11 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having Two Kids (baby #3?, recovery changes in our relationship)

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@surlespasdondine
@surlespasdondine 5 ай бұрын
Newborns are only easy if you have an easy newborn. My first baby cried all day and did not sleep. I now have a first grader and a preteen and the first three months with my first were wayyyyyyy harder than anything that came after. Even though toddlerhood was tough too. The newborn stage with my first was almost unsurvivable.
@Naomi-pw3dx
@Naomi-pw3dx 5 ай бұрын
Agreed. He. Never. Stopped. Screaming. 😅😅 and now he’s a wild, hyperactive toddler, but omg there is no comparison. Can’t lie, I feel jealous when people describe the newborn phase as easy compared to toddlerhood. But at least now I’m well-equipped for toddlerhood hahaha.
@surlespasdondine
@surlespasdondine 5 ай бұрын
🙌
@poorni28489
@poorni28489 5 ай бұрын
Same
@rosebellocchio4183
@rosebellocchio4183 5 ай бұрын
Same. I think I get triggered when people say newborns are easy 😅 I’m like well mine is broken then. 6 months of non stop crying, reflux, eczema you name it.
@MogiBeth
@MogiBeth 5 ай бұрын
100% agree. I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old. Toddlerhood is wayyy easier so far. A colicky newborn is SO hard.
@melissasaia
@melissasaia 5 ай бұрын
ughhh you made me cry 😢 i currently have a 3 month old and an almost 3 year old. i cry alllll the time at how much i miss my first born. i miss our time together when it was just us two, and then i end up feeling guilty that i can’t give her all the time she wants with me. being a mom is HARD! and balancing time with multiples is even harder
@anniearegger1418
@anniearegger1418 5 ай бұрын
This is what I’m going through now! I’ll just cryyyy cry cry, or emotions show in different ways. It’s the hardest 😭 no one mentioned these feelings..
@cynthia3207
@cynthia3207 4 ай бұрын
Me too! It is so hard. You are not alone ❤
@l.t.5535
@l.t.5535 2 ай бұрын
Thanks for talking about separate sleeping arrangements, because of the need for one well-rested parent. This is what we do, on and off, and its such a life saver!
@hilarybilary9145
@hilarybilary9145 5 ай бұрын
Going from 0-1 was harder cause you stress about every little thing. Going from 1-2 is more physically and mentally draining. But as a SAHM of two with a husband that works long hours there is a lot of satisfaction that comes at the end of the day knowing you loved and cared for two humans and everyone survived! Worth it 1000%.
@alixwallace7462
@alixwallace7462 5 ай бұрын
This video is so relatable for me right now. I just had my second baby 3 days ago. I was crying this morning over how fast she is going to grow and thinking of how fast my other daughter has grown. Mom guilt is so real! And baby blues are hitting. I love being a mom. But it is a lot sometimes. I love that you are so real about this. Thank you for being open with your experience
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
thank you for the support and comment xx
@sanhitas9362
@sanhitas9362 5 ай бұрын
Every single thing that you said was so relatable Nikole! I had twins the second time, when my first one was just 2yr 5months old. But despite all the mom guilt, the exhaustion, the parental burnout which we could possibly feel, according to me the burst of sunshine in our lives in the form of these three little ones compensate for all those feelings. I too wouldn't have had it any other way and don't regret having 3 kids in my life. If there is one thing though that I wish I could change is possibly to get fitter and strengthen my core. After my second pregnancy, I feel core has taken a very bad hit. My core and glutes have been in the weakest form for the past couple of months and I have been struggling to regain strength. I did not feel this unfit after my first pregnancy. But I am taking one day at a time and reminding myself to be grateful for having three lovely fairies in my life! 💟 Thank you for sharing your story! Sending lots of love to the little ones and you Mama!
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
Im so happy to hear you related to this video
@jennadelph982
@jennadelph982 5 ай бұрын
The way you phrased the ache of losing time with your first when you’re pregnant and first postpartum was so BEAUTIFULLY put and made me feel so seen. Thank you 🤍
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
Thank you 🥺 it felt good to share that and get it off my chest
@butterflyjessica1
@butterflyjessica1 5 ай бұрын
@@HealthNutNutritionI felt that too…I used to cry, feel guilty and upset. Thank you for that.
