5 Signs You're In a Trauma Based Relationship - TWR Podcast #59

[@Duckrobber101]

I was in a Situationship with a man who is thinking his the best one side but non confident himself one side, it was very hard to know what’s emotional feelings. But for 7 months, we only see each other once a week about 2-3 hours total and he was texting me everyday day and night, but chatting about unimportant stuff only. Everytime if I brought up something about our relationship, he is gaslighting and just shutting down, silence for days, last time silenced for 2 weeks, then I couldn’t hold anymore. So I exposed myself for all my feelings and done.

[@nairadevi2182]

On the adult-child relationship, I feel so relieved to see that I am not alone thinking this about that type of dynamic. In my case I told the person that their lack of fixing things on their own without my help etc. caused a messed up powerful dynamic in which I took the mother/teacher role and I am not keen on incest not attracted to my students. I was called mean and selfish.

[@danielpb1996]

This is gold. Thanks for sharing all this point of views. You are helping me so much during my break up

[@KelzVisuals]

i learnt a lot from you two, God bless you for what you do. I had a terrible break up and this is the core aspect of our relationship. i'm moving on, I'm single and ready to give love a whole hearted try again so I keep learning from you guys

[@natassjamyers5999]

Thank you for pointing this out. But is there a way to fix the relationship after finding out that it's a trauma bond?

[@Growwithgrace101]

My thoughts too

[@hellobeautiful3301]

Great episode. Thank you both!

[@baconessa]

Thanks for doing these insigful talks, Pye and Dr. Glen! I want to ask: Have you explored the role of health on relationships? Especially brain chemistry related health issues. I recently found I have a mold (and potential heavy metal) toxicity issue that messes my brain chemistry and have found that when I’m working on my detox and supplementation my anxiety and depression go down almost like flipping a switch, also the symptoms I have from the anxious attachment I’m still working through seem to become more manageable. I’ve heard Dr. Amen (an ADHD specialist) talk about at least one case of a marriage that greatly improved when treated with supplements for specific brain chemistry issues. I wonder how many people have it too hard to overcome trauma because of a messy brain chemistry and would like to know if there is some more data about this topic out there. Any comments? Thanks for your attention guys :)

[@kingaberlakovich5585]

I was married to a 9 year older man for 20 years. I think this marriage was healing the girl in me, who was left from his father. My hub funktioned like a father to me. Is that also trauma bonded?

[@nairadevi2182]

Did he decide everything and you just went along with it, not taking or refusing to do things yourself or did you actually heal you and help you become a stronger and more grounded person?

[@yoya641008]

Yikes…. Everyone I know falls into one or several of the cases you mentioned. Including myself and my ex . There was a point when I felt I was dealing with my brother instead of living with my boyfriend…of course my sex drive flew out the window. 🥺

[@christinefury1040]

"I dont want a relationship thats not on my terms only" is what you menat to say. She picked up on that vibe and felt rejected. Because who wouldnt ? Intimacy while saying "i was to be distant from you" Mind fuck stuff

[@ayuodagiri1577]

Why would you date when you don’t want a relationship right now - just focus on your own healing and date when you are ready 😂

[@stevenquella5512]

Well why not take things extremely slow during your healing. : )

[@Overcookedhamburger]

Ok whats a relation ship where we keep getting victimized and we keep depending on eachother. Her need of me is why im alive and asking this and yes i love her

[@jackulenehorn413]

You are in a codependent relationship.

[@stevo5000]

omg, another video where the guy on the left wants to continually talk about his relationship. Never get to hear what the expert says because the interviewer keeps rambling on about himself and his marriage constantly

[@LynnMari-]

Right 😓

[@jessklay8594]

I don’t like when you talk (extensively) negative about your first marriage. I doubt your first wife was horrible and everything was 100% her fault