13 Signs You are Having a Midlife Crisis

13 Signs You are Having a Midlife Crisis - Matthew Kelly

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@namhuynguyen203 Жыл бұрын

38, wife and 2 beautiful kids, stable job stable income promising career perspective, no mortgage no loans no pressure whatsoever… yet I tick ALL the boxes!!! 😢

@firianto Жыл бұрын

Yup same here, except I’m in my early 50s

@johansen4711 Жыл бұрын

Early 40s. Same thing. Just quit my job. Love a new perspective.

@mcmoodoo Жыл бұрын

Is 34 too young for mid life crisis?) I tick a fee boxes…

@gauthamdayanandan3389 11 ай бұрын

31. Same ! Except point 13, no discipline to have a daily routine

@yankeedoodle2801 11 ай бұрын

38, no wife no kids never had a GF. Just started a promising career. yet I feel lost....

@richlikeg3722 10 ай бұрын

40, I feel life is going by too quick, everyone growing up quickly and my parents retiring. No money, getting more impatient, trying to pursue something not knowing if I can succeed. Tired, exhausted, no motivation, just wishing to be more alone. Yeah I’m definitely in my midlife crisis mode.

@artbygilik 8 ай бұрын

You’re describing my life right now. Except on top of that I live with a friend who I feel responsible to keep alive. It’s hard trying to be strong all the time

@t.fidler5895 6 ай бұрын

Are you me?

@danielomingomingsr9203 6 ай бұрын

That's me right now

@umarnca 3 ай бұрын

I hear you bro! Stay strong.

@XenaWarrior-xq9su 21 күн бұрын

I am exactly there with you. 39 years old, tired of trying to climb the ladder, no desire to go out, date or make friends anymore. I have possibly half my life left but no desire to do anything with it anymore. I’ve been beaten down by life.

@bestthingsinceslicedrice 9 ай бұрын

Holy Lord im only 43 and all thats mentioned are exactly what I'm feeling

@hebrew80 7 ай бұрын

same here

@ayrp1 9 ай бұрын

I think every 20 years or so, there is an assessment of "where we are in life" 20,40,60 years old. The best outcome of a midlife crisis, in my opinion, is getting back into shape for health reasons. By 40, we vividly seen the correlation between health and vice. Alcohol, sex, morbid obesity (me), tobacco, gambling, ect. There's a correlation between vice and health. Like it or not, it is what it is. We have the power to overcome.

@warrenreid6109 3 ай бұрын

Mine came late. I'm 59 and finally getting out of mine. The other side is great. Hang in there guys you'll get through it and be better for it.

@stevesmith3556 Ай бұрын

54. What did you do to get over the hump. Im dying here.....

@warrenreid6109 Ай бұрын

@@stevesmith3556A realignment of priorities and to learn to accept my new reality.

@athernuvanne7347 Ай бұрын

Am almost 52 I have today last year (2023) was the toughest year in my life, sever anxiety and acute depression. This year is better but I feel am not 100% recovered. Just want to know did you resort to medication and what kind ? Am not really keen on any meds.

@warrenreid6109 Ай бұрын

@@stevesmith3556you'll make it through. You may consider what I told the other guy in this thread. It didn't save so I sent it to him again. See below this comment.

@warrenreid6109 Ай бұрын

@@athernuvanne7347No I fumbled my way through it. Medication in my opinion slows down the end result. However if you're feeling like you are in a dangerous place by all means seek out counseling. Either way you go do not shut out your family and friends. This includes pets that are able to return affection.

@abdulmueed2844 Жыл бұрын

listening to him … listing 1-13 all things I am feeling at once 😂😂

@karahamil3657 8 ай бұрын

I’m past mid life been going through all 13 since my 50’s and still going through them at 67!!! Life is hard and gets harder these days .

@neanderthalsnavel7411 5 ай бұрын

I had a meltdown at 34. Came back again at 53. Matthew's recommendation about not comparing yourself to others and focusing on today (both from st. Matthew's gospel) have helped me tremendously.

@stupidbeetle 3 ай бұрын

I'm reasonably certain that I'm in the beginning stages of one of these events. I have a beautiful family, my wife is drop dead gorgeous, I've got a great career, and things don't seem to be objectively bad. This is how I can tell that what's happening doesn't make any sense. Everything is objectively fantastic yet I still check all the boxes in this video.