@chelle.a.manga.
@chelle.a.manga. 5 ай бұрын
My kids are both a few months younger than yours (and the same genders as yours). I threw up every day with my oldest, but i was so much sicker with my son. I felt so guilty spending like a month and a half in bed, having my husband and MIL care for my daughter. But truly, all I could do was exist and work a full time job from bed. Once I felt good enough (but still throwing up), I made a strong effort to reconnect with my daughter. Hugs to all you mamas out there! This is hard but so worth it 💙
@MoonstoneElements
@MoonstoneElements 5 ай бұрын
I’m pregnant with baby #3 (almost 14 weeks) and the first 11 weeks I was so sick! So nauseous and tired and just feeling awful, I don’t remember at all feeling this sick with my first two. My second pregnancy was super easy and I had so much energy most of the time. His birth was also a million times faster and easier than my first birth was. I definitely think our bodies know what to do after having the first baby and we’re so used to it. I finally am feeling better now that I made it to the second trimester so I do hope it continues like this. I also hope this third birth is easy like my second was too!
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
congrats on baby #3!
@MoonstoneElements
@MoonstoneElements 5 ай бұрын
@@HealthNutNutrition thank you so much!!! 🌸
@Dayspring77
@Dayspring77 5 ай бұрын
Im going to have a 2 year old then the following month will have a newborn. Was totally unexpected and I’m a high risk birth. Praying to God to help me along the way. Thanks for this post
@stefpollari611
@stefpollari611 5 ай бұрын
To your point of ‘time you’ll miss with your first’. 100%. I tried to explain this to my husband and he didnt get how sad it made me. I had to stop picking up my son while i was pregnant bc it was too painful. And by the time i was healed enough postpartum to be able to pick him up again, he doesn’t ask anymore and really isnt into it bc “i’m a big boy! I can walk”🥺😭😭 i missed out on the end of that phase😢
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
its such a different perspective when you're the one pregnant. I really felt for you reading that last part. Its tough on our hearts.
@fairdinkumsheila
@fairdinkumsheila 5 ай бұрын
Oh my God the ache in your heart, exactly how I feel! That feeling every single day when my 4 almost 5 year old asks me to read books and I’m with my baby daughter changing a nappy or something and makes me feel guilty and I really hate the feeling and I don’t think I can deal with this guilt again 😢 Time is precious. Praying for strength and guidance and beautiful loving memories for our children 💎
@dianamedley3456
@dianamedley3456 5 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video! My second it’s taken me almost 2 years to feel back to myself. It just goes to show the journey is so different for each person and even for each baby that you have!
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
You got this! And yes exactly.
@hopenoland6656
@hopenoland6656 5 ай бұрын
I just had my second. My first is 8 years old. From my perspective, and it could have to do with the larger age gap, the transition from 1 to 2 has been WAY harder than the experience I had with my first. I literally reverted back to the baby stage after not being in it for so long. I feel like I gave up the freedom and ease I had gained back and started over. It’s been a tough pill to swallow. Also, our second has been a REALLY difficult baby. She’s been colicky and high maintenance. So, as someone else said, newborns can be easy unless you have a hard newborn. The purple face, inconsolable screams for hours each day are a different level of torture. I won’t lie, I lost my cool multiple times and cried so much each day. I felt grief and longing to go back to when I only had one, easy 8 year old child. Having 2 kids is way harder than having one for the simple fact that you’re busier, you have more to juggle, etc. Someone told me recently that you never realize how easy it is having one child until you have two & ain’t that the truth!
