13. My ex is dating someone new!

[@narcfreeatlast6975]

At the end of the day, we have zero control over other people. We can dislike it, feel hurt and feel the desire to lash out on them. But it's better to be the bigger person and understand that these feelings are chemicals running through our brain. Over time the emotional thinking will turn into rational thoughts and life goes on.

[@ScottOctober]

TBH I would never take back someone that hooks up or starts dating someone within 4 months of the break up.(after a LTR) I don't want someone back once they got with someone else. No thanks.

[@walterestrada9523]

K.E.V. Same here . Hellllll no

[@MariNate1016]

K.E.V. Define long term.

[@prazad001]

That’s why you call him Or her ex. Ex means ex. They wouldn’t leave in the first place if you were the best person. They looked for something better. They will leave in the future again. If you r the problem he she would t come Back at all. Same applies to dumpee.

[@SoberIrishman]

Exactly....if they lay down w another then i would not want them back.

[@pauls9110]

Same 🤙

[@carloscabrera5311]

If they're dating somebody new, it's also a new blow of insult to the fresh wound of breaking up the relationship. It's disrespecting twice. It's a double kick. Would you really want to get back with someone that had the courage to break what you considered valuable and this person knew it. ? This person gave twice a rat ass about your feelings and then decided to hurt you even more. ?

[@Danimal77]

I doubt you'll ever read this comment, but I have to reply to you anyway, because I'm going through this myself. She broke up with me 4 months ago and has been in a relationship with someone new not that long after. My thoughts are these: She's not looking at it the way that you are. She's not trying to go out of her way to hurt you. I'm assuming she doesn't want to be in touch with you (doesn't want to talk to you) and YOU found out she's seeing someone new. What she's doing is for HERSELF only. She is looking out for #1. She wants to find happiness and not have to be alone. She wanted that with you, but for whatever reason, she no longer felt like it was a possibility and so she left you. She didn't do it to hurt you. She did it to take care of her own needs and wants. YES, she hurt you in the process, but she's blocking that out. She's more concerned with her own feelings and well-being now. As for the new guy, well, this is still about HER and HER wants and needs to be fulfilled. She wants to be loved and love and she didn't think you were the one for her anymore and now she has met someone new, with NO history of hurt, or arguments. He is NEW and EXCITING and most probably is treating her well and so she is letting herself become part of a new relationship and again, she is not doing this to hurt you even more. She's 100% thinking about her own feelings and what will make her happy and the prospect of being in a new relationship with this new guy is something she wants to explore and your feelings and my feelings do not matter to her anymore. HER feelings matter and as hard as this is to say (because it's killing me also), is that HIS feelings now matter to her as well, the way yours and mine once did to our ex's. Nothing of what they are doing is directly meant to hurt us, even though it does. It doesn't matter to them. They will not put their happiness on hold so that you don't feel hurt. My ex has been very mean and cold and heartless with me, but that's her way of keeping me away from her and now him. Do I want their relationship to last? HELL NO. Might it last? Yes, it might. What can you and I do? Not much. We have to swallow the pain and distance ourselves from it. Right now, you and I represent a threat to their happiness and getting in the way of a future with the new guy, so you and I have to be smart and keep our distance and let things happen the way they will. We can't force them to leave these new guys, who have the advantage over us. These guys did not hurt our ex's the way we did. They are getting all the love from them that we did and it hurts so much, but the more you show them that, the more you end up pushing them into the guys arms. I found this out 2 days ago and I called and called and she got so scared that she called the police and I got a warning to not call her again. That was extremely hurtful but it just reconfirms that our ex's are only thinking about their own happiness and well-being at this point, not ours. WE have to think of our own happiness so that WE can get stronger and become confident, independent and attractive again, which is something we are not at the moment in our ex's eyes, AT ALL.

[@franklujan8304]

carlos cabrera your so right my has a new boyfriend she dumped me a few weeks ago fucking hurts then Rubs it in my face I don't Respond back to her at all but she text me a few days ago hmmm why she doing this?

[@navp8017]

Its so funny you said that bc thats basically what happened to me and to top it off, my exes new bf's name is carlos lmaoooooo

[@aliacoo]

Dan Maler very well said! It hurts like hell to admit all of this, but everything you said is spot on. Good luck to you.

[@Dragracer612]

Dan, how did it ever work out?

[@johndaily4263]

My ex was seeing this guy at the end of our relationship and now they‘re dating. That hurts. But what hurts even more is the thought of never hearing of her again

[@JohnSmith-fo8tn]

How are things now bro?

[@gone684]

@@joshuamac6302 update

[@hmst2434]

Experiencing the exact same thing atm. Never felt this heavy before

[@johndaily4263]

Hmst keep your head high. I wanted her back so badly, now she‘s back fucking and pursuing me. Attraction level: 8-9/10. work on yourself. She‘s a fucking catch but so am I. Work on yourself and keep faith; everything will fall into place

[@hmst2434]

@@johndaily4263 You're together again with her now? And cheers. It looks like That's the only thing I could do rn.

[@jessijuniper7687]

Uuurgh, why is everyone so bitter? My ex had broken up with me to date another girl. It hurt like a mother but he had the decency to cut me loose. He worked on the radio so I had the pleasure of hearing them both be all lovey dovey. After I cut all communication he returned some months later saying he missed me when I left. After a decade of us together, we talked about her. If it had not been for her, we wouldn’t have been together and happy all of this time. He left her, so maybe that made a difference in me taking him back.

