How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves You | Femi Ogunjinmi | TEDxXavierUniversity

[@amberselledge1345]

Actually watching this to see if I'm properly loving others.

[@careco.5130]

Me too!

[@mikep9137]

Mee two

[@realtalk675]

Hahah

[@natashanicole239]

Right lol

[@moizzasaeed3955]

Wholesome af

[@softest_eevee]

"He says he loves me but his actions don't show it." That speaks volumes.

[@Gfem01]

Glad that resonated with you. We often say so many things that we don't mean or perhaps do the opposite just like the case I mentioned. I appreciate your comment on my talk. Is there anything else that jumped to your mind from my talk or any relationship question you have that I can address?

[@sweetmissypetuniawilson9206]

Actions always speak louder than words! Also, when you tell the truth, you don't have to have a good memory! Thanks to Judge Judy for that one!

[@bruce2860]

@@Gfem01 i really want to but i think i wanna figure it myself.

[@mikipakeho4748]

Everything resonated with me. Everything! The love styles, the cheating, the three things that breaks up a marriage (which by the way were all of them in my case), the sacrifices, the passionate love. Just last night I made a huge list of all of his behaviours that do not show that he loves me and I couldn't believe that there was so many. There weren more reasons to be apart than (and without listing them) there ever could be to stay together. This video confirms and affirms my list. I needed to hear this. I'm ready to hear this. Any sooner and I would have ignored this video. ♥️

[@Rebelsouljahhh]

It’s all about commitment

[@natalie8711]

If they love you, you’ll know. If they don’t, you’ll be confused

[@virajsoni4303]

natalie I’ve been confused about what he really feels deep down. I kept giving myself excuses on how it can be difficult for someone to open up as long as I could. I guess this confusion is indeed my answer.

[@user-uz4gy5zo7j]

So true.

[@kokostenza4732]

Amen.

[@g.d.9619]

@@virajsoni4303 be with someone who equally loves u

[@virajsoni4303]

E. D some people are just so toxic. They neither want in nor out. They want to stay within your energy and just keep taking. It is so important to recognise, the feeling of desperately wanting to be with someone is so manipulating, it basically shuts out the rationale side of your brain. Never trust your feeling, only intuitions.

[@zachattack12325]

"I now see that goodbyes are for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with their heart and soul there is no such thing as separation" - Rumi

[@straightfromthesticks1465]

Beautiful

[@1zanderking]

❤

[@arunaramachandran801]

❤

[@rabinraj15]

So profound.... ❤ Thx, mate 🫡

[@AofFL]

As beautiful as this is it's not always true. You can't stay when you see the same behavior.

[@davisdavis1347]

When I'm in love with someone I simply can't cheat. My whole being wont even allow it. The thought of it litterally makes me ill.

[@MyLifeasSherryl]

Davis Davis same here

[@pissapocalypse]

Same I can't even imagine

[@SeraphineClarisse]

I think I really needed this. But if anyone here can give further advice please... So I'm in love with a boy and he used to say he loves me back. But we hardly ever meet because he is so focused on his studies and work... He says his studies will stay always in his life while a girl comes and goes and he doesnt know( although) he hopes that we stay together... So the thing is that he doesn't spend time with me and when he finally did he was looking at the phone often and I got a remark which was quite jealous and he just got fed up with me being jealous but I cannot be not jealous when I hardly see him. .. I need him and I get so many tension during the week that when we finally meet I just cant be happy .. I want him to stay in my life but he doeant seem to make a little sacrifice to give me time

[@SeraphineClarisse]

@@maikentiits2942 thank you ... You must be right

[@yaalove3736]

THIS!!!!!😍😍😍😍👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 I'm so happy to know ppl like u still exist.

[@senseicocoa2504]

Love without passion is like a body without a soul. I felt that.

[@TC_318]

I read your comment exactly at the time he said it.... that was crazy. Must have been a sign for me!! Just had to say that.

[@sebiacevedo4988]

@@TC_318 I did, too.... I came to reply saying that it happened to me and apparently i wasn't the only one... I'm mind-boggled.

[@thehutchboyd]

Like a car without an engine. There's no movement. He had to be quoting some old school rnb lyrics

[@yaninamiller5711]

Yep,but passion has to be chosen to go for the long haul. It sucks when a husbands love is not as powerful as real

[@yaninamiller5711]

@b müller ,I agree. Passion is important but not the most important. A parent doesn't "passionately" love a child, a family member or a friend doesn't need passion to love. That's how long term love becomes. Although passion can be worked on when the bedroom gets dull. It goes up and down,comes and goes,while love stays.

[@kattalafuse3756]

He has a beautiful message and voice. To the audience, If I want to be alone I'll call you guys.

[@brandonf6174]

Lmao

[@mbalitshabalala7562]

Lol 🤣

[@lovewins4436]

❤️😂😂😂😂

[@lexijustasiam895]

Exactly. Perhaps, they were just mesmerized by his voice, as I was, tho'.

[@TotlegoInBloom]

🤣🤣🤣😂

[@joslynle6033]

When you truly love someone, the idea of cheating already made you feel disgusted.

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[@misteryace21]

I remember telling my boyfriend at the time every time i had a cheating dream i told him & said i felt really guilty. But then later on, after our breakup, he told me he cheated on me 3 times right at the beginning of our relationship

[@TheSakufighter]

The thought alone should make you feel guilty if you’re a half way decent bf/gf

[@rev.fr.ejikembaka6795]

Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp [phone] I have a surprise for you God bless

[@BeautifulOnes876]

When we love someone, cheating generally doesn’t cross our mind in the first place. However, in hard truth, there are things that can happen that will cause the best person to fall to cheat. When there are severe adverse circumstances that have taken place, especially for a prolonged period, a fall is absolutely possible. Anyone is capable of this fall under particular dire circumstances due to human fallibility, the sheer complexities of human psych and emotions that can surprise us. We’re pushed out of our normal morale. Matter of fact, observing one’s sentiment “after”cheating can be a true tell tale that we actually do love our partner, remorse, regret, and guilt, paired with an inner sadness over whatever it is going wrong in our relationship that led to the tricky door of cheating. “If things are that awry why not leave?” Because many times it’s not that simple, and it would take a book to write all the reasons and scenarios of why. Also, people should note there’s a difference between “love” and being “in love”. They’re not the same. Love is on a strong foundation. “In love” is infatuation. Love does not easily walk away. Infatuation does.

