An Alternative to the “Midlife Crisis” | Chip Conley | TED

Midlife doesn't have to be a scary time, says entrepreneur Chip Conley. In this short yet profound talk, he takes inspiration from the natural world to reframe our 40s, 50s and 60s as a transitional stage that's full of grace and beauty - and urges us all to make aging aspirational.
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*Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you-to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.*

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... ...before we start again." --DD1 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

[@penmetcha35]

What a great way to rethink midlife! Wonderful talk. Wish it was longer.

[@yaelschy8917]

Thank you Chip! I’m a Baby Boomer who is passionate about positive aging & using the arts to create intergenerational connections. I’m the founder of Zoomers to Boomers Improv, a virtual intergenerational, international improv theater program. I’m also a songwriter. After hearing your TED talk a couple of days ago, I was inspired to write a new song, “I Wanna Grow Old!” Thank you for the inspiration-YES we need to make aging aspirational! ❤️

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😢 Every pain gives a lesson and every lesson changes a person🙏🏻

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Thank you for every smile Thank you for every moment Thank you for every memory Our promise still stands, connecting minds creating the future🙏🏻

[@Silvi-a]

Short & sweet and so beautiful 😊

[@AzEagletarian]

Chrysalis... or crucible might also be an appropriate framing. Getting through to the benefits of aging can take enduring the pressure of a crucible.

[@carsonhunt4642]

It’s not about it not being cool to grow old. It’s about how our entire youth is wasted in vain, because we are told “just behave the way society wants you to, sacrifice your youth and time doing menial work and wasting your talent, and one day it’ll be worth it because society will allow you to have decent pay/house/family. The problem with the generations under the boomers is none of this was true for majority of ppl, making ppl resentful/depressed.

[@AzEagletarian]

If you don't endure the foibles of youth, how will you be able to emerge into the wisdom and joy of old age?

[@carsonhunt4642]

@@AzEagletarian The average FIRST TIME homeowner in 2023 is 35 years old, childless, and makes 96k. If you know how fertility works you’ll understand this means almost none of them are getting to have a family. But yes reaching old age with no kids and living in an apartment, working a min wage job with a 4yr degree… they’ll be so wise .. unfortunate they won’t have kids to pass their wisdom to.

[@jadziamerryweather77888]

So it is the growing pains we experience before becoming wise elders -- to ease into that, we have to fully release the idea of clinging to youth, and embrace the benefits of age. I think?

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... ...before we start again." --DD1 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

[@BrianHallmond]

Midlife S - is always on my mind. But had a lot of horrible stuff happen. See how we go. (I'm almost 36) Hopefully I can transform.

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We as leaders need to be collectively RESPONSIBLE; we need to stand up and take collective RESPONSIBILITY for our current failings, but also for the ACTIONS✊🏻🇺🇳

[@macmcleod1188]

One reason men have a mid life crisis is declining testosterone. Get checked. If under 300, you will have loss of natural sexual interest and ability (which can mean needing stronger stimulus), lower quality asleep, night seats, foggy thinking, and worst of all a constant feeling of dread like you were asked to see the boss at closing time or pulled over by the police. Manufactored T is expensive and only offered by top insurance but compounded T is $60 to $100 pet month. Shots are the least expensive but now require a visit to the doctors office since abuse made T a controlled substance. I am a testicular cancer survivor so it hit me early in my 40s. I've been on HRT for 2 decades. It's wonderful.

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For your commitment, we say THANK YOU! If each of us has a role to play in Keeping the Promise of the Global Goals

[@Picci25021973]

Well... considering the alternative, to grow old is not so bad!

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[@HamHamDude]

The title says he's speaking to people in their 40's, but the content is using symbology we use for children.

[@user-ng5mo1uc9t]

It makes sense. Confucianism also teaches that the goal of life is to try to become a good man countinously and endlessly. A good man can be butterfly.

[@TheAmericanAmerican]

This one's nice 👍

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It is time to ACT! Building back together for peace, security and prosperity begin from ourselves🙏🏼

[@davidschmidt5507]

This guy looks like former NY Yankee, Derek Jeeter.

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“The world needs peace. And peace needs women's leading voices.” - Amina J. Mohammed _Deputy Secretary-General of the United Nations_

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[@aduad]

Ageing is associated with death and loss of autonomy/health, unless we embrace that it will be very difficult to have "pro ageing" products and services and a positive outlook post 50!

