15 Lessons From 2023 - Jordan Peterson, Alex Hormozi & Elon Musk

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It’s the end of 2023 and to celebrate I thought I’d run through some of the best lessons I’ve picked up over the last 12 months.
This year has had over 10,000 minutes of episodes produced so there was a lot to choose from but I ended up settling on 16 insights from some of my favourite conversations both inside and outside of the podcast.
Expect to learn what Toxic Compassion is, why Alex Hormozi needed to do damage control this spring, the reason you should just "be yourself", why getting what you want isn't actually a win, the reason you don't want to be Elon Musk, why trajectory is more important than position, how a terrible job can be a huge blessing and much more...
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00:00 Intro
00:38 Why You Should Just Be Yourself
04:45 Figure Out What You Want to Want
07:45 Beware of Toxic Compassion
15:26 Elon Musk: “My Mind is a Storm”
18:32 The Untold Struggles of Fame
21:56 Trajectory is More Important Than Position
28:58 The Power of Succeeding in Something You Hate
31:54 Shunted to the Side of Your Own Life
33:33 The Happiness of Pursuit
37:27 Do Not Outsource Your Sense of Self-Worth
40:33 The 4 Levels of Saying ‘Fuck You’
44:30 Why You Shouldn’t Fear Failure
46:26 The Definition of Neediness
50:37 Don’t Blame & Complain
55:25 Conclusion
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[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than KZbin by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - apple.co/2MNqIgw. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:38 Why You Should Just Be Yourself 04:45 Figure Out What You Want to Want 07:45 Beware of Toxic Compassion 15:26 Elon Musk: “My Mind is a Storm” 18:32 The Untold Struggles of Fame 21:56 Trajectory is More Important Than Position 28:58 The Power of Succeeding in Something You Hate 31:54 Shunted to the Side of Your Own Life 33:33 The Happiness of Pursuit 37:27 Do Not Outsource Your Sense of Self-Worth 40:33 The 4 Levels of Saying ‘Fuck You’ 44:30 Why You Shouldn’t Fear Failure 46:26 The Definition of Neediness 50:37 Don’t Blame & Complain 55:25 Conclusion

[@Jules-Is-a-Guy]

7:45 I encourage your drinking problem.

[@faithcarponelli3364]

​@@Jules-Is-a-GuyI had to laugh so much when that came up. How entitled can you be to complain about a podcaster drinking something while talking for an hour.

[@esperago]

Funny thing, that "just be yourself" mantra. I agree with it. However, when it comes to myself, I've had a hard time living up to it. There's some sort of bizarre thing about me where others feel completely free to tell me how awful they think I am. Like, my existence erases the social norm of not just openly calling someone out. Like, of we see a 500 lb fat person, nobody just goes up to them and says "God your fat. What a loser you are." But with me, people feel completely entitled to do these types of things. It's the strangest friggin thing and it's happened all my life. It has led to me being very guarded around others yet being guarded doesn't lead to a fulfilled life or the authentic outward expression of who I am. I am grateful, though, that have a wife and three children who allow me to be me. That's been the life saver. That being said, it would certainly be nice to just be myself openly. I'm tired of living with a bitten tongue, clenched jaw and held breath. The last time I said eff it as just acted like myself, it was in Hawaii for my brother-in-law's wedding. I was having a grand ol time. Laughing, living it up. Then one day my wife comes into the room balling her eyes out and says she just had the biggest fight with her dad. He told her that she had married human garbage. A sad excuse for a man. That I was a freeloader who never worked a day in my life and that my schizophrenic mother was right with her abuse of me. Lastly, be told her that she needed to divorce me. Anyway, thank god for my wife. She had my back and her dad lost out in the end. But it's moments like that that make me more than gun shy to just be myself.

[@theoutsider6191]

I hear you about the "shunted to the side of your own life bit". I had for me what i thought i wanted, a good solid job in a multinational and i was being promoted. Got to my target level after a few years, and was being paid well. I was seriously unhappy though, mainly because the job career and and house stuff is really not important to me but we are programmed to go for that. I crave and have always been obsessed with adrenaline in sports. And you do not get that in a steady job and career. I get it in sports that i love and am obsessed with. I changed what i was doing when i got a redundancy option and now i've got zero job security and work through agencies only, but i'm making enough money to spend massive amounts of time pursuing what i actually love to do. It has made me far happier, even though sometimes i get a bit of fear about my lack of security. The fear of going back to being in golden handcuffs is even worse, so it does stop me from going back to security.