[@greekjoker127]

to tell you the truth, your story is my best case scenario.....i had a decade with my ex, hoping she wake the hell up. as i needed the separation to wake the hell up in my total life too (which i didnt realize till she left). I'm better for the break, but think all my new realizations and ambitions would make for a great life for us. I was lost in stagnation before she left just didn't know it. best and worst thing to ever happen to me

[@mzeye]

So your saying sometime you have to get dissed to realize the grass isnt green. Then they come back stronger?

[@jahleelx9270]

@@mzeye sometimes. But most often times it's best to move the hell on and never take them back.

[@ericaroundtheworld]

@@greekjoker127 I could just cry and cry and I am crying for nothing. I thought I worked my best but clearly I am still shitty I didn't love him more .give him more time and attention I needed to I wanted to . But I got distracted by my own traveling . I wasn't even having fun and constantly missing him in my travel. He was missing me while I was traveling

[@Alina-nt1kz]

I found out my ex got a new girl about 3 weeks after our break up from a friend. He possibly had her even sooner than then. Right now I'm actively trying to move on. Trying not to worry whether he will come back or not even though it is still in the back of my mind. But I've been trying to meet new people and trying not to worry. If he comes back, he comes back, if he don't, he don't. Part of me is hoping I find better, while another part is hoping he at least reaches out one day.

[@adhyantorokusumo7451]

So, true

[@Alina-nt1kz]

Adhyantoro Kusumo Yess. But I found out that the girl he left me for is 15. Him and I are both adults, lol. So now I feel kinda disgusted by him, that he would date a minor. He's still with her and its been like 3 months.

[@johndaily4263]

Has he reached out yet?

[@Alina-nt1kz]

John Daily Yes. We have been talking for almost 3 weeks now. He has even came by my house a few times. But he now has suddenly stopped texting and hasn’t spoke to me the whole day and it’s bringing me right back to the sad place I’m at again 😩 plus he still has that girl.

[@johndaily4263]

Alina ღ how long did it take him to reach out? Or was it you who initiated contact?

[@cillia.o8633]

Is been 3yrs you posted this but I'm just listening to it now,just in time for me. Thank you Rory

[@LoneImpala]

It takes one to forget one- meet other people (no hook up's, for now), start socializing, become a better version of you, keep busy.

[@richardmiller3952]

my ex started dating her ex right after dumping me ... after a 6 year relationship.....

[@jamesng4651]

5 years for me... 6 months after the breakup and I see her with someone she’s been telling me about as a “amazing person” -After a wave of emotions, I found the strength to forgive myself for not being good enough because part of me was happy to see her smile while strolling with the other guy. It was enough assurance to know that I did love her enough to let her go. Though the image is forever burned into my brain, it was enough for me to finally reach the acceptance stage that the relationship is really over. still hurts everyday, but no longer waiting for her to talk to me anymore and just ready to move on

[@jorgegranada4964]

Mine after 12 years of relationship following week after She dumped. He moved in to her home. (My kids included). It was funny for me. She couldnt have chosen a more tipical rebounder .

[@SecretSickle89]

Ugh that shit makes me so mad. Fuck them and fuck their happiness.

[@richardmiller3952]

@Where did I leave my shekels? yeah... fuck her.... life is lot better for me now...

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Women don’t care about you the way u care about them. They love differently. They look at us the way we look at jobs. It’s NOT malicious. They have no idea. They’re not bad people. Theyre just wired that way. He’s better (in her mind) than you. That’s it. Simple. Improve and get a younger chick. And for fucks sake do NOT get attached to the new one.

[@DRH7863]

Your voice sounds exactly like Penn Badgely who plays Joe on the show “YOU”, and that makes this video/the advice 100x more soothing lol ❤️

[@jamiegreyy]

How on earth does Joe from You soothe you🤣

[@DRH7863]

Jamie Holt his voice is relaxing 😂

[@SexAndCandyHair92]

Omg he does!

[@ImadHadjersi]

I just realized that haha, it took me a while!

[@Job_kirwa]

He really does

[@JanTheGun88]

I'm broken, becoming a mountain. Thank you for your words.

[@martinbasic2984]

The best video rory! The best thing that helped me was that i treated my ex as an addiction... Bad addiction that need to be treated as such

[@dreambignow221]

I have been though this before. My ex started to meet someone new only 1 week after the breakup and yes it was painful as F*CK but I said to my self, I rather kill my self than taking her back! After almost 4 years of relationship and to jump straight away with someone new? Nah not on my watch! If she could do something so heartless right after a relationship then she’s a person that I could never trust. I took it as cheating! But the funny part is after a couple of weeks her so called new lover dumped her och what happend after that? You guessed right she started to contact me and saying that she was sorry and she wasn’t her self and was confused and so on. My reaction was hahahahaha that’s what you get bitch it’s called karma KARMA!!! What goes around comes around and you just tasted you’re own medicine and I hope I tasted good! Then I blocked her completely! Have som self respect guys and girls! Don’t let anyone take you for granted! You are great as you are you deserves the best in life! Peace and love to all of you out there ❤️

[@jmoody546]

Dreambignow my ex cheated signed a lease with me and left me for someone else and also had sex with the guy and came back to me , so now his talking to everyone he broke up with or that likes him along time ago . I’m 4 days into no contact . :(

[@addy1285]

You may have been a little too harsh on her. She probably started dating another guy because most likely the thought of moving on from you sounds impossible to her and needed a rebound guy to take her mind off you. She probably loves you very much. I know cause I'm a girl and I have considered getting a rebound guy simply because I couldn't get over him. I get it if you don't want her back but instead of saying just that, you said many unnecessary things. She'll move on easier after this though so you kinda did her a favor.

