11 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People | Marcus Aurelius Stoicism

11 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People | Marcus Aurelius Stoicism
Discover the wisdom of Marcus Aurelius and the power of Stoicism to transform your life. In this insightful 30-minutes video, uncover how Stoicism and the profound quotes of Marcus Aurelius equip you with the strength to control your emotions and remain unshakeable in the face of adversity. Learn practical strategies for dealing with toxic people, whether they're friends, coworkers, family members, or in relationships. Explore the Stoic philosophy's approach to understanding the meaning of life and how to practice stoicism daily. Dive deep into Marcus Aurelius' meditations and how his insights solve universal challenges, offering a path to personal development and mindfulness. Whether you're struggling with negative people or seeking to understand why you attract toxic individuals, this video offers guidance and stoic wisdom to help you navigate life's difficult encounters with an iron mind. Join us to embrace the lessons of ancient wisdom and apply practical Stoicism in your life, mastering the art of dealing with difficult people and fostering personal growth.
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[@thestoiccommunity]

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[@Saturn12154]

could you check your gmail please? ty ^_^

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[@user-ui3cp5rk2m]

Can I have a script ?

[@health-of-it]

Thank you. Keep up the good work.

[@thejourneyofwisdom9]

Marcus Aurelius once said, 'Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?' Applying this to dealing with toxic people, it makes me wonder: How can we use our own reflections to better handle difficult interactions? Have you ever turned a challenging relationship around by looking inward first? Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences!

[@Iamsam-jl5fn]

It’s not always the outright jerks you need to avoid - it’s the people who are charming and nice.

[@lkhoopordie9153]

Best comment

[@sandrasanders-jr6qx]

They wear a mask, once you know who they truly are, the mask is see though

[@user-xh8jd5ff8k]

especially if they are Jekyll and Hyde personalities and narcissistic,males or females...,put your mental health first..not last in order to please them

[@doriangray7723]

Charming and nice are great. However, if this type of person displays a malignant side without just then you know to keep guard. We should always be on guard with others regardless.

[@Elizalynn-sunshine]

Yes!! Family for me

[@benbridwell9991]

Best advice for dealing with toxic people. Move. Far away.

[@1La2La3La4La]

Its not always possible when they are your colleagues, is it?

[@Jopan471]

My mother used to say “never let anyone take away your peace”

[@randychris5031]

She was/is right peace ☮️ is a precious gift 🎁 you shouldn’t exchange for anything. But first you get freedom then you get pease.

[@ginajones2328]

My mom said that

[@ziggyzaagsma473]

And I don’t even like peas.

[@Mac16111]

I just love your mother.

[@macadoo2530]

Good advice

[@Marked_One333]

“Your peace is not up for negotiation”

[@Paul-gu7qz]

No it's not!

[@Paul-gu7qz]

Not going back to prison.So don't have to worry about that anymore.

[@davidbraun2989]

​@@Paul-gu7qz - no it's not , it's always under attack . That's not the same thing is it ? I'm not necessarily asking you , I'm just thinking out loud . I would appreciate anything you or anyone else has to say . I really enjoy this channel .

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[@Joandearc594]

@@davidbraun2989 my peace is under continual attack. This is a gift. From tne enemies of the good. To make me stronger and fearless. Quite often I'm layed up in bed for days as I am to broken.down and a fail. All on my own it's too much

[@darrellborland119]

"Remember that their projected unhappiness is often a reflection of their own internal struggles" thanks.

[@edmondasatoorians8135]

Absolutely 💯 agreed

[@TheBeachkitten]

True, but I am not their punching bag!

[@barb2793]

​​@@TheBeachkittenabsolutely. No empathy needed for a bully or a narcissist.

[@TheDoctor1225]

@@TheBeachkitten Agreed,. 100%, nor should anyone be. I always took from statements like the ones made here is that (a) we don't need to make it about us and let it ruin our day even while we (b) take the steps we need to in order to distance ourselves or remove them from our circle of people we deal with. They don't define us, and we don't need to give them the power to ruin our self image or day.

[@danalarose846]

​@@TheBeachkittenthat's right

[@TheConfuddledz]

Sometimes you just have to walk away from the drama even when it’s from family

[@arieschick1]

Absolutely. Disengage. It's called No Contact in the realm of dealing w Narcissistic abuse

[@tah2606]

Yep

[@patriceroach6373]

I did just that ❤

[@sandblastingincorporated6286]

Basically screw everyone

[@laraboo2645]

Same

[@peternicholls6532]

Silence... is golden.

[@ganymeade5151]

Narcissistic encounters are designed to be overpowering, overwhelming, and cruel. We must realize that narcissists are broken and sick people who work to break others. Once we realize this, we can learn to get strong and resilient and shield ourselves. Narcissists prey on emotional people who they can manipulate. Protect yourself from the influence of evil people. Stoicism helps greatly.

