10 Year Anniversary Chat (This got more serious that I expected)

[@2006dale]

i am a retired counselor. I have been watching your channel for a while. I have learned a lot about gardening and have bought your book. As i watched both of you, I realized the best advice either of you could give was just being examples. The communication between you was excellent and I believe that trumps all other possible issues.

[@haileymartin9745]

I agree! They are fantastic!

[@bpots717]

Omg yes agreed! Communication with my partner in the garden has improved as well after watching u guys

[@marytymoshuk7176]

... and they laugh alot.

[@jenniferr2057]

True love is Miah listening, truely listening, to Jessica... Not formulating a response, being defensive, not just pointing his face at you and letting his eardrums vibrate. He is LISTENING.

[@sarahr4471]

"...pointing his face at you and letting his eardrums vibrate." I just hollered! That's the best way to put it when they don't really listen!

[@amhomestead3437]

right??? I thought his advise would be "be a good listener" :D

[@missyweidenaar5016]

And vise versa... beautiful, both ways.

[@kstreet]

He married a very smart woman, and that shows how smart he is, too. It's a pleasure to listen when we fill our lives with people who have interesting things to say.

[@TheKatyTemple]

“I wanted a farm, he wanted to marry me.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@marybethwhalen70]

therefore, he wanted a farm too, happily ever after...with chickens!

[@ritamccartt-kordon283]

@@marybethwhalen70 And GOATS!

[@rhiannonstableford-morgan2961]

Hard relate 😂

[@cxbrerx189]

Put that on a shirt

[@coryart]

"So getting your stuff in order has to do with being cute?... If that's the case, you've got everything in order". Adorable love between husband and wife. Happy Anniversary!

[@rose77778888]

Wasn't that so sweet!.?!?

[@joseejohnstun4641]

What a poet Jess is. “The fire is not gonna go out just because it’s not roaring. There is value to coals.” ❤️ loved listening to this conversation between two people that so obviously love each other so much.

[@heidiwastingtime]

Jeremiah, Thank you so much for talking about Mental Health from the viewpoint of a male who was in the military. What an important topic. I work for a Mental Health Non-Profit. You have done so much good by sharing your story and reducing the stigma that is associated with getting help and working on Mental Health. Thank you! Someone who really needed it may have been listening and your story has the power to save a life.

[@amhomestead3437]

Heidi thank YOU for all your hard work

[@alexballinger]

"We are two halves to a whole, but are both still whole.." That speaks so loudly to my heart.

[@olivetattoos98]

“Tackle the junk.” Beautiful, t-shirt worthy advice for anything. Relationships, education, gardening, and more. Happy Anniversary garden-parents! 💚

[@monicam.8006]

Congratulations on 10 years! This total stranger whom you've never met wishes you all the best.

[@Timeflygirl]

Awww! Congrats to your love and life sharing! I love and appreciate you both...I pray for many more years full of love to you both!

[@marymaryquitethecontrarian]

I have PTSD. My husband was a rock until I was ok. That security is everything.

[@launderedcotton8070]

Lucky you, my husband caused mine.

[@marymaryquitethecontrarian]

@@launderedcotton8070 I am not sure why my response was deleted but it is likely that the description of what happened to me at 11 yrs old is against community standards. Stop comparing your pain to others. It is not always the worst and this isn't a competition. Be happy for me instead of snarky. I went through way more than you can imagine to even conpare.

[@launderedcotton8070]

@@marymaryquitethecontrarian True. I was thoughtless about you and just thinking snidely toward my husband and it came out plainly awful. I apologize sincerely. Shall I delete my comment?

[@marymaryquitethecontrarian]

@@launderedcotton8070 thank you. And for the record I don't believe in luck. I prayed about him long before we met.

[@theallenshire268]

You guys are such a shining example of what marriage can be. Thank you for modeling that! Congratulations on 10 years! May you have many more.

[@jaynemar1]

Jeremiah, best KZbin Husband Award.... Happy Anniversary!

[@georgealvarado5548]

Much respect for the open and honest adult conversation you welcomed us to be a part of.

[@zarahsgarden2097]

Jess: I wanted a farm, and he wanted to marry me .. Miah: Same thing. Lol! You guys are too cute. Congratulations 💕

[@darlenewright5850]

Happy anniversary!!! It's 10 years TOGETHER makes the next 10 together even better. God bless.