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
Im sorry to hear it was a hard time for you and yes you're right every experience is so unique. A hard newborn can make things 100X harder. Sending you lots of love mama xx
@Blacksweets
@Blacksweets 5 ай бұрын
Aw, I understand exactly what you’re talking about. I just had my second a week ago. I just got the toddler cookbook too, btw. My first is so big and I miss out on a lot but I try and remember that my second baby needs me now too. My kids are both so loved and I have so much support that no one feels like they’re missing out except for me lol. ❤
@StephaneeLeahWarringtonJackson
@StephaneeLeahWarringtonJackson 5 ай бұрын
My first just turned one last week and due in December with my second! The tiredness is unheard of like I will nap in the middle of the day and still feel unrested 😩😩. But I thank God for allowiing me to be a mom of two. I have to remember this tiredness is only temporary 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽.
@areyes2494
@areyes2494 5 ай бұрын
About one on one time. Something that might happen to ya'll a little later. My youngest is now 1.5 yrs old and my oldest is 3. They are obsessed with each other. Even when we want to do one on one time and split them up, they get really upset and feel like they're leaving the other behind. That'll probably change in the future, but right now we're doing everything together cuz that's how we're having the most fun. :)
@habibti320
@habibti320 5 ай бұрын
My kids are each about 6 months younger than yours and I feel the same way about the second postpartum recovery being faster. I am 3.5 weeks postpartum and feel pretty much recovered and so much less anxious as well (but not working out until cleared at 6 weeks). This was so relatable in so many ways.
@cynthj
@cynthj 5 ай бұрын
Am on the fence about having a second, mostly because of financial concerns, living away from family/not having any help + part of me just really wants to not split my attention. It's a tough decision but this video was so interesting as I would've never thought about some of these things. Thank you for sharing your experience, Nikole!
@fatoutoure24
@fatoutoure24 2 ай бұрын
When I was in the newborn stage, one of my girlfriends told me that newborn are easy. I didn’t believe her and now that I am in the terrible two phase I can definitely say that newborn are easy. Having a two year old is exhausting. And also agreeing with you on the roommate stage with your spouse and I can relate of wanting to be alone after the baby is alsleep. This shall also pass. Great video. Thank you
@GenaWild-lm4iw
@GenaWild-lm4iw 5 ай бұрын
You articulated the feeling of missing out on your firsts life so well whilst being pregnant and having another baby. My girls are 18 months apart and my husband and my first spent so much time together which was lovely but meant I missed out on so much. I now have mama daughter dates with my first as well. ❤
@NjBou
@NjBou 5 ай бұрын
By far, the biggest shock for me when i had my second was how much i missed my first. I cried every might cor he first two weeks because she wasn't room sharing with us during that time. I was soooo bummed. It was so hard. We all room share again now, and once they're old enough, I'll put them together in one room. And I know i will miss them sooo much. But I do want a third so i do eventually want them to have their own room.
@michellep7372
@michellep7372 5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I’m pregnant with baby #2 and really really appreciate all your honesty about this stuff!! I needed to hear some of this!
@KatieJane31
@KatieJane31 5 ай бұрын
The way you described missing out on a year of your older kids’ life was so well explained. I feel that as well because I am soooo sick and fatigued the whole pregnancy. Also with breastfeeding after it’s hard to get one on one time with the older kids. But as another commented said it is so worth it because you are giving your kids a sibling and they will hopefully be close when they’re adults. It’s a sacrifice but sooo worth it.
@krystalcrosaro9153
@krystalcrosaro9153 5 ай бұрын
I'm 38 weeks with baby #3 right now. I have a 3 year old and a 19 month old. My 2 where such polar opposites of each other as newborns that my transition from 1 to 2 was harder for me than 0 to 1 for some reason. They're also super close in age so that probably adds to it. I'm so curious how they are going to react to a new baby being brought into the house. They both love babies but I know it's different spending a few hours with one vs baby is here to stay and not leaving lol. Watching them bond and grow together is so fun (even though now that they're older and do "fight" with each other at times) the sweet moments are so worth it. ❤
@GinaAkao
@GinaAkao 5 ай бұрын
I have a six year old boy and a 7 week old boy. Everything you said is spot on. I love seeing the sibling bond development, but my husband and I certainly had to divide and conquer the parenting tasks.
@mollytal7099
@mollytal7099 5 ай бұрын
Pregnancy nausea is so difficult. It’s gotten worse for me each time. Loving your videos!