[@cynthiamallard9776]

My mother almost ruined me.

[@sagebay2803]

@@cynthiamallard9776 same!

[@eddiemcloughlin3200]

When you realised there damaged goods and can't help what they do it makes it easy to not even see it

[@invisableobserver]

Well said

[@user-xh8cb1ev3f]

If they are willing to do the tough, intensive shoveling away if their own hurt and the childhood trauma that triggered it, their cruel nature's become temporary ..and they can finally meet the person they, themselves, were afforded by God himself to be.

[@Jopan471]

Distancing yourself emotionally

[@ganymeade5151]

Evil people feed on neediness and other negative emotions.

[@StoicAwe]

"The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

[@ozqadir913]

I really needed to be reminded of this today. Thanks for posting ❤💪🏽☀️

[@bethcummingsdawson3187]

This is something Everyone should hear instead of main news media pushing fear, this IS proper education. Knowledge to safeguard our peace of mind

[@reesedaniel5835]

Yep. "Main news" media is propaganda and owned by 5 psychopathic corporations.

[@melfields310]

The more I learn about myself, the more I trust my actions. The less I concern myself with what other people think about me. It’s really none of my business anyway.

[@ceemurray4985]

It is all your business because narcissists create gossip and rumors opposite to Karen there called on.no a 'Dave' avoid Dave worldwide at all costs there all evil 2faced spineless bastards

[@1La2La3La4La]

Hello, I am a person who compeltely pleases others whole time and try my best to have a peaceful environment at work, too. I find the others (Colleagues) totally opposite, though. Result : They can leave for homw without overtime-stipulation BUT the boss gives them stress and thats why the whole environment is like that.

[@jennyosborne6571]

They judge other's as they see themselves.

[@Astroqualia]

This never made sense to me. It always sounded like an easy cop out from someone trying to psychoanalyze and spit out a good sounding 1 liner about what they see when they see nothing other than what is shown.

[@ElizzzaB]

​@Astroqualia there is a word for it: projection. Or some are jealous.

[@kellypolfleit3942]

Great point!

[@Astroqualia]

@ElizzzaB yes, I know what projection is. Everyone who disagrees with what is said just claims projection as an armchair psychologist. Even actual psychologists do this at times. It's a cop out because they don't understand people who think differently from themselves.

[@jennyosborne6571]

@@Astroqualia some of these psychologist need one themselves.

[@sherrym9342]

The nugget I accepted from this was she. The narrator said” you determine where your garden ends and the wild begins.” That has really resonated with me. Thank you.

[@veronicahaits5233]

"Picture your energy as a limited precious resource, like water in a desert. Every interaction you partake in is like giving a drop of that water away. Now would you rather give it to someone who plants seeds in your desert making it bloom or to someone who lets it evaporate under the scornful sun. Setting boundaries is about investing your energy wisely."

[@ganymeade5151]

Feed flowers; not weeds.

[@user-xi2hq1re4y]

Very well put. I appreciate the imagery. 😊

[@Deni-ii7ng]

Beautiful advice ❤❤❤❤ spot on 💪

[@doyoueatrocks]

I prefer not to consider my energy as limited because that means if people do take it away, it cannot come back. But it is still precious and I won’t waste time or bandwidth on impossible people.

[@andresj3939]

What a great way to define such a situation. I commend you.

[@user-jo5vj7zo7v]

This channel is like having a friend to count on giving you good advice. Thank you!

[@thestoiccommunity]

Glad you think so

[@lifetothebrim]

I like that analogy. indeed, you are correct. Such epic truth that evades many.

[@PhilosophIQ]

"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” - Marcus Aurelius

[@TheBuzz222]

Some people are just wise and worth listening too. The thing is I was poisoned for 8 years at my work 3 grand mall seizures so I'm real toxic it is a risk just to talk to me. But not my fault it is the fault of my corrupt employer and the WCB

[@ganymeade5151]

@@TheBuzz222 Prayer or mindfulness can help to gain detachment, strength, and resilience. Demons are disturbed by prayer. According to the Bible, God tossed Satan and his demons out of Heaven. Focus on what is positive. Focus on other things. Learn to relax and detach. Listen to relaxing music. Exercise if possible. Take care of your health. You really need to protect yourself from cruel, toxic people who prey on others. Don't internalize their negativity. Watch Stoic videos regularly.

[@TheBuzz222]

@@ganymeade5151 Thanks Bro, that is a great way start my day. I have a major upcoming battle with WCB it won't easy or pretty but I note backing down I will present the truth and God always bares me out. Keep me posted with your wise insight. Remember Hindsight is 202 The devil is in the details and Satan takes care of his own.

