10yrs of friendship... for nothing? // life chat

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@verannaca Ай бұрын

*PLEASE READ* I HAVE NO IDEA WHY THIS VIDEO BLEW UP. I am going through comments but HOLY SHOOT there are so many, idk what to do with myself. NOT ANGRY YELLING JUST PANICKING LOL FAQ: **I HAD NO INTENTIONS OF BECOMING A CONTENT CREATOR. . I'm shaking that so many people have found this video and are passing judgements and comments on my private life hahaha I didn't post the Patreon link because the blog has been abandoned since this video blew up + I don't have time to maintain it anyways. **Baby's father is not in the picture because he died! It's not something I'm comfortable talking about online so please stop being rude & stop asking! **I'm keeping things as anonymous as possible because this is about MY experience and MY perspective, I'm not going into the details of the relationship or otherwise because it isn't about that. **I censor my child's face/name/info because he is a child and cannot consent to being online! I'M NOT ACCEPTING ANY COMMENTS THAT ARE DISCUSSING PERSONAL DETAILS. I'M NOT A CONTENT CREATOR. PLEASE STOP DIGGING FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION. THANK YOU.❤

@uuppyy885421 Ай бұрын

KZbin algo got me here and this is very touching. Youre a wonderful person and the fact you care so much is why I believe you are certainly good enough. Youre already there :) Just a stranger’s opinion, but I hope it can make this corner of the world a bit cozier ❤ Hope this makes you smile a lil

@verannaca Ай бұрын

Thank you for your kindness ❤

@The_Fancave Ай бұрын

I'm really sorry that you had such a rough time. It seems like you have been through hell and back. I can totally relate. Sending positive healing vibes your way!

@georgelucas8287 Ай бұрын

I'm 24 years old and recently went through a similar experience with my friends over the past year. I've known them for over a decade, and they've always displayed childish behavior, (as we grew up together). I had hoped they would mature, so I tried to open up and be more vulnerable with them, but it only led to more toxic, childish reactions. I ended up cutting ties within the last year with little resistance from them, which only confirmed their lack of care. I completely understand your position and I'm also 100% terrified of making new friends and potentially wasting even more time.

@verannaca Ай бұрын

You worded this so much simpler than I did. 100% relate to the: growing up together, but them always displaying childish/immature behaviour. Then they act as if I'm acting "superior" for outgrowing them? It's so hard to explain without sounding pompous. But thank you for understanding what I mean. I hope you can find at least one supportive person to keep by your side. It's important in this life to have people we can count on and trust unconditionally. I wish my international friends were closer - I don't know where I'd be without them ❤

@georgelucas8287 Ай бұрын

@@verannaca Yea I'm not trying to write a whole essay lol(Who's gonna read that?) but a video is different you just need to nail the title and thumbnail and I'd watch for hours(like you did). And yep, It's hard to just grow up around people who want to stay close to the ground AND also keep you there with em. I'm done trying to tip toe every major decision I make in life purely so I'm accepted by my "friends". They're free to live their lives as they please but so I am and so are you.

@ryanlamb8118 Ай бұрын

I don't know why I landed on this video, but I'm kinda glad I did. Your outlook is not an uncommon one, and it's refreshing to hear someone express it so normally. Expectations are a tricky one. I totally understand you feel like having them is reasonable, but consider anther outlook - expectations are more like hoping to be guaranteed something. I hate to say, there's no such thing. So for myself, I find I have to lower or manage my expectations. This does not mean lowering standards, but rather, being more realistic about what we expect in return. Like the other comment said about lopsided relationships. Most are unfortunately...but it comes down to this - are they worth it? If you post again, I'll keep watching. You've got a lot more than you know going for you. Just keep your head up. Thanks for being bold and sharing.

@DwayneDunn-b4z Ай бұрын

From my experience, as soon as you have kids you find out who your real friends are.

@JeffrikOG9 Ай бұрын

I found having friends really difficult because it always feels one sided

@verannaca Ай бұрын

Yes, unfortunately, this seems to be a common issue, especially nowadays. Sorry that happens to you. I hope you can find your people :)

@markmurphy9280 Ай бұрын

Be your own best friend, i could listen to you all day! ☺ subscribed.

@verannaca Ай бұрын

Very kind, thank you ❤ I really have no intentions of creating content, so uploads will be few & far between, but if you want to follow the journey anyways, you're more than welcome. Thanks for the kindness and support

@calebtot Ай бұрын

I have a friend I've known for five years. Recently, I thought our friendship might be over because I opened up and shared a lot of vulnerable feelings with them. They're usually pretty avoidant, and I’ve always tried to match their pace, but these things were weighing on me and just had to come out. After that, they shut down and ignored me for about a month and a half. Now they’ve reinitiated contact, but it feels like something’s been damaged, and I can't shake the feeling that I might be wasting my time-or giving too much of myself. I really care about them, though, and it’s tough. The history we have makes the good times so much sweeter, but when things go south, it hits even harder. So yeah, I get it. You're not alone. Being an empathetic person is not always easy. Life is messy.

@deplorablemike3349 Ай бұрын

I have to say that friends come and go but family is forever. Friends are really just for entertainment. One person really changed my entire perspective on friendship. My family took him in, did a lot for him. He basically used us. When I moved to a city on the coast and was hit by four hurricanes and he knew this, NO WORD, when my father died, NO word, when my sister died NO word. He had become really religious but I think he’s a total POS. He just vanished. So whatever. It really changed my entire perspective.