What is a Midlife Crisis? Therapist explains the behavioural and psychological impacts.

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In today's video one of our Honorary Assistant Psychologist's Marios explains what is meant by a midlife crisis and how you can tell if you are going through a midlife crisis.
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[@amendito10]

But there is a reality one lives in. I am 43, have struggled throughout my life, and have lost more than I have achieved. I have promised myself that when I turn 45, I will stop dreaming and live as I do now until I die. There's no point in fighting if fate wants something else

[@thelonelyghosts9004]

I felt like this was beautifully explained. I’m 37 and in the past few months have seemingly started to feel like I’m “halfway up” myself, certainly in terms of my career. I feel like I’m not making as much money as I could be, I’m not living in the house I want to live in, and generally just really questioning my life and its direction. I don’t know what to do because up until just a few months ago I felt relatively hopefully and validated in my life but now, for some reason, it just feels different. I’m hoping that I’m not alone in thinking this way.

[@JeffAdairKTM530]

your not alone brother - there are many of us

[@joaquinjmp7841]

You are not alone, I’m 36 and started feeling this way similar to what you just shared. Trying to cope and keep pushing

[@Marios_CG]

Thank you for sharing and for the feedback on the video. Yes it sounds like some fluctuations are happening in your life. Questioning is good, it can lead you to discovering more about yourself and what you want. It's the expectations that bring you back down by constantly comparing yourself to a generally unrealistic ideal. Look after yourself.

[@Agent-gh9tn]

I'm 37 and going same thing. I've been thinking about mortality quite a bit.

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

Definitely not alone. Just keep aiming high & move up. Set goals, have a plan, stay focused. Meet other people

[@paulsantos914]

I'm crying as i watch this. All the boxes are checked.

[@dwaipayan9926]

I am 28 and was thinking i am lost i don't know what to do in my life.but i think now life is very uncertain you just need to live in present and enjoy whatever time you have in life when i was 20 yrs old i used to think the same bad things in a different way.

[@Humancnxn]

Ever since I started learning about making YT videos, I must say this is probably one of the best compiled videos. It ticks all the boxes for me. This is excellent work. The message is clear in all senses, my attention was grabbed throughout and I feel like I am walking away with all the value that you intended the vid to give. Keep up such good work, and thank you for taking time to make this.

[@abrahammnjama7962]

Am glad I listened to this video.its timely for me. Very clear and relatable.

[@kmetzgr9594]

I’m going through this. I’m 40 years and feel unaccomplished. I hate to tell people I work a dead end job and never figured out what my passion is. I have no family of my own and still living under my mother’s roof. I feel like I’m constantly waiting for the day my body starts to break down from old age and just give up on life

[@Hmongboi228]

+1 to your comment. I'm in EXACTLY the same situation except I'm 38. For my mother, she is independent, age 69 but needs somebody there to just "keep the house warm." With me, I've applied for different government jobs (currently work for the government) OUTSIDE of my area so I can move out. My living situation is that I have been living with my mother since I came back from the military and although it is nice to not have to pay rent, it feels as if I have not matured psychologically while in the shadow of my mother. Hopefully you, others and I can snap out of this worrying moment in our life...

[@notatall1944]

step 1: hit gym(no gym = go run or push up) step 2: eat healthy food step 3: stop drinking, smoking wasting step 4: save money till it reach 3 months cover expense step 5: re invest to knowledge(for job you want it may take years) step 6: pursue that jobs while that 3 months saving last step 7: if fail repeat all steps again.

[@Junebuggy_2023]

Do not loose faith. You are as young as how you want to be and feel. There are people running marathon at age of 90. Keep your morale high

[@renesilva241]

40 is the best time of your life. O you did something significant between 20 and 40 you should be proud. If you haven't then 40 is a good starting point because now you have experience and still strong, and you still have 25 years to achieve your goals

[@blacklyfe5543]

You should feel ashamed of yourself you're 40 and still living with mommy? Lmao you've got a lot of work to do my guy.