[@ruskinyruskiny1611]

MA a great help at all times. Self chosen, habitual "gentleness within" is His ideal.

[@Originalwisdom2024]

In my opinion, if we often face people with negative emotions that affect us, we should quietly and quietly leave."The best answer to anger is silence"

[@bcascadascrane9831]

I say speak calmly and clearly . If you don't get through, then take your action of silence. Calm and clear is not always quiet.

[@melissajacobs8027]

Amen so true

[@mentoncouve]

I did just that yesterday.

[@mightyobserver12]

What if you live together

[@dustersinternational221]

​@@mightyobserver12set boundaries, if you are only there to absorb their shouty toxic behaviour, you will need to tell them to go, leave, you both leave... Divorce. End the game they control through fear. You are worth peace and a peaceful life ❤

[@CHill-ew3nk]

Wow! This hit hard today. As I’m listening to this. I got a text from a person that wasn’t happy with me not checking in on them. This is the same person that hasn’t checked on me. After listening to this. I decided not to text back.

[@209tone9]

Damn, we must be going through the same thing because I have the same situation going on, but not only with checking in but with everything when I first met them, I included them in my smoke sessions smoking weed because I didn’t wanna smoke with myself as time went on It’s slowly change. It went from me inviting them to smoke with me to some of your weed when I was at work too trying to make me feel guilty for smoking weed without them even if it wasn’t mine I know it sounds a little petty, but this is just one of the examples that just stares at me like why didn’t I see that I didn’t really notice the change I just noticed at one point, they felt that if I smoke weed without them that justified them talking to me disrespectfully and yelling at me no matter who was around, even though they never even bought the weed this is the person who threw up in my car on several occasions at each time never even bothered to clean it up smh. and when I told them my issues with them, they said no that is not your issue you’re lying. You really just wanna go do this this and that and dismiss everything I said.

[@reesedaniel5835]

That narc is pissed because it can't ignore YOUR texts and feed off the perceived hurt it caused you.

[@gasmith7486]

You’re not that person’s babysitter. Sounds like that person is trying to make you their emotional hostage!

[@gasmith7486]

@@209tone9You need CLARITY OF MIND if you’re going to have a healthy life and healthy relationships. That means no anesthesia of any kind.

[@whodidit99]

well done!

[@edisonurena2278]

My peace ☮️ is not up for negotiation!

[@amandawright4915]

Ignorance is a bliss I ignore their existence.

[@eddiemcloughlin3200]

True, what's the saying, if ignorance was bliss then a lot would be orgasmic, there pretty awful creatures

[@eddiemcloughlin3200]

I'm talking about other people who enjoy watching you suffer

[@HeritageOfWisdom]

"Life is very short and anxious for those who forget the past, neglect the present, and fear the future" - Seneca

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[@weiwu1968]

Absolutely 💯

[@ganymeade5151]

Learn to live before it is too late.

[@noself7889]

The best line of defense. Eradicate toxic people from your life. If they are a family member or coworker avoid them as much as possible. If it gets to bad at work, find a new Job. I left a Job after 30 years due to a completely psychotic female co worker who was also an in-law. I should have left 30 years ago but family loyalty kept me there.

[@thestoiccommunity]

Well said

[@ShiyghanNyuysiysi]

But this people are everywhere you will keep leaving jobs

[@noself7889]

@@ShiyghanNyuysiysi That’s is true, it took me 30 years to leave but I was done by the time I left. Every place you go there is always at least one crazy person .

[@ShiyghanNyuysiysi]

@@noself7889 I have them in my job site they gang up and lied against me but I keep winning I was promoted twice shame caught up with them and many left the one around fear me now,and the new toxic that just arrived thesame karma will serve them...

[@patriceroach6373]

Well said

[@jodifritz9456]

This world is so very chaotic.....Yet, get rid of the toxity, and you invite a beautiful horizon into your heart !!! ❤

[@thestoiccommunity]

So true

[@RustyRed17]

You liberate yourself from the weight of negativity, and in doing so, you allow yourself to stand tall.

[@DD-uk7gz]

Yes Yes Yasssssss 🫡

[@ganymeade5151]

Absolutely. Keep narcissists and other toxic people at bay. Don't get sucked in by their cruel and hard hits. Recover quickly. Focus on what is positive. That is resilience.

[@bluecatjay5229]

I need to listen to this type of thing every morning

[@yen8757]

Mind over body. Love yourself.

[@timothytimh4321]

Toxic people are “unhealed”. If you can treat them with kindness without letting them get to you they can get a little healing and may change their interactions with you. The trick is not allowing them to walk on you or get you bent out of shape.