[@rumblerightdad]

Update: I confessed the loss of my son on this channel only, and received immense support. Ryle Cowan came and went on Sunday at 10:56pm, and thanks to all here to spoke, and checked in. It meant a lot. Mother is healthy.

[@albertlevins9191]

Hate to hear that happened. Glad people here supported you. I hope the best for you.

[@jden40]

Praying for you and your family man. 🙏🏼

[@marving6214]

Stay strong brother. Stay strong for your wife 💪 wishing you nothing but the best

[@FoxcHoney]

💖👼🙏💞

[@0_3_6_9_0]

Sad news. Sorry for your loss, condolences to you.

[@ericsguitar0]

Great job. Honestly, it seems like you were born for this: face, voice, temperament, intelligence, and personality. I doubt that anyone is seriously offended by your pointing out the stress of being so successful in a relatively short time frame. I have been following you for several years. You started at a very competent level and still noticeably improve each year. I look forward to the new year and your future work.

[@scottgunther1990]

"They do, not what they intended, but what they happened to run across" Damn, that one hit hard for me.

[@ladycactus110]

Ay ay ayyyy. Me too 😢

[@berniepina860]

You're helping so many with philosophy and psychology. I love this growth mindset podcast.

[@carmenglaister1317]

One of the better videos that I have listened to. This compilation should be a learning block in high schools. Much of this wisdom is hard earned and only self evident as we move through life. How nice it would have been to be exposed to these ideas as a teenager.

[@pn5721]

Exactly. Kind of an off the wall addition to your observation, but another thing that young people ought to read when they're about 15 is Plato's "Republic" (the Allan Bloom translation). It's not hi falutin' stuff - it's the story of Socrates getting waylaid by some well born young men and prevented from leaving the city he is about to leave. He's good naturedly forced to turn back and spend an evening with these young men and what they do is "construct a City in Speech." I'm serious when I say that, had I read it when I was fifteen instead of thirty five, it would've saved me a ton of grief. By the way, the Straussians think the ending is not what Plato is seriously recommending, but instead he's showing what one gets when one believes one can attain "Justice" - showing the ridiculousness of what perfect " justice" would entail

[@lazydmstyle]

This "needines thing" mostly gets misunderstood anyway. Just because someone has manners and thinks it‘s lame to pretend to be busy doesn‘t make them needy. I really believe people will regret taking those kind of people for granted.

[@ReneZZ]

Thank you for another year of wisdom dude 🙏

[@blake6234]

Thank you for what you do. The ability to clearly articulate these ideas and philosophies to the average person is harder than one might think.

[@RMILLSMMA]

Never thought the chap I used to chat with occasionally on Collingwood St would end up giving me so much incredible information. Fantastic work sir, keep it up.

[@CAM-hc8ip]

"Toxic compassion" is such a good term. Perfectly encapsulates what's going on

[@Am1r_vlog]

"Trajectory more important than position " can't agree more

[@danielogega]

Thank you for everything you have done this year.

[@pankratos5017]

You keep doing you, brother! It's been incredible to follow your journey, and see you gain even more modern wisdom throughout the years. Love you, peace.

[@Rayofgy]

As a newcomer to your channel in recent months, I'd like to really thank you @ChrisWillx for not only these lessons but also the lessons learned from listening to you and your amazing guests. Thank you for introducing me to some incredible influences in which I believe have helped turn my life in a better direction. Keep up the fantastic work.. the world needs more people like you in it ❤

[@kss9131]

Thank you for all your hard work this year, Chris! Merry Christmas!

[@mTaR36S]

Thankyou Chris ! For your passion and wisdom ! Keep doing what you`re doing ! You are serving more than you know !

[@psychacks]

Great stuff, Chris. Sounds like you've learned a lot this year. Keep up the good work.

[@hacgarimman9660]

What an inspiring video. Thank you for all tou have done. Been a follower for a long time and always enjoy watching your content. Have a great Christmas and all the best for the new year

[@floriankupper5459]

thank you chris and the team behind the camera, really appreciate that amazing work ❤️

[@inyoungchoung]

It's inspiring. Thank you ❤ Happy New Year 😊

[@chrisfenton983]

Cheers Chris. Best wishes for 2024. Keep on keepin' on.