[@tinyinthewoods8130]

I didn't think I could love and be touched by you guys even more..... Thank you _so much_ for sharing this. It is so healing to see people who you perceive as "having it all together" (with all your humanness that you regularly share, still) talk about their healing journey and the times and places where they didn't feel they could have the balance they have now. It gives me so much hope. Many blessings for your partnership for the next 10 x 10 years! (P.S. I'd love to see more videos like this from time to time if you ever feel like sharing.)

[@jillmarie3501]

Your words hit hard today in a great way! Happy anniversary!

[@04Ninde]

I love that you said "Even if the fires out, there's value in the coals". What a true statement. Happy Anniversary!

[@lindasuerussell4398]

We quote a movie after 42 years "Don't ever leave me or I will find you"

[@dlsdyer9071]

Leo Buscaglia in his book Bus 9 to Paradise he asked his mother if she ever thought about divorcing his father. Her answer: "Divorce never! Murder yes! Divorce never!"

[@MsMouse62]

@@dlsdyer9071 .. hahaha ..

[@ljmike5519]

Congrats on 10 years and a hundred more. You two have such a true love. Blessings

[@Emma-3010]

"There's value to coals." Indeed! May God grant you MANY YEARS!

[@mammahoney29]

New shirt idea right here!!!

[@GrFkDsGnR]

This stood out to me so strongly too

[@InaWren]

Continually impressed by you all. Thank you for your vulnerability. I think a lot of people will benefit from this. Congratulations on ten years! ❤️ we have ours in September and I’m really proud of that.

[@gelwood99]

The biggest chunk of your relationship is the both of you Love and Trust God and you have a real Godly marriage and that is the superglue! Godly marriages require conversations because to worship God through your spouse means communication! At the end of the day, you both can and do always pray over it and wait for His answer.

[@rons3236]

Thanks guys!

[@petrii1998]

“A controlled release...”. So good Jeremiah.

[@InaWren]

I loved that!

[@trishapomeroy9251]

So much yes!!! You two are such an encouragement. I pray God blesses you with many more decades together.

[@LazyKFarmstead]

Thank you for your service, Miah. I'm glad you are able to get the support you need following that time. My prayer is that all of those who serve this country in whatever capacity are able to access the same. Blessings to your family. Happy Anniversary! ❤

[@karenstairs8273]

You have the wisdom of ages much older than your years. Blessings to you both.

[@patricedunckley4005]

‘Work on ourselves.’ ‘It has more to do with working on yourself.’ Wisdom.

[@SageandStoneHomestead]

I'm already crying thinking about the premiere. I feel so invested in your family and your farm... you have inspired and encouraged us SO MUCH. Bittersweet close to this chapter.

[@smarsh2307]

This was so lovely of you guys to share your story with us. My husband is an army vet, and I may need to steal Miah's advice, in hopes to encourage his own healing. Love you guys and the positive messages you convey on a daily basis 💜💜 I'm not crying, YOU'RE crying 😭

[@livewithgraceoracle3900]

Ya’ll have such light about you and your family. Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey. It’s a pleasure to follow along as I build my land and family 💜

[@CalliopeFlowerFarm]

Ooooof Jess your words about the tension of security & not taking for granted is so so so beautiful and important. Love the nuance!

[@l.dschick-inn-palacecrafts6174]

Going on13 years for us. Its soooooo good. Marriage is a struggle. Those hurdles are ment to be crossed and love wins. Proud of you both. Lord bless you family.

[@lunarsma8446]

Happiest anniversary, Jess and Miah! You both are such beautiful beings. Thank you for sharing your lives with us!

[@driftingsoulsisters]

Congratulations on your 10 years, it had been amazing watching your family grow on your channel. Many time of us invested in your family 🥰

[@charitysmith5245]

We hit the big 30 in January and I have to say that it took us a lot longer to get to the realization that we had to work on ourselves and not each other. And the struggle was worth every second....cuz life is so calm and so sweet now. I love my husband so much that I don’t have words to adequately express it. And I feel so safe in his arms, literally and figuratively. Happy 10th y’all! I have no doubt that you’re lifers.