@dianewilson2330
@dianewilson2330 5 ай бұрын
Im literally bedridden the first 3 months. We're on baby #4. At this point, we just know to expect it. Its just the cost of having a baby. At the end of the day, it's 3 months of misery for literally an entire lifetime.
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear you’re feeling rough. I love how you put it “the cost of having a baby” so true. Sending you lots of love
@pinkashp
@pinkashp 5 ай бұрын
Oh no hope you feel better soon..
@nanaronhano337
@nanaronhano337 5 ай бұрын
Also on number 4! Currently 26 weeks and our others just turned 5, 3 and 21 months. I don’t get nausea/vomiting, but the fatigue can be insane sometimes. I’ve also ended up with C-sections with each kid so I agree with what you called “the cost of having a baby.” We just do what we gotta do! One thing we do with each pregnancy is have my husband run errands sometimes with the kids or put them to bed with zero help from me. It’s really helpful so there’s no shock after the baby is born and I can’t do ANYTHING for an entire week.
@dianewilson2330
@dianewilson2330 5 ай бұрын
Thanks everyone! I'm week 32 now so it's passed. But the first 3 months were hell as expected. We now assume I will be that way and set up help prior which is key. I'm a sahm but we get sitters, laundry help, food help, all the help bc I just can't. And it's all lumped into the "costs" associated with having a baby.
@juliaosinska195
@juliaosinska195 5 ай бұрын
Also our 2 year old is soooo active and hates being at home so we ended up going to soft plays and play groups and going on walks 2x a day to keep the whole household sane. I only managed to rest for the 1st 3 days and from day 4 we were out of a house everywhere. I guess in a way it helped me to distract myself for the first 2 weeks and not think too much about everything that happens in early days hormonally and emotionally
@juliaosinska195
@juliaosinska195 5 ай бұрын
For real!! The after pains for the first 5 days while breastfeeding were sooo much worse than actual labour contractions. I never experienced them with my 1st baby was I was sooo surprised.
@leahbowman941
@leahbowman941 5 ай бұрын
Agree w so much! Mom guilt is so hard...especially if some of it is from having to do so much house work when you want to be sitting and playing with kiddos!
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
So tough on our hearts
@aenger09
@aenger09 5 ай бұрын
I've been really tired my second pregnancy and I just haven't done as much with my son as normal and my husband has really picked up my slack. I do feel like I'm missing time with my first and it's sad. And I guess it's just nice to know I'm not alone in that experience.
@boozetrading3996
@boozetrading3996 5 ай бұрын
Oakley is chill and calm like DADDY !!!!
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
He really is!
@masoumehhasani7920
@masoumehhasani7920 5 ай бұрын
I can relate to everything you say 🥰I have been pregnant almost at the same time as you. Had both of my child in January, 2021 and 2024. 3 years is the best age gap, they have already such a good relationship and its no jealousy from my oldest😁
@hannahkate2342
@hannahkate2342 4 ай бұрын
Everything u said! Yeses. I am preg 32w and almost 3 yr old. This gave me hope. It's what I needed to hear. Did not even think about birth first time this time I'm not 3xcited because it's so hard and painful. Wish I could put more into baby in me, such tiring pregnancy. Being a mom is hard and I was worried about intro this newborn. We also sleep separate so we can sleep. Im excited for the sibling bond and for them to be together. I did not want another kid either, bc 1 was so hard. Do it every 3 yrs bc you'll have ore vitality! They'll be on the same page too
@oceana3070
@oceana3070 5 ай бұрын
I had severe HG (requiring twice weekly antiemetic injections and IV fluids) with my first and only bub. It started at 7 weeks and didn’t ease until about 20 weeks. After 17 weeks I could function and had a fantastic pregnancy after 20 weeks. We very much want a second, but I don’t know how I will function with work, toddler and HG 😖😬
@amandadunbar9702
@amandadunbar9702 5 ай бұрын
I cried when you talked about feeling like you missed watching sage grow up. I am currently 9 weeks pregnant with my second and trying really hard to not miss out with my first. But oh man its exhausting and the mom guilt is real.
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
so hard!