[@anthonycobb3028]

She was with him behind your back my guy.

[@topgunner1962]

So basically they leave because they believe they can do better. So if they do eventually come back why should we settle for someone who left because they thought they could get better than you. Why should we be 2nd best. I love her so much but if she left then she never truly loved me.

[@kaelaxfoss]

I would love letting go & moving on. 4 months of pain is enough. I’m ready to rise, I’m ready for new, I’m ready to lose him forever if that’s what it takes

[@carloswilson8472]

Why do you want to loose him for good ? My pain only come when I call and speak about things that have happen , I starting to realize that. , have you do e mo contact

[@dotrewind]

this video realy helps me to stay calm :)

[@CaptinQuestion]

I’m in a really weird position right now it doesn’t bother me that my ex is with someone until I hear her talking about her relationship it’s all just very confusing but something about this video made me smile so thanks

[@tr9809]

What if they were already cheating on you with this person before breaking up?

[@madbot4123]

Thomas Ruston does it really happens? I feel like I am going through something like this and broke up with my girlfriend last month. It hurts so bad but for the long run it would be good for me. She is already in a relationship right after 2 weeks I broke up with her. Life is just crazy.

[@shivajichatterjee30]

@@madbot4123 yes it happens . Mine happened in like 3 days . I am still taken aback by the kind of mistreatment and they leave us in a precarious position. But trust me , give yourself time to heal. It will help for sure .

[@simonray1066]

Thomas Ruston this is my case my ex was already seeing this new person months before our breakup and that’s the mean reasons for the breakup. My ex left me for the other person 😂

[@lis853]

It’s monkey branching... 5 years I was with my man, a few weeks ago he tells me he’s reconnected with his ex from 12 years ago and he left me for her. Fuck this

[@gone684]

@@shivajichatterjee30 update?

[@ep8824]

Thought I was getting over the breakup, but when I realised that he is in a new relationship, ha... I keep thinking about what he would do to her, say to her like he did to me. That is what hurts me.

[@OddNadir]

I broke up with my ex last week Today she got a new boyfriend i feel so lost, it's painful to see her doing the same things that we were doing together :''((

[@wikyindriyana]

@@OddNadir same here bro, my ex gf have someone new after we broke up, she even said sorry to me because it would hurt me. I try to not care in front of her but actually its destroy me, after 3yrs she just left me like nothing ever happen

[@OddNadir]

@@wikyindriyana it's sooo freaking hard I spoke to her today asking how is she..... she was acting like i never met her she was a whole different person I'm was speechless how could she move on from me so easily It hurts more that she found love again while there was nobody for me to support me i'v been alone for three weeks no one even tried to help me

[@gaoang3391]

@@OddNadir I heard that he has been with some one for more than a month after 40 days NC and today it’s 75 days NC , I saw his WhatsApp profile picture is with her .. it hurts like hell 5months 10 days post break up .. I just wish myself won’t feel so pain anymore as( I deleted him 75 days ago) but now I just blocked him so I can distant myself better from him instead of hurting myself again and again

[@OddNadir]

@@gaoang3391 I blocked her out of everything so far so good, but i truly miss her. I hope you doing great buddy 💕

[@TeeHeeHeeBee]

My ex got into a "relationship" on FB the DAY of breaking up with me lol...

[@FM-zg5hz]

Update?

[@BeautyandtheBarista]

My ex messaged a girl on IG the day after... so I get ya.

[@beautyeclipse8651]

He was lining someone up before it was ever over. I gave myself the respect he wouldn't give me and made the choice he was too afraid to make and ended it for good and went straight into no contact. I took some time to mourn and when I was done I put myself out there again and met a who guy treats me 1000x better than he ever did and whom I have a connection and attraction for that is 1000x stronger. Now I am glad for her. And I hope it works out for him because he's lost me for good now that I have experienced a higher quality man.

[@thabomboneni2994]

Beauty Eclipse really? Then why are you here, commenting?

[@beautyeclipse8651]

Because I am still going through a break up. Just because I am moving on and have done my morning doesn't mean I am not still processing it like anyone else here.

[@FM-zg5hz]

Update?

[@ll2058]

Is it okay if I blocked him and the new girl on FB without saying anything? Does that make me less of a mountain? I don't want to win him back, I want to work on myself to the point that it doesn't matter whether he's in my life or not. But to do that, I have to drop him from my life completely right now

[@ll2058]

@Where did I leave my shekels? lol yeah. I say do what you gotta do to move on so long as you're not being petty (ie. Sleep with their friends, get friends to ask about them, etc.). Because they will get a word of it. Do what's in your best interest if it's for your own good in the long run, even if it means blocking them so you aren't tempted to check their social media presence.