@AlanGreenspan-l6k Жыл бұрын

I have anxiety, depression, ADHD, paranoia and an addictive personality. Everything you listed, except maybe 2 or 3 i've had since i was 3 years old. 🤣

@eastonclark 18 күн бұрын

Me too and I’m 29 wtf is wrong with me

@zenelektrik Жыл бұрын

Edge between 39 and 40 made me know, that midlife crisis is like nightmare in real. Don't underestimate it, get professional help and prepare for hard work to escape this pitfall

@DavidDuBois-v5d 6 ай бұрын

40 years old in the matrix is fucked.

@StevenBHorrorFan 5 ай бұрын

I’m 41 but I’ve always been a too and depressed

@funeats8201 9 ай бұрын

39, I just want off the ride already. This life is not what I thought it was at all. I’m so dismayed at the downward trajectory of my country. This current America is unrecognizable from the one I grew up in. The people have been propagandized into oblivion. I just don’t see much hope for the future anymore, I don’t even have dreams or goals now.

@Jjsamool 9 ай бұрын

Turn off the news brother, all of it, even the stuff on KZbin. This country is still a beautiful place. Talk to your neighbors and your extended family. Join a class or a group. I went to see a Jordan Peterson lecture at a local venue this month and I was astonished at how many people in my area were there. I couldn’t believe how many conversations I overheard that sounded just like conversations I’ve had. Most people are still very much the same as 30 years ago. The media wants us to believe the nation and the world are in turmoil. You don’t have to listen to that negativity.

@martinpakura5439 7 ай бұрын

chin up, I was divorced at 39 and went through absolute hell to get access to my kids, and lost all my money through family court and felt old and past my 'use by' date. I had all 13 of the mentioned attributes for mid life crisis. I am 54 now, remarried and 2 more kids and feel younger than when I was 39 except a few more body aches & pains. I feel similar about the city I live in (Melbourne, Australia) as you do about the States. Avoid TV, social media as much as possible. I do wonder why you have 2 old farts running for president though, that's crazy!

@247ferdinand Ай бұрын

Anyone who truly loves America feels what you're feeling. The rest just want their 15 minutes of fame or to watch the world burn or to get theirs. Very sad.

@miguelbissieres3736 Жыл бұрын

Quick and precise. Thank you for your video Matt.

@Condemned87 Ай бұрын

I'm 37 now, and I've had all of these thoughts for a few years. Now, after the end of my 14-year relationship, the feeling is stronger than ever.

@daily328i 10 ай бұрын

20 going thru a midlife crises

@StevenBHorrorFan 5 ай бұрын

I’m sorry!

@debrarouselle9761 8 ай бұрын

Regretting some of my decisions through life. Wanting truth from a parent who never admits to anything.

@Wooptyfregendoo Жыл бұрын

35 and experiencing all of the above... I'm not suicidal, but I hate it here.

@DistinctMale Жыл бұрын

Same age and I am experiencing the same thing. I am happily married, 4 kids, tons of material things, and pretty much many things a man could ask for. I guess it is just a mid life crisis or whatever we call it now. Reality has really been hitting me hard lately.

@triarii9257 Жыл бұрын

Still there? I just joined the club

@user-xedwsg Жыл бұрын

same age, but honestly, we''ll be fine gents

@kristoff99s Жыл бұрын

@@user-xedwsgcan you expand on this?

@aniketkulkarni905 Жыл бұрын

Plus 1

@McGowan13 6 ай бұрын

Feeling a lot of these at 33.. started my adult life quite early, and so I guess this is my mid life “opportunity”

@vishavgeetsinghgurm8477 3 ай бұрын

I am a 28 M and I remember the time when I used to be a star athlete of my school and always giving my best at studies and later, at my job as a reputed engineer. Recently I have fell into this void of feeling completely empty on the inside. Nothing excites me. I don’t have any new hobbies… I sleep all day which impacts my work clearly!! I don’t like getting intimate with my partner as I have replaced it with self-pleasure and I have thrown myself into drug abuse problem. I have gained weight and lost control over my life altogether. I know I can achieve greatness but I am too lazy or unmotivated to go get the things done! I see all the signs in myself and I wanna change and… I will change!