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👩🏼‍🎓🇺🇳 "One of the most important lessons I learnt in my life of struggle for freedom and peace is that in any conflict there comes a point when neither side can claim to be right and the other wrong, no matter how much that might have been the case at the start of a conflict." ~Nelson Mandela during a video message for the signing of the Geneva Accord, December 2003

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👩🏼‍🎓🇬🇧 "The millions of graves strewn across Europe which are the result of the tyranny of Nazism, the decimation of the native peoples of the Americas and Australia, the destructive trail of the apartheid crime against humanity - all these are like a haunting question that floats in the wind: why did we allow these to happen?" ~Nelson Mandela in an address to the Joint Houses of Parliament, Westminster Hall, London, England, 11 July 1996

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[@geraldmerkowitz4360]

It's another way of saying that every crisis is an opportunity

[@my.motorrad]

50 on? Not for me. It's a decade off.

[@eugottabekiddin3772]

Thank you for this inspirational look at the flip side..

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👩🏼‍🎓🇮🇹 "It is essential for our common future on the planet that the marginalisation of Africa be ended and that all parts of the world be accorded equal attention and focus within our globalised world." ~Nelson Mandela in a message to the Rome Conference on Africa, Italy, April 2004

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👩🏼‍🎓🇪🇺 "We do not pursue any goals which would result in some emerging as winners & others as losers. We are striving to proceed in a manner & towards a result, which will ensure that all our people, both black & white, emerge as victors" ~Nelson Mandela in an address to the European Parliament, Strasbourg, France, 13 June 1990

[@Paulo-zr5zo]

Pro aging products? try coke, cigar, sweets and get 8am to 10pm office job.

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👩🏼‍🎓🇮🇩 "No country, however powerful it may be, is entitled to act outside the United Nations. The United Nations was established in order that countries, irrespective of the continent from which they come, should act through an organised and disciplined body. The United Nations is here to promote peace in the world and any country that acts outside the United Nations is making a serious mistake." ~Nelson Mandela during a press conference, Jakarta, Indonesia, 30 September 2002

[@CodyMcGriff]

This is an incredible message. I am 34 and still feel 21. I died when I was 12 and was spared by the angel of death. Trust me, you want to live a long life.

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[@dameanvil]

00:04 🔄 Midlife crisis is often viewed negatively, but it's a serious matter, especially considering midlife suicides. 00:34 🌍 Midlife is a life stage that emerged in the 20th century, similar to adolescence and retirement, but it lacks respect. 01:02 📉 Happiness research indicates a decline in life satisfaction from around 22 to 50, with a U-curve showing increased happiness after 50. 02:01 🐛🦋 Chip Conley suggests a metaphor of midlife as a chrysalis, where transformation occurs, leading to a new age of wisdom and growth. 03:06 🌱 Aging should be seen as aspirational, with a focus on pro-aging rather than anti-aging products, embracing the positive aspects of growing old.

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🇺🇳👩🏼‍🎓⚖️ “Our hopes for a more just, safe, and peaceful world can only be achieved when there is universal respect for the inherent dignity and equal rights of all members of the human family.” - Former UN Women Executive Director, Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka

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bitcoin is hope

[@my.names.robb.with.two.bs1]

He spoke of "the three decades of longevity we were granted in the 20th century," speaking of the 60s 70s and 80s. NO! This refers to the idea of "life expectancy" being far less in past years. The term "life expectancy" is a misused term that makes people think in the past people only lived to 30-40 years of age and then died. This isn't true! People ALWAYS lived to their 70s 80s or 90s throughout all human history. The reason that stupid pseudoscience term "life expectancy" is so low is because of infant mortality and childhood diseases killing the youth. But if you made it past childhood you probably were going to live to be very old. Stop using this stupid term! It just shows how little science people actually know and how much they just parrot.

[@homelight9321]

A sheep in wolfs clothing. Mr Conley has a reputation of luring people into his Elder Academy and then after they have graduated from the academy him and his partners push there real estate development projects and have destroyed neighborhoods with there development and rental properties.

[@nancymosby7369]

Is midlife suicide a real 😢 thing?

[@logancade342]

I don't plan to be able to retire. I won't be having kids. I won't be independently wealthy by 65. I've been told every day of my life that I definitely will not have access to social security by then. So, when it comes to pass that I'm too old to work enough to sustain myself and ward off homelessness, I *expect* to eventually be coerced into "logging off." Good thing I'm only 31; plenty to look forward to, still.

[@357Dejavu]

The group with the highest suicide rate is middle aged (primarily men).

[@nancymosby7369]

@@logancade342 remain hopeful! Live in the moment, yesterday is gone tmrw is not here be present it’s the only thing we have..for now!

[@solobavarianswiss]

Quarter life crisis 😂

[@TheOneWhoKnocks969]

And they said "yeah yeah" World rotated the same People remained the same

[@shaoyangchua8946]

Midlife

[@Noah-Vineyard]

Ya sounds like everything you do is in vain..vanities of vanities only good thing about pain is that it will let you know that you're still alive