[@areyoufreeenough1372]

Exactly

[@steve222345]

In my experience, it's often not worth it. You are in no way responsible for their unkindness nor is it your job to 'fix' them. Best case scenario they walk all over you because you are too nice, worst case they drag you down to their level of bitterness.

[@CClear-cl9xs]

@@steve222345 I know what you mean, they can get you down, stay strong 🤍

[@fenderblue9485]

After awhile you get tired of playing nice so they can win their destructive games.

[@Renee60722]

@@fenderblue9485 I agree. I think most toxic people, especially narcissists, take advantage of our kindness.

[@SpringoStar]

I work with a very narcissistic old woman who is deeply toxic and very controlling. Honestly it is incredibly hard to deal with her. Been here for over four months and she never speaks to me, acknowledges me when she walks past. She speaks to others. Apparently she has done this to all who work here. Her energy literally feels like a cloud of mustard gas. So toxic! I’ve been doing my best not to react, but it is difficult when I cannot walk away. She is always looking for a mistake I make so I look dumb and get yelled at by my equally old boss. This woman must be so miserable to do this to people everyday. I needed this pep-talk. I want the skills to stop being angry or upset when she attempts to make me miserable. I hope with practice, she will not affect me. I sometimes go home crying.

[@luisrodrigues2409]

You're giving her exactly what she wants, emotional reaction. Smile to her, just wave your head yes or no...always smile, if you need to talk, make it short and objective, and she will start to be confused and look ridiculous.

[@Montevideo2313]

Just like Luis said. I have a "difficult " person in my home and will be practicing Stoicism at every opportunity. It's a muscle that requires training. Be present but we choose to react. Acknowledge their presence and go on with your day. Be mindful and present, then let their negativity flow over. I'm untrained in Stoicism and the little that I've learned and implemented, I have noticed that it works. This community has your back. You got this

[@Rome274]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a person in my job like her once.

[@SpringoStar]

@@luisrodrigues2409 - So far the training is helping! I listen to these practices everyday and now I see a difference. Now, I'm three steps ahead of her, and catch her when she is trying to make me look bad to cover her tracks. So excited!

[@SpringoStar]

@@Montevideo2313 - Thank you for the support! After studying these practices for days I finally see a difference. It's working and I'm happier with myself and my work environment. Now I just have to hone my newly learned skills and never stop perfecting who I am. XOXO

[@RustyRed17]

I recently went through an ordeal with who I once regarded to be friends. I made my concerns known, regarding something they had done, and I was immediately met with insults. I realized that the toxicity wasn’t caused by me, it was caused by them being angered with themselves for knowing they’ve done wrong. The ordeal ended just last week, I’ve moved on, and I know they will feel the loss while I feel the gain. Toxicity projects a persons flaws through attempt to cast a bigger shadow to appear as someone they’re not. I chose to be the rock that breaks the wave, unfazed by their actions, unbothered by their intent. I have so much respect for Aurelius.

[@catherinechristensen6747]

I’m so happy for you! You handled the situation like a pro by being the rock that broke the wave. Well done my friend 😊

[@doyoueatrocks]

Thanks for sharing I hope it inspires others

[@sandrasanders-jr6qx]

You wrote my story, Thank You for sharing.

[@josereyes1148]

Dude. It's like I was reading my own situation when I read your post. My friend was a selfish miserable jerk who mocked everything. If I ever said anything, he would say he was just busting balls and I was sensitive. But then he would cry if I ever didn't agree with him 100%. Total hypocrite. One day I called him out and told him everything. He spun the situation so i was sad and unhinged and said he was the victim of my behavior if anything. I realized he had no trouble throwing me under the bus and blaming me if it meant keeping his actions clean. No more. He's part of why I'm watching these videos. Good luck to you moving forward.

[@gasmith7486]

I just went through the same thing! But because of excellent teachings like this, I was able to walk away with minimal fallout and no regrets!

[@StoicMindset99]

" Everything that was once difficult to endure is sweet to remember." - Seneca

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[@ganymeade5151]

Sometimes you cannot forget. However, you can learn to understand it; learn from it; heal; and focus on what is positive. Psychologically protecting yourself takes continual practice. Prayer, mindfulness, Stoicism can help greatly to survive toxicity that aims to destroy. Always remember what is good. Never focus too much on the bad. Move on past evil. That is resilience.

[@ramblinrose8]

Not everything...

[@createone100]

No. It isn’t. Just because some old Roman guy said it, doesn’t make it true.

[@BrentlyObjectivity]

This narrator... His voice is cool calm and collective... Capturing my attention...❤️

[@Rome274]

Yes he's got a great way of speaking. Calm authority.

[@SK-kg6en]

I hope its a real voice. Not robot. Heard this is many other videos and felt very soothing too.