[@arkansas99]

Legend has it, there was no audience.

[@hotenigma01]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Aritul]

😂

[@evlish8771]

*Just a guy with cough 😂

[@roxylipz2672]

You're deaf.

[@Chadwick8]

Roxy Lipz you’re a little too serious my guy lolll

[@amart0051]

Everyone was so quiet because he has a very calming presence and delivery. Awesome points!

[@projectikamva]

I think so too! Sometimes when you listen attentively, you do not laugh at jokes coz you might just miss something important

[@jaysontsai900]

idiotic comment. his message is nothing but common sense ... so mediocre like a child's IQ

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

In my opinion, it doesn't mean they couldn't have laughed. It's as if he were speaking to a bunch of robots. They had no sense of humor. They were too focused on his accent.

[@yonettesydney8845]

@@projectikamva facts

[@jess081]

Alexis Martinez 👍🏼 ☮️ 💙

[@F-J.]

RESPECT is what keeps a relationship beautiful even if love fades.

[@yumigonell8023]

Felicity Joy if you don’t love you don’t respect

[@k.a.3614]

@@yumigonell8023 not true. There are a lot of people I do not love but I respect deeply.

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

To a man, RESPECT is Love.

[@LexaaaHeree]

Kachikikari 82 I believe this is the other way around. Why even think about love without respect? Can you even get there?

[@neveo9428]

true

[@LeeNacola]

He's literally so intelligent and unbothered that it doesn't even even matter if they cheer him on. The man knows himself. I'm a cheer leader!

[@diademachandra3166]

Second that.

[@queenv777]

Of course we can’t hear the audience cause only he has a MIC! People don’t think these days I see now

[@tapoutmotion4017]

@@queenv777 it might be having no audience at all, as it's pandemic

[@nanayaaaikins2380]

I too second that

[@rheamickens3128]

@@queenv777 uhhhh...I could hear the audience responding in another video....

[@kozmnavt5158]

“If you loved someone would you cheat on them?” Audience...........cough

[@jnnlis]

Kozmnavt that was hilarious

[@AnnaGrobler]

😂😂😂

[@Miss_Dani_DWhit]

In relation to that question, it baffles me when people say... "I love him/her but..." and then proceed to explain or do things that are the opposite of love, such as: lie, cheat, manipulate, etc. I think the biggest issue is that people DO NOT truly understand the definition of the word love. My measure for love is 1 Corthians 13:1.

[@yonettesydney8845]

Lol

[@rhyaloveaux]

I heard that as soon as I read this 😂

[@thatboikb9466]

I’m 25 and convinced I’ll never find love...I hate my generation. The normalization of cheating and having multiple partners ruined the idea of love. UPDATE: I’m now 28 and in a happy & committed relationship ❤️ crazy how life works 🙏🏾

[@g.i.3682]

Agreed, but please change your mindset...what you expect is what you'll get. There has to be one person on the planet who thinks as you do 😘

[@chandsoren5797]

I m the 1 4 u

[@g.i.3682]

@@chandsoren5797 lol

[@soulpeace7559]

Hey! I hate my generation too 😂 Tell yourself if you exist, there is certainly someone for you out there 🧡

[@isaiaharmstrong1799]

The idea of love is toxic, or I should say the romanticized idea of love that we so readily buy into

[@shakitashontajones]

The guy is hilarious. How brave to keep going inspite of the audience.

[@blondnburndnaz]

Shakita Jones I wish he would’ve farted or belched or something. The audience is on mood tranquilizers

[@BernishaDumas]

They laughed around 4:20 at McDonald’s joke.

[@aliciascat9433]

I noticed too. Haha how embarrassing for him.

[@Ashley-qx4my]

The worst audience ever.

[@Young-if1jz]

jerri taylor... omg 😂

[@jcw034]

Love is not something you find. It's something you grow.

[@SullenGirl1984]

This is so true

[@3301-w5d]

love is a seed you find and thereafter nurture to let it keep growing and be healthy

[@paulokula9177]

you have to find it to grow it...

[@thatomofolo452]

😊

[@FakaziMatsenjwa]

​@paulokula9177nah!😂

[@lilnet205]

He did a really great job if you ask me. I don't know what happened to the audience just dull.

[@Abundance26]

Idk how he managed going through the entire talk with such a boring crowd. Sheesh

[@cjsmomom]

Yes dead...

[@breathlessmahoney3689]

It's a seeming inability by the audience to embrace and support a person's work and valid, wise message. Why? He looks and sounds different than the majority of authority figures in mainstream media. A bias, if you will. Just is.

[@RMate-bu7se]

They must've edited out the sounds

[@strawberryshortgirl2637]

I think they're so quiet because they are so focused on what he's saying. Plus he has a calming voice

[@InnKogNeeto]

True love without actions is not true love. Well said.

[@FayeRapsYupITSME]

Yeah so true. 👍👍

[@xmanhall360]

that's the only thing I really took from this talk.

[@ladylyssa5130]

Ik a lady who always says love without action is just a four letter word. She says she dk where the saying comes from though.

[@k.a.3614]

That is bs. Maybe you can't act because of certain circumstances but you still love. Though I agree that one can lie that he or she loves you and oftentimes you can tell by their actions. But not always.

[@johnnyvaa-taputoa1304]

@@k.a.3614 for the most part though your actions should be showing you love them. Even sending a message telling them to be safe or call after they get home from a long trip.

[@THANEXTSUPREME]

Cheating is being normalized. I don’t like it.

[@THANEXTSUPREME]

@ Justin Gary Well said!

[@minimatemasterworks]

They call it polyamorous now and pretend it's ok. Its terrible for all people involved.

[@annalyssaedwards6910]

SERIOUSLY THOUGH!!!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@netty5571]

Truth hurts, men: I’m a man it’s apart of are nature.. and it’s more women to men women: I had to forgive you 6 times for cheating, pay back a bit........ 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@krystalharris1259]

And sometimes I get like, " If you cheat on me as I am your wife- THAT'S your life..."Do not risk it.

[@KrystleLaughter]

To all the hopeless romantics: You will have true love one day! Know your worth & refuse to settle for less. You are worthy!💕

[@livinginHim]

Amen

[@devanshijadeja4474]

Thank you For the words It was needed

[@marlostanfield4679]

I feel like it’ll never happen from where I’m looking at. After the heartaches I’ve experienced, my heart is very very guarded.