[@jangnara6033]

Thanks. It helps a lot to discover a name of what i'm experiencing in these past years. I thought I'm going extreme.

[@NYCSlim26]

This video is great. Despite the fact that I’ve realized a lot of this with my own therapist over time, you explained this so perfectly that it added even more clarity. Thank you!

[@Marios_CG]

I'm happy to hear that, you are welcome. Look after yourself.

[@dcodex520]

Thank you for the insight, this help

[@PrabhjotSingh-ku5nv]

Such a beautiful .... Explanation... Thanks

[@wilmalay32]

Thank you for this enlightening video.

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

Im 35 and going through this. I feel like i want to re -live my 20s. I could have done more, made and kept friends, invested, and traveled more. I wasted my youth. Now Im 35, married, with 2 daughters

[@kenrehill8775]

Wait your turn.

[@deebond4745]

I'm 37 going through abit of this I think. I do have the freedom now because of this.. But I feel I'm hard on myself, like my critic is saying hurry up or like.…i should of learned some things earlier. Gosh. Can feel overwhelming when it gets critical

[@kenrehill8775]

@@deebond4745 was your father present during your childhood?

[@Chad_Thundernuts]

You have a family. To me that's more than I could ever dream of. At least you have that.

[@randideelancaster9904]

Children are the best way to stay young, you get to experience childhood again! Through their eyes! Jump in puddles, play in the sand, take them places you loved as a child, that's what I have been doing, I had so much fun taking my son to the beach, to the play ground, I'm still young at heart and it's fun!

[@tangbein]

Currently working as a hotel receptionist and it's fascinating how it is people at the exact age range, mentioned in this video, that are the most difficult ones. Any person in his 20's-30's will be completely chill. If there is something wrong with a room/apartment it is not the end of the world.

[@chrishall7915]

Thanks for this. For me, at least part of the problem is the conflict between the feeling of discontent and the knowledge that things could be much, much worse. I keep telling myself I should be grateful for what I have but the truth is it isn't making me happy.

[@joeyzalman8254]

thank you fot this!

[@katc7550]

I just called to find a therapist because I wasn’t sure what was wrong with me. It’s definitely a mid life crisis. I’ll be 51 in a month. I had my last child at 44! I have everything that was talked about and have a 6 yr old on top of it. I’m not complaining! Love her to death but I have become obsessed with my looks. I get compliments all the time that people can’t believe I’m my age but I constantly feel like people are looking at me like “is she the Grandmom” and I’ve been doing hair for 32 years. I am starting to hate it. I don’t want to work and deal with people or my co workers. There’s much more but I hope I therapy helps

[@JC-fx3wh]

You're rare, giving birth at 44 is almost impossible these days.

[@luluah1198]

@@JC-fx3whno it’s not . Please just get out of the west travel the world. I know plenty of Asian women having babies later than this, and I’m in the UK 😂

[@bobpenney9973]

I believe I am going through a mid-life crisis with mounting anxiety and depression. I dont spend money bc I am broke. I question all of my life decisions. What used to interest me no longer does. I avoid social situations when possible. I have no motivation. I suffer from chronic pain and fatigue.

[@jasonclarke7422]

How old are you, I’m 49 and been feeling what you have described for the past few year’s. I really don’t like that I have lost interest in most things that I used to enjoy and I’m also not patient and understanding like I used to be. I just feel like a tired worn out lump and am the shadow of what I once was, I eat a healthy diet and try and keep my fitness levels up, but this does not appear to help. How long does this midlife crisis go on for ? it’s really getting me down and I want to be the person I was when I met my wife 25 years ago.

[@bobpenney9973]

@jasonclarke7422 I am 49 years old. I feel the same way. I don't know how long or when the midlife crisis ends. I try everything to motivate myself but with no success.