[@razelmalvar2862]

My ex is dating his co teacher. I freaked out last December 21. 😂 But i regret it. Now i walk away totally. I will not contact him forever and will focus on my personal development.

[@carloscabrera5311]

lezar ravlam who did the break up ?

[@ThatKidBryan]

lezar ravlam how have you been holding up?

[@Danimal77]

And if they're ''really just done with you'' then what? How can one change that emotional state of theirs, if in fact it doesn't work out with their current "new" relationship?

[@jahleelx9270]

U can't. Move on. The right person for you that really loves you won't leave u.

[@inahheart3895]

For me ur the #1 coaches I've ever heared I feel like were talking over the fon while ur giving an advice..😂💞👏

[@yolandakerr7368]

My ex started seeing someone new after a year ..its been a year so I know he took the time to better himself and heal and he may be better to her and a better man because of her. Still hurts to see but glad hes happy, I guess it's time for me to finally be happy love myself I'm still single I'm not ready to move on myself because of my feelings for him but now I know there is no hope for us I can leave that alone , shes definitely not a rebound so it's more likely heartfelt and going to last witch hurts too lol

[@ericaroundtheworld]

No ... I don't think it is heartless. The break up was clean. So it was a fair game.it just I wasn't the one who can change the rule.

[@00aBs00]

the story with me has a little twist, I was the one who broke up with her because she didnt want it anymore.

[@TheCake]

Have a similar story. He acts as if I he’s the victim- the one who’s most hurt. I don’t know about that, but I do know that I never wanted to break up with him in the first place. He was the one who told me he didn’t want me anymore and I felt so suffocated from trying to reach someone who wasn’t interested in me anymore. Hurts like hell, especially since he messaged me 5 months since the breakup, a little more than a month since our last contact, that he’s found someone new and wanted us to be friends. I refused. I was already moving on pretty well and now I feel like I’m back to square one. It’s okay. I know things will be better. Maybe not now, but I’m trying to be hopeful and excited for what the future holds. We’ll get through this. Time is our friend.

[@yverak5504]

My ex went back to his ex but at the same time fooling around with another co worker .The ex wife came back only when she found out he was seeing someone new now he's cheating again. So what goes around come s around.

[@loverays3023]

Either he or she will come back or we will find a better partner

[@guitykhoshdel8122]

I think self respect is the best topic If you could talk about it more , especially for women of middle east and iran in our present situation.

[@deyama2012]

4:43 Rory, how to tell if she's not trying just to stay friends if reaches out, while dating someone else? How not to get friendzoned or make her understand that friendship won't suffice? Thank you for what you're doing

[@devilcwesker5980]

Only if she tells you let just be friends all you need to do is say no.

[@RosemarieFit]

What if your ex cowardly ended the relationship by completely ghosting after an argument? Idk if he’s seeing anyone new. We live 2 hrs apart and we argued about our distance. I’m 7 weeks deep in NC. I tried to reach him for a week after he went silent then I gave up. Together 6 mos, otherwise a very happy relationship. Oddly enough the last couple texts I sent a week after he went silent (just before thanksgiving) are showing he didn’t open them until Dec 22nd. But didn’t hear a peep from him for Thxgiving, Xmas, NYE, or my bday.

[@TheLoveChat]

Rosemarie_Fit ghosting somebody is a very cowardly thing to do, and I question your ex's ability to have a healthy relationship if this is how they deal with situations! Otherwise at the moment there is nothing that you can do short of continuing no contact and working on yourself! Sorry that happened to you.

[@AdrianMartinez-ho6db]

I honestly doubt my ex wants me to be strong when they left me for someone else

[@jomainabraham672]

my girlfriend broke up with me and two weeks later she already in a relationship with another guy 😢 5 years down the drain...my heart hurts so bad!

[@ericaroundtheworld]

It is not about being strong I should stop watching this kind of be videos

[@medicinekeysformrcps5025]

My ex dated someone new in less than a month after we broke up. I was very volatile to her 🙄

[@bewilderedbrit8928]

Good.

[@lucashiggins6203]

Hey Rory my ex and I dated for a year she broke up with me 1.5 months ago because she felt we were disconnected more friend than romantic and that since I’m 43 and she is 37 and she wants a child(but I’ve told her over and over before I do too) that there is chance (in her mind) that we won’t have one. I’m in NC for 5 days now and she’s been “dating” someone for about a month. We’ve both decided to not communicate anymore. I want her back badly.

[@buek14]

Is it possible to be rebounded a week after the breakup of a short term relationship?

[@aimeem112]

After how long do u consider its not a rebound relationship?

[@subyawana]

My ex left me in unbearable pain for a guy who has 2 kids. We were discussing marriage with our families involved. She chose to be his pleasure doll rather being my wife. I feel devastated. She’s enjoying to the fullest with him right now and giving zero shit about me n my feelings. I don’t want her back but how can someone be so emotionless and selfish. Will she ever realise what she did to a guy who loves her truly?? Will she ever meet her karma ??

[@pm5095]

Stay strong..she made a huge mistake leaving you for someone with bagagge( aka his children) she will regret it when she will be the last priority in his dude's life..single dad's are the worst to date.. he may be rich and tricked her into his life.. otherwise why on earth a sensible childless woman would deny the prospect of having her own family and chose to join a ready made family..?? Stay strong and remember your value..this too shall pass

[@subyawana]

@@pm5095 thanks for support brother, but the thing here is that he's not single dad. He's still with his wife and only using her for sex. But I agree that she's a fool. To my surprise my gf is ok with all that.