[@piak78]

😀❤️

[@ArrozConPollllo]

Welp. I'm 43 and have cats lol. Too late for me!

[@Unnatural09]

I love how he said multiply the cheating times two. Its cause you're not just cheating on your girl/boy you're also cheating on your self.

[@brandonf6174]

Oof.

[@xoxaxo9791]

Ya but he means it for real too. If a guy says he cheated 2 or 3 times you have to multiply by 5 lol I'm half joking 🤣

[@mugenyipriscilla9201]

It's also because you may not know the other 4 times he may have cheated.

[@Unnatural09]

mugenyi priscilla why do you presume the cheating is always done by a guy.

[@xoxaxo9791]

@@Unnatural09 you're right. There are cheaters and faithful people of both genders 💗

[@sarahm5936]

Be careful of the trap of sacrificing to express and prove your love, especially if you're trying to be an example of true love in the relationship. There are some bad seeds who will steamroll you, and you've got to love yourself.

[@therantingigwe9701]

Sadly, I agree with you. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for about a year. I can honestly say I loved her deeply, sacrifices and all but she was a dishonest, unfaithful, and took advantage of all the sacrifices I made. I think Phillip Phillip's song, Gone Gone Gone, sums up what what should kinda feel like.

[@eephuspitch8359]

Yes, I was steamrolled and still not flat enough for my love. I allowed it, I was joyous in my sacrifices, and now I have less than zero.

[@thesetruths1404]

Yes we need to be able to tell the difference in advance of spending years with someone if they have the ability to love and will try to reciprocate at it day and night, in/after failure or success, and nearly 100% of the time. It's a trait that is harder and harder to find in people, perhaps because so many modern and comfortable societies are so distracted by the selfish and material stuff they seem to Never get enough of. It's really sad.

[@xmanhall360]

That principle is known as relationship equity is meaningless. People stay with you because of what you can do in the future. Not for what you did in the passed. So always invest in your long term skills and your own happiness before investing in the other persons happiness or your relationship.

[@karolinemcdermott9301]

Sarah M sooooo true real love is not based on what you get out of the situation but being able to be completely autonomous and choosing to love that person.

[@karinaodom8033]

“Love without passion, is like a body without a soul.” Damn bro, I felt that.

[@SkullfaceEdits]

Trill $pill! ♥️🤘💯

[@mariaclarke5279]

very Beautiful words

[@freedom2outshine670]

This is also good for business

[@cokedoesstuff]

im 14 and this is deep

[@Gfem01]

@@freedom2outshine670 That is true. A good business partner should be able to put his or her soul into the business. Thank you for watching my talk. Let me know if you need any advice on relationship

[@LateshaRenee]

I don't want to date a guy who feels like being faithful is a "sacrifice"

[@jais327]

You can hear him moaning to his mates .....she doesn’t appreciate all the sacrifices I made when I married her ...wife struggling with kids, job home etc says ... I wish to ##@@ you hadn’t bothered

[@nyat5413]

Thankyou! If he didn’t do it because he wants to do it for himself then I don’t think I could accept that. He says his intentions behind it are because he loves her, But now he has to spend his life truly lusting after other women, wishing he could be with them, and feeling shame and guilt for it because it’s something that he didn’t give up willingly, he was basically put into a corner. If a man wants a Polygamist or open relationship, there are Women out there who will Oblige

[@stan4288]

exactly...and same goes for a girl too

[@stargirlfan5824]

He is probably a narcissist..!!

[@mikementzer9292]

Good luck with your cats then.

[@jeweljimenez715]

"True love if not backed up by action is not true love" This got me strucked so hard.

[@MzSuzy2698]

Jewel Jimenez By right action is what he said. There's a difference.

[@19culprit25]

Wag na kc mag english kung d nmn kaya. Struck. Hindi strucked!

[@cindynguyen8982]

first thing I noticed starting this vid was his glowing, flawless skin 😭

[@royroyroy7293]

Cindy Nguyen I saw it too , you are right

[@Inaytirecnis]

I swear I got so distracted couldn't listen anymore ahaha

[@esthermucheru7318]

Ina Sincer

[@91WriterzStatus]

All this melanin. I've never clicked so fast. Lol!

[@marissawilson4644]

Me too!

[@aalphasplatt1153]

He sang a Mary J Blige song and nobody joined in or laughed? Wow. Tough, dead audience.

[@luanab6789]

Totally agree, the audience doesn't react at all. What is the point of going to this kind of event?

[@jtpfla3]

The guys tone is not one that influences or encourages laughter but his talk was good.

[@asadirountree9344]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@sexytechreviews_]

Cincinnati must be a sad place. Where's the soul there?

[@MindYourOwn777]

Likely because it was a lot of white audience members who don't listen to or know mary j blige's songs.

[@kikoarmani]

This man's skin is absolutely stunning!

[@Cherrycreamsoda1]

I had to rewatch in 1080p haha!

[@pumpkinthethird]

1:55 If you loved someone.... would you cheat on them? *dead silence* *cough*

[@tanyajackson118]

Mic drop, nuff said

[@AyubuKK]

Ikr

[@forward_ever_ever2595]

...lol..for real uh...dead silence.

[@budirving7007]

PumpkinIII, I would not cheat on anyone , I am not a cheater. That is being dishonest.

[@sheekatee]

Been laughing hard at this😂😂😂😂

[@Zitagirl76]

The worst is when ur the one who is passionate and sacrificial, they take you for granted and use you...😔😔

[@KeerthanaR22]

It should be mutual isn't it...

[@Bigpyro19]

Sad part

[@ayoadeakee6234]

And that's why you have to walk away believing you will surely find someone who love you passionately.I have not found love but I hope I will someday

[@barbaraverville3816]

Yes I have loved him for 23 years and been loyal all the time even though he never loved me back and I now am suffering from PTSD because I have to face the fact that he was just using me all these years!

[@rev.fr.ejikembaka6795]

Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp [phone] I have a surprise for you God bless

[@SquatSimp]

“Love without passion, is like a body without a soul”

[@sahdelovetv8328]

Very true

[@tianasharpe67]

I felt that

[@Rebelsouljahhh]

Hahaha

[@madelinegarvin9792]

I like the statement: "Love without passion, is like a body without a soul." The comment: "Narcissists have no soul that's why they cheat," clarifies many situations. However, true love 💘 helps one build and continue the relationship.

