'm a depth psychologist who also offers coaching. And since you know nothing about me, your personal attack is an example of projection, which means that your remarks are a reflection on you, not on me. You've just given us valuable insight into your own character.

[@racatiwood]

what if he nicks your wallet?

[@علياءأسترولوجي]

10 things elegant ladies never do! 1- never dress inappropriately 2- never show lack of confidence 3- never speak carelessly 4- do not have bad habits 5- never aploads provocative pictures 6- never chase men 7- never have bad posture 8- never have aggressive body language 9- never desperate 10- never does uncalculated things 🙏

[@khadijahussain5353]

Thank you so much for this I m searching for this

[@joand2217]

Thank you. Safed my time

[@mondaypositivitea]

Thank you

[@strp4051]

Lets be honest we all search for this summury❤

[@poonamveethu9483]

Ok thanks ❤️

[@PaigeyPie95]

I don't understand how people say you are toxic to women. You take feminism to the perfect level. You teach confidence and integrity. You let women know they have a choice and can accomplish whatever they put their mind to. If I wasn't a broke college kid I'd probably look into getting your online school.

[@angelaalfarovillanueva7347]

Feminism is not about how you wear your clothes or control your movements, is a different way of understanding the social relationships between men and women and their positions in the politic Sistem in any country. And her message isn't good because all her videos end up the same way: how to be elegant and to be a lady in order to married a rich guy. These kind of believes enforced the traditional gender roles: man who provides and "buy" a real woman, and woman who plays the role of a Barbie doll. Her message is really dangerous because gives an only one choice of being dignified and respected as a woman (i apologize for my english, wich is not my maternal language). She's not talking about self respect and acceptance, she's talking about how to be into the beaty system and how yo be liked and well accepted by man and rich people.

[@fers4822]

The way I see it, she does teach gender role, but she doesn’t encourage all women to be like that. But the ones who decide to take this lifestyle or want this type of life (classic wife) they know how to do it in the best way. I think feminism is about being free to choose, if you don’t want to get married for example, if you want to get married but not taking anything from your husband or if you want to keep the traditional gender role. It’s okay if you want to choose that too. Feminism is about never being forced to be anything we don’t want. By the way, I don’t look for a rich man and so on but I do appreciate her channel and the things she says.

[@theBallisticMystic]

angela alfaro villanueva That's your interpretation of what she's saying but she's not actually saying any of that. What she's talking about is actually female empowerment, because the level of refinement she's talking about can't be achieved without having some intelligence, a very strong sense of identity and a high regard of your own self worth. Also, she never says that her advice is for all women. She always says it's about personal choice. Maybe you can't hear when she's saying that? She's selling a specific product and you don't have to buy it, but you don't have to burn down her market stall either.

[@IDontCare39]

@@angelaalfarovillanueva7347 there might be things I disagree but in general her channel is a breath of fresh air. It won't be appeased by every audience when you see nowadays people idolising celebrities like Cardi b. And that's OK. But this is her perspective and I quite agree with it. Because I too love elegance in a person

[@lianatitova1582]

They would say she is toxic because she goes against modern "all accepting" and tolerant society. When Londoners celebrate variety and diversity, quite the opposite- she says "you got to work on yourself and improve yourself to get batter man, friends and so on", when our society says "be loved for who you are"

[@shebasand6203]

I love how straight to the point you are not caring about sassy people calling you a hater. I agree 200% with the list you made ♡

[@salsavidies]

“Never slouch....” Me: suddenly straightened my back

[@wangare8860]

Hahahaha

[@sagefox1399]

Sameeeee

[@blezzeleeadigue7117]

Same here😂

[@rajs5228]

😆😆

[@businesslady7840]

I did as well 🤣🤣🤣

[@paralumanpenaflor9772]

Im not looking for a rich man but your channel is teaching me how to become a lady with elegance. I think elegance will never be out of trend. Thank you! Edit: Ladies, let us strive to become confident and refined individuals. Let's raise our future daughters like ones too! ❤️

[@chaloevibes4355]

Paraluman Peñaflor same with me too

[@jeniferjohnson374]

Perfect expression of why I too watch Anna’s channel!

[@ritabos7162]

“I’m not looking for a rich man” is the biggest lie ever told. You may not be “looking” for him but you sure as heck wouldn’t pass the opportunity to be with one if given the chance. I keep seeing these kind of comments in her videos and they really make my eyes roll. Be real.