[@GabZ_98]

@@subyawana hope you're doing well, my situation was similar, but the guy is a single Dad who also has two kids, she left me because I was having issues due to the Covid quarentine and I was going through a hard time financially. That guy has a nice job and now can give her what I couldn't give that moment. We were also engaged for one year.

[@subyawana]

@@GabZ_98 yes brother I’m doing pretty fine. And it’s good that you got to know about her real side..I pray that you recover fast n i can assure you bro that you will be a happier person in future. Stay strong bro

[@suriahussin456]

My gosh i still waiting my ex. I don’t no why😞. But definitely make life up and down even though i try my hard to make my life happy. I hope all this will pas away sooner. I even don’t no either i still want my ex or not now.

[@purisaalcala9247]

the worst thing was my ex has another girl before we broke up.

[@NiTa-qf9fm]

This video really helped me a lot thanks so much 🙏🏻 ❤️

[@TheLoveChat]

You're so welcome!

[@assplundah]

Yeah mate, good advice, but it was a hell of a lot easier to deal with at 22, 32 & even 42. At 52, it’s quite a bit more difficult to get one’s head around, especially when you’re emotionally involved with her kids..who you can’t now see or be involved with. Good advice to most people though.

[@seanfaulk2405]

Your words help. Thanks

[@ericaroundtheworld]

What if my break up because I prioritize myself first and I completely ignore and neglected his feeling . I focused too much in creating memories with him but when his reactions are not what I was looking for . I become disappointed. Like a tour guide bringing a tourist to a sightseeing spot . But the tourist didn't get too excited about it. Meanwhile. I should be lighten up a lot a lot more.

[@sanlaw584]

My Husband of 20 yrs left + hooked up with a work colleague within 3 months. He has reinvented himself from family man to single man., hardly interested in his kids. I want him to want to come back so I can say F Off.

[@Darius7500]

What if we were the one to end things but regret it now?

[@kimmiedill2625]

5 months ago we broke up and he's with a new woman 😪 I'm so hurt I truly love him How can he just move on so fast ugh...

[@Drewbibski]

How long was your relationship with him?

[@kennethgonzales148]

I broke up with my ex because she lied about where she was (with coworkers) after the breakup within a month she’s seeing one of them. This was on Oct we kinda kept in contact and met up once but after watching the videos I implemented no contact (in feb)..days before at least 30days of no contact she reached out she called twice the first I didn’t not answer or return call a wk later she called again I didn’t answer she then texted and said it was an emergency.. I still waited a couple of hours before she texted me again saying nvm I’ll figure it out. Sorry to bother you. I then call her about an hour after that message. She is having a family situation she was crying when I called asked to be friends again I stood my ground.

[@sweetleaf0923]

What if I've done all the work, every detail, and still my ex won't come back. 🤔 now I'm a mess, and it's worse this time, because it was all a risk . And some loose badly.

[@TheXeliminatorX]

What if I was kicked out of the flat and had to leave the country, job. What are my odds

[@TheLoveChat]

Seems complicated, but not impossible.

[@ranimerckx9063]

What if he met her after 1 year off the breakup. We were together from our 16 until 24. I was his first girlfriend, and after 1 year he met her. He even talked about travelling with her in july. Ther are together since october. During the conversation he also asked about my lovelife. If I had a lot of fun dates. Or i have a new boyfriend. He also asked about my parents and if there is any chance to have a meet up with my parents. Because still (after 1 year and 2 months) he has a strange feeling towards my parents. He really liked them.

[@soeminkhantkyaw955]

who the f dislike this genuine advice video

[@rosannalabrador715]

my husband cheated on me many times for more than 10yrs with different woman..💔

[@blessingmwandila1473]

man my ex is now dating her bestfriend just after a day the breakup

[@liweilan8791]

ZED BEATS this is terrible

[@shivajichatterjee30]

I am feeling this now ... But it's alright her wish and her loss

[@thehannan121]

What is the current situation? let me know

[@leonmercado5508]

Hello My ex go back with her ex but How can I know if the relationship that we had with my ex was a rebound?

[@TheLoveChat]

How long were you and your ex together? Also how long was it between your ex and their previous relationship before you started dating?

[@leonmercado5508]

The Love Chat they broke up about 3 years before I met her because he had to leave the country and she realized he has been cheating on her several times. We were 3 & a half years together but when he came back just a week after she broke up with me and go back with him. So I'm confused Leonardo from El Salvador THANKS A TON.

[@DC-wp6oj]

Leon Mercado If she ever came back to you she would do it again. Unless she fully commits like marriage. I'm 3wks post break up and it hurts like hell, she had a guy lined up months before and is in the honeymoon phase, high up in the clouds. Imagining she is dead to me is helping me move on.

[@kayyswerve1576]

What if she says that she will never come back with you again is there still a chance

[@TheLoveChat]

Women are more emotional whereas men tend to be more logical, she was saying what she was feeling in that moment. That can change at any time! Leave her alone, go no contact, and focus on improving yourself!

[@desipunjaban9197]

The Love Chat what if a man says so ??