[@msdebbiep]

Interesting that “peace” came from calming the emotions, on one side, and by releasing the emotions, on the other

[@shaeurpb]

Been with my honey 49 years on June 10th. Still love him with all of my being❣️Hope the same for you two❣️😍❣️

[@sarraphinasorrow]

Happy anniversary you guys!!! Thank you for sharing your brilliant vulnerable life with us. Your kitchen table has changed some of our worlds and we have so much love for y’all!

[@janetbendes9216]

🎉"Congrats!"🍵☕ on your Anniversary you two "Love Birds!" 🐦So "Happy!" for you both! Yay!🐝🌻

[@annmarienoone9879]

I have been lucky enough to have the same kind of marriage, it takes work but it is so worth it, 52 years and hoping for many more.

[@angela9290]

"At the end of the day tackle the junk." 🤣 - notes taken! Love you both for alllll the things. Happy anniversary!

[@angelhuff7675]

People need to see and hear conversations like this from married couples. I grew up with no good representation of relationships and marriage was hard for me. My husband and I are so much like you and Jeremiah. We’ve had similar struggles and have come out on the other side of seventeen years with a strong and healthy marriage. It’s delightful to see others sharing these kinds of precious moments. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with us.

[@mamabear1260]

Thank you for sharing!! I'm glad you found each other and support each other. Listening to you two beautiful people gives me hope for the future. Bless you!!

[@plowandswordhomestead]

A micro-argument over ducks in a row perfectly represents 10 years of sweet marriage 😂

[@ourtinyacres5173]

Congratulations on 10 years. We will be 11 years in July.

[@sandrainontario6710]

Somewhere I heard love is not what you feel LOVE IS WHAT YOU DO. YOU TWO ARE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL EXAMPLE OF THAT. ❤️❤️❤️

[@sheribierschwale9600]

Song lyrics I heard long ago, “Love is not a feeling, it’s an act of your will,” have stayed in my mind for more than 35 years.

[@cherylirvin3919]

This conversation is so important! Thank you for helping others by opening up about your struggles!

[@faithfamilyhomestead]

10 years ago I was a couple weeks away from marrying my husband. I was not a believer when we met but he was. 4 kids later today is his 33rd birthday 🎉 Thank you for this video and your advice and honestly

[@RipleysSanatorium]

Happy 🎂🥳Birthday

[@faithfamilyhomestead]

@@RipleysSanatorium Thank you

[@Nan-NawfromFL]

We can see the love between you every time we see the two of you together. I love you and am so happy for you. Happy anniversary. Your grandmother from Florida

[@bornawake4483]

I really appreciated hearing you Jess and Miah, discussing the compartmentalization of feelings, trauma, etc. It can happen to anyone to need to let things out, look at the situation, and get some help if needed in whatever form works for you. Having PTSD myself and working through it, it makes all the difference in the world how you move forward in life. Why suffer? Let it out in constructive ways and move on in peace and love. Thank you! Happy Anniversary!

[@BigBlessedNest]

At 17 and 19 years old my husband and I made vows to each other to never have divorce as an option. We got married at 18 and 20 and have been married for almost 8 years now, and have a thriving marriage. A lot of people judged us for how young we were when we got married but you can’t question God’s timing, and the fruit that has come from our marriage in 8 years is immeasurable. ❤️ Congrats y’all. What a beautiful testimony and example to set for others before you.

[@blysmich33]

Ya know, I've always labeled myself as someone who would never get married (saw too many toxic/failed relationships early on) and the idea of it would warp my mind. However, after stumbling on your channel for gardening purposes (and entertainment of course😊 ); the notion of marriage no longer messes with my brain. Of course we only see what your present, but-what you present is nothing but love and mutual respect! Nothing but love and respect from me to you folks! Happy Anniversary guys!

[@mammahoney29]

10 years strong! Congrats yall!! Me and my dear hubby will be hitting 22 years in September....it took us ages to realize that life is a crockpot.....cooked slow tastes so much better in the end :)

[@alicerossleon4313]

'Passionate & Peaceful' Yes Jessica 💘 understanding + trust. Grateful for your, and Jeremiah's transparency.

[@JulieMelberg]

Happy anniversary! Thank you for your honesty and wonderful wisdom!! I pray people would hear this and follow!

[@kathrynjones5858]

Happy 10 Years!!!! Everyone raise your hoses and trowels to 10 more. Happy Anniversary Jess and Miah!!!

