Before You Plan Your Wedding, Plan Your Marriage

Gary Chapman-Author-Conference Speaker
Book: "This I Wish I'd Known Before I Got Married"
To Get Your Copy: www.crossroads.ca/store
www.garychapman.org

[@Grace-wi4nb]

Give this guy a podcast already! His voice is so soothing to listen to, every bit of his word is filled with wisdom. People like this make me want to be grow old ASAP just so i could have such wisdom but I thank God who freely gives wisdom to whoever asks irrespective of age. Stay blessed y'all.

[@acharich]

James 1:5.. 🙏🏾

[@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect]

Creating a separate list of duties and agreeing on who does what BEFORE marriage is so simple yet profound. This bit of information could save so many marriages and even non-romantic relationships.

[@acharich]

💯🎯💯🎯💯

[@mahamatzene1554]

Marriage is all about effective communication and responsibility.

[@wshelby83]

I guess people really don't think about what goes into marriage until you get there. For example who's going to do what chores, I never thought of that. Really glad I listened to this.

[@mahamatzene1554]

Gary seems very professional and can really help to solve people problems. Marriage is all about effective communication and responsibility.

[@elsiemuhumuza395]

Everything he says reminds me of our African tradition. Like People were prepared for marriage from a young age, etc

[@adorejayy834]

I am only 22 but this is so enlightening as I start to date seriously

[@acharich]

🙌🏾 remember Prov 31:30.. 🔑🔑🔑

[@oama2009]

HOW'S IT GOING ?

[@DrSRanjanMBBSAcupuncturist]

6:57 Learn to Listen empathetically.

[@acharich]

So important..!

[@omnibrain8]

Wow, this is practical counselling. Thank you.

[@jayram1405]

Real men APOLOGISE.

[@johannwilder1437]

Jay Ram, real women don't manipulate men into apologizing for perceived hurts that may have no basis in reality.

[@acharich]

@@johannwilder1437 😅😅😅

[@hugolopez6644]

real women listen to her man, can't have pride & egoism and work in harmony

[@trinatruly5505]

Pride will prevent someone from apologizing.

[@sunchips4671]

I need to goo to the library and get this book im single and im dedicated to learn all i can before i ever decide to get married

[@kimmyqueen8009]

On this journey, the person that I aspire to be like is My amazing father ❤️ I love my mom of course but my father was our mother and father a lot of the time growing up. If I was to live my life like my father I will be the most likeable person on the planet 😊❤️🙏🏼 I feel my father helping me through this 🙏🏼

[@jayram1405]

Thank you 4 this message. I have tons of homework now.

[@tapal1865]

Learning how to apologize , we all hurt each other and other people .

[@jayram1405]

I agree 100 percent. U r right. Father like son. Cos nobody listens 2 me when I try 2 teach them they want 2 have war with me so I learnt to just agree n be happy 4 myself cos my muscles get tired when they upset me but when I smile laugh n giggle I feel happy in my heart by myself. Praise God

[@kamaljanghel3274]

best interview i ever seen

[@FunintheSun813]

This was awesome!

[@geofreyouma6142]

wow,this marvelous, learning a lot even as I'm planning to get married

[@LIBqueen]

I'm not even dating currently but will ultimately get married so never too early begin orienting myself...

[@ernestinegerry6466]

Thank you so much, really excited to read it 😄

[@gr2262]

Great information!

[@gilbocalbos782]

omg! now i know my moms love language, bonding and gifts. and my dad is act of service. and mine is words of affirmation. wow! great information! :D

[@0wenfox]

GREAT advice, thank you so much!

[@whosacheeky]

Wow I respect this man...

[@veraawuah]

I am happy to get this additional knowledge from him as I am also taking marriage, family and relationship courses to help me through my marriage and also help people by sharing such great information. Knowledge gotten from marriage is golden as we spend about 3/4th of our lives in marriages. Let's rather buy marriage books and read rather than spending money on unnecessary things that will fade away with time. If you agree to it, hit like

[@JejakMerlin]

It’s good I know this before marriage

[@contentsofjoy]

Wow, so much wisdom

[@Paul-zf6uk]

Thank you so much, the unamed host of this enlightening interview...Much thanks also to Dr. Gary Chapman...his practical insight are awakening...

[@Jarlem]

I love him!

[@EtalviaC]

Brilliant man! 🙂

[@stephencoleman4424]

Great video, I hardly ever drink. I'd need a seeing eye dog to find my way around a bar.

[@alexkepha2946]

isn't this the definition of wisdom!!!

[@treasurengcoya6080]

Amazing

[@0wenfox]

great learning folks. so much to learn in life. i wish i knew this before? NO i wish i learn it now for my future!