[@health-of-it]

I never realized how much I resonate with this line of thinking

[@mandylall8649]

Me too! Since I was a little girl growing up on our farm on a small island in South America, I was always interested in the skies, the stars, the planets, and at 8 years old, I knew I wanted to become an archeologist! But I was only interested in Roman & Greek cultures without knowing why! I was the middle of 7 children and my Mum couldn’t figure out how I became the contrarian (meaning I questioned her orders, whereas my older siblings were not permitted to, etc.,). I basically wanted to understand the reason/need for doing certain tasks & she wasn’t used to be questioned. Hence my Mum coined the phrase ‘I don’t know which God made you’ & apparently I used to respond ‘…oh some Roman God’. I exasperated my mother but she admired my boldness! Mum recognised at an early age that I would only be swayed by reasoning. This doesn’t mean I’m heartless!

[@analelevic1024]

I used to ignore it but it was eating me up inside. So I raised my voice and it stopped 🤷‍♀️

[@ruskinyruskiny1611]

There is a time to be assertive but to be effective it should be done with as little anger(Temporary madness) as possible.

[@agentdepolice2859]

i have taken measures to preserve my peace without any minimal excuse, i have deleted people out of my life, set boundaries, deleted social media profiles (some) i don't taken a red flag whenever i see one im done done. Thank you for this channel.

[@labreeskarogers1102]

You cannot control people's free choices of how they act. Your reaction is everything. I agree to you have to be patient with observation.

[@travelguy1564]

The stars, black hole, and forgiveness analogy is missing the point. You need to grow personally so words don't bother you. It's about understanding yourself better so you no longer have "buttons to push". Listen to "How to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations". Cheers!

[@sue_1111]

Forgive but don't forget.

[@ganymeade5151]

Absolutely.

[@kasmstamps1897]

Be kind Be forgiving Retaliate (don't be a walk over) Be clear

[@frankenz66]

Forgetting means you didn't learn from the action.

[@mr781mass9]

Forgive but don’t forget kinda contradicts sayings like “get over it” or “let it go” Imo. Essentially, no1 ever really gets over anything because they never forget what any1 has done lol. I understand the logic of forgiving sum1 for your own sake/sanity, I sure of hell have for that very reason; I just question how we live by sayings that contradict one another

[@xjet7779]

No, do not forgive and never forget. Toxic monsters deserve neither.

[@TheBeachkitten]

I have a coworker who initially not speak to me, now 9 weeks later all she can do is attempt to micromanage me in a dept she knows nothing about. She should not even be anywhere near me and my dept. Now she screams at me in front of the customers. I have continuously not reacted. I spoke with my boss so he is aware of the situation. Last time she got 1:2” from my face and screamed at me I knocked her out. End of problem she’s fired.

[@danalarose846]

I love your story!

[@sharonallison9922]

SHE KNEW WHAT TO DO....❤​@@danalarose846

[@sharonallison9922]

@BEACHKITTEN....I AM VERY PROUD OF YOU MY DARLING.....❤

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

😂😂😂 great

[@Marked_One333]

Love it!

[@gflopez1127]

my brother is toxic. I've felt he hates me but now i feel like he lashes out but really has pity and hatred for himself. I love him and hope we can heal our relationship.

[@ruskinyruskiny1611]

Try to avoid being personally angry (not easy) and remember Wayne Dyers great advice, "First of all Love yourself a lot" . "Cultivate inward feelings of self worth".

[@user-q992]

I like the ' Energy intelligence' concept. Will remember that when I deal with toxic people in my life or even ordinary stupid people who can't stop talking about themselves! 😅

[@pattyberryman3037]

The Beautiful Beings of Gaia would like to thank The Stoic Community for their service. We are forever grateful.

[@christinewillis7545]

Thank you for your wise words - so badly needed in the world today. I've had to focus on dropping the ego, to learn patience, to have no expectation of the other person, to really listen, to accept that we all have our own reality....the list goes on. It is not easy. to be humble. Vanity trips me up big time. I'm still a work in progress. I' was a different person in 2020. Angry, confused, disbelief. It took the manufactured pandemic, the lockdown, the forced masking - witnessing the deep pain, the sorrow, the brutal betrayal - to make me realize I have the capacity to love the people around me, to discard the trappings of the dollar, to step back from the toxic divisiveness, the mob fear. Now, I embrace humanity. I celebrate the simple things, like a sunny day, children chasing each other, a man walking his dog. I'm aware of those scrambling to control the global stage. An empire crumbling. The dollar disintegrating. All the laws designed to take our rights, our freedom, our free will. I wonder what would happen if there is a global bank run. Or better yet - the people might decide to walk away from the dollar, adopt Bitcoin, while the terrorists continue with their genocide agenda, print more dollars and plan more pandemics.. Just thinking.....