[@jasonclarke7422]

@@bobpenney9973 At least we know that we are not on our own, even though it does feel like it at times. I hope life goes back to how it was in happier times for us both. 👍

[@JeffAdairKTM530]

thank you for this great summary. I am 35 and struggling to make friends and find another job in my field. I am also not impressed with my financial accomplishments living in los angeles and living check to check. I think I applied to over 300 jobs in my field and failing to land any offers. Its been a weird down turn in my sailing but I am trying to stay positive. I have been able to keep my small family together and my daughter is almost out of highschool. I tried to give her a normal life and now I am trying to find myself.

[@Marios_CG]

Thank you for sharing and I'm glad you enjoyed the video. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot, and going through a mid-life crisis can compound on that. It's good to read that you are focusing on staying positive, it's important and it can take 1000s of failures to make 1 great success, so keep going!

[@martmosop_kivindyo]

Hugs bro...Can I be your friend?

[@avishekgadal7170]

I wish you all the best mate.

[@hancock1934]

I believe the first couple, but after that things become less transparent, focusing primarily on the salty aftertaste. Ultimately, though, I would highly recommend the latter!

[@fudoshin28]

Thank you.

[@33Crazydude]

At 46, I found myself grappling with a midlife crisis that began at 44. Despite recognizing the need for significant changes, I haven't adequately addressed them. Instead, I've nervously resorted to behaviors aimed at resisting or slowing down aging, inadvertently causing me to spiral into a state of panic. Paradoxically, this only accelerates the aging process. The frightening speed at which time passes feels like a cruel joke.

[@lorettaelliott4481]

Excellent

[@shakenbacon-vm4eu]

I’m 37. High income. Made it in my career as a doctor. Married with 2 kids. It just hit me a month ago, manifested by (it’s so embarrassing), a celebrity crush. It hurts. So. Damn. Much. I have seen someone and it helped. Looking back, I feel I devoted way too much to school and career, and moralized sex and dating to a point of avoiding them when I was in my physical prime (coupled with lack of any confidence with girls). But it’s interesting, cuz my crisis can be someone else’s fulfillment. I really hope it goes away, cuz I’ve never felt this type of pain before, for so long. Thanks for posting this vid, it did help and made me feel less alone.

[@isaiahsalinas818]

Thanks for the video! I really needed to hear this. I realized that Im having a midlife crises at only 21 years old.

[@Marios_CG]

Thanks, I'm glad you liked the video! Perhaps more a quarter-life crisis ;) you are very young but yes some elements from a mid-life crisis can occur earlier depending on what expectations you have on yourself/from others. Look after yourself.

[@kevintraynor4508]

I'm 46 and wish I was your age again.

[@deepworker6228]

​@@kevintraynor4508 what would you advice sir to you at your 21 Because I am only 17 and still I am having these issues Can you please advice something to me

[@greeksurferdude]

​@@deepworker6228Find your passion and follow your dreams!

[@GanymedeXD]

What nonsense … midlife crisis! 🤣 The main problem with midlife crisis is you entered midlife … own mortality is inevitable and there is no real time left to make desired changes … with 21 you are not even fully developed … yet … the problem with checking symptoms online … as if you say … yeah you are pregnant as a male as you share symptoms! 🤣

[@Momo-qo7is]

I have been trying to restructure my life. Every single day I think that death is approaching and what I need to do to be well-prepared. I am 42 years and feel like what I used to do in the old circle of friends is not the right one that I am looking for. I have cut childhood relationships as minimum as possible to release what I feel like it’s not really what I am looking for. I hate to spend time listening to worthless gossips.

[@PrabhjotSingh-ku5nv]

I think extra merital affairs also part of it.. I think fear of loosing what we had in our life.. Ignites the fear of death

[@alisaa3999]

I think it starts at age 40. That is the start to mid life crises.

[@Tovertuin]

The midlife had to do with the uranus opposite, around 42-45 years of age. Need to become a more authentic self. There is an inner reslesness from unresolved issues, mostly emotional.

[@EricSPizarro]

i will be 40 in a few weeks and I have this a couple of months, I think I am now closer to death than birth (assuming average death age today) and think about the world, the past, and death.