@vishavgeetsinghgurm8477 2 ай бұрын

@CuteGamerRichie we will brother

@The_New_Abnormal_World_Order Ай бұрын

There is lots of advice on here that can help you, as well as places to get help in the real world too. Good luck, many people have been through the difficulties you mention, and got through the other side!✌✨

@eastonclark 18 күн бұрын

I’m 29 and feel like this is happening. I’m a recovering heroin addict I have a couple years clean from it but I just can’t figure out why I’d feel like this, and I know people are gonna tell me 29 is too young, maybe it is. wtf is it then cuz 2024 I got a great job where I make great money, got a nice place with a woman with a ring on her finger - and it’s been one of the hardest/darkest years mentally for me. I’ve been thinking about things I never thought, heavy, heavy things, and it’s like idk who I am right now. I don’t know who I was, I thought I’d be somewhere else by now, further along. Whatever it is, it feels like a crisis

@dieselnavice 28 күн бұрын

Very true i am 43 and I experience all this … my goal is to give a better orbit shift lifestyle to my family .. i am making every damn effort for it .. however… i am not able to sleep … very difficult to explain .. lack of words … appreciate your video on this topic

@Araksi_N 25 күн бұрын

I like your style , straight to the point without all the rambling

@blast4me754 Жыл бұрын

I'm just glad he left the sports car thing off the list.

@missladybug6712 10 ай бұрын

Wow, this sounds just like going through menopause! I'm 56 and going through hell. 😢

@robertoboehler-blumenau-sc8818 9 ай бұрын

42, no kids, never wanted to get married, and I don't regret when I see all my friends having very bad marriages and some already divorced. I still look young, but biologically I know that I'm more past than future, and that's sad. Well, I haven't drunk anymore since last year, and that's a huge achievement for me.

@DiscentG 9 ай бұрын

Congratulations for not doing any alcohol

@FolstrimHori 9 ай бұрын

How much can you deadlift

@belzy02belindah28 7 ай бұрын

Sounds like I’m the female version of you but about to turn 49! Always get told I look like I’m in my 30’s but I’m feeling the hormonal shift and mentally feel down atm. Lost my mojo 😢 need to get back in the gym had surgery last year and heaps of changes which was stressful. Thanks for sharing 😊

@frankr2584 6 ай бұрын

I feel ya

@StevenBHorrorFan 5 ай бұрын

Congrats!!!

@hamfistsman6267 4 ай бұрын

48, it's hitting me. 10/13 of those. A few months ago I quit weed, put my Playstation away, been working out like crazy. I'm in the best shape I've been in 20 years. The life choices made just hover me. I definitely feel trapped.

@goneviral8814 3 ай бұрын

Opportunity, definitely

@jeremiahmorris1852 10 ай бұрын

I turned 40 last year and had my whole life start going south before then. Things continue to get worse and my depression is worse than before

@ingleringlet-snipps3rd449 10 ай бұрын

Hang in there. Get outside, get some fresh air. Exercise. Do healthy things. Don't smoke, try not to drink to excess. It will get better.

@funeats8201 9 ай бұрын

I’m 39 and I am in the same boat. When you’re young, life is always giving you things without you even asking or having to try. Now it seems to always be taking something away.

@StevenBHorrorFan 5 ай бұрын

I’m 41 and no partner or kids. No drama so I guess that helps in my situation.

@Mike-de7wv 7 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for this! Yes - relative to all the factors listed it unsurprisingly appears that I'm enjoying a mid-life crisis. I also probably have ADHD so really appreciate this video's summary of these points in such a concise way rather than being dragged out over 15 painful minutes of random stock images and video.. I'm definitely trying to use this as an opportunity though; such strong negative emotions can be a powerful motivator and I'm seeing modest if tangible gains from free-and-body-weight exercises.. which is really rewarding and empowering. I also find regular, sometimes hard aerobic exercise (cycling) to be enormously beneficial. Exercise a great way to react to this situation as it legitimately addresses the physical decline that can be the root of insecurity, prepping yourself for a healthier, happier later life and proving to yourself that you are capable of effecting significant, positive change. Also, as we all know, the joy of objective physical gains notwithstanding, exercise is also intrinsically great for both mental and physical health. I also hope to bring some worth to my life / hijack my misery for the good of others with some charity work / volunteering. Life continues to feel like a miserable, pointless slog a lot of the time... however we're the only ones who can change this so the best you can do is try... even if this seems impossible or futile at times. Good luck folks :)

@HeatherNewcity 8 ай бұрын

Hit all 13. Time to get the book!