[@MJxxxx5]

To those who say Silence is best or just walk away - its easier said than done. And can do more harm to the one who keeps silent. Sometimes there is a need to speak up and rebut the toxic person because it gives you a voice and empowers you. Instead of repressing yourself. We cannot give the same advice for everyone because we are all different and come with different baggages. To the person who is constantly at the receiving end, before walking away, it is important to find back your voice.

[@heather-vs9qe]

I am fed up with toxic people it's wears me down, so l have to take my distance.. Silence it important I had to block a few people this month, fed up with reasoning

[@randychris5031]

When I was younger I beat toxic people up but as I grow up I learn to control my emotions with logic and I realised I am now becoming a better human and having a humane life 😊

[@thestoiccommunity]

Thanks for sharing your experience! It's great to hear how you've grown and learned to handle toxic people in a more positive way

[@ganymeade5151]

Narcissists are broken people who work to break others. Knowing this, shield yourself. Never let anyone else define you or control how you feel. Good people won't try to break you. Good people won't hurt you.

[@GenerationX1984]

I treat them like children because that's what they are. I never treat toxic people like adults. I try not to respect them.

[@patriceroach6373]

Period! Put them out of my life! Some of it is Dsyfunction too!

[@peterwinzeler2935]

I’ve also noticed these toxic people have suffered serious trauma early in their lives which trigger their actions

[@thestoiccommunity]

Thank you for sharing your observation. It's true that past trauma can greatly impact a person's behavior and actions.

[@doyoueatrocks]

Thank you for that, not many people are truly looking at what took them to where they are. There is always an opportunity to plant a seed that sprouts later on.

[@patriceroach6373]

True!

[@pamsloan84]

Don't make excuses for them. We all have trauma but we are not all toxic.

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@pamsloan84 👍👍👍If early life trauma caused this evil behavior, then the scapegoats of narcissistic families would be the most evil people on the planet!!! And we are the kind hearted ones!

[@kathryngable5138]

I live with a husband and this has been my life.I plan on breaking " the dance"! This has been a breakthrough! Thank you!

[@Marie16240]

Rooting for you ❤

[@clairefarnell9489]

Yes, my kindness is often confused for weakness. People have tried,many many times, to take advantage of my nice, kind, generous nature. No one stands a chance anymore. Its taken years for me to wear my armor around the toxic humans.

[@WayOfWisdom1]

"Friendship is the best of all relations."Marcus Aurelius

[@robbinpapalucas4620]

One must be a Gladiator to enter the colosseum of life.❤️‍🔥

[@BrokeSolid]

But sometimes it’s the other person that is toxic, but really can’t see it. So can force the toxic argument to begin with. It’s all about communications. Love means getting to the bottom of true feelings and not drawing the wrong conclusion. Talk it through.

[@bille4889]

The only thing we can hope to control is ourselves, and most cannot do that. The longer someone lives, the more exposure to negativity they have endured. If they are not the rock, they are the storm. You’re only option is to be the rock or you will be swept away by the storm. Love these positive videos! 🙏❤️

[@ruskinyruskiny1611]

"Conrtol of ourselves" is a habit. New and better habits can be created by patience (a habit) and persistance. Willaim James has written a great essay on Habit.

[@bic447]

These stoics shaped their perceptions when man never had the science as we have today. If only they were alive in the present with the knowledge we have. I love your videos❣️

[@cutlerj103]

My true love is a toxic man. I saw this immediately; and, without "sinking to any level" myself, I realized he wasn't really talking to me at all but something or someone that's hurt him very deeply. And I hugged him and kissed his cheek and he held me all the tighter ("for dear life") and kissed me and whispered "I never want to let you go"; and so far he never has. He still has some toxic ways but... one thing at a time. I love you all and pray for your prayers to be fulfilled according to God's Will for you; and that you prosper in your every godly endeavor🙏⚖️💙

[@user-xh8cb1ev3f]

amen

[@azzystyle94]

I had $1100 worth of dental debt in December and I just paid it off in full yesterday. Small accomplishment, but you can accomplish anything if you set your mind to it and never allow obstacles to stop you

[@HeathertheGreat_]

Can I borrow $1100

[@Helldober]

This describe what i feel my relatives are!! Shallow black holes, without any sort of relevance to something deeper then whats in front of them! Its just money, looks, worktitles, fake fkng perfect lifes on all social platforms. I just feel like i have been here before, just done this to many times. There isnt many people that nake me reflect any more. Just the same darkness without any glimse of light nearby.

[@wichywoo]

its not easy being positive when your living in a kleptocratic malignant pathocracy .