[@leviet7736]

Same. We tend to not be stable when saying something so negative like that

[@TheRoook]

The Love Chat even if she got dead seriouse that she wants a guy from her country in the near future who agrees to her demands?

[@nabilkablaoui1417]

Everyone says a lot of things and we can never really know if it’ll really go through I use to tell my friends I’d never date this one girl and a year later we got together so male female it doesn’t really matter you shouldn’t be focused on these things just live your life to the best and things will fall together

[@yzwoody]

What I’m not understanding is why would I want to be talking to somebody who is contacting me behind their current boyfriends back because that means she would do the same to me

[@sanyasuhane6731]

He has started dating someone after 6 months I still feel bad and haven’t moved on , how to cope up idk

[@GabZ_98]

My ex-fiancee is now dating someone after six months. I think the only thing we can do now is focus on ourselves and do our best to move on. They definitely don't love us.

[@milosanicic6172]

The worst part is that my ex is working in other country for 3 more months ( 3 have passed) i feel so lost for a really long time...

[@djcalvin408]

my wife left me after 9 years. i recently found out she's dating a coworker, within a month of the breakup. since this is a coworker, and i'm sure they knew each other for awhile, would this still consider as a rebound?

[@ashley4926]

Same issue here can’t tell if it’s a rebound or monkey branching.

[@elliotwolf2276]

Ashley both

[@kitlan01]

My ex left me 3 months ago hes already in a relationship with the same woman he cheated on me in 2016 I'm hurt I gave him a second chance the bad thing about it I have to see her at church.

[@faybarton6684]

Well,he blinded side me .. Said let's see where this go to mot ready for a relationship..asked what is this he said to will be just friendship..I said no dont want to be friends, I have enough friends . He got mad and unfriended me on Facebook.. I asked why?? So, we cant talk unless we're in a relationship.. 2 days later he blocked me on Facebook and my friend that's friends with him said his in an relationship and the girl looks young with 3 kids and she just got out of a relationship herself...and in a week they're living together.. I'm hurt ....

[@sanlaw584]

No I am furious cos we were married for 20yrs, he hooked up immediately with a work colleague when our kid was in hospital and he has only just announced it a year later because he was going on holiday with her.

[@soullessflower4719]

this really helped thank you

[@TheLoveChat]

Jaylene Flores I'm glad I was able to help!

[@alextheneko]

My ex is seeing someone new I hate it. He moved on so quick just after a week he already had someone new. We were together for 2 years. What do I even do in this situation ???

[@shivajichatterjee30]

Been there . Stay strong that's it . They leave us for someone else as if we never mattered to them . They may or may not come back but someone will

[@alejandraramirez8408]

Yeah but i live with them. I see him everyday. Theyre not official but they've been hanging out a lot lately and its killing me.

[@shivajichatterjee30]

@@alejandraramirez8408 trust me on this . My ex has been seeing a guy , it has been happening and now I am making myself strong as the day passes . I know the feeling because the time that was at one time ours is gone , it's been given to someone else . We are facing it but once we get strong and if and when they try to come back it's on us , for when we needed them they didn't care about us then in future why should we either . Take care of yourself and stay strong

[@alejandraramirez8408]

@@shivajichatterjee30 how.long have your ex and the new guy been together for now ?

[@shivajichatterjee30]

@@alejandraramirez8408 Hi , Good Morning !!! It's been 2 months now . We broke up on 5th June , by 12th she already had him

[@DeadlySaint-13]

What if it’s not even 2 weeks after the breakup?

[@carloswilson8472]

I'm 8 mo in and just go the terminal speech, you at the right time . Save it by no contact i wish I did.

[@nightmarenewbedfordenterta9851]

What if its been a half a year?

[@TheLoveChat]

I've coached some cases where an ex came back a year later. You never know! Stick to working on yourself and get back into meeting new people! Who knows if someone you fancy even more might come along.

[@nightmarenewbedfordenterta9851]

The Love Chat ive been dating other woman but when i met my x it was a glorious time it took me 6 years to find someone.

[@carloscabrera5311]

Klint Kwiecien it's been a whole year my ex wife dumped me. I gave up on her coming back but as much as I want, for attachment reasons, hope doesn't want to die. I failed no-contact for 8 out of the 12 months of the year..lol every time pushing her further away by wrongfully accusing her of going out with even facebook guys for I seeing them just hitting "likes" too much on her pics..😂😂 now, I gave up..😢😢

[@smalldewdrops]

And what if they've been dating the other person for close to a year now?

[@mariahameliadalhia1686]

My x dating someone new after 3 weeks broke up ..and I just let them to injoy there new relationship ...but as I know my x to shallow and very narc. So a big no no to me to take him back ..

[@mjgasmin3439]

How about if he monkey branched you but still trying to reach out and still with the rebound? What will you do? I'm in no contact because I think it's for the best.

[@Edski3774]

My ex is dating someone new but I had to find out myself. On Facebook it said she was in a relationship with someone else on may 24 and we had time together may27 she made love to me. Then she started acting different and then I checked her Facebook page and found out early june that she was in a relationship and didn't tell me. Will NC work for me??

[@enticeariel8192]

OMG ! This whole time i made a mistakes! My ex keep contacting but i am pushing him away to hes new girlfriend and even give him advise to.just stay committed to her and be faithful ..This whole time we talked about her relationship , Our breakups and we fight and argue alot again..