[@majorspade9629]

I love my job but it won't pay enough to buy a house. At the same time if don't want to waste my time that is reserved for family with a side business work. I am also scared to founding a startup as I need to 100% secure the needs of the family. Struggling with this for about a year now. I'm 35

[@Jeprox_Gaming]

Im 35 going 36 this april and i think in my 30 im already struggling until now with this midlife crisis or its just anxiety or any disorder i think.

[@mangeshkherdekar7376]

I am of the same age.. and having the same feelings 😥

[@sasha48189]

I’m 45, and feel like that a lot I’m I don’t even like myself anymore more lost,,

[@tonyarriola4454]

I was wondering if I was going through a mid life crisis or just losing my mind. Hopefully therapy helps me with that

[@sauravmisraz]

I am 40 now, and this midlife crisis suddenly started for me. infact I would have easily get rid off, but there is a catch. I had a massive brain stroke back in 2015, making me paralysed, so its almost the entire day I spend on bed, may be working on computers or going thhrough social media on phone. and suddenly I started feeling irritated all the time, nothing makes me happy, I do not like anything , family members saying I have reduced interacting with them drastically. and due to my condition, I can not even go out and spend some time with friends as well. Its not possible for them to come to my place everytime I feel like, since they have their own priorities as they are not paralysed. how cab I get rid of this mental trap?

[@sharpie3811]

You’re perfect, yes it’s true.

[@edmondopowell]

what if you``ve done all you wanted to before it and then feel what now. emptyness for example

[@3rz-rhymesreasonsandwritte437]

This video didn't touch on the midlife crisis situation of where a happily married man with adult children change overnight. My son in law suddenly wants a divorce and suddenly their kids lives such as walking a daughter down the aisle and becoming a grandparents for the first time doesn't matter so he claims. All he wants to do is work for 12 month stints at the Antarctica and be with the penguins. It's left a family devastated and this video makes a midlife crisis sound so easy.

[@EETSTHECREATOR]

I’m 29 and feel like I’v ticked off EVERYTHING. I have lived an absolutely crazy life all around the world and now I’m sat here just bored.

[@GanymedeXD]

What nonsense … the core problem … age .. you do not have at that age … when midlife crisis hits … there is not that much time left to make the desired changes … as you are too old … not that much time left … your body tells you … you are not as you as 30 any more … and society sets an age limit to a lot of things … definitely not 29 …

[@timizo691]

My now ex wife of 14 years came down with triple negative breast cancer a few years ago. She was stage 3. She met a friend a few years younger who had the same cancer. Her friend’s cancer became metastasized and she died a few months later. Not long after that she decided to divorce me. I am absolutely destroyed.

[@dosentexiststill6428]

I've recently started to fear death I cant stop thinking about dying and what I'm gonna do with my life I'm still young (13) but I just cant stop fearing not just for me but I'm scared about my family leaving and never seeing again and I'm afraid that if I die or my family dies it will just go blank every thing just disappears no matter how important everything just disappears...

[@uklmngubane5661]

Am having this in my early stages_

[@enterusername4650]

I'm gonna be 25 in a few months and I feel obsessed with the past.

[@internallycombusted1]

45-60 isn't midlife unless the life expectancy is 90-120. its more like 35-40 is midlife

[@HolySpirit7771000]

Good job buddy, good video

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thanks for the visit

[@dr.beckyspelman]

You are very welcome!

[@33Crazydude]

Embracing the individuality of each person's midlife journey, it's intriguing to explore the common threads that connect us all. Central to the concept of a midlife crisis is an acute awareness of time's relentless march, an experience shared by many. My personal encounter with this phenomenon began around the age of 44. It dawned on me that a significant portion of my life had likely passed, and the pace at which time was slipping away felt almost surreal. Imagine, for a moment, a world where human lifespans stretched across centuries, and our aging process decelerated significantly. In such a scenario, the anxiety that often accompanies the 40s and 50s might very well dissipate. Fundamentally, the heart of the matter lies in our perception of time - an intangible force that shapes our existence.