[@ABJK-ds4wq]

Rita Bos you do realize married women could be watching too to learn manners and etiquette? Relax with your judgement.

[@nmernst]

Same - happily married for 10 years but am looking to be my best feminine self.

[@amberkhan3692]

I prefer how your channel is less a about finding a rich man and more about being an elegant lady. I really look forward to learning more from you x

[@mariellelopez7710]

Desperation and aggression. Such great reminders to polish ourselves even at home.

[@katherinemargeson8082]

Marielle Lopez Ambition and assertiveness are better ways to achieve a goal, but it’s a tricky line to walk.

[@marinaalex0510]

@@NightinGal89 Assertive yes, never aggressive. The difference is - an assertive person acts on reaching his/her goals (or strive to) without hurting others.

[@Julia-eq9dc]

Oui 👍🏼 c’est ça oui

[@syedyahyasafdari-d2174]

True!

[@Morgana5886]

Desperation attracts scarcity. When you're abundant, you don't need to sell yourself short.

[@shristisahu9087]

11 Elegant ladies,,, do not share their personal life with everyone. They keep their things to themselves. That's very important 👆🏻

[@Eternal_stardust]

True , need to include this point in my life . Thanks

[@bhumikamondal5383]

Very true maam

[@angelsweet9611]

yup, recently got a new job and haven't told my friends

[@bhumikamondal5383]

@@angelsweet9611 congratulation🎆🎊

[@angelsweet9611]

@@bhumikamondal5383 thanks!, its a stepping stone from my old one! more professional and ill be able to dress more elegant!

[@LyndonLaRoucheArchive]

Listen up ladies, she's describing how my grandmother used to behave. Wasnt very rich, but she was very stern, proper, elegant, and we all loved her to death.

[@traciaskew4385]

My mom is the same way she is 79

[@asmrchickpea5392]

Is it just me or isn't her voice and the way she talks so soothing? Love the mic she's using too! *I can't get enough!*

[@gofishblowfish]

ASMR Anna 💕🤣💕

[@jamiegermaniuk7900]

I’m married and have no interest in “entering society and catching a rich man” but you give wonderful advice for all women to come across better. Thank you

[@Catherine3385]

Same

[@Catherine3385]

@@bugeye8749 Well aren't you a lovely person. You must be very happy in your life. Full of friends and family that love your wisdom and sweetness.

[@alluringbliss4165]

I;m single and not interested in men poor or rich. I have a lot of work to do on myself and this video is a good start.

[@teeramirez464]

True.

[@ceciliayung4003]

I try to teach my 13 year old son similar tips of looking refined, just as my parents taught us. It's just difficult when my hubby isn't always on the same page.

[@OlgaPogozheva]

Actually, despite all the hate I sometimes meet in the comment, Anna is talking business here. She is talking about obvious things, that come naturally to some, but for some girls those might come as a revelation. And it's a good thing to grab an advice or two about being more elegant in your everyday life, regardless of the results you want to achieve in your life.

[@chesneectp]

We need something like this for men too because although chivalry isn't "dead", a lot of men nowadays know nothing about how to treat a woman 🙄

[@rochelleowens6501]

Check out Kevin Samuels. He has alot of info for men. If you know about him in his earlier videos he gives this info to men. There is another man who teaches men how to dress.

[@kathleengivant-taylor2277]

I often thought the same thing

[@user-ur7km9fx2c]

If you're not content with what Kevin Samuels is doing you can also start your own channel to educate men too 😁

[@nicolegonzalez7428]

I think we as women let men know how to treat us. We either expect them to be respectful or... accept whatever behavior we receive. Don't be desperate for any kind of attention. Respond well and compliment men on the behavior you want repeated. How else will they know if they haven't been taught? Ladies, we are the gate keepers! Don't allow or settle for bad/ disrespectful treatment. It's okay to walk away!

[@janiceburgess4679]

Always live by these rules... I'm 58 and have always had the respect of others... My reputation is everything to me.

[@christineguerrero5678]

You look like a beautiful classy woman in your picture.

[@ladyporter2851]

So true :) Our reputations are all that we have.

[@MysteryMeetGirl]

As soon as she said bad posture, there I go sitting up straight on the chair lol gotta love Anna for calling you out.