[@joehankins7700]

Thanks for all of your content this year Chris. I really appreciate how helpful it has been on my journey of self-improvement and I'm sure that many others feel the same. Wishing you a happy and prosperous 2024!

[@DF-ds4cx]

I just want to say Merry Christmas to you Chris. Listening to you throughout this year has impacted and improved how I think about life.

[@dalibofurnell]

You reminded me of that coaching/training quote "Slow is smooth. Smooth is fast" but I can't remember who said it originally

[@ArthurKingOfficial]

Chris, thank you so much for everything this year. Thank you for being so transparent and open. Appreciate everything that you do wholeheartedly. sincerely thank you thank you thank you you give me direction and help me structure not only my life, but my thoughts and purpose. As long as you keep doing this, I’m a fan forever thank you once again. Arthur from Melbourne, Australia

[@alichebry]

Thanks so much for your work and wisdom, so enjoy listening to your podcasts.

[@nikunjarya6292]

This was so good chris, was struggling with some questions and this video gave me more clarity. Thank you for this ❤

[@kyleswales9087]

You’re awesome Chris, really appreciate the work you do. I was one of the ones that found your content at the beginning of 2023. It’s almost a year now, but it feels as if it was yesterday. Your topics and insights are always refreshing whilst challenging, and has really helped me to keep an open mind plus keeping my focus on what’s important in life. Keep doing you Chris. All the best. K Swales

[@Whiterabbit2]

Thank you Chis, for your compassion, wisdom and love in sharing your new found wisdom!

[@AdamM-te6bz]

The articulation that surrounds the topics and ideas that Chris shares is extremely impressive. You can tell he really knows what he’s doing. Might I add, he also has the highest quality audio recordings of all the major podcasts I listen to. Top stuff, love it! ❤

[@user-fe4dd7xx3t]

That last point about the cards was particularly interesting. Thanks for all these conversations. Happy New Year!

[@astreakaito5625]

Great, thank you Chris and happy holidays!

[@SelfAugment]

So refreshing to see you riffing on your own Chris. You are worth listening to in your own right when the big guests aren't by your side. More of this type of thing just from you being you please!

[@stacyliddell5038]

Just finished the year in review. It took me just under 2 hours to do it properly and in-depth. I feel amped for next year and I have started on my goals already as a result of having a plan laid out for the coming 12 months. Thanks, Chris. Really great template. I tried it last year but put it off and put it off and never got around to it. I was not going to make that same mistake this time around.

[@lupeansergiu7132]

Thanks for putting together all of this meaningful thoughts ! It's like a tool-box helping to have a better life !

[@simoneshwekh3169]

Hi Chris, i'm following you from Italy. I just want to say thank you because your podcasts make the reflect a lot. The last with Abi was super good and made me happy again, remembering myself that there are no destinations, just ONE journey. I really appreciate your content, thank you

[@pawel_guzewicz]

Thank you, Chris! This video is a gem, brilliant!

[@pajarito726]

Honestly, this video is a breath of fresh air. I really enjoy hearing these kinds of messages. I too, like some of the audience, have drowned myself with a lot of the negative outputs in the past years and needed my focus to change onto something better. Thank you for this, Chris.

[@googlinstuff8910]

Chris, your example of positivity and love of life has moved me from a sea of subliminal misery to that of deliberate, conscious excitement for life. Thanks for motivating me and my sons.

[@brunocassantavidotto]

Thank you for the great content and work! Looking forward for more!

[@mikemo4252]

Solid. So helpful. And I love to see these monologue episodes when they have occasion to come about. It seems as though there may be a need for a regular, monologue outlet for you (Chris), too. You've evolved and matured right before our eyes, and I think you're knocking on the door of BEING one of the big thinkers you invite to contribute to the benefit of the audiences' lives. I've noticed your interviews' balance shifting towards you expressing your thoughts more and more, and I've begun to recognize that you've begun to HAVE more and more to say/contribute... you're no longer just a mechanism to deliver the ideas and insights of others....over these years, you've shifted to another gear, being less of a transmitter and more of a generator... I think carving out more monologue episode time will give you the outlet you (and we) need while preserving the conversational balance of an interview dynamic when you do have guests....

[@anatun2011]

Such are valuable insights! Your content has been incredibly helpful in bringing clarity to my mind, especially when I'm feeling unsure of myself and filled with doubts. Discovering your podcast last year has truly been a blessing. Thank you!