@stephswanson8400
@stephswanson8400 5 ай бұрын
I've had 5 babies. Boy, girl, girl, boy, girl. I was nauseous with number 2, 4, and 5. 5 being the worst. However there is a 15 year age gap between number 4 and 5. But only 5 and a half years between 1 and 4.
@TaraInHerMomEra
@TaraInHerMomEra 4 ай бұрын
Loved this video! I'm currently pregnant with my second (with a 3 year age gap!) and this was both encouraging and helpful!
@rachelschaeffer2579
@rachelschaeffer2579 5 ай бұрын
We have 4 and are planning/hoping for more. I know big families arent for everyone, but for us, adding another has always been a good decision 🥰 . Your story about being asked if your baby is your first and telling them you have another in daycare reminded me of when we had our 4th and any time we were out with just her someone always asked if she was oue first. Saying "no, we have 4" always shocked people 😂
@stephjose9401
@stephjose9401 5 ай бұрын
Yay! I got to 8.5 cm with my first and ended up getting an epideral, but I did it all natural at a birth center for baby number two, and the recovery was much better!
@SandraSalazar
@SandraSalazar 5 ай бұрын
Mom guilt is so real. I felt guilt that I did not have that one on one time anymore with my first as we adjusted and went through the 0-3 month stage of pumping, late nights, early mornings, recovery, etc. I also feel guilty that my second one does not get as much attention as our first one did. She’s 6 months tomorrow and time has just flown by. I was a lot more present with my first and this time I’m just running around trying to make sure they are both fed, slept, changed, that I am not as attentive to her milestones and every little new thing she does 🥺
@user-mh7ne9pf1s
@user-mh7ne9pf1s 5 ай бұрын
i just have one toddler whos 4. i make good money im 29. im a single parent im stable and secure. but i literally have no idea how people have two or more! im drained and so tired with one! i have no desire for more kids so happy with my one
@pinkashp
@pinkashp 5 ай бұрын
Idk who you do it alone tho. I have a friend who’s a single mom and I’m just like How? You’re amazing
@Viokenna
@Viokenna 5 ай бұрын
I have a 4 month old baby right now and could not imagine doing it all alone especially the very early on phase and I have an ‘easy’ baby and for you to work too you truly are a hero!
@Suebearish
@Suebearish 5 ай бұрын
My third birth was easiest labor and delivery and easiest adding another child transition. She was so entertained by her older siblings she was a very content newborn
@Briekowski
@Briekowski 5 ай бұрын
My nausea was actually not as bad the second time around, but I think it’s mainly down to me forcing myself to eat a little something every 1.5-2 hours and sip on ice water constantly. I really think I made things worse the first time by not eating or drinking enough!
@supergirlll
@supergirlll 5 ай бұрын
Please upload more videos about Sage & Oakley interacting with each other. 🙏💛💚 So freaking adorable. 🙌🙌
@kd2533
@kd2533 5 ай бұрын
My newborn/infant/toddler was not an east one. I never went back for number 2. But, he's a great teen now!!!!! ❤😊
@blissful_nutrition2017
@blissful_nutrition2017 5 ай бұрын
My daughter is 2, and I still feel disconnected from my family. My daughter still needs her mama, and with family events you are still caring for them 100% there aren't any breaks.
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
its so tough for sure. sending you lots of love
@nashaybock7511
@nashaybock7511 8 күн бұрын
This is so helpful, thank you for making this! I am due with my 2nd early February, my daughter will be almost 2.5
@cassieleefryeklund5623
@cassieleefryeklund5623 5 ай бұрын
Pregnant with my 2nd now so I am so glad you did this video
@habibti320
@habibti320 5 ай бұрын
My kids are each about 6 months younger than yours and I feel the same way about the second postpartum recovery being faster. I am 3.5 weeks postpartum and feel pretty much recovered and so much less anxious as well (but not working out until cleared at 6 weeks). This was so relatable in so many ways, especially the longing to be there for my first more than i currently am capable of. It doesn’t help that she cries for me especially when i am nursing her little sister. I try to find ways to have 1:1 time with her but it’s not the same. 😢
@daplantgirl
@daplantgirl 5 ай бұрын
Everything you Said about life with your partner after kid #2 is sooooo true!