[@bela1832]

MysteryMeetGirl thank God, I’m not the only one lol

[@lovelife7415]

Haha i think so

[@pavornocturnus1145]

Your channel is a blessing in a world full of joggingpants and ugly sneakers. Being elegant doesn't mean you have to be rich. But respectful to yourself and others. Don't scream in your damn phone in public, don't put your feet on a seat, etc.

[@personincognito3989]

And don't swear

[@makeupdarling6171]

My goodness, yes! Absolutely agree with both of you. 👍🏻

[@MoonLynxWaterPower]

@@personincognito3989 I like to swear now and again but only with people Im close with as it will not diminish my image around them.

[@personincognito3989]

@@MoonLynxWaterPower I get that

[@narcismebelgie]

Writing 'damn' is also not lady like ;) just saying. :)

[@qw-ho1pe]

Elegant woman never have to try hard to get attention. 😉

[@destinycharles2237]

Just gonna clear something up so that no one mis-interprets what Anna means by "Eliminate your ticks". What she likely means to say is "Eliminate fidgeting". She doesn't mean actual medical "ticks", which are common in those experiencing Tourette Syndrome or have unexplainable muscle ticks, whether that be verbal or a physical, muscular one. You're not inherently less elegant just because of this. Love yourself and follow the rest of Anna's steps, because you're more than deserving of your own efforts towards improvement❤👍🏾 I love this video, everything in this is SPOT ON

[@karpatfree]

Wow, I learned all of these things as a young lady growing up in NYC. My parents thought it essential to learn good manners, speak and sit well, how to use utensils, etc. Thank you to all the lovely ladies who taught me from the U.S. Virgin Islands and British Virgin Islands.

[@CynthiaL]

The two finger trick for dressing, is a great idea! Also, I’m so happy you are talking about the importance of women not taking provocative pictures and dressing in this manner.

[@Lafemmefutile]

I don’t know why people are mostly asking about fashion ideas when Instagram, Pinterest and KZbin is full of examples. This channel is about behavior not just clothes or fashion.

[@RationallyMe]

I don't get it either, some things are basic, common sense. There have been numerous responses to those questions such as buy magazines such as Town and Country or find classy celeb role models like Kate Middleton, Megan Markle, etc. Some questions are so unnecessary and such a waste of time.

[@mollymae7069]

People like to be told exactly what to do, instead of finding it for themselves. That way they can come back and blame, instead of just trying again.

[@lilysantos7427]

Because they just want to seem elegant. Even if their actions are not. It’s only about “looking”, not “being”. I don’t get it

[@Lafemmefutile]

Ana Lily Santos Santos I suspect it’s the “Look expensive crowd”. What’s the point if you display masculine energy and are totally unaware of all the subtle wrongs things you do? Looking like Grace Kelly without the grace won’t serve you!

[@RationallyMe]

@@whollitrolli Megan can be used as an elegant role model by anyone who chooses because, as a royal, she dresses elegantly. Lots of people have had very negative things to say about Megan because they don't like the fact that Harry married a half black woman-- which is why I suspect you are saying she shouldn't be a role model simply for style. No need to respond in denial, with a bunch of lame reasons. I don't expect you to admit your real reason for singling Megan out when it has long been reported that Kate Middleton and mom were social climbers.

[@vietha7934]

1. Dress inappropriately 2. Lack of confidence 3. Speak carelessly 4. Bad habit (cracking fingers...) 5. Provocative pictures 6. Chase men 7. Bad posture 8. Aggressive body language 9. Miscanculated things

[@lose999]

#11 do not chew gum. #12 do not speak with a mouth full of food and chew with your mouth closed.

[@PaperMario64]

*9. Not desperate *10. Miscalculated Things

[@ravenfair6661]

Buy donuts at the local Quick Trip

[@bzebee5979]

Việt Hà. Thanks.

[@preciousmarie1694]

4 and 7 is me.. I was living with two little brothers for 11 years. That just explained those numbers.

[@betty4gators]

You are so wise. I believe all ladies especially younger ladies need to take your course - it could truly change lives - for the better!

[@aditi1729]

Time to become the elegant independent woman I’ve always dreamt of being

[@kerribeth7176]

The world needs more elegance

[@mariatsipe2574]

The “never be desperate” part is brilliant! It does show on your face.

[@radiandrea]

This should be taught in high schools. Thank you. I am going to show this video to my daughter.