[@AnuSharma-nc8wr]

Thank you

[@unburriedtalents599]

What are some suggestions for healthy ways of managing stress? (Other than exercise)

[@rubinashaheen6376]

Mr. Chapman is amazing... i find him sensitive and sensible ... he is talking from a woman's perspective... wonderful and very wise

[@bradleyseng9563]

What would be his response to across political line differences? Talking till a compromise is reached?

[@royalty2924Love]

That is only if you grew up with your parents. What if you did not grow up with them?

[@phyllischandler4837]

I'm 63 and never married. I'm buying the. Book. Never lived with a man. Never had any children. Thinking a the subject of marriage. Wonder if I wait to long.....

[@heliaalves9062]

I have read about people who got married at a later phase of their lives (70's, 80's, 90's and even after turning 100). You're still in time. I hope you get to find a lovely partner and experience the joy of marriage :)

[@phyllischandler4837]

@@heliaalves9062 ...thank you for the lovely thought.

[@QuietlyCurious]

@@heliaalves9062 Here here!

[@texresident7026]

DON'T DO IT! IT'S A TRAP!

[@sumayaharuna639]

Hi

[@bridgettetraveler658]

I bought that book yrs ago! It's awesome! My husband doesn't seem to have a love language except grouchiness!!!

[@Ethiodawg]

Bridgette Traveler 😂😂😂😂

[@robindear5043]

Bridgette, who or what is he grouchy at/about? Bless your heart, SERIOUSLY!!!

[@TheVoltman1]

Oh wow, Dr Chapman even went to Saudi Arabia!

[@christina78c]

Even when dating, I ask the man how his parents lived. It gives me a clearer understanding of that person's raising. Also, some might lie to tell you what u want to hear but if I come a across a guy that DOESN'T KNOW how to do for themselves I will teach them but it is TURN OFF that they are not men yet AND I blame their parents for not giving them chores to do at a young age and raise man--child mentality. Especially those still living at home (male/female) bc they still haven't had enough life experience & come into a marriage selfish and waiting for the other to take care of them. When now-a-days it's a partnership. Everyone in the marriage has a role.

[@aiyamariabanat]

This is why I’ve never resonated with my catholic background, Priests can’t have the wisdom this man has, it comes from struggling to maintain a successful marriage and family life.

[@RenewalCreations]

No, if your father is an alcoholic you DON'T study alcoholism or how to handle stress, you go to JESUS. You go to church, you pray, you read the Bible, you are a new person in Christ. I don't meditate on my dad's mistakes not to make, I learn from God the Father. Jesus corrects me not myself.

[@lakalajadizaja4332]

I don`t think there is one thing that I admire about my father.

[@mwesigwadenis5477]

it's so intresting where can i get a copie in Uganda?

[@acharich]

Amazon..?

[@sis4205]

It's so cruel about kids could be like their parents

[@ladybug2w505]

Where can I purchase the book?

[@arietavaka5220]

What's the name of this book?

[@candyphillipchipopa7879]

❤️❤️❤️

[@mike569112]

Why get married?

[@jayram1405]

Our way and an equal ratio of COMPROMISING. But some idiotic people only think about themselves n wants things their way all the time.

[@etav922]

How can I get a copy of this book ?

[@kimmylove65]

Purchase it on Amazon

[@pamelabass8301]

I was with him until..... He said look at the parents.... so many reasons why this isn't true

[@layladventures]

what's the name of this book? is it 5 love languages?

[@tolulopeoluseye4017]

Layladventures Here Gary Chapman

[@solidair9281]

Compromise....same old story

[@orchidhotelsnigeria2323]

so how do you gauge the lady u are dating when u met her after her mom has passed or man after his dad has passed? in terms of like father like son or like mother like daughter.

[@acharich]

By the company they keep..

[@hugolopez6644]

ask her emotional and practical questions, just keep asking and let her know it's okay to share anything. that's the only way to learn a person

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

My mother's dead, Mr. Chapman. So what does that mean for me?

[@tlotlosamane5177]

@@AntalMadincea wow really

[@acharich]

😅 do u have a mother figure in ur life..?

[@abbeyphadima709]

Who ever is a wife or woman figure you will learn from and replicate the same character, this stays in your subconscious mind and you accept is the way things are done

[@c.e.stanton988]

It’s typical that he equates a man’s father being an alcoholic to a woman’s mother interrupting her husband.

[@c.e.stanton988]

He is such an arrogant prick. He is such a typical entitled male trying to help other males find submissive fuckable doormats to call a wife.

[@justduuak.1699]

Wait what? 😂. You always find a reason to disagree

[@justduuak.1699]

Nobody likes to be interrupted when they talk

[@acharich]

Bruh, it was just an example..

[@theoyinkansolaodunjo]

😯😯😯😯😯😯😯