[@mlang3066]

Lol, you guys are so stinking cute together! Congratulations on your Anniversary! We love you both!♥️♥️

[@charliehoos9773]

We agreed divorce isn’t an out. Death is and he can’t cook so beware 🤣 10 years is 👍🏻 We’re 36 years together, 26 years married to the date in June. Marriage is work to stay strong, but when you love the person you’re married to because you find them a truly good person, it’s easier

[@Sky-Child]

True. My partner and I agreed this too. When divorce isn't an option, you HAVE to work it out. It's hard but it's worth it. Mutual trust means trusting each other to show up, put the work in and be better for each other.

[@katnilsson]

We have the same agreement; divorce IS NOT an option, Not now and absolutely not in the future. We are on our 26 th year together and celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary in October. Marriage is fun, a lot of hard work, heaps of love mixed with an open mind 😍

[@jayashiaco9476]

If you see this, please extend my sincere thanks to Jeremiah for his willingness to be vulnerable. It makes Spence for other good men to clear the sludge so they can step into greatness.

[@cynthiahodgkinson]

Happy Anniversary I love the "there's value in the coals" it's so true, and it's a perfect analogy. I may wind up using it on some people in my life that keep asking me relationship questions..if you don't mind.

[@amelia-ireneinpdx2613]

Happy 10th Anniversary. May you have many more years together.🎉🎉🎉🎊🎊🎊🎉🎉🎉 💖💖💖

[@keishamurray2711]

I love watching the two of you together. The work you have put in has paid off.

[@susanherley8450]

Just awesome! I have lived with someone that has been clinically depressed for 30 years. Therapy has been the key. It has been a safe place for him to vent. Very important

[@jerrifoster3795]

There IS such a love between you two. There are MANY more tens of years ahead for the both of you. You really are adorable together, and you are so good for one another. In so many videos you have made, it’s so obvious the way he looks at you Jess, and I love it when he walks up from behind , and puts his arms around you. There are so many things like that I have noticed, and it all says, you have a gem of a husband Jess! Yes we all have issues with one another in our relationships, but you can always tell, deep down, if there is still that spark and deep love there. It’s the little things that husbands and wives do for each other that really truly count, and of course the way you talk about each other is so telling. I always tell people, that I don’t care if he picks me up a box of tick tacs at the store, and brings it home to me with a smile and kiss, without me even asking for them. It means just as much to me, as if he were handing me a diamond. You have all the reason in the world to celebrate today! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!

[@lindavancleve6735]

Happy Anniversary. Marriage is work and comprise and remembering what brought you together in the first place. Keep dreaming and working together.

[@susanpedersen4720]

I really appreciate the lovely daily videos. And this true real honest discussion. Thank you for being so open.

[@mzabs1871]

You are both relationship goals. Its not because your perfect, but its because you are real. Thank you. Cant wait to see whats next for you guys.

[@zaviahopethomas-woundedsou9848]

Happy Anniversary!!!! May the next ten years be ten times better than the past ten years!

[@brendagervais5566]

Whoohoo! Congratulations on 10 years together. Barakoth for many many more

[@Chet_Thornbushel]

It’s so true that working on yourself first is the most important step for a solid partnership. I think if we really get down and examine it, the reason most relationships fail is due to one or both people’s insecurity. If someone truly loves themself and truly loves their partner for who they are then it is nearly unbreakable. My partner isn’t perfect but I love his whole person, his imperfections are endearing to me. And when we have legitimate bumps in the road we support one another and get through it because it won’t work any other way. A relationship is not two separate halves, it’s one whole.

[@dlsdyer9071]

We used to yell our young adults when they were single, "First you have to be the right kind of person, then you have to meet the right person and that has to take place at the right time."

[@danagreen9264]

Yes if one person is filled with hate for themselves its not possible to love another, ive been thru that he was very hateful, and he killed my love for him i left in 2014 and havent looked at another man since cause ive got baggage not sure i could tolerate another bad choice .😶😶

[@andreabalogh5967]

Happy 10YEAR Anniversary, God bless you both and your family 😊 you are an incredible example and gift to all of us.

[@diannezimdars5099]

Happy Anniversary! Such a milestone. Congratulations. We will be celebrating our 39th soon.

[@mandidittloff4500]

Congratulations you two! Thank you so much for sharing and being so lovingly honest. Hubby and I married 29 years this October. We are empty nesters now and loving it! 🎉❤️🌻

[@kath-phlox]

I wish you 50 years of happiness together like me and hubby, some arguments, some cold shoulders, but generally, just being a partnership and working together ;)

[@kristinjackson9434]

Happy Anniversary! What a blessing you all are... thank you!