[@archyolonde4237]

me: checking my Instagram posts to delete any provocative picture 😂😂😂..

[@puritystephens7555]

miss Volcar I’m About to do the same

[@vimbaimutomba1408]

Me right now 😂

[@Chantieslife]

Yep

[@sakshideshmukh8092]

Me right now thinking about same😂😂😂

[@firsttianrahmawati352]

So do i 😅😅

[@teresai1877]

Thank you so much Ana for encouraging us not to sell ourselves short: not to be desperate for a man, friends, etc. That we should focus on our goals and those people who recognize our value will be attracted to us. This is such a powerful message to women and for anyone. It really helped me a lot Ana! You're really changing the world. So many women want to be feminine and elegant and don't know how, but you are teaching us the way. God bless!

[@teedollxx]

Can you also make a video about shoes and pants in the winter? A lookbook would be nice..

[@OrangeBotton]

We definitely need a lookbook!

[@2DeathComesSlowly1]

Yes! A winter lookbook, please!

[@hollywood7702]

That would be great!

[@de1e7e]

A lookbook for real Scandinavian winter! :)

[@elleh.3235]

So True.... thank You 😊

[@elaineanderson4891]

No over talking people. If people are over talking you and cutting you off, that is a sign not to be around these kind of people.

[@belssage]

That also signifies lack of confidence and immaturity, regardless of age.

[@user-rs3qn9vp3q]

MY PET PEEVE

[@ChiaraFrancioli]

There's the "full of excitement" talking over which may sound childish but usually comes from a well meaning place and then there's the nasty "I know better" kind of talking over. If someone starts talking over me in this second, aggressive, way I learnt to shut up suddenly, as if someone turned my mic off: it works like a charm :) To be fair: pointing at someone's rudeness is never elegant so this is a small etiquette faux pas, however I chose to practice it as this subtle hint seems to get respect back.

[@Niaesco888]

Or people who finish your sentences omg such a pet peeve. Let me say what I want to say.

[@sladana.g.]

Agreeing - so disrespectful.

[@DeliaNErik]

Omg I agree ☝️ 💯 i believe we don’t have to show our skin to look elegant

[@hiraijaz3777]

Islam teaching us that for 1400years.

[@Joannahartley]

I absolutely LOVE this!!! I am the Mother of 4 ladies, and 1 son. And I am trying to teach my daughters how to be elegant!

[@sgrundyuk]

One thing that I notice about you and something that I have always admired in other elegant ladies, most notably Kate Middleton, is the way you speak. You speak slowly and never sound overly excited. Have you taken elocution lessons and do you have any tips on how to speak with more poise and eloquence?

[@ailurophileluv]

I agree. I wanted to know too

[@teedollxx]

A new video so I can learn. People won't recognize me anymore when I am a elegant lady!

[@itsmeGeorgina]

😎

[@garnetsword]

Getting there.

[@kritikitti3868]

You will have to give up those friends in low places😁🎈

[@mrsgiggles85]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Margret-kisakye]

🤣

[@zinab2blessa]

I am so glad you spoke about personal branding and being aware of one's image. It is a VERY important part.

[@whollitrolli]

I just saw my affluent man today. I wore a button up white shirt, nice gray trousers, and red shoes. My man said I looked natural, elegant, and casual (as it was a casual day) . Thank you again so much! I learn so much from you. You are my mentor and I appreciate you. ❣

[@whollitrolli]

@Eva Green Lover in the states! Chicago actually!

[@whollitrolli]

I've been trying very hard

[@kyle_d08]

Elegant ladies do not chase men. Proverbs 11:16 “A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches.” King James Version (KJV)

[@cassey7532]

Yes !

[@medmaxima]

Yes what she talks is a standard from bible too! Let man be man. Let woman be woman :)

[@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64]

Amen.

[@manteigadecacau990]

Good principles there. Who doesn't enjoy being surrounded by elegant, polite people? It helps you gain the respect and admiration of others and also makes you feel good about yourself.

[@laurenrichardson7870]

Very cool you talked about using correct grammar as a NATIVE speaker, when learning a second language we should strive to do our best, but still be confident when we make mistakes :) Love your videos!

[@4everu984]

Thank you!!! I am happily married and use your channel as a family therapist. Everything is so helpful. People pay good money and don’t want a sloppy or lazy counselor to help them through life.your channel can be called elegance or I chose the word Integrity. Nice to get reminded. 💕💞💕.