[@TheCraftsman-hq1nw]

Pressure makes diamonds.

[@ladyannelleva4768]

How do you tell someone who doesn't know they have a midlife crisis?

[@user-ws3cn4ho1v]

Im 39 and going thru it... my husband 51 yrs old is quite satisfied and never had this issue. I knew him since i was 18 and he was 30 yrs old... Is this a problem with our generation? Millennials?

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

I thiinnkk I’m going through this I’m 32 Anxious what career I want to do for the rest of my life, where I want to move & life, finding the right partner, viewing at what my siblings are doing

[@Krobra91]

I am going through something similar. I find myself also being more introverted because of the pandemic. Its made me want to be around busy bodies, something more active. I am literally looking at larger areas like las vegas, something that has FUN dare i say?

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

@@Krobra91 I feel you. I didn't know that I have isolated myself from being "in the zone" or "just living my life." It wasn't until I realized that I have missed out on a lot from family. I still see them now but not so much within the last 4 years. Now I feel a gap between my siblings. But I didn't explain my realization & hope they could forgive me. As for your comment, what area you staying at now? Vegas is great! Not sure about the weather though lol

[@Krobra91]

@@OiVinn-eq1ml I live in the Portland Oregon area. My biggest issue is that I feel like somethings missing. I keep looking for it changed jobs, found myself happier found myself more appreciated but at the same time I’m not finding joy in things as easily. It’s hard for me. Enjoy doing like building legos to help me concentrate or practice patience, I find myself wanting to be more authentic and do things I love but realizing I’m just not there. Then the struggling of getting up sometimes and just taking step and step…

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

@@Krobra91 Bro, I feel the same way! lol - Hold old are you? That's awesome you're in Portland. Thought of moving there. Have you thought about Seattle? Best cities next to you. I think for us, the best thing is keep our minds occupied & staying focused. It's when I get out of the "zone" is where I start to feel the Fomo.

[@alicjaalvena1120]

i seem to have midlife crisis since i hit 20 xD

[@cutehoney14]

I will be turning 30 by the end of this year so maybe what im going through right now is this „midlife crisis“ but im not very sure cause i have been wanting to change several years ago back when corona just started i quit my job in a company where i have been worked for more than 7+ years and it was a Hard time back then to find a job not just because of the pandemic but alltogether i couldnt bring myself to apply for another Job because i do think there is more to Life than just that so overall it took me nearly 6 months before i got another job…but now im back at it again After got fired nearly 4 months ago. I dont even know yet where to go next or what to do next (career Change, moving to another city or do i just have to get my shit together and apply for the Same job i dont even want to do anymore)…😢

[@GanymedeXD]

There is no ‘midlife crisis’ with 30 … men are also not pregnant despite experiencing problems a pregnant woman might encounter … core problem is … own mortality awareness … due to age the desired changes are often unachievable ad you are too old … with 30 you can do whatever you desire to make a change …

[@tankslapper4686]

I’m 24 and idk wth I’m doing with my life …. I’ve finished my studies … Did engineering and finished MBA.. I just feel like I chose all the wrong options … Now I can’t get a job and don’t have anyone to depend on(which i do not want to) I don’t know if its midlife crisis but it is a crisis for me… Idk what I’m gonna do and really stressed… I haven’t been great on health too … and from where i am its very tough to get part time jobs or small full time jobs where you can actually survive on your own…

[@GanymedeXD]

What nonsense … what midlife? Midlife means you are old … you feel old … your body tells you you are old … you have limited time left … and society prevents you from doing a lot of things … with 24 you are at your physical max as your body just finished full development … if you share symptoms if a pregnant woman you are not pregnant when you are male … like googling symptoms … headache is definitely a brain tumour!

[@yabbadabbindude]

Hell I'm 33 and going through a midlife crisis

[@V3NOMXIII]

I'm feeling it at 30...