@jesiahprisco431
@jesiahprisco431 5 ай бұрын
Omg the part about Sage going from toddler to little girl really hit me!! I just gave birth to my daughter in April and my son is 3. We are always pregnant around the same time!! And I too feel the same like where did my little boy go? He is huge and it did feel like I missed a part of his transition to childhood because I was pregnant and tired. I am definitely trying to get in more one on one time with him now, but I totally feel you it's hard.
@lindsayfoster4759
@lindsayfoster4759 5 ай бұрын
Yes on the relationships! My husband and I have a very strong one. Our little one is 6.5 w and we go watch our own shows at the end of the night lol. I nurse baby in bed and he’s downstairs. I know it’s a phase 😊
@Thisorganizedmother
@Thisorganizedmother 5 ай бұрын
Very relatable! I’m on baby #3 and have been so nauseous! Baby #1’s pregnancy was easy, #2 I was sick the entire time but kept it all down, #3 has just been rough but I’m just out of the first trimester.
@leilabhl
@leilabhl 5 ай бұрын
The craving alone time is so real 😂
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
Right? So needed
@veronicaskatt6953
@veronicaskatt6953 5 ай бұрын
Feeling like i miss out with my first is what makes me so hesitant to have another. Her and I have our little own things and the thought of giving up on that scares me. I just dont want to give up on a single second with herl
@Karie-On
@Karie-On 5 ай бұрын
3rd time pregnant now, I have 3 and 1 years old on the board. I’ve been feeling awful every three times being pregnant. This 1st trimester is just horrible for me, but this time i feel a lot better in terms of tiredness but much worst with vomiting and nausea :( I’m past 1st trimester and it still last.
@melissaa4919
@melissaa4919 5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for being so honest Nicole. It really helps and I can relate to so much of this. I have a 9 month old and a 2 year 4 months old and your content has helped me so much xxx
@joanafernandes4481
@joanafernandes4481 5 ай бұрын
Know exactly what you mean and I feel guilty for both when I’m spending one on one time with my first I’m not giving my second the attention that he needs and when I’m with my second that she feels neglected snd it’s hard to have a baby and do things with both as needs are so different and toddler wants to be busy and baby just needs you to slow down to cluster feed or have skin to skin cuddles
@linseymcguire624
@linseymcguire624 5 ай бұрын
I'm pregnant with twins, and they are due ON my little guy's 3rd birthday!! Can't wait to see how he will be as a big brother ❤️.(side note: I also have 2 teenagers and a 20 year old... all boys! We just found out from the NIPT labs that there is a Y chromosome present, so at least 1 twin is a boy! Hoping the other one is a girl!)
@missfl0werstar
@missfl0werstar 4 ай бұрын
This is so relatable! Yes on every account! 🙈
@krispyxtine
@krispyxtine 5 ай бұрын
I relate to everything! I have an almost 2.5yo and 9.5mo (19mo apart), and the first months were rough. It’s much better now, my boys have such a wonderful sibling bond, it’s the cutest thing and they’re starting to play together ☺️ I’m leaning towards having a third (with a bigger gap 😅) so it’s honestly up to my husband lol
@ashleyahmadzai
@ashleyahmadzai 3 ай бұрын
Great video 🩵 Thank you!
@iitu-liitu
@iitu-liitu 5 ай бұрын
I feel like you are describing my life 😂 Greetings from Germany. I love your content. I've got almost a 3 year old and 6 month old myself. Started watching you when I got pregnant with my first one. I have learned so much from you. Thank you. 😊
@butterflyjessica1
@butterflyjessica1 5 ай бұрын
Man…everything you said, I felt it too🩵
@kaitlync15
@kaitlync15 4 ай бұрын
3 is even better than 2! It was the easiest transition bc my first two are best friends!