[@shelbywilliams1603]

These comments are hilariously entertaining. For what it’s worth I agree with this entire video and am so thankful for Anna’s level headed, intelligent and classy content. Something woman in our society now are seriously lacking. Being classy and elegant seems to be a completely foreign concept to a lot of woman now. It’s sad, thank you Anna ♥️

[@kudos1929]

This is how we were taught back in my younger days!! We need to teach our younger generation what it means to be elegant and be a strong empowered lady! Believing in oneself and able to carry oneself with grace and confidence not just to catch a good loving husband. I love your channel!! You are given divine work to impart to other women your knowledge on this and what has been lacking in society. Most men will really treat you with respect and dignity if you know these things. Keep up the good work!!

[@ariserraon4267]

Oh yes, we need more people like you to teach manners and elegance! Seems that's a dying breed these days among men and women. Thank you!!

[@artdecorillustrations]

I'm so happy to have found your channel! We need more influence like yours -elegance, class and good manners. It's sad that youtube/instagram is dominated by non-classy ( trashy) people who have a big impact on this generation. Keep up the great work!

[@elizabethblanford8569]

#11: don't chew with your mouth open

[@plankenhorst]

Exactly

[@shachede6828]

that is just animal behaviour

[@Delphi333]

Or worse - speak while chewing

[@RoxanneGutierrez010]

Or scrape your fork with your teeth

[@elizabethblanford8569]

Roxanne Gutierrez that one gets me every time!!!

[@heart12361]

Great video, Anna. As some others have mentioned, some of us are not interested in finding a rich man but we would love to live a more elegant life in our everyday world. You're a treasure trove of great advice and tips! Thank you.

[@margaret3883]

Most of what is 'popular' now is classless, tasteless, and more importantly, setting the wrong example for younger girls. Thank you for this video!

[@Eva-ru8en]

I started a new job but I’ve been feeling like a potato and very uncomfortable. I didn’t know why or what I was missing till KZbin recommended one of your videos. I see that it’s elegance that I’ve been missing and craving. And I’m loving everything you have to say ❤️ you are a breathe of fresh air ☺️

[@Fafalina500]

Bringing back classy behavior :)

[@strawtifulbonnie9363]

I consider that classy behaviour should always be on our daily basis, but, i really appreciate that she tries to put their again on the road

[@patriciagreen7037]

Agree! In raising my daughters my motto has been “keep it classy”. Applied to every situation. This video is a valuable reminder. Thanks Anna. 🌟

[@barbeezlife]

Can you do a video on how to handle constantly rude people and stay elegant ..especially when it's family .. I find my favorite line to be what you accept you teach but sometimes I don't know how to stop confronting people.

[@amywright2243]

I find your lists an excellent form of "course correction" for business behavior as well. Professionalism in the workplace involves social elegance and mental control, especially for women as they rise through the ranks. Thank you for your studied approach.

[@jessicamessica2271]

You know, I feel like since I started dressing more elegantly, although still with that touch of quirkyness that i feel like expresses my personality, I have attracted better quality men. I think if you look like a lady, your more likely to attract a man who wants to be a gentleman, and for me, thats the most important quality a man can have. I just love a man, that knows how to be a gentleman.

[@sony-rv8xe]

Hi Anna, how one should dress elegantly in college , I would love to know from you 😘

[@deeem9750]

Yeess

[@m.lovely6631]

Look for preppy looks on pinterest

[@enchantresschi6030]

yes please, I need this video

[@bringthesoul2983]

i really need this video

[@samrudhik8757]

Totally! I need this one too

[@christinethevirgo]

I have been following you for a while and I really like your beauty and elegance. I have listened to your advice about mannerisms and fashion. I have started dating again and thanks to you I do feel more confident and classy.

[@jkruse08]

Anna, I've never seen you talk about how men love a women who has a drive or passion for her career or hobby. It is amazing how their eyes brighten when they learn that my job(personal training and estheticis) are what I am passionate about.