[@GanymedeXD]

Yeah and men are pregnant sharing some symptoms …

[@__simply_April__]

I’m not having a mid-life crisis.. I’m just interested in the topic for some reason 🤔🤷🏽‍♀️

[@LB00146]

Mine started at 17 which was many years ago! Haha

[@dans5662]

I'm not sure if this is what I'm going through. I'm 38 and just kinda feel like my life is spinning around a turd bowl, but not going down the toilet, but not getting out. Like I just kinda maxed out and am going through a cycle of crappy jobs.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Sorry to here this. Sounds like you are hoping for some positive change, this is definitely possible if you put your mind to it.

[@pepayplays2035]

I went through my midlife crisis when i was twelve

[@GanymedeXD]

Yeah and a man is pregnant when some symptoms fit!

[@annekanyi]

💯

[@essenenaziriteyirmeyahu851]

Why the labels? Why can't men just be tired of everything and everyone after unrelenting bombardment of wives, children and work.? 😢😢😢

[@sanitary103]

Great point. I am tired man.

[@Lanceallenhall]

Those things make you tired and worn out over a span of decades. Maybe you reached a breaking point in that exhaustion, or maybe you're having a mid-life crisis, which leads you to think about being sick of the things that were always exhausting but fulfilling... until you started to question if it's worth the exhaustion. I don't know enough about your life to say which it is for you. The point is just that many people think about mortality and begin to reevaluate their priorities in that context, around the middle of their life. (Many men are worn the crap out on a very deep level around this same time, but that's a different issue that may or may not happen around the same time and may or may not interact with each other.

[@Janalun]

It CAN make them dangerous! I believe it has been manifesting...

[@kelvinlau9019]

I don't want expensive car but I want a fast car. Does it count?

[@JoshuahMyles]

Im 29 about to be 30 and im having that now. I have 2 kids and dont know who I am. I could write a whole paragraph butnyou get the idea.

[@gregorycarnielutube]

The age setting needs to be considered when having a pandemic where we lost so many people.

[@missantrafalgar782]

What if you started thinking about your immortality around the age of 19??

[@greeksurferdude]

Everybody does but it's not in the same sense. At 19 your life is just beginning - seize the day!

[@GanymedeXD]

Mortality … immortality 🤣

[@bobpenney9973]

That's good bc you have plenty of time to do the right thing.

[@samyafawz3695]

Great video .. thank you .. I definitely felt it when I went back to dating after being happy and single for 4 years .. I was healing then .. I am 43 now and I think now life is telling me something .. I stay away from distractions as much as I can so I can hear life’s whispers .. I wish everyone a smooth, healthy and happy mid-life call ☎️🤗🤍

[@Janalun]

If it's not dealt with it potentially erupts , can implode OR explode! The problem is its NOT clinically diagnosed

[@someblackguy100]

I'm 30 thinking That way now 😂

[@1972jjb]

Can all the 37 year olds stop trying to own this, at their not yet midlife, relatively young age?! (Unless you know you're only going to make it to a fairly modest 74?). For the properly affected majority of us, it's like hearing a chorus of people say; 'Yeah I 'only' make £50k/year too..' !

[@andrewgoss6486]

Who WOULDN'T want to look young or own expensive cars???? I think NOT wanting to be young would be a sign of crisis.

[@dumpsterfire6351]

Mid life crisis ….or can I just afford cooler things now?

[@emmalouie1663]

This is making me feel worse. Talking about death is probably not going to help my mental wellness at the moment.

[@douglaconti7113]

Yup

[@fouraztecas6342]

I did all the illegal subtances i never had the chance to do. My friends were very young adults. I became vegan.

[@hawadrammeh8870]

I’m 21 and having a midlife crisis 😂😂😂

[@ciggnature5334]

How am I having a midlife crisis at 25

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Sorry to hear this, quarter life crisis are also very comment as it’s a new stage of your life where often people experience new challenges as a result of interpersonal relationship challenges, career challenges and much more.