[@KoganeKeith]

if you truly love someone, you would never even fathom doing something that would hurt them in any way possible.

[@cliftonhunter0523]

so i am assuming you are not referring to cheating... no one is in their right mind when "cheating", or thinking about hurting someone. put the shoe on the other foot.. a woman spends too much money on unnecessary items at the mall, causing financial harm to the couples future for the 10th time.. after several discussions with her partner.. is this not cheating.. this response was wrote in assumption...

[@stephenpan9624]

@Magnificently Fruity Star Power wqqq

[@unamed2516]

@@cliftonhunter0523 Your talking as if all women like to waste their time at the mall or only use their partners money. Most women have their own money today and can buy whatever they want.

[@rev.fr.ejikembaka6795]

Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp [phone] I have a surprise for you God bless

[@billieroney382]

@Magnificently Fruity Star Power I

[@sasakiumiquema9608]

"True love is sacrifice, giving up something for another thing that is far more important" I just realised true love can be applied for yourself too.

[@someone-co3nx]

Nice

[@nyat5413]

That is true love. Self love is the best love. No relationship is more important than the relationship we have with ourselves.

[@kai.965]

@@nyat5413 truth. :)

[@BFNLEO]

Just because someone has a place in your heart doesn’t mean you must make space for them in your life. It feels so damn good when you don’t accept mistreatment from anyone. Letting them go hurts for a moment but is worth it.

[@kloschuessel773]

Nyasia Tucker i wouldnt want to shake your hand

[@imsuperioroso]

this crowd is the opposite of his perfect skin... hella dry

[@morinomopariola]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@francescaw9410]

I'm weak 😂😂😂

[@gitanafox9852]

🤣🤣🤣

[@anhserc3534]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@angiearthur1408]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@juliejean-mary83]

ughhh this audience is terrible i love his talk. hes doing great

[@juicearibe]

Is not the onions the guys Dreiser desert wood

[@jtpfla3]

His tone did not encourage laughter neither is the Talk meant to entertain which is why he was able to continue and not be affected by the crowds emotionless demeanor

[@tehaniaweau-garcia8286]

Amen to that!!!

[@nl38383]

His style of jokes wouldnt typically go over well with your typical TED Talk audience

[@kellyandrews6099]

Julie Jean-Mary I agree! They are so dry 😫😑

[@khalebzionjeandra1667]

When he said: Sacrifice; I smiled from hear to hear. For love is, serving one another. What a Real Love God has for us!

[@angeritchie4034]

Ear to ear

[@Nunzi7655]

Sometimes we are just in love with being in love!

[@brittneycofield9153]

Christine Miller That’s me

[@Nunzi7655]

@@brittneycofield9153 me too! It's dangerous

[@MrPoe22]

That’s not love; that’s called addiction!! Seek therapy!!

[@Gfem01]

We can always find love. The person who will love us is right out here. Sometimes he or she might not know how to love us the way we want. What do you think? Thank you for your thought and watching my talk.

[@Gfem01]

@Lucy Emilia Romaniuk Great questions. What we know is usually from our child hood and parents. However, we can learn love by loving ourselves. As a matter of fact, love needs to start with us because it's what we have that we can share and give to our partners.

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

Cheating on someone only speaks the truth that you don’t love her that much. If you truly love a person, you can’t afford to hurt her feelings.

[@monkeymindfrance8356]

lack of real life experiences here, this is not hollywood !!!

[@christopherayettey4390]

My girl said she cheated on me because she thought I'll cheat on her first.... Totally broke my heart wen she did that

[@gitanafox9852]

...because in doing so you'll end up hurting yourself.

[@mbusiswagumede5274]

lol , I think cheating happens and sometimes it because their gaps in the relationship

[@christopherayettey4390]

@@mbusiswagumede5274 what do you mean by gaps?

[@jillianleda6732]

Im truly not attracted to anyone else when Im in love. I dont notice attraction and people I was previously attracted to I see as far less attractive than the one I love. I pray I can find someone from God true love. I also take care of myself and my partner fully to maintain both of our happiness.

[@monkeymindfrance8356]

here is the problem, love is only temporary. So once the spark will disappear, you will notice others people again and fall out of love if you don't cheat before

[@aceyshari]

Jillian Angel I’m with you on this!

[@belindaphillips2779]

You're not a man

[@kaylalala6]

Yes girl!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I pray too! In today’s society we are a “rare breed” very old school.. ♥️ I wish you luck!

[@janderson947]

@@monkeymindfrance8356 the spark is temporary love is still there, sometimes when you struggle to even like THEM you will work out because you both love eachother cheating a conscious choice a bad one but a choice for women, it's more of something missing possible emotionally loneliness but for men as well it's something different opportunity and there are people who are willing and they think their wives or main girl won't find out but it's a CHOICE

[@a.k.walker7429]

Real love starts after the honeymoon phase is over. I've found that real love can be seen after both of you break each other's heart. If both of you come back after your heart was broken, then you'll know it is meant to be. Everyone always thinks they'll never make mistakes, until the day they do. No one is perfect.

[@wanda01141]

Love this.

[@alecedmisten7639]

I needed this. My girlfriend of 5 years ended things a few days ago and I am destroyed. I have hope that we will be together again and I’m just trying to be patient and trust the best thing will happen.

[@rachy5384]

I don't believe in the honeymoon phase... Myself and my partner have been together for 6 and a half years now and if it is a thing then we are still in it 😍 it is the only true love I've ever found/developed relationship wise... None of my exs could ever match up at all to my current man!

[@Zikrums]

@@alecedmisten7639 thats some false hope ngl like 99.9% of couples don’t get back together. I think you should try your best to focus on what happened, learn from it and grow into your next relationship down the line.

[@armandopina8529]

Saw this somewhere Goes something like this: A successful marriage is made up of two good forgivers.

[@jedisantos2455]

2:27 "True love that is not backed up with the right action is not true love."

[@neveo9428]

So important but so easy to not notice when with a person who is charming ie they say the right words but their actions contradict.

[@nelsonmcgee4599]

Then do you know what that action is?