@fatherofthenoo 10 ай бұрын

Phew, that's a relief. I was questioning it until I watched this video. At 42 I don't have any of those feelings... ...yet.

@jamiestafford9576 7 ай бұрын

Every time I stumble upon one of your videos. I am very pleased with the content.

@a.edwardsnycta5785 Жыл бұрын

38 and I'm starting

@omarolive Жыл бұрын

Ticked all the boxes. 38, no kids, no marriage, office job that brings me a steady income but no meaning in doing what I do.

@sagnaru 9 ай бұрын

😢 Me too.

@StevenBHorrorFan 5 ай бұрын

Take some PTO if you have some and travel! I plan to

@ryanjonestownmassaker5943 2 ай бұрын

The thought of marrying and having kids makes me sick. Who needs all those bills, responsibility and divorce? I am quite content with life.

@mctesterjv 4 ай бұрын

I’m 15 going to 16 and watching you complaining and lost, just have faith in god and in yourself and in the choices you have made

@ahimsa6791 3 ай бұрын

WTF? Isn't it past your bedtime, kid?

@aprilmccants1054 2 ай бұрын

This is so cute 🥰. 15 is such an innocent and imaginative age and existence. Although you are in no way qualified to speak to/for absolutely anyone that has decades of levels of experience/trauma that can ONLY be provided by the accumulation of years of LIVING THROUGH LIFE, you’re a brave one. Super cute ❤.

@pokebowl1679 5 ай бұрын

John Mayer sings “it might be a quarter life crisis” in why Georgia. Was ironic for me because my Ex Wife Georgia divorced me at 34 and this song came out and invoked all of the symptoms that you state. Glad I got it over early.

@dantricolor 6 ай бұрын

yeah, its exactly how i feel.

@Zanizee 3 күн бұрын

41 and it all makes sense now 😮

@fated2pretend 2 ай бұрын

I just turned 40 last month. I've never been married or had kids, but I do have a successful career that I'm starting to get crazy thoughts about moving away from to start a new path in life for very few good reasons. I checked all 13 points on your list... urgh...

@NVDAbets 5 ай бұрын

Im fucking 28. And i am here. I think mid life crisis arrives when we fulfill the society's expectations but failed to fulfill our own. The worst feeling is when everyone else is telling you that you are doing great but you know you aren't....

@RiseTimeGrind 2 ай бұрын

Very well said. Also 28 and this is my exact sentiment.

@chrizrglass 6 ай бұрын

Alllllll of this 😢😢 turning 40 later this year

@jamesbyrne9312 4 ай бұрын

I've been in this crisis since I was 20!!!

@monocyte2210 Жыл бұрын

this is so spot on

@danalley6376 4 ай бұрын

I've been having a midlife crisis my whole life based on these points

@Aware506 Ай бұрын

Wow!!!! Spot on.

@VanessaSimon26 9 ай бұрын

All the above. Help me.

@barlowjmb 4 ай бұрын

I’m 33 and I feel all this.

@adamstone6123 9 ай бұрын

Ok! I’m definitely having a mid life crises.

@lynnesanchez4551 8 ай бұрын

You brought a smile to me - thanks

@edwardhernandez7600 2 ай бұрын

Dammmm!! I'm 35 and I'm spiraling around! I better make this an opportunity for sure

@johnathan3328 14 күн бұрын

40 in Dec ‘24. Marine vet with a college degree I never got to use because of the ‘11 recession. Not married, no kids, divorced at the age of 30. Nothing to show for any of the last 40 years.

@ABC-ui9cm 2 ай бұрын

at 36 right now, I fit in just right for this video.