[@KylaMattonOsborne]

I love that you shared how you had known Jeremiah's family for years and kept "just missing" him. My husband and I have a similar history. I sometimes joke that he was always chasing behind me over the course of several years before we actually met. Once we became close, we were also very purposeful in our relationship. We knew right from the beginning that we wanted to build a life and a family together. There was definitely never a "casual" please in our life either! Happy anniversary to you both, and may you be strong and healthy in your life together for many, many years to come.

[@landbeforehoney5308]

This level of love is unmatched and honestly, I don’t know if I’ve ever witnessed as loving of a marriage like this in person. You guys are truly inspiring and have wholeheartedly built such great things from the love you both radiate for yourselves, each other, your kids, and the community who shows up to see it. All good things come from true inner healing. ♥️

[@suzilouden5964]

Compromise is our secret of a happy 48yr marriage......not everyone is blessed like us. Your future is yours, embrace it with both hands....❤

[@erin2535]

HAPPY 10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY!!!

[@AmasAuthenticJourney]

Wauw talking about telepathy just picked up my phone to see if you posted.. Congrats to you both! Many more happy years to come. You guys really inspired me so much to start growing my own food . Blessings to you❤

[@lowdesertlove6273]

Happy Anniversary to my favorite KZbin family!!!!!

[@thesoapcrate596]

Happy Anniversary to you both!!! My husband and I will hit our 10yr in 2 months. We live a lot like you guys when it comes to mutual respect and understanding. We are in it for the long haul and its the best feeling ever. I had a bad past but a great future.

[@anapaulacrawford5837]

Congratulations on your 10 year anniversary / 50 plus more to come. You came this far to reap the fruit of labor! Continue loving each other and be happy! Also congrats on your new farm, may God bless you with the best!

[@GreenWitchHomestead]

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!! Lol I love watching you two talk. Jess is so romantic and poetic and then Miah just drops the bombs... This was so sweet 😍

[@emmylivingston4380]

Truth!!

[@michellegray5905]

100 percent I agree! I love that, we all understand that everyone is very unique to eaches of each it's own. Love that!

[@arlenebrant5785]

This is an excellent video! It’s a roadmap for creating and maintaining a good, solid marriage. Thank you for posting it on your special day. Happy Anniversary!!

[@MrXiaoqiao]

Thank you Miah for tackling the unhealthy standard for men to bottle emotions and ignore trauma. I think recognizing also that this is a LEARNED behavior (not some "male instinct" or something) from our society/families is incredibly helpful in being able to let go of that way of "processing" feelings. You guys are so mature and wholesome! Happy anniversary and keep up the great work!

[@mysmallholdingsoul]

Thank you for being so open and gracious with your lives with us. Happy Anniversary x

[@mamamode1312]

Thank you. I was truly blessed by it.

[@judyedwards7239]

You two are so cute!! You compliment each other and that is a very good thing.

[@marygrott8095]

This was wonderful! Thank you both so much!!

[@CarinandReesesAdventures]

My husband and I have a saying, we have each others back but we aren't on each others back.

[@sarahestrada8530]

Therapist here, love this video and love you guys! Recently married and dreams of a farm and family and "alternative" businesses, you are definitely an inspiration!

[@kaysarverart]

This is such valuable information, and I especially appreciate Miah stressing the importance for men to allow this kind of healing to take place, particularly veterans who have experienced such deep trauma... wow, great discussion, and Happy Anniversary! Glad you all found each other!

[@jamjar5716]

Miah, I am so glad you are opening up all your emotions held in check for so long. And encouraging fellow heros (soldiers, police officers, firefighters, etc) to do the same. I think that everyone needs to do this to some extent.

[@revonda5204]

Guys, thank you so much for sharing this. ❤ All of us should be so blessed to have this kind of relationship. God bless you in your next 10+++ years and your new journeys. 🙏

[@vickif1419]

There's value in coals! So deep and true! Thank you!💕

[@CalliopeFlowerFarm]

Gosh, 10 years ago I was in a pre-professional ballet training program, deeply unhappy & closeted. So glad everything has changed 🌼

[@RootsandRefugeFarm]

10 years can literally change everything!