[@neveo9428]

@@nelsonmcgee4599 Yes

[@Empressrushell12]

I felt that in my soul because i recently ended a longterm relationship because of this

[@Gfem01]

Hi Jedi, thank you for your comment on my video. Why did that statement resonate with you?

[@lisas9223]

they're all in awe of his beauty. that's why they're so quiet. He's just too visually perfect

[@Goval400]

Lisa S wtf are u talking about

[@Gfem01]

Lol Thank you for your kind words and watching my talk

[@lisas9223]

@@Gfem01 you're welcome handsome

[@roxannareneerantz638]

All I can see is his shirt and tie!

[@lisas9223]

@@roxannareneerantz638 Nobody asked you Roxanne.

[@christellamilunga]

I was once told you can always tell how much a man loves you by how much he does for you. Not spending money but how much energy and effort he puts into all things involving you. When women love a man they put so much effort and energy into him. Sacrifice is love.

[@Seek_Truth]

Real love does not decline, if it does, it was never there in the first place.🥺

[@savannah6683]

I love it when he spoke about God's love and used that to illustrate what true love is 😭

[@shessavedbygrace4370]

Savannah サビちゃん I think this is the first and only time I heard God and his love in any TedX video... amazing! 👏

[@Demi.d3mi]

That made me happy and know i could gather what he was saying ♡

[@vulpisthefox]

Nice, but what about atheists? They can't feel true love? Kinda selfish.

[@nicholasleclerc1583]

@Kesil Kesila Wait no, if I understand this perfectly, he just means that God loves us the way someone *truly* loves someone else, so atheists can still have that true love : They just need to use an example , sometimes

[@MegaHeadach]

Savannah サバンナ Ahmed deedat would have destroyed this guy on quoting that verse. The videos r out there when he destroyed many pastors on that subject

[@ElexisTx]

He's literally glowing in the dark

[@heavenly5644]

I know right, they needed to turn on the lights brighter up in there!

[@Ashley-kl9vj]

skin goals fr

[@digiverse7686]

Lol, no man🙈

[@samanthataylor1761]

Courtnee Maxey no, he’s not.

[@aldrienaline9991]

I love Femi's voice. He'd narrate an audiobook really well.

[@lowe-v3k]

He needs to STOP SMACKING his lips tho! 💋

[@Hannah-my9ps]

I have a prof with the same accent. I have no problem listening to him the whole class👀

[@Sofia-wx2ht]

Oh his voice!! so calm and lovable...

[@cassie9147]

Yes, it's so relaxing.

[@lindseymarie2732]

Jamaican mon’

[@elizabethreynoso4748]

"When we examine love in a break up I believe one of three things has happened. It’s either one: There was no love at the beginning of the relationship to start with. Two; there was something bigger than the love that broke the relationship, or three. The love declined." SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

[@boobdylan8904]

@@patriciapatfamily6605 When did anyone ask

[@truarnett5519]

😂😂😂

[@ericlorenzoa.5826]

💯

[@sandrapaterson6322]

Addiction is a larger outside factor

[@alethiasingleton3109]

l HEARD THAT! LOUD AND CLEAR 😁

[@ajaaquino4228]

"God demonstrated true love. "❤

[@ImaShangel]

His accent is beautiful

[@royroyroy7293]

Caramelgodesss Nigerian man he is

[@msaishaha]

Nigerian accents are so beautiful. The way they pronounce words are so cute to me, when they have an accent. I talk with Nigerians on a regular basis.

[@Dimples423]

yes! my friend jay jays from Liberia

[@ladylyssa5130]

HE is beautiful!! 😍💖

[@JoJo-sc1db]

Abimbola Roy flawless skin, lovely Nigerian man. My best friend is a lovely Nigerian man

[@alexandralummeofficial]

I love that TedTalk let him speak of God

[@user-ei9qt2tt2d]

It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.

[@Hazelsparks-u7y]

I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.

[@user-ei9qt2tt2d]

Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.

[@Hazelsparks-u7y]

I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.

[@user-ei9qt2tt2d]

I promise you will not regret it.

[@Hazelsparks-u7y]

I just searched for Father Akunna online. impressive thank you so much one again ❤

[@beverlymariaali8847]

Your girlfriend was 'bold' enough to give you an ultimatum, and was prepared to stand by it. Our women today are so afraid to lose their partners that even though they fight, argue, taunt, insult the cheating partner, they still stick with them. You were given the time to sit back and analyse, then make a clear and concise decision. Men today know they can have their cake and eat it too, so they continue to push the limits!

[@V4ultr3mTV]

Not all men are this way, the world is to damn big for that assumption. Social media is destroying real relationships day by day, but there are many people who refuse to allow themselves to be consumed in it. When most people are trying to be the next Cardi B or Hugh Hefener, who's trying to be in a real relationship? But there's a catch... If YOU see yourself as a person who's truly faithful, who's to say that someone else like you doesn't exist? There's over 7 billion people in the world today, you're BOUND to run into bad matches because of today's society. But It's up to you to stay strong and find your match. Alot of people today only like the good qualities in people and want to reject the bad when they should make a few healthy compromises but don't, so they throw the WHOLE person out of their lives.

[@elijahf8]

Women, too. They get too little slack for being unfaithful.

[@HB-kz8qo]

V4ultr3mTV nah there’s probably about 5billion now with that flu that’s out hahahaha

[@jamesalex391]

Maria Ali women cheat on average just as much as men.

[@celesteaurigue5546]

someones_takako very disappointed that I saw a Mgtow comment here

[@melissavilane7499]

I just love how when our African brothers speak, we listen, they captivate us and even almost sounds like preaching. Lovely TedTalk... Food for thought

[@dransomb1]

"even almost sounds like preaching". Was the message so subtle that you didn't notice the sermon was all about the love of God?

[@yalemfikergirma9170]

what about our African sisters?

[@vvperez4622]

I agreee

[@mamamagere]

People spend their lives searching for people, places, and things to satisfy themselves. When you meet another who understands and recognizes your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual personhood; satisfaction is near. You will never leave such a one, and nothing you do for them will seem sacrificial - it's just pure joy. I believe this gift of love is divine. But so many are unaware that this love is possible, and so we settle, cheat, divorce and struggle with our limited knowledge of counterfeit love.