[@wittypanda7190]

I tried telling my friends never to talk to guys first or asking them to meet Finally😏

[@samahisaani1881]

Can you do one on gym etiquettes and behavior

[@amyliataylor]

Samah Isaani yess please :)

[@sozearrashid9012]

Samah Isaani don’t wear see through yoga pants and moan there you go😂

[@samahisaani1881]

@@sozearrashid9012 touchè 😂

[@e.h-v.8070]

@@sozearrashid9012 😂😂😂😂

[@nedafar6973]

Yesss

[@katherinemargeson8082]

Hi, Anna. A video on specific ways to improve posture and speech would be great.

[@zaynam5521]

Katherine Margeson agreed! :)

[@RationallyMe]

Improve posture: Yoga, stretching, sit up straight by pushing butt to the back of the chair, Improve Speech: Modulate voice, speak slower, pronounce words completely, increase vocabulary (there's a book you can buy on Amazon).

[@LoralLee]

@RationallyMe Merriam-Webster online has a word-a-day email program you can sign up for, too, if you want to increase your vocabulary.

[@sarneepinkque9115]

@@RationallyMe also look up core stabilising/ strengthening exercises on here. It's (core i.e back and tummy ) weakness that stops you from sitting up right.

[@katherinemargeson8082]

RationallyMe A Great ideas! A few good books on speaking well I’ve found are textbooks: Speaking Clearly Gravitas And, of course, Grammar for Dummies For posture, I’ve found Ellie Herman’s Pilates books and the pearl button vest method work really well.stretching the hip flexors is also helpful. Still, it would be helpful to see some more examples and exercises.

[@williamkazak]

Great advice. As a man, I notice cleanliness and appropriate makeup, especially eyebrows.

[@francinelee2766]

There’s no way a dude said that. Bots much..?? 🤷🏻‍♀️ (plz stop making up you’re own comments) 🤥

[@williamkazak]

@@francinelee2766 as a photographer of beautiful women and a man who went to beauty school to learn hairdressing, I can tell you my preferences and what I notice. Eyebrows are especially noticeable to me.

[@ojongbernice9452]

Who else is in love with the way she talks and her accent😍😍😍

[@geadonnamoore2719]

She never says um. Her speech never has a hesitation unless it is edited out.

[@saharja9197]

Meeee

[@tabc6870]

These are great for women who want to be more successful in the workplace also. I interact with clients a lot and things go more smoothly when your manners etc are in check. It’s taken a lot of work because I grew up in very poor conditions. But I’m happy I put in the effort.

[@cindytait5146]

The Kardashians should take your advice

[@thegrandmasabrina]

Lol

[@strawtifulbonnie9363]

*Kardashians left the chat

[@goldieyesgods]

But they are golddiggers

[@denisepereira8880]

They never will.... they self made billionaires base on doing the opposite what this school is about

[@denisepereira8880]

cindy tait plus each one of them are more richer than they man

[@sarahmackeprangesquell6660]

AARRRGH!!!! Speaking of bad habits, a personal pet peeve of mine is when someone says "I'm sorry but..." it drives me crazy! My mother does this to me and I keep telling her either be 100% sorry or not at all. The 'but' after 'I'm sorry' reminds me of the fine print no-one bothers to read. It cancels the apology, in my opinion. I do love your videos! I sincerely miss the era of manners, having respect for oneself and others and generally more kindness being shown to each other. Thank you for letting me vent!

[@AC-ow5kx]

So what should we say instead?

[@sarahmackeprangesquell6660]

@@AC-ow5kx only apologize for something if you truly caused unintentional harm.

[@sarahmackeprangesquell6660]

@@edennis8578 never thought of it as a linguistic tic; I appreciate your point of view. My mother and I seem to butt heads no matter the circumstances! Next time she says this to me I'll try better to mind my manners.

[@llamasugar5478]

Sarah Mackeprang I told my kids, “When you add the ‘but’, it turns your apology into an excuse.” Don’t blame anyone else. Take responsibility. The other one that gets me is the “No offense, but . . .” You /know/ they’re about to say something offensive, but they expect a pass.

[@llamasugar5478]

I’m not sure about it being a tic. Maybe sometimes. I took it as something like, “I’m sorry I didn’t get that report to you by Thursday, but things have been hectic at the office.” Or, “I’m sorry I yelled at you, but you forgot to _______.” In both examples, the apologist is saying it wasn’t really their fault. An excuse.