@berrlett Жыл бұрын

Male 50 here, I have nearly all of them what am mostly confused about is how do I know whether it’s a midlife crisis, severe generalised anxiety or depression or a combination ? On the same day I can go from a massive dread mostly about my health to nice, positive and sweet thoughts. Anyone care to help ? 😢

@kristoff99s Жыл бұрын

I would suggest that it doesn’t really matter what the cause is. The main point is that you are struggling and are in a state that requires some time and support to work through it. I would suggest a good therapist. Perhaps start writing a journal to explore your thoughts and feelings. At the same time find an activity that gives you a break from thinking and frees you from your mind from time to time. This could be any activity where you get lost in the moment. A balance of thinking and ‘being’ is important when going through what you are feeling at the moment. Best of luck.

@sanitary103 Жыл бұрын

Could be a combination. Seek a therapist to see what’s lurking beneath the epidermis.

@BigmommaKi Жыл бұрын

Omg I have everything on the list 😢

@unisangalaxystudio Ай бұрын

Am 29 and been feeling like this for years about am very scared of life in a dead end job losing hope in my future, and scared of going back to university.. what if I still cant get a job...what if I lose again like I did in community college that was a horrible years of my life. I have no carrer No future in marriage No future in buying a house Just so lost

@TheBullOfLewisham Жыл бұрын

Thank you. 🌹

@angelaosullivan9744 Жыл бұрын

Need follow up instructions on how to have a midlife opportunity instead of a crisis...

@MatthewKellyAuthor Жыл бұрын

Angela, here is the full series: kzbin.info/aero/PLgCGT7nNXGY7Tm7usi7iNe5SfmRqNS3Vu

@j.7701 Жыл бұрын

Crisitunity

@nimblecrow Жыл бұрын

I turned mine into an opportunity. I just picked one thing that I could change, and then I did that. I kept doing that until I had changed my whole life. I also asked for help, went to therapy and quit using all forms of drugs down to caffeine. Godspeed

@tiffanyvanlengen 6 ай бұрын

I'm going to keep that in mind@@nimblecrow

@trock8854 3 ай бұрын

Yes I’m going through a mid life crisis

@jamelledwards116 Ай бұрын

I'm 42 and going through this now

@Duckovile 10 ай бұрын

why am i feeling almost all of these at 13

@lifeofsim7070 5 ай бұрын

I’m 26 I feel this

@djbodyrawk Жыл бұрын

All the signs 👀

@pheonabrown774 Жыл бұрын

Me too😮

@OMGgirls_WORLD 2 ай бұрын

💯.....×1,000.

@jamesdeek7039 Жыл бұрын

I'm 30 and am experiencing all of these....

@delusionalluy 8 ай бұрын

I feel you bro! Our crisis came sooner, it's more like a "first-third life crisis", the true middle crisis is yet to come possibly xD

@MaximillianTiberius 3 ай бұрын

35 here.... checking few boxes already

@nathanielhernandez6810 5 ай бұрын

I’m almost 24, I’ve lived on both side of the country have moved back and forth 3 times so far, twice independently. I’ve had relationships, rented houses, rented apartments, lived with family. I’ve gone from a dishwasher making $11 an hour to commission sales making upwards of $500 in a day. I went from a terrible cocaine addiction and self destructive behavior to a healthy lifestyle. I’m having a hard time finding meaning or purpose, is this the same as a midlife crisis? I relate to the 13 signs I’m just lost.

@ana-maria448 7 ай бұрын

30 in a week and feel so bad about myself. Fell behind in life. 😢

@StevenBHorrorFan 5 ай бұрын

I’m sorry!

@Owlobserver Жыл бұрын

I had this but it was more of a "quarter-life crisis" at the age of 21, and it lasted almost 2 years. I was smoking weed almost every day with a mate of mine, then all of a sudden, I lost who I was and began to overthink everything. My enjoyment of smoking weed and doing things that were "normal" for me became so abstract. I started to worry that I was doomed to 'smoke up' all day for the rest of my life. I started to look to others who asked "what was wrong with me" to which I had no answer. I had no drive or no idea what to do. So I began to drink much more and seclude myself from others. Fast forward to now, I'm 25, now at university with hopes of completing a bachelor's degree and possibly studying even further. I don't hang out with my stoner mates anymore (even though it was no fault of theirs, it was my choice to smoke), I feel so much more in control of my life and both mentally and physically healthier. I still struggle with motivation and discipline at times, but I strive to be better every day. For me this was a "quarter-life opportunity", I'm afraid if I didn't have it, I wouldn't be where I am today.