[@susan9188]

Unfortunately though a lot of people meet the 'one' you know you're supposed to be with at the wrong time! The moral is never settle until you find that special person who ticks all your boxes, physically, emotionally, spirituality and soulfully! If not, you will never be completely happy in any other relationship.

[@Amadeus_2061]

How does one find this love?

[@Satan666Official]

Nothing can defeat that. Best way to find love is to not look for it, funnily enough. Through so many broken hearts, and finding my true love, I've learned that when you find a person you really want to love and grow with, you must believe in them, and put in your 100% even when it is not convenient for you. Most of all, be HONEST in the right time, BE CONSISTENT in your effort, and TALK to them about how you feel, tell them everything. If you are afraid of not being accepted by someone, do you really want to hide yourself from the one you're supposed to love? Sacrifice that wall for them. Do it for you too. Accept that person as they are, love them all that they are now, and let them love you. Give them the chance to love you.

[@Amadeus_2061]

@@Satan666Official Beautifully written. I needed to read that. Thank you.

[@midoscent]

You mean counterfeit relationship

[@mrshifter9582]

True love is what you feel for your children, when you know you would lay down your life in an instant for them.

[@momohead2798]

Love is an action Period don’t just tell me, show me

[@keemamack7955]

Indeed my Brother that's my quote all day. My Dad told me always watch what people do and not words. Along where the spirit and soul resonate at I've picked up

[@miloudivyne]

Narcissistic man and pick me in the comment section

[@anmarimarin8941]

Love should be seen both in action and words. It cannot be just one over the other.

[@Bebedollie]

Yeaha

[@ljo7560]

It should also be intentional.

[@rattlersunited]

The entire audience is cheating on their partners...lol

[@giselemudiay1926]

rattlersunited 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@aissatasy3090]

😂🤣😅

[@Optymystykal]

Lol, I thought the same thing

[@TL-kt2ye]

Lmao. 😂😂🤣🤣😂🤣

[@NisiaRuth]

😄😂🤣😂

[@tammyveran1868]

" True love that is not backed up by the right action is not true love"

[@jenniferlitz7372]

Tru that . ACTIONS say EVERYTHING . words are simply , just words when no action follows them .

[@Smughyorita]

Respect = love = effort. It's not just what we say but what we do. To feel loved by how our special someone treats us... 😊.

[@bruggesfc]

When i think about her my soul feels warm. When i am with her i feel complete.

[@calicoD]

How do you know you truly Love someone or if someone truly Loves you: Sacrifice Amen brother

[@LiChow]

Use feeling -- intuition

[@virginiabangalao6677]

different about love and I don't know... not perfect,not expecting... someone come to my life... I really feel that I Love you... feel inside my heart and mind that truly love ..heart not dictated mind teach.

[@MichaelZedeler]

And I'm supposed to surrender 14 minutes waiting for someone to tell me something that simple? Come on!

[@sherbear1914]

@@MichaelZedeler play the victim as if someone held a gun to your head and made you watch this on a site where you are in control of what you watch. Meanwhile unless you're a baby every movie TV show etc after the age 12 should teaches the same thing. So get over yourself and go make some real life friends so you can whine to them we get it you don't believe in God great! Ever wonder why you are so lost. How about I get in a car and go to a destination I've never been before get lost and say I don't believe in Navigation whether I believe or not it's available at anytime

[@MichaelZedeler]

@@sherbear1914 I'm not opposed to people talking about God and mixing in anecdotes from their personal lives, but I'm upset that TED has signed off on this.

[@Britt-q1q]

This man is cocoa butter, Shea butter & almond oil all in human form 😍

[@Thinknappythoughts]

...with a taste of honey!

[@msv3630]

That's the whole reason why I even clicked on the video honestly.

[@soylabonita]

fine he looks like dark chocolate special addition.

[@zairagrant5989]

Lololol

[@dandeliondoodles]

Staaaap 😂😂😂

[@mellisacole1]

1. This man is dropping so much knowledge and truths. 2. He looks like he should be on the front page of a magazine. So handsome. 3. His jokes are funny and he’s interactive. 4. That audience is filled with cheaters, there’s no way no one laughed, sang the Mary song, or clapped when he spoke about getting married and having babies. 5. The audience wasn’t ready for this message

[@victoriaschera5149]

but we’re ready 😁

[@Mondies24]

Love that he gave the example of Jesus as the ultimate sacrifice to show Gods amazing love for us! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@buebitohonguito4061]

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@rev.fr.ejikembaka6795]

Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp [phone] I have a surprise for you God bless

[@grahambarnes7325]

but that example didnt work for me, I was raised differently

[@vatsalpanchal6580]

Seems like dislikes are from the same people who were sitting in the audience.

[@bijouxaddict]

true - how can you not love this beautiful talk??? this guy is awesome!

[@joy_esinam]

😂🤣🤣

[@Misnyc]

😂😂😂😂

[@beedabee1221]

🤣🤣🤣

[@17thUnicorn]

Yeah, such a dull bunch loll!

[@JK-pq5fq]

True love is the only type of love that can keep and sustain a relationship. It will help you make the ultimate sacrifice to give up playing games, quit destructive habits, and seek counseling where you can to acquire tools and knowledge in order for you to have a healthy relationship.

[@controversykeyes227]

Love without passion is like a body without a soul. Damn that was deep. I feel it.

[@olufunmi5198]

The audience silence doesn't mean the speech was boring, it simply means the words are sinking into their brain ....... Shouting and clapping while listening to a speech shows ur only been entertain and nothing to remember afterwards as you've laughed it all away. Note : any man or woman who dose not love God can not love his fellow man genuinely. The greatest lover is God and God only .....the unconditional lover. If you desire a faithful partner for life then love your creator first because he first loved you. John 3:16

[@lydia8322]

I agreed with you

[@MzSuzy2698]

Grateful Soul There's one in every crowd.

[@Tallonest]

I don’t know what that means.

[@nofybn7794]

Religious, FALSE! Don't bring god into this.

[@ananya8232]

What does religion have to do with this

[@dw1826]

Your wife is blessed. This man is handsome.

[@shaaddhillon3819]

With amazing skin!

[@amye9655]

In, spirit. First])

[@AS-lz6hp]

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@TheMariemarie16]

I really hope so. I don't have faith that what is on the outside is the same as what is done behind closed doors because oftentimes its not but, he does appear handsome and wise. Im sure that he has much temptation.