[@johnathonwhyte2826]

This is not completely correct. He speaks of stereotypical behavior and it is misleading. There is midlife transition and midlife crises and they are completely different. Midlife crisis is unhandled grief of loss. (Identity, loved ones, youth, etc) it depends how much value you put in it. Every person in a mid life crises pushes their spouse away. Why? According to him it is because tou are reevaluating your life. That would be wrong. It feels that way but it is actually a breakdown. When you have to much unhandled stress, you have a nervous breakdown and your nerves are "confused". When you have unhandled grief you have an emotional breakdown and your emotions shut off. The behavior is a symptom of trying to find your emotional 'self'. The emotions will come return after coming to terms with your grief. Why such a broad timeframe in life? That is the age when most emotional trauma occurs (parents passing, children moving out). It is all unhandled grief. It is an emotional breakdown. Do not destroy your life thinking it's your body telling you to change it.

[@TizzyLisch]

This makes a lot of sense to me. Are you a therapist? Because I could use one! Thanks for sharing this.

[@cheryllynn9301]

You hit upon a very valid point, why does the spouse always push away their partner who has been with them for years. Why do they completely change as a person, all their likes, from TV shows to food, to the way they dress to what they like to do, it all changes, like they leave the older version of them behind. I don't see anything good coming out of these changes; only drugs, court dates, legal issues, alienation from family, new friends that are no good, yet they keep going back to them.

[@theemeraldcity94]

This is my current situation. For the past 35 years I have been a mother and a wife. My husband past 8 years ago and my children do not need me anymore. I feel very alone and abandoned. I am telling myself that there’s nothing wrong and that this is just a normal phase of life. I feel as though I have sacrificed my youth only to end up alone. I am looking for a new chapter,but I fear a difficult ending. Religion helps as far as having a purpose goes,but the day to day emotions are sometimes hard to navigate. All that being said, women that are suffering with menopause get an extra pounding.

[@rezselecta2580]

I am 52 single, never married and no kids, I am educated successful and quite cool, I DJ! My friends have mostly all gone or deserted me! I have missed the boat on kids and marriage, I really do need to find a girlfriend and am open to single mum! But my god it has become so difficult, I am wondering have women no empathy, compassion or love left?!

[@rezselecta2580]

P.s. I'm not ugly!

[@rezselecta2580]

P.p.s. I am thinking to leave my job and go travelling, I can afford it!

[@pikachuthunderbolt3919]

Everything has its age Why did u feel before that women would be throwing at u at any age becoz u are men lol ? Honestly if u aren't millionaire , then it would be tough

[@janheathen4508]

If you're ever experiencing a midlife crisis I suggest you try to become a drug lord, worked well for Walter White

[@cafeconlechegrl]

Please do one for the people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? 🤣😂I feel like it’s worse for them…And I don’t feel sorry for those people because their very Evil

[@cathygibson5157]

I almost went and got tattoos

[@davidtucker3538]

47 and i bought a sports car 😄

[@erickhernandez3423]

I’m 20 please drop some wisdom yall knew

[@fisherholmsfly]

What does one do if they follow the advice of fake it till you make it, then they accomplish their goals and they make it. Then what? Keep faking it? Do something else?

[@johnnyguitar7921]

start smoking and then quit

[@fisherholmsfly]

@@johnnyguitar7921 been there done that

[@lakhbinderjitsingh7795]

Mid life crisis is not like spiritual awakening ok

[@meat_loves_wasabi]

I blame my crisis for buying a Leica Q3

[@cafeconlechegrl]

😂😂😂Do you go through a mid life crisis or it’s boredom? 😢

[@KXTA007]

Im.53. I live in Santa Monica and I work two jobs. Just enough to cover rent and all bills and have a few hundred to put in my savings account. Meeting someone is easy for me After the first date. Or as i call it. The pre-qualification process. It always falls short of i second encounter. I always meet divorced women that took all their x husbands money and home and left them with nothing

[@EonRage80]

Nope

[@SexyBulldozerMan]

I have no hobbies or motivation, i just force myself to do things because its worse if i just sit there.

[@abouthisbiz4330]

Thank you.