[@beverleyroberts1025]

Very good information here. Another one is gossiping. I confided something in a work friend years ago, and thought very highly of this person, until I realised she had gossiped to others about what I had said. Straight away that person went right down in my estimation and I realised she'd let not only me down but herself. 😄

[@darlenejbutler7971]

Beverley Roberts 7

[@jema9735]

So true!!? No gossiping!!

[@ondemandaquaworkouts]

And ladies: stay fit!

[@janaachas179]

Thank you for reminding me this! I can relate to this 10 topics because these were taught to me by my parents and now with all the things happening around me I feel like I'm not myself anymore! This video suggested by KZbin is a blessing in disguise! Now I can say that I'm getting back to who I used to be slowly. Thank you so much!

[@lydiamclaughlin7100]

Hi Anna, I love your videos, classic elegance is a lost art, thank you for bringing it back! Hello from Canada.

[@ritabos7162]

Anna as soon as I saw the notification, I just had to watch. Great video 👍🏻

[@mihaela255]

The soul emanates a certain type of energy....this is the main ingredient.

[@austriagiancarlo435]

Everything on your list was drilled into me by my Mother, she was on the international best dressed list myriad times. Thank you for sharing your secrets of comportment.

[@havanax8096]

Her channel is literally helping me to look more classy and mannered 👍 it's an amazing channel ladies

[@debracannonrndsn2564]

Provocative photos are an advertisement but not for elegance.

[@LittleEnergyShop]

Debra Cannon,RN,DSN stop

[@debracannonrndsn2564]

elizabeth benson what am I supposed to stop? As a 66 year old lady I have a right to my opinion.

[@LittleEnergyShop]

Debra Cannon,RN,DSN urs you do abc respected me lady And I expressed mine

[@LittleEnergyShop]

Debra Cannon,RN,DSN I’m s 40 year old women since were bring up age. Think I’ve paid a feed or two to express myself

[@markutop]

elizabeth benson l

[@cirquedumaiquel]

This blouse is EVERYTHING! It looks casual yet ever so elegant ✨

[@luxmifrei9759]

My mum was a stickler for good behaviour and sensible dress code. She would have been thrilled to have read your comment on elegance. She was the best elegant role model for me. She was 82 when she left us. May she rest in peace. 💐🇨🇭🥳

[@just_jeh8661]

Thank you for teaching this.. Some Ladies nowadays lost the true meaning of elegance. That's so sad.

[@susanmacaluso5218]

Amen to everything you've said. Forget about trying to find the man...I am SO ready for elegance and etiquette to return.

[@naomisherred166]

Hi. I am in a wheelchair- is there any chance you could do a video with some tips for me whilst being in a very inelegant wheelchair please? With hopeful thanks in advance xx

[@marinaalex0510]

I admire you for posting here. I am not in a wheelchair but after surviving a minor stroke I am left with an impaired equilibrium. It is not prominent for people to see, but I feel like my movements appear as "non-confident". So I hear you

[@naomisherred166]

@@marinaalex0510 thank you! As a disabled person I try so hard to sit up as straight as possible in my chair and dress as well as I can in an elegant fashion but it is very hard and I sometimes feel society as a whole just kind of ignores us (not necessarily in a nasty way - we just seem to be on the sidelines if that makes sense?!). Would love to feel more lady like. Sending good wishes to you too sweetie xx

[@marinaalex0510]

​@@naomisherred166 Just from what and how you've shared, you are not lady like - YOU ARE A REAL LADY ❣❣❣that is what I've sensed so you should feel that way, never mind the society. I am a bit "on the other side" of your problem, meaning my condition doesn't show, I even look younger than my age (57) and always get compliments on that. But I almost all the time feel scared now and people even close ones don't seem to understand. But I do like to be and feel groomed and elegant and always glad to learn and/or pay attention to things I've missed. I like Anna's channel, as to me it is a SCHOOL OF ELEGANCE. I wish all the best to you, remember you are a lady❤

[@naomisherred166]

@@marinaalex0510 Aw thank you for such a lovely reply to my comment - it means a lot to me. I feel for you - I really do as invisible illnesses are even harder I think as people often don't understand. Sending you lots of healing thoughts and again thank you for your kind comment ❤

[@marinaalex0510]

@@naomisherred166 Thank you Naomi

[@letstalk3741]

This is a great conversation to help women appreciate being elegant.