[@katewarner2867]

I know riiiiiight?

[@Yourlifeisgold79]

There must be alot of cheaters in that audience...* crickets* 😂😂

[@ifeolunu]

Nurse Judy 😂😂😂

[@giselemudiay1926]

Nurse Judy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣omg

[@blairculver8099]

😩😩🤣

[@aissatasy3090]

😁😂🤣😄😅😆

[@lin-168]

😂

[@ToniJ.O]

Don't worry about that dry audience. We on KZbin are your audience (nearly 4 million) and we're loving it!

[@bieberpro]

I love how he’s sharing the gospel

[@KelzBernard]

Alicia Weenum Exactly! I love that.

[@esther21513]

I thought the same thing. I've actually not seen something like that on any TedTalk

[@daphne2108]

@JockStrap Wilnott-Ex Navy Walrus says the guy with the name "JockStrap" ugh, Chads these days

[@joy_esinam]

Ikr

[@nyimbonizipendazo]

I love the way he speaks. So soft and calm

[@CorporateQueen]

Only an African man can party that hard, be surrounded by women, talk about God and sacrifice all with that twinkle in his eye..and we love him anyway. Beautiful talk. Love it.

[@tabatatee]

True 🤣🤣🤣👊🏽

[@TheMariemarie16]

Their culture includes a healthy respect for marriage and a good wife. Religious elements stress the importance of family roles so yes many of them are still capable of cheating for certain but at the end of the day their society structure places alot of importance on being a provider, husband father within a married family. They have less divorce than Americans (I know that many have unhappy marriages and some have multiple wives esp in Islamic families). Despite this I still think that overall their culture does not place shame on a man sacrificing for a woman. In the USA amongst his peers he might be called a SIMP.

[@sweetspice9120]

TheMariemarie16 you are totally right! Our men provide almost everything. My dad did and so are my brothers and brother-inlaws. Women care for the home and keep their money for emergencies. That is d way it is. Men dont know what their wives earn and they dont ask. But we absolutely RESPECT the men almost like little gods. Men love respect but women love to be cared for/secured so its a win win

[@TheSubtlewitch]

A relationship needs more than just love!

[@priscahndagwedhah8097]

Silence isn't always bout being guilty. It's about the interest, the realisation, learning, digesting, accepting the truth and being eager to know the anwers to the questions you've always had but never got answers

[@Npriv8]

He would’ve gotten better interaction from a wall, what kind of audience is this?

[@msmccormick5744]

A respectful one?

[@alexquyenvo5196]

Haha... Please stop being so funny haha...

[@GodfavoredChild8049]

Princess lol

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

@@msmccormick5744 not really. The least they could've done was acknowledge his sense of humor. This was a boring crowd.

[@niccolea2086]

Princess he’s boring.

[@marlonnunez8488]

Love yourself first and you'll find someone that really loves you with respect.

[@palmbearoftexas2007]

marlon nunez I keep reading about “loving yourself” so you can truly love others and be loved, but how?!

[@treevapeacock846]

@@palmbearoftexas2007 by taking your own inventory and identify our strengths and weaknesses and honoring both, not easy at first but WORTH whatever pain or discomfort it temporarily presents.....forgive yourself for your mistakes and be willing to Be open hearted and vulnerable enough to make more versus believing you can actually be perfect......Acceptance of every flawed part as well as the perfect parts of you is a great place to begin and most important .....be GENTLE with yourself.......and for Many of us, THAT is one of the hardest parts, especially if you weren't always treated GENTLY .♡♡♡

[@palmbearoftexas2007]

Treeva Peacock Hi. It’s been many months indeed. I finally found the answer once I realized I finally loved myself.

[@treevapeacock846]

@@palmbearoftexas2007 I am elated to hear! Because to me, one more beautiful human on this awesome planet is experiencing what we all really want and therefore will BE happier and more fulfilled which naturally leads to loving others in many other ways, platonic, romantic, agape....and thus further evolving the process across the earth of cultivating TRUE peace and harmony at the purest deepest level ♡♡♡ Thank YOU!!

[@cathygarrett-davis7938]

God makes no mistakes. I stumbled on this by watching something else totally unrelated and it confirms that it is time for me to "try love again" in recognition that it was people, not love, that hurt me and I should not let those flawed individuals keep me in bondage any longer. Thank you Dr. Smalls.

[@carolineellis3637]

This is amazing, the exact same thing happened to me. I too stumbled across this after listening to Dr Smalls. God is LOVE and He knows our hearts and enables us to recognise that we can be vulnerable and Love again with His wisdom. Thank you Sir for this insightful talk. True love is sacrificial and l especially loved that you mentioned God's sacrificial Love for us by giving us His son. Love and Blessings 🇬🇧😊😊❤

[@vanaphill2454]

If a man cheats, he does not love his woman. That woman needs to leave if he cheats four times. She needs to leave if he cheats once.

[@bschafer4247]

But if a woman cheats it's also the fault of him because he just did not gave her enough time,love,attention etc

[@marsiez]

ben hosch no, it’s not the men’s fault then, it’s still the cheaters fault, and their lack of confidence etc.

[@NovaDivine999]

@@bschafer4247 no. Cheating is the fault of the cheater

[@BJ-fr5ls]

ben hosch - Exactly. But remember, she’s not cheating if he doesn’t know 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@BJ-fr5ls]

Levi Ackerman - It’s called sarcasm friend. The point is, women are hypocrites but you know what? The cover is being pulled off of them. A day of reckoning is happening.

[@nicadquartz]

*Believe actions over words...* So obviously and painfully true... but so easy to ignore. 😅

[@sehsiwteloiv]

I practice this in all my relationships. If their words don't back up what they say, I drop them. And at the same time it makes me even more aware that I also need to back up my words with actions. It's a two-way street after all.

[@ASAPJermz]

@@sehsiwteloiv Introspection at it's finest, respect 💯

[@tappingcatpaws]

I love this. I love how he makes the truth so clear and vivid. He also shares his love of the Lord because it perfectly goes with the topic. Wonderful speech.

[@beaupeterson188]

Love is somewhat relative. Perhaps the most important thing in love is knowing what it means to you and finding someone that fits into that definition. Perhaps the biggest problem in love is that experience may be required before we really know what we want. This may mean broken hearts are inevitable. Knowing that should help, however.