[@ganymeade5151]

Absolutely. Many of us have to learn how to deal with bad people at work or at home. You have to develop a consistent way of effectively dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, etc. Many of us are married to narcissists and must learn how to deal with them without getting harmed. We must find what works. We must shield ourselves. Narcissists and other bad actors are basically broken and sick people who work to break others. Sometimes they are just broken. Knowing this will help you to understand and shield yourself. If nothing works, then leave forever when possible. Go no contact forever with toxic people even if they are family.

[@arieschick1]

In this case, throw out that 4th commandment

[@MusclesNOTtattoos]

I've known people that I'm convinced would spend days preparing tactics to troll people.

[@Rexag]

My narcissist sisters....I'm certain.

[@thestoiccommunity]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's interesting to hear about your experiences with people who put so much effort into trolling others.

[@MusclesNOTtattoos]

@@Rexag Your right and also family members can be the worst because they know exactly which buttons to press.

[@MusclesNOTtattoos]

@@thestoiccommunity Its incredible isn't it my friend. I've met em all. Its all part of learning too. My armour is strong now!

[@EL-gu8fv]

My neighbours. I have a new house, with a garden I've grown from scratch, including vegetable plots and an orchard. It's jealousy. UK is awash with people who want what others have, but won't work for it. They'd rather pull others down.

[@user-ir4lg1ul2q]

Wow! I loved hearing every minute of this! I have never heard the word Stoic before but I feel it describes me very well as the person I used to be and would like to be again. Reading this has made me miss the person I was. Unfortunately, the other people in my life have somehow managed to wear me down and have also stolen my joy! I used to always see the good in everything and everyone and life was good then but where did I go? This has made me know that I am still here inside and I want me back again! Reading this has filled me with the confidence and silent courage I need to go on and has given me the knowledge, tools and a good understanding of what is required. I think my life is about to become very interesting, enjoyable, enlightened and honest in the most profound way. I will continue watching and learning from your valuable wisdom for future encouragement. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@toastopia1]

Tbis is prabably the most important video i watched in my life, i have been researching, marcus aurelius, seneca and epictetus and finally have a guide!

[@normapadro420]

I had to become this type of person. I learned to stand firm, and not back down. I learned how to deflect accusations, and mockery. When the time is right those that accuse eventually forget. When the time arrived to accept their engagement it was my turn to react like they were not meaningful, and invisible. Their choice was to flee with an understanding that there would be no more mockery, or ridicule.

[@thestoiccommunity]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts

[@cosmeticsandpurseswithevelyn]

Wisdom spoken with such beauty and class, this gentalmen is pure genius totally AMAZING 👏

[@thestoiccommunity]

Thank you for your kind words

[@BossPlayas]

Indeed

[@cosmeticsandpurseswithevelyn]

@@BossPlayasThanks! Glad you agree.

[@cosmeticsandpurseswithevelyn]

@@thestoiccommunity Your very welcomed and Thank you more for all the precious words you have taught and given us! May God bless you for it 🙏

[@BossPlayas]

@@cosmeticsandpurseswithevelyn you're welcome.

[@ursulakavaliauskas4463]

I stayed calm. He threw a hissy fit. I could hear doors slamming for another hour or two. It was such a silly reaction on his part but instead of running after him or arguing, I had stood my ground, then let him act out as he chose. I avoided him since. I thought back on the times he had interfered with plans, and when he simply said “I don’t care” to a problem that should have included all of us in a solution. If he returns to address me on the contested issue, I can say “I don’t care” back. He is too toxic to coddle.

[@johnfriel-uj2zs]

Will Be Easier To Survive Negative Encounters thanks To This Stoic Lesson😅

[@ganymeade5151]

Narcissistic encounters are designed to be overpowering, overwhelming, and cruel. We must realize that narcissists are broken and sick people who seek to break others. Once we realize this, we can learn to get strong and resilient and shield ourselves. Narcissists prey on emotional people who they can manipulate. Protect yourself from the influence of evil people.

[@garydixon5838]

i wish i had seen this 15 years !

[@BossPlayas]

Wisdom cannot be bought with fine gold or with valuable onyx or sapphire gems. --- Job

[@realpain84]

Stoicism is amazing😊 thanks for sharing😮

[@YeaYeaOKBUT]

I actively work on improving my emotional quotient on a daily basis- it’s the single most important thing that has helped me find peace. This video is on point.

[@user-hi8uy2uz1m]

I love the lessons I learn from this content t everyday. Thanks.

[@leonierattigan1136]

Thank you so much for these videos everyday you help me get through my day since I started listening I learn how to deal with ppl according

[@banjodubghall84]

Never confront liars they see you as one to. Truth is not a value nor a part of their existence. In such a way that their lies are their truth literally literally creating a illusionary delusional fake fear based life and they'll project this onto others by their nature. Self awareness in christ delivered me into deep truth. I wanted so much to confront this person but was taught that that would be playing their game of petty dramatic evil hate. They shall keep their wide path. But meeting such wicked people in truth became a blessing that they will never know

[@arieschick1]

Donald J Trump. Liar in Chief

[@krystel2856]

This showed up in my feed at the right time for me. Have recently realized a neighbor in the the early stages of dementia has been manipulating me and others for quite a while. I wasn't seeing it despite her behavior. I'd felt sorry for her.