@user-hx9iq4yv8n Жыл бұрын

I'm not sure how old you are now. I can tell you I had a similar experience at 25. I called it a quarter life crisis. I'm 40 now and am having a midlife crisis. I long for that quarter life crisis haha.

@ratfood3875 10 ай бұрын

currently going through this right now, will try to go to college and get my life in order as well.

@user-hx9iq4yv8n 10 ай бұрын

@@ratfood3875 trust me. It's a lot worse when youre 40 or older. You still have the whole world open to you.

@Owlobserver 10 ай бұрын

@ratfood3875 Take your time and remember that when you're at rock bottom, there's only one way you can go

@mii22s28 9 ай бұрын

This really helps... Feeling the same right now

@pamh8927 12 күн бұрын

My husband at 42 checks all the boxes and I'm scared about the decisions he'll make and regret later 😢

@thedoctor6332 22 күн бұрын

im going through all of this

@giuseppevella9501 11 ай бұрын

You forget, that the childish behaviors of a man in a midlife crisis almost always hurt his loving partner, who doesn’t know how to help or what to do

@FredAllenBurge 10 ай бұрын

Also, he doesn't know how to help or what to do either😔

@enanramos1986 3 ай бұрын

37 i got all of the symptoms

@jasonclarke7422 11 ай бұрын

I have Aspergers and I put how I’m feeling down to this thinking that my Aspergers is getting worse as I age, it was a work colleague that jokingly said to me that she thought that I was having some kind of midlife crisis as I recently got some new tattoos at the age of 49, something I have not done in years,and my mood has been a little off over the past few years, I have had feelings of anxiety and depression and generally lost my zest for life and am finding hard to find the joy in anything, even going on holiday I find it hard to get excited about. How long does this go on for, could someone please tell me, as I do not want this to be the way I feel for the rest of my life and just want to get my spark back.

@ahmadnoorkhan2946 3 ай бұрын

Im 25 years old and i feel all of this damn

@paulsantos914 9 ай бұрын

All boxes checked for me.

@Itoldyouso1 11 ай бұрын

32 and have all the things you said

@talksick508 9 ай бұрын

35 and yes to all of this …..

@LennyinFlorida Жыл бұрын

Yes, definitely have this lol 😂

@mattwhite1196 2 ай бұрын

I guess I've had one since my mid twenties.

@CatalinaFOIA 7 ай бұрын

I'm a woman and I'm going through this at 43 and I'm not in menopause 😢

@Teddy_Miljard_Genius_Work Ай бұрын

12/13. Just turned 50.

@chris-2496 9 ай бұрын

By the sound if it I've already had a couple of midlife crises before I was 35 😅

@knowledgeispower2683 Жыл бұрын

Thirty two with two kids. I got every single one and more

@arrtdave 8 ай бұрын

I didn't hear anything about purchasing a new Corvette....😂😂 But seriously, 40 here and this was all true.

@donniecatalano Ай бұрын

Wow, I scored 14 out of 13. At 48 I see myself becoming what I was hating about older people when I was young. Damn.

@MatthewKellyAuthor Ай бұрын

It there is still time

@PurpleOcarina 10 ай бұрын

Yep i’m all of those except the last one. I have no desire or motivation to get in shape or something, i have the one trait of a midlife crisis that would be useful lol pain

@Cuteypie-b9b 2 ай бұрын

I’ve had all of these since I was 15. I’m 40 now. I guess my whole life is a crisis lol

@DawnTintari-zf7vs 9 ай бұрын

Midlife crises RULE! Take all that shit and get it together. Lol. It’s the next door…find the key and open it…walk through it…one day it’ll all be over. Let’s see how much we can grow!

@aleksandermaltsev5537 10 ай бұрын

I'm 18 and I have a midlife crisis

@NamNguyen-xo6zi 5 ай бұрын

26 next month and having more than half of the stated

@SteakSauceIceCream 7 ай бұрын

35. ticked all but 2.

@JerryLokomus 3 ай бұрын

I'm a few months to touch 60. Of the 13 sings I got 9 of 'em at lest. I think I hit the ground hard and I feel all comfuse. I lived alone in a rent room by myself and I'm not easy to break, give up or surrender but I don't know what to do or what I want anymore. An adivice it'll be a great help. Thnx.