[@maruja2023]

"There is nothing bigger than love that can break a relationship IF the couple truly love each other." And there's the catch.

[@mrmoe110]

As a man, when I'm with someone I really love I don't even have the desire to be around other women in an intimate setting. But I've only experienced this agape love once. And I think the reason a lot of guys can't stop cheating is because they've never really experienced this agape love, only eros love.

[@nami_archives]

Bless you sir. Hoping there's more guys who think and do the same way like you. Your girl is definitely lucky to have you!

[@jasminejones9058]

Until you can find that kinda "agape love" again ? I suggest you keep to yourself or you may break someones heart and that would be messy and tragic.... for both parties !

[@TaylordSpirit]

Cheaters in the audience....the silence speaks 😒

[@giselemudiay1926]

Mrs. Vixen Sanders 😂😂😂😂🤭

[@diegowaahere]

lol forreal

[@Blueeyesinthesky]

Well one guy coughed so maybe theres a small glimmer of hope...

[@rose4490]

The silence is roaring. 🙁

[@elisespencer6687]

African Amer96ican 7th

[@a_starr]

I love his story about his college days “I was like Hugh Hefner in my own home, with all the bunnys” I couldn’t stop laughing. Can’t believe the audience didn’t laugh at his jokes. I’m so happy he was able to make the sacrifice for love and that he could see that when he was young. I feared it would be a story about how he missed his chance but that’s a beautiful story, so inspirational.

[@truarnett5519]

I know fell out laughing! 😂😂😂

[@pepperloverr]

Maybe they were too drawn into deep thinking! 🙃

[@JLocsMix]

I know.

[@v.johnson1293]

frr they were so quiet

[@acounticecrayola435]

meanwhile im laughing at everyone

[@caleab27]

“I hope you both feel the sparks by the end of the drive I hope you know she's the one by the end of the night I hope you never ever felt more free Tell your friends that you're so happy I hope she comes along and wrecks every one of your plans I hope you spend your last dime to put a rock on her hand I hope she's wilder than your wildest dreams She's everything you're ever gonna need And then I hope she cheats Like you did on me” - Gabby Barret

[@victoriagevara8223]

Damn ........ that hit hard. That hit my soul.

[@YakThaWiseman72]

Whoa

[@Kismayo-Videos]

Vicious and ruthless yet reasonable and logical came to mind when I read your poem. I sense you went through tough time with your past relationships. Good luck on your next one.

[@marye.5486]

That’s a Charlie Puth song called I hope.

[@marye.5486]

cali yare Not his poem, it’s a famous song, lol.

[@peggyhakanson3139]

I've loved my children in this way....gave up my opportunities for going to college, travel, lived on shoe-string budget in dicey neighborhoods, fought doctors who wanted me to give up on my children, gave up having friends (most did not want to hang with someone with such dire circumstances in their life) to raise children on life support by myself when my ex left to have a life and my family wanted to pretend we didn't exist. These things came to me decades later...and life is good!

[@misslady9286]

The way he wove that scripture into his speech was flawless! My people would attend church if their pastors were that smooth!!

[@totalfootball7924]

👊🏾🙏🏾

[@Cherrycreamsoda1]

Whenever I've said to a friend I thought I was selfish, they assured me I wasn't. However, I'm willing to give up someone I adore or care about to protect my own health. True love can also be self-love. I just try and do the right thing.

[@crystaltshivule554]

His voice is so poised😭😍

[@deelee1568]

When you truly love somebody,you are never tempted!💕

[@Rairun]

Sure...

[@H41030v3rki110ny0u]

@@Rairun It's the truth, although. Temptation exists not within those with that frame of mind.

[@yashkundu9696]

Nope people are always tempted by beauty, that's when responsibility kicks in and resist the temptations the world throws at you

[@shwetaprabhu6754]

If you're human you'll be tempted by Satan

[@godschildyes]

@@shwetaprabhu6754 True

[@pasteldreams5413]

All of the comments are about the following things: a. The audience sucks b. Omg his skinnnn c. All of this is common sense d. He's African and we love him Yep, that's all folks.

[@wlfxy]

Basically lol

[@Yamilethal7]

He should be loved because he is human period.

[@suzycheesecake5138]

Yeah. What about the message?

[@rahimahill]

Pastel Dreams true lol

[@deespeaks._6315]

Definitely saved me from wasting 20 minutes of my time with this comment !

[@ms.daneeg.cordero9743]

I literally cried 😭.. because my man really love me and I love him too so much. We are in love and we have this TRUE LOVE because we sacrifice for each other.. We leave our old life for our relationship ❤️

[@Lordran__]

Still together?

[@Savvieyoung]

🥺❤️

[@ajarounjumah4427]

Wow so happy to hear that

[@beverleybrangman2191]

So happy for you, wishing you long, passionate and sacrificial love together

[@KimmiiaS]

😢❤

[@HH-kn3fi]

"would you cheat on someone you love?" if your answer isn't an immediate "no" then u aint it tbh

[@YakThaWiseman72]

H H why not? I don't cheat true story it's to much work sneaking around, lying remembering the lie etc Ijs that's me and I'm married

[@loveme6670]

@@YakThaWiseman72 yea right..... Of course you gonna say that. With ya wife having access to these comments.....lol....But the facts are.....none of y'all are faithful. Some of yall just care enough to never get caught. The quicker women realize this....the better off we will be.

[@rakshaberavole1281]

saw this at 111 comments

[@dirtystrawbs]

When he began to list the reasons a relationship ends, I love the way he worded everything. Explaining the points and bringing the only 3 points to an easier understanding. I wish the audience was more receptive but it helped in really being able to focus on his words. If he read a book on this, I would read it over and over

[@HopeHasWarriors]

This is one of the best Ted Talks ever ....going through a divorce I didn’t want from an emotionally abusive ex-husband. I’m starting to recognize I am better off, of course. But this is really enlightening. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

In the exact same boat. We’ll get through this and be better off!

[@Hpytyty]

Same here after 28 years

[@heatherlopez5852]

Same here too high school sweethearts and after 20 years and four children I've never been more confused in my life and I feel like my entire life was a lie and I'm sick.

[@shawnpinckney7649]

"Love without passion is like a body with no soul " "True love comes with SACRIFICE "❤‍🔥 TEACH us TEACHER🙏🏾