[@FM-zg5hz]

Any update?

[@ruthy595]

Dear love chat dude....my bf that we dated for 1.5 years first put us on a break for a month he kept coming around, than i caught him with his new gf. During these 2.5 months going on 3 months we still stay in contact about little stuff n see each other once in a while yes we hooked up. He has been playing house wit his new gf. But he gives me mixed signals when we talk about. He still has feelings but he says he cant be wit me cuz of how we ended. Any thoughts

[@Luis-gh3in]

Ruthy Pineda hey just move on, or how are things now? And btw I have that same last name haha

[@lisamcintosh290]

I'm not dating anyone right now. Intill end April. After my last surgery. Get done

[@Alex-mu6ow]

I was with my wife for nearly 13 years & l was deeply in love with her. 5 months ago out of the blue for me anyway she dumped me !! Telling my while she didn't want to break up the family , she could no longer be intimate with me & That I would resent her and go look elsewhere . She then told me she had a year long affair 5 years ago and had not been happy since... well she now happy with her new guy she meet after being on her own for 4 months & likes to tell me how lovely he is.. he's now in my daughter's life & I'm totally pushed out , but still do my best to hold it all in ... it sucks

[@GabZ_98]

Hope you're better now!

[@richstwart2079]

Its been 6 + months since the break up, last contact was 3 weeks ago and I kinda ignored her about a week before, so I may have pushed her away...hence she's in a new relationship. I found out when I told her I was getting a house and she told me she's been dating for a month but nothing serious as she claims....she made mention that she hasn't heard from me in 3 weeks...so I'm not sure how she feels...what gives? Any advice?

[@ATXMEX78]

Ok so what if I found out my ex LDR is now speaking to her ex from 4yrs ago and she doesn't know if she sees him romantically in her future....?? Which tells me alot.. Who in her words was excellent to her like I was..😞😰😢😥 Is there a video you can do of this?? she's in the states and he's in Italy but older and a great career more than likely a romantic man with an incredible accent and beautiful country side for her to enjoy..(I've seen the pictures) they only broke up originally because he takes care of his elderly parents in Italy and he didn't move with her to the States.. to me it seems like unfinished business.. which will eventually be our case as well... I wanted to marry her I never wanted to marry anyone but to me she is that One woman I would give my life to... But me moving on seems more realistic now if she loves him as much as I fear..

[@c4411]

If she speaking to ex that she had history with and memories. You was her rebound. Clearly she still has feelings and love for ex and wants to explore that.

[@vittoriolasam912]

I wonder if majority of your clients get their exes back.

[@Mizrahhi]

I think I messed up because she texted me how I was doing with everything but I was busy and decided not to text back. And later that same night she said “ok well guess not”. Big oof..

[@CoconutwCoco]

If they date quickly after breakup, doesn’t that show that they don appreciate n cherish ur past relationship n time with them? Doesn’t that just say they r so lost n helpless that they want a person to take the place? Why no coach talk about this perspective? It is something need to be considered instead of just how it can help or not getting the ex back. This is definitely a big factor influencing if you still want them back or now.

[@dimicaimano5734]

she contacted me . she wanted to know if i were going to a yoga class. out of no where . I went , and she was there too. i guess she wanted too see me . we went to grab a bite to eat after and yes one thing led to another and ended up at her place and had sex . and yes she has someone else . so odd .DO I TEXT HER TO HANG OUT AGAIN ??? OR GO BACK INTO NO CONTACT

[@simonray1066]

dimi caimano i think u shouldn’t contact her again if she is already seeing someone else. Keep working on urself and stay in no contact.

[@stevemellin5806]

Your the best man thanks

[@poppiemoe4474]

How could he do that...? I am still in the midst of healing process and the wound is still so real and he is meeting someone new... :(

[@F52xxx]

Same happened to me today. Stay strong . We got this , I talk to my friends and it made me 10x times better. I got everything out , and now i'm hanging on . Go out and run , let it out. We got this

[@gone684]

@@F52xxx updates

[@F52xxx]

@@gone684 The biggest enemy is social media. I'm a big stalker usually so when we broke up I was always checking her social media. The first time she posted something with her new boyfriend destroyed me. I started doing no contact , stopped stalking her and ended up with the mindset of (I need to work on myself because even if I was with her , it wouldn't work). None of that was easy .An ugly and long breakup period , Few oopsies along the way , few texts ,few calls. It's my first time living this so I can't blame myself nor her for all of this. Time is your biggest enemy in the short term but in the long run , he's there to back you up. Months have went by and i'm honestly doing fine , almost fully healed. The only reason I would think about her is because I don't have somebody else in mind.

[@afydajasmin4358]

Hi how do i reach you ? I want to try and get my ex bf back. We broke up 2 months ago. And I really wanna try to get him back

[@TheLoveChat]

Hi there. Just visit my website for coaching: www.thelovechat.net/coaching

[@SoberIrishman]

Rory, i need help please. I am also unemployed and now she sends a video of a guy giving his girl flowers and some other man shows up from the house. I dont know what she means and i am so upset.

[@tr9809]

That's just evil behaviour, block her immediately

[@freespirit3818]

My ex lined up a new woman then slow faded me. I miss talking to him. But now I realize what a dick he was in the end the way he finished with me. I keep going over and over in my hey about how wonderful we were together. It's hard but you have to move on a let go. It's been 8 weeks since his he moved on.