[@_Jakebutcher]

Thanks for all you do Chris looking forward to your work in 2024! God bless

[@jerm5466]

I’ve got a lot of respect for you Chris, you’re someone a lot of us can look up to. A great example for always striving to be better and staying humble along the way. Thanks for everything.

[@nathantrujillo471]

Yeah he’s inspired me to be hawt on total drama island

[@oliverneubauer7131]

Dude. Always enjoyed your interviews, but this was extra good. A distillation of the lessons learned. Brilliant: keep going! Appreciate you.

[@katieProjectU]

I absolutely love these episodes Chris - I know they don't get as many views as your interview podcasts, but honestly, I get so much value from these solo episodes. Thank you for all that you do!

[@heavensmilesonyou]

Chris dude .. that was a helluva recap. I will watch this many more times. And Right There .. this episode .. A mile marker on the journey. Enjoy it! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and your team!!

[@wes8888]

One of the most valuable recent episodes. Thanks 🎉

[@0_3_6_9_0]

35:15 Thank you Chris! Much respect. This is exactly where I struggle in life as well. I personally think it has to do with how we as humans tend to prioritize which parts of our lives we manage in quantitative versus qualitative ways and to what extent. If change is the only constant then the bar gets raised or lowered in several aspects relative to external events on both micro and macro levels.

[@user-rk7il3ip5g]

Much respect. Thank you.

[@Swizzyinsg]

Found your account 1 year ago...and your videos has such a huge impact ton my life you cannot even imagine...

[@michelle_cen]

This was brilliant. Thank you ❤🙏

[@jasneelbir8584]

Thank you mate for your wisdom, courage, determination to talk and educate us about some of the important topics that are crucial to being a human being in this chaotic times.

[@cmercer555]

You've been great. Keep up the good work. I can't wait to see your hard work pay off even more.

[@KiwiFights]

This is a very clever video idea. First podcaster I’ve seen to compile what they’ve learned from people like this. Good stuff

[@lukasmikula2885]

Chris, I admire you and your hard work, discipline, commitment and way of thinking. Keep up an amazing job, in some way, I am better person thanks to you. You, your team and your guests are amazing and huge inspiration. Have a great year 2024.

[@WilliamWang-BeyondtheSquarePod]

As one of the 83% of listeners who found your podcast for the first time this year. Your voice and those of your guests has been a true source inspiration and strength. The lessons you’ve instilled have helped me pull through a truly trying time in the midst of superficial successes. You’ve inspired me to pursue my own podcast and my own passion to create spaces for extraordinary people to share their stories. Thank you Chris! I hope to meet you in person some day!

[@funkyfreshmon7845]

Thank you for this 👍🏼

[@suzilarex]

Hahahaha! Thank you Chris. The quiet sip is appreciated...😂😉 Thanks for your awesome work this year, I am grateful to you 🧡🫂

[@philipwalters5254]

Thanks for a great conversation... The recipe for happiness.. .... is feeling grateful.... I started to work on feeling grateful for who I am, including my insecurities.

[@willmetz_music]

I have been watching your channel for a while now. This is probably one of the best pieces of content I have ever seen. The proof that you have truly understood, condensed and absorbed what you have had the chance to discuss with the incredible people you have interviewed. Thank you.

[@projectsforlife8012]

Thank you, I needed this.

[@calebrights8712]

Thank you for summing this all up great recap! I feel like I listened to every episode! Happy Holidays All 🎉

[@andresvillasenor]

I am grateful for you, Chris. I appreciate and admire everything you're doing for me and everyone like me. Your compassion is beyond inspiring. Nothing but love and respect ❤🤝

[@prosperousrlt3110]

What a fantastic review and inspiring insights. Thanks 🙏💯

[@juliedriscoll8551]

This is a terrific episode! Thank you Chris!

[@Ellisidise]

Thanks for the 2023 review

[@no_360scope9]

I hope you see this Chris. I have already listened to most of this when it came out. But I come back to the nuggets of wisdom that I didn't finish digesting. I want to let you know that, your work is actually like art. I hope you get that appreciation. These are my favorite of your videos. I understand how you had to mine for the wisdom to get these ones out. Thank you. Wish you and the community a prosperous new year. I hope you set challenging goals and struggle to achieve them because they are worth the effort!!!