[@PalmBeachFlorida24]

Stay firm. Don't feel sorry. You may see this neighbor is cunning, manipulative, exploitive and part of the dark. Stay away from these kinds. They prey on joy.

[@missfriscowin3606]

This is what needs to be heard. By Me. Peace ☮️

[@missfriscowin3606]

Subscribed 😉

[@JOSEPHDADREAMER]

This is on point. Family members are posion toxic but I glow and still shine

[@ruskinyruskiny1611]

Personal effectiveness (Inward Peace and outward Charity) are usually achieved "inspite of circumstances" . There is one "because of" and that is faith in a Loving God. (Mystic response).

[@delicatelace8830]

Great lnformation during turbulent times.

[@thestoiccommunity]

Much appreciated

[@fridabrolin2390]

This Will be my bible of how to behave before, during and after conflicts. A little while a go I got greatly tested by a extremly toxic person, indirectly she tought me where and what I need to improve in myself during black holes encounters💚✨️

[@Rome274]

Sometimes it's a good idea to ask calmly why are they behaving this way. I had a sharp tongued superior and I waited until we were alone and asked her why she was so hostile towards me ? She told me of her feelings and how relationship improved.

[@ganymeade5151]

Sometimes bosses feel bothered and besieged. She should see this video.

[@pqsnet]

Just found this channel a day ago and must say it is very pedagogic and inspiring. Now im not much for "Self-priming" channels because most are just bad, cringe or "Hello obvious". But this one had substance. This episode is if not anything else good for people who are burned out or have fibromyalgia.

[@RogerRobinson-mk2kd]

Letting someone tell you something negative about yourself or repeating what someone has said negative about you is a day of happiness you can not get back, that day is gone and may be a bad memory.

[@AMadd3RHatt3R]

Wow!! What a treasure! Going into my memory and comparing what was said here... I can truly see the TRUTH shine through! Thank you.

[@thestoiccommunity]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@estametu]

I just autopilot those toxic people because my inner peace and positive energy are valuable to protect.

[@christinanguyen3377]

Thank you so much for the wisdom you share

[@armandoolivas206]

Wonderful approach for going through life

[@lindanakandi9594]

Indeed we should guard our peace, coz out of it flows abundant life❤

[@ruskinyruskiny1611]

"Inner feelings of self worth" a habit, are also helpfull. God bless you.

[@gloriagolemboski4515]

I just loved and needed this. Than you.

[@mallikapliester9645]

Just Love It, Thanks For Posting..

[@Suejd1001]

Thanks for this wisdom!

[@maureentaylor8745]

Strength in Adversity

[@ronhill8333]

Great Advice! Thanks 😊

[@A_Birds_Nest]

"Follow you're heart to work with the hands, the mind, and the body." - Alex Hnizdo

[@Victor-ts3cq]

Thanks!

[@stevenminor2241]

TRUTH HAS BEEN SPOKEN

[@EvenStar303]

Thisnis the best wisdom video I have seen in a long time. Totally awesome and accurate.

[@gasmith7486]

THIS IS SO GOOD!! Thank you 🙏🏼

[@cessaly100]

So excellent! Especially the Fencing comments!

[@Stinky_Marble]

Oh,boy I needed this today. Our son is with a toxic woman and is getting married. As we see the train wreck about to happen, it's really out of our control. All we can do is be there to pick up the wreckage when/if it happens.

[@aaa-di2lc]

This has been very helpful. Thank you.

[@thestoiccommunity]

Glad it was helpful

[@yvonnemurray1253]

What happens, when you meet a toxic person, that spreads lies about you..Other people point, you over hear shes mentally ill , shes nuts, .. After 8 years, it spreads to the point your out for a walk..A Person, who you don't know, points and said she's has mental issues.. Another person says, shes nuts , its through the whole town.. A person who told me shes is dangerous person, but I don't believe in gossip, didn't listen got burned..Im selling my home, moving that's how bad it is...Next place I move to, I will apply these teachings,...I realize, I take on anyone has a friend, give them a chance, see how it goes.. Lesson learned... Love these teachings,

[@tomm7868]

Had the same situation but I already live far away. When I come to that place I hear those lies. It was shocking and disappointing at first and now its start to be “ who cares”. Those videos helping a lot, they reminding us to look for a solutions within. We are creator of our reality, we have super power, just need to use it.