[@brucejamesparker]

What if they hide and avoid you?

[@sell3100]

In that case leave them alone....

[@martinemaryhernandez729]

Omgggg this shit is to damn funny I mean nowadays people have zero respect for themselves PERIOD THANK YOU FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR ME AND SHOWING ME LOVE 💕 YOUR DEDICATION AND DEVOTION IS TRULY APPRECIATED I LOVE YOU MY MARTINE YOU HAVE TRULY MADE ME HAPPY AND COMPLETE💘💍🔐 THERE IS NOTHING THAT COMPARES TO YOU MY SWEET LOVE🐧🐞💚💞😍🥰😘💖💝 Time to wake my baby up so WE can enjoy some breakfast together before starting our day💕💕

[@imogenatkinson9263]

My ex found someone new 1 month after our 2 year relationship ended - we had recently become long distant after living together so our relationship became incredibly hard. They met by chance and started seeing each other straight away, posting all over social media about their relationship straight away as well. They've now been seeing each other for 2 months but she lives on the opposite side of the world. She is the complete opposite of me personality wise and their relationship has developed the complete opposite of how ours did (we became friends and it developed from there whereas they just met and were automatically dating). Is there any chance at all this is a rebound or not? I have changed a lot in the past 3 months and I want to show him this but I don't know how as we don't have each other on any form of social media? Please any advice would be great, even just how I can reinitiate contact with him!

[@selamattampubolon4200]

wow, it relates much to my case. can you tell how the rest of your story?

[@goofygoofy6098]

My ex started dating 1 week after breaking up with me

[@Digitalizedx]

Update?

[@in_june]

how about if my ex is back to his ex before and that happens when we broke up 1 day before hope you can make video foe this thanks!

[@Dinniddinnid]

What if i was the one who she used as an Rebound?

[@yasmeenhall9883]

I broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago and i regret it now. He started seeing someone new 2 days after the break up. He texted one of my friends on facebook and sent her a picture of him and his new girlfriend but told my friend not to tell me anything. So why sending her the picture if he doesn't want me to know ? I got mad and i contacted him like i knew nothing about his new realishionship just to see how he was doing. He said he's doing well and wished me luck. Didn't contact him since. It's been 6 days now since i haven't spoken to him any other advise please? Thanks

[@alextheneko]

Omg I'm going thru the same. Do u wanna talk about it

[@FM-zg5hz]

Update?

[@yasmeenhall9883]

@@alextheneko I'm over him now he is too childish. We're just friends i stopped having feelings towards him now hope you have sorted out your realishionship.good luck 💖

[@yasmeenhall9883]

@@FM-zg5hz i did the 30 no contact and i felt better withought him. I have no more feeling towards him. We're just friends now xx

[@sanlaw584]

My Ex monkey branched to a work colleague + has been there since (2 years), he’s now told our kids she’s pregnant. Would like some karma tbh.

[@AMIR-yc1pc]

Ex ex dated a guy after 2 days of the break up wtf .she told wants to forget me .

[@gone684]

Updates

[@gone684]

@@AMIR-yc1pc let me know how the call goes if you remember

[@gone684]

@@AMIR-yc1pc I'll check back when I wake up

[@AMIR-yc1pc]

@@gone684 updated, i have moved on and she has been married for 5 months bit sometimes still i miss her

[@anasoti4520]

What if they're facebook official after 11 months

[@TheLoveChat]

Ana Soti 11 months after the breakup?

[@kiddo9360]

Ok i think i fucked it all up 🤣 My ex and i broke up. She cried for 2 days and was in constant contact with me. And 2 or 3 days later she started going on dates. I know for sure it was because she was feeling down because of the break up. But she met someone who seem to be the type of guy she wants. Which was wasnt being because i was going through some tough times. Basically i was emotionally unavailable. When she was out with the guy she was rather cold to me i would say. But when he wasnt around, she would get really sad and start talking to me and post emo stuff on socials. It came to a point that after a few days, the guy went back to his country and she started speaking normally to me. Even calling me baby at times. MIND YOU, she was hiding the guy from me. She didnt know i knew she went out with the guy, even flew overseas with him. but i knew. I confronted her about it. And told her I'm never gonna speak to her again because i feel like she is stringing me along and also its not right to lie to me. And its not a good thing to do in general. I do want her back. I do not know what to do now. Should i contact her lol? She seem to be crazy about the new guy now. Probably because i pushed her to him. Btw we were in a ldr for 1.5 years. And her new guy is also not completely based in her state. Should i reach out to her? She also said on our last call that, if i can block her..She knows she will end up reaching out to me in a few months lol. We never fought in our relationship btw. It was great. She just felt that something was missing and i couldnt see a futute with me. She works really hard everyday and is alway motivated to build her future. The last few months of our relationship, i was in a bad place and was gaining weight. While i was really focused on my new business she felt i wasnt doing enough. And she also felt i wasnt part of her life as i didnt share enough. Help.

[@biigmenace6922]

How do i get in contact with you

[@TheLoveChat]

Just visit my website: www.thelovechat.net/coaching

[@damonwilliams6669]

What if my x sent me a text happy birthday?

[@ltm4793]

Would a dismissive avoidant feel jealousy?