[@consciouslypure2176]

Recently came across your channel and it really resonated with me. I never really liked elegance until a few years ago, I used to think elegant ladies are arrogant, overly sensitive about everything and just generally acting princess like so I always tried to be completely different. However this hasn’t completely satisfied me, I felt like something is not quite right, I wondered why so many people who I thought are like me, are so rude, inappropriate and which lives I don’t understand. I realised that I haven’t been spending time with the right people. And I’m beginning to see, thanks to you, that being elegant doesn’t mean that you’re a princess who can’t do anything for herself and take no responsibility for anything because she’s too precious, and needs a wealthy man so he can pay for everything that she doesn’t have to lift a finger so she has time to just look into the mirror for the rest of her life. This really opened my eyes, and I’m glad that I can be elegant and classy and still a responsible and confident adult rather than a spoiled princess.

[@floraakongo3835]

I'm born again Christian i love my JESUS so much ,i just pop in your channel and I'm new sub i love your channel your teaching your videos and is so good.Blessings

[@milamitchell9652]

Good for you sister

[@ramonacaquias3748]

Everything you are saying here is so on point. Being naked and showing too much is never elegant nor posting those type of photos it is so low class. Thank you for pointing that out

[@bwamcameroon7316]

Thank you Anna. You always give us -Elegant Ladies- the tea

[@PatriciaMuirMaestroQ]

Hello Anna. I am so glad that you mentioned grammar and word choice. A very elegant women recently shared that as soon as we open our mouth we “reveal” our authentic elegance - or not. I find it particularly troubling when anyone uses “ hey guys” when referring to women. It has become such a bad habit for so many people.

[@marinaalex0510]

@Patricia Muir Regarding a very elegant woman you've mentioned - did you mean Dominique Sachse? Just curious. And excuse me if my grammar is not correct, English is not my native language, but I try :-)

[@PatriciaMuirMaestroQ]

@@marinaalex0510 Hello Marina. Thank you for your comment. The woman I referred to was Dini Petty whose career has taken her from flying a "pink" helicopter and reporting Toronto traffic to being a news anchor, and then producing her own talk show. I met Dini recently at a women's networking event. She shared her story of moving out to a small rural town and inadvertently picking up poor grammar, words, and phrases. She would catch herself as she opened her mouth and using expressions and words that conflicted with her personal brand of elegance. Like, "Gonna pick up some milk" and "you's guys". I do follow Dominique Sachse as well. There must be something about an on-camera broadcasting career that encourages developing and maintaining a gracious and professional persona even though it's a tough career with a high level of judgement for women professionals. I watch the brilliant young women on CNN and admire their articulation and poise.

[@dute3272]

Nothing profoundly new in here, but Anna somehow manages to present this in a way that doesn't make me want to rebel against it as I did when hearing it in childhood. Au contraire, powerful knowledge.

[@Magazia1]

In fact this is the most reasonable video I have ever watched. Thank you.

[@lartdelavivre1]

good posture is so important - it is the way you carry yourself and ppl notice you when just unassuming walk around the floor or enter the room. I am a dancer and I was noticed so countless times because of my posture and the way I moved. Good posture speaks confident, health, beauty, femininity, elegant and sensuality.

[@cindland]

No matter what the cost of our clothing, we need to value ourselves and carry ourselves well. We don’t need designer clothing to learn this important habit. We need to consider ourself an asset even if wearing rags....IMO, it’s ok to not wear designer duds. I can’t afford them. All these recommendations can help any young woman starting out, especially in college. Anna does have more specific clothing videos for that. Keep Looking..

[@Sophie-oy9sw]

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[@Elven.]

you are ahead of the trend, people will get tired of lack of elegance in society. We might become rebels against the status quo by returning to manners and etiquette

[@docpadma]

this is such valuable information for life !. I love to watch your videos with my 15 year daughter. If you behave like a sloozy, you will hang with sloozies and get a sloozy for life.. not good. thank you I also want to make a point that all rich men are not created equal. that is why I love the word affluent, not rich... it is not just money , it is the whole package of being polished and being graceful

[@personincognito3989]

I love that you're watching these with your daughter

[@missellygrullondemartinez7855]

Thank you for all your teachings! I am married with children but I feel like you are helping me reimagine myself again and become the best I can be! Especially for my husband and children. Sending good vibes your way!

[@Lifestylewithadela]

Love the reminder about bad ticks. When I’m out at dinner, too many times I play with my silverware when I’m not as engaged in the conversation.