[@allisonsampson7431]

Love it, brother! Thank you! 🙏

[@dalibofurnell]

I think that in that transition place between being and becoming, what is important is to not let that place be a void, but to let that place allow you to find out who you are, embrace that and try it out- be you, try to be who you are, finding the balance through growing through what you go through within that grit grounding place and standing up with grace feeling peace as the shoes of your feet ;) then move, tap into that flow . There's more to it of course, but I do not yet have much to give , as I am busy with it right now, but I appreciate the opportunity to be grateful and trust the process and excercise my faith and allow my perseverance to be a blessing , and trying to let go of the lies of being worthless etc, in order to receive the love I need to be me, and who I am created to be, and to come to truly believe that I am blessed and worthy, and what's beautiful about that is the why , which is to be able to bless others .. blessed to be a blessing 😊

[@xiaco8309]

This podcast in general has helped me greatly. Been dealing with a breakup and I’m realizing things I need to do better, boundaries I’ve needed to set and how to just be a better, more stoic person overall.

[@alleyeballs]

Great stuff - I like what you had to say about Dali, and lots of other bits. Have a great new year everyone

[@ChristopherSams]

Thank you for sharing these pearls of wisdom 🧠⚡️ and for your authentic vulnerability at the end! Keep going mate 🚀💫

[@shamaelhalim6419]

Love your content man, thank you for all of the insights and meaningful encouragements. Stay blessed 💯👊🏽

[@alecgoldberg4892]

This was awesome, thank you!

[@maxstewart6183]

Your commitment to improve yourself every waking moment, reminds us all that we can all do the same, so we thank you for that. Truly helping yourself, truly helps others

[@mybootscamewithoutstraps]

Happy christmas and new year, Chris. Great recap. I fuckin love your stuff. You inspire me a lot.

[@compegord07]

These are important and humbling. Thank you.

[@compegord07]

Random thought about the lottery: is birth like this?

[@umarjibril8376]

I got this at the right time,im now preparing for my new phase of life as an entrepreneur in 2024 and beyond.Thank you very much indeed Mr Jordan.

[@myself2noone]

Regarding toxic compassion. "Never let your morals get in the way of doing what's right."-Issac Asimov.

[@brosmett6127]

Thanks for the recap. I don’t always have time for the full discussion but this has given some really pithy summations that are food for thought

[@DanielCrossBoss]

HEY Chris, you are a huge inspiration to me for your ability to always strive to grow, learn wisdom, and stay curious. You are actually one of my mentors Chris and that sais a lot. Taking notes and remember to stay curious.

[@PATHOFMEANIN6]

Thanks a lot chris, i learned a lot from your podcast

[@acardinalconsideration824]

Another awesome upload, thank you.

[@adhardino9781]

Thank you for everything

[@codebietnoi]

Thank you for sharing. Have a great day!🥰

[@charmainepriestman915]

Thank you for your insight and your wisdom Your shows help me so much❤

[@lucretiasulimay1968]

You are in my top five utube shows n really enjoy when it's just you !! Stay hydrated my friend 😊😊

[@rubywight1222]

Thank you, you have made me realise, i need to do what is good for me, not living my life how others want me to. ❤

[@ericdraven3654]

One of the best things that happened to me this year was Discoverying this podcast. It has kept me company a lot.

[@DavidBruceChadington]

*Just as always a pleasure to listen to and very informative I really appreciate your way of viewing things and the Podcasts in general.* *Listening to you doesn't feel like wasting your time but rather like learning something/improving in some aspect.* _Thank you_

[@Garrett.perozich]

This was great, thank you. Many insights that I implicitly knew but never thought of consciously. Many incites that I did not know, and were brought to conscious awareness.

[@thomaskagwa9983]

Chris, thank you for this quite unscripted yet profoundly deep exploration into society, people and things. I first began watching you after the Eric Weinstein podcast. Then I had to dig through all your archives and watch everything 😮😂....I am grateful and honoured to be associated with your Channel. Happy holidays, I look forward to more of the same if not better in the coming year. Blessings! 🎉 . 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪

[@Tiiyr]

New to your content , I find it very insightful and hope you continue the good work

[@annewrites...8385]

Slow success! Awesome concept. Thanks. Merry Xmas, Chris and team :)

[@rachelbrogniet2292]

It's great to see the combination of intelligence and beauty. Merry Christmas and happy new year Chris😊

[@marconi3142]

Awesome summaries! Subscribed.

[@neinnein3972]

Thank you.

[@lorekeepermo]

I appreciate you and appreciate the content