@christelleluc1766
@christelleluc1766 5 ай бұрын
I was really more anxious for 1st birth cause never did it before but it went really well for both (natural very fast very different type of contractions lol). Not too painful cramps for breastfeeding this 2nd time 🤷‍♀️
@sHaRcHaR91
@sHaRcHaR91 5 ай бұрын
How did things change for your dog after #2? I felt really guilty about spending less time and playing with my dog less after baby#1 and it makes me so sad that that will be worse after a second baby...
@joselysnicole
@joselysnicole 5 ай бұрын
Currently growing the 2nd and this was SOOOO helpful and insightful. ❤
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
So glad! And congratulations mama 🥹
@marinaonishchuk4857
@marinaonishchuk4857 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for the video 👍🏻🫶🏻
@stephjose9401
@stephjose9401 5 ай бұрын
I have a 15 week old and a just turned 4 year old. It's a lot, and time goes by SO fast. Trying to work part time, and be a wife and mom - Jesus sustains me each day. But I feel like I don't get enough time with my son now since so much time and energy goes to the baby.
@cassieleefryeklund5623
@cassieleefryeklund5623 5 ай бұрын
Yes, I am worried about having the 2nd one at 39by the time he or she arrives
@KS-yg1qo
@KS-yg1qo 5 ай бұрын
Spot on about the whole journey! ❤
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
Thank you! Glad you related to it 🫶🏼
@MomAndBabyCareHazel46
@MomAndBabyCareHazel46 Ай бұрын
11:24 That moment when you realize your first child grew up while you were focused on your second baby-such a powerful and emotional reflection. 💔 The sacrifice for a sibling is real but also so worth it. Thank you for sharing this perspective!
@millennialtomama
@millennialtomama 5 ай бұрын
Alllll of this!!! 💯 well said and I felt every single point.
@A1d33.
@A1d33. 5 ай бұрын
Ok. This means , litteraly the perfect number is 2. I have 4 and i love them all but the amount of time you dedicate to each one is is less and less. And then.. you forget yourself. Im at that point right now where im working on finding myself.
@iheartmakeup23
@iheartmakeup23 4 ай бұрын
My third baby is now 6 months old. For me, nausea was worse and went on longer with each child. It was absolutely horrible! I felt like I wasn’t going to make it when this baby had me so sick from weeks 6-16 😐
@jenniferross-budd7396
@jenniferross-budd7396 5 ай бұрын
Great share! love this! Also, your hair looks amazing
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
aw thank you
@SanjaBogosavljevic-vr4lx
@SanjaBogosavljevic-vr4lx 5 ай бұрын
Hi Nicole, Can you please send me video with bad mattress you have had bought! I can’t find it and need that one! Thanks in advance!
@anitarashidi8466
@anitarashidi8466 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for talking about feeling more nervous about the 2nd birth! Exactly how I’m feeling right now (I’m 23 weeks with my 2nd). Thought it was just me haha
@joreedo0830
@joreedo0830 5 ай бұрын
The part where you talk about how you felt Sage grew up right before your eyes because you were focused on pregnancy and a newborn is something that pulls at me and is one of the reasons I haven’t pulled the trigger on having baby #2. Ugh 😫
@chloeemary
@chloeemary 5 ай бұрын
"its like being hungover and having to go into work" I love this comparison and im not even a parent haha
@IsabellaRoss-hl6qd
@IsabellaRoss-hl6qd 5 ай бұрын
Every pregnancy and baby is completely different. Pregnant with baby number 3. I feel confident as a mother as this point but the fear of the unknown will always be there, you need to expect the unexpected
@lusinepetrosyan8917
@lusinepetrosyan8917 5 ай бұрын
Both my pregnancies i was throwing up for the whole 9 months and had to take medication to control it
@johnnahdalfonso3606
@johnnahdalfonso3606 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story
@bori5368
@bori5368 5 ай бұрын
You have such a great energy throughout this video👌I've always wanted to ask, how can you carve out time to work with Oakleyat home?? Even if Sage is at daycare during the day, you have a baby to take care of, can't imagine how you do that..at least i wouldn't look/sound so chill for sure😅 i am working full time, have one 2.5 year old, and find it extremely difficult to juggle work-kid-household-couple time-me time...
@surlespasdondine
@surlespasdondine 5 ай бұрын
I was home alone with 2 and it was still easier than with 1 difficult newborn.
@TheJennyOpera
@TheJennyOpera 5 ай бұрын
Yeah, but you should also tell your viewers that your daughter Sage is most of the day at daycare…. What about the moms who actually need to take care of both our kids under 3 all day until 7 pm and still have no breaks because our husbands, actually in fact, have an office job so they are not helping us all day like Matt does for you. You are talking from your privilege and honesty, I wish I could find more realistic moms like me who are alone on their own with their children, trying to be the best mom, wife and yet forgetting about themselves because frankly, there is no time for us.
@caitiemaesings
@caitiemaesings 5 ай бұрын
🙌🫡
@Ju23577
@Ju23577 5 ай бұрын
So real thank you for this.
@Dariyfamily
@Dariyfamily 5 ай бұрын
I have two boys and they both made me soooo sick like I was almost hospitalized! I wonder it being pregnant with a girl would be different/easier
@liliyalapik7434
@liliyalapik7434 5 ай бұрын
Both of my newborns were easy. I can't fathom why people struggle so much. But I guess each child and family are different.
@ausrinekuzaite6682
@ausrinekuzaite6682 4 ай бұрын
Were you co-sleeping and not pumping? Because I feel a lot of difficulty comes with trying to make newborns sleep in a crib. Also having to deal with pumping/washing parts instead of breastfeeding. I just feel this combo is sooooo much more difficult on a mom. 😊
@Jessie90ish
@Jessie90ish 5 ай бұрын
Girl you had me crying during coffee-nap time! How dare you lol but yes. 1000x yes. I was basically checked out for the last 2 months of pregnancy. My husband was super involved and then my dad came to help the last 6 weeks. And as we all know, a lot can happen in a 2 year olds brain in that span of time. I’m 2 weeks PP, and I’m looking at my almost 3 year old like WHO THE HELL ARE YOU?? It’s fcking heartbreaking. He’s developed so so much. I’ll just stare at his face like… where is this extra little light coming from behind your eyes? He’s some kid now and… yeah. Blahhhhh. When I’m better I’m going to be going on dates with him too. We went outside for an hour just the two of us this morning which was really nice. Anyway, I feel you and it’s totally normal apparently 😢
@Littleflower53
@Littleflower53 5 ай бұрын
You are SO PRETTY!!
@BakaFreya
@BakaFreya 5 ай бұрын
My baby #2 is 2 months old. And normally I would also say the Newborn Stage is the easiest... well until #2 has reflux 😅😂 But the moments they start smiling and start cooing makes everything worth it. I am just being in survival modus 24/7 with a baby and a toddler 😂
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
First off congrats on the new addition to the family. But yes I should have clarified if you’re baby has colic or reflux totally different story
@BakaFreya
@BakaFreya 5 ай бұрын
@@HealthNutNutrition haha no problem. I mean you had to change your diet to accommodate oakly. I guess all of us have to go through some certain things through that time. But in the end we all know we will make it and we wish this sweet time back. No matter how hard it was/is.
@surlespasdondine
@surlespasdondine 5 ай бұрын
Yes 3 year age gap is the best!
@cjgamer830
@cjgamer830 5 ай бұрын
Being Sick Sucks! I Can't Imagine What It's Like Parenting And Being Sick :(
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
So tough! The trick is for both parents not to get sick then you’re screwed
@ADayNTheLifeOf
@ADayNTheLifeOf 5 ай бұрын
Omg its so funny !! I just had my second and I was like WHY DID I THINK THIS WAS SO HARD!! The first time around I mean with the new born! Like wayyyy easier than I realized lol
@amandadetaylor
@amandadetaylor 5 ай бұрын
Everything you said is so true
@HealthNutNutrition
@HealthNutNutrition 5 ай бұрын
so happy it resonated with you
@myfriendscallmejenn
@myfriendscallmejenn 5 ай бұрын
The cramping is unreal!! They also don’t tell you to pee before you start breastfeeding 😂 so many times I would be breastfeeding and the cramps would push a leak! lol Also congrats on almost a million subscribers- SO incredible!!
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